10 Steps For Fostering Authentic Self-Esteem

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Timestamps:
5:10 Step 1: Find a way to feel confident in your own skin
8:10 Step 2: Face your suffering head-on instead of avoiding it
10:15 Step 3: Set intrinsically meaningful goals and complete them
12:51 Step 4: When you mess up, take the time to deeply understand why
16:19 Step 5: Stop waiting to be saved from your circumstances
18:37 Step 6: Tell the full truth to yourself and other people
21:00 Step 7: Focus more on what you give than what you get
25:03 Step 8: Stay humble by remembering that you are going to die
27:29 Step 9: Opt out of the 'I'll be good enough when' game
29:37 Step 10: Keep your focus on what's within your control

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@jackwednesday 11 ай бұрын

I’m a psychotherapist in the UK, I genuinely think this woman is the best and most authentic KZfaq psychologist around. Every video is absolutely excellent. Thank you Heidi 😊

@diverstalent 11 ай бұрын

💜

@emmierow1980 10 ай бұрын

Likewise. I stumbled across her videos on the Drama Triangle while searching for psychoeducational resources and have binge-watched her videos since then. She’s brilliant ❤️

@jantrapnell01able 10 ай бұрын

I totally agree 100%. Jan from Brunswick, GA

@charlesdaubner1017 10 ай бұрын

Heidi is remarkable. She unpacks so much, with such grace.

@exuberanttarot 10 ай бұрын

👏👏👏

@antwuntrademark 9 ай бұрын

1.) Become attractive by your own standards 2.) Integrate pain into your identity. Don't dissociate from it 3.) Get outside and do something you love. Foster relationships with the people you're in alinement 4.) When you make a mistake, take the time to understand yourself deeply without judgement 5.) Stop waiting for anyone to come and save you 6.) Start telling the truth as often as humanly possible, with yourself and with others 7.) Focus WAY LESS on what you want to take from the world and WAY MORE on what you wanna give to the world 8.) Remember that you're gonna die 9.) Stop crapfitting. Stop tryna be who others want you to be. Know what you want, genuinely. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. 10.) Only focus on what you can control, right here and right now.

@SuLawn 7 ай бұрын

Ace. 🙂❤️🤗🙏

@themaggattack 7 ай бұрын

"Crapfitting" - You watch the crappy childhood fairy, don't you? 😂

@antwuntrademark 7 ай бұрын

@@themaggattack yeah that's funny finding somebody else that watches her

@manicvisons 6 ай бұрын

Thank you

@PBFEAR199 6 ай бұрын

While other guidelines are important too, however, i started to self reflect how personally "do something you love" has been one important thing to me among other these tips. I was unhappy because i didn't change the things that i wanted like hobbies, career and other life choices. I have had some nice guy syndrome not to start learning something i want to learn because other people have installed to me a negative mindset about it (it's boring, why you would ever do thing x and so on) and also i had a self doubt that i never will be good at this activity since it takes so much effort to learn. But now i just start learning the things i want step by step. I'm making great progress and i'm hooked and excited. Finally that boredom and loss of life direction is gone, i'm more motivated than ever. I can start my days with a great purpose because things are moving further. I regret a little how i was a sheep and didn't do what i want. But yeah, i have come closer with realising how it's my own responsibility to great happiness. It's interesting how i don't get so exhausted by learning doing the things i want because i'm eager to learn them. I don't want to be at the end of my life regretting how i didn't live the life i wanted and do things i wanted. Still long journey to go but going to think this stuff more trough.

@emmathomas1794 Жыл бұрын

i literally can’t get over how profound every single one videos of yours i’ve seen feels to me. you are an anchor in my healing journey and i aspire to be able to navigate my psyche they way you do and use it to heal. everyday i’m building new layers of awareness and excavating deeper and deeper into what i hide from myself. your discussions on limerence and disassociation have radically changed my life. i’ve realized that i have been living in disillusionment because i’ve been shaping my reality based on my expectations, but instead i need to shape my expectations based on my reality.

@AthenaIsabella Жыл бұрын

Couldn’t say it better myself!

@403mtm Жыл бұрын

So profound

@sylph7777 Жыл бұрын

I literally was about to comment the same thing. heidi communicates with such stunning lucidity and insight her videos are such a treasure

@ACT4UCF Жыл бұрын

Its kind of shocking she only has 70k subs. Very good content.

@valwood1430 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely awesome videos! I just found her channel. ❤

@hannahbush9354 Жыл бұрын

When you said, “Stop waiting for someone to save you.” I literally started crying and thought of my dad. The fact that he’s never going to come and meet this unmet need I’ve lived with my whole life. But it’s a fact that I need to accept to finally heal. Thank you.

@TysonMichael77 9 ай бұрын

You can definitely do it!!

@bellastone-le9eb 8 ай бұрын

I read your comment and want to congratulate you. This is the most life-changing realization. I had to come to the same understanding, and once I did, that's where my healing journey began. I excepted my dad for who he is and what he is unable to give. I just began to love him and meet him where he is at in his handicap. This was very healing and strengthening. You'll find your new authentic self now that you have let go of those expectations. 🤍

@sethtenrec 8 ай бұрын

Of course, it’s not your dad, you know that. It’s the guys in your life who are like him in some way, and something inside you wants them to step in and fix what he didn’t.

@whatoncewas8480 8 ай бұрын

May you be blessed and May god bless you 😢. I feel for you

@b.jizzle6077 2 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@risika Жыл бұрын

I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me). I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on YT. After a really bad depression phase I started to believe I couldn’t change and I’d feel that horrible forever. Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent mediocre effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up.

@christinemartinez2485 9 ай бұрын

I agree and am doing the same, baby steps❤

@pesadjo 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I feel inspired to reduce my effort and be more sparing on myself.

@rabihamalik6605 3 ай бұрын

Hey I just saw your channel. I hope you’ll continue making them videos. ❤️❤️❤️ I subscribed and find them helpful

@rabihamalik6605 3 ай бұрын

Hey I just saw your channel. I hope you’ll continue making them videos. ❤️❤️❤️ I subscribed and find them helpful

@m2pozad Жыл бұрын

From Self-esteem pioneer, Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem 1. Living Consciously 2. Self-Acceptance 3. Self-Responsibility 4. Self-Assertiveness 5. Living Purposely 6. Personal Integrity

@CoolStorytellersLounge Жыл бұрын

I miss this exercise

@themacocko6311 4 ай бұрын

Self trust?

@ThePowerMoves Ай бұрын

Typical, poor naive self-help. "Living with integrity" only applies to good people who WANT to live with integrity. Doesn't apply to the holes of this world (unluckily)

@carneades4409 9 ай бұрын

Putting this on my computer desktop right now: If you can become the person who shows up and saves you from your own circumstances the way you have been waiting for someone or something else to do, think of how much you would love yourself. Right? Think of how much respect and awe and admiration you would have for yourself.

@ciaraskeleton 29 күн бұрын

Unfortunately it has to be a holistic effort and consistent work. I did all of the above, and I made a life that I'm proud of, I saved myself, I changed, I learned how to be assertive, I learned how to handle rejection, pain, loss, and I have healed so much, I never imagined I'd even be here right now. But it is still an effort every single day to prove to myself that I'm here for myself, forever yknow? It's like any relationship and it takes time. To tell yourself 'if I do this for myself then I'll be happy and secure' is a trap. You'll learn to handle life better, but the work doesn't stop. You don't view yourself suddenly as a hero, and your trauma and core beliefs don't just melt away. You need to challenge them consistently for a long time, and that is difficult. You also need to build the relationship with yourself and then consistently carry that with you out into the world and back into close relationships, and when that happens, you uncover insecurities you couldn't have fixed alone. You have to go and deliberately let yourself be triggered and proven wrong in your negative beliefs and that is not for the feint of heart. So yes do show up for yourself, but don't trick yourself into thinking that doing so will heal everything or that suddenly you'll just view yourself differently. It is a long and a painful process that you need to be very fucking brave to face up to. That's the part that people often neglect to talk about on social media, in 'therapy' videos, or in social spaces. I hate that people sort of only get one part of the whole healing picture, because healing is ugly and non linear, and I think people deserve to understand the reality of it as well as the positives. You will feel like Sisyphus, and you will need to get creative on how you manage to imagine Sisyphus as happy, but stick it out and keep being brave and vulnerable and consistent.

@user-fw5rz4zp1u 11 ай бұрын

1. Body positivity ( protect your inner child) 2. Face challenges head on. Work through conflict. Sit with the pain and don’t numb it 3. Pick meaningful goals. 4. Take the time to understand yourself when something happens 5. Stop waiting to be saved by others. Create your own dream life and save yourself 6. Tell the truth to yourself and others 7. Focus on what you want to give back instead of taking. Give back to the community and friends. 8. Keep yourself humble. Be aware that you will die! Accept death and use it as motivation. 9. Stop comparing yourself with others. Say yes to what matters to us 10. Focus on what you can control!

@user-bt6qd8it1d 9 ай бұрын

All stupid advice only a brainwashed moron that keeps their narc abuse and human trafficking cycle going would follow 😊

@MichaelJohnson-vi6eh 8 ай бұрын

These are great bits of info. I am definitely one who distracts myself instead of facing things head on. I may not have a broken leg but dozens of other things in my life are in need of repair.

@sethtenrec 8 ай бұрын

These summaries may be intended to help the lazy, but they are a pale, very pale, substitute for the video.

@shelleybarva3505 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for the summary of Heidi’s excellent video. In my busy life, recaps are very helpful.

@Zar2244 3 ай бұрын

@@sethtenrec Well its good to listen to the video and save the comment for everyday reminder I reckon

@camhouston2011 10 ай бұрын

Ms. Heidi, I don’t often leave comments on peoples’ channels, but I’m compelled to share with you how impactful your videos are to me. I think it’s important to share since community matters to you. Please know, with all sincerity you are greatly impacting your community for the better. And I hope knowing this inspires you to keep going! I greatly appreciate you. 😊

@nelly_008 9 ай бұрын

Beautifully said ❤

@beneveritt2720 3 ай бұрын

wow, at the part of the video where she said, 'face your fears head on, stop opening 50 tabs on your phone and actually tend to the problem where you have to be vulnerable, or risk the fear of failure, I immediately opened a tab to buy a minimalist phone. As if that is going to solve my life haha. Time to watch till the end of the video.

@goddessk4610 Жыл бұрын

#2 is so me I go straight to my phone when I feel an emotion and don't confront the actual situation or person.

@ellenh278 Жыл бұрын

"It came out in the 70's. Or the 90's. I could totally be making that up" ENFP

@branmerr Жыл бұрын

😂

@baxtertheboss8743 6 ай бұрын

Your videos have been instrumental in my development into a happy and healthy human. 🙏 THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! 🙏

@anndia.23 2 ай бұрын

I am a giver and burned out and became resentful because of lack of boundaries. I love the point regarding giving but also be mindful of your boundaries and what you are capable of giving.

@tatyt1663 Сағат бұрын

How about your baundaries exactly, I been a giver till I realised I was surrounded by people who only wanted to take from me… 😮

@tatyt1663 Сағат бұрын

So I formed a new circle of people and trying to maintain my boundaries better now

@tatyt1663 Сағат бұрын

I don’t think it’s possible to fully overcome and accept the fear of dying

@themadness2007 Жыл бұрын

On step 10, as a non-believer I've always appreciated the serenity prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"

@nmania3 Жыл бұрын

Same here

@PanelsWainio Жыл бұрын

Add another anti-theist: knowledge doesn't have a God hey? 😊

@macro8681 11 ай бұрын

The serenity prayer is pretty much taken straight from Stoicism's Dichotomy of Control.

@joeb218 11 ай бұрын

I have an atheist (and marginally embarrassing) version of this.

@nmania3 11 ай бұрын

@@joeb218 can you post it here?

@victtayl Жыл бұрын

I heard recently another good explanation of self-esteem: “the ability to tolerate the widest spectrum of different emotions” - which a lot of it all comes down to

@AnirudhJas 3 ай бұрын

Wow, this is nice! Where did you come across this? I would love to know more,

@victtayl 3 ай бұрын

@@AnirudhJas it was Dr Becky Kennedy

@AnirudhJas 3 ай бұрын

@@victtayl Thank you!

@meherchahal6754 Ай бұрын

Amazing

@zunetrav4 19 күн бұрын

Heidi, I hope you see this comment. I’ve been on KZfaq since 2009 and this might be the most impactful video I’ve ever watched. There were so many times that I had to pause the video and just take in what you said. I sat down with a note pad and took notes for each step. I finally can say that I have an actionable plan to truly make positive changes in my life. Over the next week I’m going to spend a morning thinking through each step in depth. Thank you.

@padilla5 Ай бұрын

Heidi, I will be 63 in a few days. Every decade since my 30's I stopped to take a look at where I have been and plan & commit to where I am going. After ups & downs I am happy, busy and exited because I have decades to look forward to. A lot of what I have learned comes from mistakes, so I no longer fear screwing up... I will do my best today & enjoy. And I will look forward to tomorrow. I am living because I tried surviving and it socks. When I read a good book, I re read it. Then I summarize it for myself and I take the key lessons and add them to my "truths & wisdom" vaults for lates use. These are documents that I have created and maintained over decades that I review and update every year. My personal "bible" or "laws" that help me craft the better me for tomorrow. Many of your videos I have re-viewed and summarized. You are wise and have a gift for sharing your wisdom. This is in my opinion one of your best videos.

@stepankavojtasova595 Жыл бұрын

Why is this such an important topic not taught in schools?! I have recently discovered your videos and they bring me so much value! Thank you! ❤

@Active0Bserver Жыл бұрын

I can't help wondering if it might have something to do with there being such an incredibly large market for tools of dissociation, between social media, streaming platforms, video games, or really the internet as a whole.

@Ikr2025 Жыл бұрын

I think the powers that be/‘the establishment’ prefer to have an largely unconscious & traumatised population. Much easier to manipulate and control. It is the the same way as a narcissist likes to gaslight their victims to try to prevent them from obtaining a clear view of reality in order to control them.

@Ikr2025 Жыл бұрын

@@Active0BserverYes disassociation and unresolved trauma is good for business.

@Youtubehandlesaresilly 4 ай бұрын

Because there is a fundamental conflict between what different members of society want/need, and what is actually in the best interest of the individual/family. It’s why parenting is so absolutely critical, and this can *never actually be taught properly in school*. Society needs most people to be easy to deal with, to buy stupid things, or agree to whatever society wants someone to believe right now. It wants and needs most people to be followers. A society without leaders is a society doomed to failure and pain, as everyone ‘follows’ without taking ownership of their own actions and saying no when it needs to be said. A society composed of nothing but leaders and independent folks, is a society collapsing under the weight of conflict and confusion, with nothing actually being done. Someone who can’t follow when the time is right, is a terrible leader. Someone who cannot lead when the time is right is a terrible follower. School (at scale) can only teach someone to follow.

@DerekHoiem Жыл бұрын

Wow. There is so much power and truth in this video. I think I’m going to watch it about 25 times or more.

@dharmicvisions 9 ай бұрын

WOW! Can I just take a moment to say that, I have spent most of my days for the last 7 years listening to psychologists, shadow work coaches, self help leaders, audiobooks upon podcasts upon KZfaq videos... And the echo chamber became really apparent. You are hitting notes that a lot of other people seem to be missing, and it is SO APPRECIATED!! This is only the second video of yours I've seen but my mind and heart have been overloaded with "Aha!" Moments. 🎉🙏 thank you so much for being a voice in this movement!

@ZarelaVelasquez 4 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@kristinetank3959 Жыл бұрын

Thank god you are back!

@jacobpeterson6251 Жыл бұрын

❤

@jacobpeterson6251 Жыл бұрын

The best

@supermichaelssecondchannel4342 Жыл бұрын

I think communicating clearly with my loved ones about anything and everything humanly possible has been a great help. I’ve been sleeping better and have been able to think as clear as day.

@arbiel4612 Жыл бұрын

"I respect myself" is the phrase I want to confidently tell myself eveyday.

@Dd94949 Жыл бұрын

Dusk and Summer! Also, the way into consistent exercise for me was setting the bar super low at first. Exercise is a lifelong habit. I now have a relationship with myself and running. Some days I can't wait to go, and other days I take it easy. We need to show compassion for our self around exercise, too. But, it's always worth it - best medicine there is.

@studiotinneluyten 5 ай бұрын

The quote on ’love and understanding’ is by Thích Nhất Hạnh. Your talks are só helpful and insightful. Giving all my gratitude :) from Belgium. 🌱 You help me grow into a more secure version of myself. At last (52). 😬

@nupura8387 Жыл бұрын

So helpful and incredibly timely! The part where you say “self trust is doing what you said you’d do for yourself” is something I’ve been trying to integrate for a few weeks now, hard but worth it

@ingridleroux7639 3 ай бұрын

I for years had debilitating headaches lasting 2-3 days, about two weekly at one time (hormones). That exhausted my brain so much that it took about 5 days to get back on track, only for it to happen again. My self confidence was almost non existent. I completely lost faith in myself, never knowing if I would be able to do what I planned. Only now, early 50s, with menopause and no headaches do I find myself better mentally.

@ingridleroux7639 3 ай бұрын

True, I found I could not trust myself.

@xXItstrayceceXx Жыл бұрын

Heidi I can't thank you enough for all your help in my own self-discovery learning journey. Thank you for all you do!

@kensrobertson 4 ай бұрын

I have found each of these addressed very effectively in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Other faiths may also find much agreement. Knowing your identity, that you are a beloved child of God, created for a glorious purpose is foundational for all the rest! But not everyone believes that foundation, so thank you Heidi for making your teaching so relational to the mere mortal within.😀

@shawnslome 6 күн бұрын

I am NOT a psychotherapist, but Frau Priebe describes the condition of my human condition with clarity. Thank you for your explanations and suggested pathways to heal thyself.

@XeroFoxx Жыл бұрын

Thank you Heidi for giving so much back to us. I've followed you since the magazine article days & I've always valued your piercing clarity & way you succinctly explain things. You have a gift at putting complex things simply & getting to the root of things. I'm very much enjoying these cascade of videos lately. I've been reading lost connections per your recommendation. It's amazing. Listening to your enlightening videos amongst the backdrop of that book... I can feel myself shifting. It feels refreshing. Just want to let you know you are transforming lives & making waves you may not be entirely aware of. Thank you for being you & for using your voice & wise perspective. Please don't stop. In the meantime I'll be here. Thank you.

@heidipriebe1 Жыл бұрын

Saving this comment ❤ It made my day. I loved reading the sentence 'I can feel myself shifting.' I imagine I know that feeling and it is a beautiful one.

@charityhair609 Жыл бұрын

Wow. Just wow. Thank you for articulating all of this stuff and laying it all out clearly. This is giving me an idea of why I don’t feel so great, and how I can feel better. Thank you!!

@Steve-h-61 6 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤ Thank you for being in the world

@annaturquoise7114 4 ай бұрын

I sign under the “putting words together efficiently” - she has that gift. only one of my friends was this succinct, this is a rare gift

@dbuck1964 Жыл бұрын

So the book 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem was published in 1994 and it was an expansion of many ideas that were written in his very wonderful little book from 1983 called Honoring the Self. Out of my libraryof nearly 2000 books on self development, philosophy, and psychology, these are two of my most cherished books!

@x80WildCat08x Жыл бұрын

What are some of your other recommendations?

@let9790 Жыл бұрын

Who is the author of the book, Honoring the Self? I couldn’t find it. Closest title also from Nathaniel was published in 2011 not 1983.

@jamie.miller.inspiring Жыл бұрын

This was exactly what I needed thank you, I did experience a NDE earlier this year and initially I wanted to help change the world but after the nde, a miscarriage, the end of a relationship it sent me into a spiral and being a INFP I guess i got stuck in the loop. Time to dust myself off and keep on going thank you 🙏💖

@SassyL62 Жыл бұрын

babe you are my therapist seriously thank you, you are going to be the reason i finally heal

@Vps3689 Жыл бұрын

I never knew what was going on with me. So much anxiety and depression. I have had numerous turbulent relationships throughout my life and divorce. Constantly feeling disconnected and angry. I was attracting bad partners and I gave up on the idea of romance. Did a deep drive into myself and I had to reparent myself. I am a recovering fearful avoidant. I love your channel it makes complete sense- this video is my favorite bc your so right! I really appreciate your honesty and respect you. Authenticity is hard to find! Thank you!

@tammyblessing2123 Жыл бұрын

You are a beacon of hope in a dark place. I am on my healing journey from 30 plus years of unthinkable trauma. You have definitely helped me so much. As I navigate college to become a trauma therapist I will continue to take down your nuggets of truth to share with my clients ❤️

@J_Sunshine 5 ай бұрын

The one that hit home the most is not being ignorant to the fact that we’re going to die. After spending time with my grandparents recently, and hearing this step, it’s reinforced my appreciation for life and the simple things, as well as the hard. I will rewatch this video as many times as I need! Truly a godsend.

@aidaguillen6337 5 ай бұрын

You are much more younger than me, and you teach me so much! Thank you, you are incredibly good in what you do.

@today_i_will_draw7870 11 ай бұрын

I definitely have to rewatch this and journal along. I love your videos, they really make me feel so compassionate about myself and the people around me. Thank you always ❤

@userone7057 Жыл бұрын

I realized how my neurodivergent brain can play a big role in my self-esteem and it's something I should keep paying attention to. Gosh! listening to the song "VINDICaTED" again reminded me of my emo days as a University student. I was alone in my self-esteem journey. I'm just glad that I have the opportunity to share this with you at this moment :) Meeting a complete stranger you've recently met in a public forum and have a conflict with and resolving it as a proper adult is a challenge. I know that opening up your dark side is terrifying. Terrifying because of what I've seen people(the mob, the mob can be scary) do in the media unless you have some level of awareness, accountability, and eloquence. My profession has allowed me to connect with different people abroad even though I was carrying a facade of my self-esteem I was able to make someone smile who was in a dark place. It created a positive impact on my psyche. I'm guilty of not practicing memento mori.

@user-dt1tg1sj8b 7 ай бұрын

I love the way Heidi Priebe presents topics. I've listened to at least five videos so far, and find the material very helpful. She comes across as genuine, educated in the subjects, encouraging and kind. Thank You Heidi!!!

@musiklyfe7683 11 ай бұрын

As if I couldn't love you anymore. Dashboard confessional! Nice!!! My journey has been filled with many sources of wisdom. Be it from a philosophical or religious angle or from a psychological angle such as yourself. I work as an electrician, and if I'm not listening to music in my earbuds I'm typically listening to things that either keep me on the proper path or push me to the proper path that I need to be on. And your videos continuously do that. I'm extremely grateful to have stumbled upon your channel. And everything I learn, I pass on to my peers and friends. I seem to be the go-to guy that people come to and talk to about issues. Simply because I'm able to see it from almost every angle. I'm able to be empathetic as well as logical in the situations because of the education I received from people like you. So even though you were helping me out and others one video at a time. Some of us are taking what we learn from you and helping others. So don't let the numbers your videos receive be the only reflection you have of success. Because it reaches far past your videos. Just from me alone, you've at least reached multiple more people. At least 50-100 on my end, and climbing.

@teresaallen7652 5 күн бұрын

Did anyone else notice the small detail at 5:23? It’s so cool!

@LastRebel1978 24 күн бұрын

Thank you dear, you say this much better and hopefully believable because you’re a woman. As a man I have been surrounded by women with low self esteem because of my empathy and struggles in my early life. They seem to want to take my energy but never adopt any of the thinking habits that need changed until I feel used instead of the inspiration to learn to love yourself so you can give back and have healthy relationships. You are so spot on on every one and when you got to facing the fear of death, I about lost it because I say it’s key all the time for living in the now. They look at me as if I’m crazy and it hurts so bad to have to finally move on as I know they don’t understand why they can’t ride on my back and energy for ever. So again thank you for confirming I’m not crazy and more importantly maybe reaching some people who are so beautiful and have much to offer, that this world and culture has stolen from them. God bless.

@alejandrotejeriaalcaraz2062 9 ай бұрын

Huge thanks, Heidi. I'm in a healing process, and I'm getting so much from your videos. The examples that you give, make me get things so much easier. Mental health can be so damn complex, and it's wonderful to have it so lovingly "distilled". As Einstein said "You dont understand a subject well enough, unless you can explain it to a child in plain terms". Yu da bomb.

@idoru6914 Жыл бұрын

Wow, I'm so lucky to have discovered you Heidi! One of the most truly authentic, knowledgable and no bs psychology KZfaq channels out there!

@juliettemansour 23 күн бұрын

I've been watching a lot of your videos, Heidi. They are all incredibly authentic, real, wise and caring. This one though is by far the most condensed, valuable message I have ever seen - and I've watched a lot of videos and read a lot of books in my life. If only everyone in the United States, Canada and rest of the English-speaking world watched and implemented these steps, what an impact that would have on the world! Thank you for sharing your gift.

@cro3725 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for breaking this down like this. Just what I needed.

@christinechapman9764 Жыл бұрын

There's such a thing as being too honest, open and transparent. I do all these ten things, and most of them really do work very well, but I don't have good self esteem because I over share compulsively, I have good self esteem despite it. I actually really dislike this about myself, but I forgive myself and love myself anyway, because I can't help it (yet).

@coreylawson1103 Ай бұрын

an insight I had after blowing a job interview after being asked "tell me about you..." was realizing after the fact it is good and ok to be truthful, and ok to not try to tell the "whole truth" (whatever that means for you". the trick is figuring out the right levels of discernment...that is right for you. :)

@MostlyCloudy Жыл бұрын

This is an excellent video. Amazing advice. Gen Z take notes.

@hermanlopez8431 7 ай бұрын

Heidi, you are amazing! My life has improved significantly since listening to your videos. Iv been struggling so much and I feel like you picked me up from the ground and walked with me until i felt ready to walk on my own. Thank you! Its safe to assume you have helped countless people with your knowledge! 👏

@AnneBeamish Жыл бұрын

Heidi, I cannot overstate how mind-blowing your videos are. Thank you.

@savorthesublime Жыл бұрын

These videos are THE BEST! Thank you!!! 🙏🏼

@Ufahamu 9 ай бұрын

Researching your roots and staying rooted in your culture helps! When I learned about the Celtic culture and what they stood for, that helped me jump in to my warrior mindset!

@MissKissyPH Жыл бұрын

I've binged watch three of your videos and they have changed my perspective completely on learning how to love and care for my inner child. Loyal subscribe here!!

@Sariimura Жыл бұрын

I do not have the words to tell you how much I appreciate your videos. THANK YOU! Please keep making them.

@shelbythorne2473 Жыл бұрын

Your perspective is so incredibly helpful. So grateful for your content.

@youtubeaccount-gp5ml 9 ай бұрын

Oh my god!!! The saying about love is understanding - it’s what I’ve always defined for myself and it’s at the core of my existence, honestly. Love hearing it here

@steph6109 Жыл бұрын

You are absolutely amazing. Very few people online are able to integrate these ideas so succinctly

@dawncrawford9159 11 ай бұрын

💖 you are wise beyond your years ~ Thank You

@heal801 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for deciding to create these videos ❤.

@natebalance221 11 ай бұрын

Hugely grateful for this- what an extraordinary video and delivery. THANK YOU ❤

@denielleadibi7721 4 ай бұрын

Heidi you are absolute gold. How lucky you came to me on KZfaq. Thank you 🙏

@Turk656 2 ай бұрын

This was exactly what I needed to hear - thank you for sharing all this!

@fernandobautista3200 7 ай бұрын

You are a legend, the best channel I discoverd in very long while, massive thanks!

@deborahgericke9770 9 ай бұрын

So articulate and thoughtful, i love this woman!

@mrstoner2udude799 4 ай бұрын

I am SO glad your Mom gave you that advice. Your videos are very substantial. TY..

@kimbell6689 Жыл бұрын

Heidi, you have an exceptional ability to explain concepts using terms, metaphors and examples that make the concepts easy to absorb. I look forward to watching all of your videos as your content is excellent.

@solgast 10 ай бұрын

As above, so below. Always. Truly wonderful and I have the outmost respect for you Heidi how you approach your content creation and give all you got to improve peoples lives. You are doing it right. Because not only are you showing and talking from your own experience. But also point towards natural wisdom on the matters high and low. Thank you, I look forward to more adventures with you.

@TiagoDCV Жыл бұрын

This was beautiful. Thank you for this video Heidi ❤

@berumenberumen2649 Жыл бұрын

You blow my mind. U speak so thruthfully. I try everyday to hear one of your videos in the morning. You change my perception.

@katherinee2389 Жыл бұрын

I so enjoyed watching this! You are similar to me as an ENFP and it is helpful to see myself reflected back in another person. I'm learning to be myself and appreciate what drives me but has been somewhat unappreciated in certain environments. My current life season had been filled with many hard yet empowering decisions to ensure I stay grounded in my values and authenticity. It has been painful. But I've walked the process through instead of avoiding. I'm beginning to see my self efficacy and self respect return. I'll circle back to this video for ideas again.

@racheltalmadge5471 11 ай бұрын

Incredible insight. Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏻

@akaidk2199 11 ай бұрын

heidi i had already been liking the other videos i've been watching throughout the last few days from you, they are speaking to me in a very terrible time in my life when I am having to face up to my entire life up to this point. but when you got to the section about death, i went beyond liking the sparkle and cogency of your videos, and knew you were a real one. bless you

@Horizont1983 9 ай бұрын

This is so good and worthy that I have to listen to it over and over again ❤

@marianbergroth8228 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Heidi! This is profound advice and still, you make it so relatable. I will share it in my Swedish context.

@kyliessave8454 Жыл бұрын

Heidi, thank you so much for your videos. I found your videos by chance and I am so grateful to you.

@kayebae815 9 ай бұрын

really really appreciate you sharing how to find community so simply. thank you.

@thehappytwist Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Using this to work on myself. Very grateful for your videos ❤

@MaxieOuyangYinghui Жыл бұрын

Love this!! Been working on the focus on what I can control. I thought I was more ahead with personal development given how long I’ve been in the space, but your video has shown me I’ve got many more things to learn and develop to build self esteem and self compassion. Thanks for breaking it down so clearly and giving your knowledge and wisdom. I really like your way of wording things super clearly! Your channel for me (as a recently discovered ENFP has been given me new life in embracing me and returning back to me, away from the noise of the rest of the world. Please continue sharing your gift and this content! You’re for sure making a difference to my life 🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏❤️

@dr0zable Жыл бұрын

Another really great video. Adding this one to my download list to listen to later. Thanks for all you do. ✌️

@charleschukwurah9126 Ай бұрын

Words can't not show you any more gratitude. I respect your intelligence and dedication to teaching in this field of the mind

@cobba6392 10 ай бұрын

I love that advice that your mum gave you about giving back. She must be a wise woman!

@JAFOOSA Жыл бұрын

Thank you Heidi! I've just found you on YT. I appreciate your videos and ability to communicate complex personal issues. I bought 6 Pillars about 15 years ago and poke at it here and there. I love your honesty and transparency. Thanks again for giving back to us all ❤

@vincevince4703 8 ай бұрын

I cannot thank you enough for your videos. They are so insightful and helpful!

@sabeen7794 9 ай бұрын

Amazing insight!! Thanks for sharing this ! Much love ❤🌸

@Andrew-ow6fq Жыл бұрын

I liked that you focused on both the "solving" and "feeling" parts of self-relation, because advice geared towards encouraging one sometimes feels like it encourages me to lean too far away from the other. E.g. if I'm told to "pull myself up by my bootstraps," I get annoyed because it doesn't seem like the difficulty of the tasks I'm trying to accomplish are recognized, and likewise if I'm encouraged to recognize how the circumstances I'm in are probably unfair and to blame things other than myself, I feel somewhat guilty for not holding myself more accountable. This is such a difficult thing for me to balance. Thanks as always for the video!

@berivantore9556 Жыл бұрын

I love you Heidi! You share such graceful wisdom... Thank you..

@Goddessme888 18 күн бұрын

You’re a gem!!! Thank you so much I love how clear you explain everything! ❤

@arts26 Жыл бұрын

Wow! This was an eye opener for me. Thank you for making and sharing this video. It is helping me understand / see the sources of my chronic low self-esteem. Thank you again!

@guilhermegoncalvesmoreira6084 Жыл бұрын

I’m in a bad place and your videos have been an amazing help. Thanks

@SuLawn 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Heidi Priebe. Youre Ace. 🙏🤗❤️🙂

@erlinet4059 Жыл бұрын

Heidi, I love all of your videos. Thank you so much for all that you do. Your delivery, your examples, your attention to detail is outstanding. Thanks!

@nadiae8ccd7 11 ай бұрын

This is an absolutely stoic approach, which makes so much sense to me now. Stoicism helps me a lot on my way to secure attachment style and it's also something I'm super comfortable with as it doesn't clash with my avoidant dismissive style that much