Real fam, what do you think of this parenting technique?
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@geniawright92544 жыл бұрын
Please note, if you do not tell your children they are beautiful, someone else will! and sometimes it is coming from the wrong person. So you give your children that validation so they will not be moved by or go seeking it from other people, and possibly find themselves in abusive codependent relationships.
@Vintageshabbychi4 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like this comment 70 billion times over! These parents need to know!
@ariadnebene84134 жыл бұрын
I agree. I never heard I was beautiful except once in my life that I can vividly remember. I started talking to an older guy online as a result.
@layaqui4 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@xoadias4 жыл бұрын
So true
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
Please note that if you do not teach your children to not concern themselves w the wrong things..... stupidity is not the result of being deprived a superficial compliment 💯
@toombs62874 жыл бұрын
Some mother’s are jealous of their own daughters.💯💯💯
@lashayfine34774 жыл бұрын
Yep.
@mfdoom1634 жыл бұрын
Most are i think or most can't connect with their daughters as much as with their sons/bond.
@ms.beautiful4 жыл бұрын
MF DOOM That doesn’t make sense!! A mother should be able to connect to her daughter more than her son because her and her daughter are both Women!!
@mfdoom1634 жыл бұрын
@@ms.beautiful I mean you can look it up their is studies on it.
The mom is in the wrong. Kids don’t care about what strangers say, kids care more about what their parents think about them.
@K.aylarenae4 жыл бұрын
Gaby Cerpa Some of them definitely care wut strangers say
@alexiscarrillo7813 жыл бұрын
Thats funny because as a kid I never believed my parents I believe strangers 😂 lmao now I don’t believe anyone
@vrazalico4553 жыл бұрын
True! I care more about the opinion of my parents who I respect and love than a stranger that means nothing to me! A parent has so much controle about how a child thinks of herself or himself. I always tell our child she is smart and beautiful and teach her to be confident. Other poeple can be nice but there will be situations where they can be hars and in those situations the child needs to be already confident in herself or himself so someone else can’t tear him of her down. That the foundation parents should build for and with the child
@kimberlyg-j78644 жыл бұрын
"I didn't know the cookie was loaded" "A weed cookie" "We're trying to talk in code" I am dead LMAO
@bethany8234 жыл бұрын
Iconic moment. HAHAHAHA
@melomelow43273 жыл бұрын
Lol Loni seems to be lying to us 😄😄
@DonovanRobinson4204 жыл бұрын
Never get tired of Jeannie’s impression of her mom 🤣
@conniechoward4 жыл бұрын
I understand where Jeannie comes from because I have African parents. I see how beautiful her personality is so it makes sense. However, in psychology, there is something called uconditional positive regard. We need our parents to validate our beauty.
@Vixenallure3654 жыл бұрын
Unconditional positive regard has nothing to do with this scenario. She's her mother, not a therapist. The danger here is she may feel insecure and seek validation from other women. She does seem to get it from others but her mom is being too extreme. If you bring something like unconditional positive regard into parenting you'll end up with a kid with no boundaries, no conscience and who will do whatever they want as there are no consequences. They'll feel entitled. The concept works for assessing persons in therapy and building the therapeutic alliance but with a kid you have to teach right from wrong you don't want to do that 🤷🏽♀️
@niccykariuki46894 жыл бұрын
Me to
@Kadebody4 жыл бұрын
Yes I do too. However, alot of the Asian culture spends alot of time trying to look white and change the beautiful aspects of themselves (their eyes and skin) and I think if they felt beautiful, it would happen less. You can be gorgeous, giving, and have a 4.0....I know first hand. Love my parents and family for that!!
@d__kfatkins80374 жыл бұрын
I love the four of them
@bernicet73254 жыл бұрын
Connie as an African as well, I agree because for some reason African mothers are too hard on their daughters. We need that validation, and when we don’t get it we learn slower how to just decide to look to ourselves for validation.
@contentdeleted54284 жыл бұрын
Compliment your kids man. Show them all the love. They need it the most. They will grow up into broken/ loving adults depending on their upbringing.
@alanahrobinson41604 жыл бұрын
Idk why but growing up with my sisters and just having my dad raise us, we never got compliments or acclimated for doing good unless we basically asked for it. " look dad I got an A" . So anytime he said I love you it didnt feel genuine. Now th hat I have a son and another on the way, I love my kids so damn hard!!!! Our favorite things are each other hugs and were best friends. Hes only 3 but he will never think he is unloved
@wshelby834 жыл бұрын
alanah robinson this was so precious to read!! The last part! Keep being the great mom that you are
@karinagomez91334 жыл бұрын
Loni: "I didn't know the cookie was loaded" Tam: "OOOHHHH A WEED COOKIE".. LMAO Tam was THAT friend in school! haha this girl chat had me cracking up!!
@KelliM4 жыл бұрын
Yes....like Loni said LEARN THE CODE lmbo
@vickymary992 жыл бұрын
I feel Tam. I am her in so many ways, and yes, i was also That friend😂😂
@EllePlowPlow4 жыл бұрын
I love that Loni validated her own experience while also not invalidating Jeannie’s. ❤️❤️ @5:34 This show has come a long way.
@serritawatkins81134 жыл бұрын
Elle Plow Plow yes, because they be judging jeani sometimes. Tamera didn’t even have to mention Jeani mom calls her beautiful.
@tgirl89554 жыл бұрын
These days kids are being bullied about their looks in preschool . They need to know their character comes first but also that they are cute or pretty -whatever it is.
@sumeya19234 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@luxaholicanonymous25774 жыл бұрын
T Tae - in preschool really???????
@tgirl89554 жыл бұрын
luxaholic anonymous yes!!!!unfortunately parents think it’s cute when kids do that. I always thought that was too young for them to start but kids are so advanced these days they have such a large vocabulary for some babies.
@luxaholicanonymous25774 жыл бұрын
T Tae - I specifically remember that from K-4th grade everyone still played together. Grade 5 was when everyone started forming cliques and that was when bullying started.
@tgirl89554 жыл бұрын
luxaholic anonymous every school is different , I just hope people are at least getting love at home
@Samirahsworld14 жыл бұрын
African parents can be so negative sometimes . If you get a new spot they’ll point it out , if you gained weight they point it out , if they don’t like something you’re wearing they’ll point it out . They have too much to say about everything 🙄🙄
@ashleekhan76584 жыл бұрын
Indian parents as well.
@karena22954 жыл бұрын
Nicaraguan mothers too 😩
@foreverblessed73264 жыл бұрын
@Hans I don't think i would call it being negative. I believe your parents are the people who can be completely honest with you on everything, telling you where you need to improve or pat you on the back because friends usually say only what makes you happy. In life you always need people who tell you the not-so-good feedback!
@lynnfaraj90514 жыл бұрын
Lol African parents are similar to Asians!😂😂 I grew thick skin. I'm used to it and it doesn't bother me, but I'll definitely be telling my kids they're beautiful, smart, and more.
@00carla4 жыл бұрын
my mom is Mexican and that is my life 😂
@aquarius_aaliyah_10334 жыл бұрын
this mother isn’t doing enough. she should tell her daughter that she is beautiful and smart, like Loni said. if she doesn’t tell her daughter she’s beautiful, the daughter might think that she isn’t good enough for her mom, it might bring on insecurities. beauty isn’t a bad thing, it’s something to celebrate but it isn’t the only thing that’s important. tell her she’s intelligent and beautiful and that her intelligence is beautiful.
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
LiliBear 2153 Why exactly is beauty something to celebrate? 🤔 And what about those who aren’t beautiful?? Would the lie be healthy for their social development? And why might a child think they are not good enough for their Mom even when being praised on more meaningful attributes? 🤔
@kaylanaomi-sd9dn4 жыл бұрын
tashboog as Tamara said, beauty is more than just looks and if u have that misconception u shouldn’t be having kids
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
kayla. naomi so it’s not a misconception given the topic is about complementing a child’s physical appearance.. obviously a child isn’t going to interpret that statement any other way unless restated or further discussed, Foh. And more importantly, who in tf are you to determine who is appropriate for parenting. That’s a deeply personal remark you should reconsider your place to say bc that would’ve gotten you fucked up in person love.
@kaylanaomi-sd9dn4 жыл бұрын
tashboog lmaoo ok luv, id love to see me being touched. and u genuinely believe that ur mindset of “what about those who aren’t beautiful “ is gonna work in the real world. Even when talking about physical beauty, DIFFERENT PEOPLE FIND DIFFERENT PEOPLE BEAUTIFUL OR ATTRACTIVE. who tf are u to say who is and isn’t beautiful? anywho NEXT CALLER
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
kayla. naomi and Id be more than happy to oblige love, drop ya location and come get this issue finger thug... I’ll wait. Hmm so I’m an honest soul w 20/20 vision and therefore more than capable of discerning attractiveness from unattractiveness. That TRUTH is a fragment of the real world you’re clearly tapped out of.. case in point; go search the endless catalog on this very platform of people griping about who isn’t included in respective, overarching beauty standards. It’s a thing smart 🙄 ....*anyhoo NEXT MISTAKENLY CONCEIVED, I got you on the regretfully produced waste of flesh 💯
@Kadericka4 жыл бұрын
I get what the mother is saying honestly, buy that could hurt the child.
@wilfriedciuches48144 жыл бұрын
That handsanitizer joke hits different these days💀😂
@AnniethingsPossible5603 жыл бұрын
What did she mean about the hand sanitizer? I didnt get the joke 😂😭
@manudid39713 ай бұрын
what did she mean with that?? like using it as lube?
@BB-qk8on4 жыл бұрын
It’s ignorant to pretend like looks don’t matter in this world - especially if you are a woman. It’s not fair, but that’s life. Everyone should tell their daughters they are beautiful, if you instill self confidence into them from a young age, they are more likely to be self assured teens and adults, and most importantly not look to men for validation!!!!
@Joy-xu9wk4 жыл бұрын
B B would you be surprised to find that the most classically “beautiful” women tend to have the lowest esteem? Because when you focus on looks- it becomes about looks. Instead of building confidence you build insecurity. You can tell your child they’re beautiful all day but they can’t compete with surgically enhanced IG models- you’ll tell them their preety and the world will show them a different version. I’m not against complimenting children on their looks- I think it should be the compliment least used. Compliment kids and build their confidence on intangible things no one can destroy. Build your kids complimenting their intelligence, wit, character... etc and supplement it occasionally with their outward beauty.
@amandaparrish91284 жыл бұрын
Facts!!
@ebenezahm4 жыл бұрын
"not to look to men for validation" 💯 Totally agree with you on that.
@Nohandle11254 жыл бұрын
Joy It doesn’t have to be the least used but children are ALWAYS complimented on the smallest things, beauty included, and that’s the way it needs to be. “Oh you’re so pretty!” “Oh you’re so handsome!” “Oh you’re so smart!” “You’re such a big girl!” “What a big boy!” “You’re so talented!” “You’re funny” Children hear this a hundred times a day and when it comes to addressing young girls, people tend to over think because of societal expectations and it’s unnecessary. As a mother, Going out of your way to refuse telling your daughter she’s beautiful is one of the most tragic and insane sociological experiments I have ever heard and quite frankly, it’s tacky. People are so desperate to be considered socially evolved or “woke” that they’re more socially digressed than anything.
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
Ignorant or a refusal to assimilate? Looks aren’t essential at all, society simply created that illusion and it is actually brave to live in your own reality and think for yourself.
@gracemorganspeaks4 жыл бұрын
Stay safe everyone. Everything is gonna be ok.
@tarawrr204 жыл бұрын
🙏🙏🙏🙏
@danyielsays46214 жыл бұрын
Thanks love🙏🏼💯❤️
@harryc.20544 жыл бұрын
America isn’t gonna be ok
@ayannastreeter76884 жыл бұрын
MB damn 🙄 they were just trying to spread positivity in the midst of a horrible time. relax.
@lenamonique184 жыл бұрын
❤❤
@esthermabele50994 жыл бұрын
I think it okay when parents call their daughter beautiful, coz they give them confidence and encourage them no matter what they look like
@Venus-pd3ml4 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure jeannie wished her mom called her beautiful.
@keyana55104 жыл бұрын
Nah
@jackson56434 жыл бұрын
Nah
@ajl28454 жыл бұрын
Nope.. i can relate to her..im asian..i don't care to be called beautiful from my mom 😂
@kayleen80374 жыл бұрын
AJL same! I’m Polynesian and my mom has never called me pretty or beautiful and part of me never wants her too. That’d be too weird😂
@mehak69914 жыл бұрын
Eriss R. Yeah because you totally don’t sound like one 💀 go somewhere
@VultureVlogger4 жыл бұрын
People always call kids cute or beautiful whether it’s a boy or girl.... this mom doing too much🤦🏾♀️
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
VV Wow it’s like the whole segment went over ya head 😐
@ashkhen3474 жыл бұрын
I died when Jeanie said "Did they invent hand sanitizer then" and when Tamara said "ohhhhhhh a weed cookie"
@olgamisenga19014 жыл бұрын
I understand what jeanie is saying but my mom once said at a friends wedding where I was a bridesmaid for some reason (african mom) : "to me, you are the most beautiful person here." i was 15y. Now I'm 28y and she past away in 2009. I'm forever holding on to that comment. Those words blessed my soul. Till today I'm throwing this in my sisters face without any context. Sisters: Me: okey but mom said I was the most beautiful person there. 😂😂😂
@sheekoshaax36784 жыл бұрын
That's beautiful am waiting my mom to say to these day she use to when I was young but now am 23 en nothing
@shrekscroissant61154 жыл бұрын
Jeanie is just so positive about everything, i love the way she attentively listens and supports the other ladies opinions even when they're really different to hers 🥺💕
@shawnswag51453 жыл бұрын
Tamera innocence is soooo funny “it was the weed cookie”
@summerflower40584 жыл бұрын
I’ve never heard my mother compliment me or comfort me with words ever 🤷🏽♀️ im 37 and even after i survived emotionally abusive marriage ppl can still easily manipulate me with compliments coz i was starved for compliments when i was a little girl.... compliment your daughters ppl they need to hear it from you before they hear it from the wrong ppl and fall into abuse
@cookiegirl8914 жыл бұрын
Summer Flower facts
@gigiakagorgeous_85254 жыл бұрын
Hope your doing okay
@summerflower40584 жыл бұрын
gigiakagorgeous _ I’m good thanks for your concern x
@EllePlowPlow4 жыл бұрын
“A weed cookie” 😂😂 “was hand sanitizer invented then?” 😂😂😂 This girl chat highlights the reason I love this show.
@manudid39713 ай бұрын
what did she mean with the hand sanitizer joke?
@anjelicathomas-dapuzzo95904 жыл бұрын
That is going to mess her up. My mom never told me I was beautiful or she never said I love you. Trust me it’s going to mess with head.
@shawndyer78604 жыл бұрын
When my child was younger and people called her pretty I would also remark and you are so smart, you have a wonderful heart or any other character strength she had. I didn't want her concentrating on her outward appearance. The reason is because beauty fades and is a personal perspective. Character, personality, and intelligence is constant.
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
Shawn Dyer Say it again tho 🤦🏾♀️
@vuyelwancube95384 жыл бұрын
Thanks because I thought it was clever of her to call her child other things that are positive not physical you say "hey my smart girl" "look how kind you are" children want affirmation so choose what you will do some cultures are just different
@JM-fo2qn4 жыл бұрын
Sadly, these are the same exact girls who grow up and feel insecure about their appearance and jealous of other females they think are beautiful. I see it all the time. I was told that I was beautiful all the time by both of my parents and I never feel jealous of women and when I look at myself in the mirror I am extremely happy with what I see and I am not insecure at all. Parents need to tell their girls they are beautiful in addition to everything else. I am glad my parents did this because I see a big difference in myself and other women who parents never did this.
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
Jessi M. Except these are superficial points of concern which is the only part that is genuinely sad. There is a different underlying issue when a girl/young lady/woman feels insecure or jealous based on her physicality as opposed to any point of actual merit. On the contrary, my insecurity stemmed from the overwhelming attention I got for my physical appearance throughout my youth. I only cared bc of the constant affirmation and eventually obsessed over something I not only wasn’t in control of but that genuinely doesn’t matter apart from the fog society creates over the subject. My intellect allowed me to discover on my own the power system and lie of “beauty” as it relates to physical appearance. I had to unlearn that lie and love what sets me apart, that mf unmatched intellect which kept me just a few paces more conscious than my peers who were constantly worried about the wrong things. I could go on.. but my point is that we have to stop subjecting our personal experiences onto the truths of human psychology. The same thing you feel built your confidence is the same thing that dismantled mine so your theory about the difference b/t you and others seems to achieve a confirmation bias.. when it is quite possible that the bigger picture is the overarching obsession for beauty in the west among other places. Consider this; if society didn’t constantly reward beauty, then would the concern be innate? Is beauty always the premise of desire? What about those inherently excluded from the subject altogether (those born with physical afflictions, deformities, and such..) notice how people often leave them out of the conversation and don’t comment on how they look out of “politeness.” I wonder whether those of you imparting this dimwitted assertion of what people *should tell their daughters ever even consider any of these facts. No need to react, just something for you to think about..
@JM-fo2qn4 жыл бұрын
@@tashboog There are people with a high level of intellect that they are born with. There are people with athletic abilities that most of us could not achieve no matter how hard we tried because of genetics. There are people with incredible musical talents that they were gifted with at a young age. I could go on forever but I will stop there. Physical appearance is the same as this. Some people are born aesthetically pleasing to look upon. It doesn't mean that they are better than anyone else. Just like the genius, the incredible athlete, and the brilliant musician is not better than anyone. Why call your children smart if there will always be a person who is smarter and they might obsesses about being the smartest and it may cause depression and worry????? It is the same exact reasoning that people like you have for not calling their daughters' beautiful but no one cares because it is not about "beauty." The truth is when you say you do not want to call your child beautiful, you are putting being beautiful on a pedestal and making it better than other qualities. You are indirectly saying that beauty is worth more and more valuable. Truth is there are beautiful people, intelligent people, artistic people, athletic people, etc. If you are conventionally attractive, you can be a model. If you are naturally good in math, you can be a mathematician. If you have crazy athletic abilities, you can try for the olympics. We are all different. Not everyone has to beautiful just like not everyone has to be muscular, or brilliant musician, or the smartest person in the room .
@sucadaxmed37614 жыл бұрын
If I don't tell my daughter that she is beautiful and amazing, she will go outside to a stranger to hear that she is beautiful.
@tonyakuby88804 жыл бұрын
Adrienne is irreplaceable on this show. Shes so real, and great at connecting to the audience :)
@susanapellerano51494 жыл бұрын
That mom really thought she was doing something...
@pezFms3 жыл бұрын
I love that they kept telling tamera to talk in code! 😂
@lynbunny1194 жыл бұрын
As someone who grew up with a mother who refused to acknowledge my beauty, I can attest to the fact that it creates an unhealthy dynamic and impacts the child’s self-confidence in a negative way. Strangers, relatives, even my moms friends would always comment on how beautiful they thought I was from the time I was a baby and eventually it seemed like my mom resented me for it. By the time I was a teenager she would get visibly angry and agitated when people would comment on my appearance or give me a compliment. When I was nine she started telling people not to complement me because I already had a “big head“. I didn’t. I was a nine-year-old little girl. I am going to tell my children they’re beautiful every day and that I love them every day because I grew up without hearing either. I’m a very strong person so I gave myself lots of love but I do believe it is one of the reasons why I was vulnerable to predatory broken men in their 20s when I was a teenager. Because of that I was in an abusive relationship from the age of 18 to 20. Complete waste of my time and looking back on it, if I felt my support from my family I would’ve never been vulnerable enough to be victimized by this terrible person.
@danyielsays46214 жыл бұрын
My mom never called me beautiful or told me she loved me...BUT I know that she loves and cares about me.. I'm fortunate to have had a dad that always told me he loved me and called me his beautiful prince🤗🤗 nonetheless sometimes you don't need anyone to tell you those things...you should know you are!
@BriaBarrows4 жыл бұрын
I wish my mom said it more often to me when I was younger. But a lot of Caribbean’s never grew up being affectionate. But I had a healthy childhood and I knew I was very loved.
@gayanngodfrey28244 жыл бұрын
Jamaican have such a hard time showing love and affection, all they do is criticize 🙄
@cookiegirl8914 жыл бұрын
Glen CoCo if u have low self esteem and self gate don’t u think u should be more sensitive to urself ? And maybe tough love just isn’t the answer
@La_Jozelyn4 жыл бұрын
My momma is the same as Loni’s in the sense of callin her children smart, kind, beautiful, & important lol. I appreciate my momma for that tbh.
@salma254 жыл бұрын
I come from an Nigerian family, the other day my mom said "hey beautiful" and i looked at her like 😯 and she was like "why are u looking at me like that" and i told her "you NEVER called me beautiful" She has been trying 2 say it more now but everytime she says it, i still look at her like 😮
@paulaswanzy44483 жыл бұрын
Lol I had a similar experience my mum sent me a text saying I love you n I was like 🧐 what is thissssss???
@Aliiize952 жыл бұрын
My Nigerian mum hugged me when I graduated college and it was the strangest thing ever!!!!
@ValentinoQ4 жыл бұрын
There’s no way I would do anything in a porter potty I mean I barely want to go in there to begin with....
@user-nq6um4bs5y4 жыл бұрын
Valentíno Quiñones no gIory hoIe?
@babygirlshari42234 жыл бұрын
My mom never really said that i was beautiful when i was growing up. So when others said it i never really believed them and when guys say it i feel uncomfortable cause im not use to it. I wished my mom did, cause it would have prepared me more. but i use to also focus on other things like getting my education and doing well etc. Cause that was what she focused on. When my mom says it now i have no feeling about it cause for my self i don't feel it. My dad has passed away almost 8 years now and what i can remember is that he was always very proud to show me and my sister of to other people. 😊
@abidanielson27474 жыл бұрын
Side note : I also think it’s important for the father of the family to say something or even compliment the child because as nice as it is for your mama to compliment you all day everyday there’s still a gap
@jmeiahburke53884 жыл бұрын
“BUT THE GAG IS!” Keke Palmer reference
@dawsonlambert4 жыл бұрын
You can still find character in your accomplishments as well as being pretty like ???
@liezl37084 жыл бұрын
I have never been that type of woman who needed acknowledgement of being beautiful, I always knew that I was beautiful on the inside and out and in the mind because when I look at my mom that’s where I get every attributes from, from the beauty, to the smarts, to the wisdom, to the knowledge, to the strength etc. I owe it all to her, I’m a part of mother.
@wshelby834 жыл бұрын
Liezl V I love your comment!!
@salynnowens64684 жыл бұрын
Children need positive affirmation 💜 Loni’s mama had it right 👏🏽🙌🏽. Let’s speak life into the next generation.
@AhchwathYashashakar4 жыл бұрын
I looooooooove these ladies soooo much!!!! 😂😂❤️❤️ They crack me up!😆
@karengutloff20044 жыл бұрын
I dont believe Loni's story of doing it in the Port-o-Potty..
@PureAloha783 жыл бұрын
They were all on a trip this segment especially Tamera. LOL! Love it though!!!!!
@amanlizamasha19373 жыл бұрын
I was bullied about my looks and called ugly. It really got under my skin. My mother called me beautiful 🤩. Part of me didn’t believe her but I always thought of it like she is telling me “be beautiful inside and the outside will be beautiful “ and hearing that from my mom made me feel good about myself.
@Officialshuggah3 жыл бұрын
THIS ALWAYS HAS ME DYING!!☠️☠️”……a weed cookie…”🤣🤣I love it💖
@alexiscarrillo7813 жыл бұрын
I’m weak she said “ weed cookie” and not an “edible” 😂😂 oh tam bless her soul
@daniellebedford12 жыл бұрын
You are all beautiful. I have watched the show over the years and you all have grown so much. Kudo's , to you all for showing such love to each other.
@britsadie4 жыл бұрын
I love this episode. "I was young ok" Loni I love your talking ha
@CJ-dg3bm4 жыл бұрын
"A Weed cookie"😂😂😂😂Tamera kills me!
@rnt25644 жыл бұрын
I just want people to stop making excuses for narcissistic parental abuse..I agree with what Loni said.. say what you want, but there is nothing wrong with words of affirmation to provide a healthy balance and appropriate validation to your child.. I think there is still some healing that needs to happen on Jeannie's end, as she tries to downplay the trauma to save face.. If your mom can say another child is beautiful, she can also give her child the same treatment, if not more..
@mamigetsreal45034 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
The Dove lmao so leaving the compliment out is now narcissistic parental abuse? I’m done ..
@rnt25644 жыл бұрын
@@tashboog Be done, clearly it's deeper than just a "compliment" I wouldn't have made this comment otherwise..
@tashboog4 жыл бұрын
The Dove then perhaps you should articulate those layers bc it only clearly reads ridiculously.. you expressed no logical premise to label anyone’s differing needs as denial of trauma, please. Some of y’all dead ass just need to get over yourselves 🙄
@rnt25644 жыл бұрын
@@tashboog Well I see you're not done.. Clearly you need to do research on the topic because there are others who see the same thing and because it triggers you, maybe you may want to explore why? Perhaps, you may have had a similar experience or you yourself treat others in that way and so it triggered you by my highlighting that it is a sign of a parent portraying narcissistic abuse.. Furthermore, it's not about a "compliment" which you tried to minimize the intent of her lack of nuturing, it is clear she has some "mommy dearest" issues and doesn't want to give her child the appropriate assurance needed for healthy child development.. If you don't see that fine, but for those that have eyes to see they know.. Keep it moving and go back to being done.. And I am alive am well.. be healed
@kelloggclifford3 жыл бұрын
Thank You ladies!!!
@marylezama32594 жыл бұрын
So right about the American Eagle Jeans 👏🏽💚
@michellevenegas284 жыл бұрын
Aahhhh Loni!!! I love you!!! "What's the next topic" 👏🏽😆👏🏽😆👏🏽🤣👏🏽🤣👏🏽🤣😍🥰😘😘😘
@summerkennedy13674 жыл бұрын
I laughed so hard!!! Like I laughed until I cried kinda funny. I really needed that after working the last 4 days. Laughter is the best medicine forsure
@fridayaitza89104 жыл бұрын
Jeannie is literally so amazing, I love this cash so so much
@noirlily34134 жыл бұрын
Working with and studying Early Education; children are gendered with "social stigma". I.e. girls are so "beautiful/pretty" and boys are "strong/brave". Therefore, sometimes girls' characters are not "formed" as such. Me personally, I call children Precious... They ALL are!
@freakywalrus4 жыл бұрын
This episode has me DYING from laughter I love it
@jannahnurul4 жыл бұрын
I'm asian and my mum is my no. 1 fan. The way we speak to our children become their inner voice so SPEAK WORDS OF LOVE & POSITIVITY. xxx
@karlam58464 жыл бұрын
Awww I love how loni looks at tamera everytime she talks about her kids cause shes auntie Loni💕💕
@8.88haba4 жыл бұрын
I grew up in asian culture as well and they never compliment looks like EVER. it’s hard, but its now to the point it feels weird to ever recieve a compliment from my parents. But I know it’ll make me value other aspects of myself, but the hard way i guess❤️
@Michaelabrisby4 жыл бұрын
Ahh a weed cookie 😂😂😂 Tamera, Loni and Jennies rxn all took me down
@Whitchelslov4 ай бұрын
The fact that the daughter looks exactly like her.
@linalisset79684 жыл бұрын
Yes to the American Eagle jeans Jeannie was talking about! I bought a pair around 6 months ago and have bought varies pairs of jeans from other companies since then and yet the American Eagle pair is still my go to.
@Bsarah64 жыл бұрын
Keep the long videos up.. its saving me from this quarantine
@lindsaymontgomery79812 жыл бұрын
Legit snort laughing at the weed cookie 😂
@FIBROMOM4 жыл бұрын
Call your child, your loved ones and strangers beautiful! But beautiful can be many things so point that out 💜
@monig2923 жыл бұрын
my mom never called me beautiful and i never noticed it growing up so it didn’t affect me. she nurtured me in many other ways and taught me amazing things. i don’t resent her for it. i am beautiful among many other things.
@MajesticMyronn4 жыл бұрын
Ok so I think it goes back to the topic we were talking about yesterday which is whether you’d want to be called beautiful or sexy... I think when it comes to make your child feel whole instead of making them feel they’re beautiful on the outside... how are they beautiful inside... cuz a pretty face is just that... pretty but when u have a lot more to work with than just looks... that’s when u have helped , loved , shaped and molded your child to become a very harmonious and interesting human being who values more than just their face value
@semharestephanos98594 жыл бұрын
I love Adrian's energy in this video
@mamigetsreal45034 жыл бұрын
I pray that every child in this world gets spoiled with LOVE and kind words from their parents. I tell my son everyday he is strong, helpful, kind, amazing, smart, loving beautiful list goes on and I will never ever stop that.
@user-zu4iu5qk8z4 жыл бұрын
My mom always tries to use me for her own advantage and i always catch her just staring me down.. I call her mother dearest
@ed8574 жыл бұрын
Yes! American Eagle jeans are expensive (for me personally) but last forever! I have 3 pairs that have lasted me 5 years and they still look new!
@prncessovdarkness4 жыл бұрын
My mom had no choice but to call me beautiful, I'm her spitting image. Lol
@khushbunayer26004 жыл бұрын
it is very important for parents, especially mother's to teach their daughter's self love. A million people could call a daughter beautiful but it means the most when a mother compliments you because you know that its coming from the person who loves you the most
@ms.beautiful4 жыл бұрын
🗣🗣🗣I wonder if this Mom is a SINGLE MOTHER!!! Where is the father and what are his thoughts on this!! Parents should call their daughters beautiful!!! As a parent if you’re not going to INSTILL confidence in your child; then WHO IS!!!
@ainslie-marie52794 жыл бұрын
My mom compliments my beauty at the end. She mentions my integrity, my smarts, my whatever and then says I'm beautiful at the end to tie it all together.
@nivyrivera2 жыл бұрын
My mother never told me I was pretty or smart or for that matter beautiful. So when the wrong narcissist man came around telling me I was pretty I was stood with him. In a abusive relationship for many years because I thought I couldn’t do better. Now I have three smart and handsome boys and I tell them every single day they are smart, handsome and perfect just the way they are. I don’t ever want them to go through what I went through. ♥️
@samsammy98754 жыл бұрын
" I was young " Loni hahaha
@rainbowchampagne104 жыл бұрын
"ahh a weed cookie "😂😂
@joannadeluna39114 жыл бұрын
I miss these four SO. MUCH!
@candaceanderson58283 жыл бұрын
The title Adrienne: Hello, beautiful ladies!
@jazminvaltierra28534 жыл бұрын
Same Genie. My mom raised me the same. "Why you spend so much time getting ready if your classes are slipping" or "why is your room a mess yet you have makeup on"
@GB-bn9dp4 жыл бұрын
I love Tamera's blue coffee cup🥰
@twistmiricho96364 жыл бұрын
"a weed cookie" got me weak...
@aj46574 жыл бұрын
yesss, i love loni’s look.
@taylormurphy66903 жыл бұрын
I feel the mother in questions intentions and sentiments have been so misconstrued. She doesn’t not believe her daughter is beautiful- she just doesn’t want her to seek validation for it for the rest of her life. This woman is under fire for inspiring her daughter to be creative, smart, kind, etc. I stand by this woman and try to have a similar approach with my daughter. Instead of offering an outward compliment of “you are beautiful/pretty”, I love to compliment her personal style, because it speaks to who she is and how she expresses herself. Not using the term “beautiful” or similar words doesn’t mean a mother is tearing her daughter down, it means she’s helping her find the beauty within. We’d all be so lucky as to have someone in our life to remind us of our inner fires and strengths, because we may not always see them ourselves.
@lindabarrios1803 жыл бұрын
Adrienne is too funny
@nfvy81114 жыл бұрын
The AE jeans really were a game changer. Hated jeans before I tried those.
@shamaoliver79892 жыл бұрын
Jeannie is beautiful inside and out I know that she wish her mom would have said that more but I like that Jeannie is confident.
@lynnramadan98554 жыл бұрын
Lonnnnyyyy🙈🙈🙈haaha you wild !
@latoyataylor4034 жыл бұрын
Tamera is soooo me....just gives it up😂😂😂
@celestebadillo99494 жыл бұрын
Oh My goodness they had me cracking up when they were roasting tamera on the weed cookie comment 😂😂 too funny
@Sraa774 жыл бұрын
My mum always downplays compliments that others give me on my looks and it hurts my feelings. I don’t know why she does this when she should be happy for me 😔
@shericawilkinson8334 жыл бұрын
Tamara :a weed cookie 😂😂😂😂
@neoloanderson66764 жыл бұрын
Each to their own, I tell me daughter she's beautiful because when I look at her that's what I see, especially when she smiles. She is also very smart (to me).