HIGH VALUE BOUNDARIES: The Subtle Art Of Saying No
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Жыл бұрынMy step-by-step guide to setting personal boundaries... This video will teach you how to set boundaries and stop people pleasing!
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HIGH VALUE BOUNDARIES: The Subtle Art Of Saying No
Discover how to have a strong identity and how to be grounded in your own reality... No more lack of boundaries and no more people pleasing!
A beginners guide to setting boundaries! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to set boundaries in relationships, how to set boundaries with people and how to set boundaries with yourself... Discover the truth about personal boundaries, relationship boundaries and emotional boundaries.
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@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
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@growlinda 11 ай бұрын
I found that my mother always crossed my boundaries so I would ask myself “am I allowed to have boundaries?” like, asking permission before I do anything.
@SuperButtercream Жыл бұрын
I find the hardest part of saying no is being congruent with it and feeling the pain of rejecting someone, crazy
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You're not meant to get along with everyone and not everyone is meant to get along with you... And that's ok!🙏
@SuperButtercream Жыл бұрын
@@JulienHimself Thank you
@djtanikgotbeatz Жыл бұрын
@@JulienHimself wow so simple I love it
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Glad this was helpful!
@ms97 Жыл бұрын
@@JulienHimself If you’re a friend of everybody, you're an enemy to yourself.
@ranc1977 Жыл бұрын
With social anxiety in the same time I am okay with everything and I am not okay with anything. There is blur, overlapping thus confusion and there is no clarity about what is boundary. I know this is due to Complex Trauma, wrong messages during growing up and being in toxic ambient of toxic shame. There is red alarm light all the time and there is normalization and rationalization about anything including abuse - as if I am oversensitive so I am fine with anything. Then this ends up with people pleasing since I depend on other people to explain what is ok. I see that I need to take risk and be wrong and learn from my mistakes in order to get to healthy medium. This means that I rely on natural over reaction and learn how to accept anything that realistically is not dangerous as it seems. I believe with abuse bullying mobbing experiences we have much higher ability to detect BS and fake people - and being fake is more less standard. I dislike auditing and writing method technique - auditing anything since this leads to Micromanaging - then there is only more of anxiety and hypervigilance. When the other person is toxic - we cannot heal that person. This is because toxic people use manipulation, coercive control, they are pathological liars. Any involvement with such people leads to gaslighting. self blame, self hatred, put downs, abuse.
@smartparts147 Жыл бұрын
Life has a funny way of teaching you the same lessons over and over, even though you think you understood it. For me, that lesson is boundaries. Every part of my life is infinitely better, but when I slip up and relax my boundaries, that's when some crazy shit goes down. Appreciate the content as always.
@lejune5083 Жыл бұрын
Telling a long-winded person saying hey I only have 30 minutes is a good idea. I usually just cut them off and they usually get the point that I ain't gonna hang on the phone all day, but that's probably a little passive I need to work on that
@JolinHard Жыл бұрын
Thats better than nothing.
@babytheresalight6699 Жыл бұрын
Apply the NO boundary to yourself as well! Say NO to continuing the same behavior. So NO to the excuses my body hurts, I feel like shit, I'll start tomorrow. You're never gonna "feel good enough" to start changing your behavior. And your reasons are absolutely valid and if you choose to never to change I wouldn't blame you. It is really hard to find the will.. some resistance may be so strong that you literally feel nauseous. But if you don't push through this your new start will never come and you'll keep getting sicker and sicker, creating more regrets until the day you die. YOU NEED TO DO THIS, FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR LIFE, YOUR FATE. FULFILLING YOUR DESTINY. YOU CAN! THIS IS YOUR SIGN TO START RIGHT NOW AND NEVER LOOK BACK. I LOVE YOU.
@lizcuero9065 Жыл бұрын
This is so fun ! I like learning how to be authentic💕💞💕💞
@lesleybrady3948 Жыл бұрын
Ouu Julian you’ve done it again! A different outlook on boundaries!! I’ve recently stepped back from being completely work and fitness oriented to having more free time and this has helped me to notice how to manage that looseness that’s been seriously annoying me! TY yet again 🙏🙏 xxxxxx
@DMandalini Жыл бұрын
Really one the best videos in a long time anywhere.. I would say I just learned about this area in high vibe communication and I notice it even when it comes to what to eat or what to watch on the internet. Thanks Julien
@prabhmeetkaur5475 5 ай бұрын
I just realized by this video how many times I have allowed people to cross a boundary just because of avoiding any conflict or disagreement. I am going to audit everything from now on. Thank you so much for bringing this realisation.
@zulkifflianwa2423 11 ай бұрын
U are ABSOLUTELY Spot On!!!
@trayv7230 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the upload Julien!! I needed this. I hate when I betray myself then I look like a fool. I must learn how to express myself. Thanks 😊
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Glad this one resonates with you!
@susannahJ 8 ай бұрын
Time boundaries, time for me, my hobbies, my work, my partner, my friend, my family, …material boundaries, how much am I willing to lend? Stuff to others? Physical boundaries, how much touch from a stranger is or is not okay? Man… This is so much stuff I never realised I neglected… Toxic boundary - loose and floppy… or too firm and ridged… Healthy boundary - not too loose not too firm… you know what you and need, and how to say no… if you don’t tell people the boundary people can’t be given the choice to honour it… I feel worried about setting up boundaries with loved ones because I haven’t done it for so many years… I love them and am scared of rocking these foundational relationships in any way as we had a shared trauma… I’m scared but I’m going to work towards taking your advice… This was hard to hear, I don’t know how else to be… It also makes me happy to make other people feel good… Like I helped the planet be a little less shit for someone… But I guess that is selfish…
@Azz5sd Жыл бұрын
I thank you so much Julien! I am am INTJ and I love your coaching style. Multiple times I thought that you also may be an INTJ/ENTJ, because of that Ni/Te preference of xNTJ's, which makes them incredibly good at questioning/stragegizing/ finding a way to understand reality and patterns of thoughts, habits and life in general; and then sharing this with the world, to help others improve. I have never had any role model, but you are a person i really look up to. Not because of the things you have accomplished/do, but because of the way you ARE. I WATCH ALL OF YOUR NEW VIDEOS, EVEN IF THEY WERE 3 HOURS LONG, because your content is so deep and helpful! So thankful that I found you; best wishes from Germany !
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Glad my content has been so helpful for you! I’m an INTJ as well… 😉
@ezenami Жыл бұрын
@@JulienHimself oh so that's why your content clicks so much for me! INTJ to INTJ naturally feels so much more relatable and just makes sense
@ConfidenceGold Жыл бұрын
By the way thanks Julien. I was born and raised by your videos xD. Appreciate and grateful for everything you do. Love you.
@TotallyChase Жыл бұрын
Great video. I relate to a lot of this. Still finding the balance. Clear on boundaries, and letting others know your boundaries and when they've crossed them in a healthy way, finding win win situations. Thank you Julien.
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome! 🙏
@sarahtonan Жыл бұрын
This is everything I’ve ever needed to hear.. I am so grateful to have clicked on this video. Thank you so much for your knowledge.. wow
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You’re so welcome! Glad it was helpful! 🙏
@hippotallamus5076 Жыл бұрын
Bought the book the day this video came out! Such a whammy ❤ Honest THX
@montegyro Жыл бұрын
From my experience boundaries have been a complicated subject. I've had trauma and injuries during my childhood that make relying on anger or fear as a signal challenging, so I had to work on that before I did anything else. Glad I did tho.
@antipaganda5635 Жыл бұрын
Good stuff bro ✌
@Tony-eg3gi Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this one
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@RashawMusic Жыл бұрын
Droppin gems 💎
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
You know it! 🔥👊
@adamrounisto1875 Жыл бұрын
Hoooooray!!!
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
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@AbyssalLanes Жыл бұрын
Working on my balance/boundaries…harder than sought ❗️
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Yes! 👌
@janderkran Жыл бұрын
Your videos are so important and clear. Let me put it this way: There is no way they won't have a huge positive impact😂
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Glad they're so helpful!
@youwhoniverse Жыл бұрын
you're an international treasure Julien
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Glad my content is so helpful! 🙏
@youwhoniverse Жыл бұрын
@@JulienHimself the best 💯
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
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@hazeno1thomas 9 ай бұрын
Some people just don't want to take it when u say to them i didn't like that or something about your boundaries they will just tell u you're difficult alot of bullshit so u don't need to people who don't want to understand what u felt🤷♂️i have experience on this it ain't work on stubborn closed mind people
@djebarazidan103 Жыл бұрын
have a good day julien ..... if you please in the next video talk to us about how to be aware of what is running your subconscious
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Hey! There are many different ways/processes to do this… I’d suggest getting onboard with Transformation Mastery for my full system if you’re serious about this: www.julienhimself.com/8p
@djebarazidan103 Жыл бұрын
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@tonyzamberlin Жыл бұрын
Great video! I thought boundaries were about you and not other people though? For example, if someone is bullying you, you tell them that is not okay and you're not going to stay here and be disrespected, so you're going to leave and you do. Another example is always late that you hire to do work for you. You let them know that you like working with people that are on time and going to be looking for someone else to hire that can be on time. This wouldn't wouldn't be trying to control the other person by making them change their behavior. Thoughts?
@BartAssink 10 ай бұрын
My wife has no problem saying no!that crosses my boundaries.😂
@vanilla5245 6 ай бұрын
15:15 crucial conversations book
@Jatte254 Жыл бұрын
Your like old Greek filosofist with robe in temples speaking wisdom and knowledge to people!😁🔥💪
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
🙏🙏
@ninanygard157 Жыл бұрын
How can I know if I should be angry if I dont understand if someone is faking to understand what you're saying sometimes when they are really interested in you?
@chezgreggo22 13 күн бұрын
What about if i want to be able to express anger when boundaries are being crossed but unable to do so due to trauma. Unable to stand up for myself as a man makes me feel like a useless piece of shit and I feel horrible.
@vanilla5245 6 ай бұрын
4:00 5:05
@sthetnesehevv5780 Жыл бұрын
Which is more important, letting go or logical theory like this?
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
They both complement each other… But letting go is the foundation of it all. 🙏
@n-ciddy1678 11 ай бұрын
It's sad, how Many People, at Least were I'm, From Maine, have Horrendous Boundaries. Literally, non-existent.
@n-ciddy1678 11 ай бұрын
People with No Boundaries, Ironically, are some of, the MOST TOXIC, PEOPLE on Planet, Earth. Really, Sad stuff.
@kim-bq3zq Ай бұрын
Thank you! Its a good explanation on boundaries
@michalchmielewski7989 Жыл бұрын
Julien, do you believe anybody can change and become confident like you?
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
I believe that everyone has the potential to change, yes… 🙏
@jowyschwarz313 Жыл бұрын
I'm trapped in my mind again, i think i need to letting go and feel..why when im too much in my mind i can't laugh or dance?
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Overthinking and self judgement are extremely stifling… Time to let go! 😉
@maimon0242 Жыл бұрын
which writer is he talking about , with the book crucial conversations ?
@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
Just google "crucial conversations"... It's a famous book. 😉
@gamedaydos7825 Жыл бұрын
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@JulienHimself Жыл бұрын
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@vanilla5245 6 ай бұрын
14:03
@raktor_bbx2398 Жыл бұрын
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