Silent treatment =gym Silent treatment = time with the boys Silent treatment =productivity!!

Passive aggressive people are a nightmare. They are the problem not always you. It's not your job to fix them.

Silent treatment is a power play. We do it to make you feel guilty and anxious until you're sorry enough to apologize and give us what we want. Think of a child throwing a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store! It's the same thing, only way quieter. What do you do? Absolutely nothing! Attempt to communicate, and then if she won't respond, let her know you're not taking her BS by sending one single line: "Not sorry. If you want to communicate like an adult, let me know." - And that's it. Move on! If she calls back and matures, great. If not, say buh-bye and count your blessings!

Just sit back and enjoy the peace and quiet. Most women won't be silent for long .

My response to a woman giving me the silent treatment is... silence. The silent treatment is a power play, she's trying to get you to chase her, and the first one to talk loses.

My ex, who had daddy issues, used to give me the silent treatment that would last few hours to few days. It used to wreck me in the inside but I would never show it. I couldn't sleep and or be happy no matter how much I tried. The last time she stopped talking to me lasted few months despite my dignified attempts to reconcile with her. Well, three months went by and now she's going around to my friends saying how much she misses me and can't wait to see me! Little does she know that I've moved on. I don't care about her anymore.

2 people dating are on their "best behavior" for about 3 months. Keep on dating them you'll eventually see their true selves.

When a woman gives me the silent treatment, I simply say thank you. Then I close my eyes and breathe a sigh of relief.

You can‘t experience silent treatment from a woman if you never had a relationship with a woman.

At my age, 56 all the good ones are taken. I now give women the silent treatment. I don't waste my valuable time chasing after leftovers. The women I meet are penniless and are looking for someone to bail them out of their poor financial situation. Not going to happen.

It's just a way to control the situation and you. Men do it too. The best thing to do is walk away permanently. It's a waste of your time. Narcissistic behavior. It's a hard habit to break. If you stay be ready to put up with this kind of behavior forever. Great vid!

What women call The Silent Treatment, men call Peace and Quiet.

I thought this video would answer the question, but its just a 10 minute plug for the book

Brother there is no such thing as a woman without "baggage".

I learned a long time ago that when ppl act ugly, the best response is no response.

A woman that gives you the silent treatment...... is a woman with such a sense of entitlement, that she believes she is doing you a "favor" by allowing you to be with her. Wrong attitude. A woman should compliment your life, not be the focus of it (Another Rich quote). If she tries to give you the silent treatment, and you respond by allowing yourself to feel anxiety and chase her??? Guess what? She got exactly what she wanted. If she tries to give you the silent treatment..... and you completely disengage, pay her no attention, and then focus on yourself instead??? She'll be back to chasing you, and will have learned a valuable lesson that BS high school games don't work on you. The less you acknowledge or even "care" about her silly silent treatments.... the more she'll chase you, to get you to allow her back in your frame. Take control. Don't give control. Respect yourself, and she'll respect you too.

Definitely...You are spot on....Great advice...Silent treatment is a huge red flag...

Hard, to almost impossible to find this info on the internet 20 years ago when I needed it. You younger guys are blessed with this vast knowledge

I'm 32, black, in a wheel chair, from Guadeloupe (French overseas department), and you're the great brother a never had. It would be awesome to meet you, one day !

Once you've had the experience of a woman trying to emotionally manipulate etc you, make no mistake, you've heard the alarm bells ringing loud and clear, and it's time to cut bait and leave asap. Talk about the thin end of the wedge, if you see what I mean... Cut a long story short, if my past relationships are anything to go by, making a dignified exit and moving on would be the go to option.

The people that gave thumbs down are the experts at giving the silent treatment in a relationship , thanks great video

Simple. I give them the EXIT treatment. Either they go, or I do.

You don't. Cut bait, walk.

I deleted my previous comment after a troll pointed out that it was too long. Good video In my opinion the silent treatment and guilt trips are indications of a toxic relationship

If a lady gives you the silent treatment and doesnt know how to resolve conflict any other way seriously consider moving on. Silent treatment will lead to passive aggressiveness and makes for a terrible relationship.

I've come to learn that unfortunately there are a great many "adults" out there who need to process anger via a "cooling off period" where they want to be alone and process things before they speak to others at the risk of saying something they will ultimately regret and can't take back. I disagree with this and consider it a major behavioral flaw, but I understand it. This is different from silent treatment which is retributive behavior applied with the expressed purpose to abuse, hurt, isolate, exclude, punish and even manipulate someone in particular. This childlike behavior is commonly modeled by mothers to their own daughters and sons, but feminized adult men often learn to do the same thing. Against the right type of victims it is highly effective and damaging. The best way to handle silent treatment is to confront it as one would an insolent child: 1. Ignore the tantrum behavior as if it were that of a 3 year old child. Smile. Smirk. Do not allow it to alter your emotions, response, plans, meetings, conversations or other intentions. Make it clear you don't give one fuck about her inner child. And you are not going to waste your day for her inner adult to come back either. 2. Confront it decisively and concisely, and then withdraw yourself. Withdraw your attention, time, resource and presence. Tell her "Your silent treatment behavior is abusive and unacceptable, and I will not tolerate it". Then immediately withdraw yourself from the situation and go about your day as if nothing has altered it. Do not let her actions determine your own emotions. Do not try to explain, reason or negotiate. Afterward Set a boundary with her and make it clear that this will not happen again. And stick to that. Action, not words, are what work here. Silent treatment is a deal breaker. And adult does not do this. Highly recommend nesting her. Unfortunately it is such a favorite behavior of adult women these days. It must have worked well for them when they were teenagers or something. It's a major red flag because there is more under the roots of silent treatment.

I have lived this. He is bang on. She was defiantly border line personality disorder. Run the other way boys, run.

If any woman gives you the silent treatment...this is a "lightbulb" moment. She clearly can not communicate..or won't. Tell her once...talk to me if there is a problem..otherwise we won't be talking at all. This is a power game.Never chase.

In my blue pill days, I was given the silent treatment by a single mom... The end result was, she got back with her ex-husband; after he hurt his leg....

Ive been getting it recently i wasn't upset about it but i will admit i was getting pissed off by it by the 3rd day. Then something happened i actually started to enjoy a bit of me time had time to think and realized i deserve so much better the silent treatment is emotional abuse and a way to control somebody even if you was in the wrong once you apologised that should of been the end of it and if they do it once they will do it again and again. If someone is reading this thats currently getting it get the fuck out of that relationship she/he aint worth your time of day use that experience as a warning sign no one deserves to be treated like that i wouldn't even do it to my worse enemy mind somebody im meant to love and plan a future with.

Silent treatment = more free time to do what you like to do/hobbies. My girlfriend learned early on that when she did it once and only once. I just went on to do other things, work, make gainz, some video games, once she saw it didn't affect me, she learned that she has to talk about her problems. Been great ever since.

When we were kids, my sister used to give me the silent treatment when she was angry. It used to drive me nuts. I have since learned it will pass over time, and after a while she would start talking to me again. She's a grown up now and has long since stopped that kind of behavior. A grown woman, who still exhibits that kind of behavior, has some serious issues...

The silent treatment...AKA "me mad, me act like toddler"

i confronted her about it . when it continued i dropped her ass and that was the end of that shit. loved her with all my heart but i did what had to be done :) and i dont regret a thing about it .

I used to love the silent treatment, who dont like peace and quiet

Warning signs do appear!! They seem very insignificant at first, but I've learnt that any kind of trait they expose from the get go will be magnified exponentially the more time you spend with them. On another note, I'm surrounded by women who use the silent treatment card with me. They use it because they can't get their way or they don't want to apologise for something wrong they've done.

My ex did this all the time, and basically she knew this was the button to push to drive me insane. She would also bring up arguments when we had plans for the evening to visit friends or go out for dinner or whatever and then when she didn't get the answer she wanted she would cancel those plans last minute and leave me to clean up the mess. I was in luck to have a great relationship therapist who called her out on that shit when she pulled it during the sessions, telling her it was a form of emotional abuse (she was trying to paint me as violent because I sometimes raised my voice in arguments (not yelling)). It took me a while to realise this and I stopped responding to her silent treatments and just leaving the house to do something else, and surprise surprise all of a sudden she started to react very differently. In the end I still ended the relationship because there was too much trouble and instability (surprise, there were daddy issues), but I did learn a valuable lesson. Never give into that sort of shit or it will be considered a viable strategy to get what they want and they will repeat it. But, you are right, if this tactic is employed alot of times it is already a red flag on its own. Writing this shit just makes it seem retarded that I didn't spot this earlier, but when you love someone and you are still young and inexperienced you tend to rationalise this kind of behaviour even though your intuition tells you it's wrong.

Lol, As a male I'm the one throwing silent treatment all the time, I also excell at ghosting anything or anyone. I just don't like drama and shouting so if someone steps through my boundaries, I might just ghost them in a blink of an eye. But I found it can work wonders with women. I just don't take shit from anyone, I'm willing to get into a conversation to speak the problem through, I just don't allow ppl to cause drama or to disrespect me

I showed this video to my wife She gave me the silent treatment

Im surprised youtube hasnt de-monetized your videos. they usually censor reason and sound logic.

You are the savior of "MAN"kind Rich

When you are given the silent treatment, enjoy the silence. Most women can talk non-stop so when hey finally shut up it's a relief.

I dated a man who did that. It was maddening. I had never experienced something like that before. Well, over the course of time I watched as his mother, father and brother all did that to each other! They would get angry over the smallest things and not speak sometimes for MONTHS. Then the mom would call up out of the blue - days, weeks, months later and start talking to him as if everything was rosey and suddenly they would be back on good terms. Nothing was ever resolved. Twas the strangest dysfunction I had ever witnessed. He told me that as a child when they got into 'fights' they would walk around the house for weeks not speaking to each other.

She's silent now, I know she needs some time to progress, I'm trying to stay calm, but it frustrates me to no end and it ruins my goodnight sleep and productivity...

A woman will tell you everything you need to know on a first date. If you are able to supress the desire to impress by talking about your achievements and how awesome you are. Every dude in the modern dating world has to lift, have interesting hobbies, and be ambitious just to get women. The vast majority of reasonably attractive women today get by with merely existing. With all the criteria required for self improvement as a man, don't ignore any leftover sense of loneliness or need for approval. You'll end up with women who identify and exploit the shit out of that vulnerability. Seriously, listen closely on the first date so you can hear your cue to head out for the proverbial "pack of smokes."

Great video Rich. I was also involved with the Daddy Issue, Borderline, silent treatment chick. In retrospect and having educated myself on the subject I've found a few early red Flags that can be seen in these types unbeknownst to even them. If she shows unstable moods, has illusions of grandeur like opening her own coffee shop or moving to Hawaii on a whim, constantly considering a change in vocation, chronic boredom, restlessness, sleep disorders etc. These were all "tells" if you will that if I'd had the foresight would have sent me running for the hills. Hope that helps.

So the advice for how to deal with silent treatment is, "Buy my book"?

I recently encountered a situation as to what this gentleman has been discussing about on this video, had an argument, I voiced my opinion on how she’s not consistent with her words and actions and she went bonkers on me. She said what she had to say and hanged up on me and gave me a silent treatment for a whole week straight I contacted her, sent her texts and I even sent her an apology video smh 🤦🏼‍♂️ and as soon as I made a decision to move on she text me out of the blue saying that she loves me and she cares about me…….Wtf!!!!! This literally just open my eyes 😳 She sent me a long paragraph trying to justify herself it’s been three days since her text and I have not responded …fuck this I’m out! ✌🏻 I am so glad I found this video and his channel you got my subscription and like 👍🏼 THANK YOU!

Silent treatment is severe emotional and mental abuse

Silent treatment is an instant break up. Silent treatment is a classic trait of a narcissist. They get a kick out of knowing that you are suffering over them, by not responding they know it's provoking anxiety and causing distress, but they continue to do it. Gives them a feeling of control and power. If anyone gets gratification out of causing suffering it's abuse. Bottom line. Immediately get out of there. Dont try to change them, don't make excuses, end it.

Brother, you are spot on with your content....thank you for all you do man, all great advice, very enlightening stuff, I have gone through and am currently going through a lot of the things you speak about. I appreciate your takes, they give me hope for a better tomorrow and really give me things to work on myself.

Next video you do wear the body armor on the wall

Umm that's why they made PlayStation 4

Tranquility is a good thing I wouldn't know why any man would bother complaining about it

Enjoy the silence - go for a long moto ride. My longest is 3 weeks. She was playing the game, so I blocked her number and went on a road trip. When I got back she was all coy and 'worried about 'us' - meh. 21 days without her was damn glorious - never looked back. I uninvited her from my life and circle. No regrets. It was a small town - her drama was well published in her subsequent BS.

From my experience, Ignoring and enjoying the silent treatment encourages her to end the silent treatment, lol.

Spot on, Rich! Especially the common correlation between daddy issues and Borderlines.

The reason why I have become silent is because I am tired of trying. For years my partner would avoid solving issues, he is never emotionally avaliable. Today we are ok, tomorrow he starts an argument about something I said 6months ago. And when I want explain the misunderstandings, he doesn't wait to listen. So, its like a cycle. Today we are fine, tomorrow we fight again. Sooo because I can't get him to open up, I just give up. Its not the silent treatment per say.... Its a woman who has had enough of the manipulative, insensitive, and childish child of a man.

If your partner gives you the silent treatment start peeing on them.

Awesome video and worldly advice. Thank you RC.

This has to be one of my favorite videos you've made. I think its time to contribute to your Patreon. Keep up the great work Richard!

I used to have a ex that would give me the silent treatment . At first I thought that it was me that it was my fault and would try to apologize for my behavior until I realized that it was her , so I stopped caving in to her and moved on . She was shocked. She can keep her silent treatment , because I'm free to enjoy my life. Now she is begging to come back home . I just say " Hell No " and laugh 🤣

Men with high standards are sexy to me. I love this channel!

Not everyone who gives the silent treatment is giving the silent treatment. Sometimes people just shut down and just don't have the energy to deal with the abusive other and not engaging is the best way to for things to blow over so you start fresh when cooler heads prevail.

I just want to thank you for your videos. They are really informative and valuable.

I feel that people weather men or women who give the silent treatment have something more deep ..deep anger or childhood issues ..amateurish and lack of communication .when you see some one over angry its not your fault they have more issues deep which are not resolved yet ...when you deal with this silent and make it affect you ..you get their negative missed energy ..you enter their field of energy and be affected ...you will feel pain sooo deep like its physical..my fiance until now gives it to me .. I decided not to react or let it affect me ....its kind of tantrum for me nothing more ..and definitely not my fault .... I let him cool off ..stop nagging and chasing ..be around..then he cool off ..I cant change it ..but I can change the way I look at it and interact with it ....its just childish behaviour

Easy....don't deal wit it. My girl tried that on me I said if you don't pick up after my third call I am out!.....she picked up the first call 😁

My husband does that crap! I ignore it and let him pout. I used to be stressed about it. It bothered me. Until I realized what he was doing after looking up the silent treatment. When I started to ignore it. And go about my day he stopped doing it. That's abuse and I'm not dealing with childish games.

Thank you for your time ! Lol sleepwalking through life for sure . Amen ! Emotional and more imbalance if someone plays silent treatment. RED FLAG!

I dont have stanly the power drill in my pants, i have the harbor freight brand drill that dosent always work :/

let them be quiet, still talk to them and have one sided conversations untill they decide to grow up

Look. There's a difference between the 'silent treatment' and simply being over someone. The silent treatment is merely a power game and whether it comes from the man or the woman it's childish, maddening, and a big red flag. But there's a shade of grey. It could be that the other person needs time and space to think especially after a conflict. If this is all the person wants, they should be able to tell you that openly and directly. It's a good thing to take time to calm down and think about what you need and want, it's definitely preferable to trying to sort things out in an angry state of mind. But in the case of needing a little time and space, the other person should not just cut off communication without any explanation. They should tell you, "I need a couple hours" (or even, "a couple weeks" depending on how far into the relationship you are) but there should be no playing on fears, they should reassure you that they still want to talk through things in the future. Lastly, if the person is simply over you, it can be very hard to distinguish between that and the silent treatment. It's tempting to accuse them of 'silent treatment' and playing a power game. But over time you have to accept that you've been rejected, which is always awful.

If the girl gives you the silent treatment, just give her the silent treatment too..And of course make the women complement to your life, not the focus. Great video rich! 🙌

This is very sound and very good stuff. Thank you for helping out my self esteem as far as being on "track".

I live in Thailand where most young girls are taught how to control men via The Silent Treatment. I was living with a woman who thought this would work on me. As soon as I saw she had stopped speaking to me, and even refused to make eye-contact or acknowledge my presence in the room, I retreated from her and completely withdrew. Eventually, she got tired of being "alone in the house" and came around. I explained to her at that time that when she chooses to withdraw, I will let her. I will not come chasing after her and it is her responsibility to resume communication, not mine. I also explained to her how detrimental this was to the relationship. She did this two more times before she got the message and stopped. I was just 48 hours away from walking out on her permanently when she came around that third time. I told her this was her "third strike" and the next time she will be 'out' of my life if it happens again. It never did.

There is a guy who solved this problem by tightening the tops of all the bottles in the house so she had no choice but to ask for his help.

Deal with it? Enjoy it. Silence is golden.

Many would consider my wife assertive but if there’s something I’ve done (or haven’t done) and she’s pissed about it, she doesn’t hold back and says it. No silent treatment or mind reading needed. Conversely if I don’t agree with whatever it is she’s pissed about, I don’t hold back either.

Anxiety in that way it's quite often tired to codependency. This is something you can work with but it is quite tough to do, but worth it

Silent Treatment can be very distorted and very misunderstood: I have had to many times be silent for long periods of times. Simple, I do 90% of the work in our relationship, Communication, planning, budgeting, house and car keeping, etc. 1. I do all of the outside and inside of the house, and I mean it , all. i.e yard, pest control, dusting and wiping and mopping, etc. UNLESS someone is coming over to visit. She seldom helps and to make it worse, she has no organizational skills and she is not clean. I have communicated this, she has admitted many times. 2. I do the inside and the outside of the cars, while she is careless and leave the car on empty most of the time. I have express that many times and she has verbally admitted. 3. I do most of the healthy feeding for our children, while she continues to feed them junk, high fats, sugars and salts. I have expressed this and she has admitted. 4. She is careless with money 5. She is terrible at memory, I mean I am seriously concern This is just a short list of things that has hunted us for at least 14 years. Lately I have been stonewalling my wife until I refresh and continue the hard work of loving her. But at times this can be confuse as Silent Treatment hence my first sentence.

Also be grateful for the good times you had with her and what she taught you. No need to look at your past as failure, it was life well lived.

Enjoy it while you can. Sometimes it even helps the relationship.

Great video man ! The power drill somes me up and had a good laugh maybe I'll grow up one day but probably not lol....thanks for the heads up on the silent treatment

I have dated a narcissist, so I know this too well. Once you realize they're doing you a favor by shutting up, it's great.

He's right, but you got to give women a little room to pout. If you are an absolutist about not dealing with silent treatment women, you may as well become a monk, because they are all like that to a certain degree. The more valuable question would be "how to effectively deal with the silent treatment?"

You save my life with almost every video

The guy sounds like a codependent who needs a significant other for validation. He needs to work on being alone and be happy while single. Become emotionally independent

Goodness, I could never imagine treating people like this!

so much respect to you. as always, thanks.

Stanley the power drill 😂😂

Interesting to watch. I'm on my own now because my last partner gave me the silent treatment for an extended period of time. I put up with it for a couple of days, and then used the rest of the time to plan my exit from the relationship.

everytime i hear one of rich's videos i dont want anything to do with women. it reinforces all of my experiences.

Another great video Rich!

The silent treatment is actually a form of psychological abuse. If a woman pulls this on you by slowly implementing it after you’re in a long term relationship, it’s very difficult on your psyche depending on how messed up and immature she is. It’s a bit of a wake up call for guys who are naive to it - it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve got your own issues, it just means you’re a person with in tact empathy if being treated like shit affects you and you’re trying to help better the relationship/work through things. Women will do all sorts of shit if they are mentally unhealthy to keep their claws in a good man. It just may mean you’re not aware of what’s going on. I certainly wasn’t - but my now ex wife kept the hooks in me and I slowly had to become more and more aggressive to the point where she couldn’t pull a single stunt on me without her paying for it. It became very toxic, and I’m not suffering the loss of the relationship. I would not and could not tolerate that; very unfortunate as I became ready to have a child with her. The more I became firm and unwavering, the more her childishness rose to the surface. I suspect men may rarely come across “fully intact” women and if you’re looking for a long term relationship (and why wouldn’t you be, that’s why all of us are here... our parents got together and raised us) there are certain things you’ll need to accept and go along with. Red Pill can actually damage men as much as Feminism can damage women. Never take advice that tells you to run around thinking every woman is at some point going to become unfaithful etc as you’ll be ruined for an LTR and you’re doing damage to your own psyche.

I wouldn’t hesitate to break up with a girl who gives me the silent treatment because those girls are usually bad communicators with daddy issues

Great advice, ordering the book!

The "silent treatment" is something she only does if you are vulnerable to it. Even if it hurts, you have to prove to her, that you are not in any way affected by the silent treatment. Even if it hurts, you have to get used to the feeling, distract yourself with the other things going on in your live. Work extra hours. Spend more time at the Gym or spend time with your hobbies. A woman should never be the center point of your live. If she has the power to give you anxiety, then you need time for yourself and overcome this anxiety without letting her know that you have anxiety. She will only stop shit like that if she knows for certain that it does not work on you and that you have more important things going on in your live.

Love your content Rich.

"Nothing will ruin your life faster than choosing the wrong woman." great line My divorce was devastating. be Several times i was talked down while holding bottles of sleeping pills in my hand. Literally tipping my head back when i was talked down. I shouldn't be here right now. A woman drove me to that. I worked hard and I was a loving father to our kids but it was ever enough for her. when you're a good guy and there's no excuses no accusations that hold water they will make up shit.

Silent treatment means I get time to myself and freedom from your BS!! More time at the gym More time going on hikes More time reading my books More time with my children ♥️👌 Silent treatment is a chance to hear silence! Lovely sound.