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Hmm, so my key takeaways are: - The idea of being "the best" is toxic to your motivation - Relying on emotions to motivate you, positive or negative, is highly inconsistent because they fluctuate. - It's more effective to motivate yourself with your values than your desires. - Questions to ask yourself: "What is more important to me right now?" e.g. Is it more important to give up or give into the pressure not to do the thing, or to keep at it? "Tomorrow, which choice will lead to pride? And which choice will lead to regret?" - Use the knowledge as soon as possible, demonstrate it, share it, teach someone else who knows even less, make something with it.

dr.k you are the first professional to actually create lasting changes in my thought patterns and behavirors.

2:31 Fun fact: what at first may seem a stock photo of a homeless man, is in fact a real person. Known as Old Man Belfield, Michael Byrne was a homeless man who lived for decades on the campus of University College Dublin, in Ireland. He was a man of few words whom the university population grew fond of back in the day because he intervened and saved a female student from a SA, garnering goodwill from UCD staff and students for the rest of his life. He unfortunately passed away a few years ago. However learning of his past presense at UCD was an interesting tale I read about before entering the student body myself earlier this year. Just wanted to point him out. Quite a coincidence that he turned up in a video from one of my favourite creators ✌🏻❤️

A couple internal knots I've begun to untangle recently: - I always struggled to follow through on tasks unless I had external accountability, e.g. someone else expecting me to do it. Then it hit me one day: I follow through for other people because I believe they deserve to have their promises upheld. *I didn't believe deep down that I deserve to have my promises upheld, even (especially) my promises to myself.* Understanding this on a gut level and coming to truly feel accountable to myself is a game changer. - I thought every day for years about writing music and rarely, if ever, actually did it. I thought at first that it meant I didn't have talent for it, but one night an internal expectation to get the song perfect the first time just... dissolved. I was able to trust the process, get into flow, and not get frustrated when it took some trial and error to make it to something I thought was cool. Turns out making art is actually fun when your intention isn't to sit down and crap out a masterpiece, but just to play for a couple hours.

Dr k you're a cutie

Worked at an accelerated language training school. Everyone struggled, no matter how intelligent or capable. Those who spoke the most in the new language learned fastest. They made far more mistakes, especially early on, but by being willing to not be perfect they solidified their skills and understanding more effectively. During later testing, those who spoke more during initial training retained language skills for longer, and could bring things back more quickly.

In my opinion the most important point you made is "use your infantile and pathetic knowledge as soon as possible": I was in my first year of high school and I just started playing bass guitar, but I immediately joined EVERY school musical project (I was also the only bassist willing to play in my school), even if I barely knew how to put my fingers on the fretboard, this helped me immensely as a self-taught learner

Yep, being the "best" is also an extrinsic motivator, which is a one way ticket to burnout. And Dr. K touched on this in another video, but when it comes to learning anything I would say that being very intimate with the material is key, it's just the two of you. When you're interested in something you want to understand it, you want to know how it works inside and out. But if you're in it for the prestige (being the best) then your interest will wain and you will never fully understand, appreciate, or like the material because your attention is always outwardly focused. So yeah..go on a date with your textbook (go study).

I could use an entire video of helping how to find your values. Every time I sit down and try and think and write about them I get no where. Ends up me looking up a list of values and just liking the ones I assume society values as good values

So in summery: 1. write out what you value in a task that you want to do. 2. when you are doing a task and you want to stop ask yourself: A. what is most important to me at this moment? (Doing the task or giving in to laziness?) B. Which decision will lead to pride and which decision will lead to regret tomorrow? 3. use what you learn as soon as possible. Do not wait until you master a skill. As soon as you learn something and the study season is over use the thing you learned to benefit yourself and/or others.

14:46 making progress IS important. Rest is also important. When you lift weights, you get stronger, but you also need time to recuperate. If you're working hard at something, but the wheels aren't turning, taking some time off that something to take stock of what is going on, recuperate mentally, and make a new plan, is equally important.

This reminds me of really how innocent and free I was as a kid. I used to read a lot as a kid in elementary school and one of my favorite topics was science, specifically electronics. In 5th grade, we had to do projects and I chose electricity because thats what I was fond of (it wasn't driven by anyone else). At home, I was already taking apart toys because of curiosity, even though I would get yelled at and punished by my parents. Of course, because of procrastination and lack of focus (could've been trauma-related at that age), I ended up getting helped by my sister to work on the poster but she opened up a simple hand fan and that really got me even more interested in electronics. As simple as something like shorting the terminals of a AA battery. It was actually my childhood dream to become an electronics engineer and do something meaningful/helpful to the world and maybe invent stuff. But then life happens and I don't get to study what I want to study in school. Ended up graduating with a math degree as a result of my mistakes. And now, I learn and work on electronics as a hobby. I work with electronics in my job but the world is very much a "you need to conform to our standards or we won't acknowledge you" kind of place so I don't get to do much. It just took me aback and made me feel a little sad how things turned out. Honestly, it could be one of the main reasons why I'm so angry and unhappy all the time. I kind of just let the world destroy my hope and optimism. I know there were big factors in the abusive household and unsupportive and neglectful parents that ultimately led to me becoming the type of person who'd make these mistakes. If it sounds like I'm trying to absolve my own resonsibility from my actions, I'm not. I'm just expressing how sad I am that things didn't turn out the way I wanted. Despite how things turned out, I think I want to try to figure out how to reconnect with that inner child that was unyieldingly optimistic about everything and but with the addition of being able to be curious and explore freely (because that wasn't an option in my household). If I can somehow do that, I would be much happier and there would be a natural source of motivation/direction for my actions (i.e. setting a goal like "I want to learn more about X")

Me, A 35-year-old: 👁👄👁

Don't watch this while eating. I chocked on my dinner laughing, when he went all Indian sales person with his "biohacking pill". 🤣😆

LOL the advert. Legit didnt expect that. Thanks editors.

Quick tip that worked for me when perfectionism kicks in and deters me from working at something I'm not good at: make the conscious decision to do it badly. I do it for practicing cello: I commit to playing badly, that way, either i sound terrible and therefore, mission accomplished, or it sounds less awful than expected and therefore, mission accomplished. Either ways, I have practiced. Hope it helps!

The real biohack is that everything is awesome. Everything is awesome when you're part of a team including yourself.

This film is incredibly valuable to me. I feel like ADHD has ruined my life. Which may sound a bit weird since I'm only 24, but at this point I feel like a total failure, because there is actually nothing I am „awesome” at at this age. There were so many things that I was interested in as a child or teenager, or even now, things that I wanted to be "awesome" at. The most important of them was music, I wanted to play an instrument, write songs, sing, be a musician. I tried to learn to play the piano, guitar, and music theory hundreds of times, but I always gave up just being able to play a few songs. I never knew why I couldn't be persistent and systematic when I really have that desire to achieve something. Now I feel like it's too late for me to achieve some of my goals. I won't achieve anything great in music since I am basically starting from scratch again. However, being diagnosed with ADHD last year meant a lot to me. I finally understood why I could never commit to the things I wanted, as if I didn't have the strength to do so. Now that I know how my brain works, I’ve learned to force myself to do things that do not bring me immediate reward, even without medication. I am much more productive lately, but the question „Which choice will lead to pride/regret” sounds like a game changer. Even if I don't become a professional musician and become popular or whatever, I still want to try to be "awesome” at it. I'll see where it takes me. Thanks for this video!

I’m convinced Dr K is the only person who gets it.

I've been rewatching this video since it was posted a month ago trying to grasp meaning from it and I just realized something- I had been basing my reasoning for trying new things in a complex bundle of emotions which I've been mistaking for value- And that I'm actually a conscientious person without realizing it who is just really unaligned with my own values. I've been trying for over a year now to try new things and build stronger relationships with friends and family, and have been grinding it out like it's a slog with little to actually somewhat detrimental progress- Not because I don't value the things I'm thinking about doing, but because the focus of my intentions has been in trying to relieve myself of a lingering feeling of shame, regret, and frustration at not making progress towards my goals. I lost sight of my values in every area of life except one, and forgot why these things were actually important to me in the first place- Now i gotta remember my roots and focus on what actually matters now that the cloudy haze of unresolved emotions has lifted- But yeah, I just wanted to make this comment for anyone who may be like me, ask yourself: Is your reason an actual value, like your integrity? Or is it an emotional response to you not living according to your values? Which I know may sound like a bunch of mumbo jumbo- But I literally just had the epiphany that i can't prioritize properly when I'm emotional, because the more emotional I am, the less logical I get. Because logic and reasoning is a prefrontal cortex function, which will get hijacked or shut down when I'm experiencing strong emotions without even realizing it. I legit had to wake up, watch this before I had time to feel anything, and THEN I realized the problem. Because I needed a fresh brain to process it.

The editing was great, but please don't overdo it. It kept me engaged and the visuals helped me remember and think about things as discreet things instead of invisible in my head. Like the debuff, and cleansing it.

As an example, I have been playing guitar for 2.5 years and I'm 30 now. The desire of being challenged and the joy of building up my skills on it is what keeps me going. And now I actually kind of desire the mild pain of pressing the strings down lol

This comes at such a perfect time! ❤ I have a monologue presentation tomorrow and I’m really meditating on getting in touch with the truth and honesty in delivery and really understanding the art of acting. I am in my 30’s and I question what ego I need to drop to really internalize the teachings ❤

I am forever thankful for my experiences being in track growing up. When i was 15 i had this critical moment of being so terrified i would "fail" i.e. i would lose my provincial title for my track event. I ended up keeping it because of good conditions and good training but I crossed the finish line and didnt feel any satisfaction because my mental health sucked. Talking to my coaches and reflecting, I realized I was never going to be enough if I focused on that. But in track there are "personal bests/records" or PBs or PRs where we are always working to beat our own milestones. My mentors reminding me that in the end, becoming better versions of ourselves in whatever we do is more important than getting those accolades and shiny medals.

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I love how you are selling advanced spiritual wisdom disguised behind "Scientific Reasearchs" and "Logical thinking" because you know that your target will be stuck in the materialistic paradigm and won't be receptive to higher wisdom. Great job ;)

I only clicked to see if he describes my life because I’m already awesome at everything

As a depressed, anxious, severely burnt out "gifted kid", I found this rather refreshing. It's not just 'try harder', but 'change how you think about it'. At least I think I understood the assignment?

This is something I've come to understand on my own but in a different way. When looking up to someone "perfect" and wanting to be like that, there's a distinction between the path they took and the end result you see. If, for example, you want to get in excellent shape and the target is a body type you've seen in the gym, it's possible that hammering away at machines will be a dismal experience. Then you come across calisthenics and realise there's a more enjoyable way to get to where you want to be.

I recently watched an interview with Neil deGrasse Tyson on the topic how parents can squash curiosity in their kids and it really reminded me of how innocent and free I was as a kid. I used to read a lot as a kid in elementary school and one of my favorite topics was science, specifically electronics. In 5th grade, we had to do projects and I chose electricity because thats what I was fond of (it wasn't driven by anyone else). At home, I was already taking apart toys because of curiosity, even though I would get yelled at and punished by my parents. Of course, because of procrastination and lack of focus (could've been trauma-related at that age), I ended up getting helped by my sister to work on the poster but she opened up a simple hand fan and that really got me even more interested in electronics. As simple as something like shorting the terminals of a AA battery. It was actually my childhood dream to become an electronics engineer and do something meaningful/helpful to the world and maybe invent stuff. But then life happens and I don't get to study what I want to study in school. Ended up graduating with a math degree as a result of my mistakes. And now, I learn and work on electronics as a hobby. I work with electronics in my job but the world is very much a "you need to conform to our standards or we won't acknowledge you" kind of place so I don't get to do much. It just took me aback and made me feel a little sad how things turned out. Honestly, it could be one of the main reasons why I'm so angry and unhappy all the time. I kind of just let the world destroy my hope and optimism. I know there were big factors in the abusive household and unsupportive and neglectful parents that ultimately led to me becoming the type of person who'd make these mistakes. If it sounds like I'm trying to absolve my own resonsibility from my actions, I'm not. I'm just expressing how sad I am that things didn't turn out the way I wanted. Despite how things turned out, I think I want to try to figure out how to reconnect with that inner child that was unyieldingly optimistic about everything and but with the addition of being able to be curious and explore freely (because that wasn't an option in my household). If I can somehow do that, I would be much happier and there would be a natural source of motivation/direction for my actions (i.e. setting a goal like "I want to learn more about X")

Where I work something interesting happened where our junior started coaching the new junior whom in turn started coaching the latest junior. I think it's an awesome tradition that we should maintain. Of course, seniors are always around, we don't leave the kids on their own, but teaching others is such a great way to learn and to gain confidence.

The arthur walking down the street 😂😂 this editing is amazing, subtle zooms and all

Your channel is such a comfort to me!

I'm gonna take the opportunity to also include that the amount of time you practice something isn't the important part, but rather the way you practice and what you take away from it.

I've had a lot of artists lately asking why they haven't felt motivated to produce art lately and my first question is basically "how is your life going". Even though the conversation is evolving publicly, most people are still either Chasing The Trophy (which is both exhausting and disappointing, esp. when you're LEARNING) or expecting Full-Time Work out of themselves before they have developed discipline vs. those violent creative bursts we sometimes have to disappear for several days to make something amazing and then require tons of time to 'recouperate' before the next project. It's healthier to focus on your ACTUAL MOTIVATIONS for producing work than "I Have To Be The Best", which I used to say to myself a lot

Hello Dr. K (and community)! First I’d like to say that I really appreciate the content you produce, it’s really helpful and I think that a lot of people (including me) can benefit a lot from watching it. Second, I’d like to share/ask something: in some videos, dr.K suggests exposing yourself to other people, even when you don’t feel ready (since feeling ready maybe more self sabotaging since you’ll never be perfectly ready) - I understand that this small exposures (like playing the guitar to someone else as mentioned in this video) are meant to both keep you motivated by showing to yourself that you’re already making some progress, as well as to help you develop the abilities that will lower your social anxiety (by experiencing positive reinforcement from the social interaction to other person). But what always comes to my mind when I listen to this kind of advice is that I’ve been engaging in social interactions most of my life (34F) and I’m actually quite skilled in social situations, so I don’t think is due to anything that I actually do (like creating awkwardness or anything), but most my social interactions seem to generate more negative reinforcement, and make me more dismotivated. It feels like if I just engage socially for the sake of making friends or having a social life, mostly other people will want to keep engaging with me, but if I actually try creating connections through something that are truly important to me, people don’t care enough, dismiss it or are just mean about it actually. It’s like, except for with a very very few people, I feel drained by most social interactions, even seemingly positive ones, because I don’t like socializing just for the sake of having company. On the other hand, that sometimes also makes me feel like I overwhelm the few people I enjoy engaging with. I don’t know if I made myself clear, but I’d appreciate some advice if you have any!

Thank you for everything, Dr. K.

I think we could all use a video or stream on how to consciously develop solid values. Since it's a fairly abstract sounding concept, but I think there are few things that are more important as far as how our psychology is shaped, to understand. I know personally, a large part of my life has involved large shifts in what values are important to me, but they tend to only come after stressful, and potentially traumatic events. Like valuing comfort and consistency more after really bad burnout, or becoming very driven toward independence and freedom, but only after something that makes you feel weak. How can we genuinely develop solid, beneficial values, before it bites us? The closest I can think of for an example that may be similar to what I'm thinking of, is how people can develop a very strong sense of gratitude towards life through meditating, but a more generalized practice that can be used to develop things like patience, bravery, discipline, and a love for learning- And as I'm typing this, I know I'm basically just listing things that are theoretically already benefits of meditation, but more specifically, how/if there's a link between someone's core values, and something like meditation? I know I almost sound like I'm answering my own question, but still, is there any proof to this, or is it just anecdotal?

heh, thx for the vid I'm actually an EE student in my 4th (and final) year, and definitely resonate with what you said. After doing good, but not 'the best,' in 1st year, I focused hard on being 'the best' in 2nd and 3rd year while barely putting in any actual work and feeling quite negative any time I opened up my workbook to do studying. But I'm glad I have been able to see how my mistakes and mindset has held me back.

About that 10,000 hours thing. I'm an expert in my field. I've only started considering myself an expert around the 20,000 hour mark. I'm now half way thorough to retirement and my actual job title is "expert". At around 10,000 hours I merely considered myself experienced, and really, so did most people who worked with me. And I agree because back then I knew I still had much to learn. Now I'm the one writing the textbooks. For context, I'm an electrical engineer in the aeronautics industry. On a side note : while I have played way more than 10,000 hours of video games, it's unlikely I'll ever be an expert in that field 😅

This video was awesome. Thank you Dr.K!

1:03, ngl, the final batteries not included, and "the respect of your parents" got me way harder than it should have.

I think is important to add that our emotions are not something to ignore and they are the keys which help us better understand ourselves and what we value. Don't necessarily act on your emotions, but use them as the mechanism which reflects your worries and needs

Man, you example of a 35 year old has 42 year old me feeling good about my self-care, thanks, Dr. K!

I don't want to be the best, but I do want to be better than I was yesterday. My big problem is a need for validation when I improve.

This episode has been very funny, not mainly because of the hilarious impressions but How relatable it is and it hit the nail 😭 Like I been through that when you get a very minor inconvenience, you quit. Now I built a strong self discipline so that I won't go down the same pitfall again.

My best friend always encouraged me to share the music I made with him even when I first started out and it was trash. He always provided positive feedback and supported me, over time I got better and better. I now finally understand why he always gave me that positive reinforcement.

This is a fantastic video, and very very helpful. My only difference I found that doesn't work for myself, is "sharing my pitiful knowledge as soon as I get it", as Dr. K put it. I've noticed that when I start working on something and I show my friends or family the progress of it, and get the 'reward' of positive reinforcement, it tends to de-tract from my motivation, as now I feel satisfied with what I've done, even though I didn't finish it, and my progress falters and falls away usually. I'm sure this isn't the case for most people, but, it has been for me.

This video is very valuable to understand the difference between desiring and wanting something because of emotions or values

DrK putting on the flamboyant flavours is always a high point! It lets the point sink in deeper while it also provides a little laugh. So great!

This is gold baby. Watched this video everyday while cooking and really reflected on it

The bio hacking pill advertisement was the funniest thing I’ve seen all week

I don't know... anger was the best emotion to motivate me to actually make something of myself. It can become a poison if directed at something but "just" anger MOVES. It overrides lazyness, pain, pushing stuff for later etc.

"Full body mitosis" thanks for the nightmare fuel dr. k

I'm 22, i thoroughly use you as a resource for my own development

This Dr dude gets me!

After really thinking on it - this video has paired really well with what I learned from your “What Years of Gaming Does to Your Brain” video. What “Years of Gaming” has taught me how to put together and build a main quest while this video has taught me how to find the “Why?” behind my main quests. Keeps me in check in that I know im doing something for the right reasons and will make sure I stick with them long term no matter set back. Also gives me a chance to review my main quests and reevaluate whether something aligns with my values or just my emotions at the time. Thank you Dr. K!!

You are so funny! Plus being super helpful. Muchas gracias!

Nice video! Thank you.

16:50 I think i've done this sort of thing before, when i was in school once i got home sometimes i would tell my parents what i learned that day and into college i would even tell them how a lot of what i was taught worked, I believe that one of my teachers at secondary school told me that teaching others about a subject is actually good for your own learning too, plus it makes my brain happy when i can impress my parents with something they don't understand at all

Pitfalls to avoid if you want to end up being awesome: * Desire to be "The best". You can't be the best because it's unreachable and not existent. It's only something that the mind has created. * Having "desire" and "emotion" as your reason for doing something. Desire is a sudden urge you want to satisfy. Once it's satisfied it disappears, on the other hand when it's not satisfied in a period of time your brain gives up on trying to satisfy it. So it's an unreliable reason to sustainably do something. While emotions, can have conflict with other emotions that makes it harder to follow through or finish the things you need to do. For example, you want to help an old woman cross the road but there's so many people that can see that your socially anxious self kicks in. "I want to help her but other people might think that I'm doing it because I want to look good in their eyes". Emotions come and go so. Having to do something because your emotionally driven is unsustainable reason to do something. These two kind reason easily disappear so using it as a reason to do something and once it disappears you'll have no reason to keep doing it.

Sometimes I feel slow. I can put in all these hours etc…try my hardest and still feel like I haven’t improved much. From a young age I was a perfectionist and somehow willed motivation from what felt like nothing in pursuit of self-actualization for years. Perhaps it’s a perceptual thing but I feel like even when I try hard I’m just mentally predisposed towards not being as smart as some. Edit: I will say I am a person who makes a lot of decisions based on values and I think that’s good I feel talentless, as a kid I was full of interest particularly related to liberal endeavors such as drawing, art, music, dance, learning languages, culture, sociology, psyc etc…I like being active and am not the most stem oriented person I feel like I suck and don’t know anything and miss my old hobbies, I miss my curiosity, but the stress they brought on made them hard to maintain after many years I will say I am 18 just finished working and am a university of California student, I am a black trans woman and have a trauma history, so it could very be perceptual and esteem related issue

The best training advice i was given for climbing was chase progress not the practice. "Yet" is a powerful force too.

Gosh i really love this channel. Everything u said in this vid defines my problems. And even if i understand what u just explain i know that im a work in progress and that it will take some time to asimilate it. But at least i know now the right direction to go. So thank u for ur vids. They really help me

I'm currently not doing well in my academics and sometimes failing a few of my classes miserably in Gr 11 and saw myself wanting to be a straight A student to compensate for my failures and seeing that everyone is just doing way better than me currently

Even if I get feedback on the stuff I do, and it's positive feedback, I just tend to push it away and just say : "no it sucks, it's not good" and often abandon. And the worst part is that the feedback I get is from professionals in the industries I'm interested in, and they're often good along the lines of : "It's not perfect, but for a beginner it's really good and you really have a feeling for it" or stuff like that. But I'll just hear : "Nah mate, it's not professional enough and you should stop wasting your time"

Even if you know nothing (about e.g. drawing, playing an instrument, writing, KZfaq videos), chances are, the person you're showing your work to, knows probably even less... and they might just be impressed anyway. The really impressive part is that you're trying at all. Even if the result is a little pathetic, you're putting your energy into something for a sub-optimal result; and most people are terrified of doing that. That's why doing hard stuff is impressive.

A Oneitis doesn’t refer to love - it refers to a crush. Usually, a one-sided crush developed for the wrong reasons like being desperate, being stuck in the friend zone, thinking you can’t possibly do better, etc. You could think your Oneitis is dumb and annoying - the point is you’re obsessed with them for superficial/unhealthy reasons.

6:45 that is true but I would also like to point out something: I am way above avrage in my class and in my school as a whole. People around me think, that it must be awesome, to get such great results for not that big of an effort, but the problem I see with this that I get demotivated because of this. I ussually study hard for my tests and I am happy to see the results, but I recently started getting away without studying so hard, because I still ace the test. The thing is that my standarts for knowledge are much higher than the others, which has been motivating me in my past to do better, but seeing that I can put much less affort and still can get virtually the same results, scares me. I think that this could have fatal consequences in the future, because each time this happens, I am more demotivated than before, which leads me to lower my standards of what I consider necessary to know. The reason why this could be fatal for me is that I could lower them so much, that it would no longer be above the requirement for acing the test. For someone like me, where not only myself but the enitre surroundigs of people expects me to do so well, it's hard when something like this happens. my point is that being 'the best' or at least being considered to the best is really the worst possible thing, because the mind can start playing with the thoughts of superiority, and that is a double edge sword that can really easilly get out of hand.

im my life till now many of my teachers considered me as a bright student and i am i bright student sort of , but some of my teachers also says me that you have potential greater than your current state. I always take their words as a source of motivation but now i understood what they mean , now recalled their words and watched it with a different perspective today, thankyou sir....

At the end, when Doc starts talking about the pitfalls of the "human factor," are the pitfalls he is describing a reference to the earlier portion of the video when he describes "motivation by desire, motivation by emotions, delayed gratification running out" ???

Dr k really put his voice acting skills to the test in this particular video

Seeing a picture of sisyphus pushing the boulder gives me an unreal amount of motivation to get better at osu

This may be kind of controvertial, but as a semi-pro violinist, whenever someone asks "Can I start learning violin at 20 years old and become a soloist?", or "I want to learn violin because it looks cool", I just straight up tell them NO. Don't try it. Just give up. You won't make it. In my experience, 100% of people who go into violin with that kind of goal eventually quit, because they don't find values in the activity itself. They just want the percieved prestigue that comes with it to fix their insecurity. It's all just a huge waste of time and source of frustration for everyone. The only kinds of people who made it are: 1. Those who are forced to play it at the age of 4 by their tiger moms/dads. 2. Those who actually enjoy playing it.

Great message ! Will you write material on how to meditate?

When people ask for positive examples of masculinity, I'm gonna start sending them here.

I love trying to compare what I think you’re gonna say based on the title with what you actually end up saying. I guessed the practice part lol but I love the extra elements you included!

Just started learning guitar. This will definitely be helpful when things get tough. Good sleep habits definitely has an impact.

0:25 we gotta change the 10K hour thing, cause it's 10K concreted hours! And thats important.

Thank you for laying this out in such an understandable manner. I’m saving this one to watch again later.

having a goal putting in time to it if you feel unmotivated, realise that the feeling is temporary. but if you keep putting time, its gonna get easier and more satisfying next time. remember the goal when you are about to give up.

The problem with motivating myself with values is that I don't really feel like I have any values. I don't really care about anything. Wanting to feel pride tomorrow? Isn't that also a desire? I was lonely but now I talk to random strangers. Why? For fun. For the desire of fun. Will it keep me doing it for years? I don't know, but I can't really find a "value" in myself that would push me to talk to anybody or do really anything at all.

As someone who just started writing their first book I needed this lol.

Thank you, for motivation! Really. The idea to think what makes me pride, not regret speaks to me.

That pretty much what I have noticed when it comes to focus on learning new stuff and to keep on wanting to learn more. I have learned to value loving learning new things for it's own sake. It has helped me a lot for my personal growth as a person.

I've always sought a supplement that doesn't include batteries. Thanks Dr. K!

1. Dont aim at being the best • have clear concise goals Seperate them into minimum, good and ideal 2. Apply whatever u have learned as fast as possible even if its a little 3. Dont use emotion as motivation, use your values or resolution. • emotion fluctuates. Values are something you care deeply about. Values stay consistent E.g. your desire to be loved over your social anxiety 4. If ur afraid of messing up. Purposely mess up badly to see how badly you can f-up

This is really tough in biology research. It's years between projects, which also might not pan out.. finished among top of class in biotech MSc (mostly molecular biology). Right now doing a lot of lab automation. I'm considering pivotting to robotics, because you actually get return on investment within months, not years... But 'dropping' the years of hard work and deep knowledge seems like a huge waste.. considering if I can combine the 2 areas in a more integrated holistic way..

🎉🎉🎉6 years clean from iv heroin as of October 17th. I shot dope for 20 years, this is a fucking miracle.

The biggest problem with the 10,000-hour rule or the way people interpret the 10,000-hour rule is the idea that all you need is time. I’ve spent 10,000 hours driving but that doesn’t make me Dale Earnhardt. Deliberate practice is what matters and deliberate practice should be challenging. It involves feedback and changing your approach based on the feedback.

This video came out at a perfect time of my life. The day this was posted, I got accepted into vet school. The content of this video is too good. Thank you for all that you do, Dr. K ❤❤❤

'No one is expecting you to be perfect.' I should remember this really hard!

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Im on a journey to become a good painter and content creator and this video is gold, especially the i wanna be the best mindset, i relate to it so much, really needed this video, awesome content as always Dr.K! 👌

My parents had always said try * your * best and don’t think of the outcome. Hard work and dedication beats everything in the long run. Kind of obvious if you think about it, but we seldom forget about it in our worst moments. Stay strong friends. Hope we all make it someday. :)

Yes!, "the best" is just an abstraction, except for The Beatles, yeah!

This was very relatable Dr. K, thanks for everything!

I love when he channels the Aladdin merchant, never gets old

What if you don't particularily care about anything? I've tried to do things for the wrong reasons (desire, emotions) and it went as Dr. K described in the video, but there's nothing that I really value or care about. Does anyone know what to do in this situation?