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Something I’ve always found interesting is how we are rewarded or complimented much more on our changing physical appearance than our changes in personality. If you lose weight or have a “glow up” many people will praise you. However improving your inner self doesn’t receive that same amount of praise. The person who benefits and notices the most from your emotional growth is you.

The best way to grow emotionally is to continue to put ourselves into new situations and learn from them.

why do u guys keep posting videos that are so relevant at the right time

You micro-grow everyday with every judgment and resentment you train yourself to avoid. Pettiness erodes the soul- and it's childish. Don't squash feelings, but forgive and expand beyond your one perspective with reason and empathy. Assert your personality with tact and authenticity everyday. Welcome those who match, and politely let go of those who cannot. You learn from every human interaction. The good and the bad.

Building character and growing emotionally is so under appreciated!

I kept ignoring my emotions (because I didn't know how to deal with them) until I had the biggest breakdown of my life.. now I'm still picking the pieces together but I know I'm growing more mature, I can feel it!

This last 3 years I've done nothing but being in my room, suffering and destroying myself. This year I took therapy and it has helped me a lot. I'm still a very lonely and introvert person that escape from social interactions but at least I'm trying until it works. I'm 30 btw 😂

Really important to recognize periods of depression or anxiety as unmet emotional needs and opportunities to reflect on what we really need. It's often just interpreted as self-depricating behavior, but if you can see through it it can be like shedding skin.

We have two sides for emotional growth. 1.connection -close friends 2.self expression -passion We became totally a emotionally mature person when we have found good connections and also when we do what we love.

A person who is emotionally grown and healthy is far more attractive and valuable than a person who is just physically healthy or beautiful. Realizing this fact as I am working on making better connections and working on expressing myself and what I stand for. This video is greatly encouraging!

Connect but NEVER lose yourself.

why is it that i know hes speaking but i cant understand anything

Past traumas has crippled me emotionally... but I was able to breakthrough

The times I emotionally grew most was when I acted on achieving my goals despite the uncomfortable situations. Uncomfortable situations are part of growing emotionally and learning and letting go of them is the 🔑.

I feel like the faster you accept responsibility is the faster you become an adult no matter what age you are. I swear I became the most happy when I became self sufficient. There’s nothing more fulfilling then listening to your self and supporting yourself. I recently just did a video on the same topic pretty sure y’all will like it. Much love ❤️

This video was recommended to me the day after I ended a 3 year relationship with someone I love because of some unknown mystery force that compelled me. I was blissful and in love, but I was a shutdown, weak, emotional, selfish, and blind lover, even if I hid it well. I couldn't be a version of myself I felt was complete and even though this is a girl I would be happy to spend the rest of my life with, I didn't feel like I could be my best for her. So yesterday, I pulled the trigger spontaneously and severed our bond with a certain clarity and precision I didn't know I was capable of. It shattered her, me as well. Usually I am timid and can't make up my mind during our life together - but when it all went down I just turned into a robot and shut down parts of my brain I new wouldn't let me do it. Today all I could think of is what the fuck max how could you do that. You love her. How could you hurt her, how could you give her up. What I did took a sort of courage I didn't know I had, and it scared me. I truly believe the action I took will not only help me, but help her, because we are very similar people with very similar problems. I care about her so much that I want whats best for her, not just whats best for myself, even if it means I don't get to have her, and she doesn't get to have me. I had to do it, and something inside me told me. Now I know why. I've lived in a fog during the last two years, and something deep down in my subconscious PUSHed me to do this. Like a robot carrying out commands. Your bodies desire to grow is real, and suffering is a part of existence and a message to yourself. I don't know if its your gut or your heart or your brain you need to listen to, but it my case, it was a part of all three. Hopefully I meet her again later in life, and we are both ready to start the rest of our journey as unique, complete people. Deep down you know what needs to be done. Don't block out the pain. Face it. Find courage.

Seriously this channel is watching me. I couldn't have needed this at a better time

Having to sacrifice connection for self-expression or vice-versa is one of the most tragic situations I can think of. I had to do it a few times and I chose self-expression out of duty for myself but it was always tremendously sad.

This channel is like our FBI who watches us and uploads the right content for us at the right time.

I wish this stuff was talked/ taught about in school.

Connection and Self-Expression make up our Emotional Drive, which in turn helps us Grow Emotionally. If this the Emotional Drive isn't fulfilled, we'll end up subscribing to The School of Life 🙈👅

I am a little worried that these days many social media seem to emphasise more on the stability and respect than on the growth of an individual. The latter will naturally be followed by the former! It’s more important to feel our growing ourselves than to gain other’s respect and attention.

So this explained that we DO grow emotionally, and WHY it's important, but didn't really explain HOW we can.

I'm a 26 years old dude with the emotional growth of a 12 years old.

I spent 20 + years in finding out reasons for my chronic dissatisfaction and a constant feeling of inferiority... Had to beat myself thousands of times again against the walls of what I found out 8 years back was, emotional immaturity. Until I realized that that (can also be called for emotional rigidness) was the primar reason for my pain. Since then I've undergone an immense emotional growth which braught significant transformation in all important areas of my life, specifically on feeling connected, as that was essentiel for me to imrove. Now main focus is on self expression, and here I'm already applying tools I learned in enchancing the connection part.

I just love this channel so much. Thank you forever for existing ♥️🙏🏽

Wow! It is incredibly amazing just how alien this video seemed to me. I remember in elementary school that I did try to connect with other students for a few years until a girl and her boyfriend in grade 5 said, "Why do you try to make friends and talk to others so much."You are too different from everybody for you to make friends and too ugly to ever get a girlfriend." I walked away and although emotionally hurt, I gave a lot of thought to what the couple said. It never dawned on me that I looked so different from everyone else in class, spoke very different because French and English were not my original languages, and that other students that race, looks, and mannerisms were so important to them. None of that meant anything to me. But I heeded their advise and simply quit trying to make friends with anybody nor try to get a girlfriend. Grade 6 through 10, I barely spoke nor interacted with anybody at all. I assumed only physical and mental development are important after sixth grade to just now. School never spoke of emotional health. So I simply ignored emotions believing they are childish and mere vestiges of ancient times. I tried to make friends again in 1999. I was fooled to believing I did make friends and even a girlfriend. It felt good to me. I guess social predators saw my heavy inexperience being social and moved in for an attack. My, "girlfriend," convinced me to befriend her six friends and I did. I thought I had a small social circle. But it was all a cruel trap to use, betray, and then painfully abandon me and abuse me emotionally. I deleted them all from my life and have been in social isolation since 8 August 2000 at 18:34. I decided never to allow an attack like that to ever have the possibility of ever happening to me again and never went back to attempting to be social again. I have never had any true friends nor a girlfriend. All my family lives in a different continent. I have nobody in my life. But I never thought it was a problem to be lonely and disconnected from everyone. I do not even have coworkers in my shift. I have believed since 8 August 2000 that social connections, friends, a girlfriend, aquaintences, social interactions, are not important and serve no purpose in life anymore. I just chose to ignore all emotional and social aspects of life. I have done well with nobody in my life. I am extremely self reliant and independent. I never ask help from anybody, not even from professional service providers. I do advanced home, automotive, and property repair completely by myself because I refuse to be robbed by modern, "professionals," and I know nobody to ask for help on anything. I really can not really imagine getting assistance in all that I do. This lowly KZfaq video is the very first time I have heard emotional health is even something at all. I have always concentrated on physical and mental health. I just never knew emotional and social health needed attention also. Needless to say, it is very likely I am emotionally and socially extremely unhealthy. But what importance does it really have? It does not pay my bills, feed me, give me water and shelter. I does not give me protection. It really seems completely irrelevant to me. I am six years from finishing my mortgage payments. I have no credit usage, nor debt, at all, save for the mortgage. I am extremely physically healthy. I have a great paying job tuwt pays more than what college graduates make. I have no loans, leins, nor anything needing major expense to remedy. I still fail to see the importance of emotional health and social connections. I have never done it. I am doing fine.

I so appreciate this video. I've been reflecting on and writing about the human drive for connection/intimacy, and, in my own way, self-expression, for the better part of the past year! I never linked these two things to the overarching development of our emotional growth but it makes so much sense and offers such a lovely interpretation of the greater picture. Thank you for making your wonderful videos 💜💜

I am very happy to say that watching school of life and putting it into practice is one of the biggest acts of self expression in my life

This is so accurate it's almost frightening. It's like someone has access to feelings I have but never mention. It's also comforting because one understands there's nothing fundamentally wrong with them. It's just they have unmet needs. Thanks for sharing.

It's super difficult to ever choose a favorite video when TSOL makes such great videos on fascinating subjects like Philosophy and Literature but this video has such a powerful and resonating message! I'm over here having an epiphany now! Thanks!

These videos always manage to teach me something regardless of what I'm going through or where I am in life, keep up the amazing videos!

I’m so proud to say that I’ve drastically changed emotionally within two years, through hard work of course.

I would just like to say a massive thank you to the school of life for continually providing meaningful and insightful food for thought, I’m a big fan

What a great paradox. From the time we are born, our bones get flesh on their own. While on the other hand, our emotional growth is entirely dependent on our learnings and experiences! Which can only be enforced if we accept the realities of life. Brain and heart both grows and we are always confused between what to follow, i.e. choosing between sylla and Charybdis!

This is an absolute gem. I can't express enough gratitude to you guys for this..

So much density of quality content packed in six minutes... One can feel the diligence behind this video. Thanks for your efforts.

Sincerely, thank you School of Life for always making me feel less crazy.

I clicked on this because I'm constantly quitting jobs when I don't agree with their rules. I need to grow emotionally. A need for self-expression was exactly what y'all determined my job problem as. The people on this channel really are intelligent!

It s a hell of a task. But Im happy Im keeping on. Everyday a new challenge and I found the way to manage them easier. Im very proud of the hard and painful work it was getting to know me better.

Thanks for reminding me why I'm a subscriber! I really needed to hear this today! I've been struggling with this these past few days. A nasty recurring combination of anhedonia (at least when it comes to what should be attended to), amotivation (see previous), and an inability to think clearly and focus enough to do those things which better promote emotional growth. Sheer laziness is one thing (which I have in spades), but it's far worse to suffer the repeated experience of wanting to pursue a goal or project while feeling too muddled to do so. This video inspired me to take another crack at accomplishing something today rather than put it off for another day.

Yes a "breakdown" is often really a breakthrough!

I always say and feel and know that you have a very good team.. From producers to editors to animators to voice over artist, and all those associated with 'The School of Life'.

@theschooloflife everyone on your team is doing the highest form of service mankind will ever know! Thanking you all is just not enough. I cherish your overall presentation (especially the vocabulary) and sincerely apply it. Even at my skeptical best I can't argue with anything that's said here. In short, this is my favourite channel. Keep it complex and keep it coming

“A breakdown is a round about attempt to create opportunities for a breakthrough.”

Emotional growth is not about ignoring, suppressing undesirable emotions, focusing only on good emotions. Maturity in emotions involves personality accountability, self-awareness and authenticity. Some aspects of us we can't get rid of, but most definitely, we can leave to manage them well and still make a significant impact in this world!

The School of Life thank you very much. Always here when I need you. Specifically this time. :)

Satisfying Maslow Pyramid of Needs and heading towards Self Actualisation achieving Flow or Peak experience. People forget its a continual process of state of movement heading towards emotional growth, happiness and hence maturity.

it couldn't have come at a better time! you always have an answer to my inner turmoil. deepest regard.

I don't understand how can some people even dislike these videos... These videos are so helpful!!!

And another great episode teaching me how to be a human. I gonna become a real boy in no time.

Thank you for this wonderful content. All the knowledge shared in this short video helped me enormously in this moment of difficulty that I am going through.

Your videos are absolutely brilliant in every possible way. Thanks for sharing all this knowledge with the public

A female relative of mine was always hungry for praise until we got really tired of praising everything about her but then got used to it. Some day she found one of similar videos and I saw the change in her personality but kept quiet. She told, out of context ,that she heard it wasn’t good to force people to praise you or keep asking them questions about yourself. They get bored if you. Although she learnt this very late in life , I think she’s a better person now.

All of your videos give me a mini anxiety but at the same time comforting. How is this possible?

Today, I give a special shoutout to the animators of 'The School of Life'. Great Job 👍

Great video Man this is one videio I've been holding off watching for a while afraid of its contents. Its been in my watchlist for a year or so. Its a relief to finally see whats inside

I love your videos. Thank you for making them. Please make a workshop in Toronto!

The way you guys made that heart and how it beat peeved me

Easy.. Indulge in unrequited love and bear all the pains it inflicts upon u and tadaa ur a stone

The biggest breakthroughs you'll experience are those after involuntary breakdowns, but if you can deeply understand the causes of and learn from your first breakdown you build a life filled with breakthroughs without the hurt and suffering of more breakdowns

His nose was magic! 🧙🏼‍♂️

thank you again for expressing a part of my thoughts cause i never knew how to put them in words 😭😭😭😌😌😌😌

I really enjoyed this video. It is a life-saver for me at this moment.

the best way to grow emotionally is to gain experience and simultaneously reflect. With new insides you can put yourself out in new environments.

LIFE CHANGING VIDEO!!!!!!!! Thank you School Of Life!!!

Thank you for posting correct information! I am so tired of this "emotions are thoughts and you just need to think different thoughts" bullsh*t.

I always have the tendency to prove to the world in that process I stay lonely. I think I should become something then only particular person or group will recognise me. This video is making me realise My emotional quotient is below average .

For me, learning from the adversity helps me grow in term of emotional maturity. I am not running away from my negative emotions anymore. I acknowledge and honour my emotions, positive or negative

It's not about the number of people we need around us but the people who let us be us.. Is what that matters!

i love the way you said tissue in the beginning

KZfaq algorithm scares me. It’s pushes the video to the top of my home screen that relates to how I’m feeling right this very moment!!

This channel deserves a much bigger spotlight. If everyone was subscribed to it, the world would be a better place

Experience is education, clarity arises from questioning your emotional restlessness during the night and completeness results from strongly expressing your vulnerabilities throughout the day.

Ive really enjoyed your video, i believe its so important to constantly imprve all aspects of your life.

Thank you for this , it really helps.

Thanks Humberto.

Lovely video in the right moment for me. Thank you

Is it possible to be very emotionally grown, but then start to revert when you go through depression and shun those around you for not believing or excepting you as one of their own?

Thankyou for sharing all this great video's!

Thank you this is well needed in order to emotionally grow

The thing about your videos is they’re great! But i rarely walk away feeling like i understand the answer to the “how” part and instead walk understanding the “why”

Thank you sincerely 🙏🏻

I do have an issue connecting with others because I feel like they're just going to use me or leave. Sometimes it feels like there's a big sticker on my back that says take advantage of me

Mind-blowing I wish it had subtitles in Portuguese!!!

Another amazingly helpful film! Thank you.

I just learned more in this 6 min video than four years in college! what an irony lol

Have you watched "Maniac" series? I've just seen it and it makes completely sense with what you're talking about connections & many other topics you've shared. Totally recommended. Love you guys, keep up with your content!

wow. this is the best. sums up pretty much everything about emotions - for all age groups! thanks ^_^

i rlly love this channel idk why

Yesterday I snapped at my roommates for something so stupid, I realized that I was not happy with other matters (from both of the drives) and I was releasing anger on people who didn't deserve it.

So beautiful; many thanks... 🙏

Thank you these marvelous videos.

I expected this video can tell how we can grow! 🙁 this is all about when we might feel like it’s time to grow!

Kamsahamnida 🤘🎉 i ❤ it! Im really sweating out and i feel better! 🎉

This is a fantastic interpretation!

16 and very frustrated. Oh how this does something to console my angst-ridden little self!

Very wise and so applicable to daily life.

Thank you.