A great way to discern a man's character is to look at how he treats and talks to waiters and people in the service industry. I dated a man who was so rude to waiters, would talk to them like they were stupid. I broke up with him after that, don't want to deal with a guy like that.
@rach3p3tty6 жыл бұрын
Stefanie Medina completely agree with you.
@Tyrone-Ward6 жыл бұрын
How did he treat your though?
@sarahelizabeth89086 жыл бұрын
Completely agree. If he cant love the people around him that he doesnt know personally, he cant love me that he does know personally. Love this topic!
@IzzyNChrist6 жыл бұрын
this is a great way to evaluate people in general I think
@fifi69585 жыл бұрын
very true
@kristianongfilipina10416 жыл бұрын
just yesterday, my fiance (whom i had known for more than 15 yrs) and i had a meaningful conversation about our theological beliefs and our insights on how our future marriage and family will be like, by God's grace. thanks for your videos!
@girldefined6 жыл бұрын
Wow, that's great!!
@kikiiwu6 жыл бұрын
It's great to ask questions and these questions are obviously great. However, after asking the questions, then you need to observe, watch and study them. I believe asking others too is very useful. The truth is some people can lie! If they've hung around Christians long enough, they can figure out the right things to say and toss them out when you ask. Being observant with these questions as a guideline is more useful I think. From your interaction with this person, seeing how they actually act and do the things they say they do is far more revealing.
@favourafinni9 ай бұрын
You're right. People can say anything and tell you what you want to hear. But it's their actions that really matter.
@lesleycervantes25376 жыл бұрын
Don’t got a relationship but I’m still going to watch this cause if it ever happens I best be prepared 💓💓
@hundredmoreye4rs6 жыл бұрын
Lesley Cervantes that was my logic for watching this as well 😂
@jordynfrost62064 жыл бұрын
Me toooooo
@1wickedgroove3 жыл бұрын
Well, did you learn something from it?
@PaulandMorgan6 жыл бұрын
I feel like the question, “Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?” could come off kinda intimidating, but yes love this topic and think it’s super important to know where each other is at on the big life issues and get a feel for each other’s intentions. Our first date was full of deep questions!
@SnowdriftBoy6 жыл бұрын
I thought it was the best question! 🙂
@brooklynolivia25123 жыл бұрын
Yeah it was a Best questions
@thipimotsoare42283 жыл бұрын
Its the most important question
@caramiller18066 жыл бұрын
You should talk about other topics, like mental health
@bellacortez6 жыл бұрын
Alex miller this gets tricky.because your bible believing spirit led christian would say they are demonic attacks. Your religious person would say there is something wrong with your brain.
@victoriabjordahl55416 жыл бұрын
You mean topics that matter? Don't worry, you won't find any of that here.
@victoriabjordahl55416 жыл бұрын
Victoria Bjordahl 2 seconds ago Probably to be cured by a lobotomy, electric shock therapy, or an exorcism.
@caramiller18066 жыл бұрын
It’s sad that people really think that demons are attacking if you have a mental illness ... I just can’t work through that thought process
@peacelovecigarettes6 жыл бұрын
The bible would have you believe that mental health problems are just demonic attacks. Take it from someone whose mother blessed me with holy water every time I had a schizophrenic episode as a child.
@SageMacBunny6 жыл бұрын
Can you please talk about something other than men and relationships? Gosh, why is your channel so focused on men when it's called girl defined? Is your life defined by men and relationships with them? Ugh there is so much more to being a godly woman than just getting married and popping out babies.
@janiejackson2346 жыл бұрын
SageMacBunny they have videos about single life and living a fulfilling and holy life being single :) also I’m sure they get a lot of questions about these kinds of things about love and relationships!
@SageMacBunny6 жыл бұрын
But it's still focused on "what to do in the meantime, while waiting for marriage". Does that make it much better?
@abigailb91546 жыл бұрын
They just published a book about relationships so they’re making so many relationship videos to kind of hype up their new book. If you scroll down a little they have many many videos on other topics.
@arbretree54636 жыл бұрын
SageMacBunny If you're looking for channels which talk about godly womanhood in more general terms, I would strongly recommend the following channels: -Sadie Robertson -Jordan Lee Dooley -James & Lea D - Philia Ministries -Emily Wilson
@simrankoirala58635 жыл бұрын
This was a really dumb comment. People make videos on what they know best and want to talk about. Everyone has their thing. But bc she's a woman suddenly she's jusy focused on popping babies and getting married. Nice
@Dillisful6 жыл бұрын
I thought this video was great. Could you do a video on how to make healthy friendships?
@Julia-jm3le6 жыл бұрын
GreenTeaFrappeFox Yeees, I would love a video about friendship too
@mada73936 жыл бұрын
I love you, girls❤️you're like big sisters to me, I wish I had a sister like you😻Thank you for your great advice❤️I will purchase your book soon, can't wait🌞😍
@SwiftDraKon4 жыл бұрын
I have a twin! Thanks btw,
@madisonthomas24965 жыл бұрын
Some great tips in this video. Personally I think its important to get to know someone on more of a friend basis and ask some of these questions before stepping into an intentional dating relationship because you might find that when you are in the relationship you're intentional and hoping that it works out you may be blinded by red flags or differences that may come up throughout asking these questions. Just my thoughts :) EDIT: I got to know my now husband as a friend first and we asked alot of these questions on our first "date" but did not become exclusive or bf/gf until we had asked deep questions as friends pursuing the possibility of a future relationship just to keep our minds clearer so it wouldn't be so devastating if we had to go separate ways :)
@alygon6 жыл бұрын
Your message is so wise. I am going to use your advise. Thank you very much for inspiring us.
@caitlinjoy63326 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful! I'm not in a relationship, but I'll definitely be asking these questions in the future 👍🏻
@campbellchristian72106 жыл бұрын
This advice came just at the right time! Will definitely be looking into the book. Thank you! XOXO
@veronica9446 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is deeper than I thought it would be. Thanks for sharing!
@rebeccajungwirth50696 жыл бұрын
I think this is one of your greatest videos ever!! Love your Chanel. Could you do a video on dressing modestly when you exercise?
@user-gh5xp3ss5u10 ай бұрын
1)what does your visionof a happy family 2)How would u maintain purity , is it important to you. 3)Can u explain the gospel to me, 4)what's your view on church involvement....how would u lead your family spiritually 5) What is your testimony...wen u gave your life to Jesus Your views on health and exercise Views on finances and debt. Do u see us making a great marriage Why do I like him Is it a good time to date What his priorities reveal about him What do people close to me think of this relationship. Do you have red flags ..deal with them
@WeShareTheSameAffliction6 жыл бұрын
These are amazing questions to ask, very helpful and timely. Great video! 👍
@lawalronke19232 жыл бұрын
This question seams hard especially if you are not from happy family yourself
@user-ew1pk6uk4s6 ай бұрын
No sense in thinking or doing things perfectly. I just forsee I maybe in long distance relationship since I'm still single
@itsbelledivine6 жыл бұрын
I love all your videos & the advice but I really like this one-to-one style as well! Please can we have more of these from both of you!😊💙
@maisg35136 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Kristen and Bethany, for writing this book and for these questions! Very timely and helpful! :)
@emilymoore47236 жыл бұрын
Wow I absolutely loved this video. It seemed so much more sincere and from the heart.
@icygirl973 жыл бұрын
I'm not Christian. I am muslim but this was so helpful thank you so much!!
@alexandriaingham33306 жыл бұрын
Could you guys make a video on when your church doesn't stand up for you and help you in times of need? We just left our church, because of a very serious situation involving the pastor not not "shepherding his flock". I want to know your thoughts on this. I feel myself backsliding, since we aren't going to church currently. Thanks for all of your amazing videos!
@ruthtshib6 жыл бұрын
Great video, I keep watching your dating advice for when I’m ready to date and I see that I may not be ready for a relationship. The thing is in today’s generation (well our generation) when asking someone closer to him or me can be insulting to one another or make one another feel like we don’t trust each other, so how exactly do we go about with “questions to ask those close to him” without coming across as insulting or projecting a lack of trust? Ps I ordered the book and I can’t wait to receive it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@leslic37326 жыл бұрын
Love this! Thank you so much! 💕
@makeupbymarie27826 жыл бұрын
I loved this thank you so much ❤️
@rachelwilliams20666 жыл бұрын
Does he understand the gospel? What makes you so sure you have the correct understanding? Fair enough if you want to know if you're on the same page but it's a little condescending to imply that he's not a genuine "Christ follower" if he doesn't understand the gospel in the same way you do...
@Angel-id2iq6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your advice! I love this channel! :)
@theartblogger91416 жыл бұрын
Such a great video! I love these types of videos
@micaiahgrace87306 жыл бұрын
I loved this video! It was very insightful :)
@alexandraa15826 жыл бұрын
This subject girls, if you could just change it from time to time... As I seeit, your channel should be called "Weekly christian relationship advice".
@theartblogger91416 жыл бұрын
it's because they're trying to promote their new book about relationships
@sarahoconnor48646 жыл бұрын
I know! They have such a great platform but don’t seem to reaching their potential.
@girldefined6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing, Alexandra. We have a specific focus on relationships right now in conjunction with the release of Love Defined. We've done a wide range of videos in the past and will continue to in the future. :) Thanks for watching!
@OceanaGottaReadEmAll6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing! Keep them coming!
@walkingodsfavor80886 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your videos!! ❤❤
@arbretree54636 жыл бұрын
These questions are excellent! Thank you so much for sharing
@bellaa39036 жыл бұрын
Thanks this was so helpful:)
@MrChikamogbo6 жыл бұрын
Great word...thanks for this.
@saralilafraiche6 жыл бұрын
do you think having different political views can make or break a relationship? btw, I LOVE this video!
@stefaniemedina146 жыл бұрын
Depends. My husband and I are pretty opposite politically but we don't talk about politics so it doesn't affect us. If people like to debate and talk about politics it can be a problem. I know some couples who had lots of problems for months after this past election, because they were fighting about politics a lot.
@Kkbbnay6 жыл бұрын
Yes. Politics are always reflective of someone's moral stance and I can't trust someone with questionable morals.
@MultiStarchick6 жыл бұрын
I say it depends if it matters to each other. I'm a conservative married to a libertarian while there is plenty of agreement between us, we are both passionate about it so the differences are areas we had to work out.
@rigtjeh6 жыл бұрын
I think the question is: Do you?
@robinj14826 жыл бұрын
leicanoct Anyone who believes in Christ can call themselves Christian. I’d say Christ cared about the poor and about equal opportunities, do you?
@franciekrissanchez32136 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!! I really need this one 😊😊
@breezymango41134 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making these videos. I am so sorry for the absolutely DISTURBED and sick creatures harrassing and leaving repulsive comments on here.🤢🥺 Please stay strong and hang in there!👍😊
@sandran47834 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I just placed an order. Looking forward to reading
@JJ-nt1yt6 жыл бұрын
Thanks you you inspire young girls like me! I’m so grateful for you! ❤️❤️❤️
@nourahalmuhaid99133 жыл бұрын
I asked my boyfriend a few questions and he told me its too early for these questions and that im not getting the full answer, ive decided that hes not yet feeling open enough for deep questions, i dont know what to do.
@K9amilo902 жыл бұрын
How did it end?
@collegechristians32916 жыл бұрын
Awesome!!! Thank you so much for sharing these!!!!
@randomname29956 жыл бұрын
oh boy I found a christian
@Clauds715 жыл бұрын
Thought provoking, thanks Kristen 😊🙏
@thiaraherrera69773 жыл бұрын
Who do I go to when I dont have that older and wiser person to go to with my red flags?
@abracadrabra67186 жыл бұрын
Really interesting and an important topic👍
@missr52386 жыл бұрын
I love love what you do.. Love from Zimbabwe
@tinon65876 жыл бұрын
Miss R I'm Zimbabwean too😃
@hundredmoreye4rs6 жыл бұрын
Ahhh me too
@wendyandy96926 жыл бұрын
Wendy here! from Zim too
@sk8rgrlteen6 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Kristen!
@anikaaiar13216 жыл бұрын
WOW! Great Advice!!
@swpministry6 жыл бұрын
Great questions!!
@undercoverhamster25494 жыл бұрын
So I printed out the questions like you said and started asking him them on our first date but I only got up to question 4 and he went to the toilet and never came back. So then I went to his friends and started to ask them the friends questions and they walked away from me! I haven't given up though and am going to ambush him on the way to work tmrw and try and get Qu4 and 5 out! Can't wait!!! Thanks for your advice :D
@Kingsdaughter71116 жыл бұрын
much needed....
@ellabrown29656 жыл бұрын
This video has helped me so much! Thank you!!
@aprendeconleslie6 жыл бұрын
Thank You!
@kelizabethg16 жыл бұрын
I wish I would have had this insight when I was younger. Thanks so much for sharing.
@abhijithvipin18253 жыл бұрын
Imagine her going to his friend to ask a question and she goes so what do you think is his view on politics
@harrietr67126 жыл бұрын
So thankful for this.. definitely something I can apply to my life right now X.
@HelenRebecca19963 жыл бұрын
Arriving late but this was brilliantly helpful, thanks!
@ZiggyLu-og3zp2 жыл бұрын
Very good. I was hoping this would be Christ centered. Thanks so much!
@scarlettadkins93115 жыл бұрын
I got in a relationship in someone 2 weeks ago.
@thankheavenforseveneleven55223 жыл бұрын
Did it last?
@neleschuler25266 жыл бұрын
Very helpfull Video, thanks!
@CarlaTravels6 жыл бұрын
Where’s Bethany???
@hannajoy70056 жыл бұрын
CarlaTravels on Instagram stories Kristen said that Bethany had a migraine and that's why she wasn't in the video
@CarlaTravels6 жыл бұрын
hanna joy thank you for letting me know. Hope she’s feeling better let’s pray🙏🏼
@leratobosman5 жыл бұрын
Read "think like a man and act like a lady"... it's really a fun read and relationshippy...
@lissylategan6 жыл бұрын
Great content 👍🏼
@hamisisalmah87643 жыл бұрын
This if you are not a born again Christian will not help you am muslim am conservative but uhv totally confused me
@tapywp3 жыл бұрын
Great video!
@alliem94046 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this! Great start for a brainstorming session
@KelseyOnSocial4 жыл бұрын
What are some red flags to be concerned with ?
@LoveJasmine348 Жыл бұрын
Great questions
@Benze12216 жыл бұрын
It's really true we should be aware of their political views. It can be a division factor in relationship. I have seen couples divorce just because of conflicting political views. Incase you're a Trump Fan You may not to marry somebody who is a die hard fan of Hillary. (haha jk)
@danielafranco91206 жыл бұрын
heeeey LOVE YOUR CHANEL!!! im new haha so... im dating this guy, well not officially dating, but as we say, we're getting to know eachother, but we want to be in a relationship, so yeah is it to soon to ask him this question? should i wait till we're officially dating? (sorry my english i'm latina hahaha)
@lebanonliban89315 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much sister may Jesus bless you live 🌸🌹
@Pandadown92446 жыл бұрын
I want this book.
@newagedeception39866 жыл бұрын
Please pray for my salvation. Thank you
@hundredmoreye4rs6 жыл бұрын
NewAge Deception praying
@newagedeception39866 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@dancingformysavior39715 жыл бұрын
Have you accepted Jesus?
@malcilraeure13644 жыл бұрын
Have you accepted Jesus as your personal Lord and Saviour?
@TheMrpalid2 жыл бұрын
Salvation is in Allah. Worship the creator and ask for forgiveness. Go to one message foundation KZfaq channel
@rigtjeh6 жыл бұрын
Hey Kristen, I just decided I really want to buy your book. But when I used the link in the description under OUR INFO (becaude the first link doesnt work!), I came to the site where I could buy it. But it was really different, like, green with flowers. Of course, I just want to make sure I've got the right version. The one you are holding has the questions and I do want those in it. Can you please tell me what to do? Is the green one a newer version or something? Or maybe the one your holding? Someone watching all the way over from The Netherlands :), Rigtje
@savedgal59746 жыл бұрын
Check amazon. That is where I got mine!
@girldefined6 жыл бұрын
Sorry, the link was broken. Here's the correct link: www.girldefined.com/lovedefined
@rigtjeh6 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Revelation_7.5_King_of_Judah6 жыл бұрын
Bless you Kristen and your precious sister Bethany now and forever for all eternity in the name of our beloved Savior Yeshua Jesus Christ☻☻☻
@JohnSmith-vw9rn6 жыл бұрын
A guy should never ask a girl how many kids she wants on a date
@ML-di8lt5 жыл бұрын
While I disagree with a lot of their videos (on the basis that I'm not a believer), I still think questions like these are very important. Now, I won't ask someone to explain The Gospel to me, but if that were important to you this is solid advice.
@alexlove94634 жыл бұрын
Is this church relationship? Or what because every questions seems to be for Christian people relationship!
@jyothi09896 жыл бұрын
Nice video....is this book available online???
@arbretree54636 жыл бұрын
You can find it on their website: www.girldefined.com/lovedefined
@lexiegreen45016 жыл бұрын
Is you're book being sold in Barnes N Noble?
@girldefined6 жыл бұрын
Yes! :)
@phungynhi21462 жыл бұрын
Chúng ta chỉ nên xem xét hành động của ah ta chứ hỏi cũng k làm được thì cũng k ổn
@kennithschjoth20245 жыл бұрын
Was after relationship questions, not religious ones.
@zubaerchaudhari82676 жыл бұрын
Hello
@Annie-xb8xx6 жыл бұрын
"Y'all" .....
@Nataleeiscool3 жыл бұрын
How early is TOO EARLY?
@SamaraMorgan19705 жыл бұрын
I don't know why but you come across much more authentic and friendly when you talk to us alone. However, I think some of these questions would scare most people away, especially at the beginning of a relationship, when most of us try to be fun and do nice things and get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere, not debate about politics. just a thought...
@tiana_2014 Жыл бұрын
Why not put in the description that it's more for people who are Christians? Purity, push me closer to Christ, ask people in your church...
@anetabatalo685810 ай бұрын
Bruh such a long intro
@ngamreichonks35033 жыл бұрын
Wowww
@YFL.1112 жыл бұрын
Can you explain the gospel to me? 😂 come on that sounds too much like a religion exam, a date should be more comfortable and friendly!
@staceylynn879610 ай бұрын
I stopped watching once we got to “Christ follower”
@marinafdez92866 жыл бұрын
Why do you assume we’re going to date a Christian man?
@marinafdez92866 жыл бұрын
Brave Awaken but why can’t Christian girls date non Christian boys... or girls? Just asking, I don’t mean to be rude
@brad33786 жыл бұрын
Marina Fernandez Cardenas They will be excommunicated if they date outside the cult.
@samanthahopkins43676 жыл бұрын
that comment had better quality than the actual vid
@marinafdez92866 жыл бұрын
leicanoct because you like the person maybe?
@jennifergonzalez91295 жыл бұрын
Bc it’s part of being obedient to Gods word . He knows what’s best for us . 2 Corinthians 6 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
@jasmynealeah25226 жыл бұрын
First
@Huitasunna6 жыл бұрын
Have this cookie: #
@jasmynealeah25226 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@lilyseestheworld78656 жыл бұрын
Disclaimer: Believers are preferable to be brough into a relationship. Unbelievers can have very skewed perspective ;)