A great way to discern a man's character is to look at how he treats and talks to waiters and people in the service industry. I dated a man who was so rude to waiters, would talk to them like they were stupid. I broke up with him after that, don't want to deal with a guy like that.

just yesterday, my fiance (whom i had known for more than 15 yrs) and i had a meaningful conversation about our theological beliefs and our insights on how our future marriage and family will be like, by God's grace. thanks for your videos!

It's great to ask questions and these questions are obviously great. However, after asking the questions, then you need to observe, watch and study them. I believe asking others too is very useful. The truth is some people can lie! If they've hung around Christians long enough, they can figure out the right things to say and toss them out when you ask. Being observant with these questions as a guideline is more useful I think. From your interaction with this person, seeing how they actually act and do the things they say they do is far more revealing.

Don’t got a relationship but I’m still going to watch this cause if it ever happens I best be prepared 💓💓

I feel like the question, “Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?” could come off kinda intimidating, but yes love this topic and think it’s super important to know where each other is at on the big life issues and get a feel for each other’s intentions. Our first date was full of deep questions!

You should talk about other topics, like mental health

Can you please talk about something other than men and relationships? Gosh, why is your channel so focused on men when it's called girl defined? Is your life defined by men and relationships with them? Ugh there is so much more to being a godly woman than just getting married and popping out babies.

I thought this video was great. Could you do a video on how to make healthy friendships?

I love you, girls❤️you're like big sisters to me, I wish I had a sister like you😻Thank you for your great advice❤️I will purchase your book soon, can't wait🌞😍

Some great tips in this video. Personally I think its important to get to know someone on more of a friend basis and ask some of these questions before stepping into an intentional dating relationship because you might find that when you are in the relationship you're intentional and hoping that it works out you may be blinded by red flags or differences that may come up throughout asking these questions. Just my thoughts :) EDIT: I got to know my now husband as a friend first and we asked alot of these questions on our first "date" but did not become exclusive or bf/gf until we had asked deep questions as friends pursuing the possibility of a future relationship just to keep our minds clearer so it wouldn't be so devastating if we had to go separate ways :)

Your message is so wise. I am going to use your advise. Thank you very much for inspiring us.

This was so helpful! I'm not in a relationship, but I'll definitely be asking these questions in the future 👍🏻

This advice came just at the right time! Will definitely be looking into the book. Thank you! XOXO

Wow! This is deeper than I thought it would be. Thanks for sharing!

I think this is one of your greatest videos ever!! Love your Chanel. Could you do a video on dressing modestly when you exercise?

1)what does your visionof a happy family 2)How would u maintain purity , is it important to you. 3)Can u explain the gospel to me, 4)what's your view on church involvement....how would u lead your family spiritually 5) What is your testimony...wen u gave your life to Jesus Your views on health and exercise Views on finances and debt. Do u see us making a great marriage Why do I like him Is it a good time to date What his priorities reveal about him What do people close to me think of this relationship. Do you have red flags ..deal with them

These are amazing questions to ask, very helpful and timely. Great video! 👍

This question seams hard especially if you are not from happy family yourself

I love all your videos & the advice but I really like this one-to-one style as well! Please can we have more of these from both of you!😊💙

Thank you so much, Kristen and Bethany, for writing this book and for these questions! Very timely and helpful! :)

Wow I absolutely loved this video. It seemed so much more sincere and from the heart.

I'm not Christian. I am muslim but this was so helpful thank you so much!!

Could you guys make a video on when your church doesn't stand up for you and help you in times of need? We just left our church, because of a very serious situation involving the pastor not not "shepherding his flock". I want to know your thoughts on this. I feel myself backsliding, since we aren't going to church currently. Thanks for all of your amazing videos!

Great video, I keep watching your dating advice for when I’m ready to date and I see that I may not be ready for a relationship. The thing is in today’s generation (well our generation) when asking someone closer to him or me can be insulting to one another or make one another feel like we don’t trust each other, so how exactly do we go about with “questions to ask those close to him” without coming across as insulting or projecting a lack of trust? Ps I ordered the book and I can’t wait to receive it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Love this! Thank you so much! 💕

I loved this thank you so much ❤️

Does he understand the gospel? What makes you so sure you have the correct understanding? Fair enough if you want to know if you're on the same page but it's a little condescending to imply that he's not a genuine "Christ follower" if he doesn't understand the gospel in the same way you do...

Thank you for your advice! I love this channel! :)

Such a great video! I love these types of videos

I loved this video! It was very insightful :)

This subject girls, if you could just change it from time to time... As I seeit, your channel should be called "Weekly christian relationship advice".

Thank you so much for sharing! Keep them coming!

I absolutely love your videos!! ❤❤

These questions are excellent! Thank you so much for sharing

Thanks this was so helpful:)

Great word...thanks for this.

do you think having different political views can make or break a relationship? btw, I LOVE this video!

Thank you for this!! I really need this one 😊😊

Thank you for making these videos. I am so sorry for the absolutely DISTURBED and sick creatures harrassing and leaving repulsive comments on here.🤢🥺 Please stay strong and hang in there!👍😊

Thanks for sharing. I just placed an order. Looking forward to reading

Thanks you you inspire young girls like me! I’m so grateful for you! ❤️❤️❤️

I asked my boyfriend a few questions and he told me its too early for these questions and that im not getting the full answer, ive decided that hes not yet feeling open enough for deep questions, i dont know what to do.

Awesome!!! Thank you so much for sharing these!!!!

Thought provoking, thanks Kristen 😊🙏

Who do I go to when I dont have that older and wiser person to go to with my red flags?

Really interesting and an important topic👍

I love love what you do.. Love from Zimbabwe

Thank you so much Kristen!

WOW! Great Advice!!

Great questions!!

So I printed out the questions like you said and started asking him them on our first date but I only got up to question 4 and he went to the toilet and never came back. So then I went to his friends and started to ask them the friends questions and they walked away from me! I haven't given up though and am going to ambush him on the way to work tmrw and try and get Qu4 and 5 out! Can't wait!!! Thanks for your advice :D

much needed....

This video has helped me so much! Thank you!!

Thank You!

I wish I would have had this insight when I was younger. Thanks so much for sharing.

Imagine her going to his friend to ask a question and she goes so what do you think is his view on politics

So thankful for this.. definitely something I can apply to my life right now X.

Arriving late but this was brilliantly helpful, thanks!

Very good. I was hoping this would be Christ centered. Thanks so much!

I got in a relationship in someone 2 weeks ago.

Very helpfull Video, thanks!

Where’s Bethany???

Read "think like a man and act like a lady"... it's really a fun read and relationshippy...

Great content 👍🏼

This if you are not a born again Christian will not help you am muslim am conservative but uhv totally confused me

Great video!

Thank you so much for making this! Great start for a brainstorming session

What are some red flags to be concerned with ?

Great questions

It's really true we should be aware of their political views. It can be a division factor in relationship. I have seen couples divorce just because of conflicting political views. Incase you're a Trump Fan You may not to marry somebody who is a die hard fan of Hillary. (haha jk)

heeeey LOVE YOUR CHANEL!!! im new haha so... im dating this guy, well not officially dating, but as we say, we're getting to know eachother, but we want to be in a relationship, so yeah is it to soon to ask him this question? should i wait till we're officially dating? (sorry my english i'm latina hahaha)

Thank you so much sister may Jesus bless you live 🌸🌹

I want this book.

Please pray for my salvation. Thank you

Hey Kristen, I just decided I really want to buy your book. But when I used the link in the description under OUR INFO (becaude the first link doesnt work!), I came to the site where I could buy it. But it was really different, like, green with flowers. Of course, I just want to make sure I've got the right version. The one you are holding has the questions and I do want those in it. Can you please tell me what to do? Is the green one a newer version or something? Or maybe the one your holding? Someone watching all the way over from The Netherlands :), Rigtje

Bless you Kristen and your precious sister Bethany now and forever for all eternity in the name of our beloved Savior Yeshua Jesus Christ☻☻☻

A guy should never ask a girl how many kids she wants on a date

While I disagree with a lot of their videos (on the basis that I'm not a believer), I still think questions like these are very important. Now, I won't ask someone to explain The Gospel to me, but if that were important to you this is solid advice.

Is this church relationship? Or what because every questions seems to be for Christian people relationship!

Nice video....is this book available online???

Is you're book being sold in Barnes N Noble?

Chúng ta chỉ nên xem xét hành động của ah ta chứ hỏi cũng k làm được thì cũng k ổn

Was after relationship questions, not religious ones.

Hello

"Y'all" .....

How early is TOO EARLY?

I don't know why but you come across much more authentic and friendly when you talk to us alone. However, I think some of these questions would scare most people away, especially at the beginning of a relationship, when most of us try to be fun and do nice things and get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere, not debate about politics. just a thought...

Why not put in the description that it's more for people who are Christians? Purity, push me closer to Christ, ask people in your church...

Bruh such a long intro

Wowww

Can you explain the gospel to me? 😂 come on that sounds too much like a religion exam, a date should be more comfortable and friendly!

I stopped watching once we got to “Christ follower”

Why do you assume we’re going to date a Christian man?

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Disclaimer: Believers are preferable to be brough into a relationship. Unbelievers can have very skewed perspective ;)