"Never do for a man what he's not doing for you" -TG 💯

Unfortunately, many men spend decades wounding women. Then, when they get ready to settle down, they want a woman who isn't wounded.🤯 That don't go together.

If he says he doesn't want a relationship, it usually means he doesn't want one with YOU!! Trust me, I learned the hard way.

“That’s the number 1 thing that women do wrong is not listening to what a man telling you.” TG

This was a wordddddddddd! My sons father waited until I was 4 months pregnant to say “I don’t want to be in a committed relationship” my response was NO PROBLEM. I didn’t fuss, argue or fight him on that. He was more hurt that I didn’t chase behind him than anything else. Everytime he tries to cross that boundary HE SET I remind him that he didn’t want a relationship. Either man up and become a real man, or stay a grown boy out in them streets catching stds...

"Most men are not for "normal" relationships." Ain't that the truth.

This is sooooo true, I did listened to Tony and now the man is on the other side confused. Ladies please listen “a man won’t change for nobody but God and himself”...

Sis, the first thing this man told you was "HE DID NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU! YOU DECIDED that you was gonna have him "NO MATTER WHAT" and tried to redefine Soul Tie and Bonding! Your TAKEAWAY from this should be that YOU CAN'T FORCE a man to LOVE YOU because you are doing things for him. PLEASE MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!

The man told her from the start that he didn't want a relationship. Women! We need to learn that we cannot rescue or change anyone! Especially a man. We have to stop playing superhero!

🗣”Never do for a man what he’s not doing for you!”

Don’t ever, in your life, set out to change a man! ~ T.G. ~ A leopard don’t change its stripes!

Never lead a man in love...let him LEAD in the love department. Always reciprocate LESS!!! Yaaaassss

WHEN A MAN SAY HE DOES NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP BELIEVE HIM! YOU TRYNA FORCE HIM INTO ONE IS ONLY GONNA HURT YOU IN THE LONG RUN 🤦🏾‍♀️‼️

Absolutely! I had a FOINE college guy friend who saw that girls in our Physics class were feenin for him and one girl in particular desired a relationship with him. He openly announced that he's not the committed type. Another time in our Advanced Math class he openly said that when he's 40, he's gonna look for a nice Spanish woman to marry. When a guy openly tells you who he is, BELIEVE him.

People are always telling us who they are. Problems arise when we refuse to believe them. I just did a video on this.

It's too many women out here pursuing romantic relationships the same way they approached pursuing their educations and careers. They think if they approach it strategically, make goals, plan and execute then they can accomplish their goal of "winning" a man over and that is just not how it works.

The smarter you get, the less you speak

I felt like a teacher with a red ink pen circling all the mistakes...it all started when he said he didn't want a relationship...

Don't save them they don't want to be saved. Lord have mercy

Not speaking to anyone about your bedroom or relationship other than a professional is a lesson that most people have to learn through trial and error, but that is the truth! Another great video!

Women think we can change men. It's not our job. I wouldn't want that responsibility. Turn him over to the good Lord, he will do a way better job.

When somebody tells you they don’t want a relationship or they are not looking for one, it’s time to go... don’t waste your time with that man. Usually it’s because they’re keeping their options open and they’re talking to multiple people/women... I would’ve said to him thanks for the information... bye-bye. Peace out!

Ok for real, you can’t win a man thru sex, that is lust not love sis, and yes Tony you never talk intimate stuff, that’s why it’s called intimacy

When he put his head down after reading the email 😂!

Just accept it when he says he doesn't want a relationship. Why stick around and give him all the benefits? Doing so will certainly not give him a reason to commit. Know your worth ladies.

Yes, listen to what the man says and does not say. Pay attention to his energy. What you want may not be what you see. ☺

Had to learn this the hard way too. When you know better, you do better.

I love this channel because I learn so much from tony. I kind of just went through this situation where this guy I was dating said he valued our friendship but he can’t give me a relationship right now because that’s not what he wants. So I walked away from it and I haven’t talked to him since. When a man speaks please listen and move on with your life.

"Gone Bout Yo Business!" TG Tony is right you cannot change a Man. I learned the hard way being young and foolish. Same thing my Dad say to me. You will eventually get your feelings hurt. 🙏🏾💕

So good! "Never ever change a man. If he's not ready to be who he needs to be without your reinforcement, go about your business." Thank you for your wonderful teachings. Recognizing red flags now and ending things quickly with men and asking questions and listening due to you and R.C. Blake's messages. You have been a Godsend because I can't mess around as a newly single mom and must protect my peace at all costs to provide my sons with the best life I can. Thank you.

I am hollering 🤣🤣😂😂😭😭 “he crazy 👁 oop 🤚🏾 Lord forgive me aint nobody want to say that” and the whisper in the 🎙 “you crazy.” There’s always a lesson in the message and a good laugh sometimes. Sometimes you have to laugh to not cry.

Tony!!! You gon' have to stop dat slurpin'..😂😂😂😂💀

It's wonderful that she is seeking feedback and the way she honestly asked for Tony's opinion. It's like men will literally tell women they do not want a serious relationship, either by their actions or their words, but women ignore the signs. Women have to take accountability for that, get out at the first sign he's not interested. A man who truly wants you will make it clear!!

It is hard to hear the truth. But i don't meet any man that is ready for a relationship at all 😆😅and i am 32. Heartbreaking

So true. .. That’s why I feel Blessed in my Island 🌴 of PuertoRico it’s the only place we’re you can truly own your Land and House and not pay taxes .. My God is good👏

okay so he was, "emotionally unstable" & told you he wasn't for "normal relationships" and you did some strange things to try to get him to change his mind. That's what I finally got from it. Bless your heart

You rarely ever laugh on camera so when you do, i lose it lol

I served in active duty and now I’m a federal civilian doing my military job for years now. Infidelity and having multiple choices is VERY high! Even within the marriages. I’ve been the wife & the unknowing girlfriend to a fellow service man. Not all do it-but it’s definitely a “norm”. There’s too many opportunities (people around) and too much time available to play around. He might be already married but hiding that as well. It’s part of that “culture” so let it go Ms. Lady.

#2. I didn't want to edit. I had a relationship with a military guy fifteen years ago. Soon as he was overseas for a war, he accused me of cheating. Like, really?? I waited years to get in a relationship just to cheat? 🤦🏾‍♀️Broke up with him. I ain't got time for that nonsense or being scrutinized because that's what other women do or the men in the squadron do. He realized the stupidity later, but I don't do off and on.

Desperation < Confidence. Life Lessons!!!

I am a simple girl, I see a new video from Mr. Tony Gaskins, I click like and then watch the clip with calm mind 🤍

That’s why they call it special forces, because you’re special - this line had me 🤣🤣

Made up: Soul Tie Biblical term: Stronghold 🙏🏾

Car salesman, attorneys, and insurance adjusters are the MOST underhanded professionals, especially the men.

When Tony said sf is crazy he told no lies. I knew he knew what he was talking about. I have dated several and worked with them. No ma'am no sir never again.

So men don't tell us women they don't want a relationship until we 10 months 🤔 in . We need to ask these questions from day one

I just came across this and it's ironic, bc I just ghosted a guy I was seeing on and off. He finally told me he was "to busy" to be in a relationship. He didn't "know how" to be in a relationship. In a year and two months we had sex about 10 times...and went out twice and a bunch of BS in between......are last conversation he said the only way he would leave me alone is if I changed my phone number....its been 4 days so far with my new number and new found peace.

Tony ain’t tellin not one lie. I dated a man in the army for about six months. Bro told me he love me and wanted to marry me because I was the one. Brought me gifts and all that. One day he was gone with the wind, gone like the wind and I never heard from him again. Smh

LISTENING IS KEY. IT CAN BE HARD TO DO. I'VE DEFINITELY BEEN THERE BEFORE. I WISHED I DID LISTEN AND SAVED MYSELF SOME HEART BREAK. BUT YOU GROW AND USE THE EXPERIENCE TO DO BETTER. TONY IS REALLY SAVING LIVES. 🙏🏽☝🏾👏🏾

Great input and advice on this story ! The lesson once again for all of us ladies is to only trust actions that prove love and respect, because to go on and develop feelings on anything less will lead to heartbreak and disappointments. We would all like and hope a man would change for us and realize our worth, but for a man to change he has to wish good upon himself, not wear it on his forehead that he is not relationship material. When that happens, we must love ourselves more, move on and once this lesson is learnt, we will be happy because we see things and operate differently !

Telll it Tony you have listen and believe what he tells you. You can’t change man period. Change comes within and with God help🙌🏾

Y’all better listen to Tony! 21 years in the Military he isn’t lying

Facts - Confirmation, Confirmation!!!! Abstinence = Total Peace Of Mind..Speak on it “die out to your flesh” - TG 🙏🏼 Stay Blessed!

Look, I've played this back 5 times...now what now?! 😩🥴

Discipline, responsibility, integrity, character, self love, loving thy neighbor as thyself. Grown man core values

Oh my lol...I was military and I would not look to date someone in special forces, infantry, or in the marines. Training is to intense to remain stable.

God Bless You Tony! You hit the nail on the head with the "Special Forces" point. I met someone who was cop and all he did was play games. I gave him way too much credit he didn't deserve. I'm really enjoying and learning from your messages. Thank You!

I busted out laughing when she mentioned her gay fren 😩😭😂

I don't understand these men no more. That's why i'm single i've been single for 4 years going on 5 and it just feels all these dudes are the same. I already met one dude from last week the first thing he told me he had five kids and not only that he was sleeping around with a women who is already married. Soon as i heard that, that was a wrap asap. It just feel like men these days are only looking for one thing its either the money, the drugs, or the sex and it is just sad because ain't none of them can respect a lady none of them don't wanna do anything but be lazy and stare off to space and looking dead directly at you while you're talking and he ain't listening.

Tony got us trained to the T! LOL @ about [2:00] min mark I shook my head and said “ Alright Nah you done messed around and got on yo Bikye (back)” and still lost the man . Smh .. this letter was too good LOL

Moral of the story don't be a Captain-Save-A-'Boy

Amen Tony! Thanking God for your father helping you to find your true calling to help us be better women and wives!🙏🏽🔥

How many times does Tony have to tell us we can't change a man? He has a whole video titled "you can't change him"

Man! I've been there. This sounds like my children's father....smh... A tough road. But the truth is that they will tell you who they are up front. We've got to stop trying to "prove" and "save"... Whew, hard lesson learned. I appreciate the free game you give Tony....you are breaking chains!!💪🏾👑💪🏾

That slurpin TOOK ME OUT😭GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TONY🖤👑

What you didn't realize is. HE CRAZY.

It’s too much games being played by some of these men. It’s sad and ridiculous on another level.

I've always been weary of military and police men. He knows how to shoot and if he does something to you, he has people on his side who will protect him.......they're not all like that though. (my stbx did mixed martial arts and put me in choke holds when he started gettin physical - you're right T)

He crazy, then all the different faces Tony ! too FUNNY!

I love this man he taught me so much man and God bless him for helping us and seeing things we don't see or don't want to see.

Y’all are truly a blessing!!!! I’ve applied so much of this to my life. You are giving the game Ive never got from my dad or brother! Thank you!!!

Gave husband benefits to a man that's not your husband? How?

Tony whenever I’m having a rough day I listen to you. You’re hilarious 😂 I need these laughs about these serious topics.

That lean in when Tony said “...he crazy-“ I died 🤣🤣🤣

Mr Tony You Are So Funny Not The Eyes And "He's Crazy " Took Me Over The Top!!! The Advise Right On Point Thank You So Much !!! Trying To Find My Way Over 60 And By Myself in This New World To Many Grown Boys!! Lol!!

Lmbo.. "Do you have a pic of that package". 😂😂

This was a great Talks with Tony episode!! Thank you!!!

I learn so much from you Bro! God bless you for being a blessing!!

Hi! Tony you are killing it! This is a good one!Be blessed!🙏🏽

Thank you Tony for this message you save me from a heartache.

Tony’s words can really expand your mind!!! 🙌🏾

I’m sorry but she really played herself. These women need to do better. I’m wondering why so many have such low self esteem? Some stuff is just a no off the rip! She openly acknowledged that she didn’t WANT to hear a word he said; now she’s played and writing Tony. 🤔😏 Can we just get it together for ourselves??? I’m just saying.....

Today video tickled me 🤣 but was informative at the same time. I especially love the small piece of knowledge in regards to renting, buying, and property taxes. Because it is absolutely 💯 true. Home ownership was designed for banks to make money. Tip, if you want to and you can afford too. Buy land and build your home on that land. So that you own it and not the bank.

Good evening Coach, enjoyed this one you know how to give straight facts. God bless you and your family

From the bottom of my heart I wanna say thank ur Mr Tony Gaskin 😊😊

Love the vocabulary lessons..love it!

I really appreciate the light drawn on this; this perspective was very insightful Tony. His profession in most cases reveals his focus and mindset.

Thanks for sharing, be blessed!

He crazy🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭

Thank you for your great insight.

Tony, you’re the best. Always preaching and making me laugh, thank you!

2:40 omg she ate it like groceries ❗️

From the get go this man was a challenge to this woman. Sadly she ignored the signs. Men trained in the military or law enforcement are tough nuts to crack. A man like this is not easily charmed by women. He's either into you or he's not..and his cut off game will be next level if you don't meet his standards. So you better be strong when you deal with him...because he's going to control how close you get to him.

Great lesson!!

Wow!!! So much insight and wisdom! Your channel and talks has blessed me tremendously and opened up so many new revelations! God is pleased! Your boys are blessed to have you as a father! Thank you!!!!!

I love you Tony! I love you with the love of God as I love your wife and children. I listen to you and I laugh, sometimes I cry, but I always thank God for you and your ministry! my brother, you’re a gift!

Thank you. Good advice. Just like you said. It's common sense.God bless you and your family

Loved this video and that shirt is fly Tony!!!

The Last 3 minutes...🙌🙌🙌 God bless you Tony

Such a beautiful video!