She only apologized bc she lost her college tuition lol

Stop putting up posts that go up and down in volume

Her daughter knew her dad was the one who abandoned the family yet she still blames everything on her mother.. Wow..

Honestly everytime a man or eoman cheats I think of them as disgrace of human beings if they can't be loyal in a relationship then they deserve to be single.

There was more to this story that wasnt posted the daughter was promised a car college and money outside college if she sided with the dad. In the end she got nothing from either of her parents and sarah admitted she got pregnant so they wouldnt have the money for her. They counted on her mom paying for everything and when she didnt emily finally started coming around. So so sad.

It's ironic how Emily's father got angry bc OP didn't accept to financed their daughter education😂😂😂

The AP won out in this case. They managed to alienate the daughter and ruin her relationship with her mother only to dump her when they had a kid of their own. The daughter is a manipulator and was checked by the mother. Look at her reaction upon hearing no by the mother and the response from the cheater and his AP. OP should have started her own family long before the daughter's graduation.

they call her selfish all the time when shes literally the opposite

People need to realise that parents are human too.

She only apologized because she thought you would forgive her easily for all that shit shes done to you. Emily knew what she was doing, she just missed that money that you were going to help her with. NTA

"if you really love me, you'll be there for me." cause you saying "more of a mother to me than you" show real love for your real mother. and her getting angry after the crocodile tears, tells you everything you need to know.

The daughter was probably gaslighted and conditioned to be on her father's side.

The only thing I disagree with re OP is her dropping the bomb at Emily's graduation party. I think she should have just left since she felt uncomfortable and told Emily of her decision the next day or a few days later.

I'm only at 3:55. Considering Emily's previous behavior and that hadn't spoken to OP in months, yet, is suddenly upset that OP won't come to her graduation, and is trying to guilt her into coming, I think the conclusion is that she wants something, a graduation gift, money, college tuition. Edit: I really don't understand this excuse that Emily was a kid when she treated her mother the way she did. How was she still "a kid" just months before her graduation but somehow suddenly an adult when she called OP to invite her to her graduation?

Epic respect for the op standing her ground in the decision to stop the financial support for her daughter's education due to the betrayal she felt with her own husband cheating on her with his own coworker and her daughter deciding to live with her father and his cheating partner, but for those who want to judge her for making that judgement call they should ask themselves how they would feel how they would feel when they have lost everything thanks to their own spouse cheating on them and the fallout that followed afterwards, when they can answer that question then decide whether or not to judge the op down the line otherwise don't do it.

When Emily was young, Mark and Sarah could have helped foster the relationship between Emily and her mother. As Emily got older, she could have realized how poorly she treated her mom and worked on the relationship. Instead, she waited until graduation to force her mother to attend a party at Mark and Sarah's house with no compromise. She could have met with her mom to have a private reunion at any time. Then, her dad betrayed her just as he betrayed her mother, choosing the lovechild over her. And still, she only tried to get money from her mom. No one can blame the mom.

My immediate concern is why didn't the mom immediately get therapy and why didn't she advocate for her child to get therapy through court orders or something. Its very clear that they all needed it, and it probably could have saved their relationship. 13 is a young age to make decisions like that, especially when all she's ever known is a 2-parent household; even if she was old enough to technically decide if someone was good or bad it seemed like she was extremely rattled by this whole situation and was not in the right mind to make a decision like this. Its clear that the lack of therapy to make a healthy transition of households has affected her attitude and her parents have created a huge disservice for everyone.

That was probably the wrong place and time to reveal your financial involvement in her education. But I think you were correct in standing your ground.

Moreso seems like Mark should've kept it in his pants otherwise there wouldn't be so much pain and tension among the family

Karma. Kid realizes actions have consequences.

I am very proud of this OP. Emily learned a tough lesson. She was an awful, disloyal little brat. I just wish that OP had found someone else to make her happy.

If someone abuse you and hurt then you have an inherent right to hurt them back, even if they were your kid. OP has the grace of waiting till Emily became an adult to hurt her back.

You are 100% correct.

Oh don't go the daughter is clearly in the wrong 🙄 😒 😑

Something seems not right. What was the situation, that Emily chose her father and AP. There seem to be missing a lot of context.

I cannot even imagine how heart broken I would be. 😭😭😭😭😭

No don’t go

You are ta, and nta at the same time. you ruined her graduation party but you dont owe her anything

Womwomp womp to emily 😂😂😂😂😂😂

I'm so proud of this woman for standing her ground. Karma is a real thing! I really hope that she finds love and genuine happiness!

Emily was finnessed into doing something cruel. Dad lied to her. This man is evil.

Yeeeeah. Theres more to this story possibly. Op could be a narcissistic mom and making it seem like she is the victim. OR cheating dad gaslit the mess out of the daugher and dad has some resentment towards OP and decided to get the daughter on his side to hurt op. Idk

To those on here saying things about the mum being the bad one, have you read the full story? Maybe you just read a bit and thought you knew it all. Read the full story then maybe you won't be so judgemental. The OP did everything she could, check out the full story on here people.

I have a doubt for op that why did op daughter choose her cheating father over her honest mom

I feel like op is missing details for the post. A 13 year old won’t just choose to primarily live with one parent over another u less there is a good reason. Obviously op is going to write the story to paint herself in the best light. But I wonder what was really happening in that home to make the daughter want to leave.

Was anyone else annoyed by the fact that the AI voice seemed to be getting lower... and lower... and lower... in tone?

FIX THE FUCKIN VOLUME AND REPOST THIS. 5 MINUTES OF NEAR SILENCE IS NOT RIGHT.

Ok, if I was OP, I would've gone to the graduation ceremony, not the party. A ceremony at a school is a lot different than a party hosted by your ex & their ap. OP, I'm sorry, but weaponizing the fact that u did the bare minimum that u accept when u have kids is an AH move. If she hadn't been helping with her daughters education costs willingly, she would've been doing it via court-ordered child support. U don't get bonus points for contributing to your minor childs schooling.

Those friends are rude.

Im so close to deopping this channel be ause of the ai voice they use and the damn volume. One minute its loud, the next it goes all low, i have to turn up the volume just to have it blast in my ears the next second.

I think you did right but you should have waited for another day to tell her. With that said. Emily is now sorry? That is just because she wants your help. I do not understand where friends and family text/call to complain about something that is none of their business. I would have a few choice words with each person that call me on the subject. Really.

Everyone is the A-hole. The OP isn’t bitter because her husband found someone else, she is bitter because he escaped!!! She thought she had a prisoner for life. The only times I have seen women hold on such bitterness and anger for so many years plus she didn’t move on shows she was the problem!!! The daughter is the A-hole for treating her mother so badly. The reaction of the daughter is telling and it’s another reason why I think the OP was the problem. The ex-husband is the A-hole if he did cheat. He should have ended his marriage first and then move on. But, even if he did leave before getting into another relationship, the OP would still tell the exact same story. Also, women do this literally every single day so…🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

First hour club ⬇️

I wouldn't take advice from this immature bad mom. The girl was 13 and she punished her for years. And still takes pleasure in her ex and his wife's misfortunes. Bible says forgive. She spends 5 or 6 years full of hatred. She never gave her child anything yet says you shouldn't give your child everything they want. She can't give parenting advice. She has no experience and the little she did was horrible.

Influenced by dad and stepmom…who didn’t see that coming?

I think u should wait a couple years in college and then help some

What an awful thing to do to your daughter. Graduation is so important and I’m glad you changed your mind and attended her walk across the stage. I would like the daughters side of the story. I’m glad you are caring for yourself and I hope your daughter can reconcile with you.

Feels like there's more to this story than OP is letting on... Most of this story was OP just complaining about being hurt emotionally for 5 years, and she glossed over where Emily mentioned her dad and stepmom were pretty much poisoning her to be against her mother. How about we delve deeper into that? Emily was 13 when her sorry excuse for a dad couldn't keep it in his pants and tore the family apart. That is very young and an easy age to manipulate. Wouldn’t be surprised if the dad was poisoning her mind against her mom before the affair was found out. That would explain the whole "dad's house is a more stable environment" bit.

This story is changed there is like 170% more drama. Real story unfolded more quickly, or its 2 stories bumped together, the OP was hurt because daughter put a photo of afair partner on Inst. calling her mom. Longer story short, daughter was bribed by father to act like that in public and was a little teenager brathy to mother, she was scolded but after some genuine tears mother took the apology because she knew it was genuine and its her only child. The college money was gone though OP bought a house for hersef.

7:00 OP should have waited to let Emily know her plans instead of ruining the grad party. In fact, OP should have left the party after a token appearance. 11:00-ish It sounds to me like Emily tried to wheedle her way into your good graces (meaning your financial support). My advice to OP is to wait. IF Emily truly wants a relationship now, let her do some of that without your money. 14:00-ish Sounds good. Emily seems to have grown up a bit, and is making an effort to restore your relationship. Good luck.

That’s rich coming from mark and Sara. They were the ones who refused to pay for Emily’s education

The argument of she was doing when she made the decision is stupid, cuz like, she's still making the decision. She didn't change the decision

How do you basically emancipate yourself from one of your parents and then get mad that said parent doesn't support you like a parent would? You can't call OP a bad mother when YOU made it clear that you didn't want her to be her mother. Go complain to the woman you've been calling mom and treating as your mother for the past 5 years about how SHE is a bad mom for not supporting you and leave the woman you cut ties with alone.

Of course you're putting your own feelings ahead of Emily's needs because she herself chose not to be your daughter. And it was her actions that did that and not the decision to move into her father's and Sarah's house.

I just started, and maybe the daughter left for the same reason the husband did. The family home wasn't "stable" or happy because mom was not nice. A nagging, controlling, yelling wife and mother drives the husband away and the kids. Then they, being narcissists, try to play victim instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. They blame the actual victims ,shifting the blame. Her not going to her daughters graduation is spiteful revenge because her daughter wanted a safe, happy, stable home with her dad not the horrible home with her she always had. Now the narcissist mom writes this unless it's fictional, to play victim. Readers, get in touch with reality.

So you know the part where she said she got bombarded with text from Mark, Sarah and Emily‘s friends like if a bunch of 18-year-olds or 17-year-olds are texting me about how selfish I am to not go to my daughters graduation because her father the woman who cheated on me with and Emily would all just act like some big happy family like what the hell

There is something here that the OP isn't telling us. It's very odd that a daughter would end up with the father even if she made that request without something else being in play. Additionally, OP would still be required in many places to still support her daughter through college. Emily is now 18. She can take her mother (OP) to child support court on her own to force her to assist Emily though college. The father would not get the money. Emily would get it directly.

Sort the sound out in your videos please. Found myself turning up the volume as the story progressed it kept getting quieter then louder then quieter. Really aggravating tbh

She made her bed now she sleeping in it

You know what this sounds like? This sounds like she was fed some BS story of the affair or she decided to delve deep into teen angst just to drive the knife deeper and push OP away. Then when she wants the mothers he threw away to be there for her, it’s like a slap in the face because she wants a “happy family” and OP won’t give in means this was just nothing more than wanting to hurt OP more. The “I was just a kid” excuse doesn’t work in this because she was old enough to know what she was doing when she purposely decided to constantly brag he great her life was with her dad and “new mom”. I’m happy OP did what she did because she knew she was an outsider (as shown by her daughter and ex husband’s reactions to her presence). Now she no longer has a financial responsibility to the daughter who purposely turned her back on her mother. And the fact that the ex-husband basically wanted to still leech off OP for finances but it just proved they all just wanted money. Though honestly before doing this, OP should have basically had an exit plan so she could have moved after dropping that bombshell. And the apology phone call once the reality of her situation came out, only for OP to completely set her boundaries and Emily to throw a tantrum, just confirmed the call only happened because Emily an’t use tears to get money again…evident by all the flying monkeys. At least OP was able to begin a better relationship with Emily..though karma came late to Mark and Sara

Always a sara

Op seems like a bitter and angry woman. hence the affair and daughter distancing, probably not the first time daughter tried to mend relationship only to be met with anger and resentment. Pushing her daughter to her step mom

I would write a post or an email or something a letter to them from top to bottom when the divorce happened when she decided to live with her dad and his affair partner when she started calling her mom and stop spending time with you how much all of this affected you and then let them see it or read it hear it and leave it at that that's really all you can do

Under in hour 👇

Dont go at that party

Some people are not going to like this opinion but I don't blame the daughter I blame dad and stepmom because here's the thing clearly they manipulated her to be the situation that allows them to basically destroy the poster in the story and you got to remember when you manipulate a child with promises of college funds and being able to give them whatever they want because of all this money you supposedly tell them that you have of course they're going to go with the parent that has the ability to show them and do that for them yeah it's not right the way the daughter approach the situation and how she treated the poster but you got to remember she didn't just turn around like that for nothing and started acting out the way she did towards the poster for nothingcuz if the daughter was really that terrible she wouldn't just apologize and start wanting the poster back in her life she wouldn't just agree like okay Mom you're right I have to go get a job and don't get me wrong I understand the daughter didn't take it right when she was told all that the first time but now she understands that that is something she's going to have to do because she only has one more parent left and of course she doesn't want to lose that one parent that was trying to show her and show her the truth of her father and stepmom so yeah and the only reason I'm defending the daughter is because the of you study psychology and you understand a child that is being manipulated by intoxicated with that much money and being able to show them that they can buy them anything yeah they're going to take the side of that parent because like I said that side looks more stable to them because they're so used to seeing how many works in the household as the very thing that gives them clothes food a roof over their head all that

Good on you mum 😁 way to go

I feel bad for you

Wth is going on with the sound

Disliking for fucking up the volume, again.

👎👎 For the yo-yo volume. I hope you fix the volume problem because I can’t listen/give views if I’m constantly having to adjust the volume.

like the story, not a fan of the "one word at a time" format.

Sounds like OP only went to her daughter's graduation 4 revenge. While it was an important conversation that needed to be had, she could have took her out to lunch the next day. Instead she chose to ruin her daughter's special day instead of being happy her daughter went out of the way to invite her

People watching rn👇

I support OP 💯. Her daughter deserves everything she gets. Glad she got karma and she saw the true nature of father and his mistress for what they did to her mother. GET A JOB. These people like to take advantage of good people.

OP needs to buy a big mirror and take a good long look at herself. She likes to point the finger at everyone but herself. Instead of going to the party with congratulations she went to confront a teenager. That was not the time or place. I think daughter was offering an olive branch when she invited op to graduation. Instead of being a good mother op put the blame on daughter. I can see why daughter kept distance. Right or wrong it doesn't matter but OP hated her ex more than she lived her child. Thats why daughter went to dad. Im glad she was able to keep boundaries even if i don't agree with how she did it. OP needs to find a way to communicate with her daughter that is respectful to how daughter thinks and communicates, not the other way around. She also needs to let go of her marriage. She's obviously not over it and i think the daughter gets caught in the net. Hopefully they find the best relationship for them. I forgot my son is an adult, he's not 10 anymore. They are different people, there relationship will be different but it can still be as close.

Again, STOP TURNING DOWN THE VOLUME ON ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS! IT'S FUCKING ANNOYING!

Womp womp...

You could have waited until the day after. You did it to hurt Emily and make yourself feel better.

Dude learn how to edit. Such lazy editing working with AI. Do better.

To add to my comment, she's a jealous, immature vengeful mom. She needs to grow up. Her marriage ended years ago due to her own fault or her daughter wouldn't have said it was an unstable home and asked to leave with dad.

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These comments are CRAZY. This is her child. Mom has the right to be upset her daughter wants to live with dad, but should accept it. There is nothing wrong with hr wanting to be with dad. Mom and dad’s issues have to be set aside for the child. Life sucks, but there is more to it than just you, especially if you have children. Mom is seeing now what most dads go through with a divorce.

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OP is in the wrong. She made her love for her daughter contingent on her daughter being affectionate towards her. Then she chose daughter's high school graduation party as the time to tell her she was being financially cut off. It is understandable that OP was hurt. But her daughter isn't the one who hurt her. Minor children SHOULD be free to make the choice that is best for them without being burdened by their parents' emotional baggage.

Lousy mother, gave up didn’t fight for your visitation rights. Destroying what is meant to be a day to be remembered. It’s obvious why she stopped visiting you.

For the love of all things fckng holy, please stop the random whispering volume fluctuations. It’s irritating & the sudden jokt when it goes back up is really fckng rough with headphones on.