How Cache left fears and re-discovered peaceful sleep (Talking insomnia

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In this edition of Talking insomnia we get to know BedTyme graduate Cache. We learn how an intense struggle turned into a learning experience and finding the true meaning of empathy.
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Hypnic jerks, hypnic awareness and other common issues.
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Speed bumps - when you think you had a setback or “relapse.”
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Heard online - when you’ve worried about claims made about health problems and insomnia.
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@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Do you like our way of teaching? Would you like to unpause your life, sleep well and feel like yourself again? We can help! For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you. We look forward to seeing you on the inside!

@coco-cabanak.7160 Жыл бұрын

"eliminating the pressure, and it needs time, that the unconscious mind believes that." ....that is great!

@bunnyvolg4751 4 ай бұрын

Thanks! Daniel I love your videos, since the first time I started watching your videos my sleep immediately started to get better, your a good man

@user-cf1vp5bb4r 11 ай бұрын

Many thanks Cache - So much of your story has resonated with me. It is so helpful to hear someone else identify things that you have struggled with and to hear that time and patience and knowledge do help. I needed the reminder of the positives of speed bumps and I know that i need to be fearless and do the things that I fear might be affected by sleeplessness. Thank you - you have helped today.

@dsison18 Жыл бұрын

Great video! This resonated with me so much!

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

So glad it did 😊

@johnlant1730 Жыл бұрын

This was helpful. Thank you Daniel.

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Glad it was John, and anything 😊

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Anytime!

@michellechang2538 Жыл бұрын

This interview was a treasure found for me. I totally can relate to What Cache said, all the fears & thoughts are so true to many insomnia people, I’m so grateful for Daniel to post all various interviews with different people to share their successful stories, it gives so much hope and confidence to endless people suffering with insomnia.

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

So so glad you found it Michelle, and grateful for the support 😊🙏

@michellechang2538 Жыл бұрын

Me again, just wanted emphasize the value of this interview is priceless, I learned soooo much from it, although my insomnia is getting slightly more stable but this video will help me have a wonderful breakthrough …. Thank you 🙏 both Daniel and Cache !

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

🤗 so glad to read these lines. And I know Cache will the same!

@manfredkohnen7479 Жыл бұрын

GREAT interview. One question to Cache: how exactly did u confront ur fear during the night when u couldn‘t sleep? Did u stay in bed with ur anxious mind? Did u get out bed and for ex. watch tv?… Thanks!

@hectormichel3062 Ай бұрын

*THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE* #BIBLE

@valerie5546 Жыл бұрын

Amazing interview! Thank youuuu, both Daniel and Cache! So many valuable lessons here. It's so scary to let go of all sleep efforts, but really this is the way to healing. I'm having a pretty rough speed bump at the moment, after 2 months of sleeping pretty good (I started my Bedtyme subscription at the beginning of March) and slowly after that I managed to get a pretty decent sleep, but the fear was still there. This is my first major speed bump since then (I had a few bad nights now and then before, but it only lasted 1/2 nights). Now I'm struggling for a week to fall asleep and I had nights in which I fell asleep at 5 am (also took lorazepam-big mistake). But I'm not that scared anymore, at least not like I was at the beginning when I didn't know what was happening. Also, even if I have a bad night, my days are much better. I realized that this is truly a journey, that I have to let time pass and be patient with myself. I was fearing speed bumps before (still a little now), because I thought that this means that I'm not getting better and that I'm starting from 0. I still have a little bit of intrusive thoughts that maybe I'll be stuck like this forever and that I cannot fully recover, even with all this knowledge...This is not true! Prior to this speed bump I still had fear, I took melatonin each night to help me to get to a state of sleepiness, I would shut my curtains off so tight so that if I wake up at 4 (so an hour before the sun rises), I wouldn't know. Even though, I was learning and reading and watching all these videos, I was still, without doing so many sleep efforts. Instead of going towards my fears, I was avoiding it. Going towards it one, twice, as many times it is needed, and going through speed bumps, once, twice, as many times it is needed, this will lead to truly healing.

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Valerie! So glad you caught this video and you know, you said it sooo well here. This truly is the way. And you know, I say often that if someone tells me “Daniel, I slept 7 hours!” then of course I’m glad because there was some relief but, there can be some performance anxiety when we celebrate sleep. Now what really makes me glad is when someone says “I didn’t sleep much, but I was okay”, or “I was really anxious, but I’m reacting less to this” - because this leads in the opposite direction of performance anxiety. It leads towards less and less effort, less response, more peace… and this is what I see in your message. And this wouldn’t happen if it wasn’t for some really wonderful heart work 😊

@user-zq4dj9ph3k 11 ай бұрын

I also struggle with this thought that I’ll never be able to recover even with all this knowledge. How does one get past this? However one thing I feel has started to happen is that my anxiety associated with sleepless nights has reduced. I mean I’m trying to shift my mindset to being more positive with whatever happens at night. Am I going in the right direction?

@thesleepcoachschool8192 11 ай бұрын

You know, knowing that so many had no hope or belief but did well… this can help

@kadirkale686 2 ай бұрын

Super similar with me..thanks for sharing. Been in this state now for 3 years..sleep great for 2 months and than rabbit hole for couple of days..on and off. Maybe I was succesfully avoiding it as you say, instead of sincerely facing it. So the fear and discomfort is still there

@KimsCS124 27 күн бұрын

@@kadirkale686well at least you know for sure that you can do it. You’re gonna be fine

@hectormichel3062 Ай бұрын

AMEN BROTHER

@Moody90524 Жыл бұрын

Cache, thank you for sharing your story! I am a Christian too! I have had the struggles like you and many of the things that Daniel teaches have helped me as well... I would like to agree with you that we have an unseen enemy that loves to exacerbate our struggles I have had to deal with added fear scanning to normal life as well. The bible says that to think it not strange when seemingly strange things happen to us because they happen to many believers and non believers. The beauty of it is Gods grace he allows healing and strengthening to everyone.

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

So glad you caught this one 😊

@1timbarrett 3 ай бұрын

Organized religion can be a moral mainstay, but it cannot outweigh the damage done to young people when we deprive them of sleep. Fortunately at age 65 I have finished growing physically , but I still believe it is unconscionable to cheat a still-growing minor of sleep…!

@karengracemusicvideo Жыл бұрын

Hello Daniel. Thank you for your channel which I just discovered. I have always been a good sleeper and have been very stable and happy for 2 decades. Then in April I started getting tinitus, which has led to terrible insomnia. At the beginning I had 5 sleepless nights in a row which alongside the tinitus symptoms and fear around that left me in the darkest place I have ever been in my life .... (Those extreme thoughts only lasted 2 days, and I am more stable than that now). I think I am getting used to the tinitus now, and using pink noise at night to mask it. But my sleep has been very patchy. I have had a handful of nights of 8 hours in a row, and also a handful with no sleep at all, and everything in between. Last night I slept 1 hour. My doctor is encouraging me to take a low dose of mirtazapine which is an antidepressant which is also used for insomnia in low doses. I am tempted to, because I just feel my body needs a big reset. But I also very much like what I have heard of your teaching so far since discovering your channel this morning. I recognise you aren't here to provide medical advice, but I wondered if there are any success stories with people who have successfully combined medication and your teachings? Do you have any thoughts on this that you can share at all ? I'm just finding it so hard to know where to turn. Thanks so much.

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Hi Karen, So glad you found your way here and you know, sooo many have left the struggle taking medication, sooo many have left without taking medication, often when we see that this isn’t actually what makes a difference… then there’s less pressure and things get easier 🙂

@karengracemusicvideo Жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thank you Daniel. I do very much vibe with where you are coming from. I recognise in myself the hypervigilance around every aspect of this journey, and it really helps to hear someone speak to that part of me. The journey continues. Thank you for all you share here- it is providing me with hope... X

@coco-cabanak.7160 Жыл бұрын

If the tiredness after many nights of not sleeping wouldn't be so terrible, i would never ever care about the importance of sleep.Lack of sleep is really not enjoyable, otherwise the insomniacs wouldn't look for help. If your method is really the solution for my sleep issues, i will let you know. I have really some big struggle with sleep, which already started in my school years, when i was a teenager.

@kelseymartens5417 Жыл бұрын

Hey my friend. Something came to mind for what you are experiencing that I think may be helpful. But when you mention about sleepless nights being so terrible, it leads me to believe there are other areas in your life in which you are experiencing excessive pressure, or anxiety. It may be self image (how you may appear to others), a need to impress others, could be performing a certain way in sports, the pressure to do well at work with fear you could lose your job if you don't, etc. But the more a person "gives up" the fight and the "need" to perform, and you are able to start accepting yourself for who you are and where you are at right now in life. Then the struggle will fade. And the reduced pressure in regular life will allow yourself to be more ok with a sleepless or poor night's sleep, and then eventually sleep shall come. The goal isn't to sleep, the goal is to rid yourself of anxiety, fear, excessive pressure, and performance, in all areas of life. I hope this is helpful!

@zincerish Жыл бұрын

@@kelseymartens5417 very true! It's the anxiety/fear that's causing the not sleeping! I'm addressing mine with an anti anxiety med just temporarily as it's very tough dealing with anxiety when your fatigued or sleep deprived. So trust me people, if you were always an anxious person before your sleeping issues started then you NEED to give your body a break and take a temporary med to help you get over this hump! Then sleep will come and you'll be restored to not need the anxiety med anymore!

@coco-cabanak.7160 Жыл бұрын

@@kelseymartens5417 yes, thank you very much, i like your message! If you have read some good books in this area, you can call me the name of the books (if you like).

@thesleepcoachschool8192 Жыл бұрын

Hi coco-cabana, So glad you found some helpful replies and by coincidence, todays mining the comments talks about this topic so do check it out as well. Hang in there and be in touch!

@coco-cabanak.7160 Жыл бұрын

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thanks, i have watched it 👌 i like your concept of "mining the comments".

@jenniferlee9029 3 ай бұрын

Hi Coach Daniel. How do you let go of the fear? What do you do or say to yourself to let go of the fear? Thanks ❤

@thesleepcoachschool8192 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for your comment!! Just a quick heads-up: we're hosting live Q&A sessions most weeks and we'd love for you to join us! It's a great chance to ask questions, share insights, and connect with others in the community.

@christinehanley9561 6 ай бұрын

Which book did you read of Daniel’s Cache?

@sharang747 9 ай бұрын

My insomnia is back but I’m ok I know what to do. At least I’m sleeping an hour if that. I keep waking up with nightmares thinking I’ve slept a lot but only 45 mins take me forever to fall asleep and then I wake up and skim the surfaces of sleep still aware of my environment. Funny he talk about the bible because in my nightmares I’m Often casting out demons with the rosary chant. I did then resort to the rosary and it helps me calm

@thesleepcoachschool8192 9 ай бұрын

Glad you have found a way to meet these challenges Sharan, and thanks for being in touch

@thedesignjourney953 2 ай бұрын

I've had severe stress causing hypnic jerks, leading to sleepless nights. Even when I do sleep, I wake up at 2 or 3 am, then struggle to fall back asleep. Here is the solution. Don't worry this will work. Step 1 Massage: 1.Put some oil on your hand and rub it on the bottom of your toes. 2.Press the bottom of each toe from big toe to pinky toe, starting gently and increasing pressure. 3.Pinch the base of each toe gently. 4.Massage the entire bottom of your feet, including the ankle and heel, with oil For each foot, follow these steps and use paper to soak up extra oil. Don't forget to wear socks. It's crucial. Use aromatic oil to prevent any bad smells from the socks. Make sure you have different socks for bedtime: ankle-length for warm weather and full-length for cold weather. Step 2 Breathing exercise followed by meditation: Breathing Exercise: A. Posture: When you're ready , either sit or lie down on your bed. If you're sitting, ensure your back is properly supported for comfort. B. Technique Working Principle : Fold your thumb inward, tucking it inside your four fingers. Then, focus on your breath and notice the airflow. You'll observe that when you fold the left thumb, the airflow is more prominent in the left nostril, and vice versa.

@user-zq4dj9ph3k 11 ай бұрын

Hi Coach, So I’m attaching too much importance to CBT. Like it has to work and it’s creating a lot of pressure. How do I get past this?

@thesleepcoachschool8192 11 ай бұрын

I think it’s about acknowledging what we know, and then not being hard on ourselves for trying things like pressure or CBTi as an effort

@zincerish Жыл бұрын

30:00 what's the burnt finger analogy??

@maheway7880 10 ай бұрын

I second want to know

@mestayno 3 ай бұрын

me too

@khushali202 28 күн бұрын

Hi daniel ,I get sleep at night but not like before where i just lay down and slept.after laying down for almost an hour ,i sleep and the quality is also very light sleep ......How can i regain my ability of sleeping like a baby

@valerie5546 Жыл бұрын

I also have a question for women that go through all this journey. Have you experienced increased fear/anxiety related to sleep or even went through a speed bump because your period was approaching? I feel like when I'm close to my period, or during my whole luteal phase, I have a lot of anxiety and fear that sometimes lead to a speed bump...I know there are a lot of hormonal imbalances during this time, but I want to know if someone relates to it as well 😄 Thank youu!

@virginiamuller253 Жыл бұрын

yes i experience the same!! I have my period at the Moment and yeah, speed bumps and anxiety all the Time… and i think more than while follicular phase or ovulation isn‘t it?

@Stuffed_chicken Жыл бұрын

Me too!! Usually starts exactly one week before my period. Almost guaranteed to have a speed bump.

@Veronika-zy1to Жыл бұрын

Hi Valerie, yes, I have experienced this when I was in my recovery journey already. I was sleeping already well, but there were like 3 days every month that I didn't sleep. I tried to predict those 3 days and accomodate to it to experience it in the best possible way, but those 3 days always appeared. It has changed when I came accross some interview with a woman who had the same experience. Sleepless around her period and she said that she also accomodated her days to this time eg. she moved the morning meetings to later in the day. So I thought: " I can deal with 3 sleepless nights in a month" and shrugged. Weirdly enough, that was the last time I experienced it :)

@kaitlyndinger578 8 ай бұрын

I would love to know how Cache spent his waking hours during the night after following the program. I'd also love an update on how he is now. :)

@thesleepcoachschool8192 8 ай бұрын

We will ask him to come back for a “Life after insomnia” episode. In the meantime, this is the best way to ask as many guests check comments 👍

@AlexanderDassen-io4jw 8 ай бұрын

Hi Daniel, Can you tell something more about the situation that the sleepstruggel is starting to disappear but the brain is starting to scan other threats and that is a good sign? My trigger for insomnia was a period of 3 year a form of itch wat was becoming so stressfull that i couldnt sleap anymore and then shifted the focus to sleep.. now that this itch problem is over en the insomnia is starting to fade away the brain is scanning the itch again. However the itch is gone but subcounciously it seems that it doesnt believe the original trigger an treath isnt over. Sow now this ‘ unreal’ threat is keeping me now awake and I see it is the brain scanning and do its work. So this is a good sign in my recovery proces? Thanks for all your work. Alexander

@thesleepcoachschool8192 8 ай бұрын

Hi Alexander, Yes it’s very common on the path of leaving the struggle. Here’s some more on this topic. It is very common that as we start understanding why we have struggled with sleep, the brain starts focusing on something else. Sometimes it is tinnitus, sometimes it is restless legs, sometimes it is some other health concerns. And it is not difficult to see why this happens. The brain is a survival machine. It is always out there to keep you safe. It's built to problem solve and look out for threats. When you learn that for example being awake at night is no real threat, the brain often has been very active, and it looks for something else that may be a threat. This is why as the focus shifts from sleep, the brain can find other things to “keep you safe from”. What is nice though is that you have already seen how when you are willing to learn and experience something that is not comfortable without trying to escape, it bothers you less and less. If you had been not willing at all to learn or be awake at night or to be more willing to experience this, then you would not have seen that the brain shifted focus. It would still be entirely focused on seep. So the way to be less bothered by other things that come from the brain trying to keep you safe is to deploy the same counterintuitive approach of friendship. Be willing to experience it. Take note of it. Understand that this too comes from a place of confusion in the safety minded brain. Be mindful when it comes to Google and research. Be kind to yourself and don’t judge yourself. And then when our brain understands that we are indeed safe, it finds less and less things to keep us safe from. Hope this will help!

@AlexanderDassen-io4jw 8 ай бұрын

Hi Daniel, thanks for your reply. The insight that the focus shift its just the same as the sleepstruggel. Open up to it and let i be completely. Its all knowledge about how the brain works. You always say it is the knowledge and then the commitment to experience it all is the way how the brain heals. So gratefull for your teachings🙏🙏🙏

@thesleepcoachschool8192 8 ай бұрын

@AlexanderDassen-io4jw anytime Alexander and yes, this is the way 😊