Our society lets kids down, there's no doubt about it. Glad you made it through and are here now. You're welcome in these comments. Julie@TeamFairy

I frequently ask myself this now that I’m an adult. It truly blows my mind that no one wanted to/ was unable to step in. I hope you are able to find peace and healing because you truly deserved better. 💕

It is not always the teachers fault. I am sure the teachers did say something People can report all day but someone has to stay on top of it. Also just because a social worker is called depends on the situation social workers have little access. Especially if the parent does not allow the social worker to come into the home in order to check on the child. It is not always the teachers or social workers it is the laws that are set in place that prevent the people that should help to help that child.

@@Michelle-06 true, but I am now a court mandated reporter, as many people are required to be through their job. If I even suspect abuse of a child or vulnerable adult, and don't report it, it is a serious crime. I believe teachers are also court mandated reporters. Never mind the fact that it is reprehensible that any responsible honorable adult would not step in to save a kid. Fear of jail is one thing, being a failure to humanity by virtue of your actions or lack there of, is another.

Me too. Horrifying neglect that went disregarded by all other adults in my life. Later on, people would say that reporting would have done no good as its " so difficult to remove kids from their parent" ( it was the 1980s). People noticed but I received at best annoyance and insults. Between my Devestating home life and school reinforcing the abuse I'm 42 and fighting for my mind and life.

You're not wrong about any of that. I grew up in the 80s too. Glad you made it through and are here now. Julie@TeamFairy

No one really cared….😞

Yep. Me too. SO many people knew about my and my younger brother’s abuse and neglect and NO one did anything. Ever. My older siblings were out of there as fast as they could. My older sister always hated me (still!) and she tortured me whenever she could. I can relate to so many parts of this story. I’m so sorry and hope you get healing soon. Wrapping you in healing thoughts.

As a hoarder sorting is the great time suck . I physically need to start in a location where I’m will be able to put things where they belong as I go while I have the energy and motivation to do so. For me that was starting in my kitchen clearing out everything one drawer and cabinet at a time not even worrying about sorting but going strait to deciding with what goes where with the things I want to keep and being willing to toss what’s gross and part with what doesn’t work. It was slow going at first but I made choices and even decorated areas that where not as easy to reach. I have no upper cabinets in my kitchen. I have two shelves. The top shelf is up too high for me so I chose to make that decorative. The mantle on the fireplace as well. Both where cluttered so I opted to minimize and keep what I liked most. Just getting the kitchen don and the fireplace looking less cluttered motivated me to keep chipping away every day Now my whole living area is nice. . I have a long path ahead with my bedroom. I have a lot ADHD characteristics and the overwhelm made me freeze and sorting only created piles without putting things away and that for me made decisions on what to keep and get rid of impossible.

Gonna do that this weekend and week.

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Glad you shared that! Nika@TeamFairy

@NM-mc4rj I just don't get it. It must be some version of mental illness. It's completely illogical, yet it makes sense to them. 🫣

@@elipotter369 I started by watching content on KZfaq of people who are chronically disorganized and cluttered and chose to be open to methods they used to gain controversy what was uncontrollable. The lightbulb moment came in when somebody said they’d changed their approach and started looking at things from the question “where is this items home?” And due to being so cluttered I also decided to ask myself what had the most immediate impact. The answer was getting the kitche in order. I didn’t have to make every decision right away, but chose what I definitely wanted and where I wanted it to live. As I was decreasing the amount of stuff left out and around the space I had available made quite a few decisions easier. I’ve already made decisions in my bedroom and I have some organizational that nags that are great, but I’m not currently utilizing as efficiently as I’d will like to in the future. So I have the space for things it’s just a matter of doing it and showing myself I’m capable. Getting the living space nice has given me confidence I can get all of it completed by the end of the year. Granted my apartment is the in-law suite in my moms house and due to being disabled I have a lot of gratitude for her help and support, but I also had to figure out how to let go of the past hurts and recognize in some ways she’s really done the best she could. I needed to recognize she had experienced similar scapegoating and to forgive and heal my heart. The act of letting go of the past brought me to asking myself what my values and what I value are and what wasn’t working to meet my values and what I value. That helped tremendously in causing undue hurt to people I love and to recognize even though I like to learn about politics sharing this part of myself wasn’t doing anything but put wedges between me and my family whom I love. Being right wasn’t a priority loving them was. I got myself off of Facebook. I want to truly connect with people I love instea of knowing their politics having to be right and fighting with them. Letting go allowed me to be present and open and authentic and to stop ruminating. It allowed me to recognize my strengths and weaknesses and that all of it are gifts that make anything possible . Lettpgo happend in August practicing authenticity happened in September and October started the clearing of the hoard.. bedroom is next. It’s a lot but I’m ready

@@elipotter369 My living area is now board free. One room down piles don’t happen when everything has a home it’s far from perfect yet still so much better than it was not that long ago. I refuse to sort into piles. It is a waste of time and energy and leads to never finding a way through it in my experience.

My bedroom has pathways instead of open floor. Luckily even though I feel a lot of shame about this part of my life I can still recognize as disgusting as it is it has never gotten to such an extreme my pathways are floor still and I have never had to climb over and on top of the hoard . . It’s unsanitary and disgusting but it could always be worse than it is and that does offer perspective and I have gratitude to have the opportunity to Rick it and face it honestly and without fearI’ @@elipotter369

John Oliver did a whole segment on that -- I think it was the week before last

@@amarbyrd2520 thanks for the info, just finished watching it. It's a shame things like this are still happening

Thank you for sharing your experience and support! This is Anna's technique that involves writing: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Julie@TeamFairy

I am so sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing.

@trishthedish2916 very kind of you thank you.

So glad you're here. Thank you for sharing your experience and support. Julie@TeamFairy

I wonder if this was part of the root cause of a friend’s divorce on top of spending. I feel bad for the kids as when I was there last is was really disturbing.

I knew a friend of a friend who was an animal hoarder. She couldn’t recognize that saving these animals she wasn’t fully capable of taking care of not only destroys her quality of life but also their quality of life. I’m pretty sure at the time I knew her she had 15 does plus other animals too. The animal hoarding also destroyed her marriage completely her furniture her home and also resulted in her losing custody of her kid. I recognized she always focused on other people creating drama for her and was quick to cut people off with zero capacity of understanding the role she played with her animal hoarding in her life.

@@Sarah-with-an-H totally. I don't think she was capable of even noticing the chaos she was creating. I was on active duty when she split up, and despite my best efforts, I had to pay the owner of the house we rented a bunch of $$ in damages after I transferred. Her dogs stunk up the house so bad, it got into the ventilation and even the walls, and destroyed the carpet

@@ianfeuerhake1859 By any chance did your ex live on Long Island because your story is practically identical

@@Sarah-with-an-H no. I live in FL. We lived here and in AL when we were together

it feels risky to go there, and can be terrifying however what you collect from such an experience turbo charges your progress. IMO. Cheers Ethan

Yes well said. It's about healing and mothering yourself.

My ex boyfriend has temper issues, severely impatient, and unhealed traumas, yet he always talked about having children and polyamorous relationships. First off, I wished he would first consider healing himself. I would feel sorry for the other polyamorous partners because of his anger issues, and let's not talk about his potential children. We broke up, but everyday I heal and starting to accept that the breakup is "good riddance."

@nishurao7932 Thanks. I've done healing & and self-help since a very young age. I've had an old souls insight. I basically emotionally raised my parents & did their marriage counseling as a child. I'm sure that makes no sense to many people. Reflecting, it's amazing. The amount of insight I had as a kid was coming directly from spirit.

@ignazs.5816 think of the learning & growth you got from that experience & the insight you now have to use for your growth & and self-protection, self development now, though.

I do not regret having children, but I do regret thinking that I had business with children. I did my best to break cycles but so much came through. My heart now breaks not only for my own inner child, but my real children with whom I see issues.We are estranged so I can do nothing except change and heal myself. One day, when the time is right.... if ever.......

I'm so sorry you had that experience. Glad you are here now. It definitely impacts a person's life, no doubt about it. But healing is possible. If you haven't already, you might like Anna's Daily Practice, it's a free course. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Julie@TeamFairy

Thank you for sharing your support and so glad you are able to be there for your nieces, too. Julie@TeamFairy

I know it’s your sister, but if it truly is as bad as described in the video, you may want to consider reporting her to animal control. Your nieces and the animals are being abused if it’s the same situation. Maybe it will help wake your sister up. Just a suggestion made with good intentions. I don’t at all mean to offend.

Fantastic version of the serenity prayer, and so helpful. Julie@TeamFairy

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I'm in the same boat. My only family is my animals. I don't have anything else to live for most days.

@@ginayoung130 Atleast it’s something ❤️

Thank you for sharing. Glad to hear Anna's Daily Practice is helpful. Keep up the great job! Nika@TeamFairy

I can relate. My mother has to have things extremely clean to the point of obsession. I would much prefer that to living in filth, though. I can be a little messy myself. My advice is try to tackle one or two cleaning tasks a day. Example, Monday take out the trash and wipe the counters down. Tuesday, clean the bathroom. Wednesday, clean your bedroom, etc. I’m sorry you feel embarrassed by the conditions of your living space. Maybe try doing a little at a time. You deserve to live in a clean environment. You’re worth it. You will notice you feel better with a tidy living space. Wishing you the best and thanks for sharing.

Can relate. If you can spell out the f word but then say arsehole instead of asshole it spins my head. 😅

Probably from the UK I'm guessing.

@@justmejenny7986 yep

Yup, it's the easiest way to deal with it, as the late great Queen said "Recollections may vary."

Were you sick? Sorry you had to take pills and didn't know why.

I am really sorry you had to go through that.

It really is heartbreaking. The poor woman who wrote the letter. My heart goes out to her and her brother. And secondly, those animals were being abused. Her mother sounds like a very sick woman.

Thank you for watching and for your comment! Nika@TeamFairy

What a great job you did. Thank you for sharing! Nika@TeamFairy

So true.

That is my life in a comment. I don't have any interest in most people, but I thought about the feral cats I care for and the groundhog hibernating under my shed all day. No lie.

Thank you for watching! Daily Practice can help with de-cluttering by giving you clarity on what you should do first. Here’s a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

What do you mean by this?

@@mark9294 Hello. I meant, that the child of a single parent, has two parents. In this instance, the single parent mother is a hoarder. The absent parent also failed to provide a safe & healthy environment for their child. The absent parent is equally responsible,

Government & state is too involved they need to stay in their lane, everything theu touch is broken. I would guess way more abused kids go to school daily unnoticed, then home schooled kids getting abused.

@@4naturalmedicine I think protecting children from potential abuse and neglect is the priority, not protecting the potential hurt or offended feelings of parents. If I had home-schooled, I would have been grateful for any guardrails that were put in place by the government, schools or any other governing body to try and ensure that my kid or anyone else's wasn't being abused...

@suzy1750 Don't be fold to think that all these things are in place do not further cause additional abuse by more people on an ongoing basis. I work as a psych RN. I have seen first-hand abuse case, after abuse case while kids were in the system. It just changed the abuser from being a family member to a stranger. I'm all for children not being abused, too. But I also do not think the state and government should abuse. They're power and take children. Just because they're being raised differently than what they see, they see fit as, for example, religious beliefs end medical treatment beliefs or sustaining from care you choose as a parent not to participate in. Abuse & neglect is sometimes a fine line.

@@4naturalmedicine We'll have to agree to disagree. While I appreciate that abuse can happen if children are taken away from the home in worse case scenarios, there are just too many cases of homeschooling going wrong - just read the comment section here if you disagree - for me to ever think allowing kids to completely fall off the radar in terms of anyone outside the family seeing or checking on their welfare is a healthy or safe idea....

It might be worth going to a hoarding specific support group or finding a therapist? There is a way out to get some order in your life and feel better.