I lost my mom while still at varsity. She died in my hands. Life happened, God prospered me. As I type this, I’m holding an Honors degree in Early childhood development, busy with my Masters in Educational leadership. On top of that I work in China. I’ve also worked in the Netherlands. In 2022, I obtained an award for excellence in primary school teaching from the Gauteng Department of Education. I chose not to build an altar for my pain! I got busy with bettering myself to make my late mom proud and today when I look back, I’m still amazed by the grace that kept me. Praying for those reading this. May you tap in the same grace that I experienced ❤

Don’t die before your actual death, just because you lost your loved one. Don’t build an altar for your pain, heal because you deserve a healed version of yourself

The interviewers are such good listeners,they gave Mme Lilokwe an ample time to narrate her pain and grief so beautifully 👏👏 She's well spoken i must say

I love how she recognises God’s hands in everything, even in grief

Not only does she narrate a story on grief and healing but also gives us a glimpse on the power of love

Guys I like how she still calls him love. They must have had a beautiful love story..

I could watch her the whole day. Authenticity, and the command of her voice.

“Pain can be addictive…. Don’t be committed to pain so much that your own healing doesn’t stand a chance…” felt!

❤😢 "Do Not Build An Alter For Your Pain, Your Healing May Cost You, There Are People Who Are Benefiting From Your Pain, Heal Either Way"🫂😭❤️📍 This Hit Home!!

I came running from Tik tok, first time here and moving in.Greetings everyone🙌

I remember when Kgopedi changed her greeting from "I'm Kgopedi wa Namane" to "I'm Kgopedi Lilokoe". My heart for her😍

She oozes dignity, elegance… I don’t have the words ✨🫶🏽 I love her

“Pelo e bohloko eka u tlailisa.” 🙌🏾. Aus Kgopedi embodies WISDOM. I walk away A DIFFERENT PERSON after watching this interview.

Mamfundisi is so well spoken. ❤ Nkare nka mo reetsa the whole day. Being loved like that is something else. 🥹🥹🥹

Lost my mom during Covid. November 2021. Four years later I am still struggling. I have listened to ted talks, sermons and read so many books on grief. none come close to how much I related to this episode. Listening to Ms Kgopedi has been so cathartic. Thank you. When she said "dont build an altar for your pain" I teared up, Ebe thetha nam. Thank you so much for this episode. It is exactly what I needed.

God is faithful even in situations that don't make sense to us. All things work together for the goodness of the Lord. I lost my mother at the age of 7 and my father at the age of 9. Got adopted by my aunt an uncle, my Aunty passed when I was 12 and uncle at 21. I lived in grief for years and years and God healed me in totality. I can testify of God walking with me in patience.

As much as this is about grief, but this episode has renewed my faith. There's a song by Donnie McClurkin, STAND. She stood in her faith and never wavered. Thank you❤

OH man, you're taking me down a painful memory lane of 20 years ago with a 6 month and a 9 years old. God will see you through, and those little people will grow like a small mustard seed where birds of the earth will take rest. Through God, I am now a queen, careerwise all-round mercy. Those little people are now graduates making waves in their own careers, too. I chose not to marry again and focused more on this God. All is well. Our God is the God of widows he has a soft spot for us. I am a living testimony.

Ohhhh my, this is exactly what happened to my wife in 2021 December... covid really tested our faith, till this I'm yet to be back at church because Sabbaths are no longer the same😢

The deep breaths she kept on taking in between at the beginning. She is strong but it's still painful.

One thing i learnt is Grief is also informed by the relationship one had with the departed , I believe her amazing story of love with her husband must be crucial in this healing journey. She was loved correctly and that gives her the strength to be . She dropped nuggets of wisdom , spoke so poetically and ever so real about her experience. She is amazing , love from Botswana. ❤❤❤🇧🇼

The wisdom Mme Lilokoe carries is a blessing to us

Shout out to the main interviewer, your expert ear and gentle probing, brought out this authentic conversation 🙌🏾

I lost my dad 2 weeks ago 17 March 2024💔. All this suffocating love is stuck inside, making my chest tight. I started seeing a psychologist and she said "Grief is just love... with no place to go." The sadness feels like a big wave, crashing over me again and again. It feels like I'm drowning in a sea of sorrow, with no end in sight. I can't even imagine the pain stopping. The hollowness is like a giant weight holding me down. A constant reminder... My heart is empty. Yet full of love. This deep love for my dad. That has no nowhere go💔. I can't wait for the day I'm okay like you🙏🏽🙏🏽

I watched it right from the beginning until the end in one go. I cried so much because I was reminded of my own journey with grief. Loosing my Mom is still one of the most traumatic things I have ever gone through. I really didn't know how to deal with the pain and I overshared so much with people that later used my pain against me. Thank you for bringing Aus Kgopedi....she is an amazing woman,May God continue to be with her and her babies and give her incredible strength❤❤#GriefIsnotLinear

Dont build an alter for your pain...Yohhhhhh😭😭😭😭

Can someone please tell me why am I crying 😢...thank you so much for the interview ❤

This reminds me of my daughter's situation. She lost her husband in 2021. Their son was only 3years old. My son in law was a pastor My daughter never lost her faith till this day.

Pain does something to a persons body. I felt that…

I am getting goosebumps listening to the story of how they met.

I watched this over and over again, lost my husband 2020 due to COVID also i went through similar journey and watching this mke me realise that i'm not alone❤, Love you Makgopedi

It’s been 13 years since I lost the love of my life, my grandma. She never got to experience me as an adult and all the things I have achieved. All other loss just awakes that sadness. 😢

Came running from tik tok to listen to this gem and I'm so glad. No words to describe her really❤

A lesson I am taking from here is to be intentional ❤

Talking about the guilt, I can relate. I blamed myself for the cancer that took my husband. How I have no answer. But I held on the hem of His garment. Here I am, enjoying the honey of my new marriage. God is good all the time. Jeremiah 11:29 kept me going.

Listening to it again… Hawu hle! …. that statement got me again because I went through it. It is also a season of great learnings, filtering of true friendships, confusion yet required to be strong, people benefitting from your brokenness. Oh! I get you sisi; I also concur - we’ve been sustained by His grace; Surrounded by His love. …. And then you realise that everything is on me….🥲 But you wake up everyday…my brother said write things down, bills, pins, passwords. Shu! To whoever is going through this… be gentle with yourself.🙏🏾 Happy to hear of such a beautiful love story.

I’ve always respected Kgopeli ! Oh man , what a gem we have been gifted . She has always had such amazing words to impart and this time , she not only touched but healed my soul . Thank you for this and if you see this Kgopeli , know that you are love and are loved ❤

What a beautiful soul. A fountain of wisdom and strength. "Don't build an alter for your pain...Heal"

"I had no plan, love forever was our plan"😭❤

"The are things we do not move from" oooh this😫

"...when your partner has promised forever..." I felt that because when your partner dies, your hopes, plans, dreams, promises, your whole future dies. 😶

I love her. What a woman! I feel like I know her even though it's the first time I see or hear about her. She has a beautiful love story that many people don't have. I wish to that people can learn to be kind to those who are grieving. It was an emotional episode. Ursula and Bonga were supportive, that's a better word that I can use. Please bring her again. She is articulate and knowledgeable. Her presence can be felt

I lost my mom April last year, the past year has been the hardest for me. I couldn't even pray. April this year, same weki lost my mom I broke up with the father of my child whomst I held on dearly because thought he's the only person I have left. Surprisingly during that pain God stretched his hand I found myself drawn back to God praying more, praising the Lord and I've since accepted that my mom's gone. Life goes on. Sometimes God uses pain to reveal himself to us

A woman point 5 She is ball of fire I love her She is too powerful Thank you guys the interview was really good ❤❤❤

The conversation is flowing. I would listen to you the whole day. Thank you so much for insights on grief❤

Thank you for this interview. Kgopedi is on another level, the authenticity, love and empathy that we easily give to others can do amazing things if we give to ourselves as well. I'm one of the relatives who didn't know what to say to her when the news broke. I remember sending flowers to her house a week later and forgetting to add my name on the card....I guess I was also devastated that I couldn't think straight. Lots of love to all who needed to hear the story of loss and know that we most times don't have it figured out.

Yhoo guys, ho bohloko maan... But we grow through pain.. Love & light to Ausi Kgopedi and everyone who lost their loved ones through any form of pain, be it death or breakup, pain is pain and its also mercy. ❤❤

Wow i just love how many people held her hand in her darkest hour of her life.❤❤❤

I can't stop crying 😭😭 am really struggling with my mother passing 💔

"Don't die before your actual death just because you burried your loved ones" 😭😭

I'm struggling with grief still. Today was worse. Missed my late dad. 12 years later.

I did not know I needed to hear this. Grief is earth shattering.

😢😢 8 years since my baby daddy died still feels like yesterday....sudden death of a 33year old guy full of life leaving his family & for me to raise our daughter alone thank God his family is still very much involved from all aspects of her life we still visit them etc...gs it makes it makes it easier but haaa it's journey & half to heal

Love Kgopedi. Such a beautiful interview. May she be covered in strength and God protect her little ones. First time watching this channel and I'm subscribing after this interview....

I lost my son Dec 2024, i was so calm, still calm and i can only thank God for that, i remember talking God when doctor told me he is leaving he was battling cancer, i felt each and every organ inside me moving up and down, worse part i felt like my heart was just sitting on my throat, and i remember praying saying God i don't know what's happening please give me strength, strengthen my faith and may i trust you on this journey i am about to embark on, that was it, grieving is a rollercoaster indeed but with God its doable

Love her so much best news reader very much well spoken woman of God❤

I lost my aunt in 2019. I was with her when she departed. I have been in pain ever since and although I have found a way to live without her, I think of that day every day. Watching this before work had me in tears because I'm realizing everyday that grief is a shapeshifter and it's okay to feel how we feel about losing our loved ones. I needed this. Thank you🥺🥺 ❤

I'm a widow my husband passed over 2021 July 01 that was a very very painful experience journey for me I stopped praying coz he was all I left with my brother's passed over and my father too died same year I gained strength by your incaregeng words of wisdom thanks a lot

Eish I had to make sure that I'm well dressed and looking like a "Man point 5" before writing this comment😂 Sad but necessary topic to have, thank you guys❤❤

Eish bra, I felt the betrayal of him lying lifeless, and I had to continue with the small kids and not knowing what to do. Why didn't you fight for us 💔

Let me watch, I have been struggling with grief since 2000 when I lost my mom at age 11. Now I want nothing to do with funerals, I don't know how will I support my wife when she loses her parents. 😢

"Ha maatla afela, you hold on to nkane" I felt that: one of my life's mottos. This was so powerful in many different ways..Thank you Mme Kgopedi and Ursula. Love❤ & Light

Mme Lilokwe you said "the hair grew the minute it was cut"😢

Kgopedi story is painful but please invite her again

Powerful and healing message🙏🏽, even for those who haven't yet experienced grief in the form of death but have been living in grief (depression) most of their lives. May it be well, with our souls💛🙏🏽

What an incredible Woman she is!!! just her voice is healing!!!! Love Mommy Kgopedi!!!!

Yho! I will LIVE! 🙌. I'm encouraged. I lost my husband in October 2020, and I'm learning how to live. 💙

Sending love and light to everyone who lost loved ones to Covid-19 🙏❤️

I lost both my parents last year 2023 🥹I buried my mom while my dad was in ICU,3 days after my mom’s funeral ,my dad passed away. I’m still struggling with grief🥹.Go botlhoko,I cry myself to sleep every day 🥹 Thank you for this interview ❤

I needed to hear this conversation.it’s been 15 years since my mom passed and I think I stopped living and created an altar for my pain,grief is something else .😔I cried my heart out during this interview and I didn’t know I needed that so much.Thank you Mme , for the first time I have let go and allowed my mother’s beautiful soul to rest in peace.❤️

It took time for me to eventually watch this...I think now im ready. I buried my mom last month. She lost a battle to cancer, I had not healed from losing my brother and now mom. Yhuu but Kgopedi explains it better,you really made me feel better, its like you read my script...nkane kept me going when it all didn't make sense and everyone was saying haai girl you are strong and I asked, what should I do? Im the only daughter and the eldest, I had to bury mom. Im so greateful for our church NCFI, man they held us when the world was spinning, when family turned on us. I thank God for grace, honestly its going to be a long journey

Unabantu Bakho Thixo Ngamaxesha onke Ubagcina Ubanceda Ngamaxesha onke! 🙏🏿🤲🏿🙌🏿🙇🏿‍♂️

This is very empowering and has definitely made me feel super-comfortable in my grief and it also confirmed that I really need to be kind, gentle & patient with myself during this period. Thank U so much for sharing Ma' Moruti. Stay blessed.

This channel popped onto my TikTok feed. The guest’s voice (discovered here her name is Kgobedi) sounded so familiar so I was curious to know more. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful and moving story of a journey through life: love, loss and grief. Excellently done content.

I haven’t experienced grief of a close loved one, but I’m one of those that have ‘died before my own death’, and definitely ‘built an altar for my pain’. Sheeeebaa…this episode makes me want to LIVE! Mme Lilokoe is wisdom personified ❤

Im back to watch again, I need to hear this again🥺

Oooooh My word Ursula and Bonga this painful and healing 😢😢 I lost my father 2016but it's still hurts but to hear this is healing

I give thanks to God for this interview . This has helped me heal so much in ways I can never be able to explain . Kea leboga🙏🏿

Thank you for bringing Kgopedi! I've loved her from day one... she's those ousi who will be forever in your corner. Her energy is beautiful, through and through! She really honoured her husband in this interview. So beautiful. It feels selfish to feel sorry when she's telling her story with so much passion, hope and life. It's so beautiful!! I want a love like that... obviously I need to cultivate a great attitude like her. Thank you Kgopedi for the lessons! You are amazing, forever! P.S. Promoting this as far and wide as I can! Really good interview!!!

Yoh wow, ❤❤❤

39:05 the guilt...omw😢 Thank you Ursula for this🙏🏽

Hugs❤❤

Let’s clean up house so we can do the “forever “ on a clean slate 🥹🥹🥹😭😭. The love one desires

I'm so happy with Bonga's questions Bathong

One of the things I said at my Dad's funeral is that, I have no plans or dreams that are without him. I felt so lost like my life plans had just been changed. Eish ukufa kodwa.

Yoh❤

Grief is messy be gentle with yourself❤

Wow ❤❤❤

Yhoo this episode felt like a hug. Nothing happens without a reason. Im not much affected by grief,but I've learned the importance of community and how its ok it is to just keep quite when you have nothing to say. UmamKgopedi i wish her many more shinny days and all those affected by grief❤

I love she narrated her story so calmly, her story is more like my story, I lost my partner also in 2021. I envy her strengths. She is so strong. All the way from Namibia🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦

Wow

So glad to bump into this channel and specifically this video today. My baby would have turned 5 years old yesterday. I miscarried when I was 2 days away from reaching 27 weeks being pregnant in 2019. I thought I was good and healed but this milestone birthday broke me in ways I didn’t think were possible again. Grief is so strange. It never goes away, I guess we learn to move forward with it. The pain is different everyday. I remember in 2019 when I was getting back into my “normal” life and I was laughing at something and I quickly gathered myself on some “you can’t be happy, you are grieving”. I know it sounds crazy but going through grief has made me empathetic to people who lose their lives to depression and sometimes lose their minds because nothing makes sense.

Beautiful 😻

Thank you for this ❤

❤ i am sending you hugs sisi.

Watch your tongue while you're at it. When you're in pain you don't know the line.. if you're not feeling your steps, you'll tend to overshare... it's ok yo shut up..💖

What a beautiful episode, this woman is such a gem. As I'm watching this, I realize how much void (besides the heart break) my husband would leave if he were to die, the way he does so many things in our household that I don't have to worry about. Man, I don't appreciate him enough 😢. This was a beautiful episode I must reiterate!

This was a beautiful watch

I needed this ...thank you sisi❤

I am fresh into being a widow… but I saw me in her. She took the words right out of my mouth 😢❤ yoh haai inde lendlela