I agree with you 💯% 0 especially when you're in the middle of two narcissist one physical abuse the other one emotional abuse

I'm sorry I'm the married one trust me don't go there save yourself I'm not even mad anymore

I found out I was the new supply AFTER she broke up with me after a 4 year relationship...I was a bit surprised to say the least

It's ok to fight for a man as long as he is not a narc and fights for you.

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oh god same

Very good. Conforms in great measure to what I, too, experienced. My narcissist would go into baby behaviour at times. It was cute and done comically. But there was a regressive feel to these episodes. How common is this amongst narcissists?

Experiencing the same right now - he got me effed up because the minute he mentioned her, I cried but was immediately exited and said “I don’t compete.” He wasn’t prepared for my response … now he’s talking to himself because I will not be responding to his messages. 🫠

Damn are you a psychic Right on point

Excellent description. It's obvious that you have suffered a lot

agreed😒

Actually though, very sick people.

Best description of the narcissist I've read today. 👏👏👏

Evil

This made me chuckle 😂

I am praying for healing in your heart and mind. Once you PURGE the terrible things that you went through, things they put you through, you will be able to heal. If you carry their "dirty little secrets " around with you, you can't heal. Rip that scab off and heal, finally. Lots of love, your sister in Christ. Remember, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. You can do this.

Pamper urself and know that they have a disorder. It's mental illness.

I understand you, I am now in these situation. 😢😢😢😢

I felt the same. Emotional leaning toward anger and a weird sadness. Most of the time I feel indifferent and it is great.

I need this on repeat for like 36 hours, Clockwork Orange stylee. That's how much this fucked me up.

Nice to see a guy in here

Their children even. It’s awful.

Sometimes this sh*t makes our exit so much easier. Glad you're free.

We are on the same timelines (relationship and no contact time). You are a rockstar. We got this :). Sending hugs to you ❤

Sending hugs too!! You’ve got this. And your ex cheater will never change. He will live with his karma everyday as he’s not able to experience joy. Just instant adrenaline. Then another shot of instant adrenaline. A sad life he will live. Peace.

Same story. I was ridiculed all my life, blamed. Can't trust anyone anymore. My whole life I thought I am ugly and embaressing but now, years without their crap, at 44 I realized I look nice and I am funny. I look old photos. I am smiling even with my eyes and my mother and sister looking angry. I wish I could go back and rescue myself

And I congratulate you. You have your life now. Well done

I’m so happy for you 😊 I had to “move in silence “ and switch up my job and home. I just pray for him never to find me again- at least not any time soon bc I’m still healing and not sure I have the strength to deal with it, but I’m getting there 👍

@@user-ex4ce7gh1k you have the strength. you are strong beautiful, creative and loving. tell urself that every day pamper and be kind to urself. This too shall pass! It's our time to shine bright 🌅.

@@tabiagebre8168 Thank you 😊

Why this looks like my story😒☹️

Same thing happened to me

Same thing happened to me, too. I went to very severe stuff, and no one would believe me, as I was confused sometimes because of trauma, and this changed the trust people had in me. They are both seen as amazing and loving persons, I'm the crazy one who invents stories... I've been with this person for almost 30 years, and when I look back, I have more than 50 stories of cruelty and hidden abuse. My older kids already experienced this abuse inside the house (never outside), and that's what makes me wanna leave. Pretty hard times, trying to hold on to faith to survive and protect the kids.... sometimes it feels easier to just disappear. I cry everyday, and I always wake up with nightmares about situations that happened and no one would believe. Lonely place, but I deeply believe we can live happier after we leave, grieve and relive. ❤

I know what you mean, he even called me his ex's name several times.

Did he call you by her name?

@@ashleykathryn9038do you think it was on purpose or he just did it to make you upset?

@@ashleykathryn9038what if you were a rebound?

@claudia3539 He did not. However, I heard her name so many times it was nuts! At the time, I thought he must not be over her. Later, I realized it was triangulation. They know that comparisons make you feel like you're not special, not an individual. They do it to demean you and maintain control. He had hoped that I would go out of my way to prove my worth. It did not work! Know your worth girl!

It takes a lot of eduction and persistence to break the trauma bond. I hope you are doing well and realizing you are not going crazy. It was all planned and a very calculated effort by the NRC to destabilize you. 😊

Whoop whoop well done ! They are weak sickos who have no standards self esteem or decency ! And they don’t feel love so some here need to work on them selves ! The narc is a narc that’s who they are selfish lonely lost demons

We cannot heal someone so broken.

Same here. My dad, daughter and one brother (probably two) are all narcissists. My dad stole my daughter from me when she was 15/16 and smeared my name completely to her. She is now 30 and is a carbon copy for my 87 year old father, who hasn't spoken to me for about 10 years.

This happened to me except they are both narcs. At first I thought it was just her but then I realized it’s him as well. I left so fast. He still contacts me everyday saying he loves me blah blah blah and she knows but won’t do anything but fight with him.

I am a couple months post breakup (I ended it and went to the lawyer). The first few weeks are terrible. Lots of doubt and then you start to put more and more puzzle pieces together. Be kind to yourself and know you value. You are not crazy and made the right decision. Sending hugs your way ❤

Please grab the life ring being tossed to you here. These gifts will come back to you as you leave this insanity behind.

I Know personally how it feels , your comment is accurate for my feelings Right now , they are thieves

It is a literal roller-coaster. I even became a friendship one, but he wanted benefits. Get lost.

I send much courage to you. May the judge be fair towards you.

Please hang in there you aren't alone 🫂

Get out, stay out. you will start to breathe freely in microdosis and everything will settle in some form and shape! you will make it

So glad you’re free of him now- good for you 👏👏👏👏

He actually told you he planned on getting you AND his girlfriend pregnant? Is that the point at which you kicked him out of your life and never saw or talked to him again?

@@ArtisteStudios sadly, no😔 I was SO trauma bonded and suffered from extreme cognitive dissonance that I continued to BEG him to come home! It was only after SHE told him to go home to his family(during Christmas after he essentially kidnapped my 14 year old son and took him to spend Christmas with HER family...another long story) that he returned. However, even though he came home and said he was ready to reconcile, it wasn't genuine. He had moments of civility and kindness, but he also was still calling and texting HER every chance he got. It literally took me another 5 years of his Jekyll and Hyde behaviors to finally WAKE UP and realize he was still (and always would be) a selfish piece of sh!t that was going to do whatever HE wanted. When he found out that SHE had died, he wanted me to feel sorry for him. When I told him I didn't, he started comparing her to me and saying how much he wished he had stayed with her. THAT was when I finally realized I was done. My actual PUSH TO LEAVE was when I was diagnosed with high blood pressure. My doctor told me if I didn't reduce my stress, I would have a stroke or heart attack(I was about 47). I told her that the Narc was the source of my stress, and had been for decades. She just looked at me and said, "Well, I'm just saying that you need to take care of YOU." I took that as my "prescription" ...my PERMISSION TO LEAVE! It took me another 2 years to make a plan, and save enough money to finally leave.

I witnessed my female Nex confronting her mom with a few issues over time. she(15) I(17) yrs of age at the time it's rather unfortunate & very sad but my Nex had built up the courage to tell her mother that her step father's brother had violated her as a child. I listened in the next room over I was really there to support her and just intervene if things got physical other then that my gfs request was to sit still the entire time I less it got to that point which I respected. As you can imagine the mother went into full rage and started with the yelling back and forth for a good 20 mins as I listened. The mother had told my gf that she was making ridiculous claims and she needed to respect her step father's family since the mother had official tied the knot with her new step father for a few months at this point. It got no where as I heated my gf crying to her own mother and panting struggling to get the very words out of her mouth. She asked many times why the mom denies whats she is saying and how could she say she is making it up?! It suddenly got to whispers and I stood up to go in if I had heard contact.....it remained to whispers for another 5 mins. Then I heard something that really shocked me as my gfs voice returned to it's normal volume, she yelled to her mom,"you stood there from the fucking hallway mom and let your drunk brother in law touch me while I slept!" "I shrugged him off every chance I got as he kept forcing his hands around me!" She said to the mother, "do you know why I stopped fighting him!?" Because I saw you turn the hall light on! Thinking you were coming in to protect me! But you didn't! You let him touch me until he passed out on top of me! The mom took her slap to my gfs face and right as I turned the knob I slightly pushed opened the door and my gf pushed it back closed and said"Don't come in, I'm leaving with him right now!" She rushed out and walked out the house rapid as I followed her. We walked to my moms apartment and she kinda ran away and stayed there with me for the next three days. The step father who was in general a very understanding and empathic man. Had no likes me because of his step daughter sleeping over those nights. Of course, who wouldn't. He got my gf to calmly come home and because of the seriousness of the whole situation I never brought it up in the whole 17 yr relationship ever. My gf mentioned in the middle of an argument 4 months before my discard that how her dad had got her to come home. He explained on the mom's behalf that she had had a very bad day and her mom was very upset to find out that she had been coming to my place and staying nights over having sex with me!.....huh?! It clicked after a minute or two of silence....I reassured my thoughts asking my gf," so did your mom lie to your step father about what happened!?" She said, yes the whole thing. Makes sense why the dad would resent me even after we had been together all these years nothing I ever did for him or the mother was ever good enough. Even as adults there was always tension between that man and I that I know now the mother kept very much alive and fresh in her husband's mind. Even after being discarded a year and a half later I often still have to convince myself I couldn't save her. I felt for years that I could have done something more and perhaps it would have altered my gf then into Not being who she turned out to be in the end! It still hurts and I know Im only missing the idea of who she presented herself to be! The facts are still very real and we're also hidden from me for all 17 yrs she had been cheating the entire time together and it was always when she visited her parents because I was never allowed over unless the dad said it was ok even as an adult. Turns out that was my Nex's lie to give herself room to continue an ongoing relationship with guys she met in high school and from previous jobs. I did feel it in my gut when she would return to me something wasn't right and I would ask. She had never done anything to that point to make me suspicious at all ever. She would call from their land line house phone and I called back random at times and the family would call for her or she'd answer the phone herself. We had cell phones. The land line thing thru me off for years. I never had reason to ever check her phone and when I did that same week she had told me about her mom lying to her step father. I found msgs. and multiple social media accounts on her cell under her sister's and mom's names to throw me off scent and sneak msgs to guys she was having sex with when visiting her family. In the end after all the hurt and drama my mission now is to get all that shit out of my head and destroy the fantasy she had me living in with her in her own narcissist bubble. I'm sorry for how long this was. I know it's helpful but maybe a little bit more insight as to what my Nex experienced with her narcissist mother. In all 17 yrs with my Nex I never witnessed any connections with my then gf or her 3 younger siblings over the years with the mother. Always only the dad was very attentive and loving and doing for them all. I really wanted that man to see who I really was but never got the real chance.

Golden child v. problem child The problem child see the toxic for who or what she is

I understand and feel you ive been thr too Its just the badest Thing ive ever gone thru. my whole Life 😢 became nightmares too but my Life and this Situation were the biggest nightmare ive ever had. trying to heal and wish u the same and all who gone thru thiss Kind of horrible terrible Situation Its just the badest Thing ive ever experienced Wish u peace

But my Lifee*

@@HaninSindi I'm sorry to hear that you also had to go through this. May peace be with you my friend.

@@maianhdao986 thank you dear yea that was really hard and tough never experienced like that in any kind of way and i wish you the good and healing too 🙏🌸

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Thank you Danish you hit the nails on the head all the time...I lived in the strangest & most cruel world with my x- husband for 26 years. I felt I was going insane. I ran to the divorce court. Believing I was free of this cruelty of abuse in all its forms this insanity was taken over & severe punishment with daily physical abuse continued by my daughter for the next 20 years....she is on a 5 year DVO. I am in my 79 th year now.. I have been told she has a personality disorder & will never change.... Thank you Danish for your work..I suffer the effects, but at first didn't realise how much I was reliving the abuse by the constant flashbacks.. I have continued weekly therapy as well as listening to you daily. Thank you dear Danish...