it took me until i was 50 years old to learn these things. when i did, i lost weight, went to nursing school even thiugh people told me i was toooo old! i started being me...and i have never ever been happier! so glad u know these things long before u r 50!! good for u! ♡♡♡

Sometimes, I come back and watch this video when I feel like I need to reset my life and mind and priorities. Works every time.

I'm 57 years old. And I only ever watched you for Shoes & handbags. This video is so on point, you should do more of the same. So genuine and honest . So helpful and not only for the very young and beautiful. Good for you Xxx

call this series: beyond the bags :)

This video is everything. I have wasted so many years trying to fit in, wondering why I don't have it all. Last year was my turning point I cut out anyone who wasn't good for me and decided to work on my own goals. I'm not exactly where I want to be but I'm getting closer everyday. Thank you for this video it means a lot to know that I'm not alone in how I have felt and how I'm feeling xx

I've said it once and I'll say it again, listening to you and watching your videos feels I'm with / hanging out with an (older, wiser) sister that I never had. You're incredible and so inspiring, I'm so glad I found your channel

You can call it The Sit down series with Lydia!

Just discovered your channel. I am 54 years old and suffered from anxiety and depression since childhood, but a few years ago I really began to write down every little thing that I could be grateful for and it slowly began to work deep inside my soul to heal sooo much. I’m another person who now gets REALLY excited about the smallest things because sometimes they are bigger than you realize.

Lydia posts= drop everything!!

The part of this that really inspired me was when you talk about everyone having their own land, and to try focusing on what you can bulid with your land rather than being envious of what someone else is doing with theirs. This description of one's own land with their own resources and own style, not limited resources or matching styles, gave me a visual I can use for daily motivation. Thank you!

Tea time with lydia. ☕️. Honestly lydia. You're really relatable and you talked some real sense in this video wherein not only i can relate into. But also other girls and boys out there who are in the current situation. It's great how your very vocal with the things that you earned by working hard to get them. And the goal settings is really useful for me and husband and also maintaining positivity. We're planning on a really big move and we're in need of a solid goal setting and positive foundation. Much love and care lyds xx 😘

This had me in tears. I am in a point in my life where I needed to be reminded of these affirmations. Your candor and positive attitude is incredibly refreshing. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

This video was literally what i started to do since last year. As a 20 year old working student I achieved everything on my own. If i wanted a car or a holiday to Mexico or that stuart weizmans boots that you made me buy haha I WORKED hard. You just another person to me that showed me that hard work pays off! Keep working ladies, be positive and stay focused! xxxx

i'm 21 and relate soooo much to everything you said in the beginning! especially the part about expecting things to happen and materialize, without putting in the necessary work or steps. not necessarily in a spoiled manner, maybe just in an overwhelmed and naive sort of way? either way, love this video so much :) thank you!!

Jealousy is very self-destructive, draining and takes a lot of energy.

I was having such a crap day today, so glad I watched this. I genuinely feel better. Thank you Lydia

Thank you for this video. Someone once said to me that if your ship doesn't come in, swim out to it. Stop expecting things to come to you. Working for it makes everything much more worthwhile. Control the things you can, and don't worry about the things you can't control, it's a waste of energy and positivity.

In all honesty, this is my favorite video on youtube right now. Ive never seen another youtuber sit down and share real life advice and what you've actually gone through and I seriously loved it. I hope you do more of these because I really feel like the world needs an amazing role model like you.

Chillin with Millen 🤓

Lydia, you have such a knack for being able to sit down and talk and make me feel like you are sitting across from me sipping tea. It is a very lovely and endearing quality along with seeing that you are so down to earth. It is so refreshing to see someone who finds joy in the small things in life and practices gratitude daily. I enjoy these chats and your videos are helping me get by as the world has shut down from the pandemic. Wishing and Ali all the best and hope you both are staying healthy in mind and spirit!

Lydia I would love to see you do the draw my life or if you don't feel like drawing you can always do it without drawing. Just so we could get to know you more. Only if you're comfortable with it. So honored and proud to call myself your subscriber. Love you always.

Firstly, you can't pour from an empty cup. Second, If you don't think you're worth spending your own time to make " you" happy why do you think anyone would think you are worth spending their time to make you happy? People take a queue of how to treat you from how you treat yourself....period! Treat yourself well and people will treat you well.

Beautiful Lydia, thank you for this wave of what I needed. I'm in this big dark tornado where I hate my office job for my city, it sucks, it's boring from monday to friday 9 to 5 I pay bills for the city. I so unhappy since 5 years now. So many people telling me nah you can't leave you have a job that pays you so do it and don't complain but it is depressing and a real burden that my health got affected with zona & anxiety. I have stability and nice pay checks but ugh I just can't anymore. I'm just a passionate, over the top like you, creative woman that lives for fashion & my famille. This year, I'll turn 27 and I decided that I'm gonna work my ass off to wake up every morning doing what I love dearly with my heart & soul. I don't care anymore about these negative comments on fashion industry. I'm just done pretending being ok because it might be a dream job for some, but NOT FOR ME. I'm gonna finish my University certificate and I will start the fashion business program I've been dreaming of for too long now. I am so excited and so happy to know that I can finally be who I am and do what I love, that it almost feel like a coming out you know I didn't want to disappoint my parents & hear people's degrading what I love the most. Finally .. when they realized where I was mentally, so tired and no more energy or motivation (which is anormal cause I'm an over the top girl) they finally understood that the government is not for every human being and they encouraged me on the path of MY happiness. All of this to say thank you for putting light in this dark not so dark anymore kind of place I was, since I watch you for a while and you helped me a lot through this even though you don't know me :) I can say that I love you cause you've been part of that process and I look up to positive hard worked women like you. Keep spreading love and joy around you, you can change people's lives without realizing!! I will start back my KZfaq channel I abandoned cause work took that motivation I had. I must be one in a thousands, but ya truly, thank you :) xx Sofia from Montreal/Canada : sofashion_mtl

We need more of these videos from Lydia. I've been on the fence about her for a while and find her much more relatable when she openly shares in this way. I realize it's hard to be fully authentic on social media as negativity can make you retreat and not want to share, but this is likely some of her best stuff. I hope she finds the confidence and strength to do more of these.

Lydia, I subscribed to your channel a week ago, not because I love designer shoes/bags/clothes. TBH, I don't have designer shoes/bags/clothes in my wardrobe (well, I have a Coach wallet lol, does that count??) but because I see the similarities that we both share: workout, makeup, skincare, the way we save money, mindset and etc. I watch your shopping videos, I enjoy them, and then I go on with my life because I have different goals than yours. I too, have come a long way to where I am now. Honestly, having your own goals, staying positive and not comparing myself with others are what helped me get through the rock bottom 8 years ago. Keep up the good work Lydia!! xoxo

I'm a stay at home Mom of four kids and we couldn't have more different lives but I do find so many similarities through your personality and style. Positive people attract other positive people in their lives. I REALLY related to you talking about how you appreciate the little joys in life and how you accept the the draw backs as well and move past them. You made this overwhelmed stay at home Mom have a brighter outlook on my day after watching this so keep doing what your doing Lydia ♥

Oh Lydia, you've uploaded this on the best possible day for me! Over the last couple of months I've just felt like I'm going backwards, and my (normally positive!) mindset has really been slipping; this was a fantastic reminder to stop feeling sorry for myself, and get back to making things happen! Also, just a side note - it's been amazing watching your channel grow over the last year, so well deserved!

I keep coming back to this video when ever I need to reset my schedule and get back on track. This is so motivational. I wish there were more video's like this😭💜

OMGosh Lydia seriously I loved this video! Think this will be on repeat several times over today and these are type of vids that is a vid of service. I appreciate your beautiful, kindess, but now I can add to the list ...wisdom! Thanks so much for sharing your heart. So glad that you spoke of friendship and never being in competition with other people. Omgosh you had so many points! Okay so I vote DEFINITELY MORE OF THESE! Okay so what about Laidback Lydia or Relaxing w/ Lydia ???

🌼 This was the video that truly cemented my respect for you not just a professional KZfaqr who takes great pride in her work but as an ever evolving woman. I use this video as a pep-talk and resource when I need to get back on track with my goals. So appreciative that you went this route with motivational videos based in your experience. 🌺

Lydia Elise Millen You could call the series "Lydia's Life's lessons"

When you talked about little things you almost made me cry! Everything you said is just so on point. It was 9 a.m. in Ukraine and I was in bed when i started watching this video and I literally got up! When you said you used to lie in bed just like I do now I just got the hell up! THANK YOU FOR YOU

You should name this series 'Just Lydia' because it's just that...Just Lydia! It's quite refreshing to see you open up like that rather inspirational too. Lyulots Lyds keep up the hard work! x

This is one of the greatest video of yours Lydia! Thank you for being such a inspirational example for me! Maybe it sounds a bit too much but you really changed my life from the personal point of view. You taught me how to look at goods and precious things, how to spend money consciuosly and also how to enjoy life. I love watching your videos especially your vlogs. Please do more video like this chat! It makes me feel good!!! Kisses from Italy

This video should be required viewing for everyone! It is so refreshing to see a young person understand the merits of hard work...something that seems lost in this entitled generation. THANK YOU for this video!

It is amazing that you have learned to never compare yourself with anyone else, Lydia. That is one of the greatest life lessons that we can ever discover, for we will either look down on others or look down upon ourselves!

Really looking forward to this! #LEMChats, feels like just listening to a friend chat! x

Lydia this video really inspired me and made a change to my day today. I was in a bad mood this evening and you made me clear again that being a bad mood is somehow a waste of time. If there are things that can't be changed we have to accept them somehow. But everything else that we can influence lays in our hands. We decide if we make this work or not. I would LOVE to watch more videos like this. I think your channel is such a nice mixture! I love seeing you talk about handbags and seeing Lumi. And I also love you just sitting there and talking to us. You are such an inspiration! Hugs :-*

I'm only a little but of the way through this video but, you are so unbelievably open with us guys it so lovely to see. Thank you for being so honest and stripped back darling..love ya doll xx

You hit on exactly what drew me to your videos - the ability to elevate the ordinary and celebrate every day. It's a true gift and great message. keep it coming! ❤

You are the best Lydia! This was exactly the pep talk i needed right now, thank you ❤

Love this Lydia! Your shining personality is beaming out of your face 😊❤ Gorgeous words to live by! I feel the same about appreciating every tiny thing, being grateful for the morning is something I love to practice I mutter a little mantra to myself every morning "health, hope & happiness" ✌🏽You inspire me ✨

This video made me wanna get up superr early tomorrow and make a difference, even a tiny one!

I LOVE the natural feeling this video brings. I've always felt that you're different from most KZfaqrs because you show genuine happiness, honesty and humility. But now, these chats just seem to relax the tone even more and it's so obvious you love what you do and you don't ever mind showing us who you are. You have so much support on here and through social media, I'm sure you won't be able to see this but just know you have so much going for you!! 💛

I have to say I find this truly inspirational. I have recently quit my job which is making me very nervous but this blog has just reassured me that I am doing the right thing as I am not happy and need to make this change. Thanks Lydia xx

Love seeing this side to you Lydia! We have a lot in common in the way we think. For the last 4 years, every night I write down at least 3 things that were positive or good about my day. When I began, I really struggled to think of 3 (which is crazy considering the fact I was sat with a roof over my head was 1 in itself) but now I can fill a page without hesitation. It's also so important to know when to cut toxic ties with people, sometimes you need to let go of someone to save yourself. X

It's this simple Lydia: thank you for your dope vibes and your down to earth sit down chats. Continue to shine bright xx

I enjoyed this video immensely. I truly appreciate everything you mentioned in this chat. And I'm currently working on becoming a better version of myself and creating a future that I want, as cliche as that might sound. And we may not be able to afford the same things but that doesn't mean we can't relate to each other. All in all thank you for opening up.

I love the growth of your chanel. I think you are on a right path, and every video, I like you a bit more. Great job 💜

Hi Lydia I'm 48 and I still need to remind myself of all these points you've discussed. I wish I was a wise as you at your age. Mind you im so ancient I don't think there was such a thing as social media at the time lol Brill video. Love you're channel and look forward to all your posts x

Oh my goodness, Lydia, this was fantastic! Please make more videos like this. I couldn't agree more with what you shared. Going to be watching this one a few times just to make sure I'm fully absorbing everything. Comparison truly is the thief of joy, I fight the urge to compare myself to my grad school colleagues all the time. Grad school is a horrible environment for comparison, we all do it, but it makes us all miserable. Over the last year or so I've had to work really hard to stop comparing and my life is a lot happier because of it. Can't wait to see what other videos you do in this series, this was so relaxing to just sit back and hang out with you for a bit. :) xx

I really appreciate that you acknowledge mental illness as being a much deeper issue then just changing your mindset! A lot of people don't recognize the difficulty people face with just trying to stay positive when they struggle with mental health issues!

Wow. Thank you, perfect timing, I really needed this right now❤

Wow, wow, WOW!!!!! This is just exactly what i needed to hear😭🙌🏻 (i know its a year old but things like this never get old!) Love this just so much, thank you for sharing ❤️

I love this! Such a great message for the ladies who watch this channel. I love how you inspire Lydia!

This video came at such a proper time for me!! I just watched the minimalism documentary and learned a few things in my last psychology class and I can't believe how stuck I was in the consumerism world!! A lot of us grew up with commercials and a huge media influence telling us we need certain things to be happy, but according to the 75 year study by Harvard uni and a similar one by Boston uni, the key to happiness is having strong, intimate relationships with loved ones :) things have got into perspective for me now and thanks for being a huge influence and sharing the message 💛💛

Great video Lydia! I'm a 40plus blogger (still learning and trying to grow) but your blog and KZfaq channel really do inspire me and spur me on to try and achieve great things. I feel it's harder for us older blogger but I'll keep on trying and one day may get brave and start my KZfaq channel!!!!

The reason I keep coming back to your videos is because you have such a sincere way of delivering your content and I really feel like you are exactly the way you are in your videos as you are in real life. I've been watching youtubers for years and I've completely out grown all of the obvious faces because they keep delivering the same (quite frankly rubbish) content with no thought for growing with their audience! I truely love your sophisticated and thoughtful content and it's made me fall back in love with KZfaq! You go girl!

hi Lydia i know this is an old video but love it, please do some more like this! xxx

I'm so down now in my life, I hope so that I will find my way back. Thank you for this video.💜

I think that as I've got older and grown up I've become more aware of everything. Like being grateful for the little things, I'm very grateful now but as a teen I literally didn't care about the things I do now. I love hearing the birds sing when I'm walking my dogs or a warm breeze. Your whole outlook on life changes as you grow I feel. When you've had different experiences, both good and bad. Great video!

This is seriously the best video you ever made ! I really really enjoy those kind of inspiring videos and I think there's not enough of those on youtube ! Thank you so much Lydia for helping us with your experience in life ❤♥

This has made me so happy. I am 61 with systemic lupus. I don't look 61and I don't look like I have a chronic illness and it bugs some people. Everything you speak on is so on point it sounds like it's coming from a sage. Shopping has always made me happy so I get it. You are a remarkable young woman. Stay happy and healthy.

You get out of life what you put into it. If you put nothing in, you get nothing out but that's with anything. Time will pass no matter if your sitting on your ass or if you're striving to make a better life for yourself. I like that you accomplished a lot in one year. I think everyone starting out should work their ass off and look back that first year and say, Wow, if I can do all that in a year think what I can accomplish in 5 yrs and set some goals. Don't let anyone slow you down or discourage you.

OMG, this couldn't have come at a better time! This is what I'm going thru right now, I could literally stay in bed all day for weeks because I keep comparing myself to others and how I've not achieved what I've wanted to by now. Knowing you've gone thru this and are finding you're happiness is starting to help me see I can still get it together and go forward. THANK YOU😘😘😘

I do not comment your videos but i do watch most of them and i i must admit... this one felt sooo geniuine and true, just as if i was listining to a friend,stay your true self Lydia, do not change xox

I'm old enough to be your mom. So with that said you are such a beautiful person from the inside out! Love your videos!!

I love this so much

This is such a lovely video, and you're such a great role model for EVERYONE. Not just bloggers and not just females. Truly everyone. I adore that you did your channel YOUR WAY because so many people are doing their channels the way others are and it eliminates the authenticity + sometimes I feel like I've watched the same video 17 times already. I love your channel so much, and it has quickly become my favorite! xx

I'm 19 and this video really did help. I had so many pals when I left school but know I hardly don't talk to no one, I don't have friends because I feel like no one likes me at all, as hard as I try to make friends I just can't, I look at other people friendships and I wish that was me. I focus more on life goals then friends and that's what I feel like I'm doing wrong. But amazing video Lydia really helped x

Lydia I'm not no one to often comment on videos as I'm awful at KZfaq BUT I just want to thank you for making this video. I love this dimension of you. Everything you said calls to me - thank you so much 💕

You should call it "Life with Lydia"!

Loved this video! As a new youtuber it can get discouraging but passion and positivity keep me going but I too have those days. So thank you for the positive kick in the ass to get me through

You are just such an amazing person. So beautiful in every way, im completely in awe of you.

LOVE THIS!! i think your the most uplifting funny and inspiring youtuber ive found lately and i love your message behind this and how humble you are!!!

Truly get so excited when Lydia posts ❤❤❤

I love your enthusiasm for small things and big things alike! It's something that I began doing when I started doing a gratitude diary - every night for the past 5 or 6 years I have written down 5 things that I'm grateful for that day and it's changed my mindset completely! Such a positive video - love it! 😘

didn't realise how much I needed this, thank you

For the past year, I've been getting daily 'notes from the Universe'. They have changed my whole outlook to a much more happier, positive and peaceful life, and they are really beautiful. I can't recommend them enough!

Love your videos, especially longer ones 😙 "I PROTECT MY POSITIVITY" - need to make a t-shirt with that quote 😋

Absolutely FANTASTIC!!!!!! I went through a dark period in life at one point and "You JUST BE YOU!" Is what my Dad told me - so this really resonated with me..... and speaks to me even a couple of years later. Absolutely loved everything you said!!!!!!!

Dear Lydia, you are such a sweet and darling person. I wish you all the luck in a world. I am 44 years old and listening to you went back in the past when I was a girl :-) You are doing a great work...keep it up !!! You should come and visit Croatia...you and Ali would love it. Greetings from Zagreb, Croatia Ines

Thanks for the great, inspiration video, Lydia. I am 66 years old and have realized these things you speak of, although, a little late in life. You are an inspiration for not only me but for younger ladies. Every summer, I find a person to binge watch for fashion. Yesterday, I filled up two large bags of clothes to donate to charity while listening to one of your vlogs. While doing it I tried on a lot of clothes and got refreshed about my own fashion sense and style. Keep up the good work!

My only problem is: I actually have no goal at all😶

I can SO relate to everything you said! Especially the "I spent a lot of time in bed"- part. I have been there and the more we have the courage to talk about these things(our past) the more people we meet who have gone trough the same. It feels so good to share and maybe change even only one person's life! You're a wonderful human being and worked hard to get the life you imagined (and even more). With all the jealousy and the hate, we always should remind ourselves of the fact that people always (re)act within their own mental and emotional (like in emotional intelligence) capacities. And some just aren't as blessed with this as others. All the best wishes from Germany. xo

I start my masters degree tomorrow and I needed this video. Biggest motivation boost, love this can't wait for more videos x x

i am about to turn 35. i have totally started thinking exactly like you. i'm a professional woman, so I have accomplished a lot, but that was in my 20s. In my 30s, i got into a job, got into a slump, making great money that I appreciate a lot, but i found that i was gaining weight, not taking care of myself, and NOT COMPLETING THINGS (ie, I paid for and started metalsmithing, blog writing, fitness training, and painting classes, ALL of which i just stopped going to). So, up until my summer birthday of this year, I have decided that I will COMPLETE things that I start, TAKE CONTROL of my health and fitness, and develop positive attitude-building habits. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing.

Don't stop watching this video before you've watched 6.25 to 7.25

I am so grateful that I have come across your channel. Perfect timing as I am trying to pinpoint where I stand today as an interior designer who's just starting out, and for sure as a person. I have been binge watching your videos the second I discovered your channel. I know it's not the best anyone could ever do if they've got jobs or so. However, it was just what I needed. Your realness, positivity, enthusiasm, productivity, and creativity! I can't tell you how much it has helped me now. & Omg this videos! Perfect! I know you may not read this since it's been so long, but I truly want to Thank You Very Much Lydia. I wish you all the very best xx

I love sit downs with you! Lol I feel like your a big sister lol just giving me your honest advice/ guidance on life! I am so happy I came across your channel and appreciate you so much!!❤️❤️

You're a genuine and down to earth person whether you're talking about bags or discussing these more personal reflections about yourself and your life. I love watching these relaxed and reflective videos because we all relate in some way or another to your struggles and success, and it's so great to interact with you on this level 😊 Wishing you all the best xx

Thank you SO MUCH Lydia for this video ! Being myself a blogger and you tubber since ages (we were in Marrakech together in september with Clinique ;-), what you say here is very interesting and could actually be life changing for me. I'm not kidding. You are so mature for your young age (I allow myself to say that as I'm 20 years more than you ;-), I'm very impressed and admirative. Really, thank you for what you share here, you might have no idea how much it can touch peopele. Thanks again.

I don't actually care about shoes and handbags, I fell in love with your channel because of your vlog videos and chatty videos like this one! You give off a lot of positive energy and over all feel like someone who I'd have fun hanging out with and that is why I'm subscribed to your channel! Love your advice, thank you xx

Your videos are so inspiring Lydia, you truly are an amazing person x

We share the same values, every single thing you said summarizes my own life lessons which made me like you and your channel even more! It's a breath of fresh air to watch a KZfaqr who has immense sense of maturity. I wish you all the best in life! Aloha from Hawaii

Just finished watching the whole video.. you're so beautiful in and out, i felt so much joy watching :)

I was having this exact discussion with my friends last night. I have a KZfaq channel myself and thought to myself that I want people to get the "real" me and get to know my personality. Thank you for this video Lydia!! xx

How about 'lift the Lid' for the name of these vlogs?? 👍🏼😁

Love how genuine you are on the camera , also you have a beautiful smile x

"Lydia's Insights".... I cannot afford all the items that you purchase but I love to watch those videos....with no jealousy ofcourse :)...but the videos like these will make me hooked to your channel! awesome video very inspirational! love you Lydia