HOW 2 HANDLE THE PRESSURE OF BEING SINGLE & FEELING LEFT OUT W/ MARRIED FRIENDS! I KNOW, I WAS BOTH!

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HOW 2 HANDLE THE PRESSURE OF BEING SINGLE & FEELING LEFT OUT W/ MARRIED FRIENDS! I KNOW, I WAS BOTH!

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@danemahinga3801 Жыл бұрын

I am single and in my 40s. in my early 30s I had a boyfriend to whom once I confessed my frustration about being single.That boyfriend actually asked me one question" Do you think all married people are happy?" That REALLY made me think and helped me deal better with my status.

@britjj5126 Жыл бұрын

True but more and more it's about the stigma of being single especially past a certain age. I know a lot of married women who knowingly or unknowingly exclude single gal's from the social activities. And in today's world when everyone is so busy being single can shine a light on just how alone one is. Not everyone gets married purely for romantic reasons some do it for companionship or for opportunities... sometimes it's easier to accomplish certain goals with a husband. Unpopular opinion but it's a man's world. Think of any women who has reached pinnacle of success. She had the backing of a man in some way shape or form. Whether it's was an executive who gave her a chance, a book publisher etc. Heck Beyonce wouldn't be the Beyonce she is without her Daddy or Jay Zs influence. Not to take away from any individual talent or hard work but it is what it is. A man's/husband's influence can really put you on in various spheres.

@TR_writing Жыл бұрын

At 46, never married, no kids, but have been wanting both since my 30s, I needed to hear this. Thank you Fumi.

@thelmaallen1440 Жыл бұрын

Fumi I'm 63. I got married at age 55. Me and my hubby have been going strong for 8 years now. My hubby and I were boyfriend/girlfriend from age 20-26. We kept in touch over the years. He never married , nor did I. Ladies, I didn't think I would ever get married after 50+ but I did. KEEP HOPE ALIVE!

@thelmaallen1440 Жыл бұрын

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@thelmaallen1440 Жыл бұрын

❤

@a.r.tavares1322 10 ай бұрын

Oh, that's so sweet. Wish you all the happiness in the world.

@ArtemisUnderscoreJ Жыл бұрын

Too many single married folk for me to believe I’m missing out. Seeing healthy marriages is more of a pleasant surprise than something be “envied” in modern Western society.

@AS-tb2mo Жыл бұрын

Fact. They're married but that's about it oftentimes. Nothing to be envious of from what I'm seeing.

@firststar2 Жыл бұрын

100 💯 👌👌👌👌👌👌

@jksmith9161 Жыл бұрын

🎯

@demekonrn Жыл бұрын

I'm 45. I knew motherhood wasn't my God-given calling when I was 12. I'm unmarried & I've never felt that longing that single women feel when they see married people. I am scarred from the trauma of having unhappily married parents, siblings and friends who stayed together long after they should. I already talked to God about it & he agrees that marriage & kids aren't for me; if he didn't, I would know it😂

@judithsakala4944 Жыл бұрын

YANA ! 😉😃 Am 55 🤷🏾‍♀️

@romae6182 Жыл бұрын

I had the unhappily married parents and still got married. I hated it and will never do it again. Those married women can keep their headaches to themselves.

@lumilabiyi Жыл бұрын

I'm grateful for women like Fumi on KZfaq and TikTok who have spoken so much life to me, since I was 22 (now 26) I don't feel the pressure to be in a relationship or have kids at ALL! I don't know how that'll change in the next 10 years but for now I'm content being alone. PS I love the look Fumi, it looks so classy ❤

@misscarol3771 Жыл бұрын

"your supposed to be where you are"this words are deep.Thanks fumi always here for your nuggets of wisdom

@l.a.w.79 Жыл бұрын

I’ve always wanted a family. I’m your age now and never married no children. My friends’ children are in college and some are young adults. It’s tough. I feel like I spent so much time on my career and that was a waste on many levels because having a family, you leave a legacy that’s different and more meaningful. Now I don’t care one iota about my field/profession. I wish things were different.

@a.r.tavares1322 10 ай бұрын

I feel you, but please don't be sad. I'm 47. I always wanted kids (the mariage part, not so much... bad male figures early in life). I have 6 siblings, they all have children. I don't (and I'm the one who loves kids the most!). But at the same time I see them struggle with the children. It's tough. There are positives and negatives to every situation. I say to myself we are all threads of the great fabric of life, all intertwined. If you think about it, the legacy does not really last long... who remembers his/her great-great-grandmother? Not many of us. Also we can leave a legacy in many other ways: adopt, mentor youngsters, write, etc. I wish you all the best.

@carolynfrink5569 Жыл бұрын

Fumi, thank you for this topic. I am 59 and single due to divorce. I love my life and focus on the next chapter of my life as I am pursuing my PhD. and other goals. You are so right to work on yourself, including your physical, mental, and emotional health. I would love to marry again (to the person God has for me), but right now, I am enjoying this time of preparation and reinventing myself! I live and love you, Fumi!❤

@simro8067 Жыл бұрын

This video came right on time as I’ve been feeling this way recently. Every time I go on social media, someone I know is getting engaged, married or having children. I’m still a virgin in my late 20s with minimal dating experience. With how dating is now, it’s so hard to find someone genuine. Guys have always told me that I’m marriage material, but they typically say they aren’t ready for that level of commitment or they ghost me for women with more sexual experience. Also, you’d be surprised that a lot of women and men settle for the sake of having a title and warm body. A lot of people are in relationships by themselves. So I don’t idolize people’s relationship, but I do always ask God when will my time come?

@ruthnne Жыл бұрын

Girl…we should chat! I’m a girl in your shoes sort of…by the way.

@eyethumfazwe Жыл бұрын

I relate so much! Waiting on God isn't easy but it's going to be worth it.

@nowthen6389 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this as well. If you all chat let me know! 😂

@excellencecheberurjoie6452 11 ай бұрын

Single, childfree and happy @45. It is people like Fumi that are inspiring us to live bravely and blissfully 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@nickyb8089 Жыл бұрын

This video was on time. I learnt a long time ago, never compate your self to other people . 9 times out of 10 what you see is not the reality. People save face. Focus your energy on yourself. And prepare for his arrival ❤

@Heyu7her3 11 ай бұрын

"Thou shalt not covet."

@franciscamitchell4674 Жыл бұрын

This actually brought tears to my eyes.. felt that you were talking about my single life.. still single at 66 and feel that I have so much to give the right partner…🥺

@grettag228 Жыл бұрын

Fumi❤❤❤ I’ve been watching through so many stages in my life. You’ve been a counsellor for me when I needed one. When I was single and needed someone to remind me I’m worthy of the world I came to you. When I was dating and didn’t know how to handle guys, I came to you, etc. And now I just got married Aug 1st to the best guy in this world 🥰🥰 and so I will keep coming to you. I just love you and Ole and Adrian. I can see through my screen your happiness, thank you for showing us that it is possible. From the bottom of my heart, much love❤

@pretaporterp Жыл бұрын

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@Ms76Cocoa Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said. Congratulations to you!

@jackiea7965 Жыл бұрын

Congratulations ❤

@redhead2784 Жыл бұрын

❤CONGRATULATIONS❤

@omoego Жыл бұрын

Congratulations

@momzilla9491 Жыл бұрын

Number three was just right for me, but--- I never had the same timing as my single or married friends. New widow. I have no idea where to start life on my own. Just looking forward to being a grandma now. Things will work themselves out. Good advice... Don't put yourself in a position where you are not happy with the company you keep.

@lafleurbleue8936 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Fumi for this video❤. I'm 32, always wanted to be married and a mom but still single. I've never been in a relationship actually even though i try to meet men... It's so painful sometimes feeling like I'm missing so much in life. Your videos give me hope❤

@lavish169 Жыл бұрын

Turn to God.

@lalilali3817 Жыл бұрын

I feel you.

@nanaabenadarkowaah1800 Жыл бұрын

Same here❤

@rbraxton00 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, I never wanted to get married. Had a child out of wedlock, and I wasn’t concerned about getting married. I did get married, was Married for 14 years. I got divorced, I’m not interested in marriage, but never against it. I have never had any peer pressure after 15, that’s when I realized people don’t really like you. Yeah, you have people that like you, but the majority of people are living their own lives, we have a million things to think about. Children, spouses, careers, family, no one has time to worry about what other people are doing. It’s life! Great video 😊

@fadekealabi2894 Жыл бұрын

This video is so timely. I was feeling so sad today about deciding to cut off a situationship that was headed nowhere and started to feel the blues of being single and lonely at nearly 32 especially when I thought this man was the one. The Universe always finds a way to comfort us and I am so grateful Aunty Fumi for allowing yourself to be used. As you have said, it is not a race and I trust that it will happen for me the way and time it is meant to ❤

@catenimo6965 Жыл бұрын

Same case here darling...we shall pull through

@fadekealabi2894 Жыл бұрын

@@catenimo6965 ❤️

@korynkoryn6052 Жыл бұрын

Trust the Lord. He will NEVER fail you❤

@traceyrichardson9550 Жыл бұрын

Oh my darlings, you have so much life ahead of you! Really. Focus on yourselves, do what pleases you. Travel, climb, caving, career or even write a book - get to know yourself as a person and the right partner will come to you. Much love xxx

@cedesley7296 Жыл бұрын

Girl I would’ve thought that someone hacked into my account and wrote this on my behalf…omg I relate with this 💯% !!! Everything you mentioned is me but seeing how dating in society currently looks like, I end up feeling secure and at peace in being single. I’ve come a VERY long way because in my early 20s I would cry and get so depressed about being single. God sees how big the desire to be in a loving committed relationship and I believe that he will come through at just the right time! Keep your Faith 🙌🏾😌❤️✨

@patriciatolliver4057 11 ай бұрын

Patty-I am single, in my 70S, and I've never been married. I physically had no children, but I had many children and young people cross my path with whom I still have contact. One of them said they were children of my heart. They really are. I am facing retirement alone. However, I am currently going down a new path of creativity, and so many things are surfacing I never dreamed of. I believe God knows whom I will be with and when he will appear in my life. I feel he's coming, I just don't know when. That is kind of exciting. Thank you, Fumi, for the reinforcing words.

@manningviralmedia Жыл бұрын

People can be very unkind towards unmarried women.

@eleniprovia7667 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely!

@lalaheart76 Жыл бұрын

When i tell people I am single with 0 kids people feel pity for me. I don't understand. It makes me question what am doing wrong. I was with a guy who let me down and started cheating with another woman while I was busy getting my life together. How pity!

@jst6r 11 ай бұрын

I’m 37 and people make cruel comments. I am not in a rush to get married as I want to marry the right person! Thank you for this viseo

@yonelasjourney Жыл бұрын

I'm 30 single no kids and starting to give up. This gives me some hope ❤

@ms_teeonly Жыл бұрын

Me too

@monabrown101 Жыл бұрын

This was SOOOO POWERFUL❤❤❤... such more an any "singles" sermon or message I've heard in churches my whole life. I'm crying and shouting because this has set me COMPLETELY FREE🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@zeebabi5198 Жыл бұрын

I lost my best friend for the same topic she's married and I'm not, and she make me feel like I'm missing out because I'm not married

@ArtemisUnderscoreJ Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this in your friendship. Growing apart is never easy nor fair.

@romae6182 Жыл бұрын

She’s lying.

@Kimberly-ks6uu Жыл бұрын

Thank you Fumi, nobody talks about this, ppl always focused on relationship goals, n single ppl are overlooked, this made me feel seen

@susanthobekilencube71 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Fumi. I am enjoying your videos. I am 43, never married, no kids, I can't have kids because I had a hysterectomy because of fibroids. I am still healing, I have been believing God for a husband since I was 20. I've decided to love myself and do the things I love, live life to the fullest. I am so liberated from expectations of African society about what it means to be a woman!!!

@julieenelson9199 Жыл бұрын

Awesome video Fumi I'm 56 been single for over 10 years and I feel bad when I see some of my friends married and in relationships most times I question myself whether I am ugly and or I have these negative thoughts sometimes and wonder what I'm doing wrong. Luckily I'm god fearing and I pray a lot and sometimes exercise when I get the chance. I'm glad I watched this video you have given me hope.

@mwila1879 Жыл бұрын

This video is so timely. I have been feeling so tired of the wait. This is the fuel I need to keep on the hope and enjoy my present. I should count my blessing, 31 and unmarried, no child yet is not so bad. Thank you so much Fumi! Love from a Zambian in NYC.

@tanzaniandonnainitaly9905 Жыл бұрын

God bless you aunt Fums, I have been troubled lately because all my friends even younger sisters have had all they wished, be it marriage, the dream career and many more, and I have been feeling like I have not achieved anything, my dream mostly, which is to become a medical doctor, I thank you for the encouraging message, I got the strength to pick up my books again and continue with my medical doctor entrance exam preparations. Love love from a Tanzanian lady 🇹🇿 in Italy. Un bacio a te😘.

@lmusima3275 Жыл бұрын

I’m so happy for you Fumi ❤❤ may God continue to bless you and your family. I’m 45 and single. This video is encouraging. While sometimes I moan about singleness, couples romancing in front of me, people asking me if I want marriage and children, I enjoy the drama free life. I enjoy organising my life the way I want it.

@DorinaAcevedoAcevedo 11 ай бұрын

Thank you Fumi for your special words. I have been feeling pressured as well by a few people at work being I'm single. They say I'm needing a man. I always say I'm good Alone right now, I don't need a MAN TO COMPLETE ME.

@Rachel-ze8ne Жыл бұрын

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your transparency and vulnerability Fumi! This video will help so many women in a similar situation

@portiawatkis4772 Жыл бұрын

This episode brought tears to my eyes. You educate me everyday but today you educate me. I love you auntie Fumes

@clotere82 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this content! I am single in my very early 40s and I have hope for marriage and kid(s). I hope because that is what I want. Your story is an inspiration!

@ashleycunningham751 Жыл бұрын

I'm so happy you recorded this chat. It is so helpful. Thanks for remembering us single ladies.😉

@aclark1197 Жыл бұрын

Fumi I don't even know what the video entails as a Single Woman who absolutely loves being single and finally understanding this isn't an issue it's a blessing . I wish I knew that a long time ago. Marriage is beautiful should you find someone to spend the rest of your life with happily wholly but if. Not live happy and single and it's ok to be happy single and saved. #If I keep My Last Name I think I'm going to be just fine.

@kasyatababra8119 Жыл бұрын

Thank you aunt Fumi, I have been home for now 6 years after graduation babysitting my cousins. They are now old and I feel left out on everything. I'm 28 and I have no idea where to start from

@EstherAivinhenyi Жыл бұрын

Lesson learnt " marriage is not a race." God Almighty thank You for giving me the STRENGTH , Patience, and Spiritual insights about marriage. 🙏

@Xo_Chante__ Жыл бұрын

The wait will be worth it ten folds! Thank you for this video Fumi! It is right on time. ❤

@MzelleShona Жыл бұрын

Just from the title alone that brought back a memory to me. I felt left out for the first time a couple of weeks ago, just after turning 30 when I heard (I believe I wasn't meant to hear the conversation just by the look my friends gave each other) that my friends (all married) were planning a party with their spouses without informing me to celebrate one that just bought her new apartment. That was a weird feeling as I am okay being single even though I am looking for the one. I'll watch the video and hopefully I'll get some good advice by you aunty Fumi ❤

@happy4life265 Жыл бұрын

Those are not your friends. They should Atleast tell you

@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Жыл бұрын

Ditch them. Some married think they are superior and treat their single friends differently after they get married. Then if divorce happens they start looking for you again.

@Heyu7her3 11 ай бұрын

I say go off on them...

@veec4153 Жыл бұрын

Your pictures are amazing… wow you’ve travelled so much. Defo a blueprint I’m waiting on God I was hurt in my last relationship but now I’ve healed this is a beautiful life to aspire to… thank you for sharing Fumi, it really helps soo many beautiful women feeling lost, lonely and helpless out there ❤❤

@theonejanaviya Жыл бұрын

I’m a 28 yr old newly single mom of 2 beautiful children but I trust God

@mimikenya2021 Жыл бұрын

I Love your Channel so much Aunty Fumi!!! I listen to all your videos and you're preaching to us sisters. I'm turning 32, and I can't wait to be married. But while i patiently wait. I am focusing on being the best I can be in this single hood season. One thing I don't want to do is marry wrong, so I will wait for the very very best from God. I am so happy for you, Ula and Adrian ❤. May you be blessed with the very best years for all the years of waiting ❤❤

@AndromedonThanks Жыл бұрын

I love these moments with Fumi ❤

@edithstomer3315 Жыл бұрын

Good morning World!❤❤❤ I really love to hear you laugh❤❤🇱🇨🇱🇨

@agbaya1000 Жыл бұрын

This video was so spot on with everything I am feeling especially the financial aspects! It was so comforting to learn that I am not alone. It's something I have shame about but I guess I am not alone. I turned 30 this year and I am not quite where I want to be financially and this has got me down. I sometimes look at married people who seem to have it all. Nice big apartments or houses, seem to have their finances together while I am struggling to make ends meet. I am working towards being better with my finances and hearing your story about how things were for you when you were younger is comforting and encouraging to know my life could definitely improve for the better. Thanks so much for sharing your story.

@audreymulowa2126 Жыл бұрын

Aunt Fumi, you are so cute❤😍🤗thank you for always being there as an auntie, big sis and counsellor. I am 38 single mommy and enjoying every moment with my daughter. I struggle sometimes but my goal is to enjoy every single moment of being single and working hard towards giving my girl a decent life🙏🙌

@Gabekhp Жыл бұрын

Your videos are so encouraging. Over time your healthy and uplifting mentality influences my life, I'm grateful for you.

@RoyallyHis Жыл бұрын

I join the community of so many of these here who are completely satisfied & content as a single (widowed) with no desire to remarry. My sweet husband left big shoes that will never be filled & I honestly believe there is no match to the love he had for me. I gave him all of myself & have no more to give to another man. I'm too selfish now. I give my love to my children, grandchildren, friends (married & single) & more importantly, to the things of God. Not a jealous or envious bone in my body towards my married fam & friends. Not 1 day of longing, loneliness, looking or lusting for a man. Love is a beautiful gift. I still cry at weddings (I don't avoid them) & love the idea of marriage...but for someone else😂

@ItsWhittlove Жыл бұрын

This was FIRE 🔥 I have children but I’m not married. I can’t wait to be but I’ve experienced a lot of what you mentioned! The rubbing it in..people being intimidated by me. But God sent you as a messenger..I will stay fabulous ❤

@anarahmafe Жыл бұрын

I’m not going to lie this episode to me feels like an actual sign from God because today out of all days, I have been crying my eyes out feeling like I just want to no longer exist… but then I get this episode

@hilarityco Жыл бұрын

I needed this, I am 33 years old an only child and my mom is dead. I have no family and all I want is my own family but I lose hope everyday because I don’t see love in my future sometimes. I am the last one in my friends group that is single with no kids so sometimes the pressure is there. But, at the same time I look at their lives and say I don’t want it. They never have time for themselves and work themselves to the bone. I don’t know, I’m blessed to be single but sometimes I think about having my own family but I’m stingy with my love.

@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Жыл бұрын

Just go to a sperm bank. Or adopt if you can.

@joylm9108 Жыл бұрын

You don’t need marriage to have kids. Go ahead and have kids now because time isn’t kind to us women.

@oluwaseyelolaajeigbe Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Aunty funmi, I'm 40,single, no kids and confused. I really need this video

@portiawatkis4772 Жыл бұрын

You're a remarkable individual handmade by God. The Bible says covit good gifting and I truly aspire to be somewhat like you, I'm in my mid 30's and still not sure what God has in store for me but I trust him.

@winnieboateng5334 Жыл бұрын

Awwww thank you so much Mama Fumi for responding and your Advice❤❤️🎉 💃🏽 You are the best. God richly bless you. Love you.

@tiffanyblount7560 Жыл бұрын

Celebrate life, longevity and peace. Reality, women out number men, therefore all of us won't be able to get married but for those who desire that, I pray you find the desires of your heart. But while waiting learn to marry yourself first. Give yourself permission to be in love with you first.

@VivSees Жыл бұрын

Women dont outnumber men. That’s the narrative that males push. Marriage minded Women outnumber “marriageable” males. Globally, more male babies are born than female babies. In reality, straight women want the man they’d wish to marry to be mature minded, straight, financially capable, mentally stable, protective, loving, faithful, honest, etc. How many males do you know who fit that criteria? Few, if any! Plenty of males but very few have the qualities that women seek. For a woman to be proposed to by a male wanting marriage, he basically just wants a physically attractive, loving, loyal, honest woman. How many women do you know like that? Unlimited! You are correct though, many women will never get married. Period. Not because of the quantity of men but because of the quality of men available. Women are much pickier than men and we HAVE to be because we bear the offspring.

@nightwishisthegreatestband6355 Жыл бұрын

It's actually the opposite globally

@happyngulube1871 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Sis Fumi, I am 46 now and really needed to hear this. ❤😊

@mjmidnight9 Жыл бұрын

Fumi, I absolutely love who you are! ❤️ I am a new subscriber (about two weeks ago) and have been loving your channel ever since! Please keep giving us the raw and real you! ❤️😘

@janayalaude4722 11 ай бұрын

You are such a beautiful woman inside and out! I pray to be this poised, elegant and vibrant as I grow older. Thank you for your wisdom. There are women (and men) who often become bitter due to life's circumstances and it takes away from them enjoying each stage of life. They often think "Well if I had to go through this hardship then so do you" rather than sharing lessons and teaching moments. I can tell you are a wonderful person to the people around you because you are giving us such caring and attentive advice. You don't know us personally yet you are sharing with a heart that really cares for our growth and wellness. Many people close to us probably have the same experiences and wisdom as you but would not share it generously because they are harboring pain and do not wish to see others happy. Love you Aunty Fumi!

@tizifadaka9283 Жыл бұрын

I can never thank you enough Fumi. Keep doing what you do. I pray that God continues to bless you with a long and happy life 💕

@kiskibella Жыл бұрын

It's been a long time since I've commented on your videos 😔. This one touched me a lot because I am on the eve of my 48th birthday and still single. Thank you my sister Fumi for your words. Very encouraging and inspiring. May God bless you and protect your family! You are true a beautiful soul! You're like a friend in my head! Please, Fumi, I have a question: you often say you met Ola in LA. But how did your meeting go? Did he approach you? Was it an immediate love at first sight? I'll understand if you don't want to share the details. Merci! Sending you love & blessings from Paris. Bizoux🇫🇷🌸😘

@chidychyk5741 Жыл бұрын

I swear I can't love you any less. You give the BEST, I mean ABSOLUTE BEST Advices all the time. You're Indeed Our Own Fairy god mother on the internet. I Love You Aunty Fumi & God Bless You Richly for always being a ray of positivity, kindness, sunshine, & Love. ❤❤❤

@MathyLisikaMinsende Жыл бұрын

Thank you big sis Fumi. I've had the hardest time losing all my close friends who are now married as they were my whole world. The loneliness that I have felt and the feeling of failing hit me hard. And trying to make a circle of new friends is hard too. I'm a better now but this message really spoke to me. Thank you and loads of love.❤❤❤

@laurenfrancesguerraphd8310 Жыл бұрын

FUMI!! Thanks so much. I really needed to hear this today. I'm 41 and I think about this often. You are amazing

@beverlycraigg9067 Жыл бұрын

Amazing episode Fumi. Love the travel photos. You are enjoying and living your best life later. God has blessed you with an amazing husband and son I got married in my twenties and divorced in my late thirties with three kids. I would love to travel and enjoy life now that I am in my fifties. So for the young ladles please enjoy your life..travel and have fun, so please don't settle ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@FavourFAjayi Жыл бұрын

Gosh I can totally relate with this video, right in this phase at the moment, of giving space to my married friends. Mainly, I am doing that to reflect on my feelings, why I feel how I feel & how I can sort it.

@sheilalofton2145 Жыл бұрын

Fumes, you always have the best advice, those life lessons have served you well. Gurrrl, that hair is glamorous to distraction ! Yes you look fire 🔥🔥🔥, I love your look !

@TruPoetic Жыл бұрын

Looking great Fumi! ❤

@santi7470 6 ай бұрын

YESSSSSSSSSS - I believe your child comes to you - chooses you to be their mother ❤❤

@classybrassy5 Жыл бұрын

Yumi, thanks so much for this video.Although I'm divorced, I still have moments of fearing that God will send my last and final husband.Your video touched my ❤️ it came at the perfect time. I'm reorganizing jewelry clothes shoes purses and wigs 😅yes I live wigs, too.I ordered Julianne in 2 colors. I'm not giving up on love again.Gonna dressed to impress as I used to do before COVID. When my husband arrives, I'll be mentally physically and stylishly chic ready. Your content is like food for the soul,a total addiction for me now.Continued Love Happiness and Blessings to you Ola & Adrian❤

@yaniquewilson8362 Жыл бұрын

Thank you auntie fumi for not leaving us out....without or without a man i am enought with or without a child i am enough as a woman 😊

@_molebogeng6281 Жыл бұрын

This advice landed especially because it's coming from someone who walked the journey!!! You really understand the struggle and I'm glad you didn't trivialize it

@iam_trinikimmy Жыл бұрын

Sister Fumi, this is so relevant to my life right at this moment. All my love to you and your family. Blessings! Love from T&T!

@djqueenchampion7791 Жыл бұрын

I lost my husband in 2009 my Soul Mate I am single not dating or seeing anyone, it gets very lonely sometimes not having a male companion to talk too, Travel with, laugh with cuddle with ect. I am very cautious.of people because after 30 years of friendship with some I found out they were fake friends that only looked out for self, which has made me feel more lonely. However I rather be alone than to waste anymore time with fake people. Much Love ❤️ Fumi Peace ✌🏾 and Love 💕

@lenahchama Жыл бұрын

Thanx's fumi for these words of wisdom❤

@jenrn120 Жыл бұрын

Powerful!!! I love those travel pictures, you look beautiful FUMI sis! 🫶🏽

@SianaRepmad Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I’m 34 and still single and I’m the last of my friends to be single. I have struggled with feeling hopeless/worthless and gave up on dating. I have been praying for years for a spouse and have been trusting God but it’s a struggle, but I also know what I need to do to be in a relationship (self care, self love, and making more friends ). Anyways thank you for the encouragement.

@a.dlamini 11 ай бұрын

Me too sis same age

@nichelleregister0416 Жыл бұрын

I just want to say I love you my sister Fumi I’ve learned a lot from you Your family is beautiful and your laugh gives me life I love your laugh

@henriettasamuel7386 Жыл бұрын

I'm single and in my 40's.. yes at times I feel left out and also feel like something is wrong with me.. but also most times I see God at work and that gives me the assurance that God is aware of my situation and I believe that is a matter of time. At the moment I just want to work hard to accomplish so much in this life😍😍.

@Lydia_m Жыл бұрын

“It’s not a race “🥹🥹. I needed this. I’m turning 31 next month and I’m still single. I’m not necessarily longing for marriage or feeling as though I’m missing out on that. I do yearn for a companion, someone to pour in me as much as I’m ready to pour into them 🥹. I’m staying single though until God does his deed in my life. I’ve set standards, boundaries and expectations for my next relationship ,therefore I will not operate from a desperate place and settle. It doesn’t make the yearning for a relationship any less though . Thank you for this video Auntie ❤️❤️

@Macch2275 Жыл бұрын

This is such a beautiful video with a beautiful message! Fumi, you are amazing ❤️ with a wonderful family!

@KatlegoKatberry Жыл бұрын

I believe getting married is a personal choice and no one should be pressured to get married

@WhittyHutton Жыл бұрын

I’m staying single for life and never having children. I wish my family and friends leave me alone about it. I been traveling the world and living life. 🙌❤️

@Hiding_in_the_Light 10 ай бұрын

Fumi you are the friend that every girl/woman needs❤

@jennymichellelewis2982 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much Fumi. I am 35 years old. I am a nurse. And I still believe that I will be able to married and have children I would be extremely happy just like you are you are a inspirations ❤❤❤we love you so much. May God bless you and your beautiful family 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@Daakie9362 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this video. I think this video was made for me . Hmmm it’s not easy but thanks for this. I’m in my late 30’s still single 😢

@vickiwinn909 10 ай бұрын

I am 66 never married but I have one child she is now 40. I thought at one time her father and I would marry before I delivered. It didn't happen he showed his true colors. I am the only one of my 6 siblings who never married. I let my self go completely. What you say is true. I help take of my 4 grandkid 13, 7, 2, 7 months-I am moving back to my home after leaving to help take care of my mother-she had passed. I am going to do with God's help,love and persevere Thank you

@eleniprovia7667 Жыл бұрын

Keep those awesome videos coming Fumi! You are so good to us.

@SoTappedOut Жыл бұрын

As a divorced, single 45 yr old; I approve THIS message! #LoveYaFums

@ppinnock4725 Жыл бұрын

To be honest I did not want to be single or be a single parents. I never thought I would have children at an older age. I was always feeling like the third wheel when I have friends that are married and yes always get the questions when are you getting married. But now I dont care, I now can say with age and independent, finding peace within myself is what matters.But now those married friends are now divorce. If you are single take your time to live your life and in doing so enjoy yourselves. Marriage is not always easy and it is not for everyone. Thank you Mrs Fumi.

@MsRewaFranklin Ай бұрын

I so so so needed this. I'm 53 and thank you. I'm doing everything you said. I do desire my husband, but I can also wait for him. Thank Fumi ❤

@aurelieb7353 Жыл бұрын

I just want to give you a big hug and kisses. Thank you for giving us single women hope. You’re an inspiration. I love you ❤💕🙏🏽

@mjay0019 Жыл бұрын

This video brought tears to my eyes.

@Aeriyana123 Жыл бұрын

I did not get married until I was 27. My husband and I have been married for 36 years. The key to choosing the right man for me was giving all control to God. I asked him to send the man that he would have for me not the ones I had been choosing (most of them turned out to be awful). So I let God choose for me. Trust me I know it was God because I would not have chosen him. I can say I have been blessed with a best friend who happens to be my husband. On another note my sister Fumi you look marvelous! Be blessed.

@patricialowe3290 11 ай бұрын

I am just now commenting, have been catching up on all my videos….i am 56 and still praying and waiting for that time to come for me. But for now, just taking care of my parents and their health. But I have always felt the same….so many of my friends are married with kids, not all have kids, but most do. I can totally relate.

@AITrademarket Жыл бұрын

Err Funmi, you look 30 something. Best advice and balanced view. You’ve made me feel so much better about myself. Kind regards Yemi

@queen900 Жыл бұрын

Aunty Fumi, your channel literally feels like home to me. Thank you for this❤❤

@aupz23 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your advice! I love your channel and you are a blessing from God! I am 42 and just graduated with my PhD! You are truly an inspiration - I look forward and thank God in advance for my future husband and children.