Help! I Love An Aspie! (how to love someone with aspergers)

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People on the Autism Spectrum are worthy of love but there are a few things you need to know in order to create a healthy relationship that is beneficial for all parties.
In This Video:
1. Understand your Aspie
2. Get your needs met
3. The Magic Message
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// WELCOME TO ASPERGERS FROM THE INSIDE!!
My name is Paul and I discovered I have Aspergers at age 30.
If you're new you can check out a playlist of some of my most popular videos here: / aspergersfromtheinside
Yes, I know, I don't look autistic. That's exactly why I started this blog, because if I didn't show you, you would never know.
As the name suggests, this channel is devoted to giving you insight into the world of Aspergers.
This blog started off being just my story, but I've learned SO MUCH about my own condition
from meeting others on the Autism Spectrum that now I make sure to feature their stories as well.
I've come a long way in my own personal journey.
Now I'm sharing what I've found so you don't have to learn it the hard way too.
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// WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THIS BLOG
I value your time which means there are NO KZfaq ADS on my videos.
You can expect me to get to the point with concise useful information.
I focus on what is most important and don't shy away from difficult topics.
The best way to learn about Autism is to see it in real life ( i.e. via the stories of many, many people on the spectrum).
In this channel I endeavour to show you what Autism and Aspergers look like in real people and to also give you some insight as to what's happening on the inside.
I upload a new video every weekend with some bonus content thrown in mid-week too.
There's always new stuff coming through so be sure to check back and see what you've missed. (Is this where I'm supposed to tell you to hit that subscribe button?)
Topics Include:
- What is Aspergers/Autism?
- Aspie Tips, coping strategies, and advice on common issues
- Learning Emotional Intelligence (this is my special interest!)
- Autism in real life: stories from special guests
Everything I do is and endeavour to go deeper and take you 'behind the scenes' to understand what may, at first glance, seem 'odd'.
oh, and I love busting stereotypes and turning preconceptions upsidedown :)
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// ABOUT ME
I discovered I have aspergers at the age of thrity.
It has been my life's mission to understand these funny creatures we call humans.
My special interest is a combination of emotional intelligence, psychology, neuroscience, thinking styles, behaviour, and motivation. (I.e. what makes people tick)
My background is in engineering and I see the world in systems to be analysed.
My passion is for taking the incredibly complex, deciphering the pattern, and explaining it very simply.
My philosophy is that blogging is an adventure best shared.
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// EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TRAINING
I also run autism friendly online emotional intelligence training. So if you like my direct, systematic style, and would like to improve your own emotional intelligence skills, check it out here:
emotionsexplained.com.au
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// CONTACT
Blogging is an adventure best shared which means I'd love to hear from you!
Feel free to leave me a comment or send me and email at any time and I'll do my best to respond promptly.
Email: aspergersfromtheinside@gmail.com
Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy this channel!
I look forward to hearing from you!
Peace,
~Paul

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@Right2Try 2 жыл бұрын

I married an aspergirl and the happiness that she brings me is out of this world. we have been together now for 19 years. it seems to me that if I expect almost nothing, that she will give me almost everything. and I try to give her everything too. we are both so blessed.

@Drew-wo6xr Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your 19 year marriage. I'm 40 years old, and never been married. I can understand having Asperger's (Autism spectrum disorder) part.

@inkvixen3141 Жыл бұрын

Bless your heart.

@shannonricelewis6016 Жыл бұрын

Men don't mind of a woman has this...in fact, we find it kind of cute. That innocence is very attractive to us. However. ..if you have this curseason as a man...you are royaly screwed unless you are born into a billionaire family

@federicom74 Жыл бұрын

You are lucky, I'm an autistic son of an autistic man and a "normal" mom. my parents separated because my mother kept demanding things that my father was unable to do (my mother's behavior is the exact opposite of what is explained in the video and what you are talking about) and also the reason why few month ago I went to live with my father. Now i am 22 and i have been since i was a teenager there is no communication with my mother, i am saddened by the situation because i dont know how to behave. My mother explicitly told me that she can't be my friend, the way I understand(?) because the function of parents is to be an educator and that's it. with his authority principles etc i can't get close to my mother(and sorry for the english)

@rhythmofheaven1489 Жыл бұрын

Do you have kids?

@lisamurphy5316 4 жыл бұрын

A cold burnt coffee with the wrong milk... and youll know he loves you, this cracked me up😂😂😂😂

@christopherhernandez78 4 жыл бұрын

At least they tried. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Just to prove the person loves you. I am high functioning Autistic in a relationship with another High functioning Autistic. To me that's all it takes to show love. Even tho it's different or weird. 😅

@fridajohansson846 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@thepenguin3120 3 жыл бұрын

this teared me right up :)

@fridajohansson846 3 жыл бұрын

The Penguin was gonna say that it made me cry too ... but tried to be cool haha

@thepenguin3120 3 жыл бұрын

@@fridajohansson846 keep fighting x

@mordaciousfilms Жыл бұрын

My GF is on the spectrum and this made me cry bc I love her but I also struggle with abandonment and loneliness and lots of trauma around friends disappearing... This was a really great reminder and it just made me cry. You touched on a lot of the things I was taking personally but you really brought me clarity and peace and I just want us to be good to each other.

@BritneyMakara 5 жыл бұрын

The dearest person in my life is an aspie and I was able to relate to a lot of the points in this video. I used to feel very "unloved" by him, and I would point it out to him, which made him withdraw more. The best thing I could have done is be more understanding, we communicated and he told me that he felt he was expected to do certain things but wasn't able to see those physical ques in things like touching, which helped a lot. I learned to just enjoy my time with him, and when he's comfortable with me I feel extremely happy because I know all the love he shows me is extremely genuine :) We've known each other for 8 years and I absolutely consider him the love of my life and every day I learn how to understand him better I love him even more

@autismfromtheInside 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the comment! I'm glad you can relate :)

@shellShock1111 5 жыл бұрын

THIS! THISTHISTHISTHISTHIS a thousand times

@nutmeg1096 5 жыл бұрын

BritneyMakara I’m not sure if mine is an aspie but it surely seems like it. Everything you said I have felt the same thing. I can tell he truly loves me but he has his own way of showing it. Yes there are difficult moments but I wouldn’t have him any other way

@resulsanane4506 4 жыл бұрын

You seem like a wonderful human.

@davidhill5684 4 жыл бұрын

Your attitude is heartwarming! Good on you! We're not easy to be around, sometimes.

@robertklotz9319 4 жыл бұрын

For Aspies it is also difficult to trust somebody. It takes maybe a little longer. Due to their experiences of rejections, hurts and misinterpretations of their being different.

@trthdg 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, can I connect with you to ask more about this? I have a friend having Asperger and I cannot connect with him.

@robertklotz9319 3 жыл бұрын

@@trthdg sure you can contact me and ask more. I wish the best to you and your friend.

@robertklotz9319 3 жыл бұрын

@@trthdg how are you? I hope everything is fine. Try to find a way to connect with your friend. What does he like most. Drawing pictures or collecting something. Show him your drawings even if they are not as beautiful as his. Or give him something for his collection. For you it might be the right choice but for him it might not be. Don't get discouraged. It takes some time to open up. Like growing seeds, too less water or too much water may be the wrong decision. Good luck! Take care of yourself!

@trthdg 3 жыл бұрын

Hi there, I did think that you should send me your social media to talk in private. We are in love in a long-distance relationship. I love him because of his honesty and kindness. I’ve never believed in anyone else like that before. But since we’re in this distance, I don’t know if it’s love. He’s always relying me so late after my text even though he does not do anything in a day (Sunday in Germany and he told me also that he has nothing to do). I still want to believe that he still loves me (because he always says so and I trust him always) but the things I want for love, he doesn’t know it.

@robertklotz9319 3 жыл бұрын

@@trthdg I think that the video is explaining it already clearly. It is a difficult situation but it's not hopeless. Here's my email: rbrtklotz@gmail.com

@ChildrensRightsFirst947 3 жыл бұрын

"You're doing it wrong. Your best isn't good enough." I have ADHD and my entire life I've been getting this message, even from family who know I have this condition.

@Typanoid 3 жыл бұрын

You're not doing it wrong - they're just giving you the wrong assignments and are setting the wrong expectations. If they were to give you the tasks, you're actually good at, you'd run circles around everyone else, and blow everybody's expectations out of the water!

@idiotinabandanna8701 2 жыл бұрын

exactly the same, you aren’t doing it wrong tho, you just have a different way of solving problems compared to other people who don’t have conditions like adhd or autism

@gillymac9363 2 жыл бұрын

Bipolar m borderline n can relate x

@ss5gogetunks Жыл бұрын

That opening statement hurt so much because i relate to it so hard I have crippling anxiety around making decisions because I'm so used to people telling me I did it wrong or badly

@danika9411 Жыл бұрын

Yes or say you are so bad, you deserve all the abuse ( hitting, screaming, not allowed to eat at the same table for years....)

@benedixtify 2 жыл бұрын

"I know you love me, even if you can't give me what I need at the moment." That's huge. Also, being able to work together as a team to get both our needs met... that's definitely something I crave. I think my partner and I are working on that.

@positivevibe7684 Жыл бұрын

@Benedix. My Aspiehusb and I are working on that as well.

@susanwozniak6354 3 жыл бұрын

Back when I was 19 and the love of my life had just turned 21, I kept waiting for him to say that he loved me. We were in different colleges and he would make an 80 mile round trip to see me. That was during the 1960s before Aspergers and Autism were commonly known and spoken of. Looking back, I realize he needed me to speak up first, which I could not do because of verbal abuse that I had suffered. Adding to the stew was that my parents hated him for reasons I understood even then. Because of your videos, I have a greater understanding of the situation. Thank you. He died ten years ago. It would be nice to talk to him about this but that is not possible.

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

I am so very sorry for your loss-in your early years, at his death and now. My pre-Kindergarten love was stimming (I thought it was a game) so I copied. It caused distress so the adults never let us play together again. Love is good even if we only get to remember it.

@susanwozniak6354 3 жыл бұрын

@@mgd6087 Thank you. Your story, too, is sad.

@Molly-rq6yd 2 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss. That is really hard.

@susanwozniak6354 2 жыл бұрын

@@Molly-rq6yd Thank you!

@soulforge5849 2 жыл бұрын

He can hear you even across the veil. Don’t know if you believe in psychic mediums, but I’ve connected with loved ones this way and it blew my socks off- totally healing. So much love to you 🙏🏻🌞♥️

@jimspencer9628 5 жыл бұрын

I make my misses a coffee every morning same way she likes it have done for 13 years

@jimspencer9628 5 жыл бұрын

Haha kinda i got nerve damage arthritis chronic pain and other crap so i try n make up for it lol

@sarahsuero 4 жыл бұрын

My husband makes me tea and eggs every morning and I clean up. He easily wakes up and I don’t. Solid team work!

@deborahchesser7375 4 жыл бұрын

Jim Spencer it’s hard to keep up with everyday chores when you hurt 24/7, I’m the same way. I feel bad because I can’t do the things I used to. That adds to the already present anxiety from the pain, so now I’m in pain and worrying. It’s a vicious cycle

@deborahchesser7375 4 жыл бұрын

Selestine Overholser same with us, I can only sleep in 2-3 hour intervals (which sucks) so I can wake her up anytime, can I stay up? Sometimes, it’s tough.

@deborahchesser7375 4 жыл бұрын

J. K. When one or the other gets sick or limited in some way, you will find out if your mate really loves you. I’d do anything for my wife, and I mean anything, good bad, thick and thin I’ll be there. I’m the one being taken care of and it kills me. She’s an angel I’m not sure that I even deserve her.

@andersberdal4393 5 жыл бұрын

Simple: you just do. Some people may think we are incapable of love, when the simple, yet frustrating fact is that love is just difficult for us to communicate. So we can love people who have no clue that we do and for that reason dont reciprocate it either. We dont understand why we dont get invited to weddings and birthdays by the people we hold dear and consider friends and loved ones. And its all because people dont understand how much we care for them and how important, they are to us.

@Alphacentauri819 4 жыл бұрын

Anders Berdal which is why it’s VITAL to learn how to communicate those things. That is a piece of advice mybex Aspie received from two Aspergers specialists...that he needed to SAY way more, share his thoughts etc. It’s a building of a bridge to the other person, the path to connection... he wouldn’t do it consistently. I do understand it was difficult...but I really needed it I’m not a mind reader...

@isimonsez Жыл бұрын

You all don’t get invited because when you are, you all appear uninterested and two people I know on the spectrum are mood killers so that’s why we don’t include them regularly

@sarahsizemore5926 2 жыл бұрын

I'm crying rn cause I'm truly seeing how much my aspie partner loves me and I didn't feel before... But I see it and appreciate it. Thank you.

@sweetpeace5 4 жыл бұрын

The 5 Love Languages is a fantastic book for all people in relationships. The coffee example is somebody who’s love language is “Acts of kindness”

@karend215 3 жыл бұрын

I love that book and have been trying to encourage my (likely) Aspi boyfriend how we can communicate love to each other via the 5 love languages. Unfortunately, he is defensive, like Paul brought up. "Unfortunately," my love language is "Physical touch," which makes it especially difficult when the aspi doesn't like to touch or be intimate. :-( Sweetpeace5: P.S. in my book it is called "acts of service."

@orbismworldbuilding8428 2 жыл бұрын

There are actually more love languages, many of them are autistic ones. here they are: •Following (I don't know why but (consensually) following someone is a way I show affection) •Infodumping/listening to infodumps (while this is pretty normal general behavior for autistic people, for some it also serves as a form of bonding) •Making faces •Mimicry (though because of burnout from masking this one is more something I recieve than give, but should it happen I usually return it) •Support swapping (Essentially helping eachother take care of themself (for example: getting someone a glass of water, or trading chores or something) This one I don't entirely understand, but some people have this love language. Also like all forms of affection make sure your partner knows what you are doing and make sure it's consensual, especially since this love language can make an autistic person distressed if for example they don't know how to do that one thing, or don't usually do it and they preffer things to stay the same) •Crushing (This one due to sensory issues needs to be informed) (Essentially affectionate dog piling (don't jump on someone though, that can injur people)) •Stimming together (this one is often shared between autistic people, but can also just participating in a stim with an autistic person can be seen as affectionate by them) Hope this helps

@gillymac9363 2 жыл бұрын

@@orbismworldbuilding8428 lol. More confirmation the kids dad is indeed aspergers as he said once. I never understood the crushing bear hugs i literally couldn't breathe. He showed me a video of a raccoon bear hugging an unimpressed cat smiling that that was us 🤦😅

@danika9411 Жыл бұрын

@@karend215 Same. But he doesn't want to learn anything. It's his way or the highway. 😅

@fostxswire1600 3 жыл бұрын

To the Aspie: forgive the person for being mad at you. You possibly don't understand why there is a need for anger or believe that you haven't done anything wrong, but you can understand they have a right to get upset about things they are unhappy about. There may not be anything you can do about the situation itself, but it may help accept the criticism without feeling defensive. Instead of the mood being combative, the mood feels more communicative.

@JohnSmith-ps7yq Жыл бұрын

This is deep stuff. Thank you so much.

@yo-yo9663 10 ай бұрын

After a while it feels abusive though

@michellecate5422 4 жыл бұрын

I'm dating a man with asperger's and hes very affectionate. I have to.remember hes more linear/logical while I can be emotional. Sometimes I need to stop and u understand this when we have disagreements. I often say "thank you for being you." To let him know how much I appreciate him. I think we're a good balance. And thankyou for this video. I live him and want to understand as much as I can about aspergers and strengthen our bond.

@Feline713 5 жыл бұрын

It's funny that there are videos out there that teach others on how to love me. It's just too hard without a tutorial :-D

@DontCryEJ 3 жыл бұрын

Nah, people should just be taught about ye more. Society is just a bit set back.

@SandraWade666 3 жыл бұрын

It's more like, teaching us NTs how to communicate better :)

@spacenerd9499 3 жыл бұрын

@@sanghamitradeb232 my BF's mind is beautiful ♥️

@spacenerd9499 3 жыл бұрын

@@SandraWade666 I agree!!

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

Not exactly. Aspies are loved because of themselves. Its a process to create better language and understanding between us now that more people are discovered or "out". Those coming up have a lot more understanding. All of us (NDiverse and NTypical) who grew up in the decades where it was an invisible/ denied/ taboo/ prohibited issue have a lot of correcting and adjusting to do.

@snootsnooterton2089 4 жыл бұрын

This video was so helpful! Not because I have a loved one with aspergers, but because I'm the one with aspergers and you explained some of the things I did in past relationships that caused them to fall apart, and it wasn't because there was something wrong with me. It was just because I had aspergers and neither of us knew. Thanks!

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

Woohoo, you are a winner!

@euanelliott3613 3 жыл бұрын

I am an autistic schizophrenic. After decades of trying to fathom the mindgames, strategies and pointless dramas that go into relationships, I finally decided to live alone for the rest of my life. Having made the adjustment I've never felt calmer, and as a result happier. No more craving love, no more pining for women who don't love me back, just peace. Women are wonderful, I don't need one, I don't want one ever again.

@tinkthefoxylilmiss6801 5 ай бұрын

I applaud you for finding a place of peace and structure. I hope you don't mind a suggestion: instead of dating, or craving women, perhaps try seeking a dating coach or relationship counselling as a single person to understand what very special type of woman who might be compatible with your desired calm, clear, well-adjusted life, and what personality traits she must have to fit into your life. Just a thought. (I believe the right kind of woman is out there waiting for you and that all the previous women you've dated were perhaps simply incompatible.... and it's not fair to overgeneralize that to all womankind. A dating coach can help you navigate the muck without getting sucked into it)

@craigbrowning9448 5 жыл бұрын

Mine is more like "Help! I found someone I find attractive and I am Clueless about how can I successfully have a relationship with them?

@nleem3361 2 жыл бұрын

My amazing boyfriend is just looking into getting tested for autism, but some things I noticed that make a big difference: 1. Focus on the positive, and let them know when they said/ or done something you liked or enjoyed. And, it's ok to reflect on it and tell them when you're remembering something lovely of the past and how it still makes you feel good. 2. When making plans, have a back up plan. When things start going wrong, he starts to panic. I think it's because he was trying so hard for something to be great, and on the spot it takes time to plan something new and maybe we don't have an hour to plan out plan b, so then he feels even worse that we missed out all together. (He's mentioned several times that he's shocked I've never screamed at him, so I'm guessing that's the reactions he's had in many past relationships. That breaks my heart because I know his heart is good, and never with bad intentions). 3. Have other friends to do things with that your asbies partner dislike or is uncomfortable for them. And, encourage them to have friends who also love their special interests. I have different friend groups for different things. That way we don't miss out or expect too much from anyone person. (This is good advice for all even in NT w/ NT relationships). 4. Be specific about what you'd like. They will do everything to make it happen (but also refer back to #3 and don't push for things way out of your asbies comfort zone. If you do, that's just rude): - funny story: when we 1st started getting intimate and I wasn't ready for s-x, I'd asked him if he'd like finger me. He did and went right for hole. It was enjoyable, but I was also a bit shocked. A few weeks later, I told him so and he was embarrassed because he thought that's what I wanted and started to feel bad, so I quickly explainedthat I'd enjoyed it or I would have asked him to stop, but that it was just different from what I expected. Then he said he'd thought that's what my request was, and I thought about it and realized that rubbing on the outside and inside are both called the same thing, so I suggested that if he's ever new with someone else to start on the outside and let her tell him to move to the inside. 5. My asbies man ruminates over things that go wrong and I do too. But we both look at our parts of why we had a disagreement. So one of the most wonderful things about him is that we can talk about things later, share our thought processes of why we were holding so tight to our point of view. Then we usually think about what the other said regarding why, and then have another discussion a few days later of how to do better in the future. - For me, bickering all the time is a deal breaker. I have adhd which comes with rejection sensitivity and arguing tears me up, and makes me feel rejected. But, I like how we can talk about things later, and that gives me a hope for our future and I told him so. (I haven't explained rejection sensitivity to him yet, but I probably should). 6. When an asbies person has reached something, they are experts, but if I'm not, or disagree. I ask for them to explain more about it, but not all at once. This is particularly important for making financial discussions such. I'll say, I don't get how this works, so it makes me nervous to do it, so I need to know more about it. Hope this helps. I know all people are different even if we have similar brains operating systems we each have a lifetime of unique programming. Doesn't matter if we are ND or NT, that's true for everyone. The best thing to do is talk to people to learn what they like/ need/ want/ or hope for.

@knowhere60 2 жыл бұрын

You are an incredibly evolved and emotionally mature woman. Your partner is blessed to have in his life. Many NT partners can focus only on what is lacking in their Aspie partner and lack empathy or compassion enough to partner with them, rather than confront, belittle and reject them.

@shannonricelewis6016 Жыл бұрын

Guaranteed you are overweight or very much so unattractive

@bladegriggs4090 Жыл бұрын

Did he get tested? @N LeeM

@JohnSmith-ps7yq Жыл бұрын

Life changing. I sent this to my girlfriend. It’s exactly what I want and it illustrates how I feel about things. This is an amazing, beautiful list.

@Tashibatube 4 жыл бұрын

The coffee explanation was hilarious "...and you'll be over the moon" it's true - it is the thought that counts.

@NyralSunsdottir 3 жыл бұрын

As a person with Asperger's I have actually tried to always express to my partners please let me know if I do something that upsets or especially pleases them so that I can avoid the bad and do the good... I have kind of a rules for engagement thing... And always have a rule of kisses hugs and expression of love before anyone leaves or parts away from another (usually myself, my partner, and my daughter) it ensures love is expressed as well as if anything bad were to ever happen the last thing said is "I love you" and the last thing done is hugs and kisses

@spacenerd9499 3 жыл бұрын

Love this! Thank you for this!

@nathanlobono5818 2 жыл бұрын

This is actually how I usually operate. Even during a heated argument, I'd want to know the other person is ok and that we aren't unsalvageable if the solution is just space and time. I always want my precious relations to have a sense of love or forgiveness looming.

@adrianparry8018 3 жыл бұрын

My wife told me I was autistic she was right it blew my mind and answered a lot of questions

@kelly.kravitz 4 жыл бұрын

I read the book, “Loving Mr Spock” years ago and it helped me a lot in understanding my Aspie. He is such a hard worker and loyal! As he gets older, he understands feelings in general more. And I recognize that he heard a lot of negativity about his lack of executive function at school, home, and at jobs and when he thinks I am unhappy, he also needs to know that we are still friends/ lovers and it isn’t a permanent feeling for me. I appreciate this video so much, as I need reminders to stay flexible and reasonable in my expectations of him...thank you!

@nalinicheatham2851 4 жыл бұрын

This has been pretty amazing. My partner of 29 years was diagnosed early this year and it’s been rough. I struggled to understand him and he wasn’t able to articulate in ways that I understood him. It’s been painful for both. My daughter is an aspie and she has been incredibly supportive and helpful and introduced you into our lives. I am able to understand you. So from my heart, thank you and please keep sharing.

@abbypeterson3604 4 жыл бұрын

I have only just started to realize that my partner may have undiagnosed Asperger’s/ASD. He has struggled his entire life, feeling like something was wrong with him, like he couldn’t connect emotionally, like he wasn’t smart because he just couldn’t understand others. I want more than anything for him to be happy and loved and accepted just as he is and watching these videos gives me so much hope. There is so much I weight I didn’t realize I was adding to what he was already carrying, with my baseline of expectations. I don’t know that he would ever seek or accept any diagnosis, but if I am right, at least I now know how to work towards creating an accepting and loving atmosphere during his time with me. Thank you, for this exceptional information.

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

Destigmatize it, change how the household works, introduce the concepts, show him what healthy, happy Aspy people look like, need, deal with the rest of us. The medical diagnosis is worth some, but the understanding and changes are what will make life better.

@Deadtired83 3 жыл бұрын

"..for not doing something I didn't know I had to do". This hit quite hard. It happens basically every week and is really, really burdensome. It makes you being on your toes all the time.

@damianjenkins6577 4 жыл бұрын

Can we please have a video on how to care for your non-aspie? After all they are the needy ones 😂

@SandraWade666 3 жыл бұрын

We are. We really are!

@emilyb5557 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha yes! 🤣 Genuinely though I think this is a needed video.

@kbeautician 2 жыл бұрын

YES🎯They are extremely needy. And indirect.

@IAMSEYMOURMUSIC 2 жыл бұрын

this is a very needed video!

@katekincaid8797 2 жыл бұрын

He did, if you listened to the full video. A shame you couldn’t hear that.

@user-ox9lo2nj9q 3 жыл бұрын

I just started dating a guy, and i think he's an aspie. Thanks to YOU i will never try to convince him that that's what makes him different... 😂 He's the sweetest and weirdest and most awkward, it's great bc I'm the same!!! 😍 I finally found someone to be weird with... I am sooo happy I'm crying right now. And obviously I'm going to subscribe

@LordinBlack 3 жыл бұрын

I was misdiagnosed with adhd as a child and wasn't aware I was a aspie till this last year. I'm 32 and it's effected all aspects of my life since I got out of foster care. I just started watching a couple days ago and your tips have been life changing. Thank you so much.

@MIOLAZARUS 3 жыл бұрын

My God Paul this is so amazing. My partner is on the spectrum and this explains even more than we knew before. Misdiagnosing is really prevalent.

@Michael_H_Nielsen 2 ай бұрын

I love that you showed your stress ball in this video. The more people who sees the real us the more we feel understood :)

@sophieroman4212 2 жыл бұрын

I just wish my boyfriend cared enough to watch videos like these

@StatchanaReborn 5 ай бұрын

This…

@evonekky3672 2 ай бұрын

consistently putting in all the work and your partner isnt.. it's saddening and worrying I know how you feel

@sierrah8936 5 жыл бұрын

Been married to my Aspie hubby for 2 years. I've learnt so much from him and have lowered my expectations from him. I know he loves me the best he can xx

@spacenerd9499 3 жыл бұрын

How were the first 4 months? And was it long distance? I met a guy on a discord server. It has progresses to love. I need strategies to not take my partner's words and actions personally when he is in meltdown. I will communicate to him that after our argument is over, I need reasonable actions or words to reaffirm his love. A hug, apology. Thoughts?

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

NOT lowering expectations but changing them. ND-NT relationships have been private trouble in the past and are finally getting the attention and idea sharing that has been needed. He loves you or he doesn't, how he shows it and you receive it are a worthy assignments.

@sorosstudio 3 жыл бұрын

My husband cheated on me and then dumped me for the new lady. He said he didn't feel loved by me and I had no idea why he would think that. I found out a couple months later that I have autism at the age of 24.

@dgd947a15fl 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about that. Here's hoping your diagnosis, and information from channels like this, can help you find someone else.

@shannonricelewis6016 Жыл бұрын

Trust me, you will recover honey. Your barely 24, you are attractive, and you are female. Thank the dear lord for those. When my Aspie self got dumped at 24, it was devistating. I was never the same again. I literally had a broken heart for ten years. I sabotaged myself in every day life. I drank every day for ten years. I am a male by the way. You will probably shake off your heartbreak in 2 days. You have no idea what true heartbreak is. Try being an aspie male. It's very hopeless feeling

@Foxtrox7616 Жыл бұрын

@@shannonricelewis6016 From an aspie to an aspie, what you said is hurtful as you undermine somebody's hurtful experience just because they're female. It's not like you can't do anything as a male person, it's not like you can't do anything as a female person, both of you can be extremely shy, asocial, and both of you can be extremely emotional, but also both of you can do your best to be a good person and find somebody you love and will love you.

@sonasierra7824 5 жыл бұрын

I just realized that I’ve subconsciously said the magic message! I’m kinda proud of myself lol. Love you, thanks for those vids!

@kelly.kravitz 4 жыл бұрын

👏🏻 Me, too!

@MB-vt5cw 2 жыл бұрын

As a NT married to someone on the spectrum, I can say sometimes it’s exhausting to have to be the one who always makes accommodations for the other person. My advice is that if you are getting involved with someone on the spectrum go into that relationship with eyes wide open. My person and I had no idea when we got together and damn it gets a helluva lot harder once you get older and have kids. It’s been a hard journey.

@RosieNawojka Жыл бұрын

They probably don't tell you what accomodations they make for you.

@SpiritualityofScience 10 ай бұрын

The thing is, your partner is constantly making accommodations for you too. You just do not realize it. Being on the spectrum means constantly accommodating everyone around you so that they can feel more comfortable. We constantly change the way we communicate with the world to attempt to be less offensive. You just don't realize it because your way of communicating is the "norm" which makes you think the efforts we put in are nothing.

@vivekapihl5179 9 ай бұрын

The sad thing about your comment is you don't seem to have any idea how much your aspie spouse has to make adjustments, and still you think it is you who has the hardest part.

@thesimplyspoiled1 8 ай бұрын

Yes @MB… Cassandra Syndrome sucks. And it’s not a matter of blame. It just IS. NTs interact with conversation and feedback. People on the spectrum are more “transactional”. It’s not good or bad. It just IS. And beyond difficult to maintain a “connection”. We need intimacy. Well, I do anyway.

@thesimplyspoiled1 8 ай бұрын

@SpiritualityOfScience I hear you. It is a disability. And I can’t imagine how isolated people on the spectrum must feel.

@clindo1987 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I have been lost and in pain over this situation and now I feel like I have some comfort and guidance.

@rachel6046 3 жыл бұрын

Been feeling lost with my aspi boyfriend for many years..its not easy💕

@glow2500 4 жыл бұрын

"and the next morning you'd find on the counter, a cold burnt coffee with the wrong milk" 😂my God

@TheSunnySimi 4 жыл бұрын

Oh, god. Where were you in my last relationship?? I was only 16 whenever I started dating my ex who was on the spectrum, and for both of us it was our first relationship ever, and god we did so many things wrong. One of our biggest issues was that I needed more physical affection than he could afford to give, and I didn’t know what the heck to do about it. Thank you so much for making this video, I really hope it helps others in the same position!!

@Nora.H 5 жыл бұрын

I really thought he didn t love me... i left him and i m crying all days long

@jenlovesthisstuff 5 жыл бұрын

A great choice of partner for someone with Asperger's ( in my experience) is an INFJ. They are loyal, accepting, honest, have integrity and like their own space as much as we do. I'm never being pushed to be "more social" and our level of intimacy is just right as we both value and feel comfortable with non verbal communication.

@jenlovesthisstuff 5 жыл бұрын

@Maikind K. INFJ is one of the Myers-Briggs personality types. Here's a link to the test. As an Aspie it's given me an insight into other human beings. Certain behaviour patterns etc. Helps me to work out people's intentions, who to avoid etc. Btw, I'm an INTJ. www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

@Mrs.Silversmith 5 жыл бұрын

Yes! I'm an INTJ aspie married to an INFJ for 11yrs now. We've known each other for about 17yrs total and have a great relationship. I would say our personalities mesh pretty well.

@LinYouToo 5 жыл бұрын

jenlovesthisstuff INFJ 🙋‍♀️ trying to learn and understand

@rubyrootless7324 5 жыл бұрын

INFJ with an Aspie partner can confirm. If I was more extroverted.. oof, he'd sure have a looot of fun with that haha I already talk him to death haha

@maidenmarian1 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the warning. I think regarding the man I wrote about in my post which I think is here or on the last video, you describe what it would have been like to marry that that guy. I think God saved me from feeling and being abused in that case for rhe rest of my life.

@DarrellGrainger 2 жыл бұрын

"Nothing you can do can make me love you less..." feels like a lie to me. Absolutes like "Nothing" or "Everyone" tend to be coming from the emotional brain, like "I could eat a horse." You taught me this Paul. But I'm still getting used to understanding that talking in absolutes, like "Nothing", is more about how they feel and not to be taken literally. The reason this feels like a lie to me is because people have said this to me and then later, when we are fighting, they bring up things I did that makes them unhappy with me. So for me, this statement is very dangerous and triggering.

@IAMSEYMOURMUSIC 2 жыл бұрын

me and my other half (aspie) have this saying - "seahoarsing". Stay with me here. So, I was asking her "you must find it weird that everyone asks you what you did on the weekend every monday at work". She agreed. I explianed that, the question is not a real question bourne from real curiosity. Instead, it's a weird ritual. It's a simple performance designed to acknowledge the other person. It just means "I value you, so I am showing this indirectly, by engaging you in this familiar conversation." She blurts out "like seahorses!" She continued by explaining that sea horses, when they see another member of their social group, will do a little ritual when they pass, circling each other in a little dance. So a lot of what NT's do is simply ritual. there's another layer of communication at play. When NT's talk about absolutes, they are often more symbolic than literal. When they say "nothing" they mean "very little". There will always be something a person could do. It's simpy understood among NTs that "nothing" in this context is caveated with "though obviously I'm speakling figuritivey and mean that, right now, I can't forsee you doing anything that would make me love you less, unless of course you did something bad". We don't tack that caveat on the end as it's universally understood that absolutes are not really to be taken literally. WHY this is understood I can no more explain than I can see in infrared. Somehow among us it just is.

@archivist_of_dragonstone Жыл бұрын

I see where you're coming from with absolutes not being absolute, but at the same time, look at the statement and then look at the example you gave. The person says "I won't love you less" but that doesn't mean "I won't ever get mad at you" or "I won't have needs". Someone can be upset or disappointed with your behavior, but still love you deeply. They can dislike something you've said or done, but that doesn't mean they dislike you as a person or want to end the relationship. If someone cares enough about you to make the statement that they will never stop loving you, take them at their word. And then if you're arguing and they say that they're upset, remember the magic message: Things are not okay at the moment, but I still love you.

@fipps40 5 жыл бұрын

Your videos are absolutely brilliant! My partner is an Aspie and through research and lots of understanding we are making our way through what can at first seem like a mine field!! We split up a while back and it was in that time I began looking into literature on the topic of Aspergers. We also began to talk more and the split ended up being the best thing that could of happen to us!! I love him so much and he is the most wonderful unique human! Keep the videos coming they’re truly wonderful ❤️❤️ p.s We are now happier than ever and still learning but the frustrations and arguments are only minor now!!

@Daytruin 4 жыл бұрын

i suspect strongly that i am an aspi, i relate far too much to what this man says...or i'm gullible

@krazeemetalchickstewart9961 3 жыл бұрын

I am so glad that I have autism as well as my boyfriend so I can understand him clearly

@bunnybaker2289 3 жыл бұрын

Daytruin ziaos I feel like being gullible is par for the course if you’re on the spectrum. If you only struggle socially though there’s a diagnosis just for that, social communication disorder I think it’s called

@abeeral-hussein7082 2 жыл бұрын

After 20 year with my husband, I'm exhausting now , with 3 teenagers struggling with their dad too . Not easy as you thought. God bless you

@gayleoverly7613 4 жыл бұрын

I write my love messages all the time. And he responds positively to the notes. My man accepts who I am.

@agragr1109 5 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU!! I've been looking for this answers for so long! You just gave me hope and so much calm in my heart and mind. I'll watch all your videos, you are so clear and explain everything so easy and I can see things better now. Than you so much!

@leinicoleguinto9965 4 жыл бұрын

This video is really helpful. Currently I am having a hard time with my Aspie boyfriend, he said he needs some space to find his drive again. And I am willing to wait for him until he's okay.

@vegansauce685 5 жыл бұрын

This was so well-explained, thank you!

@ascendingelements8427 5 жыл бұрын

I understand my husband so much more right now. Thank you.

@pauljsm 4 жыл бұрын

Paul, you do so much good to the world with your dedication and commitment to help us grow. Thanks.

@wilkaroig 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the work you do and put out into the world! I am learning so much from your videos. The beauty of it is not just in learning about how to honor and love people on the spectrum, but also in learning about how to honor and love ourselves and others. This is the level of awareness and consideration, reverence and respect that should be a part of any relationship and any human interaction! Thank you especially for this: "Nothing you can do will make me love you less."

@colormezebra2841 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, please expand/continue on this topic. Well done.

@mgd6087 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for creating a space for this deeply needed conversation.

@MarahLovesMusic 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I am in a relationship with an aspie, while being very insecure myself. An combination full of surprises... on the one hand we share a lot of experiences (like feeling like an outcast), on the other hand, we have a lot of miscommunications. This video helped me accept that he still loves me, even if I feel like he is neglecting me or ignoring my emotions. I just used your magic tip and told him I loved him, even though he is withdrawing from me and taking his space. It hurts because I need him, but I know he will be back when he feels better. Every time I am with him I am reminded of why I love him. It is hard work, very hard work, but definitely worth it. I really miss him though, when he is tired and not able to give me his attention. Especially when I am already in an insecure/emotional mood

@H377SC4P3 4 жыл бұрын

This video honestly made me cry towards the end. All my life I’ve felt those things in any relationships I had without ever understanding what I’m truly looking for, until I heard that magic message. It resonated so deeply with me because I never got that reassurance with the person I cared about the most in my life. I’m devastated. She continuously pushes and pulls me with toxic behaviors that could be considered psychologically abusive. And the worst part is I feel trapped, like my brain is at war with itself in breaking it off. Watching through your videos, it’s opening my eyes a lot about myself. It was not by chance your videos ended up on my feed. I’m loving the content, and not many things hold my interest.

@robertklotz9319 4 жыл бұрын

@Kameron Henry. I made the same experience. Psychological terror, it was very exhausting and depressing, specially because I didn't know then that I am an Asperger. Hoping you get what you need.

@bunnybaker2289 3 жыл бұрын

They sound toxic, I’d suggest breaking it off. I’ve been around many toxic and emotionally abusive people, it’s just not worth it. There are good people out there, give them a chance instead of toxic people.

@Ozpeter 2 жыл бұрын

This was so helpful to me at this moment. Thanks for the insights!

@davidalanmors3233 3 жыл бұрын

Paul, You're wonderful. Thank you for putting these messages out. I admire this

@sanaztaghizadeh9968 4 жыл бұрын

This was so enlightening, you have shed so much light for those who are struggling in their relationship with an aspi. You were definitely on point with everything. Thank you!!!

@marionmetathink3234 5 жыл бұрын

I'm crying. Thank you for saying what I couldn't know to express but needed like water.

@ivy3839 2 жыл бұрын

You explained so clearly !! Glad to find your videos .

@katy_sparkles 4 жыл бұрын

Fantastic video. So clear and informative 💚

@marilondaridze6737 5 жыл бұрын

You are really good at explaining how things work and it shows how much effort you have put into studying emotional intelligence and differences between NT and Aspie world. Great videos!

@LightingtheDraghog 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this! Hopefully, this will help me understand my partner better. Can’t wait to see it

@SamskaraSystem 2 жыл бұрын

I love your channel. Thank you for all the help you’ve provided as I begin to unwrap my life

@sammstephens3557 3 жыл бұрын

Fantastic video! I feel like this is relevant to all relationships. I love that it revolves around both people getting their needs met.

@Taki_Rad 4 жыл бұрын

This video is fantastic! Not only the content but the structure. NO waffle! You set the agenda of what you are going to speak about & then got straight into it! I appreciate this soooooo much. The content is also extremely helpful 🙏

@usfilms8828 4 жыл бұрын

Me needing this video for validation 🥺🥺 life sucks sometimes. Thanks for the shared situations and help figuring these moments out

@ameeeeeeela 4 жыл бұрын

This video is really excellent, thank you!

@betamax80 5 жыл бұрын

How awesome is this one sir - spot on.

@naomiwadley8744 4 жыл бұрын

Just beginning my lifetime of understanding a partner who's on the spectrum ... this video has helped immensely. Thank you so much, I look forward to viewing your past, present and future content!

@missmysterymagic 4 жыл бұрын

As of a few days ago, I was diagnosed with autism and honestly it’s been the biggest shock of my life. I’ve always struggled and I never quite knew why. As shocking as it is, it’s also been a huge relief and has made so much sense to me. I don’t always take this revelation well, but I’m taking it in baby steps and I’m excited to get the help I need.

@JohnSmith-ps7yq 2 жыл бұрын

I’m two weeks out from my diagnosis at 42. I feel the exact same way.

@yvonnemullan 2 жыл бұрын

Paul, you are awesome! I love it. Best advice ever.

@purelywoman 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! So much more is making sense. I will watch this video back every time I’m feeling unwanted & uncared for 🥰

@PeterDragonPPG 4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this so much, I never knew how much of a problem I had with ASD and it destroyed my 10 year relationship with the person I loved with all my heart... so many times I got horrible looks and comments like "why aren't you happy about xyz" or "why do you need self time, don't you love me?" and I never knew how to answer/fix that so everything I did to try to make it better just made worse

@nleem3361 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad I found these videos too. I have adhd and I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man who has Asperger. I would have been the same, but since I know more of how he does show love, I can see it. And that burnt cup of coffee means the world to me. Except, with my boyfriend it was him finding me a dim sum restaurant at the airport after we were not able to make it to China town to have the real thing.

@lovemyalaskaful 5 жыл бұрын

Excellent video!!...I've been dating a wonderful guy on the spectrum for 2 years...u hit the nail on the head...with effective communication and acceptance of both partners true self, luv can flourish....as he says "hold fast" when we are working through a relationship difficulty....its becoming easier with the establishment of trust over time

@PeelingTheTraumasAway 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video 🙏💕

@EasyEnglishPROF 9 ай бұрын

You explain so well. You are a caring person. You are great at what you do.

@schnueueferl 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Paul! A very very big big thanks to you! This is really great work you're doing and so extremly helpful! After three years in relationship with the love of my live we have just found out that he is part of the asperger-spectrum. Now I finally understand al the things I haven't understood before and so many relationship problems I can see now clearlier and some even doesn't exist anymore. I am so glad for your advice and the insight to an asperger's personality and his world you share! Sadly I have to admit that I unwillingly have been feeding the bad part you have mentioned. Thank you a lot for your adivce, I now know better how to handle things even for myself. Keep up the grate work, I am very grateful!

@zacharymontana9911 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. A lot has happened with me and my girlfriend, and I just didn’t understand her in that it wasn’t necessarily that she didn’t love me. Knowing that this is entirely actually how a person with Asperger’s feels is HUGE, and now that I think about it, looking back on all the abuse stories she’s told me- I really do see how those all play into this, and how she doesn’t know what to make of it when I don’t try to explain my needs; usually, this would turn into the both of us getting mad, and we’d both make the worst of decisions. Finding this life video is lifechanging to me; I felt so depressed, and was letting my world fall apart, thinking that my findings of how she was treating me were all because she doesn’t love me. It is really different knowing that she actually cares, and I guess our experiences this far very much demonstrate the extent to which bad things could happen if I weren’t going to respect that obstacle for her. Thank you so much for helping me to communicate in a way that isn’t stressful with my best friend in the whole wide world. It means a lot to me.

@mackowskiii 2 жыл бұрын

You've literally changed my life. Thank you

@grassgeese3916 2 жыл бұрын

I use these tips for communicating with all sorts of people in my life! It makes it a lot easier to remember, seeing it "formalized" this way. Thank you!

@June___ndns 4 жыл бұрын

Damn thank you so much. This really helps me. I’m such a talkative person who likes attention from my partner when we’re together but sometimes I just don’t understand what he’s going through and this cleared soooo much up! Thank you, I’m gonna watch more of your videos and hopefully I can understand my partner better because he’s an amazing person and deserves to be understood ❤️

@staylor8935 4 жыл бұрын

Stephanie Cordova You’re a wonderful partner to come here and research to understand. That’s the most loving and wonderful thing you can do for a partner. 😊

@ogs1mpson609 4 жыл бұрын

My wife just gave me a list: 1) hold my hand more in public 2) clean the kitchen (her way?) 3) make the first move (she’s always available) 4) sleep in the same bed at least twice a week. (I like the couch and sleeping alone) 5) be less rude (not sure I understand where she’s coming from) 6) stop looking at my phone (guilty, I’m always reading about my latest obsession) 7) be more present (well I’m here 🤷🏻‍♂️) Seems simple enough right? Sound familiar to anybody? Well these seem like a Herculean task to me.

@evonekky3672 2 ай бұрын

Very familiar sounds like some of the challenges I'm facing with my partner . She and I probably have similar feelings and struggles

@marbelyurbina4491 Ай бұрын

Ay no que estrés, para mí lo mejor es vivir sola

@Maiden_Warrior_Crone Жыл бұрын

Really brilliant insight! Thank you!

@carriepearson6643 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. I am in love with a man that is on the spectrum. Your simple outline has helped me understand him so much more and how I can better communicate with him. This means the world to me.

@dakotanorth1640 5 жыл бұрын

I was never diagnosed but I seem to fit in... especially since i fit in nowhere else.

@havefaith8929 4 жыл бұрын

Of course you fit.in this world! We accept everyone who just has good intentions and a good soul.pls dont feel like this no one should feel like this...bcs as a society that means we failed..am sending you my hug and my love.i dont have asp but even as a "tipical" brain i value the soul.

@KreepKarnage 3 жыл бұрын

@GAMP: Sicker than your average kigger nilller You're autistic, in the 4chan definition.

@havefaith8929 2 жыл бұрын

@Dzs M oh dear most of people are shallow and they live in their lie.stay strong, positive, focuse on your ways in life and keep by your side and in your heart God and His light.

@ivy3839 2 жыл бұрын

Check attachment disorders

@crystalfergusonbell7636 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! I love my Aspie man and wouldn't change anything about him. Sometimes my own insecurities sneak in though and I wonder if he really loves me. This video made me understand... he does. ❤️

@ammamaw 2 ай бұрын

How wonderful to find you. I have just become aware that this is probably the situation I am in with someone I love. This is a new journey I am very willing to take. Your words are going to help very much. Thank you.🙏🏼

@Dumbpuppet101 11 ай бұрын

Thank you mate you’ve helped me understand my fellow brothers and sisters better on earth and also helped me understand my own ignorance with your sincerity and wisdom ❤

@bamapdub 5 жыл бұрын

I dated a guy who was an undiagnosed Aspie. He displayed many Aspie qualities, was textbook Asperger’s, and needed everything described in this video; however, he refused to get a diagnosis. He insisted that nothing was wrong with him and I was the problem. Now, I know an Asperger’s diagnosis isn’t a bad thing, but apparently he thought it was. I felt completely alone in our relationship because of his behaviors, actions, and often inaction. If he’d had a formal diagnosis and gotten therapy, counseling, or some kind of help, I would have been in it with him side by side 100%, but because he refused to do so, that made me believe he just didn’t care enough about me to do it and I had to walk away.

@Celestein 5 жыл бұрын

He may not have been the right person for you anyway, but you have to bear in mind that autism still carries a heavy stigma. Just look at people who rather not vaccinate their kids out of terror that they could be ASD; they think getting measles is better than being like 'us'. Maybe this man grew up around people who had shown open contempt or fear towards autism so to him, the implication that he was ASD *was* very offensive and possibly terrifying. It doesn't sound like you were a good match since he would blame you for everything- which is a red flag in any relationship, aspie or not. But it's important to know that the personal process towards an ASD diagnosis can be scary, painful and long. It should not be done as a proof of love for another. The person must be ready to face it for themselves.

@jamescalder5624 4 жыл бұрын

As someone who is an aspie there are parents who don’t tell their kids that they have Aspergers, and they inherit their parents aversion and forced ignorance regarding autism

@ghostlyphantasm2352 4 жыл бұрын

I have Aspergers, and your first statement saying we have been told we are not good enough or not doing it right all our lives - this almost made me cry. On top of the fact that my ex did break up with me and suddenly I have to snap myself out of it and remind myself she was not all of that either!

@AridayH 4 жыл бұрын

Your videos are been more helpful than couples therapy to understand my husband on the AS. THANK YOU!

@thetranspersonalalchemist Жыл бұрын

This is so good. Thank you.

@ashleycarlisle4078 4 жыл бұрын

I hate when I'm told to just calm down! I'm like i cant just calm down I'm overwhelmed my body has to stim people!

@rachel6046 3 жыл бұрын

This is great advice, I appreciate the videos. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 years and he's an aspi, i have tried everything you have suggested but I think he thinks I'm just nagging him all day although I'm just trying to get my needs met. I've tried everything, its quite exhausting and at the end of the day I feel extremely lonely and like I'm constantly walking on eggshells..I really dont know anymore. 🤷‍♀️

@mommymoves__ 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, this helped me so much with the guy I’m talking too. I know he’s been hurt by the last person he was with and I’m willing to understand who he is because I care so much about him and see a future with this man. I appreciate this video so much!

@evelynjames7730 2 жыл бұрын

I have to say a sincerest thankyou to you for this video, indeed the diverse community. Without the wider understanding of individuals unique in their own way - you have brought me closer to my partner. Words have little comprehension to the joy and quality of life you help bring to our relationship.

@dalegribble5661 5 жыл бұрын

Dude i struggle with severe depression and I FEEL LIKE I NEED CONSTANT RECHARGING. MY ASPIE GETS ON TO ME FOR IT

@ADT2695 4 жыл бұрын

+Dale Gribble. Lol.

@charlie-gq7xb 5 жыл бұрын

I have mild aspregus and i can show perfect social skills and mantian eye contact and show love, But my problem is that when i get upset i shut down, so i was planning on starting boxing to calm down

@annafarrell8423 5 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend is fairly similar to you, update on wether boxing helped?

@purplepepper2503 5 жыл бұрын

@@timothyjones8657 no

@purplepepper2503 5 жыл бұрын

Yes please do update~

@untamedkingdom6541 4 жыл бұрын

You mean you have angry problems I'm almost like you I do mma it helps a lot also I also have a fish tank also think of what will happen if I shut down will the cops be called realize that every action has a reaction

@marilynschmidt6400 4 жыл бұрын

I'd like marijuana or medicinal marijuana to calm down. It also helps me focus on those jobs at home I procrastinate getting done and blocks out a lot of negativity which makes me feel better. I haven't had any marijuana for over 1 year but can honestly say that it helps a lot

@francesdumaliang6132 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this valuable information😊...it has helped me immensely - “thank you” doesn’t even come close to my appreciation for your help😊😊😊.

@TraSea72 3 жыл бұрын

I wish I had found your channel months ago. It would have given me so much insight and helped me understand a man I cared deeply about. It's too late now but maybe not. Thank you for sharing!