I was neglected growing up and have suffered with PTSD for most of my life. Two years ago I started healing my childhood trauma and I finally gave my inner child what it needed growing up. Life is no longer painful. When we’re ready, we can heal. If you’re reading this and need encouragement I can tell you that self-love is possible!

“Life's tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late.” Benjamin Franklin

Shout out to the 72 year old client for doing for her what was never done. So inspiring!!

I've started writing letters to my younger self in my journal and the more I do it the more I feel so warm, content, and relaxed inside. I can see my younger self begins to smile for every nice words I tell her and it makes me happy too.

... and many kids now don't have the soothing & support from extended family, friends, community..

I loved this message. This is exactly what happens. Healing from Self Love Deficiency is worth every pain and struggle because being on the side of Self Love Abundance even for one day feels like your life has been worth living and it has had its meaning. Thank you Ross. God bless you❤

How crazy, all the pics from being young & in my 20’s I can see the sadness behind my smile. Wow

Everyone around me tells me “it’s too late” for me.. I have a hunch that I’m surrounded by malignant narcissists..

Yes- Reparenting is innate. I am learning to know me.

So helpful. I was always hurt how my mother treated my father. It takes 2 for tango, but it is me who now dancing alone. But I am on a right way now! Yes!

Amazingly true, what a remarkable journey of self discovery, growth and transformation it’s been. Thank you Ross for your guidance and wisdom. Although I may falter may I never fall back. It is better to walk alone in the wilderness than with fools, beauty and goodness will simultaneously arise. To peace. 🙏

Really important point he made; a child that gets all the [psychological] nutrients they need grows up to be a healthy adult with problems. / A child who doesn’t grows up with those problems exacerbated.

What he says about negative emotions sounds so realistic. And what he says about potential for growth is so inspiring.

Grew up with a BPD or narcissistic PS mother. Still figuring out my dad (likely SLDD). My sister is untreated BPD. My aunt who recently passed was BPD. I’ve struggled with C-PTSD and codependency . That being said, I committed to breaking the cycle as a young adult 20 yrs ago. You prove my theory that most personality disorders are at their core developmental delays. My parents did the best they could, but were also damaged from those before them. Generational cycles are a real pickle. Still working my way up the ladder to full healing, but I have come a very, very long way. Recently found your channel and hearing others helps me place more of my own experiences to heal. Attempting to find a partner when I know I have attachment trauma has made me terrified to even try. I will keep loving on that little girl left to fend for herself, who parented both parents, who filled the partial role of wife and husband respectively, who broke up the BPD drama tantrums, who learned and then unlearned manipulations as a method to get her needs met, who was gaslit be family and friends well into adulthood. Life is a gift. Love is our birthright. Love is who we are. I am here to be the person I needed so badly growing up, but never had. For others who are struggling, you aren’t alone and healing is possible. There are also silver linings from these dark nights of the soul as we heal. May we shine so brightly and break the chains of these cycles so we may have life to the fullest and that generations to come never experience such lack. Peace and blessings to all. ❤️🙏🏻🌎🙏🏻❤️

Ross, you're saving lives. You're such an inspiration. You're right about saying, "you can't go back" 7:40 your authentic self overrides the old programming. You can't bring yourself to do it. I'm at this place, still growing- many miles to go.

This guy sums it up perfectly. I’m in the process of retraining my amygdala and healing inner child through self compassion…the safer I feel in my body the more my body freaks out telling me it’s not safe to feel safe. But I can feel my brain start to deeply relax like never before. This stuff seriously works.

I can't wait to read your book! A catalyst experience and connection propelled me to help myself and empower myself. I don't blame my parents but i can see how codependent and dysfunctional their connection was and how they themselves had unconscious parents and how that played out in their form of parenting which left me wounded. For me personally, my imprints arent just childhood related but past life, which has come up on my path to acknowledge and heal. Some of the stuff we carry too are related to ancestral karma that we can break free from.

Great information. Just coming to terms with a lot of things I’ve buried and constantly surface. Appreciate all you do. Blessings to you and everyone who reads this.

This modality is v.effective for patients with BPD & Chronic Depressive illness. Thanks Dr. Rosenberg for your affect stimulating videos 😊

Thank you, Dr. Ross. Your videos have made so much sense. I wish the mental health community all subscribed to your ideas and processes. I've paid a lot for "band aids" over the years. I've found more healing from applying what you teach in your videos than from EMDR and from making "positive declarations" over myself. Again, thank you, sir.

Man only if I could work with Ross, my life would be so different. I got his book, gonna read it

You know no matter my situation as soon as i feel triggered i watch your videos you have saved me more times than you can ever know. I Have grown strong and set boundaries because i learned how the mind works due to trauma i can go on but want to thank you again👍🤗❤

I revisit your channel ever so often. Always helpful

This is fabulous! Thank you for your work.

This is so true. The work is hard but so dang rewarding. Great video.

Thanks so much Sir. God bless you. You've helped me change a whole lot. More blessings to you

Thank you 🙏.

Thank you, Ross!

I can't wait to start recovering !

This approach is something I'd like to incorporate into my life and into my family's life as well. There is no way I can afford $125, but will become as familiar as I can with this approach. Thank you for sharing.

I received plenty of "Vitamin L" from my family but I met alot of people who didn't and I recommend to seek help to live a happy life again. Thanks for your in put.

This is so informative, helpful and empowering.❤️❤️❤️

Bravo xxx thank you Ross

Ross you Rock the look. It suits you very much, sir. Thank you for this beautiful content ❤️

Nice, yes knowledge-based recovery and the application of the material studied. It's truly the only way off, the roller-coaster. Yet it is sad, but being hung up on the application. It's part of the learned false narrative, stop the record player from skipping. Please don't stop lifting yourself up, it is part the inside work. I digging the book, your perspective and solution, do help, with a complete reset.. Peace

Awesome insights

Love the upbeat music at the end.

Thank you,i love the way you say vitamin L...😇😇😇

I had saved some other videos on this kind of thing but this one when i found it has been very helpful for me. As it has described exactly what I have been going through the last 2 years since my relationship breakup happened in a traumatic and unexpected way. I did not know there was different stages you can go through during this time. And described my life what is says on the cigarettes description of sldd recovery. I had neglect growing up and some PTSD as a result the last few years but im coming out of it now. The thing i wonder from this video is if you have had some conflict and heartbreak going on from some different life situations throughout this, as a result of being in the process of recovering from SLDD. should these situations that have been brought on during this time ever subside or does it have no effect on them? even if you have recovered mostly from self love deficit from having codependant mother. If anyone knows or the author. thankyou

How does one resolve what one does not remember as a child?

For me reparenting is the best best way to enhace self esteem

Thank You So Very Much For Sharing.I Listen To All Of Ur Videos On Narcissistic Abuse.As A Child I Grew Up With A Narcisstic Mother....I Was Recently In A Toxic Narcissistic Relationship...I Recently Ordered Ur Book Thank You For Ur Videos ..... Can You Please Do A Video On Why The Narcissists Treat You Like You Don't Exist...I Struggled With This For So Many Years...

When I was six years old My father prevented me from expressing my feelings, and I sat behind the door and I felt terribly loneliness , shameful and inferior 😔 I was in terrible pain .

Ross, u the best, cant wait to come off the waiting list, I'll wait forever ... However long it takes

I so need this r treatment!

Thank you. Very helpful.

I just received your book I'm on chapter 1💕.

Your 72 yo client is good news to my ears. Thanks for sharing that. From your 73 yo client.

I always go back to the little girl to heal.....

It’s really hard to hear about what I experienced is abuse & im so scared for my children . I want to be a healed mom for my boys ❤️

Is there or will there be a Codependency Cure book 📚 by Ross Rosenberg? Thx ☺️ Love 💕 Ross Rosenberg & his Human Magnet 🧲 Syndrome book 📚 has helped me immensely in ref to healing ❤️‍🩹 , evolving psychologically.☺️ 💕

Thank You

Thank you for making it clear that it s all mammels... I sometimes think, animals have far less mental health problems than we do... 😂

Very helpful thank you

-If you don't have fear anymore.. how can you know how to protect yourself? I used to have anxiety for not feeling anxiety..

Emotional regulation looking forward to a real smile

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You want to know doctor Rosenberg what strike me most? I want to be honest, fully transparent with you (honesty deserve honesty in return). I got on my own a kind of "curse" boosted by some years of studying this topic plus education. A little digression is needed: I grown up with a single parent (a mom) with some issues unsolved on her own ( a combination of covert narcissism and workalcholism, but on her side, she actually is a good person and she done her best to rise me up for a single person alone). But what she done most with me was the silence treatment, no words, no answers about important topics of life so I always have to guess what on her mind every single time, all my life. And I use to done it through body language reading on her. During the college years I get interested in the study of tells of players in poker, cynesic, body language, micro-expressions. And I keep studying it for a while combinated with my form of co-dependency and people pleasing and a huge form of hot empathy, so for me was almost natural reading the feelings of people, a kind of natural defence in the first place get stronger by education. Now I quit doing it honestly becouse was freaking my out on an emotional level after a while and, with C-PTSD, I really need to calm and chill my emotions and be grounded not to speculate about the emotions hidden behind the words of people is one of the first step to do, most problematic issue of this subject is that in this "reading trick" there are too many "false positives"(you can misinterpreter the emotions, so could be very dangerous to do). I quit now but I still have this little ability to get these little things on people. And here the point I want to tell you: when I saw in your incipit "It's actually possibile to repair yourself becouse you're actually not a parent") what I saw was a little involunter gesture you done that struck me up in a way, I felt an emotion. You lifted your finger to your left eye scratching under it while you were telling that specific sentence. So I saw this "tell" ( named indicator) and I follow your channel for know how to get out of the pit of self love deficit: I perceived a form of being touchness by (or maybe is a projection of mine, a memory of yours or just you being so touched by), but I want to assume I'm right and Here my hypotesis about that I want to share: you know very well that it could be fixed the self love deficit disorder, we could fix ourselves in the better way possibile using some strategies and tattics and a good combination of will and the education on this topic. Little by little. But under this conscious veil of possibility there is an annoying little pebble down into our subconscious mind, and on a conscious level too, that we will not be able to, it's normal. The Germans have the word "Fernweh" (the nostalgia for elsewhere we were never being), mutuated on this field "The obsessive idea What...if.. the nostalgia for what could happened.. if only..". And this pebble of doubt or, viceversa, the opposite field of possibilities of recovery is what, in my humble opinion, was making me or you touched for ( that indicator mean "touched by" as emotion, indicate that someone is touched) and reading it while you were speaking making me resonate a lot and touched by as well 'couse I got the very same pebble of doubt mashed with the excitement of the infinite possibilities ..if only .. I can start to love myself in a better way. Almost was a form of regret about this situation we are dealing with (start loving yourself as you never done in your life). We know the path, and we both know it's possible but this little "pebble of uncertainty" that will be not totally free from this condition it's what, in the deep of our souls, make a little bit sad and joyful knowing could be possible at the same time. Surely being touched for. We know it's possibile, your work and books prove it to me. Human feelings are something really complex. I know could be bitter sometimes, I'm sad sometimes, but thank to you and some other wonderful people like you I think that the sadness must have to disappear focusing on the idea that even if we be not fully able to repair ourselves, as all this never happen to us in the first place, we could consider that the child inside ourselves, the wounded inner child we are trying to reparenting and connect with and make feel good today projected and embodied on our adult form of us that it's actually, today, doing stunning great things to others that are way more positive and wonderful to ourselves and to anybody around us if we allow him/her too. Yeah maybe I'll be not completly fixed in the end but at least I will learn how to do it. I'm sure that my little humble mr. nobody contribution to this, together with your and some other greater contributions on this topic will help many and we must consider it about everyday, we could not change our past but we can make a better future for us and for others, and this little other pebble of positivity must and have to counterbalance the pebble of doubt. Building up a brand new emotional equilibrium. Quoting Dante and his Commedy when he reach the top of the heaven that he was not able to describe in words he close his work with this last sentence of his book (I'm italian so "pardon my french"): "E ' l'amor che move il sole e l'altre stelle." (translation: "It's the Love that moves the Sun and the other stars"). You, me, all these followers, and so many people all around the world is a pure form of love for ourselves and humanity all and, according to Dante's Commedy, this feeling will be really able to move the Sun and the other stars if we embrace it, so it's really priceless! Priceless and most important stronger that any kind of sadness, love saves. I'm just so sorry for being this long on my comment. Thank you for your's video. Seriously, for being so inspiring to me and help me out so much. A great hug for you from Torino, where the peeks of the Alps that I saw everyday resemble to me, and symbolical iconic way, the highness of our potential love. We could climb on these top to the peaks (ie. heal and loving ourselves). Yeah it's an hard task climb to the top but is not impossible to be done with the right tools, some courage and the right inspiration like your videos provided to me. So Thank you. ^_^ “Do anything, but let it produce joy.” (Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass)

I am going through Hypnotherapy to reprogram my subconscious mind. I will succeed

I am stunned! This describes me!! I need help to heal...where do I even start??

Vitamin L (love). Hahah i loved it💗

Wow🙏🙏

Hi Ross Do you do online therapy sessions?

i had trauma i didn’t even allow myself to remember.

How do we do self love recovery? Where can I go for this ?

this time, from 11:00 I can't get the point.

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Vitamin L 😂😂😂