Women have D&C’s for many reasons, not all of which involve killing a living human being. The ultrasound revealed that I had a missed miscarriage. My baby’s heart had stopped beating 3 weeks before I had a D&C. (Btw, this was not my first D&C- it was my second. My first was 2 weeks postpartum Ivy’s birth for retained placenta.) Each person is created “in the image of God” (Gen 1:27), and to purposefully destroy a baby in the womb is an affront to the God who created that life. There’s a world of difference between someone dying and someone being killed. To equate one to the other- and to a mother grieving the loss of her baby no less- is severely distasteful. There is a world of difference between a mortician and a murderer. Even a child understands the difference between the two.

It is so refreshing to hear a child say thank you, with enthusiasm as well. You have beautiful children, inside and out.

I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks as well and then a D&C. 💗. It is truly heartbreaking 😢. I am glad you are still able to say God is good. He's also close to the brokenhearted, Amen ✝️.

Those kids are just precious! What good parents

“I didn’t get to hold you in my arms, but I know The One who does” ❤

Jessa, please continue with your videos. Don't let criticism of your brother, family or the procedure you had after the miscarriage stop you. Your family is unique and Charming. I know I look forward to your videos and thousands of others do too. Hope you are feeling better.

i love that you and Ben both have faith in God and can share that together.

Hey Jessa. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby. My heart is with you and your family during this time.

Ben and Jessa, My heart goes out to you for your loss. I’ll be praying for you. Thank you for your transparency. You just never know who you might be helping along the way. God bless you both, and your precious family. Keep shining for Jesus 🌟

I’ve been battling infertility for the last 5 years. I lost my first baby at 11 weeks last summer and it still hurts so bad. I’ve questioned whether I’d ever become a Mom but then I remember Gods promise. He promised I’d become a Mom & that’s what I’ve held on to. ❤

Thank you for sharing your deepest feelings. I’m sure this will help so many others. I’m sorry for your loss.

I miss you, Jessa. I hope you won't give up on making videos because some people were mean to you. I imagine they're a small minority compared to those of us who admire you.

As someone who’s suffered from infertility for 20+ years, never able to have children, watching every single person around me receive blessing after blessing…. I have to say this is probably the most meaningful and moving sharing I’ve seen. My heart breaks for you and my prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing your heart and showing how real and raw this is.

Ivy’s excitement over the dollhouse was precious!! How she keeps thanking Daddy🥹 SO sorry for y’all’s loss😢 praise Jesus we have the hope of eternity ❤

I’m so sorry you had to go through all this. Thank you for sharing your story with us. ❤

I am SO sorry for your loss Jessa!😢. I am also so thankful for you sharing and proud of you for having the courage to do so! Love seeing a new side of you that we haven’t ever seen! Thank you for being so real, raw and vulnerable!! ❤️❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing in a real way the thoughts and feelings that you're going through, and the Lord's comfort and peace. 💕

Thank you for sharing. I'm praying for healing and peace in your family 💕

I'm so sorry for your loss Jessa! I'm sending love and praying for you and your family.

Oh Jessa , I am so sorry to hear this!! This made me cry. My heart is hurting for you and your family!! Thank you for sharing your heart about this !! I am sure God will use this to help others in many ways!!! I am praying for all of you 🙏!! I lost my first baby, and like you said, I am so grateful to God and Jesus that we will get to meet and spend eternity getting to know our son one day!! It is so painful, but we have such hope in Christ !!!

The excitement and enthusiasm and gratefulness of your children was so amazing to watch! Great parenting right there !

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Ben and your beautiful family.

Thanks for sharing something so vulnerable Jessa. I really appreciate the knowledge sharing so that I'm not extra shocked if I ever go through it.

I’m so so sorry Jessa 💔 I really think you’ve made an extremely healing video that will help others more than you’ll ever know. 💙

I’m sorry for your loss and I appreciate you sharing this to others that have lost a baby during pregnancy. I hope your soul can heal asap because it’s a pain that is indescribable.

Prayers for your family. What a beautiful Homecoming that miraculous gift had! Sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel and you’re so brave to share your story. You’re a beautiful person.

A loss is never easy…..I’m so sorry you had to experience this especially over the holidays. Your openness and transparency was so heartfelt. I sat here and cried with you as I watched this. I have lost 4 babies and it’s not easy, but nothing you did caused it. Please don’t blame yourself. Heaven is going to be that much sweeter when we get to go hold our sweet babies we never got to me. Praying for you and your family during this time.

I am so very sorry Jessa. My 27.5 year old daughter went home to be with the Lord 12-24-21 after battling Metastatic breast cancer. Sending you all of my love and hugs and prayers ❤️

So sorry! Praying for you and your sweet family.

Hey Jessa, I know you’ve been through a lot these past 3 months……But I want you to know you are greatly missed!! Please post a new video so we know how you’re doing! Worried about you & praying for you too! ❤

Ugh, this is so sad. I am sorry for your loss. That looks like a beautiful hymn, I will have to check it out. God bless you, Jessa and fam 🩷.

I am soooooo sorry for your loss. This video made me sob and reminded me of my d&c after my third child. It is such a difficult experience and I while I struggled, I was amazed at the strength that the Lord gave me. I’m so glad you found comfort in Job’s story and hope that you are blessed with a sweet rainbow soon! You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!! 💜💜

What a powerful video. So many of us can relate. Quite literally to every single word you said. Very brave of you to share. Thinking about you and Ben, the kids. Keeping you all I prayer.

Oh my, I paused the video and zoomed in to see Spurgeon's drawing and tears started flowing. That beautiful picture is one of the sweetest, heartwarming things I've ever seen. God bless him and your whole precious family. You are doing such a good job mamma.

Hugs, prayers and love to you Jesse and the whole family 🙏😢🌸🌼🌺

Your kids are adorable! So well mannered. I love how they share and are so grateful for their gifts. Love your family Jessa. ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss Ben and Jessa. I’m praying for your family during this time of grieving. Lean into God even more!

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” Praying for you all!

So VERY sorry for your loss... may God surround you with His LOVE, His PEACE, and healing. THANK YOU for sharing such a personal ordeal with us. Love you!!!

Oh i'm so very sorry to hear of your loss Jessa. Praying for you guys in this challenging season!

So sorry you & your had to go through this sad experience. So grateful to hear you still know that God is good even when we are going through the valleys. I know I could not do life without Jesus by my side. Prayers for much comfort, peace & strength for all of you. Also sending big hugs. Remember He turns our ashes into beauty, our graves into gardens. He is just oh so faithful. 🙏🙌💜

I am so sorry, Jessa. Sometimes there just are no words. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt video.

So sorry for yalls loss!🙏🏻 Y’all have a beautiful family!

Jesse,I can't even imagine the pain you're going through. I said a prayer for you and your family. Hugs.

I was going thru a tough week last month and Job’s story also strengthened my faith during that time. Thru everything always praise the Lord! 🙌🏼 Blessed be the name of the Lord. Praying for strength and peace in your spirit ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss! Many prayers for your family.

I’m so sorry for your loss, Jessa. Prayers for healing.

Thank you for sharing. More women need to be like you, it's hard to open and share the hurtful parts of life but sharing helps so many others. I know your video made me feel that I'm not alone in my experience! Bless you

Thank you so much for sharing this and for being so vulnerable.❤️ I am so, so sorry for your loss. It is one of the most painful things you can ever experience. I appreciate you talking so openly about your spiritual experiences through this. I have always been encouraged by the verse in Scripture where David says (in regards to his first son with Bathseba) “he will not return to me but I will go to him.” I will be praying for you and your sweet family.

My heart breaks for you and your family... You are such a wonderful Mommy and Daddy... I'm happy that you told they little ones that way they had time to fall in love with their little sister and brother... I feel confident that you will lead them properly with their grief. Prayers and Love being sent your way!

I’m so sorry for your loss ty for sharing with others so they may hav help in healing.

Oh Jessa ❤️ You put this together soo beautifully 💕 I felt this while watching, as I've been there too. Your positive words are very inspiring. It's hard to see God's plan when we go through these things, but there's love and purpose in everything we go through ❤️ Hugs to you and your beautiful family 🤗 Thank you for sharing this 💕💗

My heart breaks for you. That same verse I quoted over and over during the final days and hours of my 10 year old sons life. I’m so glad you have Jesus. Y’all are in my prayers.

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing with us. Many prayers.

So glad that you could get the care you needed without complication or delay. May your baby's memory always be for blessing.

Oh Jessa, thank you for reminding us all that no matter what, God is good. I'm praying for you sweet mama. Keep shining for Jesus.

It’s difficult to see your pain, but your faith is very inspirational! My prayer is that you & your loved ones strengthen each other. Father God will bring you through. What courageous it took to tell this story. TYTY for sharing. ❤️❤️🙏❤️❤️

I am so sorry Jessa!! My daughter went through this in November and had all the same thoughts. I kept reassuring her that she could have done nothing more or less than what she had done. Bless you and your family!

I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for all your family and friends. 🙏❤

I am so sorry for your loss Jessa. Your faith is so strong, and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Rewatching this video my heart breaks all over again for you and your family. I still can not believe people actually attacked you over the decision you and Ben made. Makes me so angry people would do that during your time of loss. ❤ and truly miss you all.

My heart goes out to you. Been thru this twice!!

Im so sorry. Thank u for sharing and being open to us. I care about you.

Jessa, I lost a sweet boy to a stillbirth and another sweet boy to SIDS. I was given this poem when I lost my first one and it really helped me with the grieving process. I truly hope it brings you some peace as it did me. Keeping you all in my thoughts & prayers! LAND OF HEAVEN When God calls little children to dwell with him above We mortals always question the wisdom of his love. For no heartache compares with the death of one small child. Who does so much to make this world seem wonderful and mild. Perhaps God tires always calling the aged to his fold and so he picks a rosebud before it can grow old. God knows how much we need them and so he takes but few. To make the Land of Heaven more beautiful to view. Believing this is difficult, still somehow we must try. The saddest word that mankind knows will always be good-bye. And so when little ones depart, we who are left behind must realize how much God loves little children, for Angels are hard to find.

I’m so so sorry for your loss Jessa. I cried right along with you. Praying for your broken heart. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story.

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your beautiful family.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my prayers.

I am so sorry for your loss Jessa and Ben, praying for you all! You are a lovely little family

Spurgeon is a wonderful big brother! He finds so much happiness in other people's joy 💖

Sending you tons of love and prayers. I can only imagine your pain during this time.

So sorry for your loss. Praying God’s comfort and Love over you all.

YES! One day you will get to see and hold your sweet baby in your arms. That is one of the things that helped me so much many years ago when I had my miscarriage…. Was having the knowledge that one day I would be able to have this beautiful moment of meeting my precious little one and never be separated again. Lean into that knowledge and the comfort of our Heavenly Father for that peace that surpasses all understanding. Prayers for continued healing for you and your whole family as you walk through this season. 🙏 🕊 💔❤️‍🩹❤️

I lost my first right after the first trimester as well. It was so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for your pain. Thank you for your willingness to share, and help other women in doing so. The Lord gave me five babies after that devastating loss. My oldest is also Named after Charles Spurgeon.. Riley Haddon. God bless you Jessa! You are in my prayers today.

I'm so sorry!! Let your family go through the grief time, This happened to me too, your family will comfort you, I found it to be time to be closer together as a family too, but very emotional 😢 ❤️ yes, thank God for your family and our Comforter!!! It softens us for sure!! Praise God!! Thanks for sharing such a hard experience!!

I am so sorry for your loss. Sending my love and strength to you all ❤️

23 years ago this month my babies went home to the Lord. I was 22 weeks along. It was my first pregnancy. It still hurts at times. It always will. My dear friend and Pastor’s wife just lost her baby this past week. Her baby was also 22 weeks. She does have children at home to love on, and I’m thankful for that. God blessed us with 2 sons through adoption and then in our 19th year of marriage he allowed me to deliver a healthy baby girl. Look up the poem “He Maketh No Mistake.” God will carry you through! ❤️🙏

I am so sorry for your loss, truly. Thank you so much for sharing this with us in a very raw and real way, it is such an honour to be able to hear what you had to say during this time. I hope you are okay and healing alright. Also, the part where Ben brought in the doll house and Ivy was like "thank you Daddy, thank you" was honestly just the sweetest!

Bless your heart, I'm so sorry for your loss...Prayers for u and your family🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

You are an amazing mother thank you so much for sharing your story with us much love to you

Oh Jessa, I just cried with you. You showed your true self and feelings and I appreciate that. One thing that I always have to remind myself through struggles is that everything is God's timing, not ours. He needed another little angel.

So sorry for your loss, we’ve been there. Pastor Jack Hayford wrote a book, “I’ll Hold You in Heaven”. Helpful with this type of loss. Praying for you. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼

Jessa my heart breaks for you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love from Michigan ❤

Praying for you, Jessa! ❤

Jessa, I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm asking God to comfort you and give you strength in the days ahead. ❤️🙏

Thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself with us today. I cried right along with you. I know how hard it is to lose a baby, as I lost one right about the 3 month mark. The sadness and sorrow somehow made me closer to God and it made me appreciate everything I did have so much more. All of the trials we experience in this life, make us into the person God wants us to be. To God, who numbers the hairs on our head, nothing is a surprise and all are designed to work for our good. You did nothing wrong. I admire your courage to share what you are feeling and going through. I’m sure countless women will be helped by your story and your tears. Take comfort in knowing your testimony will soothe the hearts of many. God bless you, Jessa. ❤️🙏❤️

So sorry you and your family are walking through this. It's more common than anyone knows, but still such a shot to the heart. Take care of yourself.

I’m so sorry you went through this. I feel you ❤. Sometimes we don’t listen to our bodies but luckily you did. This is your time now sweetie. You are precious. 🤗

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.🙏🏼❤️ My son and his wife are pregnant with their first child and are going through a rough time with the pregnancy. This video and your news is extremely heart breaking but your faith is strong and shines through even through this difficult time. It’s a reminder to me to be faithful and have trust in God even during uncertain times. Thanks for that reminder Jess.❤️❤️❤️

Jessa (and Ben), thank you so much for sharing such a private experience. I’ve had my own loss and it took quite some time to really heal from. My wish for you is that with each passing day, you feel more healed. I’m so sorry for your loss. With love from Michigan, Annie ✨

Jessa I pray you are healing from this . Thank you for being so vulnerable. My heart goes out to you. 😢

Also, I just want to add that your vulnerability is precious before the Lord and such a beautiful display of honesty! Additionally, Ivy's verbal expressions of gratitude to her Dad for her doll house touched my heart! Every inflection in her voice and every word of gratitude was precious!

Wow Jessa ..... you're so strong... Such an inspiration of faith... Love to you

So sorry for this loss. So glad you had access to the medical care you needed.. some no longer have this chance.

I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.

I'm sorry for your loss. This book has been comforting to others who have lost children. "I'll Hold you in Heaven" by Jack Hayford.

“For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139‬:‭13‬-‭16‬ ‭ He is sovereign over life and death and He numbers our days before He knit us together in our mother’s womb. YOU did not fail, these were the days that were numbered. ❤

I’m so very sorry for your loss !…my heartfelt condolences to you and your family!

Just popping in after having watched this video the day it was posted a while back… I want you to know I have been praying for you and your family. I really hope you continue videos! I loved seeing all your house plants and would love tips/tricks to care for them. ❤️

I just melted when Ivy was so excited to get her presents. It is so nice to see a child actually feel greatfullness for the things they receive.♥️