Guys, the number one tip is: if a thought or an urge to check is coming just DONT respond to it. Ruminating is a choice, and you can stop. Let the urge sit in your mind, and you will see how it will disappear on its own.

For those of you who are so far into this that you’re at the point where the thoughts become feelings and urges that feel real, as someone who’s successfully recovered from this, here’s what you need to do: -Boycott all porn at all costs (soft core included) -Resist masturbation at all costs, especially any weird shit -practice clearing your mind -get regular exercise (helps you to be mentally present) It sounds ridiculous, but it’s worked wonders. Resisting porn and masturbation will slowly recalibrate your brain (took about 5 months for me). You will also stop comparing how you feel while watching different things if you simply stop watching porn entirely. Clearing your mind to be present will help you to ignore the thoughts while your brain is busy recalibrating.

Great video, brother. To those of you struggling, trust me, it will get better and you will get through it

what helped me when i had HOCD is listen to your heart not your brain do you feel good when being scared of being attracted to the same gender if not then you don’t feel attracted to them

Absolutely amazing listening to this….it is exactly what I’ve been through and are still going through.I’ve finally found an organisation that specify in OCD so looking forward to getting mentally well cause it’s ruined many years of my life and nearly made me take my own life numerous times. Thank you man ✊🏻

this gave me a-lot of peace. I've been struggling with this for a while and always thought that it was me just denying the truth, but it never seemed right. i felt like i couldn't escape, once it stopped i forgot about it and recently it projected in me again and it felt uncontrollable. I thank God for helping me realize that nothing is wrong with me but I'm just struggling with this and thats okay.

Jake, thank you for this video. I’m really going through it right now. I’m just struggling to have the strength and courage to accept the thoughts and just try to be in the present moment. It’s very tough

I'm Straight, Engaged to my Mrs & Getting married to her & This HOCD is a nightmare! (I cant even say the G word by the way Cause every time I say it it triggers me) Everyday I have intrusive thoughts about my Male best friends trying to hit on me. & every time That happens I have to think about my time with my Mrs, Whether that is kissing her, & knowing what she looks like to make sure that that thought will stay with me. & lt also affects me when I'm putting on Clothes Like when I put a t shirt on If the Male best friends thought Image pops in my brain, I have to take it off & put it on again & Think of my Mrs & if the thought of her Stays in there I can keep my T Shirt on. Shopping's Worst as well, like when I pick out an item (Lets say a Pint of Milk) If the thought of my male friends pop up, then I have to Put the item back & Pick out another one while thinking of my Mrs then I can keep the Item. The Same thing can happen with buying Clothes as well. This has only just started happening for a weeks now, Like before It use to happen when it was like watching tv soaps like: EastEnders, Coronation street, Emmerdale, Hollyoaks you name it When 2 Men scene is happening I Cant watch That scene cause it will trigger me. If it was 2 Girls kissing it wouldn't bother me cause It felt like having to kiss 2 Girls with me there. What made me speak about this is because a Girl was going through this & a Black man who was going through the same thing on Tiktok & I was happy that I wasn't the only one suffering with this. If the Bisexual Word popped in my head then, That Means still Like Girls & I will only date Girls. But Being Bi isn't what I want & Only Heterosexual is all I want to me & will always Be Straight. But I just Want all these Homo (Also know as the G word) & My male best friends trying to hit on me thought images gone from my head, & Go back to Living my Life with My Mrs, Get Married to her & have a Family Together. I feel like when I become a Dad I Feel Like it will make it easier for me cause I want everyone to know that, Oh look at him spending time with his son/Daughter & His Wife Now that's a perfect Family. The amount of Times I've cried & anxiety I've had over these past few weeks Has not been easy for me. Another Thing as well is that I felt like I can only have female friends, I know anyone with HOCD is different About this but, Whenever I hanged out with Females including my Mrs. It made me feel like the guy who can get all the Girls & Is a Ladies man. Also I watched a lot of Lesbian Or Sexy Thick Girls Corn Hub (With a P instead of a C) And see a Downstairs Growing Response and I still did to The Thick Girls on there. Which I Still felt happy about it, But I didn't want Corn (With a P instead of a C) To be the recovery, So when I spend Quality Time with my Mrs, I feel like that helped me Cause I Can just look at her & See How Beautiful she is. I told my Mrs about The HOCD & She said They are just Thoughts & You Will always Be Straight & Your not gonna Become another Sexuality & She Will Spend as Much Time with me to help you get better. I hear a lot of people say the best Recovery is to Ignore the images & thoughts, which I tried that but it just kept coming back, The TV Actors one I learned to Ignore, But The Thoughts & Images about my best mates Is the one that kept triggering me & being stuck in my head. Another way People say is EPR Therapy, But I'm Scared that They will Judge me. I watched KZfaq Videos About the People going through This, & I feel Like I can talk to them & They can talk to me, Because they will not Judge & and I will Not Judge them, cause they have been through this intense Battle. If Anyone has any Recovered Properly & Knows any Big Tips & Best ways to put a stop to This suffering Progress, Please Let me know & Reply to This. We will get Through This & You are not alone in all This. You are a Legend if you've read all this! Thank You!

Bro thanks a lot this really helped me a lot

Good video 👏🏽👏🏽

thanks my relief rn it just started 5 days ago and im muslim it disgust me even thincking about it ive always never supportes lgbtq and ive always been straight and have dated multiple girls and liked it and my depression from this has been so bad and you made me feel so much better thancks for the support man

Great video!

Hello everyone im just checking in people. Im doing better just little sensation. Keep moving forward guys

Now the thoughts are like infinity. You said "If you are gay , you lock them and think like it's normal but if not then you take stress" I'm taking too much stress about this thoughts But when you say this word I get stress free and again stress come because of this thoughts like "You are gay because you didn't take stress about it" And again and again stress is coming even I say I'm not gay.

I’m 22 and being going through this for a almost a year any time I think about me being gay or get those thoughts it make me sick literally I don’t eat I don’t drink I have terrible diarrhea I have actually thrown up more than once and any time I see a man with another man my genital like retract but I been so stressed with hocd lately I haven’t even wanna have sex or play the game I just sit in bed all day scared out my mind I watched realizing I’m gay videos and I haven’t related to one story I been loving woman since I was young I have vivid memories of this and it’s just like I be thinking how can I just wake up gay one day after 20 years of being strain

I don’t know who will see this but just know I’ve been through the worst of the worst with HOCD let’s fight we will be okay 🙏

How long did you suffer? I’m going on 10 years. I have 2 kids and been with the same man for 6 years. I smoked marijuana for 12 years and after I had my second child i was triggered by postpartum depression it flared My OCD, my clinical depression, and my anxiety. I can’t consume cannabis anymore because it just messes with my brain in a negative way rather than it used to help. The past 11 months have been torture

@Jake Anthony does it count if you think of coming out and have a panic attack cause that’s what happened to me. And then I had two night I kept waking up in the middle of the night and panicking.

Dude your videos ended this for me. To see someone else’s story presented in such a real and relatable way helped me realize that I wasn’t alone. Months have past and I’ve come back out of my shell, even able to talk to women or male friends without worrying that I’m deceiving or that I have secret feelings. Thank you🙏

Yeah it’s so distressing keep yo head up and do things you want to do. I’m going on a date today with a girl because I want too. I’m pretty excited and if you’d we someone or a trigger let it be keep moving.

Hi I want to know, can hocd/so-ocd can happen to bi people too? Also can it cause sudden loss of attraction in the opposite gender for god knows how long?

Actually what happened to me is that, back when I was going through mood swings so when I was with a friend and my mood felt better for a while and In that time I didn't notice much but later I got caught up with this thought and started questioning my sex orientation then I searched looked up on internet then I found one symptoms that every gay people have that "women's are more likey to be in stressed than man' and then it had me since I am anxious I thought I must be a women who like man ♂️ and I am keep ruminating about it since then.

What if I acted on the urge and had same sex and regret it? Than had sex with a girl imagine how I feel. I was thinking like this for 2 years before I acted on it and now I’m 20 and had a gf for a lil bit and I’m like why did I suffer for so long and actually have gay sex to then realize I actually do like girls but if I wouldn’t have ever tried it I wouldn’t have known

Hi jake, may I know why when I go through said is just a though, its show more deeper for the sexual intrusive thoughts

Does Hocd mean this is not true and we are not gay as tbis is what my therapist has told me. So scared as some forums say hocd doesn’t mean you are not gay but my therapist said it hocd means you are not gay and it’s denial or sexuality changing

did you also have a loss of attraction to the opposite sex?

have you ever had the fear that you are actually bi but in reality know that you are not?

THIS IS HELL

Can you get these thoughts due to childhood trauma

What’s your instagram ?

I have always been gay but now i can only compulsively masturbate to straight porn and i ruminate a lot, is it normal to masturbate to hocd thoughts?