Me too 😩

Thank you for saying this. I hate to admit it, but that's me now. I'm getting my relationship back on track. I don't like feeling distant from God.

@@simplymonica6888 Sometimes we forget that he is our number one priority

Courtney Pillay. Amen to that. I’m so grateful for Him and all He has done in my life. He deserves a more attentive child than what I’ve been given Him.

A little prayer for us and those who feel the same, may the Lord’s light guide us toward Him or whichever positive being you personally believe in, in the good and in the bad may we not drift from Him or that which gives us hope and strength. Amen.

Xav A. Exactly

But it's not work, it's pleasure..There's nothing hard about wanting to make the person you love happy, it comes naturally. If it doesn't, that's a sign that something's wrong.

Yup plus kids

Exactly

Brian W How did we get from LTRs to divorce and women telling men what to do? I don't understand your train of thought

thanks pretty well said

so true, Agreed

I define lazy as is someone who doesnt put effort in the relationship anymore. Whether thats dates, sex or emotional support. Now that's Lazy to me. All the other stuff like not shaving, grey hair, gaining some weight, or not wearing makeup... that's just being a human and its natural.

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Facts

The Tide Family keep up the good work, Mama!! Remember that you are more than enough 😉 you are Wonder Woman! ❤️

Love ur blogs !

Yeees hunnie, same here. It's like comfort is just my go-to 😧

Being a wife and mother is a lot of work

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xtel folaj girl same here and it’s so bad because I was looking at myself on the mirror the other day, and I couldn’t even recognize my self. That’s how bad I let my self go😔

xtel folaj well girl look cute for self shoot.. like choose a day or two 😄 sometimes we gotta look good to feel good 😊

@@dairaluna6486 aww i like how you responded. i agree!

This is sometimes a sign of depression... Or maybe it's not that serious but you might feel down a little bit... See if you can work on your mood and your satisfaction with your life, surround yourself with uplifting people, if you feel good, you'll make your look match it... School can be very stressful. Make sure you're not letting it drown you.

I am a new(single) mom of a baby girl, I am a college student and I work a part time job & yes it's so much easier/comfortable to just stay a "bum" during the day but I've noticed that getting ready really does boost up my mood. Btw I am only 20 years old, I try my best to keep doing those things that make me feel pretty so with this being said I encourage everyone who's reading this to do the same once in while 😊 blessings ❤️

At least she's open or maybe share too much unlike Loni. She's way too private and bearly share anything.

I was just thinking Tamera could use some adderrall 🤣

Right and they’re like 3 and under smh everything can’t be their fault lmao

yea, thats foul

looooool was thinking this

That's alot easier for a beautiful Asian woman with lustrous locks to say though. That isn't the same for most African American women.

@@ofletcher6422 soo... self confidence, maybe?

O Fletcher Goodbye. I’m an Afro-Caribbean islander and I love MY luscious locs.

@@latishal.8142 Good for u. I dont dispute that some women are comfortable with their natural hair. My point is an Asian woman doesn't have the same hair issues that an African woman would so its easier to say be comfortable with ur natural state if u have hair that everyone wants. I doubt any of those women would trade in lustrous Asian hair for African hair and that is really real.

O Fletcher don't project your issues onto all African or black women. I personally don't think Asian hair is "lustrous," it's just thin and only looks good when it's straight, can barely hold curls or braids. African hair is versatile and can look great in about 30 different styles.

I Can’t relate to that statement, you don’t have to get lazy and not everybody does.

@@chloesandrelli7337 i agreed like people always told us we'd grow out of surprising eachother and celebrating monthly anniversaries and just the little things we would do yet here we are years later still lovey dovey and everything's still as sweet as it was

Including the relationship with ourselves 😂

Preach 😉😴

👏🏻 yes.

That's why men cheat!!! Men are visual creatures!

@@javiruiz4405 my husband has never cheated trust me 10 years later amazing sex life still.

@@javiruiz4405 people cheat for a lot of reasons

Javi Ruiz how do you explain men who cheat on women who are beautiful inside AND out? ive seen some men cheat on some fine ass women, stop blaming the way women look on why men cheat that shits getting old

Adelaide Agbozo Amen gorgeous.

She really is looking so much better, actually very pretty!

Bunny Runner exactly how I be feeling

@@lydiacameron4811 same

Agreed!!!

it's the white dude

Thank goodness for you. This comments section is depressing. ~A guy~

When you look good, you feel good! That energy spills over in the relationship. When a man comes home he wants to come home to a woman who put in effort (is she’s able), not a hot mess! These ladies are failing to realize that men don’t think like us and they’re visual creatures!

B. Griff seriously. It’s so upsetting to see women commenting saying my husband loves me and I’m not shaved he’s lucky if he catches my hair done. So sad. I mean forget the husband but isn’t self maintaining important for a woman? Isn’t looking pretty making yourself confident. Thank god for guys like you. 👌🏽

But everyone isn't you though. Everyone doesn't maintain the way you do. This isn't at all a put down but it's not "sad" just because someone is happy in a way that's different from you.

Lunar Duchess hey. Not judging anyone but I see girls or women commenting my husband is lucky if my hair gets washed in a week or if I shave or if he sees me looking good. It’s not about looking like a model it’s about self maintenance all I’m saying. It’s important to care for your relationship. Hygiene is important it’s one thing to not care how you look but to not care how you smell or how you maintain your hygiene that’s just a little messed up. I guess I’m crazy for caring about my hygiene and appearance to keep my relationship alive. 😬

Urhiness415 so then why even wear the wig?? Are you a professional clown or....?

WhatMichelleLikes101 so you just admitted you hate your natural hair. So why do black women get mad when you tell them to stop lying when they say “iM nOt iNsEcUrE, WiGs aRe JuSt fUn!” We’re not dumb, literally NO sane woman thinks wasting money on other peoples’ hair and plopping on a tight hair hat is fun. Also, y’all keep regurgitating the same “protect and cover” part....protect and cover from WHAT?? And why does no other race of women have to “protect and cover” their natural hair???

La La La Black women don't wear their hair for two reasons: 1. It's hard to maintain an afro. Our hair texture is more coarse and kinky than a white or Asian person. You have to braid it, section the hair and use the right products for our hair not to break. A white/Asian person hair texture is just straight so it doesn't tangle as much. That's why black women wear wigs, weaves, braids etc because if they keep their real afro out without treating it properly our hair will break off. Are you Black? If not that's a reason. Black hair is the hardest to maintain, they contribute to 80 per cent of the hair market. 2. Afro hair has been made fun of in the media and society for years. Don't act like you don't know that and if you don't you need to open your eyes. In the media, Eurocentric beauty standards for women are pushed to the nod (straight hair, light skin, being skinny/thin, being tall, being racially ambiguous etc). That's why you see black women wearing weaves a lot. I don't think they should be wearing fake hair all the time as a substitute of their afro hair, but many black women get judged all the time at first glance just because of the stereotypes in society. Also, more black girls are embracing their natural hair now, it's not all of them but many have stopped wearing weaves. Other races don't say they protect their hair because society approves of it. Having straight hair is the trend/standard. Whenever someone wears an afro people make fun of them. There are stories of students who were told to change their hair or they couldn't go back to school because other students complained of it being too huge. At work, the employers complain the afros don't fit the work standards. They only want straight her which is ignorant and wrong since not everyone's hair is straight. Its the same as someone having a unique ethnic name. Society tends to judge you if you have a different name than the standard name (etc Shakiya vs Lisa). An employee always hires the person with the normal name (in society standards) over the applicant with an ethnic name without considering who can do the job. That's why people use fake names, or legally change it to receive work. It's not right but what are they supposed to do? If you were shamed for something you are born with by society wouldn't you try to hide it off out of embarrassment so you can fit in? It's wrong but there's a reason why its happening. Every race of women wear weaves not only Black women. It's just that black women wear weaves that don't suit their hair texture. A white lady would wear straight weave that fits her hair colour and texture (straight) that's why you don't notice. You sound very ignorant and rude in your comment.

La la la actually I am a professional clown 🤷🏾‍♀️

WhatMichelleLikes101 no sense In going back n fourth with these people 😂😂😂

tizzlemynizzle she needs to leave them kids alone and own it loool

😂😂😂😂😂

I knew she was gonna say MY KIDS as soon as she said "because of..."

Yall be saying this cause you don’t know how hard it is to be a mom. Moms don’t have enough time to take care of them kids, work and also take care of themselves so ya’ll better chill with these annoying comments. Of course she’s gonna blame it on the fact that she is a mom cause that is the reason.

Thank You

I think its about that sometimes its good to make yourself look good for your partner. I'm pretty sure he loves you no matter, but I feel like men likes when women put in effort to look good, im not talking about makeup, extensions, and all that fake beauty. Just take care of yourself.

xtel folaj oh I do honey! I’m 38 don’t smoke drink due my hair nothing. If you look at my profile pic you will see I take care but I am not asking him what he wants to see. Just like I wouldn’t expect him to ask me what day he should shave etc. he will still jump my bones fully clothed anywhere in the house so I’m not worried if he isn’t.

The right man will not care. I don't shave that often too because it is honestly too much work. My boyfriend is constantly rubbing my legs, or trying to, and I'm like stop lol. He finds me naturally beautiful with no makeup on, and my natural hair. Hold on to the one who accepts you for you, and allow you to be comfortable. I feel bad for the one's who are always having to dress, and act like they're going on their first date with their significant other all the time. I know a lot of women who have men trying to fix them, or wanting them to look a certain way. Yes, I believe both people should look nice every now and then, but don't expect that all the time.

andrea collins okay!

Majority of moms seem to do that.

Because it does play a big part. I’m a mom and most days I’m to tired to get glammed up or workout after all the cleaning, diaper changes and getting kids dressed 😩

what other reason would there be?! u want her to lie just so ull be pleased?

MM E After having kids, things are different, but after a few years, you should have a new routine down. Its being lazy.

Unless you have kids, you obviously wont understand. Before I had kids I also used to underplay how much hardwork it actually is. The most difficult responsibility on the planet.

Rasha AlSabah 😎 HORRIBLE COLOR!!

It starts way too far.

Hahaha i laughed soooo hard😂😂😂 go head girl with your shnnnnaack self😂😂👏🏾

I honestly think they're getting wigs from wish...cause its just SITTING there.

Lol they should just let her wear her own hair

adaysa210 Lol I always thought she only wore extensions, I didn’t know she wore wigs

Everybody's always picking on these girls

Anne Silver how is it picking if she literally has to fix the wig. Stop being sensitive

SPEAK ON IT

I love this!! Honestly women put too much pressure on themselves and want to look perfect all the time its crazy. After 2 kids and now pregnant with twins my husband loves and embraces the changes my body has been through. And he respects the fact that maybe sometimes I don't feel like shaving. He's told me himself he don't even notice because he thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. And all women deserve a man that won't make them feel like they need to do these things to feel beautiful.

K G give her a few years. She’s a newly wed in a sense.

SHE IS STILL A NEWLYWED....HER TIME WILL COME :)

Lojani 12345 that’s not what I was saying at all. My point actually was she is a newly wed and she was making those faces. And then when Loni gestured to Tamera she kinda stopped talking.

Irish Claddagh that’s kinda what I just mentioned below !!

I've notice that since she's been married, loni when you're comfortable than you should remove your wig

@@Lojani ....she said she had kids earlier in her marriage not relationship

All of us with kids feel that way sometimes. We stay talking about our babies. I would be worried if she didn’t talk about them.

The Real has the weirdest fan base

@@fayepatrice1672 nothing wrong with showing off and proudly talking about your kids but also know many of us especially those who dont have kids dont wanna talk and hear about your beloved kids all day😁

It was relevant though. Lots of women start slacking off in their relationship after they have kids because they are sooooo demanding. It is like telling a single professional to stop talking about their job and their dating life. Not gonna happen.

Girl ok, lol. I'm looking rough a lot, and he still thinks I'm beautiful, and always showing me off to people, but I''ll dress up and hit you with sexiness real quick too lol.

Reigña Reyes ugh me right now :(

Lmao