From Love Island Star to Podcast Philosopher

From Love Island Star to Podcast Philosopher - Chris Williamson

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Chris Williamson is a club promoter, TEDx Speaker, KZfaqr and Podcaster. His podcast 'Modern Wisdom' shares life lessons from the smartest people on the planet including the likes of Jordan Peterson, Ryan Holiday and James Clear and was born out of Chris' curiosity for self-discovery and post his existential crisis after appearing on Love Island. In the episode Chris tells Ali how he shed the party-boy persona in favour of intellect and meaning before discussing topics like masculinity, role models and the dating market.
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00:00 Intro
02:14 Party-boy heritage
17:29 Being on reality TV
22:33 Building a business & relinquishing control
30:30 Love Island & Existentialism
41:36 On Self-worth
52:24 Playing a persona
54:50 Masculinity & Role Models
01:07:25 Dating
1:36:24 - Be yourself vs choose yourself
1:41:44 - Rapid-fire questions
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@ChrisWillx 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for having me mate!!

@moulayderissy5445 2 жыл бұрын

I relate to your journey, the phoenix's rebirth from ashes

@TheMagpieChannelTV 2 жыл бұрын

gaining a lot from this mate, taking a lot of notes to really improve my self worth. thanks man!

@Ghuraba1990 2 жыл бұрын

Loved your explanation on masculinity and femininity and the roles they play . I think nowadays because of the feminism and toxic masculinity, men have become more lazy and not stepping up to their roles of being a provider and knowing what their duties are as a man. Also women have been pressured into becoming this high flying career woman and the thing of not needing a man to rely or protect her etc and having children is risky or you don’t have enough money to have a child etc. This is completely false as the women who chose career over family always regret it later in life. Also what I saw with women who travel abroad alone might say they’re independent and show this power of feeling free to travel by themselves, where in reality they sleep with men and use men abroad to have a sense of protection when they’re away from home and then dump them when they return back home.

@robinellis6 2 жыл бұрын

Bloody LOVE to see the tables flipped, great to see you in the other chair Chris

@bigyin2794 2 жыл бұрын

Chris you have a very luminous soul, I really enjoyed experiencing it today. You have a lot to teach the young men of this country. Well done and look forward to seeing you on Rogan. You deserve a very large audience.

@keshav7428 2 жыл бұрын

This madlad sounds too intelligent to have been on love island

@kratos.8151 2 жыл бұрын

He believes in hypergamy. He's a moron.

@keshav7428 2 жыл бұрын

@@kratos.8151 Hypergamy is real. Not in all women but it is a thing. Seen it in action first and second hand

@kratos.8151 2 жыл бұрын

@@keshav7428 so you bought into a theory and then viewed people to support that theory. Sounds very scientific mate!

@keshav7428 2 жыл бұрын

@@kratos.8151 No no no. Empirically In an admittedly small sample of people I’ve seen it happen more than not.

@mr.almezeini647 2 жыл бұрын

@@kratos.8151 hypergamy is real. if you are a man you will find out about it sooner or later. Hopefully sooner than later

@JohnTCampbell1986 2 жыл бұрын

"Work towards being the type of person who the type of person you want to be with wants to be with" Some how in almost 30 years I never once thought about it that way.

@formless4541 2 жыл бұрын

Some say become like the woman you want. I don't like that. I'd rather say bewhat you want, and then want a woman who is like yourself. The first one sounds like selling your soul, and weak

@formless4541 2 жыл бұрын

@Ty Bey it might be what they really mean when they say it, just wrong choice of wording. I think it's important though to distinguish between just being your unbalanced self and being your best self

@justatallguy Жыл бұрын

I think it's important to know yourself to the point where you understand which values and elements of your life are "non-negotiable". The things that make up you, and that you will not compromise or give up. And then you also figure out the other things you are willing to change and comprommise for a partner. Then you work on those you can change, to mold them into "more attractive" features for the type of partner you want. But without losing yourself in the process... if that makes sense. Of course that process will continue to happen when you do find a partner, and you begin to live together.

@furrypuffskein6585 3 ай бұрын

here's what I think he is saying , he's not talking about a particular woman instead he's talking about the idea of the perfect women for you . for example I admire women that are ambitious and intelligent and kind and in order to attract a woman with those traits I need to have the traits in me first@@formless4541

@dillinger1991 Жыл бұрын

Lads this was superb. In the role model chapter, really the only point left unsaid is that you two both make great role models for young men.

@bigyin2794 2 жыл бұрын

What a really excellent podcast, I could listen to you both for another three hours.

@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal 2 жыл бұрын

I did an interview on Chris' podcast if you're interested :) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hqmVnMaG0ZuwYX0.html

@fitfirst4468 Жыл бұрын

how about 4 hours?

@28copland 2 жыл бұрын

The point Chris made about where your self worth is derived from was articulated brilliantly !!! Gud job mate

@user-kb1hw2yq2f 2 жыл бұрын

So much gold in this video. So much good information for me to hear and for others. Thank you

@_notsaf Жыл бұрын

I was about to request a collab when i saw this. the interview is so smooth. 2 succesful people in the same frame . i love the honesty too. THANK YOU

@troelsaxholtpetersen4553 2 жыл бұрын

“Do you love yourself for what you are or for what you do?” - Thank you for this question.

@Danygotaworldtosee 2 жыл бұрын

Great talk 🙏🏻🙏🏻

@DemetriPanici 2 жыл бұрын

*“If you’re not failing, you’re not pushing your limits, and if you’re not pushing your limits, you’re not maximizing your potential” - Ray Dalio*

@patrickfleming Жыл бұрын

Haven't been immersed in a podcast like I was with this one for a very long time. Fascinating conversation fellas.

@mimmil4273 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely brilliant podcast, many thanks! I really got me thinking about loving myself for who I am vs. What I do. And I realised that my children absolutely and without a doubt love me for who I am and not for what I do, and they have taught me to do the same. So having kids will improve your life in that way as well. I should have had more.

@theshahid1997 2 жыл бұрын

This was very deep and honest, love this episode.

@on9francisyu 2 жыл бұрын

I cannot agree more.

@razabadass Жыл бұрын

Just getting to the video finishing, thank you Ali, Chris, Angus and behind the scenes guys! Raza :)

@p3shitonlin3 Жыл бұрын

Thank you both for the insightful conversation

@opalabohadana 2 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed the 2nd part of the podcast a lot!

@VonSolo5 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome and inspiring. Thank you so much 💪🙌

@ahmedhallajian8886 2 жыл бұрын

Didn't expect to watch the whole thing but I did, great episode with a lot of insight!

@jayfromct5164 2 жыл бұрын

Dude love the conversation thank you!!!

@MomoSimone22 2 жыл бұрын

It was good to see this side of Chris. I've come from Chris' KZfaq channel, but I see you've had MrWhoseTheBoss on and I love his content too, so will just have to subscribe and watch all your vids now 👍🏼

@mariyamshamshidova7513 Жыл бұрын

Amazing interview! So many insights!

@DrBrunoRecipes 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent podcast 👌🏻 Greetings from Scotland 😊 Have a wonderful day everyone 🌻

@jjohanesson9139 2 жыл бұрын

Chris Williamson has an excellent podcast. Like his podcast.

@razabadass Жыл бұрын

The topic of potentially lacking male role models for youngsters is one which resonated with me especially, thank you Ali, Chris, Angus and behind the scene related people! Raza :)

@Carroty_Peg 2 жыл бұрын

Happy to see more and more UK Podcasters - at least in my KZfaq Universe

@dylangous Жыл бұрын

This was a wonderful conversation!

@richardmarknagy9225 Жыл бұрын

I am going through one of these man-o-pauses right now, so this episode came just on time. Cheers guys!

@dangerpowers123 2 жыл бұрын

Really interesting discussion. Thank you.

@on9francisyu 2 жыл бұрын

I love this conversation

@panosab Жыл бұрын

Excellent interview! 👏

@nidhikujur9592 2 жыл бұрын

What a great podcast! 👏🏾

@on9francisyu 2 жыл бұрын

I cannot agree more. Very insightful and good

@RageQuitSco 2 жыл бұрын

Great conversation

@AmritBirdi 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this 🔥🙏🏻👌

@ronandillon8609 Жыл бұрын

loved this

@susans.8218 2 жыл бұрын

Great topic and conversation. Great that Chris includes an evolutionary psychology into his view of masculinity in femininity. As much as we want things to be fair, our brains are still running on years of evolutionary conditioning and survival. I think you should do more podcasts on dating. Good insight on how women decrease their chances of marriage if they are at the top of their game. I wonder what this says about how the genetic pool is filled with when the brightest are struggling to find partners and reproduce 🤔.Please do more of these !

@marckayumba4174 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant episode

@mnazarsyed 2 жыл бұрын

Another brilliant episode. I didn't expect to be this entertained and this educated by these sort of things by a Love Island alumni. Good on you, Ali!

@opalabohadana 2 жыл бұрын

His mind works so fast

@ironmine 2 жыл бұрын

Again, another great podcast! Big fan of chris

@KennyWankpot 2 жыл бұрын

Chris, i was really suprised to hear about your past, it really opened my eyes to how driven you are. Plus i really like Jordan Peterson, and can see you've been influenced by him.

@raafealimirsaheb 2 жыл бұрын

I like the way ali talks

@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын

Much love.

@mattanderson6672 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Guys

@sratnatozmrde Жыл бұрын

really underrated podcast

@WatersShuishali 2 жыл бұрын

Yes biology, plays a part in our dating preferences. It plays a massive part in what makes women want to have babies when they reach a certain age. Great dialogue on this.

@insomniacresurrected1000 Жыл бұрын

I see hipsters with fatties in my job every day. The biology of people reproducing is not good.

@jltfreewoman Жыл бұрын

I agree! Women have desire just like men do...that's why I have a problem with Logan Ury's (current modern dating expert) token phrase 'f...ck the spark'- as a response to fixing the flaws of online dating- we need to get back to, embrace our natural biology more- natural desire is a beautiful thing!

@alexanderdeadmansche Жыл бұрын

Chris is a great dude

@nachogeekts 2 жыл бұрын

I would love to watch a version of love island where people talk about their shared love of almond croissants

@rahulahuja9230 Жыл бұрын

@anxen 2 жыл бұрын

In this episode we learn about social dynamics of Scouseland and how being from up north doesn't mean you are daft and without breadth of character.

@on9francisyu 2 жыл бұрын

It is good to know how uk works.

@Gumsley86 2 жыл бұрын

He was on Love Island!? 😲 I only know him for his podcast. This is quite a surprise lol.

@pete8808 Жыл бұрын

1:29:30 - "Just be yourself" is the one thing that legitimate pickup students were told their whole lives and it failed them miserably (and not all pickup gurus are manipulative, deceitful players, just most of them). Girls do NOT want a socially awkward nerd to be himself, he needs to learn to be a better version of himself. That's how this ties in to the problem of authenticity and honesty in dating - you can't communicate at all if you don't learn the basics of the language (confidence, hygiene, grooming, social skills), but learning the language is not the same as manipulating and deceiving girls in that language. That's the true place of pickup in the new paradigm - don't lie, just become a better you.

@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын

I remember when I told a friend of mine I was going to buy a house (while i was in college, before 2 Masters), and he said "now you're going to have to find a man with two houses", and I thought it was a strange thing to say, but boy was he right.

@alian.ahmed.ferdous 2 жыл бұрын

Damm man this episode was really impactful. Especially 43:14 really got me thinking about life

@on9francisyu 2 жыл бұрын

I like his stuff for sure it is something that is impactful.

@ludaheracles7201 2 жыл бұрын

@@on9francisyu who are yu?

@samanthaduggan9002 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. So Chris Williamson has discovered the truth of the Book of Ecclesiastes - all is vanity - but he hasn't discovered the true reason why he has infinite value as a human being. I hope he keeps searching. He's clearly wonderfully curious so I'm hopeful that he will keep looking and as long as he goes on being honest he'll find the true answer.

@juneelle370 2 жыл бұрын

Except he’s someone who uses his mind… and reading Genesis where “God” apparently doesn’t understand why women bleed and pronounces it a curse and places them under subjugation would be pretty hard to believe. Why don’t you research how the New Testament was put together? Hint: Catholic Church (politically connected degenerates) chose the books that would best serve the rulers. I believe in Creator. We don’t need toxic filters to connect with Creator. That connection is natural and inside us. It’s much more than a belief system that boils down to “because it says right there.” 🙄

@RohitSonawane 2 жыл бұрын

The second half of the podcast is very illuminating

@tinacraven2782 Жыл бұрын

I've listened to CW for a while and knew nothing about his background.... This is wild!!!!

@philomenaclifford5300 Жыл бұрын

At at the level of Virtue we can and should expect complete parity between men and women - Truth, Beauty, Goodness, Kindness, Courage, Excellence, Perseverance to name a few. We have seen many examples of such qualities throughout history in both sexes. Much of your discussion centred around historical social constructs which can be changed and do not have to be set in stone forever. Rather a flexible approach suited to meet the ever changing demands of the age in which we live would be more appropriate. An analogy for both men and women might be a Tree with deep roots which bends and sways when the wind blows from multiple directions thus strengthening the tree ( this is backed up by science - trees in a windless environment do not thrive as well) whilst keeping strong roots. Currently we are all buffeted about like leaves in the wind according to the social constructs and trends of our time - Often the young and their life Teachers alike…You are right about the lack of role models… Lastly, an area we need to look into is equality in motherhood/ parenthood…This might include new levels of respect for a job of the highest order which raising the next generation is - Really interesting Discussion. Your aims are laudable. Thank you!

@shaulkramer7425 2 жыл бұрын

This was absolutely great. And Chris is quite possibly an avatar of Apollo.

@SirFarsalott 2 жыл бұрын

7:29 Ali did have to rub it on his face haha

@saffurahmusawar8941 2 жыл бұрын

I think i would rather choose a man like ali over some alpha male like rock ☺️

@kronos458 2 жыл бұрын

We should optimise our relationship choises basing on the self-awareness of who we really are, rather than act on limbic/mainstream projections and constructing a fake pesona to adjust to lies.

@Zarih67 7 ай бұрын

I have never looked at a partner's job, education, or money status. At the end of the day, you are with a person for his or her personality and your compatibility.

@juliameissner4003 2 жыл бұрын

Overall and interesting and insightful conversation. What I can't understand, though, is how he believes that there are more rolemodels for women than for men when the majority of wealth is still held by men, the biggest companies are led by men, most politicians are men, scientists with most publications are men etc. I think in terms of success (if defined by status and/or wealth) there are still soooo many more role models for men.

@semarugaijin9451 2 жыл бұрын

-Be tall -Be good looking -Don't be short -Don't be ugly

@elihollingsworth6852 Жыл бұрын

Don't complain about being ugly unless you have perfect skin, white teeth, a six pack, a great style, an interesting life, and an excellent grooming routine. I thought I was ugly, but I just got all those and I'm not.

@lomigreen Жыл бұрын

I would date a guy who is not six feet tall, has no college education, but works his ass off as a tradesman. Like a plumber or a roofer. Or a carpenter, like the guy I have, love, and want. He’s no philosopher wanker, just decent and willing to learn. And laugh. So getting past the party boy mask, shucking it and dropping into authenticity is way cool. Thank you 🙏

@Dedsman Жыл бұрын

This guy is dangerously attractive.

@greencrow106 Жыл бұрын

No. He looks very submissive.

@SlippinJimmy4Life 2 жыл бұрын

Manopause LOL did I hear that right? That's good stuff

@patcharm 2 жыл бұрын

This sounds like a conversation between Otis and Adam from sex education. haha

@Bei671 2 жыл бұрын

@ 45:12.... My biggest takeaway. Just WOW! ALI: What do you mean by love yourself? CHRIS: Feel comfortable and feel like you are sufficient independent of how you perform day to day in the world.... stripped of all of your achievements (YT Channel, Podcast, Degrees, etc.) are you isolated and stripped bare still worth something to the world and do you think people would still love you and still care about you?

@Olivia-vp6is 2 жыл бұрын

Chris Williamson was on Love Island?!? This is so jarring?! Wtf

@cardinalscience2600 2 жыл бұрын

How do the different priorities of men and woman change (if at all) with homosexual couples?

@farhadahmad2589 2 жыл бұрын

Please share your experience with finasterid.

@mupandar 2 жыл бұрын

I tried switching to listening on the podcast. Am I imagining it or is the sound quality different? 😅

@selektor2567 Жыл бұрын

What trousers are those?

@_notsaf Жыл бұрын

WOW

@johnkardier6327 2 жыл бұрын

Hi.

@TheScienceGuy10 2 жыл бұрын

This is literally the least relatable episode for me but I still watched it. Even after watching it I felt a little FOMO.

@yasserbostan7156 2 жыл бұрын

You posted this a while ago but can you explain why it isn't relatable? Also I strangely felt FOMO with it as well. It think it's maybe not going out enough in my 20s or feeling like I lost that time.

@Khalikhalzit Жыл бұрын

@@yasserbostan7156 Because Chris is a naturally smart and athletic attractive guy who started "figuring himself out" AFTER having a successful run in the night club industry. His "failures" would be considered successes to most people.

@ItsGrantM Жыл бұрын

what book was that he recommended?

@joannamlot7301 2 жыл бұрын

1:06:00 Jesus is the best role model :)

@TheZGALa Жыл бұрын

I don't know what to do to fix this...more programs for men/boys, I suppose.

@ZIbroweed Жыл бұрын

I HATE all the "Be yourself" psychology nonsense but these two came to a very healthy version of "be yourself." That is don't become someone you wouldn't want to be. Change? Absolutely! But only into a better version of who you feel comfortable being. I think this is how I've always lived but it was articulated well here. Complacency should never be the goal but mask wearing is also not ideal.

@bewilderedbrit8928 2 жыл бұрын

His business model is basically everything I am turning away from. Mindless binge drinking and degenerate party culture.

@juliettailor1616 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. What a disappointment to learn that behind his podcast is "how to make money getting university students to waste their valuable years and health by mindless party culture." And getting young women to sell shots? And he calls it satisfying that he paid for his master's program, in cash, with this. And for someone who now talks about how young women destroy their chances of bonding and marriage, family with precisely this kind of life.

@Adventure-of-your-Life Жыл бұрын

Would have liked to hear you guys talk about the birth control pill though. Cause supposedly that's one of the biggest influence on woman's modern day dating changes. Woman who take it prefer much less "Masculine" men. That's the theory I think it was. Edit: Great podcast though.

@MetallicOpeth 2 жыл бұрын

"throw the baby out with the bathwater" careful chris your JP is seeping through and people may larp on that about you :P

@501Labs Жыл бұрын

Watched love island (to dissect the nature of idiots) ... watched chris's podcast ... never realized it was him on the show lol

@TheMightyMidget Жыл бұрын

He was on S1, if you were watching back then and continue. Its definitely a mrs forcing you 😂 dissecting idiots you know, could do that in any town centre or even a trip to Tesco's; they're productive.

@501Labs Жыл бұрын

@@TheMightyMidget I didn't finish s1 lol

@TheMightyMidget Жыл бұрын

@@501Labs not much of a dissection then 😂 But I'm actually happy for you to hear that. Got out early

@501Labs Жыл бұрын

@@TheMightyMidget They revealed their intellectual deficits pretty early on. lol

@pw2121 2 жыл бұрын

👍

@daysarelimited Жыл бұрын

Chris kept on saying that traits of guys such as being wealthy, high status, educated, are not encouraged in the current society. May I know where this is coming from?

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

It’s more so the traits of men who achieve wealth, high status, education etc that are maligned by society. Not the results of those traits.

@A595A47 2 жыл бұрын

What do Chris’s parents do? I feel like he wasn’t as self made as he claims

@themarathoncontinues4211 Жыл бұрын

When you look like Chris, the only thing he needed from his parents is the genetics.

@TheMightyMidget Жыл бұрын

His story is laid out here. Went to uni, did club scene stuff, worked up through that, was a blow head reality tv guy, now he does YT. Please tell me what his parents would contribute in any meaningful way to this? Part from *maybe* paying for his uni?

@sanyofilin3622 Жыл бұрын

1:25:45

@adonis9555 Жыл бұрын

51:23

@Ken_sky 2 жыл бұрын

I need this video but advice for women :(

@ejenkins4711 2 жыл бұрын

Hmm Chris I wonder which arcytype is having fun through U😎🦍🙏

@ExperimentsOfThought 8 ай бұрын

On the point of loving people for who they are not what they do…. Ok consider someone incapable of productivity in society like a coma patient or quadriplegic…. Will you say to their face they shouldn’t expect love from others because they don’t do much? This is just a curiosity question not trying to “gotcha”

@NickMart1985 2 жыл бұрын

So he's running a social MLM. Fucking genius.

@sanyofilin3622 Жыл бұрын

25:00

@mayur5126 2 жыл бұрын

You also have a main channel, remember ? XDD

@_notsaf Жыл бұрын

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat holy smokes

@lelamaciolek1166 10 ай бұрын

Yes bed count does matter to us women. We have very low expectations now though. The virgin is high value but rare. If a man has a high count or has seen porn he is like a person that has been married before like a widow that only seen his wife on her good days. He has taken away my opportunity to be a gift and is probably less thankful for my time and body and my willingness to forgo momentary pleasure for the future.