It sounds like she is fighting with herself and you are just an easy target. Maybe she feels like she shouldn't take you back, maybe she wants you to work for it. I'm guessing here since I don't know her. But don't allow her to be that way towards you. If she starts being nasty and rude I would tell her that you will talk to her when she calms down and not be aggressive towards you. Now this will upset her and she will probably act out but you have to stand up for yourself. Don't allow anyone to treat you as a door mat no matter how much you love them.

@@TashaCurryTheMarriageMentor Hi Tasha, I appreciate your words. There has been little improvement, at least there are barely any fights. She did leave the house a week after our second session, and has been like this for the past month. I was actually doing very well but she started approaching me again, we decided we would help each other but is has been a one way situation. She calls me every day to help her get to work, being me driving her or getting her a cab. She has been using her weeding band, which I had a conversation with her about, that I believe in the band as a representation of marriage. I do not carry mine since I understand that while we are not together, a wedding ring is not supposed to be used. There are moments she has treated me with some care, but once she realizes this, she starts telling me to not get confused. Yesterday she told me two things, one that her friends find me attractive and she even confirmed me as her husband, while later she tells me about the type of man she feels normally attracted to but in the end she ende up with somebody that is opposite to the physical traits she used to look for. At this poing I am very conflicted with the fact that I care for her, I have shown her, I am a lot better now, feel that changes are happening, but sometimes I do feel regrets of all the situations that happened and want her to come back. We have two kids and they constantly tell me that they want us all to be together, but do not tell this to her as they are afraid she will get mad. I have told this to her and she tells me that I am trying to manipulate her to be with me. It always falls back to that, manipulation. I really prefer to give us a chance before closing the door on my marriage, since she has told me on multiple occasions that we should not be hasty on getting a divorce.

I’m going thru something like that it’s crazy but l pray your marriage gets better because this hurts l don’t know if it hurts them

@@claribelgarcia9256 hi there, marriage didn't improve. I actually moved on, got into a new relationship, and lo and behold that's when she tried to reach out. Funny thing about marriage and being the one that's hurt is that you become blinded by regrets, pain, hurtful thoughts, and that keeps you from reality. I purposely kept her side of the problem and what she did to me from yhis conversation as it is not her story, because it was a me situation two yrs, almost 3 now, ago. One thing to consider is to have self respect and love. No one is above your peace and happiness. Even the ppl you love and trust the most will, given the chance, show their true colors in the end. Let's keep it at it was not meant to be, and there was A reason for all that nonsense. I am in a better place, I am on my own, single and trying to enjoy being a 40 yr old bachelor. Time is a precious commodity and we have limited time here on earth. Love yourself and try to be happy on your own and only allow ppp to enter your happiness after you know they will not disturb it.

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@@claribelgarcia9256 marriage is hard. And unfortunately one or both might fall out of love. My experience taught me that YOU might try to be your best and make the most of your marriage, do everything right, as love and marriage should. It is a tough road, and that road needs to ppl to be ablo to get through. This is what a lot of marriages fail, one tries the other just does not care. The problem here is that there's always a something better for me out there mentality, I deserve better, I used to have, I used to be this, I had a lot of, and if that's the thoughts that person has, it will eventually break apart s marriage. Short term pleasure and happiness sometimes trumps all the work and effort of yrs of marriage. That's whst broke my marriage, still haunts me to this day, but as of now it is a life experience, a really hurtful one, but it's there, won't go away, and the only thing you can do is accept it and move on. Sometimes it is better to let go ppl that are not interested in putting in the work, your efforts are to be respected. Hope this helps you out on these hardships you're facing, but trust me, time is s powerful tool, it is HARD at the beginning but things will eventually calm down, your voices of pain will go away and the pain will subside. Take care, focus on yourself snd your happiness and do not link your well being to no one.

I was in your shoes. You're doing that because you think being manipulative is going to make him come back and all it does is push him away more. The men who love us don't want us to hurt they especially don't want it to be their fault. So what they do is they will do things to push us away. My husband did the same thing to me when we were separated and I would call him crying. He would tell me he still wanted a divorce and didn't want to come home. I had to look into myself and find out why I kept doing the things I did. Honestly, I found that anytime I did that to someone it would work so I kept manipulating until it didn't work anymore. You need to find a way to cope with the pain and not put it on him. If you want him to come home he needs a reason to. He loves you because he is still taking care of your basic needs. But no one wants to come back to stress. When I stopped calling my husband crying and when we talked on phone and I was calm that's when he started talking about us moving back in with each other. But I also let him bring it up. You have to find a way to let go of being manipulative because I will tell you in the long run it's not going to work.

I’m in this same situation right now. And the last thing I want is a divorce 😢