Growing up With a Single Mum | Valeria Peraza

Growing up With a Single Mum | Valeria Peraza | TEDxColegioAngloColombiano

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5 жыл бұрын

About to grow up in a family with a single mother. Sixth grade student from Colegio Anglo Colombiano This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@Sailorsailorcc 4 ай бұрын

I’m a single mom, I don’t feel bad for being a single mom, but always feel bad for my kid to be a kid raised by only one parent. I hope all the single moms be strong and give our children a lot of love and try our best to raise our children well.

@elasvlog9607 3 жыл бұрын

You are very strong. I am 8month pregnant and my husband left from me. So I feel very weak, but your voices touched my heart.

@veronakrasniqi2437 3 жыл бұрын

Soo sad to hear that.May Allah give you strength of the world.Don’t give up and trust Allah beacause He will give the best ❤️

@divyanshsingh7833 3 жыл бұрын

how is your child? god bless you both.

@Pintandoconsandycoronado 3 жыл бұрын

Hang in there, mamma ❤️ I went through the same 2 years ago. The little one needs you and God will give you strength to overcome this. Just keep moving forward with your head up 🙏🏼

@sudeshnam1672 3 жыл бұрын

Dear the supreme gives troubles selectively. You sure have the strength, hence the gift. Trust me you will find hundreds of benefits of having this experience... Lots of love , stay strong

@fifibatman638 3 жыл бұрын

He is not a man.

@lizacarlson605 2 жыл бұрын

one of my biggest fear is one day my daughter will ask me why her father is not around

@serebart 9 ай бұрын

She’s the living proof that single Moms can raise brilliant kids. Well done and bravo to her, her mom, her grandparents and all of us FABULOUS, INCREDIBLE, STRONG & FEISTY single Moms! Ladies remember: the most dangerous animals are single moms whilst taking care of their babies, because we are a force of nature. Never doubt your strength and resilience, we’re all Mama Bears 🤗

@Valeria-du1qq 3 жыл бұрын

I was raised by a single mom .. and my name is Valeria 💗

@learningstuffwithriverrizk4552 2 жыл бұрын

I am a single parent father raising a seven year old boy. it has just been us for the last four years. he does have a great deal of sensitivity to the fear of abandonment, since his mother abandoned us

@erikajanecarpio5908 3 жыл бұрын

I hope my child will be able to watch this video in the future.

@xxxtyphon4298 2 жыл бұрын

Mine too. She's a brilliant daughter

@singlemommusician9484 5 жыл бұрын

What a great child.

@valeriemalai9125 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was also raised by a single mother I have gone through all the experiences u had. You one strong and beautiful girl, keep hustling. 💕

@niralipatel7966 3 жыл бұрын

Can Exactly relate to you❤️❤️we are beautiful souls❤️much love and blessings ✨

@MsLotusBlooms 2 жыл бұрын

Single parents deserve respect!

@maggiek.716 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. You show bravery to speak about living in a single parent home and you are inspiration. We don't always have control over the hand that is dealt, but how we react to it shows the world what we are made of!

@natalianat9105 2 жыл бұрын

Oh may i add Jonny Kim? That man who happened to be a doctor, NAVY SEAL and also an astronaut? He raised by a single mother! Her mom choosed to get out from toxic marriage and raised him until that successful. He turned sadness into gratitude that well - and even rare complete families can "make" a really successful kid like that. I have some strong single mother friends around that actually made very successful adults at work. Never underestimate the power women can have -- and also great love and sacrifices for their children. If the single mothers are strong, responsible and have strong wills for their kids, the kids will be great adults in the future -- the chance is similar to kids from complete family. Good luck and may you have bright future ahead. I believe in you and your mother 💕

@goikimberlykimisopa6785 3 жыл бұрын

This gives me comfort, in starting my journey as a single Mum ❤️

@VanessaAndOm 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful! I´m so proud of you 💗

@elkstrooper4651 4 жыл бұрын

Vanessa and om hey

@tanzilaleeya 2 жыл бұрын

I'm going through a divorce and have two little girls. Thank you for this

@marilynvans9044 4 жыл бұрын

At 0.45 second am in tears 😭 Absolutely beautiful

@monicasaks6 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing girl!

@strawberrydiamond5886 Жыл бұрын

This talk was absolutely beautiful 🙌 so proud of her

@EStrongFitness 3 жыл бұрын

So proud of this girl! 👏👏 This is an incredible speech! It not only contains support, validation, and tools for children of Single Moms, but also a valuable perspective and insight for the parent. Very well done!

@jenscott6733 Жыл бұрын

Amazing talk. Well done!

@karmahleone1196 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for your words

@blueconstinople62 3 жыл бұрын

You are a very intelligent, awesome, eloquent and determined young woman! Wow! Fantastic! You are not alone my daughter too👏🏽💕

@elenapana6753 Жыл бұрын

This is beautiful what a wise little soul ❤❤❤ your going to grow up to be a superstar

@alifnugroho9377 3 жыл бұрын

Strong and wise girl

@laurenvillarreal6690 2 жыл бұрын

What an amazing speech! proud of her :)

@murozman 3 жыл бұрын

What an adorable little girl.

@mnatnat1 4 жыл бұрын

What a smart girl!

@daphnayvertus927 2 жыл бұрын

I hope my daughter be come like you Spirit God be you girls

@paolah1828 10 ай бұрын

What a sweetheart

@natalianat9105 2 жыл бұрын

Salute to this and shes wonderful. Never think at once that the absence of your dad will hold you down. I got a friend - a doctor/physician - who happened raised by a very strong single mom (her dad died when she was 9 yo). Her siblings (are also women) are a lawyer and a soldier officer. Respected fields and all successful. Their mom finally got married when all of them have spouses (some are got married). Choose gratitude always -- even if you have a dad, if you dont learn how to gratitude, you will never be happier. To ladies - never afraid to raise your kids alone and got out from toxic relationships, being a mother is the greatest task God assigned to a woman. And only special women with strong will can raise strong kids and adults with their own hands. Women has that power, believe it and i seen it. Period

@user-gt1bt3ve6c 5 жыл бұрын

Amazing beautiful little girl great job to the mom and grandpa xoxo God bless

@middletech 4 жыл бұрын

A great job would be to have a dad. She was just as much to blame for the situation. I know from experience she will fail in any relationship with a boyfriend or husband.

@dontbestupidstupid2903 4 жыл бұрын

Eric Lytle you don’t even know her. From the way she talks about her situation it is clear that she was well raised by her mother and grandparents. Only because someone has one parent doesn’t mean they automatically have daddy or mommy issues. There are countless examples of children who are raised by one parent and are in a happy long term relationship. There are even studies proving that being a single parent is more beneficial for the kid. Shout out to amazing single mothers and fathers who choose to take responsibility and raise their children to a decent human being!!!

@safirap2723 3 жыл бұрын

Omg im crying

@seph4667 3 жыл бұрын

Good hearts weep often. Congratulations!

@joannaanna9850 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks people need to know how it is. Some fathers like that mayby open their eyes? I hope becouse it so painfull.

@Xoxo888edits 3 жыл бұрын

Yes it's very painful when a father left

@kaaver3899 3 жыл бұрын

Same story

@joyjmusic7751 Жыл бұрын

This girl is wise

@silence9122 4 жыл бұрын

It’s becoming the norm. Women don’t need some angry deadbeat around to abuse and neglect the kids 💃

@svartvist 4 жыл бұрын

Yep, this attitude is becoming the norm. No such thing as "beadbeat" dads. Just dads who were beat dead. “The womb's basic power, the cradle's strategic power, the kitchen's tactical power; to hold any one of these is to have great power; to hold all three is indeed to have overwhelming power.” p20 The Anatomy of Female Power, Chinweizu When a man refuses one way or other to knuckle under to such power, he's turned out of doors and scorned with epithets and blame.

@hellcat3586 4 жыл бұрын

SPC Says a lot about how easy it is to blame women for being left, abused, mistreated and they STILL choose to do the right thing and raise their child into well adjusted individuals. Says a lot about how the blame gets removed from the men that leave and walk away, molesters and perpetrators who pray on their wives and children. Assign fault and responsibility where it’s due and that’s on the father.

@kevindunne4271 4 жыл бұрын

Happily Solo Mommies Talking from experience I see? Funny how you think the abusers are always the father, even though women kill their children more!

@user-bw8yn3zr1s 3 жыл бұрын

@@kevindunne4271 such rubbish.

@CroqueMonsieur42 2 ай бұрын

@@kevindunne4271Very late comment. Still she's saying if most infanticides are done by men lol.

@kaly49ify 4 жыл бұрын

❤

@elkstrooper4651 4 жыл бұрын

scarleth victoria hey

@dorothyfam2594 5 жыл бұрын

I My brother dad and I don'tknow my birth dad

@bikashdhakal6457 3 жыл бұрын

.I .need. A separated single mom for lifetime could you recommend me ??

@johnathanabrams8434 2 жыл бұрын

Can somebody inform the speaker that it's her mother's body and her choice to do what she pleases.

@chrislecky710 4 жыл бұрын

It all about asking the right question. Do the upper classes statistically get married more often,? are they less likely to divorce?and less likely to experience domestic violence? If so we are our own worst enemy because clearly they know something we dont and are willing to do what we won't. Are you sure we're not all being laughed at here. ??

@tashilhamu4510 4 жыл бұрын

I think the lower classes have more issues. The upper classes are more secure physically and mentally, more eligible for healthy marriages and better life in general

@seph4667 3 жыл бұрын

Behold the fruits of a mighty single mother.

@fofanahisata3768 Жыл бұрын

I need some written documents please please 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@gracesharma325 3 жыл бұрын

Such a strong child when an very bad argument happens I get so concerned but you are such a strong child with one parent family

@fofanahisata3768 Жыл бұрын

Am a daughter of single parent please

@williamusman1578 3 жыл бұрын

I Mk

@asianplanet5849 3 жыл бұрын

How does this kid have more wisdom than most 65 year olds? Easy, she didn't write this. Lovely girl though. Best luck to her.

@davidalfonso3042 5 жыл бұрын

I young man poor single 32 year. Looking for a foreign wife to build a happy family with her

@kdjimmy103 2 жыл бұрын

It's her mom fault cheating on him or he didn't expect you... not everyone cheat but that's 90% truth

@thvtsydneylyf3th077 2 жыл бұрын

Even mummas chase the bad boys! lol stay tru to urself fellazzz, shes never urs.. you know the rest x

@mystermont2019 4 жыл бұрын

Women choosing the bad boy vs the nice guy. Women need to be held accountable for their own single motherhood if they chose to sleep with a guy who lacks the traits needed to be a successful head of a household.

@hellcat3586 4 жыл бұрын

pablo piedras Hold the woman accountable? She was, she raised her child alone. How about holding dad accountable for never even calling his daughter to tell her “I’m your father, this happened between your mother and I but I still love you”. Nah, take responsibility “dad”.

@kevindunne4271 4 жыл бұрын

Panda Ramen See, if she was responsible, she wouldn’t have been involved with that type of man in the first place, let alone get pregnant. That’s OP point, but as usual you don’t get it!

@dontbestupidstupid2903 4 жыл бұрын

@pablo piedras You do realize people change right? Even if a woman chooses a nice guy it doesn’t guarantees that the man won’t leave her. “Women need to be held accountable” yeah wel, about the men who choose to leave their children and not even bothering to look back and ask how the kid is doing? Do they just get a pass?

@Nokss87 2 жыл бұрын

Lol 😆 why do pathetic men think they're nice?

@Nokss87 2 жыл бұрын

These so called nice guys are just as useless in marriage or child rearing. They think they need a gold star 🌟 for breathing. Just pathetic....

@redpilllense7125 4 жыл бұрын

She is in the minority of kids that probably had a bad dad. However, we are only hearing her version of her "dad" and so I will hold judgement of the father. What if her mom had a one night stand or was sleeping around? This poor kid is the victim, nonetheless. Glad her grandfather was around as a father figure. More and more women are destroying families by initiating 85% of divorces that are filed. Feminism is at the root cause of the "strong and independent" and "single mother" epidemic.

@kaylag5043 4 жыл бұрын

Even if the mother was sleeping around, the father should still have had the decency to see his child.

@hellcat3586 4 жыл бұрын

So you put the blame on the mother and bad mouth her out of your own made up excuse. She said her father never bothered calling her, showing up or had any want in being involved in her life. The feminism issue empowers women, and only men who are afraid of them are still a problem. Women don’t choose to be single mothers , they get betrayed and abused by their partners and they decide to walk away to protect said child. Women are the glue of this society and the undervalued supporters who continually get blamed for made up problems with the excuse of promiscuity. You don’t know her mother and her story and struggles and I find it odd that you chose to resort to negativity and blaming when this is an inspirational child. A beautiful girl who suffered the effects of her father abandoning her. This was not her fault, or the mothers. No woman signs up to broken families and raising their children alone.

@LuisanaMcbo 4 жыл бұрын

She explicitly said that he doesn't even call for birthdays. It isn't hard to show up your interest if you really are interested

@raycebannon73 4 жыл бұрын

@@kaylag5043 What if he found out the child wasn't his?

@kaylag5043 4 жыл бұрын

@@raycebannon73 If it's not his child, it's not his problem.