"INFJs can give advice about all these things they've never experienced" -Frank James, INFJ, after giving advice to millions of people

I like the fact that INFP is the most replayed part. Explains almost everything 😂

As an INTJ, this is so true. I sometimes do not invest myself to the fullest and just want to accomplish the goal. Also, watched this video at 1.75x speed not to waste time. True INTJ moment.

As INFJ, I totally Agree, I thought it’s social anxiety, but it’s just me being unhealthy. But I am getting healthier sloooowly 💪

as INFP, it would ideal for me to be surrounded with people who have different values and principles without the pressure of conforming to theirs and also them expecting them to conform to mine. Instead, I hope to be in community with others, appreciating each other's differences, and being able establish healthy relationships with others while staying true to myself.

12:33 ENFP’s as mentors! And sticking with a good opportunity! Totally! Nothing feels better than helping someone develop their creativity! 😁 Thanks Frank! ❤

Agree! The healthy ENFP is good to talk to about personal problems :) I called my ENFP friend the other day, because I needed to talk about a problem regarding my ENFJ friend. The ENFP was very open-minded and non-judgemental, while still being logical about the situation / INFP

I’m an INFP, and I always try to avoid conflict , and not giving my opinion when in conversations. I’m not sure if this is right , but I find it as a way to protect myself from arguments .

INFP here. Frank always knocks it put of the park with his takes on things.

ENFP here and one more strength is that we can be a big part of the glue that holds a workplace/ family together! Whenever I’m not at work all I hear about is problems, fights, disagreements, etc. people come and complain to me about others all the time and it gets frustrating! I’m not perfect for sure but I know how to pull off a days work PEACEFULLY:❤

As an INTJ, i seem to notice i waste way too much time on planning and i find myself not even knowing why im putting so much work into something other than the fact that i'll reach my 'goal' so this was painfully accurate

This was actually really true for me as an INFJ, because my friends always wonder how I can give so good advice without ever being in the kind of situations their in, like relationships for example. And I do give advice to myself too, but following it is a different part😅 still have to learn in that.

It reminds of that time not so long ago when my ENTP friend nearly cried because he wanted every day to be different yet all his days are the same. [and it wasn't too easy to convince him that instead of making "every day different" he should just build a more joyfull routine]

As an INTJ whose been outwardly successful but have been stuck in an internal struggle of what I really want to do with my life and what I truly want to pursue, I actually got tears in my eyes watching this. My health has been deteriorating lately because of the goals I’ve been working towards but have no love for, so I feel lost. And I find it hard to accept because there’s the stereotype that INTJs have their lives planned 10 years ahead, and actually I do have a 10 year plan, but I’ve never been convinced whether I want to follow it, but at the same time I don’t want to throw everything up until now away, and I don’t know what else I would do either. I don’t even know what things I’m passionate about if I’m honest.

INTPs at their best, wear their lenses and even remember to take them off before they sleep. 😎 (INTPs at their worst - or simply without sufficient amounts of caffeine - look for their glasses while wearing them 🤓)

I'm an INFJ and this is very accurate. I work hard to establish and accomplish dreams (I've been after one thing for years that I'm praying about accomplishing because I can't explain how much it hurts...long story) and I can even give others advice on trying to accomplish their own dreams. I'm a very empathetic person and can give advice on things I don't have firsthand experience on.

as an intp it's so hard to explain my thoughts or ideas to others

As an INTP, important also is competing your ideas and bringing them to fruition. There's not a whole lot of need to explain a thing if the thing is done. Similarly, external experiences are your lifeblood, so get out there and try new things. It's easy more important than you'd think.

That Infj Part about giving myself advice really waked me up! Now I got a reason to think about my self for a moment! Ah. So relaxing!

I'm an INFP and I've always had an issue with confrontation, and I've always avoided conflict like the plague. I've recently come to the realization that I have gotten so accustomed to lying about what I believe or think just to appease the other person and make them think that I agree with them. I do not think that my best self is the person I've let myself develop into. I think there is a balance when it comes to discussing beliefs, thoughts, opinions, and values. So no, I don't believe that removing yourself from the situation is an INFP at their best. Obviously, you need to be respectful of other people's beliefs and understand that other people think differently than you and that what they think or believe isn't bad, but it's better to not be so agreeable. It is not worth the distress that comes from a dissonance between what you say to other people and what you truly think and feel.

As an INTJ, I couldn’t agree more with this. Back in college I didn’t even bother showing up for graduation ; i just went to school, got my diploma then moved to the other side of the country for no good reason. Now I’m a few months away from finishing med school and I’m already looking to my plans ahead. Not really too excited about the prospect of graduation still, unlike my peers; I just want to get the diploma then move on to the next big thing. It’s hard to slow down sometimes to just enjoy the fruits of our labor. It’s a chore to have to exist in the moment, but I find it is a good exercise for long-term effectivity.

As an INTJ, I can't agree more. I've realized some problems like planning too much and not paying enough attention to the present. Currently I'm working on them.

I loved this one. As an ENFP, I love mentorship and this gave me a sense of confidence and hope. ❤

1:53 - estp 2:35 - esfp 3:34 - istj 4:23 - isfj 5:03 - estj 5:59 - entj 6:55 - esfj 7:45 - enfj 8:52 - istp 9:30 - intp 10:29 - isfp 11:28 - infp 12:32 - enfp 13:21 - entp 14:18 - intj 16:00 - infj

Love that commercial, and I want to be Lord Lady Stephanie!🤣 I really like this video. Very cool to get the picture of what we are at our best. I hung my head in a little shame at INFJ, because yes, I don't always take my own advice.🙈 Leaving now, to work on that. Thanks, Frank.☺️

I'm glad to know I'm becoming a much better ENFP than I used to be.

That dopamine hit is what i sometimes crave for in Ni-Fi loop where am missing any objective progress. Figuring out goals and providing reasons, adding meaning to process and enjoying journey, helps in acheiving goals and being satisfied/content ~ INTJ

Thank goodness Frank is out there, being his best as one of the best INFJs (being their best)! 😜😀👍🔥

As an ESTJ, it took me awhile to learn that my commanding attitude should be used mostly in situations where things in chaos needs to be verbally/physically brought together. I usually saw patterns in my friend group, since they are usually FP types, to learn and educate myself that everyone is not like me, and that's ok.

Thanks for this! It's nice to know the positives about people. This helps to shoot for the healthy version of ourselves. Thanks.

Great video, Frank! I love that you brought this up; not many people talk about how amazing healthy MBTI are. Fully developed MBTI gives me so much joy. I do have a few things to add: I have an ISTP dad and an ESTJ aunt, and there's way more development in them than just gaining control over their dominant function. ISTPs start to care more about what makes others happy and actively enjoy communicating with people and finding things in common to talk about, and they are very patient and calm even while dealing with emotions. My ESTJ aunt has developed inner values that she strongly stands by and while those values may come off as imposition when she tries to suggest them (because of her slight inability to communicate them properly because of her Te) it's still obvious that she is just sharing what she thinks is right and may make life easier for another person. They're also really goofy around loved ones and take management errors more patiently. INFPs as well, I think---solely out of personal experience---that they avoid being too hard on themselves and try to enjoy the moment so they can store it as a meaningful memory. I think I'm participating more than life than simply being a wallflower and trying to exist in an outer world, and try to actually solve problems for my loved ones while understanding their feelings. This might just be a personal thing but I'm taking bluntness and criticism a lot better and there's a zest for doing better and fixing problems rather than chasing for an arbitrary level of perfection, and it's way easier to exist and really invest in real life now.

So pleased to see this overdue discussion of healthy types!

Classic INFP, we tend to take things too personally sometimes. Over the years I've learned to shrug off minor criticisms. I understand that's probably one of the harder things for an INFP to do, but you'll be much better off once you develop that tolerance.

I’m so glad you put in the index so I can go directly to my type. I used to watch the whole thing and it’s exhausting for me to try to think every type through.

So true! I'm a bit of an INFP and INTJ. Trying to reach goals asap while trying not going past my morals too far is a constant battle zone internally lol

So glad to watch your discussion on "developed" ENFPs. In the comments in another video I was slammed by an ENFP hater, when I mentioned the positive traits of my ENFP significant other. I was told that apparently as an INTP I am too naive, clueless and/or stupid to see that a flakey ENFP is going to do "inevitable betrayal" (cue Wash & the dinosaur scene in Firefly). Instead, my SO exhibits the positive traits described here by Frank: mentorship, the ability to know when to stay, creativity, and caring. He absolutely is a chaos-monkey, and he loves new things, new people and he exhibits that in a myriad of ways. He love "authentic" people and he loves learning about people. He is also as steadfast, loyal and committed as they come, with an amazing inner personal "code" that he not only can verbalize, he lives it. While all people are unique, he's a stereotypical adorkable "character" and very much marching to the beat of his own drum. He's a brilliant scientist, but has worn many "hats" over his lifetime. Our NPs positively sing together. So much fun! So much intuitive, creative discussions! His E brings my I out of my comfort zone, in a good way. His Fi speaks beautifully with my Fe. Any type can be well-formed or not. People, such as the hater on the other video, need to understand that MBTI isn't destiny or fate, it isn't one-size-fits-all, that many things contribute to how the MTBI is expressed. Both my ENFP SO and I are poster-children for our types, but we are also more than that.

As an INTP, I am extremely analytical and logical, but contrary to popular belief, I actually have a heart and do care about others. I definitely do have a heightened Fe but do have a problem with thinking about how someone will react prior to me telling them something. I did not even know people did that until my INFJ best friend told me she does that 😂 I am at my worst when I try to use Ti with Fe, that turns into insanity at its core. I use Ti as my dominant function to make connections to things, Ne allows me to have the idea to execute, Si works in the background that helps me remember key details as visual memory, then backed up by Fe to give me a social purpose of doing what I want to do. And thats how I live my life.

The doodoo jokes get me EVERY TIME! -ENFP

Your videos rescuing me from certain bad things. Thanks pall. You're the best

I've been wishing for this one! Also, could you do shadow types interacting with each when they've learned how?

Okay after yearsss of being an ENTP, your videos made me want to do the test again. I am now a fully fledged ISFP and life makes sense again 😂

Even your commercials are great! I really enjoy the plusses and minusses contrasts of each type.

I often find myself giving advice, even if it's to people I only know semi-well, but not knowing how to implement it in my own life. I think every good INFJ should know when to take a step back and observe themselves for a change. As a great man once said, "you can't help the world until you help yourself"

That's AMAZING Frank! I'd doff my cap at you any day melud! Thank you so much for helping the land! xxxx

When you learn that as an ISFP, you are basically on top of your game and fully matured. Can't say I was expecting that!

My ESTP bf is like a problem-solving machine. He always has a practical response to my problems. I appreciate that but, at the same time, I'd like him to be less harsh and more sensitive with his words...

omg thank you sooo much I am a INTJ female in my thirties building my business in investment banking, its exactly how you described us to be. and recently I had revelation I want to work in philanthropy with the energy I have left over when a days work is done, entj intj love goals, before I didn't have heart in it, just plain minds and after awhile feels empty and search it in romance but its not what I need actually, lol , made good money but don't know why, no one in the family needs my help. so I found groups in society that needs funding, that's when I felt I am not in hell anymore, I hate life with out meaning it makes me depressed and cry. its the most painful thing when there's no meaning in life

Great content. FJ👌This INFJ follow you from Portugal 🙂🌸

Definitely one of your best imo and top favorites of mine. Thanks, Frank! - (ENFJ)

This video is perfect, thank you, FJ 💗

An INFJ giving advice about things they have never experienced before. . . sounds familiar😉 Great job with these videos! I'm an INFJ too

as an intj, that was an excellent and accurate explaination

One of your best practical videos recently!!! Thanks for sharing this knowledge and observations :))

INTJ here and that moving on to the next thing is too accurate. I just started a job literally LAST WEEK and I'm already looking at what's next.

Great content. Thank you!

Thank you Frank we love you

INFP here, it's my first comment. Hi Frank 😄

As an INTP I think working on improving my ability to communicate certainly helped me in my early to mid 20s particularly when I was first started off as an engineer. During my late 20s as I've progressed into increasingly more complex and complicated programs I've found learning to create/provide structure (something you won't find in my life at home) for both myself and especially my colleagues (who are less likely to revel/feel comfortable in the chaos that comes with trying to manage/solve problems in a complex/complicated environment) is increasingly important to both my teams and my own success. Now in my early 30s it's increasingly about providing technical leadership mentoring my colleagues on the thought processes that help to move towards finding and implementing a solution to the many complex problems that have been given to my team to manage and solve.

INFJ. Being a product development chemist in my youth, I fully bought the INTJ label...Until several people started telling me that my sharing my patentable ideas (only with people inside my company, of course) before protecting them, and encouraging others to do their best even at potential cost to me, wasn't wise. I actually tried to follow their recommendations for a few weeks as it was 3+ people saying the same thing so I figured it may have merit. Ooooh noooo! (To quote Mr. Bill.) I was less happy, couldn't envision the future (and any needed backup plans, etc.) as far ahead, and my productivity suffered. INFJ. And I can give worthwhile advice on things I haven't experienced because that advice follows a few patterns (at least when given to humans). As an older/mature INFJ I also listen to my advice myself which I think I leaned more into even earlier once I realized I was INFJ. I love multi-benefitting...where you aren't just giving of yourself but also finding opportunities to help others where it doesn't cost more than an additional 10% effort.

Thank you so much FJ ❤❤❤

Great video Frank! 💛

Good one!! 👍🏼👍🏼Isfp / infp

I love your videos so much. Thanks for the great content!

I'm an Intj who thought he was an istj for a while so thanks for helping frank, don't let it get to your head though

you explained infp really well! thanks

The social aspect of the ENTP is real. Not uncommon for less developed ENTPs to be in denial about their social competence bc they wanna be seen as “Intellectual” and/or priorities what they believe intelligence is. This will lead them to believe they are introverted. I have heard all my life how charming I am, even as a child and that my presence is very noticeable, so to speak, lol 😅 Still I didn’t believe it and was like “nah man, I’m introverted”. Then as I got older I realised that my biggest natural talent was my social abilities, Witt and charm. It had been so obvs, but never did I believe it was true 😂 suddenly it was like, everything made sense, like why I “accidentally” end up in the centre of attention 24/7 without effort. I would def say I got this from my ESFP dad, he is the exact same.

The ESFP one is so true it hurts. My friend got into an argument with an ESFP and his basic complaint boiled down to 'He's mad but he can't tell me why he's mad, he wants something from me but he can't tell me what that is, he doesn't even know what he wants out of life, trying to get anywhere with him at this point is beyond frustrating'

Finally! I needed to learn something

I'm an INTJ and I have friends who are sensory type. The pros are that I learn to live, observe and enjoy the moment meanwhile the cons are... You know, you feel bad about it and you feel like you're losing yourself but when you look at the bright side of being with people you know a lot. INTJs are more likely to be reserve anyway and will become disinterested in th SEs. My advice to my fellow intj's is that get out there once in a while :)

So helpful!

Maybe I’m an infj (vs INFP?), lol. Back in junior high many eons ago, I got yelled at for answering incorrectly, apparently: “do you learn best from your own mistakes, or from the mistakes of others?” Well, I thought at the time, if you are observant enough you can learn more if you don’t wait to make every mistake yourself”.

What's everybody's top example of the 16 Personalties at their best? Thanks Coach Frank for the inspiration to be our best selves! You're the top Inspirational INFJ for being an anchor for those of us swimming up stream. Stay cool and attractive, Sports fans!

What are we like at our best? We have superpowers, basically. Galaxy brain stuff. -an INTP with glasses

Love your content a lot FJ!

ENFP here and I’m sticking to my new amazing job!! Is this GROWTH!?

I didn't need to be called out like this, FJ... 😅😂 All my excuses for not following my goals are exactly what you said about INFJ's. I'm getting better though. Lots of inner work, and teaching myself that my own goals are worth the temporary discomforts of change. Lol Change comes anyway. It might as well be guided change vs random chaos. ☺️

i have done 5 mbti test since 2020 including your test and i allways get ENFJ and it describ me very well and the thing is that even you are talking about my personalty as enfj but i dont know why it is realy motivating me every time i watch your videos i belive that being with my personalty is the best thing ever outomatically i get confiddent 😅

Thanks man

Hmmm... I must be that not-so-developed INFJ... yet. I know that, but I'm on my way to be better, always! Slowly, but surely. And this is exactly how I feel: I'm not allowed to go after what I want in life. This was one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. Also... I tend to give advice about things I never experienced. For example love relationship advices.

INTJ currently playing pacman for dopamine while efficiently watching you on 2x, while not eating dinner.

INTJ - and I think I had GERD for skipping meals just to finish my tasks when I was in college, and had financial difficulties just to achieve my standards. Hayy

You should make a video on 16 Personalities Arguing! Could be an interesting one since we all have different ways of arguing (or avoiding it altogether despite how we feel because we don’t want to upset the other person 😂 -INFJ)

What you said about the ISFJ is what my mind has been on irl, right now

Wow! Never thought I'd ever hear Mr James say a positive thing about ENFPs. This is progress🤭

This was excellent. These past 2 weeks is peak youtube. Still have a lot to catch up on, but the past 6 videos are among the best videos you've ever done in my opinion. And, yes, even with your INFJ mindreader powers, I still have to point out I'm saying my opinion, since I'm always thinking of others opinions such as how I just looked up what people considered the best Shark Tank inventions to mention how I would generally prefer one of those unless it was the audience's opinion that robotic finger invention brought more entertainment drama to the show, boosting the views to keep Shark Tank going so I could see what inventions people deemed the best, so then I could use their opinions for Christmas gifts. I'm just kidding. Even if it might be redundant, using "my opinion" helps with social cohesion (thanks for that word, Frank!) giving a more personalized gentle touch to avoid coming across as arrogant. Pardon me. I mean I think using "my opinion"...you know what got this in my head? You know how there's the response to intuitive generalities where people get their feelings hurt and say "but I'm not like that!"? If not, then you know one person because I get my feelings hurt where sometimes if people don't point out they're speaking in general, I will be beating myself up thinking the person is talking about me, and that might be how people feel when they point out that people are just giving their opinions where that confused me since if we're clearly not talking about observable facts like you are wearing a red shirt, who else's opinion would it be? But, if it helps make me more approachable, then I hope it helps with the feeling aspect because no function feeling, thinking, intuition, or sensing is better than one another. Although, they have to all be used well. That's why it's helpful to have someone we believe is of good will to help us learn what's best way to use them, and that's why your opinion on What makes the 16 Personalties are like at their best is so meaningful. Also, I can't process these Sunday lesson videos so quickly like people here so I have to just ramble with hopefully something that's at the very least entertaining because it doesn't click until later on in the week, but I can tell you what makes logical sense and aligns with Meyers and Briggs, and everything you said sounds on the money! Reasoning; information/levity pacing; visually pleasant; charming delivery; authentic/personable...check check check check check...on the money! Or maybe I can, Frank, but I'm like a dog chasing cars and don't want know what I do if I catch it, and now thinking that if I did understand it well, then I can focus on the aspect of my delivery. I think that might tie into not processing things quickly or maybe I process them so quickly that I don't think about that feeling aspect so it goes through one ear and the out the other and that's why I get confused with certain things I'm saying when I think I'm being entertaining but it can come across not so cool or attractive. I was just listening to a stream with an ESTP ranting and being really aggressive, and I thought he was hilarious! I thought this guy "rocks!" and...then I read the comments about him being rude and, even though it was funny, and I think he was right, it might have only helped the choir in a "preaching to the choir" way of boosting people's morale, which I think is important, but it might not win hearts and minds and maybe push people further away where maybe we should be our best selves and take the blows for something greater. But then I never know because then sometimes that...well, it's like your last 16 Personalties skit with the ESTP smacking his enemy and then being over it to be friendly, and maybe that would have won the hearts in minds. I get confused all the time when I think "oh no, was I mean?!!" or "did I go to far!" Or "was I being a jerk!" and I wasn't and the people were happy. So...I don't know if this was helpful! Again, it was excellent and I...I lost my train of thought but I think this, your sensing vs thinking, your what are the 16 personalities as villains...oh by the way, I got that Beauty and the Beast Gaston song on my phone and I didn't even get past the opening because it sounded so good! And I did that before watching it on youtube one year! I forgot about that! But then I finally get to the talking I forget dishes or candle or dresser and I check out. Your "If things were people" helped me appreciate personification. That was something about that, well, my favorite Disney movie as a kid was Aladdin. I could probably sing songs by heart right now but...I don't think it holds up like Beauty and the Beast is probably much better but I think in retrospect I prefer Hunchback of Notre Dame and Tarzan, but I could not get into the talking gargoyles and talking animals...and I loved Nsync as a kid too but...I didn't like personification and is that Fi Ne thing tendency for interest in talking animals? With reading into the feelings? I'm not knocking it. All functions are equal, and I used to think that we could tell people we could think incorrectly but we can't tell people what they feel, but what if we do feel wrong about things? Heck, I look to other people to know what to feel and would ask and want to know how I should feel about things so that didn't make sense! I actually want to look up if people like Shark Tank! Because I was going to say I like that show but then if I saw people didn't, I'd probably go I don't like it either, but I'm liking it for this video! "If Dating Profiles" didn't get that many views and I think that was great and I really liked it! I love that "Guy who invented money!" which I was so happy anytime that number went up. And I forget...if that "If your Dog was an introvert"...I forget if that got a lot of views but I loved that! Oh, that had a talking animal..not the same thing because it's not humans talking with animals so it's like Looney Tunes or SpongeBob...those were talking animals talking to talking animals and if all animals are talking then...I was making that Incredibles reference. haha Maybe this is just a mess, but I hope you and yours have a great rest of your weekend, King Frank James.

Nice. Thanks🍀🐾🙂

Hey Frank, can you make a video on how INFJs can take their own advice and do things without feeling selfish?

INFJ and INTJ are both true for me. That third letter is hard for me to figure out.

Thank you

Interesting video. I hope you make a video about the opposite of this topic "what are the 16 personalities at their worst". Cuz I'm at my worst right now (INFJ) 😭

ISTP mates ✨

OMG INFJ is so spot on. This is me. Still trying to get out of the unhealthy phase.. Also spot on about someone I previously typed as an ESFJ.. who's also definitely unhealthy

You're right about the morals. Still learning to be less demanding.

Wow your energy has changed a bit, you seem very happy

Frank you should do a skit about twins who are opposite personalities.

INFPs feeling alone in the world makes a lot of sense.

ESFP Baby 😎

When I am a developed INFP but he is an undeveloped INTP Me getting frustrated cause he doesn't actually think things through & him getting frustrated cause I point out that without proper planning he plans to fail essentially. Then him sarcastically asking, "aren't you the feeling one?" Anyways I have to remember boys mature slower than girls normally & he is only 17

I always see your videos and when Inxp appears I start thinking of that I could be one of them, but then appears the last one, Infj and you describe my entire personality, hahah.

ISFP here and honestly thats how I am with 99 percent of people there's just those rare occasions where it urks me but that's probably because I'm not quite at my best yet and a little isfp quote I've come up with is (Everybody is weird to somebody)