Sadly it took CPS to take away your kids for you to realized what's your priorities and to acknowledge that your kids and wife come first, not trying to please your parents & extended family all the time.

Brother, Tim koj 100%. Have you wonder, where are all the people you helped when you needed help?

Family first before others. Wife is the 1st priority.

Some men learn the hard way. Reality has to hit. You need to prioritize in life. Your life is your balancing your own family and the others. This woman is strong and independent. Great job woman. You rock. To the man you did not have your priorities straight. Great lesson learned for this man.

So true!!! Your spouse is your life! 👏🏼 I’m glad you learned your lesson and your wife gave you another chance. Thank you for sharing your story. Good luck to you and your family. ❤

Kij mas muaj hmoo koj tus niam thiaj yuav koj dua xwb os! Zoo siab nrog koj thiab os tias koj kam hloov lawm!

May, zoo siab uas koj xaiv cov neej neeg muaj ntsiab lus zoo tseem ceeb los hais ua kev kawm paub txog lub neej tiam no.

Yog txiv neej hmoob hlub2 poj niam li koj txhuas tu no tej zaum hmoob yuav vam meej thiab ma Tab si cov nkag siab poj niam thiab hlub2 poj niam ma tseem tsawg dhau lawm na

Zoo tshaj plaws li nawb nyias muaj nyias neej lawm yus yuav tau pab yus xwb txhob mus pab luag..txiv neeb ruam2 tsis muaj tus neeg saib neeb tau tus neeg yuav ua ib thaj neeb yuav tsum thov txiv neeb thiab mus thov ibtug tuaj saib neeb kom ua tau thajneeb mus tau zoo hlo mus zoo nawb

Cov txiv neej heev2 ua2 txiv npav kom poj niam nyoo xb ce zoo li ko ntag lau yu lub neej kuj yg yu lub neej tiag222 hos

You’re one of the lucky few who managed to get a second chance. I’ve seen so many who ends up on their siblings sofa only to be hated on. That has got to be so humiliating. Please learn from this story!

ne dabtsi los yeej yog tim cov txiv neej hmoob liam nkaus xwb, thaub koj tseem tsis tau nkag siab haistias lub tebchaws no pojniam muaj xiv tshaj txiv neej ces nrog koj tu siab pab tsis tau, nyias ua rau nyias ris xwb, vim yus yog neeg tsis muaj hlwb nej pheej xav tias nej tseem nyob rau lub tebchaws los tsuas thiab zoo li tiam 75 ces nej yuam kev deb lawm.

Why do men always think when women leave their ass it’s because they have someone else 🤦🏻‍♀️ why can’t they see what they’ve done and they are done with you.

Yog vim li cas peb cov txiv neej hmoob thiaj li yuav liam tshaj qhov hais tau os hmoob aw.... thov thiab lau.

Sau nra mu nrog yus niam yus txiv nyob xwbvmo vim yus saib qhov ua neeb ceem ceeb dua ne yus tej me nyuam yog yus txoj sia yog kuv ce kuv twb tsi ntshia ncaj koj os

What a smart woman. It's obvious she's the one who keeps the marriage alive and going, not u.

Koj paub li luwm koj mas twb yog ib tus neeg zoo thiab mam peb li ces peb li nyob no ces cov txiv neej hais tias poj niam twb tsis tseem ceeb li no niag kov xav tuaj nyob rau lub teb rau lub teb nthuws no mas nej cov txiv neej thiaj li yuav lus tab sis nej cov txiv neej tseem mus yuav poj niam coob kuwg li rau lub teb nthuws ntlog thiab nej cov txiv neej mas tsis zoo li os

Qhov yooj yim tshaj plaws ces yuav tau poj niam lawm ces kwv tij neej tsa lawb tag nrho ua lub neej muaj koj poj niam thiab cov me nyuam xwb....thaum muaj mob nkeeg lo txhob hu kwv tij yuav kiag Doctor thiab neb 2 niam txiv xwb yog neb hu kwv tij neej tsa ces tseem tab kaum neb..tab kaum kwv tij neej tsa phooj ywg.....

Yus xav kev ua sib thiab mus kev kwv tij ntau xwb ces yus no qab ua yus lub neej lawm...os kwv tij hmoob

You're so lucky she gave you a second chance. Also, your wife is smart to give you another chance because I don't think anyone would love your kids like you as well. Sometimes it takes a life changing event to make you realize and change what makes you know what is kost important in your life.

Kuv muaj ib nyiag txiv ces zoo lis ko thiab ntag lob. Every saturday or sunday mas tsuas paub mus saib niam pog ua neeb ! Kuv mas dhuav tiag tiag lis.

Xav kom tus txiv thim xav li koj xwb, cas yuav nyuab nyuab rau peb cov poj niam ua luaj

Thaub aw tsis yog os nrog koj txiv rau mus ua neeb rau ub rau no los lom zem tshaj os nrog poj niam mus tsis lom zem os . Koj poj niam yog ib tug niam tsev zoo heev nws thiaj rov yuav koj yog lwm tus ces koj nyob qab choj lawm xwb nej cov txiv neej hmoob ko ces tsis sawm zoo thaum poj niam nyoo yus tsis nyob twj ywm ua ua thaum poj niam los ua nai lawm ces yus ho los nyoo lo lua li ko ces yog ib qho zoo lawm os

You need to thank your wife for taking care of your kids and gave you a lesson to learn.

Mloog poj niam lus max neej tsis puas tab poob kwv tij poob phooj ywg muaj noj luag tsis hu yus hu los luag tsis tuaj

It's better to change around then never change, we all ain't perfect but glad you turn around to know your priorities.

Poj niam ua yog lawm os

Brother, I’m glad you finally graduated on how to be a good responsible husband and father. Family is everything.

Neeg quav dej cawv ib txwm hais lus tsis tseem ceeb thaum dej cawv nce nws lub cev thoob lawm. Nws tsuas tseem ceeb rau cov quav dej cawv nkaus xwb. Yog tus poj niam twg tau ib tug txiv zoo li no, nkawv lub neej yuav tsum thaub qab lawm ntau kauj ruam rov. Tus txiv neej quav yeeb tshuaj thiab twv txiaj yuam pov lub neej zoo tib yam nkaus li no thiab. Case no mas koj tus poj niam cov cai siv tswj tsav koj nrog nws ua neej yog kawg nkaus lawm. Koj cov kwv tij quav dej cawv thiaj pab tsis tau koj, lwm hom kwv tij tsis coj li koj hais.

Paub tsawg au!!!!! Mloog li txoj cai neej thiaj ruaj li zeb tsua au…… tos neej liam sim os…… muab lub pob ntseg thiab txoj kev xav los ua kev taug ne-

Qhov zoo tshaj neb txhob nug kwv tij neej tsa moo lawm yuav neb nrog cov me nyuam xwb

Good thing cps changed your life sir!

Auj yau! Kawg mus church lawm xwb los as. Mus church es thiaj tsis tau sib ncaim xwb os. Mus church mus ua ke los tsev tsis tau mus kwv mus tij es nyob kaw qhov rooj nti xwb.

When you don't have your priorities together, you lose everything. An independent woman do not need you, she want you bc you, like any other men out there, are an option that can be replaced, but she chosed you again so be grateful the second chance. Glad you realized the importance of your wife and kids and got your act together before it was too late.

Know your limits!!! Know your boundaries! That’s how cheating start for some. That’s how marriage fall apart for some. Be grateful that lives give you a second chance. Don’t take him/her for granted!

If you wanted to go so bad, why didn't you make your mom to babysit for you? You are not responsible as a father.

Yuam qhuas ntxim cov niag txiv neej uas g zoo mloog tej laus lus tsis saib qhov twg yog qhov tseem ceeb rau lub neej

Mloog cov lus mas tus txiv nyiam mus ua si thiab nrog phooj ywg tsis xav pab poj niam xwb. Lam muab qhov saib neeb los hais ntis ntsej muag xwb.

Glad your wife is the responsible adult for your kids.

Koj mas hais yog tshaj li os me kwv aws, tsis hais poj niam los txiv neej os yog thaum kawm tiav2 li koj lawm ces yeej hais qhov yog2 xwb. Nrog koj zoo siab uas koj poj niam tseev open her door to you.

Such a inspiration story! Our hmong men's need to listen to this story and learn. Thank you brother. I'm glad you and your wife forgive each other and life a better life now.

Vim hai tia koj saib koj tus pojniam tsi muaj nujnqis npaum li koj tej phoojywg koj puas paub hai tia koj thiab koj pojniam koom ib lub cev koom ib txojsia vim koj nyob tsi tau nrog koj niam koj txiv koj thiaj yuav pojniam,pojniam nyob tsi tau nrog nws niam nws txiv nws thiaj yuav koj xwb tsi txhob ruamruam mas phoojywg.

Very good lesson story.

You're one of the lucky few hmong men whose wife saw the importance of life with you again. In all, if she truly had a boyfriend, you'd have no chance. She may have talked to someone but didn't sleep with them. She was going through a lot and didn't have time for another man. Lucky you, no one gave her a taste of their love. Many hmong men fail in marriage because they put their wife last along with the children. You got away with being lonely. Undeserving, but you made it back to life. Now you know.

You don’t know what you got until it’s gone. Having a break from each other makes you realize a lot.

Tsam no ces oj niam tham hluas nraug los txiav muag tuab2 lawm xwb tiag nyuab lau

Zoo kawg. Hlub yus tus pojniam, yus tsev neeg, thiaj hlub tau kwvtij neejtsa.

Ua neeg nyob yuav tau txawj faiv yus lub sijhawm. Yus yog ib tug txiv tsev lawm, yus muaj responsibilities ntau heev. Yog yus yog hom neeg nyiam hmoob tej kab li kev cai, yuav tau ua zoo xaiv yus tus poj niam. Poj niam siab loj siab dav ces koj yuav muaj poj niam, muaj kwv muaj tij, yuav muaj phooj ywg. Yog yus tau tus poj niam siab me ces koj thiab nws lawm xwb. Nws tsuas zoo thaum yus tsis tau ntsib kev txom nyem xwb mog. Kuv yeej ntseeg tias koj yeej tsis kaj siab 100%.

Tus txiv tsev no ruam tiag2 txog qhov yus muab yus cov me nyuam tso nyob zoo li no kuv xav tias cia koj poj niam saib kev ruaj ntseg ntawm nej lub neej xwb thiaj yuav zoo vim koj ruam dhau lawm

Glad you smart and know how save your marriage. Most people don’t care

Again there’s nothing new to learn same different family

Every spouse is different. Your wife could leave you too when you're sick and your side of the families are the ones that's going to cared for you too. You have to see first hand who's helping and cared more then lean more to that side.

I felt this story. Our culture is too collectivistic. Need to learn to be less offended

Losing kids to CPS is a big deal, I don’t even blame your wife for being so upset with you. I agree with your wife, your kids are more important especially when you got hella little kids under 11! I’m glad you learned to compromise finally.

Koj tus poj niam siab me dhau lawm os

You want to go! don't blame on anyone but you.

This is why I hate hmong cultural event. Sometime its too over limit. Hmong mens is too freedom when it comes to this. Good lesson for these who loves to go out and act like their cultural is bringing them opportunity and survive.

Happy wife happy life

Zoo kawg li os👍👍👍

Ua ib thaj neeb yog tsis tau tus hwj sawv tseem ceeb yeej nyuaj heev thiab. Qhov zoo yog tus txiv twb mus saib neeb lawm ces yuav tau kom niam pog los yog cov kwv yau tuaj saib me nyuam vim twb tsis yog tus txiv mus ua si ne. Thov kom tus poj niam los ho ua siab loj cia lawv zov nws cov me nyuam thiab. Yog yuav txwv tus txiv tsis pub mus saib neeb hlo no los yeej tsis zoo, vim tus saib neeb yuav tsum yog ib tus neeg tij lim thaj neeb thiaj nres. Ho yog tus txiv tsev no qhia tsis tas nws zaj story es mus laij ua si xwb ces cia ua li tus niam tsev no ua thiaj paub tab thiab ma.

A👮👮👮👮👮👮 MAY WHY HMONG ALWAYS HAVE MARRIED ISSUES??….INCLUDING YOU TOO!!…ME MAYBE NEXT??

Great story

Koj hais yog kawg,kwv tij ces lam tias sib pab no los txog thaum teeb meem los txog lawv yeaj ua tsis tau dab tsi li thiab ,yog yus muaj nyiaj ces thiaj yuav pab tau yus xwb.

Yog tshaj txov paub li koj lub neej thiab kaj saib o.

Brother, you messed up. You go and come as you pleased. You neglected your wife and kids. It's a good thing you got your kids back. Your priorities should be your wife and kids. Forgiveness is once only. Don't screw up again!

Yg ma yg kj tsawj hloo ce yeej zoo xb poj niam siab zoo2xb thiab qhov zoo nkaug xb lawv

Thaub, thank you for sharing your story so our husband can learn.

That’s why God says this instead of go to be with your parents or cousins, relatives etc. Ephesians 5:31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

Thanks for sharing your story, mister. I hope your story will help others see that their 1st priority should be their wife and children.

You mean your dad!!! Not your kwv tij. It all started with you listening to your dad and never home.

About the boat I'm not interested because i already knew the winner already chosen

Yog luss los👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 listen to your wife zoo dua.

Nrog koj zoo siab qhov koj kawm tiav ib qeb lawm. Zoo qhov koj tig los hlub koj tus kheej, tshuav me me ces koj tau lub khuv xim koj pab niam tub. 😆😆😆

It's funny how your wife is mad when you help others, but when y'all need help for babysitting she doesn't care. I blame you both for not knowing how to balance out your livelihood and maintain a great relationship with your spouse and love one's.

My husband is like u. His story will be next.

Tus brother no he should not get mad... He should ua ib rooj mov hu tus neither tuaj sab pev and thank his neighbor for saving his screwed up butt.......you is one in 100 that wake up to reality and acknowledge your wrong... Happy for you and your new and happier life with your wife..

I feel like it’s more to this story. No one is doing ua neeb every single day. And all of u lack of communication.

The moral here is: communication and openness is the key to a good relationship.

Almost too late for you don’t do again. Every one understands second time no good.

Yog lawm ua tsaug

Lub neej lwj siab dhau los 😂 es tau txhiv saib neeb os lawv

Saib neeb muaj nqis dua kj cov me nyuam nyuam qhuav phim xwb os Twb yog kj tus poj niam siab zoo dhau Kuv ces muab kj ncaws tawm tsev nhub ntawv Zoo siab nrog kj uas tau mus saib neeb ywj siab lawm 😅

Brother qhia seb qhov program thov zov me nyuam application li ca qhia seb xav mu ib lo 2 hnub seb hehe mloog Lu nawb me nu

You're lucky she took you back. Say it louder for those in the back!

Good inspiration for all Men to Learn!!🎉🎉🎉

Peb ua neeg nyob mas yus yuav tsum paub hais tias yus nyob theem twg, tsuas ua tau txij li ntawd xwb, vim koj ruam tsab ntse ces kawg muaj teeb meem, neeg ruam mas yuav tsum mloog poj niam lus,yus lam yog ib tug txiv neej xwb, tiam sis yus ruam dua poj niam.

I don’t blame your wife. You’re irresponsible because you don’t take care of your children and family. By the time your wife gave you an ultimatum, you have done wrong way too much and too long. And no, don’t say that she is cheating on you. You’re the only one cheating yourself. Consider yourself blessed because she took you back into her life. Hopefully you learned your lesson well.

Ok kawg .bkwv tij

Thaub koj tham li tsis puv 100.

It’s not all for your wife. Pretty soon you going to face another problem. I say for you to be responsible for both you wife, kids, your parents and relatives as well to be a good hmong men. I worry one day you wife take off from, your kids get marriage, someone in the family pass away you and your wife not going to be able do it along.

Your wife is correct. You’re not responsible enough to be a parent so she’s going to do what’s best for her and the kids. She’s also correct about telling her parents to stay in their lane. They are not the ones crying when the kids are taking away so they have no say in her life decisions.

At least he changed to be good and love his wife.

Happy spouse, happy house.

Mloog li koj zaj neejneeg, Tejzaum koj yeej muab ua dhau zog lawm. Yuav tau tswj li pojniam hais koj thiaj yuav mloog lus…

Tej no tiag hmoob tej kev ruam. Peb Hmoob yeej tseem ruam tiag 2!!!

Hopefully you saw all the mistakes you've made. Sounds like you barely wanted to reveal them as if didn't want to self reflect or admit to them. Best of luck.

So true!!! Listen and learn men and women…

Paub tab lawm puas yog ntxov paub tab li koj mas twb ntsib teeb meem os 😅

How u apply for that free vacation money with free babysitters? 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Ntsej muag ruam, txhob qhia qhia peb vim peb tsis xuab li koj. Peb tsis kawm ntawm neej liam li koj. Peb li kwvtij los peb hlub, phoojywg los peb muaj, hauj lwm los peb muaj, lag luam los peb sib zog, pojruam thiab menyuam los peb sib txhawb. Cov neeg liam li koj ua yam twg ces xuab Raymond ntawv. Koj tseem yuav liam tshaj ntxiv. Tam sim no koj tseem so ua phem xwb. Cov neeg liam li koj yeej tso tsis tau kev liam