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This couldn't have come at a better time in my life. I feel like I'm at an inflection point in my timeline, and "inaction" is my greatest and most consistent enemy.

I’m experiencing the adventure of old age. I retired and gave up my identification as a college teacher that gave me status and meaning. I gave up quick thinking and speaking. Then I gave up beauty. One of the worst things I gave up was physical strength, flexibility and abundant energy. And then there’s the loss of future time. I want to go to law school-oh wait-I’m 73. All this time my poor ego is wondering who I am. Luckily I’ve discovered I’m somehow still me. 😮

When dr k said "but pride doesn't really feel good" I was like damn how did I never notice that

Imagining your body as a mecha you control is pretty intuitive and straightforward, but imagining your mind also as a mecha that you learn to ride and control is a genius analogy. This concept made a lot more sense, thank you! Also the idea that there’s another me controlling the mind mecha is kinda freaky. Where does THAT “self” come from, and is there another thing above that controlling that?

0:00: 🧠 The neuroscience of living life without regrets and the different forms regrets can take. 3:03: 🕰 The fear of regret is rooted in the limitation of time, which is tied to the fear of death. 6:09: ✨ When people die, their sense of self dissolves, leading to a feeling of peace and connection to others. 9:17: 🧠 Ego death, experienced through psychedelics or meditation, can lead to a sense of peace and improved mental health. 12:19: 🧘 Dr. K discusses how identifying with the ego can lead to pride and insecurity, and how disidentifying with the self can bring peace. 15:10: 🧘 The yogis discovered that our true self is separate from our ego and can be realized through meditation. 18:04: 🧘‍♂ The Mech pilot meditation helps disidentify from the ego and realize that the things we normally think are us are actually objects for us to act on. 21:34: 🧘 The more distance you can take from yourself and sit with your experiences, the more chill your life will become. Recap by Tammy AI

“Pride and insecurity go hand in hand” now thats deep

I actually experienced 'mech pilot' a month ago. It was very surreal. It felt like I was playing the world's best VR with perfect imagery, tactile feeling, sound, responsiveness. Touching my hand to my face was the craziest experience. Very tripy. I'd been doing the 'focusing on eating a chip' for about a week, expanded the concept to everything I was doing in a day, not just eating, then I'd listened to James Blunt 'Monsters' for a couple hours on repeat just balling my eyes out, then did the 'observing the faculty of Hearing/seeing/feeling' meditation and I was able to observe the faculty of all the senses. I couldn't quite pinpoint the faculty of telling your body to move though. It felt like that kinda came from somewhere else

"At the end of our lives, we will regret the things we never did, not the things we've done."

I once took a course where they ask the whole room (around 70 people) to do something REALLY embarrassing, I, for whatever reason, was able to fully disconnect my ego from that experience and simply enjoy the activity, I didn't felt my body, I felt a lot of joy but I also was able to feel the embarrassment of others, it felt as if I was the whole room, it was surreal. Not sure if that's the ego death effect, tho.

This is one of the most eye-opening things I've heard in quite a while.... Thank you for this. I am saving this to come back to as frequently as I need to.

I don’t know if you read these, but as someone in their late 20s with very high functioning bipolar, thanks for talking about men’s mental health without any sort of misogyny. It’s hard to find people catering to a male audience who actually care about mental health and don’t just hate women/feminism

I'd love to hear him relate this to de-personalization as a coping mechanism and what the differences are.

When I was younger, I thought the recognition of life's short would enable me to enjoy my life to rhe fullest. But now it's the determination to enjoy the present moment as if I have infinite time that makes me happier

Bro was tired of fixing his hair so he got a haircut mid video lol!!

I really don’t understand how removing my ego by disconnection like that will help me have less regrets. I lost a really close friend last year because I had a lapse of judgement and disconnecting like this won’t help me heal. I miss her constantly but it really feels like you just showed us a meditation technique and said it’ll fix our ego because of “I” in “I failed”. No man I want to choose a career I’ll enjoy and won’t regret and I can’t just look back at the years wasted with no ego and somehow not feel connected. The only true currency in life is Time and I gave the most precious part of me for something that I could never look back on and feel okay with.

i like how this guy just glosses over the fact that we can bring people back to life

i watched this earlier. i don’t comment much on your videos, but i’ve watched and taken so many notes on them ever since i found your content. i’m at such a low place in my life, that i probably think about ending it dozens of times a day. this video in particular was so helpful. thank you for trying to help people. i really don’t know if it’s enough to help me, but it feels like it does, at least a little. so thank you. even if it’s too late for me, i know that the things you say and do help a lot of people, and that makes me happy.

Now it all makes sense. I had several years of regretting failure, at some point I had something along the lines of what is explained here, certainly not ego-death, but a noticeable ego-reduction. Been waaay happier since.

Sometimes I dissociate and depersonalize at times I don't expect where I don't feel connected with myself, my body and mind. Just feels like meditation but without my consent

Last year I experienced short term memory loss (for 40 minutes or so) where I could not remember anything at all, some of the things mentioned about how it felt like dying sounds very relatable. Since I remember everything from the experience I can say that it was the most freeing 40 minutes of my life, with no regrets, unable to remember what has happen in the past and the future.

Psychedelics helped me experience ego death (was trying to fix depression and was desperate). Had all that feeling of being one with everything and nothing. As I was starting to come down a bit from the height of the trip, I would taste bliss, and it would disappear as soon as I focus on it or try to chase after it. Prior to the full blown ego death, it was an extremely emotionally difficult trip. I experienced absolute nihilism. I learned that nothing truly mattered. And it hurt me so deeply for nothing to matter. No matter how much I shift my position, or rationalize, or desperately search for answers, it was so deeply uncomfortable, lonely, hopeless, meaningless. The sorrow deepened further as I struggled harder from it. At one point, I was brought to my knees emotionally, and "surrendered." I tried to be okay with the idea that this is what is. I finally faced and just...accepted the pain. I remember that was when I finally surrendered that my sense of self started to dissolve and thus my ego death began. I've been trying to figure out what the ideal state/characteristics of the mind is when sober. I did not realize that I had been doing the mecha meditation for a while now, so my daily experience is basically me watching myself do things, and be amused at how this consciousness can watch and have tug of war fights with the mind; how it experiences the joys and sufferings of the mind, etc. Like while I'm at the height of my anger, I have this parallel experience in my mind being chill and watching it unfold while eating popcorn and finding humor in the situation. However, there was a point in my psychedelic trip where instead of a mecha piloting from a computer station at some bunker; it was me piloting the mecha of my body Gundam-style. I was really, really in tune with everything in my body. Felt like time slowed, and I was moving through water but without resistance. It was like I was a child spirit that was able to pilot a body. My mind was clear, without baggage. Each breath was cool, and filling. I was present, filled with curiosity, wonder, and a sense of gratitude. I was not preoccupied with the silly concepts we burden ourselves on a daily basis. The experience was similar to the state of "flow." It seemed to me that my sober mecha practice is a bit dissociative compared to the hands-on mecha practice I had while tripping. I kept wondering, if my Gundam-mecha experience is something we can do sober and what may be considered to be the ideal state of mind. Little note: post trip I came to realize that "nothing matters" is okay; as what matters is something that is dictated by whatever instance of consciousness that is experiencing it. You yourself dictate what matters, to YOU. And so my journey to figure that out began and did ultimately help me with my quarter-life crisis depression.

I appreciate this one for sure. I've had a death experience, and a couple near deaths after the initial one. My personal experience of life overall has been chaotic. The feeling of relief that death provided is something I; for years, had a strong connection to post-death experience. The video had parts for sure that helped me not feel so alone in those feelings. My death experience and the years of learning and hurting after; really helped me personally understand how to have and cultivate love regardless of circumstance. Taught me a lot more then I give credit for. Thank you for the video, Alok. I needed it.

Dr. K, more like this please!! Particularly relating to the self and what it is and how it relates to (physical) matter. I want to understand what it means to be alive and I feel like I’m so close but it’s hard to put it all together! I think having visuals like drawing on an iPad could help too, that’s helped me in your videos a lot in the past! Thanks a lot for this!

I remember during a very stressful and desperate time I looked at myself in a mirror and felt that my body is something separate from my self. Now I use the Dune mantra (Fear is the mind killer) when I have anxiety - I kinda relax into the anxiety by perceiving/consciously feeling it. I think it has the same idea of separating yourself from your emotions by the subject-object divide. I need to try this on my ego.

"Dying Unto Oneself" is actually the first thing Imitations of Christ covers too. When I practiced that every morning, I noticed my anxiety diminished if not went away altogether (it comes back, but it's easier to swat away). Really cool that you explain the science behind that here.

Yesssss let's talk about death and regret!!! It's the one thing, the absolute FEELING of regretting our lives and time on earth, that we spend our entire lives avoiding and refuse to sit with this feeling. We double down so hard on out decisions no matter how good they are because we don't want to regret our lives so much. We're so caught up and worried about doing something wrong with our limited time on earth that we literally forget to remember and enjoy the moments we do have. We have no idea when we will die, it could happen at any moment, and we live our lives assuming we will die one day when we're old that there's always time for something later. But truly living without regret is to know that if I were to die today: knowing that this is what I did to the best of my experience. I lived and experienced the beauty and heartbreak of life and I was alive and every moment in my life: as a general collective of everything I've experienced all at once, was good. Sometimes I feel like that moment in the Barbie movie where Barbie is like "do you guys ever think about dying??" Which is like the one thing I want to think about and explore. It's the one thought that always plagues our minds that we're not comfortable talking about with people and it's a shame because this is what every single person genuinely needs more than anything else: coming to terms with the fact that we will one day die and that our loved ones will own day die. And you can come to terms with this. I'm so glad that this video is really touching on the concept of death. Death is so hard and so difficult to talk about because not everyone is ready to face it. But it's the one topic: the absolute one thing that makes every single person have something in common. And it's the most worthwhile thing to talk about and come to terms with.

Speaking of those who have passed on, I often meditate on those people, and I allow myself to converse with them. I make myself familiar with what they were good at, what their dreams were, and what unfinished business they had. If there are any intersections with things I am striving for, I'll make that person my patron for that particular thing, and see that kind of thing through for them. Everyone talks about "finding your why". For many religions, that might be a god, a saint, or a prophet. A more secular alternative would be those we love.

The sheer vertigo of my first time "mech pilot meditating" 😮 I've been meditating for the past four years as part of my therapy, pretty inconsistently though, but I'm used to meditating. But the simple exercise you tell us about completely blew my mind, in mere seconds I felt weird, but like "better weird". I'll try to keep on practicing this to see which results come in the long term, but I feel like that's just what I needed right now. Thank you ❤

I VERY rarely comment on KZfaq videos. But I just have to say this one particular video lesson hit me so deeply and I’m so grateful for your insight here. I’ve watched your videos for a couple months now and this one has by far been the most impactful. Thank you Dr. K!

I appreciate you so much for this Dr. K. To everyone else, I hope you find the support and help you need. Take it one day at a time.

Another very interesting fact: there are reports about soldiers in war, that suffered grievous wounds and had to be treated on site. Some didn't ask for or outright rejected anesthetics. Not because they lost feeling but they simply didn't care about the pain. They just seemed OK despite what that must have felt like.

Fascinating and absolutely wonderful. Thanks Dr.K for the lesson.

Thank you Dr. K for this video. I would like to add something from my own experience to that: when making a decision about things I am really not sure about, being aware of the possibility of failure helps me a great deal. Especially when I don’t not succeed. because I can and do remember that I made the decision at that point in a very conscious way with all the (limited) info and feeling available at that time. So there is less of a point in regretting.

I've been thinking about these things recently, this was quiet helpful, and a reminder of concepts that I have forgotten.

Dr.K you are keeping me sane in this insane world. Thank you so much.

You're videos have really been helping me get on the right path and continue to develop. Thank you Alok ❤🙏

You are literally saving my life. Stuck with depression and a 230 lb frame at 5'8” as a result of growing up with an abusive, narcissistic father, I associated my weight with my identity for so long. Hyperegos were all I knew and thought I was a life failure because of that. I fucking love the the mech pilot theory and always wondered how people can a maintain healthy weight despite parts of the US being set up to work against that. One of the best pieces of wisdom you gave was about the cancer patient. Meditation (and weed lol) have truly truly helped with cultivating the mech pilot theory and this video just gave me the words to materialize this. Never stop putting out content. You’re saving people from their minds one person at a time.

Would love to see a guided mech pilot meditation! As someone who often feels paralyzed by anxiety, I thought this was a really beautiful lesson. I'm going to save it to watch again later. Thank you. 🌿

I was up at like 2 am scrolling through KZfaq and I seen your videos instant subscribe and like. I just graduated a few months ago and hated school but when I watch your videos I’m journaling and noting stuff down to go and research more on. I appreciate you kindly

Can you please make a video about inner monologues. It just blew my mind to find out that not everyone has an inner voice. How do people without an inner voice think and reflect on their actions? And shouldn't that be the first question a therapist should ask so that he/she can understand how the patient processes thoughts and emotions?

I think this is why I gravitate towards marijuana to help with anxiety. It dissolves the part of me that gets stuck on the outcome of a scenario and I seem to be able to digest things better. When I am on tolerance breaks I end up in thought loop land a lot more and don't really get over things. Thanks for sharing, I Look forward to trying this as I work towards eventually replacing weed with meditation altogether.

You got a Factor sponsorship; I'm so stoked for you! Happy for you man, congratulations. I listen to your videos while I work, and the disconnect between the intro and the lack of segue into the sponsorship was a bit jarring. A quick line like, "Before we get started, I want to take a moment to thank Factor for sponsoring today's video" or something like that at the beginning of the ad segment would ease the transition. Without the visual cue of you standing in your kitchen to let me know, the jump from you talking about regret to telling me you just got back from vacation definitely had me doing a double take! Long time lurker gal who loves your channel. It has given me so many different perspectives and a deeper understanding of and empathy for the experiences of the men in my communities (weeb/gamer). Thanks for the amazing work you do

I've discovered this on my own and it has done a lot of good for me. Life is a lot less stressful. At this point it's like a switch I can flip in my brain. I may be experiencing something bad, but does it really matter? It affects me because I'm choosing to let it affect me. And we're kind of built that way because it makes sense. We want to pay attention to things that make us feel bad, because chances are that those things pose a risk to us. So our body or our mind start ringing alarm bells. We're conditioned to care about that. But we're not hard-wired to care about it. So that switch is what helps me let go. I make the decision not to let these things affect me. And the effect is precisely what Dr K says it is when it comes to physical pain. The physical sensation is identical. But the mental experience of suffering has disappeared. Since suffering is a choice, I don't need to fear it, and so I don't need to fear having regrets. And not being paralyzed by the fear of regret has allowed me to do more with my life, and has also allowed me to deal with regrets I already had. Because those regrets were just me beating myself up for no reason. Feeling bad because I thought I needed to feel bad. But once you get past that, all those lingering negative feelings disappear.

I would really like to thank this channel. All this knowledge has made a difference in my life. thanks from Brazil

Nah this is surreal, I've been struggling with this exactly for one year. I've never related to a video of yours ever, but this one is like spot on what I'm feeling, not even my therapist understood it that well in 1 year of therapy

This content is so good, I needed to watch it about 3 times for it all to sink in!

The video was really very helpful and informative. I’d love to see more like this. Thank you so much.😊😊😊

🙂Thanks man your videos are so relatable and helpful !!

The pain dissociation thing is the exact same realization I had when I had my first psychedelic experience. The pain is real but I felt that I didn't have to let it affect me.

Great video Dr. K.. thank you. Might be even life changing..

I am absolutely fascinated by all of the input you give out. It's causing some movement within me, somehow. I can't explain it, but it seems what you said is just what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing your insights. 🙏🏻✨

Really needed this one Thank you

this pilot meditationfeels like how i live everyday, it feels like im playing a video game, like im not present, my doctor says its anxiety but i never think im an anxious person.. i cant think even it just feels like im not alive at all :D

I witness this separation of me and my surroundings many places. During sunrise and sunset, seeing the sun in red paint outlines of trees on a surface, at seasons of the year marking a change, things sprouting from the ground and leaves turning all different colours then fall, when I'm in a flow state of something, when in nature, walking or growing things, riding my bike and just looking around :)

I think this is your best video yet, keep up the good work dr. K

I've heard these various concepts alluded to in a number of ways over the years but I think this is the first time that I've ever actually understood them. This was fascinating and enlightening tbh. I appreciate this video.

You’re awesome! Thanks for all of this perspective. And, you’re funny. That helps too!

Armored Core just came out a couple of days ago so my mind has been on mechs recently. It feels like the universe is telling me that I should incorporate this meditation into my routine. I've been trying other meditation methods from your guide for almost a month now and it has been exceedingly helpful for me to work through my Dysthymia, Anxiety, and ADHD issues. I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart Dr. K!

Thank you so much for this!! ❤️🙏

At this point I feel like I am more informed than my therapist, because I am sharing with him all this Harvard quality bits of knowledge. Thanks Dr. K 🙏🏻

I used to have trouble with the idea of losing certain things that were with me for a long time, like the ability to do certain things, memories, body parts. And, I guess inadvertently started doing part of the meditation described in the end. Pain is a lot more tolerable for me now, and I’ve become less detached to certain things

I usually hate when people say "woah that's deep" because normally it's just everyday or mundane stuff they just discovered. But this info is... wow. It explains so much! I already feel more in control, or maybe to better put it, more "in tune" with my vessel

Banger...I feel understood, rather confirmed, about my experience both in meditating on death and LSDD experiences and happy to learn that I am not weird or different from other human beings in that experience.

Such an interesting and fascinating video. I actually need to rewatch the video to understand everything more. So much stuff while also being well explained. You are something else man. Absolutely astonishing. 22:34

I kind of disagreed with Dr.K on psychedelic comment. I was depressed and went to Ayahuasca ceremony , did not have ego death but it still healed me. I basically told me a story of my ancestors and wanted me to connect with them. I learnt a lot during that process. Then I said I am done , I want to move forward , then Aya told ‘there you go!’ - so basically move forward was the message but in a highly spiritual way. Very smart medicine

How are his videos so perfectly timed!? Convinced he can read our minds

Thank you! Amazing video! I guess something clicked in my mind by watching it!

I'm so glad I've sub to your channel. Thank you.

This one got me. Your channel is wild, thanks.

I still have depression, but I had a really intense dream in my late teens that felt like it lasted weeks. I had to come to terms with the understanding that I was going to die. I was pending execution in the dream. By the end of the dream I had accepted my fate. Waking up from that was so trippy. I don't want to die, but I haven't feared death since that dream. I don't want to suffer when I die, but death itself I'm not afraid of. This video really spoke to that.

Man, thank you for spending your knowledge and time for us. It helps me a lot. YOU are making a positive change in this world! Keep it up😊

Ty great advice, Dr.K is the best❤❤❤

this is the best video ive ever seen in my entire life

I needed this.

Wow, this was awesome! Dr. Bro is such a positive presence.

This is such an interesting talk. Seriously, a home run! Super useful (as a 4th year med student soon to be applying for Psychiatry residency). This mec pilot thing fascinates me, I am reminded that people, especially childhood trauma, use this exact same thing via dissociation/depersonalization. I once knew a woman who had been sexually abused, and she swore up and down that her ability to dissociate had caused her to also be gifted at ESP. Also, NDErs, frequently talk about having heightened intuition and ESP after their ego death experience. All of this points at what you are talking about. I had never made the connection to regret, which is quite common in depression. Love it Dr K!

I personally developed this meditation technique on my own to help me fall asleep, and i found it a lot easier to get past the first time after spending a couple months in the gym focusing on the individual muscles i was working out. I basically learned how to move my consciousness like the mech pilot. I found that focusing on my breathing helped get into that state

This is an amazing way to explain this 🎉

You have helped me so much. I'm so glad I found you through the David Packman show because I was interested in the episode with Pittsburg Mike. I also LOVE Factor. The meals are delicious.

Love the way you explain things.

It's very cool discussing ego death. It sounds like a good meditation in this video.

when my gramma passed... i literally experienced what she experienced.... i felt she finally gave up her deep sense of regret.... she was a very angry and unhappy person....i feel im just repeating her life... i felt she finally experienced happiness and bliss when she passed...i felt she was trying to tell me " its all the same in the end, dont waste ur life being so angry and hateful and ruining all ur closest relationships because of it. dont hurt the ones who love most cuz u cant stop regretting ur life".

This is good for scoliosis cuz that’s just chronic discomfort and lack of focus. I’mma try this with the anxiety stuff so I can focus better.

"Pride is not the opposite of shame, but it's source. True humility (sounding like ego death) is the only antidote to shame" - Uncle Iroh

"today we're gonna learn..." I love this sentence so much ❤

This is absolutely fascinating!

As I was watching the video I thought: when you are deeply inmersed on a game you usually lose that connection with your body, and "yourself" isn't within your mind or body, but you are within the character you are controlling. I don't know if it's just my experience, but when I recall moments of me playing videogames where I'm deeply inmersed, I don't really recall what was around my body, but what was around my character, as if I was the character and I was living that myself

I'm curious how this relates to dissociation. From what I've heard, dissociation is not a particularly pleasant experience. But it sounds like it should be, right? Losing your sense of self, feeling like you do not even inhabit your own body, sounds like a death of the ego to me. I don't know, maybe there's some key difference I'm missing.

I like how im not just listening to a psychiatrist, but a person who is a psychiatrist (if that makes sense). I love how you explain things!

18:20 holy f this is really thick. the fact that so much anxiety popped up when you said that shows me how real this is.

This is very interesting. I have depression, but I am not afraid of death. Actually that’s the danger I struggle with. When things get too tight and hurtful, my mind defaults to “well I mean, there’s death…” because I’m more afraid of a bad life than death itself. So I avoid people that seem potentially harmful. Once and if someone, anyone, hurts me badly, I cut all ties with no way of contacting me at all. I go to those extremes to protect myself, because I am afraid of people causing me even more harm than death itself. So to me something is not connecting. I do regret a lot of things, but not because I’m afraid of death, but rather because I could have avoided all that harm and I wouldn’t be recovering from all that stuff right now, and I wouldn’t be so easily and impulsively thinking “well I mean, there’s death…” I’m fine. If anyone reads this, I’m ok. I can recognize those thought patterns now and I know that if I opt for that option I would hurt at least one person I know. I’m quite good at ignoring the impulse after decades of fighting it. I’m just tired, and I want a peaceful life. It is really my only true goal. I don’t want money or fame or even a partner. I’m fine by myself. I just seek peace and quiet. No more harmful people, no more bullies, no more abusers, no more envy that I can’t detect on time, none of that crap. A simple quiet life where I can exist at my own pace and learn whatever I want and use that learning to contribute to society because I’m still alive and I want to give not just take. So…something here is not connecting. I would like to have a better understanding. Or maybe I’m genuinely just exhausted and if I die tomorrow I wouldn’t feel any fear or regret about it. It was a hard life already. I’m done.

In the past (and even now) I alway felt like I am "outside" of my body, like an observer, like someone who controls a character in a game, and even most of my thoughts felt the same, like I am just floating and I watch my thought flying by me. I only lost this sensation, this clarity - time-to-time - when I was anxious about something and I felt overwhelmed. The only lashback was that I couldn't really feel "present" in that state. Must be a fine line, a golden mean between the two ends of the spectrum.

This is actually incredible. I have been living my life regret free for so many years, and this actually feels like something I naturally have always done.

Perfect timing as always🙏

Do you have telepathic powers or something ? I was just thinking yesterday about how to accept your mistakes and move on .

The part about paranoid schyzophrenia, made me question a few things... I no longer feel that way but I definitely rememer feeling like that every day for years.

Can you explain the difference in feeling pride and being proud? For example I'm proud of personal accomplishments that no one can take away from me as theyre rooted in my very personal and subjective experience

Holy crap. My mind is not myself. This makes so much sense and brings me so much peace. I feel separate from it now, and like Dr. K said, my mind is something that I can act on. This really helps to reconcile the “I do the things I do not want to do, and what I do not want to do, I do” in me. My self and my brain are not one and fight for control.