based on the comments so far, I feel like a lot of you didn't get to the part where I say that I'm pansexual LOL

thank you for discussing this - it's very kind of you to share your personal story in the hopes of helping others find themselves. and I, a queer trans person in math, am always happy to hear about fellow LGBTQ+ people in STEM

6:42 - Can 100% empathize, as a cishet guy. I remember back in college, being out on the street with friends and acquaintances and everyone was almost theatrical in how often and how exaggeratedly they checked women out. Maybe I was projecting, because to me, yeah sure, the streets were teeming with pretty college girls, but so what? They were all strangers. Nothing elevated any particular random stranger above the rest. Conversely, there have been a few times in my life where someone has actually looked hotter after I got to know them. Would love to know how that works!

I'm straight, but your description of separating being able to say, 'That person is attractive' and actually only really being attracted to them when you get to know them is a really useful distinction. I wouldn't say I'm purely demisexual, but I definitely lean that way. I have to know a woman pretty well before I start to have romantic feelings towards them.

Still figuring out my romantic attraction part, but I definitely relate to both thinking I was totally straight for the longest time and not really feeling attraction until I've known the person for a while

I deeply appreciate your "protect trans youth" tshirt in the thumbnail :D

Honestly didn't think it mattered. I do like your breakdowns of the tech. Congrats on discovering and accepting yourself.

More power to you, Jordan. Don't expect to ever fully work it out. I mean, maybe you will, but I'm 70 years old and I still don't fully understand it. I haven't had a partner for decades, and while I'm not averse to having a partner again, I'm very happy being alone and just being me, spending my time learning and creating. Those are words that once upon a time I couldn't have imagined saying. Best wishes to you for the future. ♥

How I realized I didn't have a chance 😔

asexuals 🤝 pansexuals people forgetting our sexualities exist

unrelated but i love your platonic solids tattoos!

So glad you had the freedom to discover your own sexuality.

great video! thanks for your awesome content!

Watched this on Nebula! Thank you for sharing.

Everything in the video is relatable, except I'm not out to my family yet haha

I had sort of a slightly different experience: I had an issue of tending to end up having an "emotional" or "romantic" attraction to people (usually one-sided), but typically no real physical attraction (though, I did have a general fear of being alone, which was probably a bigger motivation than any sort of attraction); But, in any case, no relationships tended to develop with anyone (so, very little dating experience), and not really met anyone I had that much in common with, so mostly just ended up sitting around working on coding projects for pretty much my whole life. I had mostly assumed I was "fairly normal" in these areas. My views mostly agreed with those of premarital abstinence, but it was less about "morals and restraint", but more like, the idea of intimacy outside of marriage (or at least some other "sufficiently committed" relationship) did not make sense in a cost benefit sense (more like, it seemed like a way for someone to "shoot themselves in the foot"); so didn't really see much purpose for it to be seen as something to be pursued in its own right (though, could potentially be used "strategically" if a context came up where doing so would seem useful, but these sorts of scenarios never came up). Never felt particularly averse to it, nor motivated by it, more like, I just don't really care all that much... A long time later, I randomly ran across a video talking about asexuality, and then realized that the definitions probably fit. Sometimes, I still have doubts, wondering if I actually am, or merely confused about it. But, I have noted that the whole thing sometimes seems like a bit of an abstraction as well, and whatever "preferences" I may have (in terms of physical appearance) are not particularly strongly defined (and mostly lean towards "someone kinda average in terms of weight and similar; have noted a slight preference for taller females rather than shorter ones though"), so the definitions probably still fit. I still mostly find dating sites and apps to be "pretty much useless" for me, since they tend to focus on what a person looks like and some superficial details. How am I supposed to know anything about a person from this? Most people don't really bother writing much of anything relevant in their profiles either, or if they write anything at all, it is more often stuff that makes me "even less interested" than I might have been otherwise. Would at least want someone who I could maybe have interesting conversations with and similar (say, about programming stuff or other similarly nerdy interests). Also mostly want to be able to have kids and similar, which is probably about the only reason I haven't just given up on it entirely (well, and since cloning oneself isn't really an option).

100% relate regarding needing to know a person BEFORE any kind of attraction can occur! That has caused a lot of confusion and frustration for me and ppl around me through the years. As a straight guy, I have been supposed to be attracted immediately or not at all.

We love you Jordan!

Don't discredit yourself Jordan! As you said that you and your experiences are valid. It's not just "adding your story to the pile", you're genuinely helping humans, chipping away at the unnuanced binary thought patterns that so many are coerced into from their environments & consumption. I support you wholeheartedly in bringing intersectionality of all sorts forward, and straight-up educating others outside of just STEM topics too! 🤘

Thank you very much for sharing your story, it's really interesting to hear :O As a demi-sexual/romantic person (who thought they were full ace previously) your story feels very familiar in terms of seeing a person and thinking that they are conventionally attractive but the thought of giving them a smooch makes me feel ill Also, gosh dang dating apps are butt, there should be one where you don't get to see the person's face for like 6 months :P Thank you for saying about protecting trans people also Hopefully in the not too distant future, there won't be any minorities who need protecting and everyone will have equity

how are you satisfied with those shelves? I've never seen them in teal life, only on pinteres posts, and I always assumed they can't hold a lot of weight, but yours seem stacked up. also, having books horizontally, makes sense only g+for books you are done reading and won't be getting back into any time soon

What you’re describing also sounds a bit like orchidsexual! It’s a modifier like how demisexual is (demipan, demilesbian, etc). You can find strangers (actors, coworkers, people on the street, etc) hot (by your own standards, not necessarily society’s), and you have no interest in being sexually involved without having a bond with them. This differs from demi because demi people don’t find strangers hot by their own standards.

Still my internet crush ❤, all the best on your new journey.

well, i accept you as you are. always have despite you didn't know i exist lol i love watching you just because of how articulate you are and that you are black

Any video on causal AI, causal ML? How that is different from/related to explainable AI?

I find this whole issue quite complicated. I am not sure what I am anymore. I feel it may be simplest for someone to say, don't classify me, Just accept me the way I am.

before watching - I'm trying to think of a euclidean math related joke, but I got nothing.

not EVERYONE's thing but I've really loved bloom community's app lately since it's not really a dating app but more like an events / meetup one, with some dating elements but... that one is more geared towards non monogamous and other alternative lifestyles... so y'know join if that's your thing

Cool! 👍🏻

Oh, huh. I didn't know you weren't straight (if you'd mentioned it before, I must have forgotten. Sorry.) Thank you for sharing your story.

Right! Time to save my 👸🏿 & my possible future. Em so where do i even begin to my shot 🤦🏾‍♂️ to help her realise she's just waiting to complete moi, that she's straight.

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Good for you! (I hope and expect that eventually the default assumption will be that everyone is just pan, and being anything else is considered a probably-harmless eccentricity, like only dating left-handed redheads...)

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Immense W bossman

Demisexual ❤

Jordan: I'm pan. Brilliant, now pay me. YES ROFL get that ad money also with the Trevor on the Side eeeyyy

Huh, wait hold up! You know what, I'm just not gonna watch this 1. Wow from 2019 to here

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