The Lord sure knows how to provide an on time word.

That is so true. When your single with no kids, the world does not see you. I'm 44, divorced with no kids and people in the church and outside the church treat me like an outcast. This is the world we live in today. It shouldn't even be like this but never will I be ashamed of where I am in my life.

I’m 36 and not married. I agree with Mandisa. People will overlook simply because you’re single or just automatically assume you’re desperate or lonely. I often feel like I have to prove I have a good 😌 life especially with church ⛪️ people.

Thank you Queen! I needed this today! I am 43 single, following,and trusting God in continual contentment in loving me! While waiting on God for the man He has for me🙏🏽❤

Being single and never married in your 20’s is much different than in your 30’s 40’s and 50’s but I appreciate the overall perspective and encouragement ❤️

I'm really enjoying my singleness! I'm growing closer to God, he's preparing me to be a wife, and I am building a business. Sometimes when it's so quiet in the home I remind myself to fully enjoy it because I may not have moments like these in the future. It's really beautiful. I do not feel like I am missing out. I was missing out when I didn't know the Lord and was enslaved in broken relationships...!

I recently met this guy that I am so in love with, he's gone through a lot lately, 2 close deaths in a month. Things with us went from perfect to a lot of problems. I'm on a Daniel Fast currently and felt God say last night to take a 2 month break from this relationship. I know it's right, but at the moment it feels like a death sentence. I needed to watch this. Thank you for the good word. Havilah

Loved that...I’m NOT crazy for feeling like society doesn’t take me as seriously bc I don’t have a ring on my finger yet

Make your own role in the church ! I’m 35, single and no kids. I found myself questioning where do I fit ? My church is small . Not too many around my age . I had to create my own lane . As a result, I no longer felt out of place or overlooked.

This was lovely. However, it seems that every time I find a motivational video for singles like me, it is from a person who has now passed that phase into marriage. It would be nice to hear from someone who is over 30 (20+ is still relatively young) and still trusting God to do His thing....

Loved this, Havilah! I am glad that your husband is younger and not in pastoral ministry. Your story reminds me to think outside the box when it comes to God.

I'm in my 30s and celibate for 17 years. I've never had a strong pull to marriage but God told me 5 years ago marriage is apart of his perfect will for me. I'm built a great relationship with for where I am content until the promise comes. I don't need validation from man? I just want God's best for me no matter the time

I'm 44 never been married and no children and this is helpful because I feel like im invisible, however it helps to say I'm not alone

I'm 52 and been single. 3 yrs ago I came to the lord. I'm on my journey getting to know and learning and having a great relationship with the lord

The only permission or acceptance that matters, is the relationship & fellowship between you and the Lord.

35 and it's so hard. I know there are women older than me, but you know this is the age where your like WHENNNN LORDDDDD. I go through cycles of trying to surrender but then I gotta admit that I want it. and then theres no godly men.

Wow. Glad to know I’m not the only one ‘feeling small, invisible’ and love the advice ‘if you wait alwAys for the approval of people in order to live a powerful successful life you will go down the wrong path’

This was a powerful and timely message. Thank you! As someone who is 34 & contentedly single; with a younger sister who is married with 3 kids- people in the family and at church often talk to me like I’m a sad unhappy person. Or like my life is not “happening” yet because I’m not married. Lol. They couldn’t be more wrong. This message helps to put what I feel, my conviction into words.

Once we start waitng for people to give us permission, we cannot live powerful lives.

God is the potter and we are the clay🙏🏽nothing before his time. God knows every hair on your head,as he formed you.Let go and let God .Amen 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽

Thank you Mandisa for speaking of being unseen. Singleness is a state of existence, not until marriage, but instead of marriage. I only partially agree with Havilah's response. We don't need to wait for permission, but singless is a part of God's family and married poeple and families can serve singles just like singles can serve them. Moving the discussion to her husband and what he doesn't do it irrelevant.

What do you do when the ache for it is so hard and so strong? I turn to the Lord constantly, and sometimes I dont realize how harsh the ache is until I see a movie or something, because what can you do but try and surrender it and stuff it down. I sometimes ask God take this desire away... help. me to be content. Especially in these times of isolation, its even more so. God help us to have His presence and feel free.

25 and unmarried. Waiting on Gods Plan whether its married or single life. I Thank God everyday that he didnt answer my prayer to be married at 24🙌🏾🙌🏾

It is even harder for those that are divorced in the church. It causes lots of awkward silences in church groups. The scarlet letter of singleness or divorce is a silent but exists.

That’s true when you don’t have kids or husband you are overlooked.

“I wanted my story to have intention, and purpose, and have the hand of god on it” ❤️❤️❤️🙏

I’m so thankful that this topic has come up. I’ve been single for 2 years and I’m ready to find a Godly man. It’s really hard. I’m trusting in the Lord and waiting on him. I just want to be loved again. It’s a struggle.

Would love to request for longer versions of sermon on the channel . Probably the complete version. This is very instrumental 💕.

Not only are we single but a lot of us don’t really have friends. The other women our age are married with kids and somehow our friendship is less valuable because we aren’t married. I feel like we need to stop addressing singles as much and start addressing marrieds on how to accept those of us who are single. I know how to be single, but do they know how to be friends with someone who life doesn’t look like theirs.

She does say the truth. She does has a point.

My goodness this was powerful! When Pastor Havilah brought up the "demonic time clock" that hit me. The imaginary clock I have used based on my friends and society's time clock for women that bring so much stress and mess! Lord thank you for this!

This was very good topic be talking on, Because some people think that singleness is a curse but it's really a blessing because God is helping us to avoid all the wolf in sheep's clothing it's plenty of them out there..But when we learned to wait on the Lord being busy about his business, and being content loving God more than anything then that's when God will bring the right one in our life, But still everything is in his timing not ours. I enjoy listening to the young lady testimony.

Whoever reading this, I pray that God visits your home today with Healings, Blessings, and Miracles.Time is still the bestanswer. Forgiveness is still the best pain killer and God is still the best healer. Amen.💕 Amen.💕

I am just going to focus on praying and getting a closer walk with God. Starting right now, that is my number 1 priority. Being the best me that God will be pleased. Help my fellow neighbor when I can.

Loved the encouragement in this message! Just what I needed to hear. Praying for every single woman who's content and contending. I'm right there with you !🙏❤

So blessed by this!

The verse 1 Corinthians 7:17 (MSG) Havilah mentioned changed my life when I watched this for the first time last week. It prepared me to meet the challenges of my weekend! I am so thankful for women who are willing to share.

This conversation is so on point! Thank you so much Havilah, you touched on so many important things here 🙏🏾

Today's message really touched my heart. Thank you Jesus for i know am not alone 🙏

Love love LOVE this!!

6:47 - "Jesus, Hosanna in the highest, (and the next moment) Give us Barrabus" - That. is brilliant.

I love Havillah so much. God bless her 🙏

This is so good. Thank you ladies.

When she said your life can change in a minute!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

POWERFUL WORDS

Soo true love that.

I am enjoying these videos. I can relate to every topic. Thank you for sharing!

Was blessed by this

Havilah I love your honesty....

💕💕💕💖 I needed every word spoken in this. I've been waiting and doing y best to be content and it's a challenge, but I give all the credit to my success in waiting to JESUS. SO THANKS FOR THE GREAT ADVICE/ PERSONAL STORY AND WISDOM IN GOD'S WORD ❤️💐

Thanks for a profound words 🙏 🙌

Amen, I love this ❤

I love these honest conversations, thank you 🙏🏽

I think many woman have difficulties to voice their feelings on this matter! My last relationship was 10years ago and left me as a "single mother". Then I though : I will never love again, I will become a nun and dedicate my life to God, I will never love a man this way again etc....... Now, I will be 34 soon and am still a single mother but with a healthier spiritual life with healthier goals and ambitions. It is true that the feeling of being single can be tough sometimes. I reached a point where, I would chuckle whenever I saw encouraging messages for single people online... but now I just don't know what to do or think anymore.... should I keep on looking for the one ? Will I ever be married ? Will I be satisfied once I get married ? Will I be happier ?.... no matter what, I trust in GOD for I know that His plans are to prosper me. So it's all good (even when I don't feel like that) I know that my GOD is a "man" of his word! Always encouraged 🔥

Powerful word of advice especially at the end

This is powerful

Sooo good!

Wow! This is so good🙌🏾

Wow , This such true statement but this applied to everything in life

that was so good.

So gooood ladies. That was soooo good

Well said Havilah! Girl speak :)

@Havilah.. Could you please provide clarity on what you meant by you don’t hug or kiss your husband? What do you mean by keeping it clean in your marriage? Thank you for your response.

"once you require people's permission to live life, you would not live powerfully "

What are you waiting for'? Be intentional, there's ways and means of meeting the opposite sex..soak everything in prayer and don't live in regret. God is a matchmaker and created us to be in union for the most part. Too many sisters disappointed..I don't believe that's God's will ❤💕🙏🙏

This was a word!

Wow, this was good!

If only I would of listen yes I still married but my my contentment and contending my God difference

Great advice!👍👏💪😇🙏

Gotta exercise dominion. That power will cause it to inspire at the right season

Amen!

I also think the journey of being a single white women and a single black women in the church is very different.

Amen

I used to pray about every man that I encounter to know whether he was the one for me or not, but never got a response. Then earlier this year, I prayed for a spouse and I received a dream letting me know that I wasn't ready to marry and now I'm waiting on God to bless me with a husband one day because I know that dream came from him.

Am going to be 40 and never married no kids but been through relationships where no one was ready to get married but I was that girl who thought I’ll marry the first guy i fall in love with. But they have been all losers.

Wow. Okay, Lord.😩🙌🏽

I’m 57.5 - saved since I was 25 and still waiting for my husband. I don’t think it’s timing at all, I believe it’s some error somewhere. Probably me, but somehow it’s messed my life up.

I need to see the whole episode!! How can I find it?? This is soo timely!

Live u're life with contentment no matte r what's not fill in u're life😉

'that demonic timeline' that was deep

Above all singleness is not a problem than the issue of spending u're life with the wrong person

27...? That is great! But I am 30... Why 27 is a big deal? Honestly...

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Thankful for my singular life at the age 67 years of age 🙏 I accepted graciously God grace is sufficient enough for my singular realm of life with peacefulness tranquility serenity and calmness gift 🎁 from God threw his son Jesus Christ 😊 and ever lasting love always ❤ This realm of life was God divine ❤ love purpose for me and this is how I keep my joy Faithfully in God realm of grace.💙 We as women all have a beautiful purpose for God Kingdom Amen 🙏 Haleuia 🙌

I live for God

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both parties need to be in agreement to pass the bill and give the people second stimulus check for all they have been through,, millions of Americans who found themselves without a job ,, can have a very merry Christmas ]]

The crowd will always be wrong about you.💯

I agree Mandisa no one at my church is seeing. Is God hiding me.

Omg I feel soo awkward about marrying a man who is younger for me.. 🙈

I believe we wont always meet a man in the church

Married at 27? That’s like the new married at 19 🤦🏽‍♀️ I may be wrong but I have this scary feeling that there are no Christian men left on earth, because even the ones that say they are, live exactly like the ones that aren’t.

Be in control Have intention with God's hand Contentment vs Contend 1 Corinthians 7:17 Love where you are Relax in the will of God Give up the time clock Where you should be? It happens at all phases in our life Be content with God in your life We may feel unseen Jesus completes me We may feel overlooked Live a whole life but others may hold you back with their limited beliefs Don't wait for their permission or validation You are powerful The crowd will be wrong They say Hosanna then crucify you

No good black men