I can relate to this story. My in-law treated myself and kids exactly as this story. My kids NEVER experienced love from their grandparents. They never slept in grandma’s bed or on her lap.
@songxiong35672 жыл бұрын
😢
@pojxeemvaj87032 жыл бұрын
I feel u. Now Remarried, I know my MIL doesn’t like me. I fear karma so I do what I can and just live day by day. My husband is a very mellow,humble guy, he has always taught me to ignore whatever they say and don’t make a small problem into a big problem.
@bluewhisper50082 жыл бұрын
I am the child who has never experienced my patternal grandma and grandpas love. My dad is their blood son but they hate my mom. When I was around 8 my uncle held me so my aunt and younger uncle would beat me up. The 3 of them ganged up on me and i lost my voice from crying my grandma had the audacity to laugh at me. She didn't even tell them go stop. She ignored my cries. None of my other siblings have gotten any of their love either.
@leek-te5dx2 жыл бұрын
Sister. Whooo I clapped the whole time in front of my husband when I heard your story. I had to do the running man. This is the greatest story to start the new year. A great story with a good advice at the end. I can confirm and relate to you because I experience the same thing like not to that end yet but I envision already that my kids wouldn't know how to cry like yours in the end. I have come to except like you have and stay my distance. Whooo your story has given me strength and real true facts that mean and cult families do exist. I told my husband when your family ever gives me crap all I will say to them is go listen to Mab Vaj 01/01/2022 thank you. Lol love you sisters keep your gins up chest high walk like your shits dont stink and live for your kids. Greatest way to start the year with your story. I'm with you sisters on this one 1000%.
@whatheck67972 жыл бұрын
You’re not alone aunty/ sister. I was in the same boat for 10 years. Now I’m keeping my love to myself, no longer care much for the in-laws. Love yourself first and then your little family. If they want to be in your life and your kids, they will make a huge effort not excuses. And I agree I was just like you, I’ve never loved my own parents as much as I have loved the in-laws until they repeatedly hurt me. Nrog koj zoo saib, ua li koj ua tau xwb.
@kermoua68832 жыл бұрын
I feel sad for you. I have similar experiences. Just love your family, kids, and your husband. God will blessing you and your family.
@kazuamoua2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this. I was in your boat too. I keep my distance from my mil. She was the same way just like this story. Learn to distance yourself from those who don't love you. Self love first. ❤
@moonshine26662 жыл бұрын
Kuv raug txoj kev no ib yam, hnub no kuv twb ua ib siab tsis tig ntsia lawm os cov viv ncaus aw. Tag nrho tsev neeg ua rau yus mas tu siab tshaj plaws li nawb. Yus tus txiv los ua phem thiab mas nyob tsis tau thiab uv tsis tau mus li os.
@blialy1772 жыл бұрын
Yog kawg
@blialy1772 жыл бұрын
Kuv ces Twb tau lub neej li no thiab os tus me viv ncau aws . Yus yog ib tug nyab luag tsis nyiam ces ua npaum twg los luag tsis pom thiab tsis ris txiaj li mas .
@ouradventuresnspecialmoments2 жыл бұрын
If you're too nice, you will be taken advantage of... Just do what you can! Love those that truly loves you...as for those that don't, I would careless about them!!! Live and Learn!
@siavang56372 жыл бұрын
OMG!! MY LIFE IS EXACTLY LIKE YOURS SISTER. MY HUSBAND FAMILY, THE WHOLE FAMILY NEVER LIKED ME SO THEY NEVER LIKED MY KIDS. MY KIDS ALWAYS TELLS ME HOW BAD THEY'VE BEEN TREAT IT FROM INLAWS. SAD. 14 YRS IS SUCH A WASTE . SO I MOVED AWAY STAY WITH MY PARENTS. MY PARENTS LOVE MY KIDS. MY KIDS WAS HAPPY AND WAS LOVED BY MY PARENTS AND ALL MY SIBLINGS. NEVER WAITS LOVE FROM A FAMILY THAT DOESN'T APPRECIATE FROM THE LOVE WE GAVE IN. WE DON'T OWE THEM ANY THING . I AM SOO GLAD I MADE THE CHOICE TO MOVED AWAY. I AM VERY HAPPY TO HAVE MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE.
@baoyang56862 жыл бұрын
Love and care for those who love and care for you. When they don’t like u no matter what u do they will never see
@hmoovphemtsaab22402 жыл бұрын
Grandma grandpa never loved us, when they passed away none of us cry a single tear. We love them as much as they loved us, so, if there was no love, there's no tear and regret.
@nancyyang85102 жыл бұрын
Sounds like the story of my life. Don't expect anything from anyone. Love yourself, your husband and your own children. True fact!
@deliciousnook43882 жыл бұрын
I believe a lot of us Hmong Nyabs can relate to this story and we’ve all learned eventually that we should love ourselves, our husband and kids before anyone else. We have to teach our daughters and younger generations that love and respect is a two way street so this stereotype will no longer exists much longer.
@ll-zz1jp2 жыл бұрын
I’ve listen it it 3 times..I can relate so much. why does this story seems like I’m the person in this story? So true.
@rollinloudasf2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like someone I know..... it's sad, but once you learn to love yourself and accept those who actually loves you, you will learn your limit line and find your true happiness....
@hmoobsister95342 жыл бұрын
It's not that your husband doesn't see it. It's his family doing so he don't want to say much. He's covering them. If it was your family, he will not say the same. Life is short. I am glad you love the ones that love you only. We can't expect too much from others because when things don't go our way. We will be disappointed.
@c.lee-soulisak3272 жыл бұрын
I am sorry about what happened to you sister. You have a kind heart. My sister said to me, that I have a bleeding heart..too kind to others. It took me many years to learn also. I live by one philosophy now..love the ones that love you, they don't have to be family. Life is too short to be unhappy. Good luck to you!
@ScarletQue2 жыл бұрын
Yup. Took me long enough too. Actually, losing my sister put me thr deep depression n now i have to relearn to not be so kind to undeserving “ family members”
@bher9162 жыл бұрын
I went through the same 12 years ago. My ex-husband was no man so I broke off from him and his toxic parents. My advice to nyabs who are going through this situation right now, stop trying to buy their love. Your offerings for them will always be accepted but you'll never be accepted. Stop showering an ungrateful mother in law with love and gifts more than you do to your own mother. Remember they will always have their son's back period regardless you are right and he is wrong. Your in-laws aren't the only ones who see you as the black sheep in the family so does his aunts and uncles. You're mother in law and sister in laws will slave drive you. The number of times you have shown your generosity to your mil will never out win a one mistake you made and be labeled as a bad daughter by you mil for the rest of your life. Love yourself and love those who love you. Trust me, it's not worth going through depression to try to change what negative people thinks about you.
@leek-te5dx2 жыл бұрын
Yes I 👍 with you.
@baoyang56862 жыл бұрын
Amen
@leek-te5dx2 жыл бұрын
Mab this type of story is why I listen to you everyday since I first heard about your channel sister.
@TrueHmongVoiceTiam212 жыл бұрын
Thank you sister only those who experienceed this would understand.
@seevang52 жыл бұрын
I love your story and I can relate 💯!! Thank you so much for sharing and for being a voice for yourself and for all of us. Becoming a nyab was one of the biggest challenges in my life. It has taught me so many lessons and has made me the person I am today. No more expectations, no more disappointment. No more being under their control and manipulation. Your feelings matter, you matter! It’s a bitter sweet feeling that it had to be that way but this is life. We learn to appreciate and love ourselves more. Focus on that really matters in life. Love those who loves and support us. This is the best way to living your best life. People will talk no matter if you do good or bad so let them do all the talking while you do all the waking! Wishing you the very best sister! ♥️ Also Mab, you are so awesome! You will always be my favorite story teller! 💓💓💓
@princessqueen4342 жыл бұрын
Omg!! This is a story of my life
@kevinher35462 жыл бұрын
Yup my too
@hmonglish4u5572 жыл бұрын
Same here! Hit me right in the forehead
@leek-te5dx2 жыл бұрын
Yes confirm.
@paulaclee2 жыл бұрын
Same here!
@m.muaslis69022 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, when you seek someone's approval and love, you overwork yourself by trying to prove to them and you will eventually get exhausted and tired and you will eventually end up getting hurt more. Glad you got it together.
@songxiong35672 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear of your story. Sounds like my daughter's mil. I tell my daughter to do only what she can, don't over do things for ppl who don't love, care, and appreciate you. Best wishes ❤️
@maivnruasyaj82262 жыл бұрын
Ww ua cas txoj no yuav raug rau kv kawg li thiab os viv ncaus aw
@kellyxiong87393 ай бұрын
That's the story of my life, too. You are a wonderful person.
@nkaujsee45012 жыл бұрын
Zaj no ces nim khws li kuv zaj thiab es nim tu tu siab tshaj plaws tsis quaj los lub kuas muag los los li os
@user-bw9ro3jz4v2 жыл бұрын
I understand where you are coming from. I, too, am in your position. It's very sad to have in laws like that. I always get the end of the stick. But you know what, I am happy because I can live freely without worrying about them nor help them. If I can help, I help. If I cannot help, I don't feel bad about it. Just live freely and happy without them. That makes them even more mad.
@kaam66712 жыл бұрын
Hai yog kawg li os tu siab heev li os peb cov nyab na🥲
@genalor47952 жыл бұрын
Love yourself first. Don't let the little things affect you and you'll be happier. Learn to be okay when not being invited or included because our time is just too precious. Only share your time and money with those who loves you.
@cindyskenderovic68062 жыл бұрын
I was once in your shoe, I got married to my ex husband at the age of 13 going on 14 in '97. At first I was the only daughter in law so they are OK but as the year goes by their other sons are married then I became their least favorite daughter in law in their family 👪. My ex husband was not man enough to hold any job in his life, I do everything for their family from the oldest to the youngest and from mother in law to father in law. At the end they are the ones who destroyed my life because they don't like me they even told their son which is my ex husband to pick fight with me and argue with me. I am fed up with that family 👪 I decided to part myself with that family forever. Doing good is God's gift 🎁 but there are limits to doing good 👍 sometimes you have to make the right choice.
@vangpanhia62 жыл бұрын
I’m in the same boat. That’s why I love only those that love me. My kids never know how it is to be loved by their grandparents from their dad sides.
@richardly54192 жыл бұрын
Wow, Kablia koj haj tseem haib kawg thiab yom.
@Lotus-og6if2 жыл бұрын
Don’t wait for their love and do not waste time being sad. Earn your own and love your children and husband. In return, don’t give a damn about them later in life. Live apart and know yourself, don’t let anyone pressure you and do anything you do not feel comfortable with. Live your life and don’t expect anything, in return you do not owe anyone anything.
@linday49812 жыл бұрын
Those people do not deserve a good daughter in law. My ex in-laws were like that. So glad I don’t have to worry about it anymore.
@nploojntoos31392 жыл бұрын
Wowowo the longer I listen to this story the problem is almost the same problem like me and my parent. My parents treated me the same as this lady and her father and mother-in-law
@lillyofthevalley722 жыл бұрын
Good for you. Glad you found your peace.
@magicalunicorn58532 жыл бұрын
Consider yourself lucky that you don’t need or depend on your in laws. YOU OWE THEM NOTHING. Don’t waste your energy on those who do not value you.
@minecraftboy26762 жыл бұрын
Treat others the way you want to being treat. Being nice and love those that do the same to you.
@kx14902 жыл бұрын
Yes it’s difficult. I believe everyone young couple gone through the struggle. I remember having to work all day then taking night class then picking up my kids from the in-laws and sometimes my husband from work. Our little family doesn’t get home until 10pm. We only have 2 kids at the time and my husband is the oldest and my kids were the only grandchildren yet my MIL still complained about having to watch them yet she wasn’t even working at that time. I know when I become a grandma I’ll fully support my kids!
@kiavang61772 жыл бұрын
Same shoe. Thaum rau tsis taus lawm yuav tau hle thiab thiaj tsis mob mob yus txais taw.
@Yajsuab2 жыл бұрын
Love goes both ways if they're not giving it to you then they don't deserve your kindness.
@seeyang60802 жыл бұрын
yog lawm os peb cov ntxhais mus ua luag nyab e niam pog txiv yawg cov muam tsis nyiam kiag li ces tsis yog koj ibleeg thiaj li ntsib xwb feem coob yeej tau lub neej tusiab li koj hais no os Peb mus ua luag nyab ces kuv pom tau tias luag saib peb zoo yam li tej menyuam ntsuag uas nrog luag nyob xwb e luag thiaj tsis xav hlub li kuv ces twb thim kuv txoj kev ua zoo tusiab nrho los lawm ntau xyoo vim luag tsis pom yus qhov zoo tus me niam tsev aw txhob tusiab os cia yus rov hlub yus thiab cov menyuam xwb kaj siab lawm os
@Love98fire2 жыл бұрын
Your not alone. I myself walk the same path. My husband is tall and I’m 4’11 I’m hmong white. My husband is Hmong green. My mil wanted my husband to married hmong green and tall wife. I myself was born in the US and know little hmong. My mil never approved of me she always tell me to leave my husband. My in laws also refused to watch my kids. They now watch my bil kids with no issue. Yes it hurts but at the end of the day as long as your husband loves you. I’ve always wanted my in laws to love me and respect me. But they don’t. All they ever did is cause drama into my marriage. After 17 years of marriage i learned That they will never accept me and love me. Love yourself and your family. Do what you can for them. To try too hard because at the end of the day they still don’t like you. Be strong ❤️
@xyang16232 жыл бұрын
Sister, dont buy love ok..let love buy you..and love yourself first
@mxvue093 ай бұрын
Yes, I agree. Luckily I have really good in laws. But I have met people who take advantage of us because we were thoughtful of them. They only need you when they’re in need. There are some people who are narcissistic and can manipulate people around you too. Think positive and just love yourself. Great story.
@chongyang78202 жыл бұрын
txhob tu Siab mog me viv ncaus aw kuv lub neej tseem txom nyem tshaj koj zoo li txoj kev kuv tseem taug mus dhau qhov koj hais ko os txhob tu Siab txhob quaj mog yog koj tseem quaj los taus kua muag ces tseem tu Siab tsis tau heev os kuv ces tu tu Siab los tsis taus kua muag lawm os cov pog nyiam tau xauv ncais qhws ntsej kub tau saw kub txhua tus kuv cov tsis tau ib yam li kav Liam mog txhob tos luag hlub yus os
@Zeb12452 жыл бұрын
Give your love to those who appreciate you. Those that don’t, don’t waste your time bc they will never appreciate you.
@colleenchan98722 жыл бұрын
Yog tshaj plaws! Kuv rau kiag koj sab khau lawm yeej mob siab heev! Tabsis kuv xav rau hauv siab tias luag tsis nyiam tsis hlub yus los lwm hnub yus thiaj tsis tshuav luag nqi es txoj kev npam yus thiaj tsis tau ris! Luag tsis hlub yus los txhob ntshaw txhob tu siab yus thiaj tsis raug lub hynav os! Nim no kuv laj ntshaw lawv tej kev hlub os vim kuv tau tau zoo tsis mag lawv cem lawv rhuav kuv kaj kaj siab heev! Kuv mas zoo siab dim plawv lawm! Peb hmoob feem coob cov laus los rau cov ib nrab neeg yeej tseem coj lub siab no!
@ctnkt2 жыл бұрын
Learn to love yourself because you will always be an outsider in their eyes. No matter how much you try and put an effort into the relationship with your in laws they will never see your love.
@meilywanglau93562 жыл бұрын
I felt you and am related somewhat to your story but I also see some nyab in my families that are just very judgemental, very hateful and very criticism. No matter what we do or say she will judged and criticism us to our brother. Even if we watched what we say to her or do she still gets upsets and judged us, criticism us. It gets so frustrated when u can't be yourself around that nyab. I am a nyab myself and I may not received the fair treatments as my other sister in laws but when I give I give them the best and do what I can as best as I can and I still feel like I am still being dislike by some but at least I know I ain't trying to make them like me...I am doing for good karma and for my kindness that's sincere from my heart. So with that being say I really don't understand y some nyabs are so siab lim hiam to their husband's families but when it comes to their family they poured love and money out like it was nothing but their husbands' side then they counted every single penny, every helped and the most despicable thing is brainwashed her husband to think that his whole family is against him!!! Cruel...cruel...cruel...!!! Yes, I understand that as long as they love each other then we are happy but at least don't hate us and don't try to turn him against us. No matter what we're married to their brothers so we still need to have respect for one another even if we dislike one another!!!
@Faifferz2 жыл бұрын
My husband has a Niam tij who is 4’9/4’10 too. And my in laws (mostly my father in law) made my husband’s brother sign a contract to not marry her or else he wouldn’t help with the wedding. Of course he thought it was stupid and married her anyway. Fast forward to me and my husband dating, all they told my husband was to make sure I wasn’t small like my sister in law. They don’t treat their grandkids badly at all because the kids don’t have anything to do with it…. BUT my father in law doesn’t really go to their events when they invite him.
@Starshineloveable2 жыл бұрын
Don’t let people step all over you, honey. If they don’t like you, they will never like you. Just think of it as you not owing anyone anything. The love you give to them should only equal the love you receive from them. Stop trying to be the better person, there’s no such thing.
@beautifulyang13022 жыл бұрын
Sister don't feel sad. I'm in your shoes before but right now my mother in law see and know that I'm the only nyab she can ask for help so right now she love me. Before no matter how hard i try she never love me and my father in law too. Mil like yours deserve at nursing home. When my fil pass away my kids doesn't cry but when my father pass away my kids cry alot.
@chuechang38602 жыл бұрын
Lawv hlub leej twg tshaj ces leej twg tshuav lawv nqe ntau dua os
Kuv txoj kev ua nyab zoo nkaus koj txoj thiab. Ziag no kuv ua tau ib siab lawm. Yog lawv tuag ces Ntshe kuv Twb tsis mus lawv lub ntees os. Vim lawv tsis hlub kuv li.
@kajsiabyang72872 жыл бұрын
I have no time to try my best to love someone who doesn't love me. For me, they don't love me I give them back their own medicine to taste to see how was it. It is sweet or is it bitter.
@maryandlife11552 жыл бұрын
I agree with you 💯. Thank you for sharing.
@anavang4502 жыл бұрын
Sister your story is just like my story.
@mynikathao84432 жыл бұрын
Sister, I also wore your shoes. I understand well.
Txhob tu siab os. Kuv ces zoo raws nraim li koj thiab os. koj tsawm muaj niam nyob deb. kuv ces tub tsis muaj niam muaj txiv tuag tag lawm lawv haj yam ua phem tsim yus lub siab kom mob. Qhov nqaij ntuag ntsav nrog mas tsis muaj tiam sis luag tsim yus lub siab mob tsaj. Pu ntuj teb tag hmo tsawm npau suav tuj toog txog txoj kev lawv ua phem thiab tsim yus mas tub2 siab tsawm quaj nrog dab ntu tsim duj dhee saum neej. Tu siab tshaj cas yuav los xiam tag ib tiam rau luag ntxub luag tsim. Tseev Txawm yuav ua zoo npaum li cas rau luag es seb luag puas hlub yus me2 los yog luag xub tim ntxub yus ces luag yeej ntxub. Tus nyab lawv nyiam2 ces txawm ua phem ua zoo rau lawv los lawv yeej hlub. tus nyab lawv nyiam2 tu ua tsis yog lawm los lawv tsawm tsa tu ntxiab xwb. Tej me nyuam luag yeej hlub cai npo yus cov. Txoj kev hlub kev zoo Ua zoo txau lawm tsis tu siab tias tsam yus tsis tau hlub lawv es lawv thiaj ua li rau yus. Hlub txau2 lawm los yus tub tsis zoo tsis nyob ntawm lawv lub zaim muag luaj ntiv los luaj rau. Tsis tos lawv txoj kev hlub tu sia nrho ua ib siab hlo muaj tus txiv thiab tej me nyuam lawm xwb. Lawv hlub yus li cas yus hlub lawv li ntawv lawm xwb.Hlub tus nrau lawm tsawm hlub yus.
@foreveryouandme87332 жыл бұрын
I know the feeling, sometimes it doesn't pay to be nice. Been in your shoes.
@genav18952 жыл бұрын
Can relate 💯
@kristinaxiong63612 жыл бұрын
Me viv ncaus aw lawv tsis hlub yus yus thiaj tsis tsuav lawv nqi os koj lub neej thiab Kuv lub ces Tib lub xwb os txhob tu siab Kuv yog ib tug thiab
@obtugtxivtub2 жыл бұрын
Some people think that they are better than others, but in reality they are the miserable ones. Don't expect anything good from them. I would distance myself from them.
@LimeLM32 жыл бұрын
This is the very reason why I only love those who loves me. Don’t give your love away so freely, some people don’t value your love.
@cocopha57782 жыл бұрын
Cas khws khaus kuv zaj thiab ntag tu siab tshaj li os
@shouathao62812 жыл бұрын
Oh yo kuv mas ntxub cov niag tub nyab Uas pheej coj me nyuam mus rau Niam thiab txiv zov luag zov tsis taus tseem tus siab thiab
@leenahlevanh3962 жыл бұрын
Yog kuv zaj dag neeg kiag li cas tu siab ua luaj puas yog yus txoj kev ruam los yog yus siab zoo dhau lawm xwb os lawv
@minecraftboy26762 жыл бұрын
Being nice to those that are mean and cruel to them and one day they will be nice to you, even if just for one day that was my mom's philosophy. That day never came she passed away before that day. She was so nice and kind to everyone that' have come into her life. It was so sad to see that and her hope to see for them to treat and being nice to her. May she rest in peace.
@beevveil22402 жыл бұрын
Zoo li koj cov me nyuam tseem ntse dua koj lawm sub as
@nengvang61522 жыл бұрын
Tus me niam tsev aw, txhob tu tu siab os mog kuv lub neej los yeej tsis txawv koj lub thiab mog es lam nyob los ntawm yus tus txij nkawm xwb. Kuv cov me nyuam los yeej tsis tau pog thiab yawg txoj kev hlub thiab os. Yeej yog li koj hais luag tsis hlub yus ces yus cov niag me nyuam los lawv yeej tsis hlub tsis nrog yus cev tes puag ib tsam li os mog. Zoo siab rau yus tus txiv uas nws tseem hlub yus xwb nawb mog.
@cindyskenderovic68062 жыл бұрын
Tsis txhob nkim yus lub sij hawm rau cov neeg siab phem, lim hiam, siab nyoo, siab dub. Txhob nkim koj lub zog os mog, tsis tsim nyog kiag li os tus viv ncaus aws. Kuv yeej tsis poob ib lub kua muag rau tus neeg phem lim hiam siab nyoo siab dub li, kuv tsuas poob kua muag rau tus neeg siab zoo xwb os mog.
@nkaujiab84002 жыл бұрын
This story is so related to my nyab life. I am about your height and my in law treat me differently from other nyab. My kids never get close to their grandparents and never want to sleep over.
@user-gf5hd2wp3p3 ай бұрын
Very similar to my story. But I've grown to say " NO " now. I'm no longer humble to these in-law.
@myderyang48442 жыл бұрын
Cas koj zaj story ko yuav raug kuv ua luaj li. Zaum no ces yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej lo.
@beevveil22402 жыл бұрын
Cov neeg ntawv tau muab nyiaj yuav kev hlub xwb nas
@yengvue48492 жыл бұрын
Yus ntxhais aw tsis txhob tu siab ntshai koj niam pog lawv qhia neb ua neb lub neej kom neb rau siab khwv noj khwv haus xwb yog hnub twg yus lub neej zoo lawm ces neb tsis xav kom lawv hlub nej los lawv yeej yuav hlub neb os yog yus txom nyiam ces leej twg los yeej saib
@nancyvang37962 жыл бұрын
I'm sure many of us Hmong women have had to uv and endured this kind of toxicity.....🥺 I can relate...
MI nyab aw koj zoo dhau hwv lawd ! Koj yuav tsum hniav pauj hniav ghov muag pauj ghov muag thiab maj ! Yog koj hais lus rau lawv ais lawv tsis tebkoj cais hu kiag koj cov lus tias lus Los ov no Kaj ! Haj Haj
@maiyang36592 жыл бұрын
Cas yuav hais tau ib yam li Kuv lub neej thiab os
@annalise2272 жыл бұрын
Kab Lia aw, koj zaj sab sij huam no ces yog kiag kuv lub neej, kuv yeej ua li tus Viv ncaus no thiab os, Viv kuv los kuv ua ib yam thiab os, taum kawg ces kuv yeej thim kuv txoj kev hlub thiab os.
@pogtxawjtshiavchannel46592 жыл бұрын
Hais tau zoo li txoj Kuv paub thiab. Hlub Koj o sister aw
@KMH007810 ай бұрын
I can relate :*( My in laws didn’t like me either so they didn’t love my kids the same way they loved my husband’s brother’s kids. When I gave birth I never got a chicken from my mil. I always prepared my own. When the they gave vegetables that they planted they would give the best and most to the other sil’s but when it came to me they gave me the left overs. I felt hurt but never told my husband because I didn’t want to hurt him and I didn’t want him to feel bad. It wasn’t until after they passed away that I told him and he asked why I never told him. I told him that his love for me is what mattered more. I didn’t want him to have to choose me or his parents since they gave birth to him.
@nengvang61526 ай бұрын
Vuag tus me niam tsev aw...ua cas koj txoj dab neeg nim zoo ib yam nkaus li kuv lub neej thiab na. Kuv tus thaub los kuj yog tus tub nram thiab kuv los kuj tsis yog ib tug nyab niam pog nyiam thiab tsis hlub ib yam li koj thiab. Kuv cov me nyuam los niam pog txiv yawg yeej tsis hlub thiab pab zov ib yam li thiab os. Kuv twb rau koj ob say khauv dhau lawm kuv paub koj txoj kev mob thiab tusiab lawg li os tus me niam tsev.😢😢😮😢😢
@beevveil22402 жыл бұрын
Kuv twb muaj tej yam Kuv tu siab li koj thiab os. Vim thaub wb nrog lawv nyob es ib leeg ua hauj lwm xwb los lawv kom pab lawv them nqi ho Tus yau yuav poj niam los es nkawv 2 leeg ua nurse tau nyiaj ntau2 los lawv twb tsis pub nkawv them ib yam ab tsi li. Tu siab tshaj li os
@maichouvang67632 жыл бұрын
So sorry for what you and your husband are going through. I understand your pain because my husband and I are in the same path. Fortunately our kids are old enough to be home alone now. Don't worry, kids don't stay small forever. At least you won't feel like you owe them anything if your in laws don't help or love your kids.
@maxiong13562 жыл бұрын
Thaum i kuv kuj tusiab li ko thiab tabsis xav los lawm yus ntxeem yus xwb thiaj li tsis tiv leej twg nuj nqis. Nuj nqis txiaj ntsim mas laj ev txog hnub tuag os. Lawv tsis hlub los xij tsuav yus tau hlub lawv xwb os.
@lalee62192 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, this story is very relatable to a lot of Nyab Hmoob.
@deelai61542 жыл бұрын
That’s my story (that’s me)
@yoglis93212 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this story
@wayang392 Жыл бұрын
Tus me Viv ncaus aw cas koj zaj dab neeg zoo kiag kuv zaj thiab os tsis yog ib leej xwb thiaj li ntsib lub neej zoo li ko os. Kuv cov menyuam los yeej tus siab tib yam nkaus koj cov thiab os. Txawm koj yuav ua zoo npaum li cad los luag yeej tsis pom rhuab tsis hlub yus li nawb hos tus luag hlub ces txawm tsis ua dabtsi rau luag li los luag yeej qhuas2 li os.
@pajtawgtshiab18042 жыл бұрын
Thaj no mas koj hluas2 kawg yom
@fongvang32592 жыл бұрын
It’s good that you have learned a lesson.
@ylvue62 жыл бұрын
Sister aw...txoj kev hlub thov tsis tau taij tsis tau os yuav tsum yog lawv txaus siab xwb os mog...luag hlub yus li cas ces yus hlub luag li ntawv xwb os mog. Es thiaj tsis mob2 yus os.
@jidapasaejang65112 жыл бұрын
Me viv ncaus aw...cov nyab uas niam pog thiab txiv. Yawg lawv tsev neeg tsis nyiam yus ces yus txawm ua zoo npaum li cas rau luag los luag yeej xam tsis muaj yus li os me viv ncaus aw...lub neej es peb cov ntxhais hmoob los ua lawv nyab es lawv tsis nyiam yam nws yeej yog li koj tham tag nrho li os nws yeej raws raim li koj hais txhua yam li os.me viv ncaus yus tsis tau luag txoj kev hlub li ces ntshe yav no lawm tom yus yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej tso es mam mus hlub luag os