its so true Ive never seen anyone carry resentment and win at the end

I'm a resentfull person and I agree with you a 100% that resentment is a choice, but its also a habbit. In January I got stooped by the cops because I crossed a red light on my bike, the only thing I felt for those officers was pure hatred; they where pretty polite to the end although I was realy disrespectfull without insulting them. Looking back it is as you said it felt like they where in my way.

YOUR VIDEOS DO NOT MOTIVATE ME. Whenever I feel lost in life I tend to go back to your new and old favourite videos and tune in while I tidy/clean. Every single time, I listen, I do not feel motivated but rather satisfied, calm and with peace in my mind. Rather than having a blurred map and having short bursts of motivation to find a new cool place, it feels more like the map is unblurred and I am able to navigate peacefully and reach the right destination. Your work is important, it’s been since 2019. (First time I’ve commented) If it’s what you enjoy do not stop, please continue this beautiful work as it truly helps those who sometimes feel lost in life. Thank you

*I love my parents now, but I might have been resentful to them if I had never been rebellious* I love this video so much. Thanks for sharing. I agree-- there's no one to blame but yourself. You control your life! Here's my story: I grew up with strict parents. And of course, there's a point in my life where I felt like they were too restrictive about everything. I wasn't really allowed to go out often, invite people over, etc... My parents basically expected me to focus on studies and follow everything that they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would be a bad son and a disrespectful child. During my later high school years, I thought to myself "Enough is enough. If I don't rebel now, then I would waste my teen years being boring as fuck." I would regularly sneak out, try out different shit, and basically do anything that I thought was fun. I didn't think of the consequences because all I had in mind was "fun" I'm currently in my third year of college and I do not regret any of those experiences. I did what I wanted, and I enjoyed. I was free. *Now imagine if I kept listening to my parents and succumbing to that fear...* I would probably hate my parents now for wasting my teenage years. I would probably resent them for keeping me restricted when I could've been having fun. I would probably *blame* them for my lack of fun experiences. Thank god I had the balls to ignore the consequences and rebel. Not only did I have unforgettable experiences, but I actually love my parents now. My key take away is this: It doesn't matter what or who is in your way. If you don't work on what you want to do, then you will end up unhappy, hateful, and resentful. Find ways! Just wanted to share this story lol, if you're still reading this-- Hi!

Nietzsche: don’t let your darkness consume you. Also Nietzsche: let’s his darkness consume him.

I think nietsche means that this place is the inner world. Moving by the inner cause and not from the external one.

Amazing! Simple, short, concise and SO spot-on! I hope everyone sees this at the earliest possible time in their lives!

resentment arrise from surrendering yourself to the darkness(means -- there is not way out) So we need to have hope every single second so that we can get rid of resentment/the feeling of hopelessness (golden rule)

The best channel in the entirety of KZfaq, coming from the bottom of my heart thank you.

It’s true that you can’t prove that the “right” person doesn’t exist despite spending your entire life not finding them. However, you cannot deny the possibility that the “right” person also may not exist. It goes both ways. If Finn spent his whole life trying to look for the right person and didn’t find them, he can’t say that that person definitely did not exist as a conclusion, but there is an undeniable possibility that he might be right as well. Therefore, I don’t think the key to “avoiding resentment” is to always believe that there is something out there for me but I just haven’t found it yet. It might be true, but it might not. The key would be acceptance that you may or may not find what you are looking for your entire life. It is your unique journey and adventure. Nothing is promised, but lots of wonderful things might be waiting. Accept and exist as you are.

This is exactly what I needed at this moment. Thank you so much.

This came right at the moment when I'm researching for faith I lost and just lost interest. Thank you for this very insightful discourse

Oh my goodness I needed to hear this. Talk about perfect timing! Thank you so much for sharing this 💗💚

It has consumed me. It drives me forward. It is the reason why I continue to live.

If it really was someone else's fault, that would be bad news. We can't change other people remotely as well as ourselves

Thanks. Been enjoying your videos. They've really put a spark back into me.

To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

Recently finished Genealogy of Morals Your interpretation and explanations are very helpful to me since it widens my perspective on polemics, readings, topics, and such! Thank you for the educational and entertaining video 😄

Needed this video. Posted this at a perfect time!

Thanks for your sharing, which is desperately needed for my current situation

This is a amazing video, what unbelievably wise advice. Definitely will be watching this in the future

I needed this more than you will ever know. Thank you

I was just recently reading a book citing his studies and pursuit [Frankl] and now I am here. Nothing indeed is a coincidence. And so as this clip popping out of nowhere at my time of distress and confusion. May we all find our way through folks. Keep the faith.

As a self-professed resentful person, this was insightful. I'd like to posit a few counter-arguments however. The conclusion of "keep up hope in the world" sounds optimistic and great. But the harsh reality is that lots of bad things happen to people, despite an abundance of hope. We can use a few examples. Let's say Finn's goal was not to find a woman/partner/love, but rather to buy a house to live in. He's a very nice guy, but he works a minimum wage job, has tens of thousands of student loan debt (that he was tricked into agreeing to when he was barely 17 years old because all his teacher/parents/authority figures told him to), and despite living well below his means, can barely save any money each month because a huge percentage of his earnings go straight to rent. He finds a house he wants to buy and walks into a bank to apply for a mortgage, the typical way most homes are purchased in our modern society. The bank takes a look at this meager savings, his high student loans, and his inability to even afford a down-payment, let alone the monthly mortgage payments. The banks rejects his loan application. Just as he is leaving the bank, he overhears a couple applying for a mortgage for the exact same house that he was just rejected for. The couple is from California, they work in tech, earn well north of six-figures, have zero student loan debt, an outstanding credit score, and their parents set up a trust fund 30 years ago that has grown handsomely over the years. The bank approves the couple's loan application. The couple buys the house using the loan that same day. They have essentially stolen the house right from Finn. Now, Finn obviously feels rejected and resentful, both towards the bank, and towards the California couple, as both have essentially blocked him from his goals. Now Finn can choose to naively have blind hope and naive optimism about "maybe I just haven't met the right house out there. I just have to stay positive." Well fast forward 20 years. Finn is now 50. Despite working hard, Finn never got much a financial edge, and was never able to qualify for a mortgage loan. He allowed his hope in the world to blind him that it was ever possible to afford a house in 2022-2023 when the housing supply was kept artificially low by politicians and home builders colluding together to drive up prices, by the Federal Reserve that has the privilege of setting interest rates and is allowed to legally print/counterfeit more money, by the Californians who had enormous purchasing power in buying a house due to how much their homes "appreciated" in value relative to the other 49 US states, etc. TL, DR: He never was able to achieve his dream of owning a home. What can we conclude from this all-too-common anecdote? Among several conclusions, we can conclude that hope in the world can be a very dangerous thing insofar as it is able to mislead you in your likelihood of getting what you want. For example, in our Capitalist world, if there are 100 people but only 65 houses, then 35 people will be unable to own a house. And the houses will be purchased by the 65 people with the most money. So it is IRRESPONSIBLE for Finn to continue clinging to hope that he will one day achieve his goal given that his earning power is two orders of magnitude lower than other buyers whom he is competing against. No amount of (false) hope in the world will change that Finn simply cannot compete against wealthier competitors. A house seller with 37 offers from different buyers will of course "choose" the highest offer. So Finn's meager offer is laughed at and ignored. The point is: it is dangerous to continue through life clinging to a hope that, in all likelihood, will not happen. A man who is 5'1" can have hope that one day he will play professional basketball in the NBA, but that hope is dangerous since he is extremely likely to be rejected in favor of other candidates who are 7'3". Competition among people in a society for limited resources is what causes this conflict, this being "blocked", and the logical resentment that arises from being blocked. Competition breeds resentment among the people who are left out, as it should. Competition among people for scarce resources is what leads to some people not getting what they want, not achieving their goal, which inevitably leads to resentment. For example, with regards to women, biology has well documented the phenomenon of sexual competition of many males for females, who get to choose which male to mate with. This choosing will inevitably lead to one winner and several losers (rejects). One of Nietzsche's chief complaints about Christianity was how it espoused not desiring things that people actually desired. In this way, it rationalized that remaining in poverty and lying to oneself about not wanting things that they ACTUALLY DID WANT was rebranded and marketed as a value (e.g. "it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven."). Nietzsche argued that this was fundamentally lying to oneself. In the US (and much of the western world today), there is an unspoken social contract: Work hard and you too can achieve your dreams of a family, a house, a good job, etc. This known as "the American Dream". In reality, however, this social contract has been completely fractured in recent years: hard work and focus in no way guarantee that you will achieve your goals of the American Dream. When a society's culture pushes beliefs about the world onto its people, and when the harsh reality of the world directly conflicts with those beliefs that had been indoctrinated into its people, this will inevitably lead to the people feeling that they have been lied to. That their society promised something that it was unable to deliver on. This leads to disappointment and resentment. It is, at its core, a conflict between the promises given by a society which are subsequently broken by the society that leads to this resentment.

We should all keep this in our minds when an artist says no to your request to use their work or make something for you just because they are willing to pay money to that artist it doesn't work that way

Beautiful and so true!

That was a great one! Well done 👍🏻

This is beautiful. Thank you.

It's like these videos find me exactly when i need them

I love your work!! Keep it up!! I believe in you!!

Enjoying your videos a lot. Beautifully done. Thank you. :)

I think why love was your resentment example is because it's so common. We're told at a young age that we are all deserving of love. But we quickly find out that was a lie, and we don't deserve a thing. So it turns into the people that find love repeating the mantra that we all deserve love, and those that were cast aside grumbling that it's all a bunch of bologna. Then we're bombarded with the mantra that if you aren't experiencing love, it must mean you're either a terrible person or unlovable. That just seals the deal.

Beautiful video and the music was thx for your video! =) This also reminds me of what Elder Bednar said "A thing, an event or an expression may be offensive, but you and I can choose not to be offended."

Very good video, i needed this.

Well done. Excellent quotes.

Hope is not a strategy. Statistics matter. And you will get exactly what you are willing to tolerate.

You are doing a great job.... I watched great number of motivational videos...nothing helps like ur videos do.... sometimes I wonder how come such valuable information is for free!! I feel blessed to have come across ur channel!!! Thank you!! Keep up the good work, I look forward to it as it really helps.

This was a brilliantly organized video essay. Thank you.

Wow great video, so clear--awesome thanks :)

Great video mate, food for thought

great point, thanks for sharing your ideas

Great essay! Thanks for sharing.

“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” -Carl Jung

dude ur videos are always related to us love u

I disagree that the solution is hope, although hope can be part of it. You have to weigh the costs and benefits. Using the example of Fin, he needs to ask himself what price he's willing to pay and what he's willing to risk in order to find the woman of his dreams. Everyone wants stuff, but when you weigh the costs and benefits we may decide that something we want is too expensive and even if we could afford it, there are more important things we'd like to do with those resources, and move on. This is why the MOST entitlement can be seen in regards to "free" stuff like government programs. This is because the costs are negligible, so people become entitled. The cure for entitlement is knowledge of the price, and the decision of whether or not the price is worth it. If you decide that you don't want to assume the costs of risks of looking for "the one" and would rather do something else you find more enjoyable, then there is no resentment. You've made a conscious choice to use your limited time and resources in a way you find fulfilling, and maybe you'll re-evaluate your decision if the "price" comes down, but that's not your problem. Again, hope can be part of this thought process. You can "hope" the price comes down to something more reasonable, but if not, you're not resentful for the high price, and there are almost always low-cost alternatives if you're willing to accept them.

I needed this.

"If it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself" - Mark Manson

Question on a few things you said, "There's someone/something for me" My understandings and interpretations of these works (and even taken from and reinforced by some of your videos) is that it's an ever changing and evolving spectrum of possible outcomes that can all be considered more positive or negative depending on personal perspective. Meaning there is no "ONE" person, purpose, or meaning for one persons life but infinite chances to make it the best possible for yourself. Would you disagree with any of that?

Thank you ♥️

I feel like I learned a lot from this, thanks.

Ooh petition to share this in incel and "not like other girl" spaces. But on a more serious note - incredible video, thank you for your hard work. As someone who was once heavily resentful due to chronic health problems and relationship failures, letting go of resentment and taking more accountability for my life has done wonders for my mental and physical health. And I was in a DARK place. I had to let go of blaming shitty medical professionals, romantic partners and friends who didn't stay by my side, and even my parents - who were not entirely supportive during the first couple of years of my struggles. Resentment is ugly, it eats at you alive. It physically damages your health, f*cks up your mental health, and your whole perception of the world. Truly, genuinely loving myself and accepting everything that's happened to me, and believing that I did deserve a better future (and that future was up to me) was truly, truly lifechanging.

Powerful perspective

Thank you.

i love how you clearify that everything you do. should be independent and only to depend on you

great vid

Thank You

I think that sometimes the right thing for someone might be just to do what one's have to do in order to get to the situation where one's duties and what he truly likes to do are the same thing or at least relatively have a minimum level of similarity. Getting to that situation is worth the time and effort despite the distruction and the forced focus along the way that should be expected. Great video Thanks !!!

Great video

I am revisiting this video this cured my 3 year long misery. Thank you, Nietzche. Thank you, Freedom, in thought.

Thank you

Thank you!

My teacher showed me this video. I think all the years of being rejected by society, being used by kids for my money, girls rejecting me, lead to the mindset that I will never find a girl or a true friend, which then lead to me feeling like i am entitled to have friends and a girlfriend, but when that expectation was not met I was faced with frustration that I than took out on the friend that did come along because they didn’t fulfill my needs as a person, they got as far away from me as possible, and then now the resentment, at least this video shows me where to start rebuilding, at the mindset.

When I was young I looked at old people and thought "Who owes you a padded life?" Now that I am old I find that reminding myself of that question helps quell the resentment common to lots of old people: resentment of the fact that the world of our past, the world we had finally figured out and could handle, has *changed* and it will never change back.

This wise guidance made me cry

thank you

This is very similar to the abundance mindset which PUAS teach, thanks for the amazing content.

loved it. what do you use to make the video?

I love your videos! Can you do some on Psychoanalysis?

Just read Man's Search for Meaning today. Very good read.

Amazing

Very good

I really need this I recently blame my teacher and the school task theye assign on me. But after that I felt guilty.

Good video! But may I ask what book you use for reference on this topic. Really want to know. Thanks❤️

Thanks

From where you make these amazing animations?

thanks a lot.

I have multiple sclerosis this video was very helpful thank you

Hello, what program do you guys think he uses to create these awesome slides? I am a teacher and I will like to use it with the kids as one of my tools. Thanks

Please post more videos about -Aristotle works (rhetoric,metaphysics) -Cicero -Plato (philosopher king) Thank You

always beautiful thoughts and lovely transcripted

Yes we can choose our attitute after traumatic events but it makes it 10 times harder and its a pain to live with 😢

One word stops resentment dead. GRATITUDE .

i'm fucking allergic to in video ads, but brilliant i can tolerate. i really needed to hear this, i walked in the office and gave my notice to my superior. at first he asked me to take more responsability, he then later changed his mind and asked my collegue. I got entitled. today was an emotional rollercoaster for me, i still haven't decided what i'm going to do with my future.

You have a beautiful mind. I think I'm having a breakthrough, only by watching a couple of your videos, even though I'm on this path of freeing myself from unpausable suffering for a long time. Well deserved number of followers. That happens rarely.

Holy shit, this is so good

Very nice, yes, Nietzsche has a good collection of philosophical ideas. However I also think, that there are plenty of other authors too, ehh😀😀 however you are more focused on Nietzsche, well I like that too😀😀

AS always loved your opinion Justin..

Yeah, a simple change in outlook makes a world of difference in how one interacts with the world.

The cynical part of me thinks this is easy if you have a home and are well fed. However if you're homeless, hungry and in pain and see people walk past and ignore you it's far more difficult to not be resentful. The video talks about losing faith in the world and entitlement but doesn't say anything about the things we are (or should be) entitled to, such as housing, medical care, food. I think it's understandable and even acceptable for people to be resentful if they can't get access to those things as it can drive change and get the structural inequalities to be addressed.

Can you tell us more about the book you mentioned “ Man’s search for meaning’’!?

still, i think resentment can be good sometimes. true injustice does exist, and one needs that anger in order to fight for change.

Reminds me alot (in this example with relationships, etc) .. of sayings like "going to any length, being over the moon for someone, or searching until the end of Earth .. " to find your one love, or anything in life really. That truth rewards those who seek, and denys the arrogance in seeing the World only one way. Ones seeing light = opportunity vs. Seeing darkness = only vast limitations .. this concept might drive the search for finding ones place, or that special someone else in the World. ✨️

Hate, love, . The space for silence always underrated.

*_To find it yourself, or to abandon that one thing you long for..._* *_It's like the gold at the end of the rainbow. Though it is a fantasy, you can still choose to keep on looking, or you can turn away from it. Somehow, I ended up struggling in trying to put a stop to this cycle of hatred. It stems from my personal past, then to feeling like I was too obedient, and then to the point that my future is being decided._* *_I've... No... I think we're all guilty for "Entitlement". My true goal is to actually bring dreams to reality through the best I can do. That's why I'm so deeply passionate with art, music, and other things related to the digital side, including ones that could contribute to evolution. I wanted to inspire others, but though my mind wants revenge by doing the things they will never see in the future, to become someone that they will never live up to, some part of my soul tells me to not back down._* *_To not abandon this so-called "Hope"... Hopes in dreams._* *_The works of others that captivate me... still give me hope, especially to people I talked to, who are like elite artists. Honestly, I'm proud of their progress. It saddens me, yet angers me that artists had to suffer the hardest path to achieve the biggest dream: Inspire the World._* *_That's why I say to myself, "The road to the Creator will always be the hardest. To create something you love most, you must face tribulations."_*

Integrating the shadow is the key

Very good lesson. Especially if you sadly don't get a promotion from your job which this can be applied to. There are always other gigs out there in the world to try to get into. New systems you can learn to get by. The same is said with relationships, maybe the new system can improve the current relationships we're having trouble with.

there's a place in this world, and a way to that place ,for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves

sometimes you have to rebel against the rebellion. Resist the resistance... dont forget to go with the flow as well.

What's the name of song on the background, m addicted to ur voice and the music, i need IT

Entitlement isn't the only thing that leads to frustration. In fact I think a much better one is the lack of understanding how things (and people) work. At least that's what it was in my case. And it just turned out that I didn't have good role models and I was light-years away from success, and that even when I was doing the right thing in one aspect for a while, I'd still not get any positive results because I was lacking in so many other areas. So there was like no possible system for me to even get logical feedback. You can't believe how frustrating that is! Thank god I eventually did come out the other side before becoming a psycho. 😬😀 So it's really sad that many men face this exact situation.