I know one thing, my future man better not do a public proposal. I hate that whole concept.

I still love these old clips with Tamar

I agree with Tamar and Tamera. Don't ask me if you're not really ready.

Yup. I was engaged for two years. My fiancé at the time got mad at me when I asked when we would set a date AND I was never excited or started planning. I ended up breaking up with him and married my husband after dating for 6 months. He proposed and a month later we were married. When you know; you know!!

I think they forgot to mention that many people get engaged but dont have enough money for the wedding so they hold off until they have enough

My husband and I planned our wedding the day of our engagement. We got married 3 months after. We have now been married for 13 years.

Update 2022: Adrienne is happily married, Grammy nominated, and trying to have children. Loni is in a lovely relationship with a man named James Jeannie is married!! And has a daughter named Monaco. Tamera is a lifetime movie queen with a winery and has left the show Tamar is still Tamar. Causing drama and singing her lil heart out. The Real is canceled. Thank you for this amazing and unique show, the first all woman of color talk show 😭

That ring has an expiry date of one year! After that it’s just a gift.

"If you put a ring on it that mean you are ready for commitment, let's do this" YEAP! Say it louuuuuder🤚🏼💍 *Getting married on march 28 of 2020*

I'm pretty sure a Nigerian came up with that statement. #witchcraft

If you propose to somebody, you should be ready to marry them the next damn day! People these days focus way too much on the wedding ceremony and not enough Fucus on the actual marriage. Get married in court, plan your grand ceremonies later.

I love how Tamar keeps it real. Lol! “You don’t have to rush into it right away.” “Why come?? YOU wasn’t ready.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Tamar looks amazing!!

I believe Lenny propose to Adrienne to shut her up

It's segments like this where I think how can they get rid of Tamar. I feel like sometimes she's the only one who really gives good motivational advice while the others just tell personal experiences. Tamar does both she speaks from her past & motivates your future.

I really don't think Tamar is as bad as everyone makes her seem. I don't think Tamera would be friends with her if she was that much of a diva behind the scenes. I will miss her TONS, I don't know how the show will be after her, but I still want to support the other four women.

Watching these old episodes I see clearly that Jeanie and Freddie were not meant for each other..hindsight is 20/20.

Adrienne's makeup is always slaying

If you don't have money for the wedding, hold that ring. Propose when you have the money

Tamar is the kind of friend who will give you the truth even if it hurts you but it will set you free....I like all her advises and life lessons she give on the show , they really have huge gap to fill after her and 100% the show won't be the same without her. btw I only learned about Tamar through this show then I started watching her reality shows 😥😥😥

My husband proposed to me a year after we started dating, and we were married 6 months later. We are 8 years married and happy as can be expecting our 4th baby

My husband and I were engaged for two years before we got married. We wanted to save up money so we could have our dream destination wedding. Some people have a good reason for a longer engagement.

"Why come"? I laughed so hard when Tamar said that 😂

My sisters engagement lasted two years. The first year was her last year finishing nursing school. The moment she walked across the stage they started to plan the wedding haha She even told my brother in law don’t you dare propose to me while in finishing nursing school. I guess he couldn’t wait 😂

My boyfriend and I have been together since I was 16 and he was 17. We'll make 6 years this summer! We plan on being engaged later this year, and getting married late next year. :') So happy to be in a healthy, loving relationship!

I agree with Adrienne what she said. If your getting engaged in teens or early 20s you should probably have a longer engagement be your young and you want to make sure your not naive. This is a life time thing so yes I agree.

Chileeee, I thought I read “Entanglement” I never clicked so fast thinking they were back talking about will & jada! 😂

I MISS TAMAR. She added soooo much to the show!

Everybody hating on Tamar but I am actually gonna miss her! :( Especially her being next to Tamera and them cracking jokes!

I got engaged in March and our wedding is 5 months later. 12 days from today! He was ready and so was I. We have been together 15 months. We both felt the “ the one” feeling from day 1 💕💍

jeannie was not ready and was never ready for freddie

I’ve been with my fiancé for a little over four years. We got engaged on our four year anniversary and we plan to get married on our 6 year anniversary. We decided on a long engagement to have time to plan and to save up (we’re both 21). Two years may seem like a long engagement to some, but we both felt that it was the right amount of time. Even though it’s still a year and eight months away, we talk about the wedding daily and are saving up. I think your engagement can be as long as you feel works for you, as long as both parties are in agreement. Plus, the engaged part of a relationship is super fun and I’m just enjoying all that goes along with it. 💕

My spouse and I dated for 5 yrs, engaged for 2 yrs, been married for 3 yrs. We are in our early 30's now and I wouldn't change a thing. I married my best friend and the love of my life. I think it is different for everyone. You move at your own pace and if it's meant to be it will be.

If your engaged for longer than a year... It's called a "shut up ring"... You know the rest... ... and I'm not having it! No thanks!!!

My fiancé proposed last week, and we decided to marry this May :) he’s so involved in the wedding planning process 😇 we can’t wait !

I was 22 when I got engaged, 4 months shy of 23. We got married when I was 25 (2 months after my birthday). So the engagement was about 2.5 years long. But, we lived in different states until 8 months before the wedding. Once we lived in the same location, planning went into over drive. Money was partially a factor. We paid for our own wedding out of pocket, without going into debt. I did all the cooking and decorating and everything. I even did my own wedding photos (hello timer and tripod)...and they turned out great, btw. Sometimes there are legitimately reasons for a longer engagement. For me, I just wanted some sense of commitment since we had already been dating at the point for close to 5 years when he proposed.

I miss this dynamic with the five of them

I got engaged at 19 & got married when I turned 21 because I at least wanted to drink. I agree with Adrienne on the young engagements

Watching these old clips it's crazy how the script flipped for Jeannie and she's found a love that she was ready for and it was ready for her and she's the happiest she's ever been👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Finances can also dictate wedding plans though. Even if you're both ready for it, even a small wedding costs money. I think the proposal should come with a rough timeline, though, and concerns like paying for the wedding should all be mentioned early if not at the same time. Some people do have long engagements because they're saving up for the wedding rather than because someone isn't ready.

I WISH WE KNEW WHAT EXACTLY HAPPENED!........

jennie KNEW she ain’t wanna marry that man 🙄

I was engaged for 3 years but that’s because life hit hard, my mom got sick, we knew we were absolutely ready for each other’s commitment but we had to push things back. 8 years strong so it just depends

I was engaged for almost 4 years :) just got married September 21 on the day we made NINE years together. 😬😬😬

What's the point of getting engaged to someone to shut them up? That clearly means you do not want it to happen, so why not just break up with them and not waste their time!!

I dated my hubby for 3 months, got engaged at 19, married 5 months later at 20 and had my baby at 20 (the day before I was 21) going on 3 years of marriage, going on strong, loving my life, husband and son and I do t regret it one bit. However, I’m also LDS 😂

LONNIE!!!!!!!! "you'ved lived your life adrienne baillon" 😂😂😂😂

Never pressurise you partner to marry. You both have to want it and you both have to agree on the terms and conditions of your relationship. And please as women you have to take accountability for your part in your relationship. And remember, If it's not working, Guy has every right to walk away as much as you do😉

My wife and I actually planned our wedding before we were “engaged” I couldn’t find the ring she deserved and so I wanted to wait to make it official until then but we planned everything. The colors the flowers the venue she went dress shopping everything. Then I bought the ring and proposed and we got married 6 months later because everything was planned and it was just about getting everything paid for and set up. Buying the decorations and the invitations and all that but if it had been up to her we would’ve gotten everything set up gotten engaged and then gotten married the next day. But I told her we needed to give other people time to situate themselves and plan if they were coming or not and buy wedding gifts and all that.

Well, I see it as a case by case basis. For me personally, I’m engaged at 23. Yet my fiancée and I agreed to finish college together first and then get married in Europe. Smaller party, but the experience will be worth it. Plus having the college memories together is a plus. We get to grow together too. It just depends on circumstances.

Ladies take it from a man point of view, if you are in a relationship for 2 to 3 years and he is still trying to figure it out, he is not the one. He is only there for the Cookie, "Why Buy The Milk When The Cow Is Free" Do you understand ladies, I can see if you are taking time to save money for the marriage, but it doesn't take 3 years to do so ladies. We as men know and it's not going to take 5 years, we will definitely know within 2 years.

Aidrienne just looks amazingggggg all the damn time her style team is amazing 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Engagements is testing the waters. I was engaged until my fiance died in the military. I am newly engaged. However , I agree with Jeanie mai when she said not to rush. I explained to my fiance what came with friends , boyfriend/girlfriend , fiance , and marriage. Theirs levels and steps you have to take to being engaged to be married.

I was engaged for 2.5 years bcuz I had a single woman goal I wanted to have before I got married, which was getting my bachelors degree. I graduated in may 2017, we got married that September.

Who's still watching these Tamar videos in 2020🙋‍♀️

Ya'll went so hard at Tamar in the comment section. You scrutinized and picked apart everything she did or said. You put on your capes for Jeannie "dark meat on the side" Mai and I warned you all last year to chill because the level of vitriol some of you were putting out there would have consequences. Well you got what you wanted and this show will now be as dry as The Talk. Love her or hate her Tamar was an important component to the show. And you deserve the white woman their probably going to replace her with. I heard their considering Ice T's wife...lmao

So what happens to the "You Tried It" and "Lies You Tell" segments? Do they give Tamar back all her intellectual properties? Do they keep using her lingo as titles on KZfaq videos, Instagram posts and Facebook statuses? Her creativeness made up roughly a nice portion of the show, and lets be honest, they capitalized off it.

I love what tamera said about her mother “there’s a season for everything. Enjoy.....”

I'm getting married in 5 days! My engagement was 2 and a half months long. I loved the short engagement! 😊

What’s more important? The wedding? Or the marriage? They talked about the wedding here and didn’t focus on the actual Marriage at all.

CAN I JUST SAY THIS IS A DOUBLE STANDARD! Women- say yes even if your not sure. Men- You better be sure.

People are sayin' Lenny proposed to shut A up. But he proposed to shut those heiffers up lol

we got engaged after 3 months togeather didnt get married till almost 5 years after. we needed that time

Going to miss Tamar's adlibs, lip smacking, finger snapping and commentary!!! Segments won't feel the same

I'm going to miss Tamar's energy and input, every one of them is important. But yeah, I agree with them, I'm not waiting forever, within a year, let's go.

I’ve been engaged for 4 years and I’m getting married in another week . So happy we are finally walking the isle. We went through a flood and a lot of hard times so it just was put on a back burner

After 5 years that’s a stfu ring 😂🤣

These clips will never get old

I am in my late 20's and got engaged a year ago. I wanted to enjoy my engagement. I personally was in shock because my fiancé proposed to me after we dated for 9 months. We have been friends for over 10 years and he's my best friend. Our wedding is in 6 months. When we got engaged I waited a few months before I even started planning. We are a long distance couple and it is hard but we are making it work and coming together.

Jeannie never wanted to marry Freddy. She was never in love with him the things that she said on the show like she wasn’t ready. She wasn’t excited 😆. Things you would say out of context like marriage is hard marriage is so hard like it’s obvious it wasn’t meant to be. I’m pretty sure it’s not supposed to be that hard. Not to mention the awkward moment when Freddy told everybody that Jeannie is not sexually attracted to him.

Enjoy every moment. I have a cousin who got married and got pregnant the same week. No planning, nothing ! Don't rush into serious things people. Some mistakes cannot be repaired.

I met my husband in college. We were together for a long time before we got engaged. I wanted him to propose after a year of us being together but at the time we were living in different states. I was surprised the long distance thing worked. It was when we celebrated our five year anniversary when I started to get impatient. I knew I didn’t want to be a girlfriend forever. I wanted the ring and everything to follow. He proposed when we got our house and I was like, “FINALLY!”. We planned our wedding in six months and got married that same year. We’re almost three years in and he’s still putting up with me. So I’d call that a win. If dating is the game then marriage is the prize.

Once again, I agree with Jeannie. I wish she would've expressed my feelings on Weddings, in general. Y'all know how expensive Weddings are? I understand I can have a small Wedding, but I want the people I love there. I've been engaged for three years, now and still not in a hurry. IK he ain't leaving me, and the term "husband" is merely a title, anyway. The contract just legally binds us, together. Besides, my relationship is my business, anyway. We're happy and share the same feelings. When we get married, we get married. I'm in no hurry to rush to get there.

Evelyn Lozada still engaged after 2years later...and Lala was engaged for 5 years 😂😂

I got engaged at 18! Now I’m 20 and going to finish university before planning a wedding. And on the small ring note, mine is super tiny but I love it because it reminds me of how we had nothing, sleeping on the floor of our apartment because we couldn’t afford a bed, using coupons for food and couldn’t pay our bills all the time, and we still managed and pushed through ❤️ been together 4 years total with 4 dogs now!

I agree. It should be within months like a year. Engagement means you are ready to get married but need a little to prepare for the celebration.

I’m recently engaged... you also have to remember people have longer engagements because weddings aren’t cheap!! Plus not to mention venues book years in advance. 3 years or more way too long. But I think up to 3 years is reasonable.

I'm 35 in may 36,dating since nearly two years with my boyfriend. If he does not propose soon after 2 years I'm out, too many people asking me out ,and I am not getting any younger.

I was engaged by 23 and married that year...I was also with my boyfriend for 5 years beforehand so...my husband and I have been married for four years and together for 9. Whoohoo!

Oh my sister Tamera,those pieces from Mama are a thing to hold and cherish in your day today life.Thanks for sharing

I love Tamera's look and I love that top knot,simple yet elegant!

I don't like to plan too much, things never work out, We can set a date, but the actual planning, we should take it a step at a time.

Glad for the changes the producers made, kudos for going forward in a positive direction. Business is business... and...thank you for keeping it "REAL".

we had an 18 month engagement bc we wanted to have a nice wedding fully paid for to go into our marriage debt free.

I agree, the least he could do besides propose to let me know he's really ready is set the date!

I think people are confusing a long engagement with just a total waiting period. If you are planning a wedding for a few years in the future, that’s great because you’re still planning. But if he proposes and then doesn’t want to start planning at all and it’s just totally in limbo, that makes no sense.

I am addicted to these little talk show segments!! Loves it!!!

This is the Tamar I'm going to miss. She has a lot of wisdom and is very funny. SHAME ON YOU THE REAL PRODUCERS FOR FIRING HER!!!! YOU NEED TO BRING HER BACK!!! I believe Season 3 will be the last.

We don't know what happens behind the scenes so everyone needs to stop assuming things that they don't know are true or not. My issue is that we finally had a show that placed intelligent, talented and fun women of colour in the forefront and the show was gaining a lot of success. In this industry in order to stay successful people, especially people of colour, can't afford to experience controversy. This is a unique show in terms its diversity, I would just hate for it to be over because of the recent controversy.

Gonna miss you TayTay especially for segments like these... I don't know how the producers could just sit in a conference room, discuss the upcoming season three and decide that Tamar was the one they wanted to eliminate immediately... Especially when she's the life of the show! I loved watching because it was different from all the other boring talk shows I've seen. These women helped me get through a break up during the pilot season... Helped me learn to love myself again during the first season and since then I have been following these women and watching this show. I am not a Tamartian but I like Tamar and respect her opinions a lot. Yes she may have an 'out there' personality but that's what I love about her. She doesn't conform to what society thinks she should be. She's herself and if she has to get fired for being herself on the show then The Real wasn't real after all. Love you TayTay and I wish you all the best pumpkin schmunkin xoxo ☺

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. We’ve been taking about engagement. For us financially, it makes sense to be engaged for about 2 years (still setting a date and planning) but that way we’re able to save up enough for our dream wedding and ensure all our friends and family can come ❤

Loni, please continue to act the way you did in this specific discussion. You added your own opinion and even added a thought provoking question to the ladies. It's nice seeing a REAL discussion going on without you cracking a brown liquor or bacon joke.

I watch these old clips because of Tamar, really miss her. From all the way from South Africa

they need all 5 women for real. they balance each other. btw anyone else check this producer Rachel Miskowiec's credits?? flop after flop after cancelled TV flop-show. I'm like THIS is the producer that fired Tamar?

This makes me sad watching this because I genuinely love the show and it WILL NOT be the same without Tamar! I just lover her so much and she is the person I can relate to the most. She will be missed 100 percent!

My fiancé and I have been engaged going on two years but we haven’t had much money and kept waiting to be able to have a wedding. Well now we are just tempted to get eloped because a wedding just isn’t justifiable with how expensive things have gotten. I sometimes feel embarrassed because we haven’t gotten married but weddings are hard so we just going to elope or maybe a small get together

Tamar was the only one who was not afraid to give her real opinions, she didn't try to be politically correct

I really loved Tamar. I really wish her back on the show! she is soo funny and brings something new to the table

I'm engaged. have been for almost three years.been with my man for five. we aren't focused on a wedding yet,because we are moving, paying off a lot of debts, and working on getting my situation fixed first.these are more important to us than a lousy piece of paper. I rushed into marriage once.not doing it again. we have things to deal with,get everything in order, then,maybe.

Awwww! I just love Adrienne she was the baby at the table then.. bless her 💓. She said.. WHAT DOES SOW YOUR ROYAL OATS MEAN? 😂🤣..