Same feeling 😂❤ wenzes

Exactly🤜

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And I'm fine with losing love now, cuz I already have it

And so be it. We are introverts, genuinely. We will be just fine.

boy howdy!!!

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Good described!!! =) Lovely Greets

Or literally.

Keep the faith. I had a manager do that to me who then tried to gaslight me & doubt my own perceptions of reality. It's a hard fight but it's utterly worth standing up for yourself 😊

@@Tified967 it’s incredible how much Wenzes is helping us INFJ’s understand and empower ourselves. I used to gaslight myself tbh about traits i have until i was educated by Wenzes . So glad we are standing up for ourselves !

It gets better as you get older. I promise. It really does. Good for you, kiddo.

I learned this as well. Young. You are dead on. We have to stand up to bullies in this world. All of us. No matter the type. For the good of all. Especially during this historically wacko time we are living in. Stay strong, fellow INFJ, you are a light worker. I got your back. -INFJ

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied thank you, stay strong fellow infj

As a kid, Rogue was who I related to, not just because of her powers of absorption that made it impossible for her to get close to people for fear of hurting them and being hurt herself, but also being unable to turn them off and control them and set mental boundaries, meaning she couldn’t rid herself or the others’ powers or their emotions. I didn’t realize it as a child. When I tested as an INFJ she came back to mind, and it all made sense. And interestingly, I found out that in the comics, later in life Rogue learned how to control her power, build mental boundaries, and she was able to touch people without hurting them and allow herself to be close to others, while being truly herself without getting hurt. Also, interesting was that, in the mutant world, she was eventually considered one of the most powerful mutants. That stuff I didn’t know until after I found out I was INFJ. All these years later and it resonates even more. It’s interesting. And and it reminds me how much I always tried to change as a teen and young adult because the world told me to and then I think of that line in the X-Men first film when Bobby’s parents said “ have you tried not being a mutant?” Loool.

That's what the talk is all about: standing up for yourself. You can start by setting boundaries. There are many talks about this, too. And to make others respect your boundaries, you need to be ok with some people not liking you! Best of luck 😁

Because they feel bad about themselves in your company or next to you, maybe they lack self realization or they don’t have a strong sense of self other than to their positions and others around them and you seem to be a full person all on your own. But trust me these people wouldn’t even be able to put it in words they lack emotional intelligence and self awareness so they wouldn’t know why they’re doing what they’re doing or feeling what they’re feeling.

It’s a difficult life for us here infjs and it’s mainly because of other people, otherwise life itself is beautiful.

The people you refer to as "they" are parasites. Plain and simple. Most people would not harass people. A truly strong and confident person doesn't need to abuse others to feel powerful. Still, it hurts and no one deserves to be treated in this way - including you.

empath will do this, as we mirror our weakness and strength's they are the opposite...we will attract, and ~so you will to, we need to learn boundaries, safe journey!

we love intj very very compatable with infj.

My brother is an INTJ, too, and he's had similar problems.

I think this as you can be true of INTJs as Ni-Fi convergent types and is equally applicable, if not more so to the cognitive ISFP with convergent Fi-Ni; Wenzes is very much referring to the notion of the self & authenticity from a very Fi-Ni imbued perspective & illustrates this very well, I'm not negating that at all. I think for some other types, including cognitive INFJs (of which there are few) as divergent SeFe feelers the notion of an authentic self can be problematic for this type; many types see the self as changing incrementally not something that is necessary excavated thus the notion of a true authentic self doesn't necessarily exist for this type. As SeFe divergents INFJs generally adhere to social protocol as opposed to breaking the mold unlike these types. Of course the cognitive INFJ can dip into Fi from their Ti but their primary seat of the ego is Ni-Ti: abstract cerebral conceptualisation whereas the INTJ is generally more submerged in existential limbic waters as Ni-Fi convergents. I guess what I'm trying to illustrate is your observations are true in so far as INTJs & ISFPs go (indeed on a type spectrum they can bleed into one another as we're cognitively fluid beings) but isn't necessarily applicable to the Jungian INFJ. Of course, even though I'm not an INTJ or ISFP, I don't think their perspective is invalid, far from it, I'm just simply looking at it from a multifaceted perspective whereby not all types would align themselves with for example, authenticity, as a core value, especially more Ti centric types. I think pointing this out & will create some understanding between the cognitive types and, that we may all be coming from an equally valid perspective in line with our own cognition. I actually admire ISFPs & INTJs a great deal; in fact one of my best friends is an INTJ 😊

I am with an INTJ, and we align beautifully. I adore you guys and enfps.

@@MegaCyberleaderoh yes, indeed we adore INTJs (and enfps)

I'm so tired of them trying to make their fear my problem

@@jnl3564 This is where it gets complex. With Quiet BPD (which is deep toxic shame & after effect of being exposed to long term narcissistic abuse) one will introject other people's accusation as own fault. And then end up with codependency issues and trauma bonding, gaslighted and unable to deflect unfair treatment.

This is false. Anyone would be shattered if they were exposed to constant abuse, even happy-go-lucky extroverts. People who suffer from this type of abuse most likely developed PTSD. This can be healed, but it's a difficult journey. BPD gets thrown around too lightly - especially towards women who are disliked as INFJs seem to be. I would get a second opinion if I were you. Not all psychologists are good at their job, nor do they have your best interest in mind.

@@Here4TheHeckOfIt " Anyone would be shattered if they were exposed to constant abuse, even happy-go-lucky extroverts" I agree with you. " People who suffer from this type of abuse most likely developed PTSD" PTSD is not the same as CPTSD. Complex Trauma is forbidden and banned by American medical industry, while Complex PTSD is fully recognized by WHO's ICD-11. PTSD is more related to one time incident and mostly wars. While Complex PTSD is related to exposure to narcissistic abuse over long period of time often during childhood when our psyche is forming and is supposed to be validated and loved, not criticized invalidated all the time. " BPD gets thrown around too lightly " I agree- but this is Quiet BPD I am talking here. Quiet BPD information is also banned by American medical industry because pharma mafia is making huge money profit off traumatized victims and targets of abuse. "especially towards women who are disliked " I agree. ". I would get a second opinion if I were you" Quiet BPD information helped me to understand that Social anxiety trauma stems from lack of identity. This piece of missing puzzle which CBT and self help industry does not mention lead me to discovery of IFS. And IFS works. What is the internal family system? IFS Therapy: Techniques, Benefits, Considerations Internal family systems, or IFS, is a type of therapy that believes we are all made up of several parts or sub-personalities. It draws from structural, strategic, narrative, and Bowenian types of family therapy.

Maybe you weren’t door slamming because of your discomfort with closeness; but rather, following your intuition. I’m a middle aged INFJ, who thought this way as well, when I was younger, only to discover, repeatedly, that it was actually my intuition, guiding and protecting me. We tend to be very self critical, and it creates blind spots for us, regarding the strength of our intuition. Our TI can be a real bugaboo, if we let it.

you are strong, and have powers.. Use them :)

Exactly! Whenever I'm thinking about a situation inside and boom there is a video pop up. Stay blessed 😇

you are the salt of life. The glowworm of society. That magic that make lifes worth it...even if its from the shadows.

​@@MegaCyberleaderIt ain't much but it's honest work

Still get around some how while expressing our thoughts in the best way possible like joyfully and honestly

Speaking mind with integrity and compassion.This way of behaviour helped me in addressing bullying in school system for my daughter.Thank you Wenzes ❤

Cut them out of your life. 💯👊✌️😎

@gamer5004 The end results are going to vary if you continue. The only way to get over such a thing is to cut them out totally. If they make the changes necessary then I wouldn't see an issue. You need to see some type of effort or work towards that change to keep engaged. Other than that I walk. Took me a lot of years to realize all that. I had a lot of changes to do myself. It's unacceptable today to put up with bullies, idiots, and people who don't know themselves.

@gamer5004 That doesn't make sense. Can you rephrase all that for me? Your descriptors are off.

As a true infj you don't need test to proof anything. The intuition and self reflection is enough to confirm that you are.

Sound advice 💯✌️😎

Well done to you for staying so strong in a situation which sounded confrontational-you handled it exactly as a true INFJ would+stood your ground!-(I believe you won that battle by knowing your own mind+not letting someone else's emotions intimidate you)-stay strong+keep up the good fight!-from a fellow INFJ!👍😀👏

OMG, well miracles do happen. This conflict just dissolved somehow. I didn't say a word or do anything, it just went poof!! Idk how but I'm so grateful to the divine, really really helps to have friends in high places 🙏 🙌 💓 ❤️ 💛 😆 🤣

Gangbangers and bikers selling their wives and girlfriends on the streets. Which I don't go for. A major clash. They don't like me much. 😂 isn't that too bad?

AND YOUR NOT❤ YOU ARE TAKING CARE OF U FOR THE FIRST TIME MAYBE EVER. . WE DO NOT UNDERSTAND AS CHILDREN 😢 WE FEEL THE PAIN AND DYSFUNCTION AND WE DO NOT KNOW ANYTHING ELSE!! I L9VE YOUR 👏 👏 👏 BACK!! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS. . ONE STEP AT A TIME. I LEFT AFTER MORE THAN 45 YEARS. I AM STILL LEARNING. NO CONTACT WITH EX. EVERY DAY I NEED TO LEARN MORE. I HAVE DROPPED MULTIPLE UNHEALTHY USERS. I NOW REALIZE THEY WERE NOT FRIENDS. JUST USERS, ABUSERS. BE SAFE AND STAND 💪. THANK YOU WENZES SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM!!❤❤😊

your gut is right, something is wrong for one of two reasons maybe both, you said "the measures that you are suggesting are taking away from the core being of who I am" this may be an indication that you are not infj but intj with strong inner moral compass (Fi) which is softer than most infjs, inside. the other reason is "experienced" infj deals with situations in completely different ways not mentioned in this video, and you know it in your gut because you are Ni user (infj or intj doesnt matter much as both perceive the same logic but act in different ways)

​@@KM-gt5is My mate is an INTJ and there are a couple things that make me think I'm not INTJ. 1st, I'm older. I took the original test way back in the age of the dinosaur in the 80s. I was a medical transcriptionist and my boss wanted all of us to take it. I took this very long hand written, detailed version that took a couple of hours. When mine came back as INFJ, she made me take it again, I had no idea why because I didn't know anything about MBTI. It came back again as INFJ. I'm very empathic and for 16 years worked at a alcohol and drug abuse treatment hospital. I have no degree, but I was Ms. Carol and I was "the ear". I listened to ppl and gave them homework based on their needs. I also helped them do the homework and helped them do their autobiography. Both my mate and my best male friend are both INTJ and we are all very similar, but both the guys are extremely devoted to solving a problem in a very methodical way, where I must listen and get a feel for someone's needs. I'm running on. Sorry. My issue with what you are saying is about being transparent to everyone and showing your power to everyone. I think it is possible to protect yourself, and let the specific person know they are messing with the wrong person, but not be totally transparent. Perhaps I have trust issues. Im not sure, but I am older and I do believe as you get older, if you are working on it, you do believe in yourself and your abilities more and you are more successful at keeping away those toxic people. I have been able to do so to a great degree, but only in the past three years and I'm around 60. I'm just the kind of person that believes you should never allow anyone to see every card you're holding. I'm also a Cancer and so my shell is titanium lol. Am I making any kind of sense?

@@oliviarinaldi5963 well, this means i was describing you when i wrote "the other reason is "experienced" infj deals with situations in completely different ways not mentioned in this video" didnt go into details as most people can be sensitive about what they really are inside ! and yes you are making perfect sense and this is what i needed to understand decades ago, would have saved me 10-15 wasted years not really knowing what i am !

@@KM-gt5is woulda, shoulda, coulda, lol that is my middle name ;)

They won't respect you until you mirror and match their energy. But... it's your choice whether or not you want to do that

@@jnl3564 Yes but I also didn't want to stoop to their level. She had her 6 year old sticking his finger up from the bedroom window a few weeks back. So far I am ignoring them. But they make a point of being out and loud anytime I am in my garden, almost like an intimidation technique. I am a master of pretending you don't exist, I've had to do it a number of times. We as empathic INFJs are a target for these people, it's just very difficult when they live so close. But I will only put up with it for so long.. I've felt much anger but now I need to let it go and erase them from my existence.

What's the healthy perception of aggressively unboundaried people? And more importantly what is the healthy response if not "this is my space."

@@jnl3564 The INFJ’S I know are well supported and loved they focus on people and helping them to be the better versions of themselves and by doing this they are strengthening their Fe and have more meaning in their lives they don’t have time to think about people who hate them or rejecting them they’re optimistic people if they get insulted by a hater they would shrug it off and focus on positive people and make connections with them .

I wonder why they hang out with you then

@@jnl3564 I know them from you tube and if they wanted to talk outside social media I would I'm a positive person I don't dwell on negative things INFJ'S want to connect with people who are all about self growth I'm that way so I don't think they hanging out with me would be a big problem.