L Thompson she’s the side piece, but she doesn’t want to acknowledge it.

@@hhh2641 that's for dam sure especially if he ain't the old school and tradition type of person when it comes to love and marriage.

Bye and bye,🤣

L Thompson okay! He wouldn’t have made it past like month 2

She’s just a part of his rotation

That pipe game

Talk about it

Funny thing is we as womem have all been played by the game... Now at this point we are old enough to know the difference....but you can't bash her for being in her season for foolishness

Some young aren’t taught. So can you really blame them?

I think it comes from lack of guidance. As a young woman your parent should be teaching you how to properly court and date each other. Some of these people are missing a mother or a father and it really shows in their dating life.

Exactly!

She is not in between, she is in the side.

True

In this "new age" of relationships, titles don't mean anything until years go by and u realize u a side piece or "friends w/ benefits" title offers no REAL benefit. Ur not "needy" ladies if u want confirmation on what the relationship is. IT'S OUR RIGHT

There can be an in between. Fuck buddies lol

Ira Jr Women shouldn’t have to “change” the man in the first place.

Zip P they should not have to change a man. Unfortunately a lot of times men pursue a woman and aren’t mentally ready to be with anyone. A lot of the women asking these types of questions allow men to fully dictate the nature of the relationship. That is not right. And ladies need to realize their voice and power

Ladies DO NOT Listen To This Advice! You CAN NOT Change A Man! Or Any Other Human For That Matter! People Only Change When They Are Really And Willing To Change For Themselves. So If You Don’t Like The Package... Keep It Moving! Don’t Wait On Anyone To Change. You’re Wasting Your Time!

Jeez thank you, like they never get the hint in the relationship.

AMEN!!!

Tonya Calvin amen the man deserves wife material from a girlfriend period smh

I mean AMEN !!!

I agree! 100%

Preach

More like year 1

Like how

I just asked the same question out loud.

xyz panther i actually had to pause for a second when she said it .. 4 years ? That’s undergrad right there . And for those who did undergrad y’all know you can’t be undecided for too long ..gotta pick a major .. a title or something..

@@noonelikeyou13 lmfao I like the way u put it.u my dear, are a genius!

@@noonelikeyou13 exactly

These days who is the one?? with an avg.of 10 woman-1 man and that's a low avg some places 21 to 1 and social media involved..and not including the gay men now its more woman than that for 1 man

@@blvxkgxld4319 Agreed.... the 'One' can be anyone who is more than willing to be loyal in the midst of the abundance of choices. Just be honest enough to say 'I do not want a relationship'

@@Nicki1969able I Agree QUEEN...but thank about the statistics and actually finding that one and not the one for a min. we talking for the rest of your time as u exist as a human and beyond.. I feel that's true real unconditional love with a soulmate...MEANING FOREVER TIME...THAT'S WHAT WE ALL ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING THAT LASTS BEYOND THIS EXISTENCE...WHERE OUR ENERGIES CAN CONNECT ON ANOTHER FIELD OF EXISTENCE....

I subscribed to your channel too..

@@blvxkgxld4319 AWESOME 😁💋

😂😂

How you know she ain't wasting his time?

@@rashardstallworth9240 he would have left her alone if that were the case

+Rashard Stallworth Is that even possible - with a real man?

@@tianamiller6820 How many kids does she have? Does she work? Is she faithful? How does she spend her $? Does she flash on him when shes angry? You dont know any of that so alll the male bashing ridiculous. All we know from what she said, if shes being honest, is she chose an unavailable man. "She Chose". Wasnt forced into it. Lots of men and women chose topass up good people looking for serious relationships for unavailable people and then get mad with the unavailable person. Its ridiculous. He could be focused on his carrer and not looking for anything serious. He could be married, there are a lot of people dating other folks spouses. She needs to take responsibility for her own life and go get what she wants but amost likely if shes attracted to unavailable guys she'll probably go and get another unavailable dude and be saying the same thing about him. We all choose what we have.

Tianna Miller maybe he’s fucking her and that’s it lol

@ FAE 19- ABSOLUTELY!!

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i tell you that !👏🏾

The Best!!! FreeeEdom

@@thickianaaa2286 my

Exactly...& He sounds like an ass.

He was only in it for the sex. Sis needs to drop the zero.

Right T. Banks and so many women fall victim to waiting on a man to give them a title

Dedrah. 3 years though...? She wasted 3 years on a relationship she doesn't even want with the guy...being too hopeful. 😟

Yea, but if she's in it for this long, then she has to take personal accountability on her part too! I mean, she didn't have a problem with this for the past 3 1/2 years. Why now?

Oooooh you might be right...didn't think of that

most likely

Yes she is

My first thought. She has no idea lolol

Which of Steve's 3 WIVES did HE change for???? Just curious..... A schmuck gets a mic and all of a sudden he's a guru..... It's easy to 'pimp' a bunch of nonsense to make women feel good no matter what.... Oprah retired....Bernie Mack died so Steve slide right into a void in the market, good for him...but he's 'hustling' female emotions to 'da 🏦, period. Dr. Phil, Denzel even Snoop Dog can give STAYING with a woman advice with more cred than Harvey c'mon now ppl😒

@@ericstewart517 I can tell you from personal experience. It's easier to give a sound advice than than to take your own sound advice. Emotions can get in the way of making the right choices even when you know what they are. Sometimes you need someone else help you make those choices even if they themselves did not make them. Steve probably did not have someone who could guide him. I am not defending him. I only see him on KZfaq. All I am saying is that you should not dismiss a good advice regardless of its source. As you gain power it gets lonelier and it's harder to seek help. Successful people have the most skeletons in their closets.

@@zeepack He said he wasn't the same man he was back then... When he got daughters.. He wanted to make sure when the time is right they have the right man for them... Maybe Margie Harvey is that woman he finally changed for...

Eric Stewart I get what you’re saying but does say some valid things.

Why does it always have to be the man who has to change?

Belinda Joy Agreed. She can still mess with him but take the emotions out of it

Absolutely !! Run like she is in a marathon 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃 and block his number and never answer my door for him never again

He didn't do anything wrong tho... Seems like from the start they didn't discuss what each require from them. What they want with a partner.. They just went on in with no question... When she finally asks the question... He tells her straight up. He tells in an ungentle way but he keeps it 💯.. Its ahite just to want sex.. But before anybody do anything gotta make sure they want the same exact thing.. She ain't do that. Their relationship is a misunderstanding...

Correction: She has ALLOWED him to mess with her mind, soul, and emotions.

So accurate.

There's no difference. If u aren't his fiance or wife you don't really have a label. Yep, That's the truth.

@@raymondjames3755 😂😂😂👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

@@user-zx5xw4yw2e u ain't lying

Tonic Shondlani Yep. She has allow for it to go on for to long. At this point it will be hard for her to get away. She is in to deep. I hope she finds the mind set she needs to move on.

Sad but true

It's like you read my mind!!😱

He should bring her on the show and set her up on some dates, just to break her cycle.

Alison Francis yes sounds great

Brenda J hell , even outside of sex, I can have good chemistry /convo with someone ( a stranger that may be heading home to his family)🚗

@@4cistasonly897 That is very true.

Yup she's confusing attraction with relationship potential. Meanwhile he is showing and telling her exactly what it is a "mess". 🤷

AMEN! Preach!!

...and COMMIT to you!

Better yet, let the right man find you.

@Chad Payne Well if she's not girlfriend material why stay with her and lead her on? Would you want a woman to lead you on and lie to you?

@@rikanejose2611 You just heard one side of the story. Plus you have no idea what type of person she is.

Yea when I was dating my husband, he asked to be my boyfriend, he never said "we're just kicking it" but he also told me before our first date that he was looking for something serious anyway and if I wasn't, then he didn't have time to play games.

Agree!

Lmao me too!

She's playing too!!!

Y man are playing a round with all this good girls i want a good girl and can not rind enery

Exactly! Absolutely not....

Amen sister!

You nailed it sis.

What does “God” have to do with it. Why doesn’t God keep women away from these users, these disrespectful, selfish men? Why doesn’t he stop these jerks from messing with other humans? But he will “send” you the right one. 🙄 I guess he lock and chooses who he “blesses”

Same thing w me.

.......yes............agreed................,..............

Show these non-stop

You had more brains than her! Congrats :)

At least you took accountability at the right moment. Since she, on the other hand, waited for 4 years to realize this, she knew *EXACTLY* what she signed up for, and got what she deserved. It takes a while, but it sure as hell doesn't take *THAT LONG* to figure out what the other person's intentions are.

I am so happy you Dodge that bullet and sent his ass down the river 👉👉👉🌊🌊🌊 I'm so proud of you for having love for yourself and knowing your value and no longer wasting time wit somebody that is not wanting commitment

Alex Burgess you’re a beautiful woman who deserves a better man

You are smart lol

That's IF she's been introduced to the other people in his life. Probably haven't

u got good chemistry wht is that...n u askin him abt relationship wht u want too?.. u stringin him too..not all on him..think for self

Because she's dumb!!!

It’s a lot harder to see the picture when you’re in the frame. Don’t be so hard on her, even I can see her situation but can’t/won’t get out of mine.

Yeah and probably gives her signals that she's looking for to keep her on the string

Because she was just messing with him too.

They can live a double life perfectly unnoticeable!

If she had better options should have been moved on

Rashard Stallworth How do you know she doesn’t have better options?? She’s too emotionally and mentally attached, that’s why she hasn’t left.

Yes I agree walk away and never look back and never go back

little jerome lolllllllllll

ms prayer warrior why doesn’t she propose

Talk about entitlement for someone to say "You shud propose to me in 4 years"

@@Jonathan-wj6uh Do you feel entitled to get all the benefits from a woman for FOUR YEARS without giving her the respect of the title, your commitment and declaration of love? If so, you are one selfish idiot

Kitchywac YEP!!

Lol I'm done!

Exactly! And speak up for what you want out of your relationship! Stooop giving men that control over your future....

6 years and still planning? He played you with words and a delayed plan, that has yet to materialize. You bought a bill of goods. Move on! Go brave!

You just wasted 6 years of your life. If you still think he's in the planning stages after 6 years then you'll be waiting another 6 years. The crazy part is that he has you thinking this is a good idea. Time to move on to someone who won't be "planning" for almost a decade.