Amen!

Tim… I love this comment! Fantastic insight and inspiration. Thank You so much for sharing your wisdom and your enthusiasm. Our bodies reveal who GOD is. Blessings on your day! 🙏🏻

Just like the need to protect my vagina 🤭

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Do you love Jesus 😉

How about how does this affect their salvation?

Actually everyone's clothes should stay on.

Correction* - If you’ve made it to the point of even contemplating to remove any article of clothing, you’re now crossing a line… if you’re down to the underwear - you’re about a mile past ‘the boundary line’

@@Prohortico well yes that is the ideal for avoiding the occasion of sin. But what I am saying is we need to have clear in our head that the sin here we are trying to avoid is sexual contact before marriage. We can't just say "you know where the line is if you think about it this way." Because no, when people are in the heat of passion, the rational mind fails in the face of hormones, and starts to contemplate whether the line is just a suggestion, or how far beyond the line is actually permissible, etc. etc. If it is left to vague ideals and subjectivity then it is way too easy for our own sinful desires to form excuses and get us into dangerous territory. And then we just feel guilty for having crossed that line, but are likely to repeat the same scenario with a subjective standard that will likely be crossed once again. Rather it has to be clearly understood that the sinful activity is "sexual contact outside of marriage." So that we can then apply further subjective judgments and form strategies about practical methods that would be best for avoiding the occasion of that sin, that are appropriate in the context of our human relationship with this person I am sexually attracted to, and who is also sexually attracted to me, with whom that desire will eventually be consummated, but not in X place at Y time because it would be a sin to have sexual contact before marriage, and that is why I'm only going to stay one hour, or I'm going to bring another couple, or I'm going to keep my jacket on no matter what, etc.

@@MrColinwith1L I see your intentions are good, but that was one heck of a word salad. I’ve been married 15 years, have 5 kids, and my wife and I were both virgins upon marriage… we still have to practice chastity during certain periods of our marriage, and that ‘line’ looks much different as a married couple than prior to marriage- so yes, there is SOME subjectivity involved. But unclear boundaries? No way! Let’s make this simple for anyone unmarried reading… here’s my lines that shouldn’t be crossed prior to marriage. No tongue… do so at your own peril… no touching parts you wouldn’t want your grandma seeing you touch… However, each couple does have to determine for themselves what is appropriate as far as having alone time together etc. My wife and I were fine with being alone and watching movies together etc prior to marriage, but we both knew nothing would EVER happen. I wouldn’t recommend that for all couples, if there’s even a question about whether or not they can do it, they probably shouldn’t… Anyway, we could go on and on! Are you married?

@@Prohortico I am married, I have 2 daughters. I would not simply tell them keep your underwear on, and send them off to prom. That is not my point here at all. I am simply saying that in catechism on this topic, we have to fence off certain categories and make these boundaries clear, because people are not always rational when left up to their own subjectivity. Especially when they are asking "How far is too far?" It is not enough to tell such people to use their most conscientious judgment about what marriage is for, and then they will know how far is too far. No, they have to know where the clear lines are. One big red line should be drawn at "keep the underwear on." Perhaps another red line can then be drawn at "keep the clothes on so the underwear will stay on." And then perhaps other lines at things like "never use tongue" or "never touch her butt/shoulder/bra strap/etc." People who are more conscientious will observe all these as part of making good decisions and avoiding the occasion of sin. But those people are not where the problem lies. The problem is that other people will barely have paid attention in 8th grade catechism class, if they ever went at all, and in HS their boyfriend will tell them oral or anal sex is not a sin, because its not technically sex. And they will say that sounds logical. Because they were taught only to use your best subjective judgment. They never heard that there are clear lines for what can never be permissible. Such as: "keep your underwear on" being a good first principle for thinking through whether this behavior is a grave sin. The operative logic being: If the underwear is coming off, then it is already a grave sin, in every circumstance except perhaps medical emergency. People who understand that concretely can then readily make the subjective judgment that perhaps even all the clothes should stay on, because one thing might lead to another. So I am not saying let us be more permissive in where the line should be. Rather, I am saying we have to have the proper objective framework before we can make proper subjective judgments. Which must begin with understanding that sexual contact before marriage is the grave sin we are trying to avoid at all costs. And that other things we might abstain from are steps that protect us from ever reaching that point.

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I see you haven’t received any response to this question- although I’m not a therapist, “The Good News About Sex and Marriage” by Christopher West is great for couples.

Dont have sex. Sex is too far Also, be so in tune with you body so that you know when too far is too far

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you mean what Catholics do 😂

The meaning of touch is what people mean for it to mean. It's not a one size fits all idea.

One thing to keep in mind though is that physical arousal, while related to sexual desire, is not equivalent to it.

Arousal is a physical response and doesn’t necessarily correspond to the will.

Well that's your preference. But that's not how other people feel.

@@Grokford Yes, that’s how personal opinions work : ). You’ve got yours and I’ve got mine.

But even spending time and getting to know someone creates a connection, so trying to completely avoid that is necessary. Breakups will always be tough, no matter how chaste and strict you are.

@@Seethi_C I still think there is a difference. getting to someone can be a friendship, but touching would be more intimate.

@@CatholicBaseball8I’d like to see that video from Fr. Ripperger. My honest opinion as one who’s been married 15 years now with 5 kids, and survived 2 previous relationships prior to meeting my wife. Hand holding is an integral part of the dating stage that is a beautiful part of courtship and is a small token of affection that shows you care to continue to grow the relationship. Small kisses, prior to engagement if the couple is committed to seriously discerning marriage together could be ok too, but intimate kissing that leads to arousal needs to be avoided until marriage… My wife and I are very pleased to know we were both virgins when we made our vows, and any minor intimacy I had in previous relationships with other women is not regretted, if we had been much too physical, then yes. I remember a friend from college came to my house with a girlfriend- and he had his hand in her back jeans pocket. After they left, my mom asked how long they’ve been sleeping together…. I didn’t even notice! I was too innocent! As a married man, I get it. It’s a massive leap to go from holding hands to placing hands elsewhere…

Oxytocin, it's a normal and healthy hormone that is created from all sorts of physical touch. It's not some magic spell that binds your souls or fills you with lust. The worst heartbreak I ever experienced was for someone I never even touched.. meanwhile I've had other people's tongue in my mouth and been fine when it ended.

@@Grokford well that may be on you, but not so with the women, women bond more from physical touch.

"Lying with your body" is a backwards concept. Our body has to be consciously controlled to make it behave other than it wants. If someone's interpretation of your body isn't matching up with your intentions, it's a sign that they're understanding of your body is wrong, not that your body should conform to their expectations.

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That's your opinion.