Truuueee

THANK YOU UGHHHH LITERALLY 😭😭😭

Louder 🗣🗣🗣

it doesn't only work in girlxgirl friendship. it should work in EVERY relationship, friendship etc.

she broke this rule when our friendship ended and told my whole school. 😶

Oo

That’s an ick

Fr❤

The 2nd one is kind of questionable though. If you hate someone else's bf or gf, it just shows you're jealous of their relationship and wish you had one similar to their's

FR THO ME AND MY BESTIE DO THE SAME THING ❤

yes because it is. this isn’t how adult relationships work. this is more like insecure high school relationships

I disagree. This is about respect and why the hell do you wanna interact with your best friends’ boyfriend

​@@kh07gl​While I do understand respect and boundaries, I just dont understand how her girl code makes any sense. Her first rule is heavily dependent on the situation. I have followed my friend's crushes in the past with no intention to "steal their crush". The reason would usually be something like i had befriended that person. Following doesn't mean you're interested in that person or anything. Though I do understand asking you friend for permission out of politeness. I wont comment too much on that rule. Her 2nd rule about hating you bestie's bf just seems stupid to me. I mean of course I want my girls to have the best partner possible but acting like that isnt productive or helpful. I would rather get to know the person my bestie is gonna be with rather than be in an awkward unnecessary weird sort of relationship with him. Her third rule about not texting your bestie's boyfriend. I actually do understand that one but there's also some nuance here. For example, some people lke myself like to get to know my friend's partner. It helps make interactions less awkward and more fun especially considering that they are gonna be together. 4th and 5th reason are just dumb. If its cold just take the jacket. I usually bring a random jacket with me on colder days in case im cold and if need be, i will give them to my friends. Same goes with their partner. How is that a problem. Thats just call looking out for people. Same with the last one. If my friend's partner needs a ride home, then imma drop them home if possible. Thats just being kind and considerate. Nothing more nothing less.

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​@@kelsi5798 Exactly! Srsly, this vid shows insecurities and lack of trust in your partner, if you think your relationship need this then break you partner immediately, this relationship won't give you peace

Haha bruh ur spitting fax Lol and the way she said u gotta hate her bf Lol this is exactly why a Lotta guys go through break ups

Yea also the 2nd one am I the only one who disagrees?? They guy could genuinely be in a happy healthy relationship, most of my girl friends are in very good relationships with respecting bfs wtf should I hate them for

Guys are soooooooo delutional😂

@@melophile4916 Your opinion is as valid as your grammar.

@@anuragnathyal5889 you mean spelling?😂😂😂😂😂 if being delusional helps be delusional man.Ppl do that when reality is pathetic.

I kinda thought so too but at first I thought that maybe I'm being biased since I have a friend group with guys, girls and some couples.

Yeah, this isn't really any code that anyone needs to follow. This is just if you don't have any self control, and you believe no one has self control. Two people can be in the same room together without having intercourse lmfao. it's just weird to pretend that everyone's attracted to eachother or that your boyfriend will slip up when near another girl. Like, isn't he supposed to be dating you? If he can't handle being around other girls, why ever date that man in the first place?

literally😭 screams insecurity to me

truee ​@@kazuhakisses

honestly. especially if you’ve been friends with the guy since like birth and ur friend started dating him, like it’s okay to be friends

Siblings is a whole other thing, I still find that cute. 😂😂😂 Rules don't matter to everyone lol

I think it’s ok for her to break some rules considering that’s her brother

​@@sandiluev1honestly on this list, all are ok to break. This list is for no confusion or possible cheating to happen. What she gonna do? Fuck her brother? That's a whole other problem there lol

Honestly, this situation is ok bc they’re siblings lol

My bestfriends bf is my twin brother

She is dating

real

so basically you believe in girl code

True

@@kphoria1009not girl code is called respect

THANK YOU. Everything this girl said was about relationships, not friendship. And it was weird and shallow and like "look how good of a friend i am, I'll freeze before i wear your man's jacket"... like I would WANT my friend to take my partner's jacket if they didn't need it and my friend was cold. I think the shit she said was so toxic and childish.

@@thefckigaveflewawaywithu6904 yeahh!

@@thefckigaveflewawaywithu6904 Plus, I wouldnt want my bestfriend to hate my boyfriend?!?!

Yesssss❤

Oh my God thank you! I was like wow this female friendship is sounding very boyfriend heavy

Literally the same thought I had😂

Same! That one girl who would not return a polyester hoodie 🤣

Literally same 😭

Yall taking bout the Conan grey song or a literal drama?

@@shyreenahmed8490 not conan's song Darla it's a drama between two girls lol. The ex bestfriend had the hoodie of her friend's bf and she refused to return it to him(he gave her the hoodie because she was freezing and the friend was okay with it) and she would literally wear it every single day and make videos wearing the hoodie and says the hoodie is too pretty while it was just a plain normal hoodie. Plus she has been telling other people that she find her friend's bf pretty/handsome 💁🏿‍♀️. I hope this helps😹

😭😭😭

Literally sounds like the opposite of wanting the best for your best friend 😂

@@XPoPoRocksX frrr that's what I'm saying, this is not girl code this is some random thing someone came up with

Fr

exactly and I've seen it before what if you were friends with the boyfriend before they were dating? what if your still friends? you can't text anymore? you can't drive with them?

She meant to act like it bc if you act to kind he might have a crush more on you then his own girl (I know from experience)

then thats just on him @@Vivlove.

@@Vivlove.gurl wtf if u have to pretend so that ur bestie bf doesn’t have a crush on u them might as well dump him Yall r so delusional i swr

thats actually so cute thoughhhh

Eh one shouldnt be annoying about their dislike this is somethin u should always keep to urself outside of when ur fren vents and needs ya on her side. I take that to mean just pick her side regardless ❤ (I only ever not take besties side if its somethin shed regret) However for them it sounds like they genuinely just wanted u to be in the same pain they were in, misery loves company after all. Good for u ditchin them

Then just avoid him

Most of the things she said are absurd, not girl code 😅 In these types of situations, I think intentions matter the most. I am not gonna be best friends with you, if I don't trust you won't try to steal my boyfriend behind my back 💀

@@teyayaa6392 yh I would just avoid him to not be rude or anything

That cuts deep I think that rule for this situation isn’t needed then and congratulations on your marriage I hope you live very happy

Agreed 100% All of that "girl code shit" is wrong, like just be a good person and respect people.

Ikr!! If there's trust and respect in the relationship and friendship, it ain't a matter of concern. I'm not gonna chain my friend and boyfriend into some codes. I want them to be friends who are comfortable around each other.

I agree with you. That rule is just dumb. I'm not saying be your best friends boyfriends "BeStIe" but be nice to him and treat them both with respect

Exactly

if you treat them like that 😂.... idk

I had this same experience tho-

You see you got wrong people around you your bff was never your bff nor you bf was your bf to be honest you deserve better person because these girls code is a waste if you have best people around you

Exactly! If you can’t trust them, then they aren’t worth your time

Glad to see someone with common sense here.

Exactly

Thank you.

Agreed! My bestie is getting married this month and we've been friends since elementary school. I text her fiancee sometimes when I can't reach her. Neither of them have a problem with it

For some people it’s avoiding insecurities, for others it’s called respect

It's a high school drama kinda rules, surely "girl's" life doesn't revolve only around her boyfriend and guarding him from cheating with her friends lol it sounds so exhausting

EXACTLY

High school drama yes…. *cries in I’m still suffering this bs at twenty fucking two*

​@@plumbum9688yea Just sounds like she watched way too many teenage highschool dramas and got major trust issues to me

you know what she did was wrong but you should have been the one to do that you cant always be afraid that your friendship will be ruined if you have a crush then there is no friendship there if the friendship does end then its meant to be everything happens for a reason if you still friends youll be in pain its better to tell the truth get the best or worst outcome and move on

No, listen. What do friends do? Imagine your boyfriend and friend go to a mall/restaurant/bar together because they are good friends. Then they texted each other often. Hangout in each other houses. All without you. And you should allow it, because they are a "good friend" As someone's girl friend, we should never do that. It's literal girl code. We just interact with our friend's boyfriend in her prescence. And only contact him through her, not privately. GIRLS CODE. If you did not do this, you're the red flag. Edit: my girls... why you want to be closer with your friend's boyfriend? For what reason? Just treat them like any other human being. Like why you aim to be closer with other people's boyfriend? What is even on your mind Edit 2: for the girlie down there who keep replying me that it's okay if you want to be more intimate with YOUR BEST FRIEND'S boyfriend. Kindly take yourself to the nearby trashbin and stay there. YOU REALLY HAVE NO RESPECT TOWARD OTHER WOMEN

You wouldn't go places alone with someone else's partner, no, but you can still be good friends with their partner and your best friend

​@@ree8698I get what you're saying, but it think that that rule should be different in certain situations. Like my best friend in the whole whole is a guy. We call each other often and joke and hangout a lot. He is is basically like a girl bestfriend but a he's a boy and we have a sibling‐like relationship. We follow each other on social media I borrow his hoodies and he drives me home all the time. BUT out of nowhere he and my sister started dating. Now don't get me wrong, I love my sister and will support her no matter what but I'm not throwing the friendship that *I, MYSELF,* established and maintained for YEARS just because my sister caught feelings. And I'm glad that I didn't because my sister dumped him 4 months later because she was too high maintenance. And then she expected me to cut off all communication with him because according to girl code, your sister's opp is your opp.I didn't though because she was being a huge bitch throughout their whole relationship and them randomly dumped him (also he need a lot of emotional support because he was extremely down bad and became suicidal because he had lost his "reason for living"). Therefore I understand that you shouldn't privately text and hangout with your bestfriend's boyfriend, but if the boyfriend was your friend before hand, the rules should be bent.

These people are crazy, friendship with the homies is what my girl wants. I was friends with 2 of them before we dating. Try having a good relationship with trust. I prefer that.

Why cant everyone just be cool with each other? Like if someone likes your friend, that's good news you can also possibly be friends with them.

And a true friend has boundaries and does not cross the line.

@@opticalraven1935how is "never ever text your best friends boyfriend even tho it's about a secret birthday party" cross the line? That's just a 12 year old behavior

sorry buddy but if u saw what i saw then.. 💀

​@@xunvenile is that even necessary? Planning surprise party with her bff's boyfriend makes no sense if she really wanna throw a surprise party for her she can do it alone ,y getting too close with ur bff's boyfriend it's disgusting and comfortable

​@@GannoYommin like wtf?? If your bf and bestie cheats on you then try dont truly care for you and if you have so much insecurities then why be friends with such people and be in a relationship with a guy like that?? Seriously there are good people who are loyal and respectful. You can plan a secret birthday party with your bff's partner even bring respectful. Like how childish ?!!

Thank you

literally 💀 this video feels so demeaning esp with the “always hate ur bestie’s bf”

Fr

​@botanikalvi ong like I get not being close close cause yh but hate is crazy 💀

W TAKE BRO

As a grown woman, no, you have to be respectful of the relationship and keep your distance. I know that from experience. You can modify some things but having little interaction with him is ideal.

​@@opticalraven1935obviously that's common sense, my bestfriend's boyfriend was our mutual friend so I always used to have conversation with him it's weird if i just completely cut him off just because they r dating but ya having the boundary after they started relationship was a normal thing to do

@@opticalraven1935i think you're actually insane if you think this is a mature list and you're not ready for a relationship of any kind

​@@opticalraven1935 I don't agree! I'm friends with many of my friends boyfriends. And to me, theyre all like brothers. I dont ever "keep a distance" from any of them because theyre still my friends. I obviously still have a boundary but I hang out with many people as just friends and its never a big deal. As long as u dont try to make a move on them or be suggestive, it's fine.

I'm 28 years old and what I've seen from married couples in their 40s and higher is that RESPECT may look immature and may BE immature but if YOU want to avoid drama just obide. I promise you this video is very much a realistic expectation many men and women follow.

u r not alone in this bro, just smile and move on and with time it will be alright.

Girl, dogs bark when they don't know you . Pls don't take it serious and be depressed. Fight for yourself,learn to give savage and know that every human who is good at heart is beautiful. Be good to good people and be bad to bad .this is how our generation works . Girl no one will stand up for you but you should stand up for yourself. Know your self-worth. Build yourself to love yourself. Take care . From a girl who wants positivity for good people

Don’t let those words bother you from the outside because that’s what they want a reaction out of you, but also don’t isolate yourself with those emotions. It’s okay to feel the way you’re feeling. It’s an uncomfortable feeling, but just know that you are worthy you are beautiful, and only you matter and so, you do not care what they say about you, because you know it’s not true they don’t know shit about you, not unless they’ve lived a single second of your life, but they haven’t so let them show off the worst of themselves. ❤️

When prople are insecure they start targeting people who are living peacefully. Give them a shutup call.

Be more confident and show them who you are iiiiiiiiii ,always with you don't let others hurt you my friend 😠😤😤😤💖💋

A lot of this is context, though.

​@@opticalraven1935 of course but she said never

So Uber don’t exist.

I agree. Also most drama happens because you do something like that but don't tell the girl so it seems super suspicious. good friend would be perfectly happy with a message that says "Hey I was in a dangerous situation and I needed a ride home last night and you boyfriend gave me a ride home but I just wanted to let u know"

​@@boomlove3454safe option is the boyfriend, uber is never the safest

Insanely toxic

Right. All of these are very childish. No need to be that insecure about your relationship

Watch "marry my husband"

@@anikaetu9421 if he wants to cheat, he will. Being controlling will only make me sick and tired, and won't prevent any cheating. Been there done that, got cheated anyways😅

​@anikaetu9421 like the webtoon ? It's totally different 😭 how is following your friend bf on insta or talking to him in a good way about her, behaving like soomin (or whatever her name) ??? Especially since in the story the mc friends after reincarnation weren't cold with the love interest and it ended up well cause they weren't b!tches Edit : it's a good read and I recommend but wtf girl/boy/emby

Bet she had some code going on with the friend's bf 💀 Atp , she literally is saying that the girls code should be being lesbian

@@shafadewan3437 yoo last lines i didn't understand but yeh you are right💀

It's girl code 101

That is only part 1 of part 10 of Girls Code (i think)

@@shafadewan3437 stop hating if your not a girl then stfu she is being a true friend

Yeah rightt? Because people don't cheat and hide it when they're older, that's only 20yos and teens!

yeah I agree

I was alone with the husband of my best friend and that resulted in a huge fight cause he thought he could open up to me and i got mad. We managed to talk it out but i never wanna be alone with him again.

Whenever I text my married guy friends I include their wives (who I am also friends with). There are exceptions (like if it is about her birthday) but I actually think this is more important when you’re older/friends are married. It’s about respecting their relationship.

@@tiffanytho9676what do you mean with opening up??

Exactly! 😂

Frl lmao

Yep yep😊

Bro I always follow the, with permission to stalk him and warn her😇

Same. Why would you have to ask a person who ONLY has a crush on them? Like what? Ask the person who's social media it is.

Yeah I agree with that because although I love that she is a girl's girl I think that u should be supportive of your friends relationships and choices as long as they aren't toxic even though u want the best for them

My best friend boyfriend is also my and my other friend's friend but we all always said that she deserves better because we know what type of person this man is. My best friend never heard us and she keep told us that she had meltdown because that man has too many girl and exs around him and he keep contacting them with excuse of "they are just my friend don't be jealous" she keep crying in front of us but when we saw her with him all they do is lovey dovey. We get so confused with them and they keep it for 6 years. He changed her so much from the way she dressed to her way to talk. In the end i had 3 months trip with my best friend to avoid him but they still call each other. We studied English and she was so bad at it but she was so diligent with her studies so it break my heart so much when i overheard him told her that it's not enough. In my heart I'll be like "HOW DARE YOU STOMP HER EFFORT, YOU DON'T DESERVE HER!" But i keep my head cool because i know it's useless to be mad at her, i choose the other way, i cried in front of her, for her being disrespected while i know how beautiful she is. When we got back, they surprised me with their talk of possibly marriage. I thought that all that cry and rage will go down the drain again so i'll be happy with you if you're okay with this toxic relationship. Months later he went to our trip place to learn English too because he want to study abroad. My friend was more stable with her secured job but she felt so anxious because that mf lost contact with her for weeks and just said he was sick and at the hospital. After some more weeks of cold shoulder form him, she stalk his study place just to found him held other hand's girl romantically in the background of a documentary event of his study place. She finally lost it and block him forever. I was so confused with my euforia for being right all this 6 years but i keep it down because she need support more than ever. In the end if you have "true" bestie she can see thru your bf even if she need to stalk him or ask people around him what he truly is. We only care if you are treated what you deserve, but if you found that your bestie is just saying the worse thing about him it's either you have to check your bf twice or your bestie twice because everyone can be toxic with the wrong person.

I agree, it would definitely make her friend feel bad if she treats her friend's boyfriend badly or with disgust

real shit

Yeah my brother just went through that and they broke up over it

Right?? Like it would be so hurtful to see your own friend not liking or even respecting the person you like?? Like damn girl chill😭

All the rules are dumb and juvenile tbh. There's no need for any of these rules when everyone involved are mature adults who are in a relationship based on mutual trust (friendship or romantic).

@@tllang4187yea as a girl I officially hate “girl code”😅

Ok. I need advice because my best friend/cousin hated my crush. And then I told her I like him and now she’s telling everyone she’s dating him. Even though she has a boyfriend and my crush even said he’s not dating her. What do I do?

@@Maya69397 In that case, she is being reallyyy toxic. I may be wrong but she might be trying to make you jealous. Avoid showing that her intentions are working and confront her about her effects on her boyfriend and your crush. For example: “Hey, Why are you claiming someone that isn’t your boyfriend, is? What does your boyfriend think of this?” If directly confronting someone isn’t your thing maybe try to somewhat talk to her boyfriend or your crush about the situation and see if they can do anything? I hope this situation gets better for you 🩷

​@@jporrasg101so hating someone for dating your friend is "common sense"? Hell no.

​​​@@jporrasg101not really lmao, any relationship has to be based on trust, these SCREAM "I don't trust no one, not even my friend or myself", me and my friend are okay with everything she said is "wrong" bc if I'm with them and I get cold I will take the jacket lmao, if I want to talk about something like games or things like that with her bf, I can and will bc she knows I don't have ulterior motives lol, same with the car, if I need a ride and he can provide it, I'll accept, in fact she wold be mad if I didn't lol, and I don't belive in the "I don't like your bf, find someone better" cuz if I see that they are happy and he treats her right, well who the fuck am I to say otherwise, hope this help open your mind ^^ Ps: I forgot the social media one, well, if I want to follow him, I can, that doesn't mean I want him lol Ps2: by any relationship means that we trust eachother and trust the bf

@@allieztar nonono I actually agree for all of the other ones except that one sry for not clarifying

​@@allieztarnot exactly "hating" but to show a lack of intrest or showing them some form of boaundry

​@@jporrasg101 there are people who really support this shit...??? Get a life...a real human life...

You literally sound like the kindest person out here , your bestie is very lucky to have you 😊

@@jeonjungkook4984 actually it's me who's lucky to have her haha so sweet of you to say this! 🤍

Gurl, my bestie once had a relationship similar to your bestie and it didnt end well. I went from respecting him to hating him in like 3 minutes

@@chococaramella5405 sorry to hear that!!! in this case yeah, but unless he does something awful, Support is my second name here

Hate in the sense that you do not find him attractive and want to have very limited contact with him.

there isnt only 2 girl code rules

Those are 2 rules that are very important

On the second "rule" she could just be a scammer or a trafficker so be careful in doing that

​@@nighttimeedits-noqrs6695 yes it is actually

YASSS

This is the ONLY case where hoodie thing is acceptable

Good 1😂

Well, as a sister who been suffering for 6 years, I will confirm that I intentionally being a third wheel out of jealousy that they been giving me. One stole my brother and one stole my bestie :)) I admit it’s kinda fun watching them being uncomfortable.

I can understand gurls who are in this situation 😂 I'm also got damn jealous for bestie more 😅lol

😂😂😂

Yeah I was also thinking that. You'd end up becoming a toxic friend instead of a loyal friend if you don't make the judgement rationally 😅

Same I was thinking that topi

She is not telling anyone to hate that person seriously 😂😂😂. It's just an expression that you should be hating him in a fun jealous way 😂😂😂

Jealous of the fact that you have to divide your best friends love with that boyfriend (Not jealous of the best friend 😅😅)

@@kritikaawasthi7555 now that make sense

Seriously!!! Plus the level of respect for women that shows too! Totally a keeper move!

I think if he ask for permission or if he tell it to you , then I guess it's okay? But if they didn't?? It's okay but I might overthink.

​@@mainexx1352 Actually IF the guy got permission from his girlfriend first before he offered the friend ride then that's fine but if not then you need to think again!

But he better call and let you know, because even if you trust him with your life, the minute you see him driving your friend unannounced the first thing that'll happen is a fight and cheating accusations

Why?Does he think she can't drive because she is a woman?

Exactly. All these rules exists for the temporary friends or just acquaintance. Because if your friend is not that close to you, you will be in your limits. But these rules just doesn't apply for best friends. Because I'm basically friends with the guys that my best friend has crush on (or her bf) If they broke up, I would not hate anybody lol. But I will support the person who I believe is not at fault. Imagine hating your friend's boyfriend even if your friend is at fault 🤡 Texting best friend's bf and taking their jacket, or whatever they offer is not at all problematic if there is trust in the friendship lol. My best friend is not jealous of me to get offended about such silly things lol

Agreed

EXACTLY THANK YOU

My «best friend» startes dating my crush, and i was so heart broken becouse i had liked him for months. And she was like sorry pls forgive me, she literally broke the girl code.

Me too

​@@Littlemochi143 at this point I just feel best friends are nothing but a scam.

Why is that actually a problem? Don't you need both people to be attracted to each other and compatibility to be together? Why would someone not want that for their best friend if it doesn't work for oneself and one's crush?

@@toni2309 I personally think this happened before the writer above had a chance to confess. So instead of the writer knowing he/she had no chance, the friend stole it altogether. In that context, that friend is not a "friend" in any aspect, no matter how nice they were before.

Thank you! 😂😂😂 Half of these rules just sound like subjecting yourself to a worse condition.

I was shocked when she said that the fact that where I live it gets to -40 lil bro but I guess she lives in California

why wouldn’t you have your OWN jacket in freezing weather?

​@@goldenhourss fashion reasons maybe

right like if i had a boyfriend i'll want him to take care of my friends too ? especially if they're all friends ? the list is so immature

clear defined boundaries are at the core of the code. It's not necessarily negative. Besties are above the gray area that a violation of these rules could make a possibility.

Yeah as a female these honestly make no sense to me. If I'm dating someone I should have enough trust in him that it renders all of these rules irrelevant. If I can't trust him to give my best friend a ride home how could I trust him enough existing in the general populace to actually date him? Plus a good guy is someone who watches out for your female friends out of respect. Offering them a ride home in particular should be seen as a positive imo.

@@BldElfPrince That too. Like, why are we with men we don’t trust? Why do we have friends who we’d worry about doing that😭? Normal relationships consist of setting healthy boundaries and having trust around them.

@@filmsfoodie Agreed. I am 100% for setting boundaries. However, I also think those boundaries should be reasonable and mature. “No following any socials” “never borrow a jacket” “No ride home” are just kinda… middle school/high school. I really feel setting well thought out and meaningful boundaries is easier for everyone involved.

@@BldElfPrince it's not rules for men, girl. It's for US girlies, we should not think of our friend's husband/boyfriend as friend material that can be texted privately anytime, asked for help, asked him to drive us home, etc. everything we do should respect the feelings of our friend first. That's it. That's the point of the video You can trust your man, your man can do anything, he can even be best friend with your own best friend. BUT if you are the FRIEND. How would you act around your friend's lover is telling what kind of person you are

Ur point is valid but some specific ppl who pretend to be friends do the following stuffs with toxic intentions hence she stated them.

@@Musa_hi i know and that doesn't come under girl code it's normal human decency

THANK YOU. Boyfriends are human too. If I'm honest, if my SO was being treated poorly or like an alien by a friend for the sake of maintaining girlcode then that 'friend' can girlcode her way out of my life. My SO is too sweet to be treated like he needs to be guilty of something. This isn't high-school. My SO is an adult and knows how to swipe to the left. If friendgroups can't do that then there isn't the trust there and therefore they are not friends to begin with. They're just people you hang out with.

straight centered relationship advice is so true tho, because I've never EVER in lgbtq communities came across this sort of bs, but once i enter cishets spaces, those sorts of codes are a norm somehow ?????

@@yunderaly exactly!!

He got roasted 💀💀

yea cause tf is she saying 😭

Exactly cuz I have 2 friends since midle school and now they are together so what now? Should I end up my friendship with him or stop texting him. Maaan this is ridiculous 😂

for real this some insane insecurity masked as "girl code"

Fr. Treating your friends partners with kindness and respect is “girl code”. Not all these silly rules that don’t make sense 😭.

they’re not afraid of being misunderstood, they’re afraid of hurting their bsf

Bro you have 295 likes.. Like wow😭

why what happened​@@sejalchelani2406

I've dated my friend's brother, imagine me wanting her to understand this girl code 😅

same! one of my best friends got married to my favourite cousin!best thing ever! we have so much fun together when we play UNO 😂

That’s different lol

I’m sorry but family comes first so that situation is definitely different.

Fr, and also, all of those "rules" were probably made by insecure people that need everything "under their control"

True, like hating on your friends partner for no reason? Never texting him personally for a surprise party for your friend

Well this day and age things changed, its not about trust from personal experince trust breaks easily nd esp 2b in car alone with shes right... things are tempting not everyone can be trustworthy even if they are.

Yeah cuz touching a jacket sounds really stupid 😂 it's just a jacket does a jacket mean you are cheating or something? 😂

Finally someone said it

LITERALLY, THANK YOU! The amount of women that agree with these takes are ignoring the huge problem of insecurity laying underneath these rules. All these rules do is tiptoe around the problem.

Yeah and why do we need rules to be bestfriends with someone 🤷‍♀️ I mean if we get along that’s enough, some ppl overthink too much.

Damn at least someone said it, YES all those rules were really immature

These are just basic boundaries anyone meaning even applied to men. Though few could be an exception depending upon situation and emergency. You create solid boundaries between personal relationships and friendships. "Creating and maintaining boundaries is maturity. "

I fuckin love this comment thank you for this!! Woman code like this needs more rep!🤍✨️

Best comment ever ❤

Its not about being mad but being weird. Also yes ask the best friend first. We all would be weirded out if our bestie did not ask for our help or permission if we could not help and have both of them in car alone suddenly.

@@cutirose I’m just saying if you ask for permission it doesn’t have to be weird. But, wouldn’t you be more comfortable in your bestie’s clothes and in your besties car before her boyfriend’s if you have no bad intentions? It’s not about using his clothes or asking for his help, it’s about not telling her or not choosing her first

This right here ❤

@@sofiarolfranco3381 No no I mean its weird for these before asking her or informing her and if she's fine with it. Because everyone is different with different boundaries.

@@humairamughal And what am I doing? Baking cookies? My view obviously conflicts with hers on this issue, which I'm also allowed to express.

Amen sister, I'm younger than both of you (18) and I've always believed this girl codes were ridiculous... of course there are boundaries you shouldn't cross with your besties' partner, but not talking to each other unless your friend is present? Saying they're not worth enough to date them? It's giving middle school dating all over again and deep trust issues. If you can't trust your friend or your partner to not cheat or whatever DON'T have that people in your life!

Ig

​@@humairamughalAnd her "view" is making her seem insecure. Hating on someone for just simply dating your friend? Being mad at your friend for touching their stuff to help them? ASKING to follow someone? Hell no.

Bro took this personally 💀

Why would you even text your best friend’s boyfriend though? Like there’s no reason unless y’all are already friends or it’s an emergency. Otherwise that’s just weird

@@huggleresaixPeople are allowed to be friends with their friends’ partners 🤡

​@@huggleresaixIs like you don't allow your girlfriend have male friends because you're INSECURE, but wow, yass, we are talking about women shit and their boyfriend so because he is a man we can't allow my boyfriend text my bestfriend!! I have a serious question for you: Why your bestfriend is your bestfriend in the first place? Why your boyfriend is your boyfriend in the first place? Is all about trust, and if you have these issues, you should leave behind the people that is making you feel insecure. Have a nice day.

@@huggleresaixbecoming friends? So it’s more fun to hang out with your friend who now has a boyfriend and so she doesn’t feel bad about always having him with her?

@@huggleresaixyeah, i think it’s more in the scenario that they are already friends bc ik that happened with me n my bestie n her bf bc we were all pretty good friends before they started dating lol

agreed, to me it's just kind of silly to act like this if you're all grown adults. I don't hate my bestie's bf at all, because I can see he's a great guy and he makes her really happy and so I'm happy for her. She knows I would never even think about breaking any actual boundaries and likewise, I trust her 100% around my bf. It's normal to just be friends with people lol

​@@spaghetti4659 I took that part as more of a "depending on the situation" or "if you can relate" type. There's no reason to hate your best friend's partner when they're obviously caring and good towards them. It's one thing to dislike some of their decisions in a given situation, but hate on them as a whole is next level madness. Personally, that part of the video fits right into my alley since I srsly hate my bsf's boyfriend. And it's not out of something as silly as "he forgot about their anniversary" thing. It's more of "pushing all the faults to her whenever there's a problem with his behavior". So uhh, depends on the situation.

Yeah, to me personally some of these these “girl code” rules clearly say you’re heavily insecure and don’t trust your friends around your mans… if you have to clarify rules like these, maybe it’s best to just get better friends

​​@@Tigerkittymew For me, It's more of I don't want to build any "close" friendship to anybody's partner in general. Even if it's with my best friend's man/woman. Not because I'm insecure or I don't trust her to not misunderstand the situation, but more of "You're my best friend's partner, and that's it. We don't have to exchange numbers, befriend eo, talk comfortably, or come to any of your hangout invitations with other friends". A preference, ig? You catch my drift? Maybe it's because I'm an introvert and only prefers to surround myself with people I'm super close with. And to be fair, these "girl codes" she's making a content about was also a "if it's relatable then it is. if it's not then it's not." type of thing. Everyone have different opinions and rules they lived by to begin with. Just like the original creator of this short, I live by this "girl codes" in silence. No one in our friend group ever had to vocalized these things. I just prefer to do things this way. Plus, you can never really tell if your bsf's starting to misunderstood a situation, or that they're actually jealous. People can change so much within just a couple of months, especially when they're in a relationship. I love to mind manners, and not cause any discomfort to any of my friends unintentionally. Guess I'm just a worrywart 😂. Oh and just because there's people like me who thinks this way, doesn't mean we actually treat our bsf's partner horribly, giving them the cold shoulder. NO. We just prefer to keep it casual, and straight to the point whenever they try to converse with us. uhmm it became so long all of a sudden, but I do hope you gain another insight on these type of "silly" codes people actually **do.

​@@sianndd_totally agree. I only learned about these girl codes today but I've always lived by them simply because my friends' boyfriends/husbands are guys I know somewhat and I usually have no business with them, so I treat them as such. We talk cordially when we meet and that's pretty much it.

I talk to my best friends boyfriend alone a lot bc hes my friend too, and shes so chill like that and its so amazing. The loyalty between them is honestly remarkable and i love them both so much. We get along so well in that friend group and hes usually the one who always listen to me rant about crushes and life. Its awesome

But from the other side of the spectrum, i had a friend in a different group that knew i liked a guy for a whole YEAR and we had a thing for a month but he broke it off. I was hospitalised shortly after that and not a WEEK had passed, and they started dating. Gladly, i dont know anyone else like this.

But out of respect though, for him and her

Completely true

Isn’t that the message😂😂

She sounds exaggerating things, but she is right. My (ex) bestie stole my (ex) bf because one of the girl codes. I was so stupid.

exactly.

Nawww 💀

I'm trippin for her 💀

I’m ded 💀

My Bestie who will never have a boyfriends because their neptunic

Then you gotta hate yourself??