Same story for me bro . Cheers my brother Glad to see your life is sweet now ☺️

The sad part is a lot men do not know how to react. BPD and npd women can and will drive a man crazy and will do something he would regret in retaliation.

Well done mate for escaping and protecting your children and yourself.

Married and similar story. Absolutely NOTHING worse than BPD. They will not stop EVER and leave you alone even after the divorce. Run for your life.

Glad you survived that experience bro! 💪🏽 Cudos for sharing you story and making others aware.

It's pretty easy to get out of it. If you have any boundaries, are known as an "asshole" type, then it will end quickly. Still kinda hurt my feelings for such a short affair but conversations like "You're used to dating weak guys" takes the fun out of it for them I guess.

@@gezenews The crazy thing I see is they stay with the obviously narcissistic individuals, even go and give sloppy to that ex from the past even if they we're "abusive". Mine had 5+ ex contacts still messaging her sorry (simps/ validation feeding) + a sneaky link up fwb on the side while official with me. They we're all horrible supposidely. They genuenly want the asshole cheaters, even if they don't admit it. I get it cause I'm only interested in broken girls for some reason, but I tend to keep my distance. But difference is, BPD don't handle their impulses well and the need for chaos. They do the shit to themselves to feel the same relationship they had with their abusers.

@@gezenews I say it's not easy if you're unhealed naive, but I get what you mean😉 Yeah man, it still sucks

@@alansantos6142 No I agree with you. My point was that I would have also considered myself in that time unhealed and naive, so I still got got. But my point is I think reasonable rock-solid boundaries protect you from this stuff to some extent. And my "boundaries" per se was just that I'm an unapologetic rude person sometimes and I don't think that kind of person can take it.

Early detection is key. The first red flag indicating BPD/daddy issues…etc, break contact immediately! As if your life depended upon it.

DBT makes them feel better, but behavior becomes often more arrogant, selfish and narcissistic.

BPD is not just a personality disorder. It also comes with a psychotic disorder and their brains are physically missing parts especially the part responsible for regulating emotions is half the size compared to non-BPD people.

@@mattc3510 Unfortunately, they are all too aware, that is precisely what fuels their cruelty and pathological denial.

Go on a youtube video that BPD women watch for support. Suggest in the comments that perhaps they shouldn't date anyone until they get the help they need to stop hurting others. They will totally attack you. They can't stand the idea of being alone and think that someone that loves them should be willing to suffer for them. A big thing with them is that they can't feel normal and healthy guilt and even shame (which is a healthy emotion when appropriate and allows you to correct your behavior, apologize, and then remember the lesson for later). They go from denial and avoiding accountability straight to toxic, suicidal shame about who they are as a person. Because they can't stand the intense shame, they tend to live in a weird denial state their whole lives.

Exactly. It’s not a psychiatric disorder like let’s say, schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, which inherently means pharmacology can improve outcomes. Instead, it’s a personality disorder, which is just sugar coating a way to say their personality sucks and then we lump it in with other people that share similar traits of this crappy personality. Extensive therapy is to rewrite that persons entire personality, coping mechanisms, and social constructs and it’s seldom successful

Usually blue hair, your first warning.

I'm a guy with this disorder and I've learned it is the most treatable within the cluster B category of personality disorders. My mood swings are extreme and fluctuate within minutes. I have been in a rage for hours in the past. There is hope for people with this disorder.

@@InstrumentvanVrede For those who want it and have the mental capacity to do the work. Women are a different. I believe men are built mentally stronger.

​@@InstrumentvanVredeBPD is the worst cluster B to correct. Men are more anti social of the cluster B and that's easier to fix because it's just a self esteem issue. BPD is faking because you don't really have a sense of self. Your happiness and self work comes from outside sources or people.

@@John_Smith100 that's a liberal

Also look at the eyes, the sanpaku eyes thing is real.

The Karate chop of hand into palm of other hand for emphasis, clapping their hands as they pronounce words angrily, pinching their fingertips together like claws as they get more and more wound up. Avoid these women at all costs.

that sounds hot.....lol stay away from crazy women. she was probably sexually abused as a child. RED FLAG

Depends on if they are manic or not among other things. It's rough man. Even if you really love her, it will take its toll on you.

Same here, emotional dysregulation was always there, when I thought it's getting better she was cheating and getting her toxicity regulated from a different guy. Good riddance.

rape victim or similar ?

​@@MrTimjm009not rarely, but not necessary

Which video is that?

Yeah, "that's not me, that's my illness"

I dated a BPD girl once. Literally would flip out for no reason whatsoever! Behavior was completely erratic and often manipulative at times. Needless to say it didn’t last more than a few weeks.

@@mikea.4477 10 years in my case

Borderline personality disorder

I believe it means borderline personality disorder.

Bi-polar disorder

​@@sqlb3rntimes 10.

It means run like hell and don't look back.

Water seeks it's own level

This is true but opposites attract too, a lot of beta guys get lured in by BPD women because they are more aggressive than the guys in making the first move and they’re prone to not putting up a fight to leave.

And if there are none, RUN!🤣

Essentially identical to my story. Advice is 💯

How long you were married?

@neodistinct Over 10 years. I tried leaving at the beginning but was always threatened with her committing suicide. Just a lot of bad advice and lack of information 😕

Nope. That's a cope for the ego. Today everything is for women, especially at least semi-good looking. They are never single.

Funny you mention that I’ve asked countless women on dating apps what you’re looking for and none say love, the closest you’ll get is “something for the long-term” or “marriage” which to me says they just want the status and event of a wedding than the guy himself.

BPDs monkey branch a lot

@@neodistinct Absolutely

She was using you for entertainment and was either doing him too or he came by a little later and she liked him more. One week!? Who the hell worries about paying attention to each other at one week. Scrogging for multiple hours per day wasn't enough attention?? Lol. She fed you a load of bovine excrement my friend. You're better off without her. Lesson learned.

Dumb & Dumber - Classic😅

It's nothing you did wrong. If you listen to these yappers they will always pin it on you. The truth is that she was double/triple dipping and another guy simply fucked her better. Don't ever let women tell you WHY they are leaving you, because even she is cheating behind your back she will say that it's because you weren't doing this or that

She's just a narcissist who wanted a fairytale wedding

@@John_Smith100imagine the power you have over a fnin’ prince too, can threaten a whole slander campaign thru the tabloids to keep him in line.

It’s not a prince it’s a lucky boy from a parasitic family who is dumb as a block

I’m the husband.

@@Development-U Well done!

Wait…you don’t like waking up everyday not knowing what version of the psycho you’re going to get? So much fun though…

14 years here, almost same story as Bobby

Monkey branched on by the one with quiet BPD. And was smeared on TikTok in her smear campaign.

An what was later?

B.C. is impacting hormonal dynamics

Bipolar or borderline? This video is about borderline.

Dating a bpd woman is like being put in the crossface chicken wing every night

Off the rails good or off the rails bad. Also. Power to you bro.

@@capcapTap off the rails bad … infidelity, shit overall attitude.

I see it

Never mind. Got it

read the wikipedia article

Nope. Totally different things. However BPD usually gets misdiagnosed as Bipolar by less qualified psychiatrists.

​@@neodistinctaccurate. Bpd is slippery. It's a clinically recognized condition, but most are never officially diagnosed. Same with other cluster b.

Bpd is generally considered to be a post-traumatic condition. This is why abusive childhood and daddy issues are almost always involved. Bipolar is a chemical imbalance. Manic episodes for example can last for days or weeks at a time. Bpd has no emotional regulation at all and can flip flop between states of sublime peace and absolute rage within seconds. They outsource their emotional regulation to you, which is why they love you so much. Their hell is now your problem. You're their savior and they melt in your arms. But moment you don't fulfill their every desire, they perceive you as their abuser and you become an existential threat. They are a walking nightmare.

​@@ct00001 yes, You just described my ex to a t. It was amazing when it was good but then every few weeks drama out of nothing, insane emotional instability and no trust at all. Noticed the red flags after around 1 month already, it was probably the most difficult thing i ever had to do, but managed to get out after 6 months. Dating a bpd woman is literally like being a drug addict, the highs are super high but the lows are worse and worse and they destroy you day by day do that you become only a shell if yourself. Lesson learned, don't ever even date a woman with bpd, they will suck you in and it won't end well.

@@leventejuhasz3492 glad you got out man. The only winning move with cluster b is to not play the game at all.

Yup..her face says otherwise

Yeah, sorry, dude, but I came pretty close to putting a bullet in my head because of a BPD ex. There is an understanding that autism to that degree is a disability that strips the sufferer from free will in terms of making calculated decisions. If we ascribed that line of thinking to borderline personality disorder, then I would agree with the comparison. Unfortunately, BPD is often ascribed the definition of feelings of emotions intensely. I, for one, do not agree at all that anyone with BPD who hasn't received years of intensive TFP, DBT, Schema based therapy should be in a romantic relationship. There isn't any amount of compassion or empathy that can help a person through their own path of healing. Too many people end up destroyed on the other end, me being one of them. I sincerely wish any sufferer the best with their treatment course, but it's just not fair to idealize and build someone up as the best thing ever only to tear them down. The flip from soulmate to most hated is truly devastating. You can clearly tell that someone has severe autism if they are having the meltdowns you describe. This is just patently not true with BPD. You could get a mirrored perfect partner, a soul mate, only to find out that this person resents you more than anyone you have ever encountered and will purposely make you suffer and avoid facing accountability at all costs. The quiet subtype of borderline and narcissism can mask almost perfectly with no red flags and when they do crop up the sunk cost fallacy comes into play almost all the time. But if I could talk to my past self, jump ship and find the life raft, staying on the ship isn't worth losing your life. It's not for the faint of heart to deal with, and I've actively met at least a dozen individuals who are permanently damaged after exiting a BPD relationship. Some are even ex-military and thought the BPD relationship was worse than some atrocities overseas, which is saying something. Sometimes, the flags don't present until it's deep into the commitment phase (years) and then you have to decide if you want to weather the storm or GTFO when there are kids and marriage involved. Unfortunately too many people want to weather the storm and get lost at sea forever. Edit: I am fully healed from the exBPD relationship, however it took 2 years of intensive therapy and getting my shit together and getting back to my business and fitness full time.

@@donaldsodav290 I'm sorry for your terrible experience and I can relate. I was stalked by my ex girlfriend who had bipolar 1 and had a twin brother that warned me about her. My poor decision to date her seeking that external validation that people with BPD are known for, I did not listen. We had intense sex, intense "love" then severely abused each other. I am 20 years older now, it took me years to overcome her abuse too. I go to weekly therapy, take medicine to soften my reaction and follow the advice of Dr. Daniel Fox here on KZfaq. A man with BPD isn't any better, I hope we both can experience a healthy relationship with a woman in our futures. 🙋🧘

​@@donaldsodav290same. Tried to hang myself 3 times because, BPD women totally devalued and monkey branched on me after 10 years. Beside that following their victim mentality pattern she smeared me on TikTok. I would not wish that to my worst enemy.