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Yes! The most annoying thing is when people my age say ‘I’m just a 25 year old teen’ like no you’re not, grow up!

I dont understand how brett expects anyone at age 23 to be financially syable enough to have children. The economy isnt exactly what it was 50 years ago

To be fair, there’s not much societal incentive to “become and adult”. Being an adult now mostly means bills you can’t pay, a job that treats you like dirt, and a social landscape that makes you wanna blow your brains out.

The stories of 20 year olds having their moms come with them into a job interview still shocks me.

My coworker of 25, Im 28, she just said we are kids. Like... NO! DONT INFANTILIZE YOURSELF! She even has a kid herself! I'm so angry! We are adults! We are young but we are full fledged adults! Stop treating adults like they are children!!!!

As a gen z, I got married at 21 and expect to have my first child at 25. I was almost lost to being a helpless adult too but my husband honestly saved me by expecting more of me than my parents ever did. I wouldn't change it for the world and I'm so glad I married young!

I’m 21, engaged, hoping to get married this year. - I was banned from the kitchen until I was about 18 years old. Since then I’ve been working on learning how to cook on my own. - My parents practically refused to let me do my own laundry. I begged my mother to teach me how to do it myself at 16. Now I know how to, and I asked my parents why they didn’t let me do this sooner. It’s not hard. - Whenever I get sick and tell my mom that I think I won’t be able to get past it myself, an appointment is made before I can finish refilling my water. In the past few months, I’ve not told her exactly what’s going on, and with help from my fiancé who is in the medical field, I’ve been making my own appointments and going to get checked up on. However I’m still on my parent’s insurance and have to communicate to them what I’m doing. - I was never permitted to go outside on my own. I would want to go for a walk in my neighborhood at 16 and my parents would fight me to not go alone. Now if I want to, I feel extremely anxious and like something is seriously wrong. - My parents did not help me learn to drive. They were late in giving me the drivers guide, didn’t give me time behind the wheel, and wouldn’t take me to get my permits or license. I was 19 when I finally got my license, a month before I went to college. And my dad still tries to keep me from driving by myself to various places that are further away, alone, for my safety. Now I’ve gone to car maintenance lessons to be able to check my own oil, change my own tires, read my tire information, exchange wipers and know which ones to get, and where to take my car if X Y or Z were to happen. - My parents would take care of sit-down meetings and paying for my college. Which I appreciate beyond measure, but it means that I didn’t know how to sign up for classes, who to meet up with (bursar, registrar, etc.), and didn’t know what to say. So during college, I didn’t let my parents know what was going on so that I could deliver my dad’s checks to the offices, I would schedule for classes myself with advisors, I would answer emails and phone calls, and I would get books and exchange information and items myself. So yeah, I’m not surprised that my generation are stuck as children.

Urgent care nurse here. Whenever I have teenagers come in with their parents I emphasize, "In your own words, tell me what is going on." I'm guilty as a mom of wanting to speak for my child and do more for them that I should, but being on the other end, the nurse end, I also realize that I don' t want my kids *this* dependent. By your late teens you should know allergy to medications if any and your own past medical history. I encourage the kids to talk.

Parents didn't want their kids to struggle growing up, but part of growing up is struggling to get to the answers.

Who honestly wants to grow up nowadays with how the world is? Being an “adult” nowadays SUCKS! Especially compared to decades ago.

I'm turning 20 this year and I also don't really want to "grow up" yet because it just feels like everything happened so quickly. Additionally I think that some of us feel robbed of some of the very important years transitioning into adulthood due to the pandemic and suddenly 4 years have passed in what almost feels like the blink of an eye. Despite all this I will not shy away from the responsibilities that come with becoming an adult because I know that sooner or later life will hold me accountable. We may think that we were dealt a "bad" hand when it comes to the growing up department but it's our responsibility to deal with it as adults.

Another huge problem is that we can’t walk into a work place and ask to apply. A lot of us get told to apply online to already limited spots that require a billion hours of experience that no one wants to even give experience in the first place. We are screwed. The pandemic ruined my generation. I can’t even graduate college without taking online classes which I struggle with those. I’m honestly about to drop out and pick up a trade.

I’m not gonna lie, a lot of our generation is a mix of three things, people who taught themselves how to take care of themselves cause they HAVE to, people who learn to take care of themselves because they were taught how by parents/ guardian figures, and people who weren’t either fortunate enough to have parents that teach them things, or too paranoid to try and figure it out in fear that they’ll mess up. The tornado one might just be the internet being a mess tho ngl.

It actually makes it really hard to make friends. I’m 28, I’m married and have 2 kids and feel very much like an adult (because I am) and I swear it’s so hard to relate to people my age now. I’m all for having fun, still go out for drinks & act like an idiot when we have a kid free night but it’s like I’m hanging out with 15 year olds and I hate it 🥲 not even fun 22 year olds, literal children. I regularly have to call to make appointments for my friends because they won’t do it.

Oh thank goodness I’m not the only one who feels like that despite being an adult, I don’t think I can do *anything* because my parents were always hand holding me. During the past year, I constantly had to call/text my mom to ask how to do some basic things, mainly with interactions, and what to properly say in an email/text asking for a summer job. I’m almost 20 but I still feel like I’m the same 15 year old in 2020 who was in the midst of a slew of mental health problems.

This is on the parents for thinking their children would naturally figure everything out or would learn it at school. Teaching life skills is completely the responsibility of the parents. I also want to point out that it’s another benefit of homeschooling. My children come with me to appointments, errands, oil changes, the bank, and other places that most children don’t go to since the parents do it during school hours.

Me at 33 but I drove my dad to the county office and paid his property taxes for him. Don't worry zoomers, you'll grow up quick (out of necessity) when your parent(s) start getting alzheimer's

it’s not realistic to get married and have a kid at 21 the cost to be alive is too much

"Shielding them from struggles instead of preparing their kids for them." That sums it up

Gen x here, when I was 15 yrs old, took the bus alone downtown to the dentist to get 2 wisdom teeth pulled, then i took the bus home. I was a bit woozy and got on the wrong bus. Quickly got off the bus with no money. Got the on correct bus, walked past the driver without paying, and found a seat and fell asleep. Got home safe and sound.

On one hand it is beautiful to have such a strong relationship with your parents (something my friends always envied me), on the other hand, not being able to call your doctor without mama's help is concerning.

Can't afford a home, cost of living still going up, wages staying the same. WhY dOnT yOu GrOw Up?

I’m going to be 16 in August, I have been doing my laundry, cooking, cleaning and talking to my doctor since I can remember ( never thought this would be something I would announce). My parents aren’t absent or some crap they just put emphasis on responsibility and independence, I love and appreciate them for homeschooling me and keeping me away from this.

I'm autistic and I'm surprisingly more independent than that. Bare in mind only slightly more independent. I'm trying to force myself into situations that force me to grow up and adapt. "Improvise, adapt, overcome"

I've been thinking on this for while now, I'm 23 and several people at work have called me "kid", is like: you don't what I've been through, the responsibilities I have, or the decision I make on a daily basis, don't call me "kid", I'm working since I was 18. Another "kid" stopped coming, didn't quit, just stopped showing up to work and didn't took the calls from HR, and everyone was saying: "What are you gonna do? She is JUST 21" and I had the vary unpopular opinion of: She is a grown woman who cannot gather the courage to quit as a normal person. Ok, I don't really like to do this, I thought I was clear but it seems I wasn't. I'm not complaining for being calling a kid, I'm not even complaining at all. I'm just noticing that one big problem is that people expect fully grown adults in their 20s to behave like kids, so they do, and then act surprised when someone in their 20s do something normal. That might lead young adults to think they are special or price worthy for acting normal. The way I think it should be is that people should expect adults to behave like adults and hold them accountable when they don't, instead of making excuses for them.

I'm a 37 year old therapist, I can't tell you how many calls I get from parents making appointments for their ADULT CHILDREN. 19-22 year olds, can't call or email to say "hi I need help". This is the most enabled generation ever

Gen X here. In our defense, we raised ourselves. Our parents were at work. We were kicked out in the morning and we survived until the lights came on. So, as parents, we overcompensated, but also made it up as we went.

this is embarrassing, i’m a teenager, i’ve never had an easter basket, i tell the doctors what’s wrong, i make my own phone calls, i don’t expect my parents to pay for my wants like random beauty products, i can carry conversations with adults just as well as any adult. it’s called being raised right and good schooling.

I thought I was the only one! I'm getting better at being an adult, but I definitely entered adult life completely unprepared. For some reason my parents assumed that I would just automatically gain the skills of making appointments, phone calls, writing emails, contacting customer service, figuring out rent and electricity contracts, all without any prior input or guidance...

This is sweet in that adult kids are close with their parents. My mom is easily my FAVOURITE person. However, she raised me to be able to take care of myself as an adult and I am SO grateful.

It’s not normal for a young adult to be independent. This is not what traditional societies have been doing. In traditional societies young adults live with their parents until they get married. Here at 18 :” oh you need to leave now, you are an adult “ Huh? The prefrontal cortex doesn’t get fully developed until the age of 25. So yes , society tells them they are adults but they aren’t. Sure they should get a job but all this story about how they should be independent now, is all bs because the state wants more households. Just like with the breakdown of the family. Families are not tight knit and people should resist

I'm going to disagree on "pushing people out of the nest." You have to be able to AFFORD being out of the nest. Family groups have been a thing for millennia, and it's only very recently that "living independently" has become the norm. Our economy is heading downward at light speed. You may need to force them into getting a job and dealing with their own shit, but kicking them out isn't going to actually improve anything imo.

At 25 i felt like a college kid mentally ...but i had a full-time professional job, paid the rent, went to work M-F (sometimes Sat too), and made adult decisions. Its just that the transition from childhood to adulthood was gentle and slow as my parents helped a lot in college

You guys indeed marry young 😭 by now here in Southern EU the norm is that we marry at late 20's or early 30's. I'm aware of the cultural differences between our nations, so as someone who wants to travel to USA, it saddens me a little to see you guys so lost. Your young years are few and counted compared to your adult years, so make sure you enjoy them as much as you like. 😊 All peace and love from Greece. 🇬🇷 🇺🇸

My parents always encourage me to be independent so I could have my own life, but my dad would do simple chores for me just as a way of saying “I love you.” My dad died last week, I am so glad he made sure I knew how to pay my bills and take care of my car but I would give anything for him to peel an orange for me right now.

I'm 45 now, but when I was 21, I was backpacking across Europe, then came back and finished my bachelor's degree. I just bought my first home 4 years ago, but was so clueless about a lot, but as an adult I just had to figure things out, because no one helps old guys like me. Listening to this, it's like your parents didn't teach and prepare you for adulthood.

This is not new. Back in the mid 90's, when I was in the military, there was a young airman that was having trouble adjusting to military life. I was trying to help him adjust (grow up) and was talking to him about responsibilities. Apparently he never had a job before, not even a part time job and at the age of 22 he couldn't grasp the concept of a work/life schedule. He literally couldn't figure out how to schedule his time to eat, sleep and get to work. He wasn't stupid, he just never had to the mundane life tasks we all do without thinking about them.

My oldest is 11. For about five years I’ve been encouraging my daughter to go up to ask an adult for an order or ask where the bathroom is. She started out being nervous and anxious but I reminded her it’s all about practice right now. When she gets older she won’t be nervous to talk to someone about making an apt or what have you. It’s working for her confidence.

I watch this channel exclusively for the ad transitions. You are a master at your craft.

I’m 16 and how the hell am I more responsible than half of the adults in the US.

I am Gen X the day after I graduated from High School my Dad asked me which day of that week I was moving out so he could tear the rug out of my room 😂 good times…

I try to anticipate the ads before they happen. But Brett ties them in so smoothly to her talking it’s hard to do!

Your sponsor transitions are FANTASTIC! Love your content!

All of this. I’m 26- I met my husband at 22, got married at 23, and had a baby at 24. Currently trying for our second. But so many people my age are shocked by these choices- acting like I’m too young. I’m like y’all think you’re still in college but you are nearing 30- at some point we need to grow up lol.

Mature in face, but not in mind. Sounds like Gen Z all right.

It’s crazy because as the eldest child, I was expected to figure everything out by myself. When it came to my younger siblings I was expected to hold their hands through everything. My parents complains about my younger siblings not being able to do things by themselves but then turns around and baby them ( they’re all over 19). I was told to call around to doctor’s clinics to help THEM find a doctor accepting new patients. I was EXPECTED to help my younger siblings with applying for students loans because “I’ve gone through the experience”. Parents baby their kids so much and never let them figure things out on their own so they just end up raising 30 year old babies 💀

If the parent was 18-22 when they married and the kids are now 20-22,--then the parent is most likely MILLENNIAL and maybe a little Gen X. Their "gentle parenting" without boundaries and structure or discipline is causing the results you are seeing today (everyone triggered, entitled, and unable to agree to disagree). Each generation has its own issues. I know my generation was beaten, treated like servants to our parents to fill their needs, ignored, and tough-loved, so we tried to do the opposite while raising our kids. Anything to the extreme is damaging. We have hurt/sad, damaged people trying to raise up the next generations and the trauma is just perpetuated. Our upside-down morals and society are not helping.

As a male gen Z myself, this is pretty true. Luckily I was blessed with great parents who never sent me to any sort of school until after COVID when even then it was a private school. Plus, I just got my first phone a month ago.

I feel so grown up going to the store by myself in a country where I barely understand the language to get clothes and drinks (non-alcoholic) when I'm 17. A quote that has helped me is "embrace the change like it's no big deal" you're going to grow up it's inevitable.

I was thrown into the world unprepared. Moved out last year at 20 yrs old and now I’m a 21 year old orphan. I’m on my own and it’s difficult but I’m proud of my resilience…

I am going to be real honest here. If it wasn't for my mom dying suddenly 4 years ago when I just turned 18, I wouldn't know how to pay bills or set up doctors appointments. it forced me to grow up and get through the uncomfortable moments in those situations. It taught me a lot, and even now i hate doing it, but I truly learned a lot. It just sucks that it had to happen the way it did though. Did not help that I am the oldest so I naturally took on more responsibilities as well.

I think part of the reason why we were so sheltered is because a lot of us grew up in unstable family structures. A lot of us grew up in divorced family structures, and our parents tried sheltering us from it to prevent us from feeling the pain - even though it generally doesn't work. This is why many of us are messed up emotionally, mentally stunted in maturity, and more willing to buy into bizarre relationship ideas like polyamory and homosexuality since we never seen a working family structure.

"Oh my gosh, I am like 21 and I still can't go to the doctor's appointment alone."😐😐😐😐😐😐

Thank you for making an episode about this! I get frustrated hearing about “girl dinner” and “girl math” and friends infantilizing themselves because the responsibility of being an adult is scary.

I'm 25 and on the autism spectrum. I live with my Grandma who freaks out over me being alone for a weekend. I had beg her 2 years ago to let me stay alone for 10 days while she went on a vacation to see a friend. I still watch animated movies and make immature jokes, and I feel more grown up than Gen Z. For the record- I can refill medicine, call for a bus, do some cooking, laundry, mow the lawn, clean my room and bathroom and so forth. So I can be pretty independent.

This video made me feel like I’m ahead of the game. I’m 17 and the oldest of five. My siblings and I are homeschooled, and because Mom has had to focus on schooling my younger siblings during my high school years, she hasn’t indulged me in any way. I had to learn to become disciplined and my own teacher, and over the past year, during my senior year of high school, if I needed an appointment made, my parents forced me to make the call. From scheduling my haircuts and getting oil changes and my tires rotated to going and getting my brake tag renewed. It’s taught me how to be self-sufficient and I’m very grateful to my parents for pushing me to do these things otherwise I never would’ve learned.

If my siblings and I hadn't moved out within six months of turning 18, I'm pretty sure my parents would have changed the locks.

I feel this often. My husband and I got married at 18, moved from Indiana to Alaska for 3 years, before moving back to be closer to family. We often got confused for 26-27 year olds due to our "maturity". I just had my firstborn son 10 days ago at 22, and my mother in law still treats us like we need constant coddling. It is really suffocating for those of us that are able to function in society, because very few older adults actually believe we can.

Brett, can you do a video about the decreasing quality of our clothes? aka how difficult it is to find fabric that's not made out of plastic? Good-quality cotton is so rare nowadays, and expensive.

Gen X here. The parenting must have been very different. My parents, on my 18th birthday, started charging me rent. They didn't need the money, they were just teaching me responsibility.

My sister is a big daily wire fan and she just told me about your channel and I'm absolutely loving it! You are so spot on with everything It's awesome to see a young person like that so in touch with the world unlike most of Gen Z! Haha! You're such a light to this world Brett! 😊

A reason for why our parents look older than us in photos is due to retrospective aging. Looking back through a nostalgic lens, we tend to romanticize certain aspects of history, including the appearance of individuals in old photographs. The context of the past and the fondness associated with it might lead us to believe that people appeared older than their actual age. It is also reinforced by the fact that youngsters have started smoking less and also due to changes in style and fashion. It is in no way related to how mature our parents were during that time.

I used to feel bad that both of my daughters started working at age 15. Neither one of them wanted to go to college right after high school because they didn't know what they wanted to do . I did not pressure them I told them it wasn't worth going to school and making a mistake that they should wait until they know what they really want to do. Right now I have a 33 year old daughter who is a executive with a large property management company and doing very well owns their own house and is engaged to be married. My youngest daughter is 27 years old, a management position that a good corporate business. Owns your own home with her fiance. I no longer feel bad, because I know they got life experience and yes I did cuddle them at times. My daughter was 20 years old and I had to help her make appointments and she would text me to ask me how to cook things. I think I struck a healthy balance

I work in a call center and Ive actually noticed this about gen Z. They cant hold a conversation. Give it 5 seconds and they've already forgotten what you were talking about.

This is so true. My parents really coddled me growing up and it damaged my self esteem because I felt helpless. It felt like they only emphasized my grades and going to college so that is what I focused on. When I was about to turn 18 and move 3 hours away for college, they panicked because they never taught me how to do any chores or take care of myself. Their panic only made me more panicked and I had a really hard time adjusting that first year away from home. I was also way too dependent on friends for the first 2-4 years after I moved out, which I regret. Luckily I grew up and learned to do many tasks but it was definitely a process. Now I am almost 24 and married. This is not to say my parents are bad people/parents, because I love them and they did their best. But it is really important to me to teach my future kids life skills and to give them responsibility.

brett's smooth transtintion into ads are eye rolling cringe but legit kinda entertaining/ puts a smile on my face at the same time

Just turned 19 the last week, and I've worked my entire life with my father, who has been absent as a father figure up until this last year, when he was a around it was mechanic work from literally sunrise to sunset sometimes into the next morning, I lost my Birth mother at 5 and was left with my Step mom at the age of 2 and lived with her up till I was bout 15 16 years old, I've lived kids my age so my entire family and friend group has been elderly and cousins 5 and younger, being raised in this situation separated me heavily from my generation, I now work at a gas station and and working to college career for teaching degree, but being a senior this year has been terrifying, a lot of my peers gave up on even passing high-school, and how they really just want to lay on their parents couch while our teachers beg and pleaded with them all year to just pass the class and move on... I've worked hardest this year because I failed Pre-Cal and a little trigonometry this past month, terrified I wouldn't walk on stage for my high-school diploma that honestly.... kinda feels useless because everyone else around me just being so... not hard working, this year I have worked 3 jobs + full-time schooling. This year I started working at a gas station, I have returned to a lot of mechanic work to come out from my father's shadow. And I learned to leather craft from youtube videos and small set of Toole from Amazon, I have depleted my myself down to the point I sometimes have to close my eyes while climbing up my 3 floored high-school because I have felt like giving up, just because it feels like I'm having to carry my family, and the world of lazy Gen zers, so if you're a Gen z and you've pushed yourself to the mental and physical breaking points, share your story, I came from a God hating house hold and God is giving me the strength to keep going I love God, Jesus died for mine and your sins for past present and future, So I'll end it here, If you hit the wall, you're acking and feel like giving KEEP GOING! And keep theses verses close to your heart, John 3:16, Isiah 40:31.

Here we go again.... what did we do this time 😅

We did lose 3 year at the start of our adulthood. And now we are expected to know things that we didn’t have the chance to experience. Although yes, this is getting out of hand, it shouldn’t be this bad.

I’m 24 years old. I have social anxiety when I’m talking on a phone. I hate being out in public and I hate having to respond on the spot however with that being said that does not mean that I don’t put out the effort and I try. I write out my own scripts without GPT and without my mom, my mom raised me to figure out my problems on myself and only as a last resort to come to her if it’s absolutely necessary. She was loving caring and kind, but she was not enabling me for anything. I can say that I as a 24-year-old have a better grip on life than even my 30 year old roommate. It’s comically, sad and quite depressing to see that kids did not have this sort of behavior growing up. I was always raised to be an independent young woman and to figure life on my own. At the age of eight, my mom would make me navigate airports by myself with slight guidance from her showed me how to do my taxes at the age of 12.I was already making food and meal preps for myself. Not Because my mom didn’t love me, she loved me so much that she wanted me to have a good head on my shoulders. Scared of talking to people and yes, I don’t appreciate always having to be the one that has to answer questions or ask them however I cannot be a coward behind closed doors and cry to mom, every which way.

Holy moly... I'm 35, born smack bang in the middle of the Millennial generation and I am genuinely terrified at the prospect of Gen Z's entering the workplace and adult life generally. How on EARTH can people born in the years 2000-2004, only 12-16 years younger than me, be incapable of having basic verbal language skills in order to attend an appointment?! Get off your screens and go and talk to people in the real world, before you cause the actual end of the world, omg!

This trend makes me sad because most of us young adults aren’t anywhere close to where our parents were at our age not because we choose to be different- but because it’s financially impossible for most of us to own a home or start a family. When my parents were 24, they had a freshly built starter home, and I was a few years old. My mom stayed home and we were solidly middle class. Today I’m 30 and barely able to afford my rent and bills that I split with my boyfriend. I grew up being told I can become anything I set my mind to and that things will work out. When I was 22 my dad told me young people are supposed to suffer. I’m making more money now than I ever have, and am poorer than ever. When am I considered not young and supposed to stop struggling again?? Even my friends who are married and have kids can’t afford the extra luxuries that were standard for us back in the 90’s and early 2000’s like a summer vacation or a Christmas bonus. The world we grew up in no longer exists and I resent boomers and Gen X for lying to us about our futures while they voted for laws that created this mess we live in now. It used to be a joke that you’d live in a van down by the river if you didn’t have a good job. Now I’d be lucky if I could afford to own a van to live in by a river. And they have the audacity to wonder why we aren’t having kids

Omg the swipe throughs with the text messages 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Holy crap this hits home!

As a person who lived in harsh conditions and derived from a hispanic family, I can see the immaturity in such bright light. You literally described what i've noticed peace for peace for a lot of people. Even as I am Gen Z, I don't use my youth as a form of defense, knowing very well that the things I'm going to do are things that i'm going to deal with later on. Thank God, my family taught me to get my. Self together so that I can actually do what I need to do - Mature.

Nobody is gonna get pushed anywhere with the cost of housing being what it is. Unless you propose normalizing people living in their cars until they can afford to buy a house which should only take...a few decades...

Millennial here. I remember deciding I wanted a job at 15 because I was broke. Went to a whole bunch of restaurants, asking for applications, filling them all out and then doing an interview. I did ask my parents for advice on interviews and stuff but they never once asked me to get a job or anything. They simply gave me enough money from chores at home, for the absolute bare minimum. Right after I graduated HS i already had 4 years of real work experience and got a real job at a cable company for a comically low $12.50hr. Really tough job at first but turned into a complete career and had a massive amount of opportunity. Got married, in my 20s, had a couple kids shortly after and life could not be any better. In 30s now, make a solid living, and zero debt. It isn’t that difficult. There is no shortcut or get rich quick schemes. Just start working. It’s really easy to stand out these days at a job. Not many people want to work hard.

Bret's ads are so smooth that i don't even want to skip them and i live in Greece so they don't even count for me, that's talent i must say.

We’ve forced fathers out of homes and emasculated men, and now we’re surprised when kids turn out over-mothered and over-protected, making them fragile and incompetent… Imagine that. Strong dads and men are critical.

Amazing. At 21 I was a Sergeant with the US Army. I had the legal authority to compel individuals to perform tasks, even if they didn't want to. I'd lived in Europe for 2 years and had my own apartment that I shared with my GF. When I went "home" to my dad's house, I felt like a visiting adult.

My parents started having me walk up to the counter for doctors appointments around 9, and help check in my siblings around 12. I thought it was insane (was extremely shy) but it I am beyond grateful now, especially after seeing this. Not to mention, having me start young meant it was easier to use the "im just a kid" excuse when I didnt know what to do so that Id actually know the full process now that im older.

By faaaaaaaaar the smoothest transition to an ad as of yet

So many people act like they’re children 25+ and it’s wild, but marriage doesn’t equal being grown up. Seeing how a lot of those young marriages end up is proof enough 😂

As a 21 year old, the only thing that stops me is fear/anxiety. I wont let that stop me from being normal or make it my personality like many do though

its true, and I can testify because this has been me. My parents were overprotective.with me my entire life and now I'm getting attachment issues that I am GOING TO have to overcome. To make things even WORSE the day I turned 18 I came down with an disease that almost killed me and now im stuck being chronically ill so now I have to be EXTRA reliant on my parents because I physically cant even get out of bed most days. it is genuinely such a struggled I want to grow up but there's that insanely strong fear of "being alone" that's just holding me back PLUS the sickness holding me back as well. it literally sucks

Millennial here! As soon as i turned 18 i was booted out. I had to get a job, pay my own bills, make my own doctor appointments. Not everyone is kicked out like me. HOWEVER, parents need to stop coddling their children and start becoming independent. Its really sad to see kids now a days so childish in their mid 20's and beyond. Grow up, go to school (or dont) get married (or dont) put on your big boy pants and take care of yourself! These are also the same kiddos that complain life is so hard when they live at home carefree...

I am Gen X. I have 4 kids. 2 married. All in college, 3 either pursuing graduate degrees or almost finished. One starting college a year early next fall. Love & Logic works wonders. It’s natural instinct for parents to want to spare their children all suffering, I really get it. But being a human shield for your kids into adulthood is not how kids learn to be adults.

Hard to grow up when the benchmarks of adulthood (nice car, a house, a family, all on one income) is unobtainable to the majority of young people

this is so true yesterday i had a doctor’s appointment and i didn’t know where it was or who my doctor was

This is hilarious! I really thought I was the only parent still making appointments for my daughter and now my grandkids

It’s like everyone is scared but I don’t know why. For me as a Gen Z adult, I mainly get unmotivated when having thoughts that we may experience a covid part 2 and all of this will be for nothing. It took a long time but I started trying to do more things that people did before covid. Even if I HATE IT. Like trying to eat inside a restaurant alone and not in my car, or ordering on the phone instead of using an app. I noticed that everything changed for Covid, but never went back. It feels like Gen Z didn’t “go back” after Covid either. All my friends eat in their cars alone, they will only use apps to shop or place orders. When they actually have to pick up an order or order in a restaurant they get scared, they even avoid restaurants or public spaces mainly. During covid, which is was also the prime time of us leaving highschool. Jobs were closed down or online, everything was mobile pickup, you couldn’t go shopping or go eat, we were hyper aware of our surroundings and some did fear the public. Everything became easy for us, we got this idea that this is adulthood now. It’s like we really all prepared ourselves for the world to keep working that way and some of us never changed with the world when things started to get better.

I'm a 35-year-old man, and my parents are 80(D) and 68(M). I'm a Millennial raised by Boomers. My brother and I were raised with hard work ethic, independent thinking, and self-sufficiency. But, thanks to growing up in the beginning of the tech boom, cost of living going up faster than actual wages, as well as having mild Autism, it's been hard for me to get most anywhere. I now work as a Housekeeper for a hotel in rural south Utah for almost three years, living next door to my parents. I've worked hard, gotten multiple raises and bonuses. But, most people in my area are so lazy. They'd rather rely on Gov't aid like Welfare than actually work. In the last three years, at least 20 other people I've worked with gave up working after a month. I'm tired and sore all the time, but I'm proud of how well my parents raised me, and I plan to the same one day when I have kids. People these days are weak.

I’m so grateful that my parents allowed me to go to college far away from home. It did force me grow up a lot faster than a lot of my peers, and living 12 hours away from my parents forced me to rely on myself. I am still immature in a lot of ways, but at 23, I’m engaged, graduated magna cum laude, can hold down a job and that’s a lot more than many people my age.

This is such an eye opener for me because I'm 18 and I don't know how much I eat... I still nag about food and my mother happily takes my drama.. now I'm ashamed of myself my mom have spoofed a lot... love you maa

Wild to me the things my classmates can't do. People don't want to answer the phone or take messages. I've been posing as my dad's personal assistant and taking calls for him for years, since I figured out people wouldn't leave a message with a teenager no matter how many times I told them I was allowed to.

Gen X here. Married at 22. Children are now all officers in the military. I cannot relate to this. Dear parents: Please push your baby birds out of the nest. They will thank you. Trust me. We will ALL thank you.

I also think it is because of the internet. I remember when I was in the Navy (I was late 20's I am a 90s kid) and it blew this woman's mind that I existed before the internet. 'How did you study in school?' Books. "How did you know when to be home?' When the street lights turned on. She could not fathom the fact that life existed without mobile phones or the internet. She also didn't know it snowed over the ocean so she wasn't the brightest.

I’m a teacher and I can confirm that it is 100% on the parents and how they raise their kids. Gen X and Millennial parents are a mixture of helicopter parents, ineffective gentle parenting, and passing down the same trauma from previous generations. I have so many stories about the way parents are- it is evident in their child’s behavior and it is present in the way they react when you tell them about their behavior at school. Very few parents are level headed and supportive but then there’s parents that either blame others, get defensive, or become victims rather than taking accountability and using this as a teaching/learning experience for both parent and child.

Many parents have over parented and never required their young adults to act like adults. They're still supporting their children to almost thirty, and not in a supportive helpful way through a mentorship relationship but in an enabling/treating them as if they were still 15 to 17.