“Be an expert at something”, Adrienne you are correct

“Have something to to fall back on” what Adrienne was saying ! That’s not hard to understand 😂

Trying to go against what Adrienne was saying like they didn’t know wtf she was talking about. You should always have a plan B even the ladies sitting at the table have side hustles aka a plan B 🙄

All the kids living their dream 80% will not be successful. For every Will Smith there are 5 million Won't Smiths. Adrienne is the only one making sense.

I agree with Adrienne. God, I WISH I had some doubt that I wouldn’t be an actress because I put all my eggs in that basket and I am suffering now.. I never went to college and at 30 I have to start all over again! Listen to your parents! You have your whole life to live out a dream like being an actor. Go to school and you’ll be able to use those skills in your craft later. ♥️ Don’t want anyone experiencing what I am now. ♥️

adrienne means A LIFE SKILL not ENTERTAINMENT skill , iam with u adrienne

I’m 26 and I still don’t know what I wanna do sheesh. Let them kids be kids and dream!!

Loni what are you saying !!! Adrienne you are so right... like you gotta earn money.. then you can pursue your dream

I’m with Adrienne on this one

Adrienne is fine, she’s just saying go to school so you don’t fall on your face.

Adrienne is right! And Tameras mother needs to right a parenting book she raise happy, beautiful,smart, God fearing men and woman! And I need this for my children!

Yes ,glamorize beeing a doctor or a nurse or a educator ..lets glamorize careers that will show us so many things...There is more to life than TV and IG.

They never said to dress up as role models. I agree with Adrienne and also it’s easy to put a jersey on and dress up. The school just wants them to think about careers they just gave a bad explanation.

I am currently going to school to teach then during summers I'm going to work on my cake skills to open my own bakery:)

The thing with becoming an actor or singer is that someone else decides if you're gonna become those things at least on a large scale. If noone hires you for roles, that's it, career over.

I agree with Adrienne. It's good to have dreams but you have to be realistic about it. Not everyone is going to become huge like the people they mentionned. These people became who they are because, along with the determination, the belief, the talent, the hard work, they also had the good timing, the universe had those plans for them. So, it's better to be practical. I love photography and wanted to become one but the truth is that is really hard to make photography as your main profession. No matter how good you are. So, i work on that as a passion and I also do studies in law on the side. You need to have more than one dream. I know a girl who wanted to be a succeful model. She worked as model but also worked in hotel management as a plan b. At some point, the modeling world required that she does a certain things (compromise) if she wanted to work with BIG fashion designers. She was not comfortable with that so she continued her way in hotel managment.

Come one Loni , you know what Adrienne was saying 🙄nothing wrong with dreaming but if you’re trying to be a Star but don’t have star power then what are you going to do? even the brightest of stars need a plan b , plan b doesn’t always mean college. Like Adrienne was saying “ a skill-set” . Go to a trade school and get that under your belt. I’m sorry but there’s nothing wrong with getting an education in an capacity. No one can ever take that from you.

Imagine one day they upload a Girl Chat Vault with Tamar because they start to run out of older videos 😂

Idk why Loni talks to the others like they’re wrong all the time. They can have different opinions.

I'm 100% with Adrienne

When you so famous that Beyoncé is job field

Jeannie gave so much insight in this situation

As a librarian I see kids all the time doing these kinds of projects, not based on what they wanted to do, but what would be easy or look cute. Like a kid who dresses as Beyonce, but never sings a note because they just like Beyonce and have a yellow dress. They don't want to be a singer. Or they dress up as a sports star because they've got a jersey, not that they ever get off the couch and play sports. If I were a teacher I'd do like a lot of teachers do book reports. Give them a list and tell them to pick one. That way it's an actual project.

Awww Kobe

im currently an esthetician making thousands a month but am also doing youtube and selling things on the side cause youtube is my dream :)

I am 100% with Adrienne. You need to have a plan b in order to work. Not everyone can be the new Beyonce or simply achieve their dreams, at that point what you gonna do? People need to stop with this storytelling, yes it's important to have dreams, but keep in mind that not EVERYONE will be able to do what they wanted to do.

I think everyone should have a plan B.. I agree with Adrienne. I’m teaching my kids to.

Adrienne and Tam are absolutely right. It doesn’t have to be college. Recognize your child’s talents and build from there.

The only thing I'm gonna say is that most celebrities are only now chasing after professional degrees. And I agree with Adrienne, we do not glamourise these professional courses and instinctively humans wanna take the easy route out. Going to college and getting a degree is hard, and I am adamant about the fact that college prepares you for a lot of things and teaches you a lot of transferable skill set.

You know how many people end up homeless or working at Starbucks their entire life because they never had a plan B thinking they were going to be an “actress”... And to the point of a “degree sitting on the shelf catching dust”, formal education will change you and give you fundamental skills that you can use every single day. There are multiple reasons why people don’t/can’t pursue higher education, so I don’t want to undermine someone’s struggle but most of the time you can CLEARLY tell when you speak to someone who hasn’t gone to college, and that alone is a major differentiator.

Yes everyone should have a plan b. Because when people don't ”make it ” they get depressed and become unproductive in society. Just have a backup plan

I can see Jeannie being a motivational speaker !

Ade and Jeannie's insights are so insightful! And that skillset factor is really an eye opener.

I’m glad we had this topic because I recently watched an episode of one of my favorite shows “ Facts of Life “ and it was an episode where Tootie’s dad had came to Eastland and when he found out she wanted to own a salon with Natalie... he made a big deal out of it because it wasn’t what HE wanted her to do in life... which is why as a parent you need to break the curse of “ well since my parents did it and I did it , my child has to do it too “ & continue this legacy of doing something they aren’t passionate about... Also realize that your 11 or 12 year child may end up changing their mind on what career field they want to be in by the time they are 16... but you have to allow them to ! Let your children develop and make their own decisions and choices and trust them !

Loni is the perfect example of this. Life goes on while you’re pursuing your dreams. You need to be able to take care of yourself and family while working on your dream in preparation for your “big break.” I’m with Adrienne and Tamera’s mom 👍🏿

Honestly, I WISH schools would be more realistic. I grew up thinking I could do anything, but no one tells you the arts are completely money based. Don't tell them they can't do it. Tell them it still be hard as hell but go for it if they REALLY want it.

Adrien just gave away a clue for the masked singer....went to medical school lol

I guess it’s easier for them to say because they’ve become successful in their dreams but not everyone makes the cut! Always have a plan b!!!

They all look so stunning....that red dress on Jeannie fits her, I just love Adrienne, Loni's top is pretty and Tam's white is great

*My dream is to be an actress not because of fame nor money but as Tamara said.. it's my passion and I'm good at it.*

I am 100% with Adrienne 🙌🏼 Loni and Jeannie are delirious (and I’m saying that being 21 and very modern and all that stuff)

I guess these old girl chats will do.🤷🏻‍♂️😂

I love Adrienne’s hair like this this

It IS ridiculous. My first thought was, to even assume there are only a FEW jobs in the world that are so hard to achieve is ridiculous. So glad Tamara spoke my mind on that bit. Secondly, I 100% agree with Adrienne about still having a hustle and with Jeannie for saying a kid should be able to dream it before all the realities really hit them. There will be enough factors in the world to deter them or encourage them later on. You can teach your kids about falling off of the ladder but don't stop them from climbing it to begin with.

I always love Jeannie’s advice

I agree with what Tamara said. Her mother didn't discourage them from their dreams. She supported them in what they wanted but encouraged them to get an education just in case. That way you have something to fall back on. This is a great balance. You may have that degree sitting on the shelf however, when your fame is gone, then you have that degree to fall back on. You're not just stuck. Always have a back-up plan.

Have a wise Plan B. I like Adrienne’s example about music engineering to lead to producing. They relate. Don’t say I want to be a music producer, but I’ll go study biology as a backup.

This is a very, very good thing. Part of the problem I and many millenials had is that we didn't start doing the hard work of figuring out what we *actually* wanted to do until college. Its important to acknowledge dreams and encourage them, but also encouraging them to have a Plan B. Being a doctor isn't the same thing as being an entertainer. There's a clear path to that career, and there is never a dearth of doctors - we always need more. Jeannie's thing about degrees that you don't want or use...that's solved by encouraging kids to do the hard work early - by encouraging them to be other things. And Adrienne is right, most people wanting to be a pro sports player or singer only want it because they have an unrealistic idea of that entails. Let's be clear: these women are victims of survivorship bias. They're letting all the people who made it and ignoring the hundreds of thousands of people in LA, Atlanta, Nashville, NYC and Seattle RIGHT NOW who have been doing the work for a decade or two, but haven't gotten anywhere.

Then I’d dress up as an escort lol I literally considered that in the past when I was drowning in debt and had no job. Thank GOD I didn’t do it though, I don’t think I would be able to actually do it but I thought about it for a while there 😶

I think you have to follow your "passion". Most people don't have a passion. They have interests. Also, a lot of these are examples of very exceptional instances. 100 people might make it, but millions fail, even if they're great at it.

8:20 I wanted to be a lawyer which I thought was a great field but the family wanted me to be a nurse and I HATE HOSPITALS. Long story short, I took multiple major and racked up student loans so now I'm a dropout (for now) with student loans. I just wanna make fashion items and help people.

Adrienne is right. Not everyone who wants be an actor, doctor, teacher, lawyer, singer will be that. Cause if no one wants to hire you, what r u going to do? Of course u can create your own opportunities but think of something else that u like as a plan be to fall on if your own opportunities dont work. A lot of people wants to be this and that but end up in somebody's basement because of no plan. Make the plan, execute the plan.

RIGHT !! WE DONT GLAMIRIZE being teachers, doctors, lawyers, journalist, etc... we glamirize pop stars, models, influencers (damm🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️), so that’s that (and yeah, I’m saying that being obsessed with Instagram, BUT I’m studying marketing 🙌🏼✨)

Growing up I never could figure out what I want to do on a serious note. I never had a passion. I was jealous because my brother seemed to have his life figured out so young and so did his fiancé. Now, it’s switched. I know what I want with my life finally and my brothers changed his mind and going back to school. Everyone finds their path!!

It did not push you back 8 years Loni. We are all exactly where we are meant to be WHEN the time is right.

Adrienne’s hair is gorgeous!!! Wow that volume and curls 🥰😍

Your job as a parent is to make your kids the best THEM they can be, not the best YOU. Don’t make them fulfill what was your dream. Help them fulfill theirs.

I agree with Adrianne 100%

Like Lonnie said you need a hustle. Ways to make money. Whether it is considered professional or not. When I was younger all I wanted to do was be a nurse and move up in my field. But now that Im 29 Im looking to purchase my first real estate property and Im a licensed cosmetologist which has many avenues (sales, stylist, educator, influencer, business owner, salon owner, etc.) I could have done these things years ago. We dont have to limit ourselves.

I completely agree with Adrienne 👏🏾 Loni shut up lol

They need to have a profession. It is easier to go for your dreams if your can still eat and sleep in a house. It is important. We need to have a generation that is educated and talented. Jeanie got it wrong this time

Tam looks good asf🥰

I am literally giving applause to Jeanie... I literally stood up in my living room and applauded her... I agree with her 100%!

The way the drink that cocktail, like they drinking gold 😂

this is why i love this show! ugh, i feel so inspired!!

❤️ Each and every one of these beautiful ladies are soooo inspiring, so supportive, soooo lovingly encouraging. ❤️

Adrienne makes sense. Loni always tries to make her own point more right than the next. I wish for one time she would not be so defensive stating her own opinion. Take. Lessons. From. Jeanie. Cause she always has a great delivery.

Many people don't know about side hustles.... To me, side hustles are "Plan B"! My parents taught me having more than one stream of income is very beneficial! We should be teaching youngsters about financial success!!

I’m 21 and I have no idea what I’m good at 🤦🏽‍♀️ I feel like I really have no talents .

100% with Jeannie on this one

This show is Lonis side hustle until she becomes a real comedian

I agree, let kids be themselves and dress up how they want.

😎GOOD ANSWER SISTAH JEANNIE FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS NOT YOUR PARENTS!😜!

Everyone's missing the point... they're not telling the kids you cannot be a pop star or a sports star... they're telling the kids have a back up plan so you don't have to live under a bridge eating from the bins if your music/film/sports career doesn't take off.

Without the allowance of people stepping out of the traditional boundaries we wouldn’t have you all represent real talk for the all of us 🤗

*kim saved his life by not following on time*

Why are not the kids allowed to dream big it sends out wrong signals to them that they won’t be able to be whatever they want to be.

Tamera & Adrienne stole the first topic and nailed it on the head. Thank you guys.

I am from the UK and my secondary school forced us to follow these rules. Singer, actor, entertainer, psychologist, artist graphic designer, postman, bin man and dancer were not accepted as an occupation.

True, with parents having the responsibility to notice their children's talent. My daughter loves art, all kinds and she's 5 she is sculpting now, I buy her paint, pastels water colors, canvases, clay we're tapping into every type of art and she is so crafty and if her passion changes we will tap into it. 😊

Their wording in the letter seemed mean, the school clearly didn’t want talent focused careers. The school letter was TOO STRICT.

This is some of the reason why we have no teachers, social workers, doctors, garbage men/women, etc. Etc. Everyone now wants to be into beauty and traveling. Where are the young politicians and and young surgeons? The movie stars, athletes, entertainers are a small subset of the population. We need to be realistic with these young kids.

Adrienne kills it every week. She looks incredible!

They should let the kids dress up as whatever they want to be and ask them “how did you become a pop star?” So they know that there’s work that has to put into becoming a pop star. Afterwards, hit the kids with the reality of “it’s really hard to become a singer, if you can’t, what else would you be?”

We are so conditioned to think we should be something else rather than what we are truly passionate about. If we are more like Will Smith and Bruno Mars who followed their dreams, then there would be more successful people like them. Just like Gene mentioned, the majority of the population is not happy with their jobs. The reason why is because these people were conditioned from when they were little from family or society that their dreams were not possible or would not make them money. Like Oprah says “ Follow your purpose and success will follow”. This is why I am passionate about guiding people on finding their purpose. Well said Tam and Gene and Loni. Adrienne love you too Doll, I just think that Tam and Gene have very valuable points. Why can’t their be more Will Smith’s? I think it is possible.

I struggle with this, because obviously they are going to say ‘shoot for your dreams’ because they are all ‘made it’. We never hear from the multitudes who tried to make it in the entertainment industry for years, and didn’t make it, and had to choose a different path.

I swear to God, if my family tries the "be a doctor, medical assistant etc" thing again, I will cut them off.

"Win at being yourself"... Yes Jeannie!!

I wonder if they film the "Friyays" in the mornings? I don't think I could drink that early lol i'd be ready for a nap midshow lol

😂 Tamara pulling up her top!!!

so many parents robbed their children of not only a childhood but an adulthood and a life as well. tamera made a really great point about parents having a responsibility to pay attention to and identify what their children are good at, interested in and have a natural talent for so they can help cultivate that child's particular skill(s) etc. so many parents don't care about those things and now their children grow up and struggle to find their passion or talent later in life.

Loni don’t do a diy colonic, get specialist to it

Here I am googling it....and these chicks are coming with the facts! Love it!

You always need a plan b. Wtf is Jeanie saying. Nobody is saying you can’t chase ur dreams. what tam and Jeannie is saying is you need to have something to fall back on in case things don’t work out.

Remember, that they are children. Children often have many dream jobs at the same time, and they change often.

Omg tam has a psychology degree????!?!? Omg that makes soooooo much sense. No wonder shes so damn wise. Adrienne was right her back ground really helped her with her life in many ways but def. This job!!

I agree with Jeanie , my son told me that he doesn't need a plan B,because that takes energy from his plan A.

Imagine getting a colonic just to meet Kim K 😭😭 I mean... do what you need to do I ain’t mad at you... can’t hate the player , hate the game LITERALLY !

Everyone needs a safety net to fall into if their dream job is at the top. But kids should understand that dreaming big is great but it will take perseverance and drive to get you there. Help them develop skills needed to succeed.

How tf u make a "mocktail" out of ginger liquer bourbon and lemon juice