Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone ♥️♥️ Sending loving energy to you all!! Thank you for allowing me to share my heart with the authentic struggles of hoarding disorder and responding in a loving encouraging way! It’s that loving circle of encouragement and has created so much healing in this journey ❤️🙏🏼❤️

Both my parents were hoarders, my mum died 17 years ago and I'm still dealing with her stuff. My dad died a few months ago and it's just impossible. Please people... Sort your stuff out before you pass. For your children.

Swedish death cleaning was the answer for my cluttered basement. I had kept stuff, sentimental as well as practical, for my adult children. They really didn't want most of it. I sent pictures of the items to my children, who all live far away, and they claimed what was important to them. The rest was donated.

I really appreciate SwedishDeath cleaning. I’ve had people tell me they were just going to let their family deal with the mess when they are gone--that makes me so mad and it is so unkind. I lost so much of my life over many years to my in-laws hoarded basement and closets. Take care of your own stuff and don’t burden others with your mess.

One of my friends has a box in the basement marked for each of her kids. This is where they can keep their important items from the years. They get to decide, but if it doesn’t fit, they don’t keep it (books don’t count). Great idea when I see other parents struggling with attics full of their kids stuff that has been left behind without a care.

Having watched someone leave quite a mess for their grown children (multiple properties, cars, unorganized files), I vowed to never do that to my kids! My paperwork is in order. If they want to donate all my items, that's fine! But I will make it as easy as I can for them, while still enjoying my home myself while I'm still here!

This happened to my husband and his sisters a year ago this month. Their mom had hoarded in the same house since the 50’s. It was grueling work that took months and it was difficult because they had no idea what stuff was family heirlooms and what was junk from thrift stores, sides of the road etc, and it was so hard to sift through when they were grieving.

Thank you for giving us the horders version of Swedish death cleaning. Having had to go through my mother’s things: sentimental collectibles, everyday items and tons of paperwork, I definitely don’t want to leave that much for my children but it’s still hard to deal with. Good for you in your baby steps decluttering.

Slowly but surely is the best way for us hoarders. One box at a time.

As someone who has cleaned out homes of folks who have gone into nursing homes or died... I really appreciate 'Swedish Death Cleaning'. I have already done this process for myself. Since I'm a minimalist with ADD, OCD & Anxiety because of too much 'stuff'...this process was easy for me! I had to 'downsize' my closet this month because 7 tops was too much for me (I now have 4 tops! lol!) My kids have already inherited anything sentimental to me and they know that they can have whatever is left and sell or donate the rest!

As a swede I really loved that book. My mother passed away when I was 20 and she left so much stuff behind. It's taken me many years, and I'm still not done to go through everything little by little. I still live in my childhood home so I had the possibility to keep a lot. Just know it takes time, sometimes years. What I have left now is the sentimental stuff and I do one drawer at a time. All I know is I don't want to leave my children that much stuff when I go, it's a huge burden. Keep going strong your doing great! ❤️

Honestly, by categorizing and labeling the way you do, you have already started the process. Letting your family know that you are OK with them giving away your things after you are gone is the gift you give them. You are doing the hard work now, and say for example...years from now, when you are gone, if they don't craft, they will know which boxes to donate to a crafting group or elementary school for supplies. Burden lifted. Keep up the great work!

Paper is EVERYONE'S worst enemy.

Have you ever seen the KZfaq channel “Curiosity Incorporated”? An antique dealer in Canada, bought a house full of stuff, and he declutters and saves what he can sell. “The musicians hoarded house” series was very interesting. Not about Swedish death cleaning, but gave people glimpses of what it takes to clear out hoarded house. So much work, but done very beautifully. Yeah you definitely don’t want to wait till you are 80 to tackle decluttering. I’m so glad you are on this healing journey. You have done so much for your family already ❤

You are never alone in your decluttering and neither are we... because we have you and you have us... Love you Miss Heart...❣️❣️❣️

Mainer Mom says she thinks of it as Life Cleaning., for her future life is the emphasis. Facing a serious illness, I am grateful I have been steadily doing this. You are a beautiful person inside and out!❤

Thank you for your perspective. My mother in law passed very recently and she was a hoarder. We've been working on clearing it with many people for many weeks. Luckily the end is nearly in sight. Your perspective helps me to be compassionate towards her and not only feel overwhelmed and even upset with the gigantic task she left for me and my husband.

This concept is what brought me to minimalism. We were left with so much from our in-laws it was emotional and over whelming. We seem to have just dealt with it and continue to part with our own possessions.

I read Swedish Death Cleaning a few years ago. I never thought about how it could trigger someone who's recovering from hoarding disorder. I'm glad that you were able to discover some positive take-aways! My biggest takeaway from that book was that just because I think something is great doesn't mean that my family is going to want it after I pass. 🙂I've been consistently decluttering my house because I don't want my family to be burdened with so much stuff. I think the way that you're systematically cleaning your basement & the rest of your home, and grouping like things with like, is the perfect way to help your loved ones! It's not something you want to dwell on, but I think giving your family permission to let go of any or all of your sentimental items is the right thing to do. 🥰

I found myself mentally involved with what you were saying. I have never really dealt with my hoarding issues. I did, however, discover why I hoarded and it was because of having things to hide behind so I would not be beaten (this was a mental decision because I was abused as a child) and from the death of my only child when he was 20 years old (this pains me right now and I have tears in my eyes). Through your channel, I am finding myself beginning to deal with my hoarding issues and learning to allow my feelings to come to be. For many years I could turn my feelings off or on as I wanted; most of the time they were off because it was too painful to deal with what I was going through and what I had gone through. It has taken your channel for me to deal with my hoarding issues and I thank you for it. I obtained so many things by getting them free and buying them. In the past year, I have found myself doing this again. I have chosen to no longer get items free the way I used to, but I struggle with not buying things. I have recently prayed that God would help me stop spending the way I have been. Today I decided to let go of an empty box. I've had it empty for the past year and I don't need it. I say, good for me. I'm slowly letting go of things that I don't need. I'm also in the process of doing a project for my Creative Space. I need to get rid of the clutter in my Creative Space in order to put in the furniture I have acquired. I just want peace in that area of my home. It is a place where I go to relieve stress. Thank You for reading my long comment.

When my daughter moved out, I loaded up a bunch of things I had saved for her, (report cards, certificates, awards, pictures and even a few prom dresses.) in empty suitcases and threw them on the back of the uhaul truck. She wasn’t very happy with me, when she arrived at her destination. But it wasn’t up to me to decide what she felt sentimental about or important. Nor was our house unpaid storage place. Did the same thing with my youngest son’s stuff. If they wanted to toss it, sell it, keep it, donate it that was their decision.

I have listened to this book a couple of yrs ago, and it helped me a lot. But have to say-being here, watching how you overcome so much fear, stress, anxiety, and how strong you became, and is still growing, helps me even more, as it is real and "touchable". Cheers to All in this community! Have a wonderful day!:)

After multiple pregnancy losses and no siblings, and no next generation in my wider family - I’m not sure who is going to go through my stuff when I’m old. This puts a slightly different spin on Swedish death cleaning - not so much protecting my impact on loved ones but avoiding the shame of random carers or the authorities dumping my stuff . There will noone who wants any of the family photos or anything to remember me, it’s a weird feeling…😢

This is fascinating. As you have to think, would my sons want this once I'm gone. This is definitely a level you are not at the moment close to, but one day, you will get there. You have come so far since starting this channel ❤️

I started throwing 10 things a day away. I got rid of all the things that were not mine. All of the butter ware and take out containers. And dishes I don't use and silver ware. So this was very helpful.

Happy Valentine’s Day Mrs. Heart! A few years before she passed, my husband’s grandma had one of her sons film her telling the stories of her favorite treasures. Once she passed, the treasures were made all the more special by having the story and the videos to go with them. ❤

This has reminded me that I need to keep working on thus, especially my will etc funeral plans ...thanks for encouragement ❤️

Thank you for this video. I am not exactly a hoarder but I’m headed in that direction if I don’t get my stuff in order. The main thing that got me to really want to clean and declutter was a near death experience where all that was going through my head was that I felt bad my parents would have to go through all my junk and how tough that’d be. I looked for videos for help but they were all people who aren’t very messy cleaning or people cleaning high level hoarder houses. It wasn’t very helpful for what was going through my head. This is it. This is helping.

Consistency is the key! I decluttered all my posessions 8 years ago and I still go through my house. Some items just lose their meaning and new stuff comes in and we change. So I don't thin we are ever ready or done. I also think " Would I move this to new house", If not why I'm having this item + I hate moving 😅

In my first month of retirement, we made a schedule of what days to work on decluttering. So far, it's working for us. Yes, there are arguments when two of us are working together. He thinks we are not getting rid of enough items. I kept reminding him that this was our first round of going through stuff. There are piles for the kids, family members, donations, burn, recycling, and trash.

I love how your side of the bed is so organized. Leaps and bounds you are making.

Awesome! In recent years in my family we were cleaning three houses after the seniors died and they were all so hoarded and messy, it was extremely overwhelming, time-consuming and awful. To be honest I was really angry at these seniors (in my thoughts), it was like “did you really think you would live forever? you were just having fun and too lazy to declutter and did not care about us having to deal with your crap. How absolutely selfish and irresponsible’ I know that hoarding is a mental disorder and we should be empathic. But you know what? Humans have imagination and free will. There are hoarders who apply these and decide ‘ok I have a problem, I need help’ and who choose to change, even if they struggle with it. They decide to leave their comfort zone - and others dont, even if they get all possible signs from life that it’s time. So I think it is so awsome and loving that you are thinking of it and cleaning now ❤

As a mental health professional, your channel is such an inspiration. I just know you are changing lives for the better. 😊😊😊😊🥰🥰

I’m not a hoarder; quite the opposite, actually. I have to say, I love your videos! I’ve been following you for about a year or so and I’m so impressed by your ability to go through this process! I try to get my family on the decluttering band wagon, but I have not been as successful as I’d hoped! I don’t have a hard time getting rid of things but that doesn’t mean I’m not sentimental! (Contrary to popular belief lol!) I just wanted to send an encouraging note your way ❤ watching your videos satisfies my brain on so many levels I can’t even explain it 😂 you’re awesome!

You have come such a long way in just a few years. Sending much love your way! 💐

I go for a walk every day and I pass an old run down house. I knew a senior lady lived there. She may not have been a hoarder but she was past the physical stage and perhaps mental stage to de clutter. She recently passed away and her family sold the house as is. I saw the new owners throwing everything into a dumpster.

I love your open honesty with your journey. I appreciate it. Thank you.

You are so brave! Thank you for being transparent and sharing your thoughts and feelings. This is encouraging to me and I’m sure others! Happy Valentine’s Day!

Dear Melanie. You are doing so great! I have been following you some years now. You have really come a long Way. I look forward to when you Will declutter your craft stuff. That is my Big problem. I have done some decluttering, but never enough. I have read the book too, and it is a great idea, but We Will have to do it in our own pace ❤

I always look forward to your videos. I get so much encouragement and confidence from your gentle and loving approach. It is starting to work - I was able to tidy my bedroom in time for the en-suite shower room re-do. Everything is stowed away in a reasonable manner, but I know that I can have another pass later on & get rid of some more stuff. You are teaching me loving compassion.

Thank you for sharing your personal journey that resonates with so many people in this world...including myself. ❤

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences as a recovering hoarder. As a child and sibling of hoarders it helps me to understand them better.

Thank you for sharing your healing journey. You have a beautiful spirit and are very wise in how you demonstrate self love and positivity in your process.

Your videos are very helpful. I found myself having trouble breathing with this one. I'm proud of myself for having started while I still have time to leave things easier for my kids but even more because I am finding life easier and calmer with some spaces that stay clean. You are doing an awesome job!

You have come so far. I remember wanting to see your face. You're an inspiration to so many people. So proud of you!! 💜💜💜💜

I applaud you for reading this book. You are doing amazing in your journey!

I’m currently in the process of decluttering my home and I’m using that process right now. About the only thing I hoard these days is paper so I decided to put all my paperwork in house in one big box so I can go through it at my own pace. But, as far as other stuff I’m asking my daughter or other family members if they want the item and if they say no then it’s going in the donate pile. I’m getting older and to damn tired of the mental inventory of stuff. I’ve also gotten to the point I’m no longer managing my husband or my daughter’s stuff anymore if they can’t find it that’s their own fault.

Thank you so much for making this video. It was very helpful. My mom was a hoarder due to her various past traumas. She passed away 5 years ago, but I still haven't had the courage to clean out her stuff. It feels so overwhelming and I wasn't sure where to start, but this video gave me an idea. Just subscribed to your channel!

Hey! just wanted to say as the child of hoarders, you're amazing for sharing your experiences! Thank you!

Hun, I just love to see your videos, your progress, your strength, your character and your heart. Your channel just radiates that you must be a person that just pours her love into every person that needs it. (So much so that you have to be careful not to drain yourself too much.) Take care!

Keep up the good work! Little by little is how we are decluttering too. Just a few minutes a day decluttering had really changed our house. We are almost finished in the kitchen, and we are picking one category a month to declutter in the basement. Appreciate your channel along with Cas, Dawn and Dana.

Thank you very much for demystifying this topic. I could not even watch the videos, much less read the book. I very much appreciate that you both listened to and read about it...I am blessed by your "takeaways," without me having to tangle with that book. "You are allowed to keep your sentimental items...and your family has permission to get rid of them when I am gone." Thank you very much.

Thank you for sharing your journey, hugs n prayers.

I would love to see CAS from clutterbug come do a storage makeover for you for FREE you are deserving for all that you have accomplished ♥️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Your thoughts are very important because you are very important our dear Ms. Heart. Are you aware of how many people your helping understand how to go forward or support a friend or family member? You are a true delight ❤

Congrats on another step forward in your journey! 👏

Thanks for the video. And just a thought about sentimental objects. On one of my decluttering binges I picked up something and thought "Aww... this reminds me of Grandma" and put it in a keep pile. A little bit later I found another Grandma thing, then another. I realized that I don't need 20 different things to remind me of my Grandma. Most of them would mean nothing to other people. I'm the one with the memories. Why keep all of them? Maybe 1,2 or 3 things would be enough for me.

Excellent video and analysis. You’re a wonderful person and excellent motivator.

Thank you for your videos and for sharing your struggles and successes. Wishing you a Happy Valentines day! 🌟🌸🌷😘❤

This was such an interesting video. Thanks for your insights they have been so inspiring for me ❤

you have come so far and we all are wishing you the best

Haven’t even watched the video but I gotta say I am loving the thumbnail for this one.😊 Your such a wonderful human Miss Heart.

My old foster mother is an art teacher who doesn't get the funding she needs and so she is always asking people to donate stuff like the little toys in your sentimental box to her art class so that the kids can use them in their projects. Maybe something like donating a junk box of those items for art would be a way to help you let go of those things and know they will be appreciated. She also takes things that might go in a junk journal or collage. I don't know what area you are but if you ask local art teachers they might be really grateful because they often have to buy their own art supplies from their wages.

My mother-in-law hoarded throughout her entire life. When it came time for her to move into a senior's home, we had an almost insurmountable mess to deal with; one giant orange hefty bag full of plant pots from the greenhouse, another full of onion bags, rolls of bread bags in tin foil boxes, a freezer stuffed with food that would sustain a village, un-finished knitting projects, chenille pipe cleaner peacocks,old smelly furniture, a porch swing in the basement, beautiful clothes she never wore(we donated those), the list goes on and on. That was just the tip of the iceberg. It took a week and a half to truck her crap to the dump. What an unbelievably inconsiderate and selfish act. Do not do that to your children folks.

Great talk and great job! You can actually see some of the fireplace in your basement!! That's huge!!!

Just order the audible book buy nothing cant wait to listen to it thanks for your inspirational video so much enjoyed it 🥰🦄💜

Cheers and more cheers to you for doing the work to mange your hoarding disorder.

Yes, you have already started the "death cleaning" with all the decluttering, labelling, organizing etc. One never knows what happens, but I think that Margareta Magnusson wants us to enjoy the things we love and don't let the excess get in the way. My father's aunt used to give him beautiful glass bowls (she lived close to a glass factory where they make both art and tableware) these recent years, and I got a framed photo of myself as a baby. She said, one day no one will know who this is, it was better that I got it. She died at 98 y old last autumn and I'm happy that I have my baby photo, but of course, most of all I'm happy for all the memories of her. And even if it's possible to involve loved ones when you want to transfer the joy, I don't think Margareta M meant a big hoard, but more like unique or precious thing. But don't let the talk about death stress you Ms Heart, the most important is to make a good life now, and you are doing that every day by choosing yourself, your mental health, your family etc. Decluttering is just one of the things you are doing to create a good life for you and your family. Loooots of love from one of your Swedish friends!

Your amazing!!!! That’s tough!!! Just 1/2 way thru video but I’m inspired and impressed!!! And I look great on camera!!! ❤️❤️

I love love love your eye makeup in this video! ❤❤❤

Happy Valentine's Day! You are LOVED! ❤

I am and know many hoarders. I ask myself all the time if my family will want my stuff and the answer is no. 95 to 99% of it will be donated or tossed out. Also, would they be willing to spend the time sorting it? Or just have it taken away? I am decluttering bit by bit like you, sorting and labelling. It would be selfish not to. I really enjoy your videos, you inspire me.

I adopted the flylady system after a professional burnout. And it helped me a lot to get rid of the surplus stuff. Now I keep and buy only things I love. I’m not à horder, but my small home wasn’t made for so much stuff. I just think one can die every day and I like to have my home in order. I hope you’ll make your way.

For me, the bottom line of Swedish Death Cleaning was to declutter what you don't use & love. And you're already doing a great job of that.

I'm glad that I found your channel. I am also a hoarder. It all started when I had my daughter. She is now 25. I thought I would be having grandkids, but that isn't the case. I kept toys, clothes, school papers... You name It, I kept it. And then there is my stuff. My parents died in the last two years and my father will be gone a year next month. They were my best friends. I did everything with them. I now have my father's stuff to go through, and it is so hard. I did start this weekend. You sound so much like me. I have no help and will have to do it myself. I can barely get around. There is more to what I'm going through, but that is for another time (?) But like I said, I'm glad I found your channel.

You’re awesome! Thanks for sharing your ❤️!

Maybe clean out the attic and put all the sentimental bins up there 😊

Slow and steady wins the race. Thanks for the recommendation of the books and a briefing on them too. You are doing a fantastic job decluttering. Thanks for always keeping it real. Happy valentines days. Miss Pepper is really enjoying her time in yer bed. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👏🙏💪👍🤞🙏💐🐈🦄

I know donating is good. But also i can't Help but Sometimes destroy items that i declutter. It helps me immensly to release the bottled Up emoticons behind it.

Wow, your hubbys nightstand is much more cluttered than yours. That made me laugh🙂

@ahoardersheart I really appreciate your candor and honesty. You are a leader. You are loved. You are beautiful. God is good. Sending up prayers for your journey. :)

Your nightstand is looking great! 😊💕

Happy Valentine's day and I loved that book

Love her!! Great advice! Great progress too! ❤ Love that Sacred Heart of Jesus prayer card! I saw it in another video and make me smile!

I've worked for 45+ years in a system for keeping bills, statements, tax receipts, etc. in order. It gets better every year.

Happy ❤Day, Miss ❤!!! Anxiety ain’t no joke. I find my strength in knowing this world is passing. Lots of self talk and talking to God. It’s absolutely not easy. But one paper out, IS a baby step to two papers out!!!!

On a sidenote: Your bedside table / nightstand still looks very nice. Good job keeping up on it!

Sentimental items are so hard…but you are doing great 😊❤️

Just checked my library and they have the "The Buy nothing..." book. Thanks for the recommendation!

I think of it as a phase. Of course, the perspective can be interesting at every phase of life. But I am with two little kids still expanding. I keep the income of things low but as they grow they need stuff. Next year my son will need school supplies, a proper desk… You are in a phase of keeping a nest for bigger kids. You still have time to reduce, to consider what is important. You do not declutter for the next generation and the time after you but for you and your family to enjoy the spaces NOW! I think it is very understandable that you were triggered by the book.

Love ❤️from Sweden! 😉🇸🇪

Hi🖐️😀💐 Thank You for your videos. I had to clear out a lot of my hoard realty quickly ( l am a level 4 hoarder too.) But repairs had to be made to our home and l had to make room for the men to find all of the problems and get in there to fix it. Now I am suffering from the loss of things that l should have kept. Some photos of my children and art work they made. a vintage lampshade. I can't believe I threw them out. Now it's like hitting a brick wall and I can't make myself continue. I started out determined to clear out our home and now I just cry a lot. Is there anyone else who has dealt with this and how do you move forward when you deeply regret making some bad choices about what to throw out? Much love to you all💐

My daughter got rid of more stuff. A friend helped her make choices. I own 4 long sleeve shirts, 4 sweat shirts, and 4 sweaters. I fill a box for Goodwill each week. I' m waiting until you sort the ribbon. Tina, Al's wife

Loving the thumbnail photo 🤭😄

it is a good book. that is for sure. good job big hug Ellen

I'm 73. I ask myself what my kids would say going through my stuff. I toss 10 to 20 things each day. Today, it was craft supplies. Yesterday, it was food items from fast food places: ketchup packets, hot sauce packets, etc. Tina, Al's wife

I loved your evaluation of Swedish Death Cleaning and how it affects you from your point of view. I am sure your evaluation will be extremely helpful to many people in seeing how those healing from hoarding look upon this concept. However, I think there is one point you made in this video which maybe needs more evaluation on your part, which is this: Just giving your children permission to pass on or declutter your sentimental items upon your death is not sufficient by itself if it is a considerable amount of stuff that has to be dealt with. This is because simply dealing with large amounts of your stuff will drain your children’s time, physical energy and emotions; and possibly their families too (if they are married and have families of their own by that point). This surely is unfair on them as they have their own lives to lead. Ultimately it is your stuff not there’s and should be your responsibility to deal with in your lifetime. I think most people would believe that leaving a few boxes of selected sentimental items is fine, but leaving piles of boxes isn’t because it is just abdicating your own responsibilities onto others. As you already know, Ms Heart when a person keeps masses of stuff that affects everyone who shares their lives and space, but why should this go on long after that persons death?

Enjoyed from Texas!

That picture of you laying on the stuff cracked me up

My family would have no problem with my stuff since I’m quite minimal and don’t have sentimental items. It’s just stuff.. the memories will be there when the items aren’t.