*Note: #5 in the video should read, "5. Constantly make excuses" :)
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So what are the sixteen things that confident men never do?
00:00 Introduction
01:19 1. They never wear flashy brands. Big names and logos rarely signify an elevated taste level or style but instead, it's much more about the status you want to display with them.
02:04 2. Dress inappropriately for the occasion. A confident man isn't afraid to wear what he wants when he wants to wear it. At the same time, it's all about the right time and place.
03:11 3. Do things purely because it makes them look successful. Buying an expensive car or a luxury watch that you can't really afford will probably make you initially look successful but down the line, people will always catch up on it.
03:55 4. Pretend that he's someone else because he's just happy with the way he is. Of course, that doesn't mean that they can't improve and get better but he's not insecure about it and is not ashamed of himself.
05:49 5. Constantly come up with excuses. Basically, when you make an excuse, you push the plane of your actions to something or someone else. I mean under the right circumstances, it can be warranted.
06:41 6. Wait for permission to act, they just act! For example, when I realized that I had to be an entrepreneur and the opportunity presented itself, I took it even though it was risky at the time and I wasn't sure that it would lead somewhere.
08:15 7. Avoid conflict at all costs. Avoiding conflict doesn't actually solve it, it just means you're kicking the can down the road where sometimes it can lead to more resentment or to an even bigger problem.
09:24 8. Fear feedback or inconvenient truths because they're just part of who we are. Trying to pretend that you're perfect will ultimately only hold you back from getting better. Why? You can't fix a problem if you're in denial about it.
10:17 9. Afraid of failure. Without failure, no one can achieve mastery.
11:23 10. Take advertising and social media or Instagram profiles too seriously. Sometimes, when you see those pictures, it may seem like the world around us is living this glamorous lifestyle while we are stuck in our office doing something we don't really like.
12:20 11. Yield to peer pressure. Why? Well, they know what's good for them and what isn't, they're not afraid to speak up if someone wants to sell them something, wants them to do something because they know, at the end of the day, they would regret it.
13:30 12. People pleasers. Now, first, let me say that there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to make other people happy and there is always a time and a place for that, however, people pleasers are often easy to take advantage of. Confident men typically balance their own needs with other people's needs so it's all respectful, dignified, and no one loses face or is embarrassed or ridiculed.
14:58 13. Hide behind screens or anonymity. Online interactions have the potential to dehumanize communication and it's much easier to humiliate someone or to say bad things about them when it's just a remote transaction and you can hide behind an alias that is not tied to your existence. If you're afraid to be connected to anything that you say, you probably shouldn't say it in the first place.
16:21 14. Afraid to ask for help if they need it. As an entrepreneur and CEO who started as a one-man show from scratch, I always had the tendency to just want to do things myself, however, over the years, I've learned that to really accomplish something and to build something bigger than me, I have to rely on other people, teach them to the best of my ability, and trust them that they can do things.
17:17 15. Assume the world around them is out to get them or to make them small or ridiculed. When other people say things or do things that hurt you or your feelings, it's always very easy to assume malicious intent.
18:23 16. Treat other people around them poorly even though they may be in a more powerful position than them. In my mind, people who treat others poorly to make themselves feel better is a sure sign that they're insecure about themselves.