Studying narcissist and Psychopaths is the best thing I ever did for my intuition and gut feeling among other benefits.

Just never ever open your door to a stranger. It's extremely risky and at times violent and fatal such as this case.

Horrifying. I'm surprised so many women did let this guy into their homes. But then I don't trust any unscheduled strange visitors. 🤕

So his second wife knew he strangled a woman to death, then marries him, and then Also allows him to choke her while they're being intimate.... ?? I think you were spot on when you referred to the saying about scraping the bottom of the barrel, and then said..."but this is like, pushing the barrel out of the way, and then digging 10ft. into the ground." 😅 Very sad case for Diane! Really enjoyed your analysis and final thought, Dr. Grande!

I think this case speaks to the importance of listening to our “gut feeling.” There are situations in which, we don’t exactly know why and can’t provide a logical explanation, but the interaction just seems off. I believe many of us might have experienced situations in which we have been “saved” from inconveniences after acting on this “bad feeling”. That is something we can’t precisely point a finger at but we just know it. Unfortunately, this wasn’t the case with Diane and sadly, it cost her life. Excellent review Dr. Grande, thank you for this video and for the new upload on Patreon.❤️

I sold real estate, and this is breaking all the rules of my safety training. We were told to always meet at the office, and to pre-qualify before showing a home. I asked for ID. Once they showed a pre-approval letter, or proof of funds, then I showed the property. You never just let stranger in unless it’s an open house. You also let them leas, and never fo into the room with them, you stand at the door and talk (in an open house situation). Safety is so important!

I'm afraid to open my door, unless I know someone is expected, so I don't.

When I sold my house I was newly widowed and lived alone. My realtor handled everything and I was not allowed to be home while the house was being shown. I was also advised by my realtor not to leave anything out that might interest a shady individual. There was nothing on my desk. No mail visible. No valuable trinkets. Had someone come to my door unannounced I would have told him to call my realtor.

Have to admit Dr. Grande, every time you say "starting with the inculpatory evidence", it makes me feel like a detective. 🕵️‍♂️🔎

I never let anyone I don't know onto my property. I do live way out in the country, nobody usually comes knocking. It's something I have lived by since I read about the Boston strangler in the 70's. Scary stuff. Thanks Dr Grande for your time and consideration on your videos! Extremely appreciated

My stomach always clenches in knots when I hear that dogs or children are involved in cases. Not that what happened to Diane is easy to hear either, its a horrible way to die. Thanks for the video Dr Grande, I've been sick for days and these help pass the time. ❤️

Again this proves too that “the wrong emotional response” or “not acting properly” isn’t a reason to arrest someone. As both the people close to her didn’t “act right” however at least the police in this case DID do their due diligence and thoroughly checked everything out and got the right guy. Honestly they did a good job. That’s what you should do. Not just oh this guy is acting not concerned enough and this guy is acting too concerned. Let’s arrest him.

Back in the day, long before cell phones, I was home alone after school. I was probably a junior or senior in high school. A man came to the door asking to use my phone (hanging on the wall in the kitchen). We are speaking through the door and the man doesn’t want to give up getting me to open the door. This is during work hours and many people are not home. I didn’t want to be rude and anger this man - I don’t know if we had 911 yet. You used to have to dial the operator and have her connect you to the police. So eventually, I open the door and I step out onto my front porch and I say the phone is in the kitchen. He steps into my parents home and says to me and I reply, . This shocks the man and he seems to take it very personally that I will not enter my home while he is in my home. So then he has to tell me how weird that was for him to be in my home and me not in the home. I honestly can’t tell you if he used the phone or not but I remember this stranger in my home and me not in the home. I can say that my resolve to have distance between myself and this person was felt by this person. He knew I was serious. We used to have these thin steel bars that had a handle like a triangle on the end and a little fork like thing on the other end. They were used to turn on the sprinklers. That tool was in my hand as soon as he said he was he was uncomfortable being in my home alone. I think I said something like you want to use the phone or not. This man may have even asked me about having that tool in my hand. Like he was afraid I was going to hit him with it. I think we argued about his fear that I was going to attack him with it when he walked out of my home. So I proceeded to my front lawn so he could safely leave. I watched that man walk down the street and leave the neighborhood before I went back into the house. I remember feeling really angry that my motives were questioned. I never told my parents because they would have interrogated me and I didn’t want to be told what I did wrong. So many creepy encounters as a young woman. . . . . This kind of bullshit is what women had to deal with back in the day. I could tell you so many stories……

Recognize and react appropriately to boundary violations. It is not wise to become comfortable with them. Excellent advice! Thanks Dr. Grande! ♥️

This is why we as realtors have to have a plan when showing houses to men if we are female. Men are cautious as women can accuse the male realtor of crossing boundaries. We have plans in place in case we are uncomfortable.

One point that I am surprised that Dr Grande did not bring up is that home invasion style offences often are preceded by reconnaissance visits from the perpetrator. If you have a sketchy character making an unannounced visit to your property they are often scoping it out for future shenanigans. Many years ago I was stopping at my uncle's house and he was at work in the evening whilst I was watching TV. There was a knock at the door so I answered it and there was a young woman of about 20 years old (which would have been my age at the time). I didn't know her at all and she seems surprised to see me... After a few moments she asked me the time (it was about 8 o'clock at night) After I told her the time she left and I thought no more of it. After discussing it with my uncle when he returned from work he mentioned that they've been a series of burglaries in the area. On reflection the woman was probably carrying out reconnaissance for a future burglary attempt possibly including her boyfriend/ accomplices. If dubious characters visit your property be aware that there may be in the next few hours or days some sort of criminal activity.

Wow, Dr. Grande, pushing the content faster than I can watch them! Great work!

I don't understand people that murder innocent people and are no threat to them. I just don't understand it. How do these people even look in the mirror and live with themselves?

Reminds me of the murder of a female realtor in Victoria BC 10+ yrs ago. A couple made an appointment to view a property, she was later discovered dead in the house. Very strange.

I was questioning why she didnt have her senses up on this one. Dr. Grande fills it in nicely. Now I see how the rain and her wanting to sell the house left her guard down.

yup... set boundaries .... ppl that violate or test the limits of your boundaries .... they are testing you..... stay strong ... x

This was all before doorbell cameras were a thing, before smart phones were a thing, and talking to someone through your doorbell camera on the front porch. Technology has saved a lot of lives. If you do not have a doorbell camera, get one. There are a least a few that record whoever rings the doorbell, or goes to the door _automatically_ , and do this for no cost each month or year.

I just had some random couple show up unannounced at my house that I'm selling yesterday. Luckily they did not kill me but no one else is getting in without going through my agent now.

A partner telling you to get rid of your pets is a red flag.

This woman was surrounded by so many creeps. What a nightmare! I just assume every man that shows up at the door uninvited is a killer 🙈

It's 1:15 am in the morning here in Kenya 🇰🇪 and I am up so late to not miss any upload by my friend Dr G!

There is another guru who actually interviewed Teal Swan today. Elizabeth April, same name for KZfaq channel. I've always liked EA but was disappointed to see Teal Swan taken seriously. You've taught me some things and I thank you, Dr. Grande. I also like how you are adding items behind your desk. Tip: try to vary the size of the items a bit more. It makes it more visually interesting.

Um a guy comes into my house asking about alarm systems, if I'm alone in the house and wants to see bedrooms I would ask him if he would like a cup of coffee and call 911 in the kitchen and grab a steak knife!

I think you’re right about how their separate desires manifested in tandem to form the worst possible scenario. Interesting angle, Dr. G. I appreciate your thoughts.

I am shocked anyone would let a stranger int their home ! Its beyond a red flag I am astounded at the naivety that people in this case women have When you sell your home you have a real estate agent and you only show your home with them NOT under any other circumstances and YOU do not place a for- sale sign on your property Its a red flag for creeps And if strangers are knocking on the door call the police !

Like always a very clear analysis. 4 points I totally agree with. 1. The intuition of the women. 2. The law enforcement being too confident on the recuperation of this agressive strange behaviors with women of this man, and maybe not checking on him enough. 3. The rain might have confused the victim on helping him to get dry. 4. Her urge to sell her house. Thank u for your commitment in bringing your opinions forward in a clear and democratic way.

Never never never show your house alone especially if you're a woman. Realties should not let lone female agents show houses. A friend of mine lost his sister to murder when as a real estate agent she was alone in a house to show it and at some point the teenaged son of the family who was selling it was either in the house already waiting for her or came to the door.

Excellent analysis as always..but..I have noticed that I need listen to you daily..😶‍🌫️🙄 regarless of where Im or what Im doing 🤦🏻‍♀️ for the past three years 🤔🤔 on a Sunday, in airplane, or vacation 😆😅🤣😂..see you tomorrow ♾️🙌🏼🧿

Some of these comments make me sick. People are blowing wind out of their ***. They don't have all the facts but they think they have all the answers. I certainly don't have all the answers and I went through the entire trial. Also, she did not lead her killer to the upstairs bedroom. He was hiding and waiting for her in the garage when she got home . Diane was my sister.

Only 18 comments. I feel honored to be posting so early in the comments! Keep up the amazing work Doc! I got a notification that the doc hearted this comment. Where's the heart youtube because your breaking mine! Lol!

So many creeps around - how could she stand it?!

Hi, Dr. Grande. Big fan. Can you please analyze the case of actor Ezra Miller and their controversies?

Love the barrel joke. Sad case again. Always putting out good content. Thanks Dr G😉💛💛

Have to wonder why he did such a meticulous cleaning job alongside such a conspicuous trail of evidence.

As a single woman, I’m going to remember this case when I sell my house.

Hi Dr.. I'm glad to see you back in your regular shirts, I don't do so good with change. Great video. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤❤❤❤❤

Dr. Grande, can you speak about the mental health effects of untreated pain, and the case of Michael Louis, the back surgery patient who shot his doctor? Thank you.

Really good , loved listening . Makes me proud and recognize my own boundaries with men. No not a good idea to keep gifts from guys who are just friends or who are going to soon be just a friend. I always love talks on boundaries. TY

Cases like this always pique my interest - I think that most people give "the benefit of the doubt" a little too much. And in instances like this, an (likely) innocent thought of benefit of the doubt turned into a horrible murder. Most of the folks I know are all for giving people the benefit of the doubt explanations for odd or even bizarre things, I had often been the recipient of benefit of the doubt reactions to a whole bunch of creepy stuff I did when I was a practicing alcoholic/drug addict. Sometimes I will give people the benefit of the doubt, but I always keep a skeptical eye on what happens after I do. Dr. Grande, your videos are very educational and helpful for navigating everyday life situations even though many of them are about terrible crimes. I hope you do more like this that express ideas like in your final comments here. As always thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us, it's such a positive thing in the oftentimes very negative world we find ourselves in currently.

I think Dr Grande would be a great friend. Wish there were more caring and together influences like him everywhere. 😂

Dr. Grande Can you tell us why it is that we ignore so many red flags, when they are staring us right in the face? I have been guilty of this, too, (trying to work on enforcing boundaries). It's as if many of us think that "it only happens to other people." Is that some kind of a syndrome?

Bring on the dry humor. I've had a terrible day, catastrophic water damage at the property I manage. Some speculation without diagnosis is just what I need.

Can you please consider covering Dorian Corey? He was featured in the documentary “Paris is Burning” from 1990. Love your work as always, Dr!

Besides all the horrifying things. How the fuck did he owe 200k on a TRAILER?! Was he living in some sort of expensive RV? I mean you’re better off just buying a house

Dr. Grande, have you looked at Sarah Boone, in Winter Park, FL, whose boyfriend died after she zipped up a large suitcase that she told him to get in? Then she recorded herself taunting him as he struggled to get out, and kept calling her name to help him. It is chilling.

Great analysis 🧐. Many thanks for sharing. So very sad what happens to innocent people😔.

I have watched the behavioral panel for over a year. It’s interesting that they explain “gut feelings”. They say that our brains interpret behavior and know something is off. Even when we can’t pin point what is off. We have to trust our gut - every time.

💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏 So sad. Prayers for Diane's Family.

Thanks Dr. G. Great as always !

Most shocking moment? He owed 200,000$ on a trailer!! What trailer costs hundreds of thousands of dollars?!?? 😮 Are you sure it wasn't $2000 ?

Just as we know it’s sometimes dangerous to answer every knock at the door, it’s also dangerous for people to go door to door trying to sell something. I feel especially worried for the teenagers who are asking for help going to college who must go door to door selling magazine subscriptions or something. Crazy world.

This case had all the red flags out there, and its surprising that the women who were targeted were not young, and naive. Hes sweating, no eye contact, asked many personal questions, and even got irate. Wth? Are there any inmates that do not find God in prison, join the ministry and are suddenly no longer a threat to society 🤔 Great job Dr. Grande, your voice always makes me want to take a nap.

13:00 You forgot to mention he was pretending to be that scariest of suburban monsters: *the cash buyer*

Good take-away message on not becoming accepting of or comfortable with boundary violations! Thank you!

I enjoy your comments almost as much as I enjoy the videos. Keep them coming. Thanks for your work, Dr. G. You never disappoint😍

Can you analyze the case of ME being obsessed and so thankful for these videos and your perspective and expertise 🙏✌️

Good morning Dr Grande! I am casting you to my 64inch tv and pretending we are having coffee together while you tell me a story! Thank you sir! Haha.. Have a great day, doctor

Thank you Dr Grande. You are the best and the hardest man , on KZfaq.

Ah yes, Dr. Grande🧡 always a good day when you post.

What I can’t really understand is, don’t other people kind of analyze themselves and their behavior? I know I do. I can’t understand how a man allows himself to only be sexually aroused when he is choking someone. Why would women continue to remain with a guy who wants to choke them? Why isn’t it an automatic red flag for yourself if you realize you want to hurt a sexual partner? When I am with women, the only thing I think about is pleasuring them. I know a lot of men only think about themselves being pleasured, but between the two desires, nobody is physically being hurt. I think if a woman finds herself fantasizing about being raped, I think she should discuss that with a mental health professional, and if a man had fantasies about raping or hurting women, he too should seek help. I think as soon as anyone wants to hurt you, you should try to get away from them, because it’s the warning light that a murderer would also do that. I’ve never encountered any women who want anything to do with that, so it’s got to be a low number.

Nice, Doc. As always

Your dry humor is the BEST! Love your analysis and appreciate your insight!

She didn’t deserve this, but how many times does it need to be told to women…..”don’t let an unknown man in your house”!!!!!

So scary. Do you think this is an unusual case of sexual sadism? It's weird that he had a level of awareness and confessed openly to his pastor. He did not seem too cautious or worried about getting caught. I wonder about the link between sexual sadism and psychopathy.

The first thing that crossed my mind was why this woman Diane didn’t seem to have the same red flag about this guy that the other dozen women had. Perhaps as you suggested it was raining and the guy was soaked. Maybe his demeanor was different. But she also seemed to have an “interesting” questionable relationship with men in general. One guy obsessing over her and buying her gifts, yet she has no interest in him. But still allows him to come around. Usually people tend to distance themselves from someone like that so as not to lead them on. And because they know the guy isn’t going to just stop having feelings for them. She loved the attention and ego boost. Then ends up with the other guy who spends almost $20,000 on an engagement ring for it. That would be a red flag to me. Can’t imagine someone spending such an obscene amount over a ring. I couldn’t accept that. Yet she had no problem accepting it. Then allows this strange guy to come into her house. It seems to me she had no boundaries when it came to male dalliances. I think there is a lesson there for those who feel they might fit the similar demographic she did.

Others have recommended a book, “The Gift of Fear”, by Gavin de Becker. It’s available at the library or in paperback. My daughter and I have read the book. Good common sense thinking to recognize, avoid dangerous situations. Easy read. I recommend it too.

Your advice could save a lot of women’s lives.

Always good to hear from you! Great video as always!! Congrats on the many many many new subscribers!

1996 is also the year I moved to Austin. That's back when Austin was a cool city to live in.

There's no way law enforcement could have known he was visiting those houses dude

I wonder if the police ever searched pawn shops to trace back to the thief who stole that extremely expensive engagement ring? I think the man she was engaged to was a cold-hearted creep. (for a second i wondered if he had hired this murderous ex-con as a hit man) The fellow who was enamored of this poor, naive woman was eager to help the police, probably because he actually cared about her. (unlike the insensitive and cold reaction from the former fiancee)

Would love to hear your thoughts on Donna Preusker aka Arabella Del Busso!

Going to other houses for sale was good detective work. At that point no one knew. Thanks doc.

I worked at IBM for 7 years but this case was before my time. It's terrible tragedy.

I like this vid. Good insight and Great anaylsis...I agree watch the boundary violations.

Enjoy your vids because you cover many different backgrounds and situations 👍❤️

People need to get healthy hobbies, a girlfriend, Purpose, joy and happiness. People like this...I'd launch into the sun with no problems sleeping at night. Stay safe out there people, honor your parents, honor The Creator. Have dignity and teach your children righteousness and justice. Thank you Dr Grande.

I think you're so right about the police saying that if you have an emotional reaction that they don't recognize or like, you must be guilty of something. I think that the police expect people to react to bad news just like the "normal" people or the majority of people they encounter. They expect you to act just like everyone else did prior to their interaction with you. If you don't then they get suspicious and if they can't find the real killer they just zero in on you. They start to construct a theory that includes you because they are lazy or too inept to actually do some police work. Cops put out the message that we should trust them all the time no matter what. Realistically they don't trust you and will lie about whatever is needed to trick you into going to jail. It's sad but true. People should never trust a cop or even talk to them without a lawyer. They will do almost anything to not let you get your lawyer in the room with you. Look at Brenden Dassey still in prison for saying he helped Steven Avery kill Teresa Hallbach. He didn't do it and they know it. The cops that got him to confess told him that if he just says yes to murdering her that he could go back to class. Dassey was a 16 year old mentally disabled kid who was not involved in anything like that. But if the cops got the confession from him saying that he helped Steven Avery kill Teresa they could go and arrest Steven Avery for the crime. Those two detectives berated him for hours and fed him all the information that they needed for a confession. They told him if he just confessed to murdering Teresa with Steven Avery he could just walk out of there and go back to school. They lied to him and ruined his life in a matter of hours. They should go to jail for that. It's hard to watch them coach him into confessing to murdering her. The cops knew he wasn't there but they needed that confession to go and arrest Steven Avery who they wanted to blame all along without even investigating anything. The cops in that town are a bunch of criminals. They searched Averys house twice and didn't find any evidence linking him to the crime. But the third time they searched his house they found Teresa Hallbachs car key in his bedroom on the floor in plain sight. That is just scary. The cops had the key the whole time and planted it in his bedroom on the second search so that they could say that they found it in his bedroom. How did they get that car key? Only the killer would have it. So you can do the math here because Steven Avery was going to get 400,000$ for the wrongful conviction of rape that he spent 15 or 20 years in prison for. The police were under the gun and some of them were going to have to come out of pocket to pay him because of their prior harmful conduct. So I think that the police killed Teresa and framed Avery using Dassey so that they could say that he is a monster that needs to go to prison. Steven Avery was about a month out of prison and was getting a large settlement in a week or so. He didn't kill her. Come on there's no way that he would kill her and then just park her car in his junk yard and just go on with life. And drop her car keys in his bedroom. None of it makes sense. The only thing that does make sense is that the cops did it. Somebody really needs to fix this case because it is a travesty that Steven Avery got wrongly convicted again. I couldn't imagine what that's like. Those cops are so crooked. I wonder what else they're up to. Who else they harmed. Steven Avery can't be the only one. Not with that kind of behavior. They've done that many times before. Somebody please get Steven Avery out of prison. And Brendan Dassey too. Then put those cops in jail for a long time. That's justice.

This is besides the point but Diane was unwise to continue to accept favors from ray when she knew what he wanted and she had no intention of doing it.

Dr. Grande, I really enjoy your videos and especially your accurate knowledge of firearms.

🌱 4:30 PM… Is that considered evening or late afternoon? Either way, good to see you DR.GRAND🌵E !

This guy is probably the reason realtors tell you not to let anyone who turns up at the door in to see your house when it's for sale. Although I guess that's common sense.

You nailed it. The cops are experts on everything, but they never prevent crime, just investigate, maybe, afterwards.

This is one of the reasons why I don't answer my door when a random person knocks, if you can't text me, I don't know you personally enough to open my door. Also, imagine how those other women felt knowing it could have been them murdered. 😓

This was a good one 👍🤓

An analysis of the stories in the newer Netflix documentary, Web of Make Believe: Death, Lies and the Internet would be cool. :) It could possibly be several videos because there are 5 different scenarios (6 episodes with one that has 2 parts).

Thanks for the video Dr Grande. Love the shirt.

Dr. Grande, would you please write a 3 minute sonnet and sing it for us on here? Thank you.

Would you please consider giving your opinion on the case of Mamdoah Habib, please, Dr Grande? Thanks for all your videos and the hard work you put into them

Why is always important lesson for the victim but not for the murderer, I wonder? When they chose to kill they will, no matter how freaking cautious you are.

I hope those cute dogs weren’t harmed in the process of this despicable act.

Never accept gifts from someone that's interested in you, that you have no interest in. Whatever things they give you isn't worth having to potentially deal with their anger when they realize you're using them.

He couldn't be more guilty than if the murder was on actual video - SO GUILTY!!!

🌱 Sage advice Dr. Grand🌵e.. Like I said before, even when my mom tells me she loves me… I check the facts..😉 🦈 beware🦈 Sharks patrol these waters.. 🦈🦈🦈

You’re welcome Dr Grande. 💐🤟