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Currently living in Japan and in an international marriage with a Japanese man myself and I wanted to say thank you so much for your mature and No BS videos! I have had a lot of friends sending me some clips of these street interviews lately making comments like “Wow, I didn’t know this about Japan / Japanese people!” They often ask me if it’s true as well, as if I’m some kind of expert just by living here. 😅 They definitely don’t realise that the street interview genre on the whole is always highly edited and the interviewers are only going to select the answers that fit the narrative they want for their video. I’m going to be sending your videos in response to these messages from now on! As for my own personal experience - I’ve known and still know Japanese people who have cheated or been cheated on and it is absolutely not simply shrugged off by their friends and family. In one example, a married couple in our immediate circle of friends separated because one of them was caught cheating. Once we all found out, most of us stopped hanging out with or speaking to the cheating spouse. Like you said in your video, Japanese won’t say to your face that they’re disappointed in you - but they’ll for sure let you know through their actions.

As someone who lived in Japan for 14 years (and married a Japanese woman), these street interviews are likely not representative of the populace at large.

I'm American. My sister and her husband were both cheated on by their previous partners. My friend got cheated on a couple times. Yeah, cheating happens everywhere. It sucks. The street interviews about the cheating being common and the high body counts made me think I was looking at it wrong. Maybe it's not a big deal. No. It is a big deal. When you spend time with someone it is a big part of your life. If you find out they cheat and you break up, all of that time you spent was wasted. That would make anyone angry.

You brought up a great point. Not thinking it is cheating and being okay with it are two different things. I moved to Japan a couple of years ago and my girlfriend is one of those people that doesn't consider it cheating. But when I explained that I did think it was cheating and had no interest in going, she was extremely happy. She said that while it may not be cheating, if the man doesn't go he seems more respectable and it's easier to build a strong relationship.

The interviews arent " Fake ". the only problem with the interviews is they are interviewing in places where the " Cool Kids " hang out so all of the responses are going to be reactive. At the same time these are the places that the people watching those videos will be going when they visit japan: shibuya , roppongi, shinjuku, osaka. i personally think they arent that bad if you already know that these certain areas are going to have more open people.

ある日街頭インタビューのビデオを見てから私のKZfaqはその類のビデオ推薦で溢れました。センセーショナルな回答をする人だけを編集して偏見を植え付け日本人として侮辱されている気分になりとても嫌でした。彼らはアジアにおけるSEXPATを増すことを助長し金を儲けています。私は本当にそれが嫌いです。

Thank you for clarifying Asagi. These street interviews musrepresent the reality of Japan rooted in social culture (tatemae) and historical changes (Kamakura and Edo periods). Even now the situation is complex and ever-changing. Love your channel and hope you accomplish awesome things this year❤️👏👏

Most of these interviews are heavily edited and influenced. Not just japan related. The internet if full of videos like "americans are dumb" or "gen Z doesn't understand rock music" and the likes. These never give an honest representation of the topic, but work with extreme opinions, mostly as clickbait. What is important to know 1: these usually happen at places where the interviewer can expect extreme answers. Want to show that _young people_ are irresponsible? Go to a campus on the party week! (campus on a party week =/= young people) Want to show the population is conservative? Ask questions in front of a Kentucky church! (the crowd at a mass on sunday =/= the population) 2: the middle ground answers are usually edited out. It can happen that the majority of the interviews are not even used, only those selected few which support the message, and are clickbait-y enough. 3: very often the interviewers asks leading questions, which are cut out. Like, telling alternative viewpoints on topic, persuading the "victim" for minutes, before asking the question. THe leadup doesn't make it into the interview, only the actual question. Having said that! I cannot agree with "I don't think there's any way you can avoid cheating 100%" What the hell? It is definietly avoidable. Either fix your original relationship (so that cheating doesn't make sense anymore), or break up before cheating.

I am 34 and I am from England. I have had the same girlfriend since I was 16. I have friends who have cheated on many of their GF's over those years. I think cheating is an independent choice thing. Loyalty is very important to me. Whether you are a friend/family or partner.

Haha, I mostly agree with her opinion, but as a young Japanese man, I'll add a few things. 1. "Do you want to date a foreign man?" "Hmm, yes!" This answer given by many Japanese women is also likely to be Tatemae. 😂 They say they are interested in dating foreigners, but they have no intention of studying English. 2. In addition, many young girls today consider love and marriage to be different things. What Japanese women look for in a man to marry is not love, height, or muscles. First of all, cleanliness, income, and Profession. Then, education and height. They may have the desire to date a foreign man at least once. But when they think about marriage, how likely is it that your Japanese girlfriend will choose you as her final partner? :) 3. "Prostitution is not cheating." Now, what do you think when you hear Japanese women say this? Do you think it's a simple remnant of patriarchy? I'll tell you the hidden message in this. On the other hand, it also means that "women working in brothels are not cheating, so even if they get a boyfriend, they intend to work secretly." Are you confident that you can tell that your girlfriend is not a prostitute? Other messages include "I don't want to be a permanent sexual partner after marriage, so please find other women to be with me instead." After I give birth to a child, I will "stop being a woman and become a mother," so you "stop being a man and become an ATM." This is why the rate of sexlessness in Japan is so high. From here on, as you all know, they are expected to work hard like Japanese men. Please remember that I said that "Japanese women want their spouses to have a Profession and income."

Those street interviews are just showing a side of Japan that we rarely see reported by its very same society, part of that culture of concealing things that can disturb society as a whole, but that doesn’t mean the problems aren’t there.

I am a Japanese American and I really only know 4 Japanese women who resides in Japan. 3 out of the 4 are cheating or have cheated. They have admitted that to me. They were all really nice women. I would have never guessed

Aba and Preach made a retraction video on their JP street interview video in the past. basically, "Yeah we shoulda known better, they do the same disingenuous stuff in the US and Canada" Your videos are changing minds and clearing misconceptions

I wouldn't necessarily call the interviews fake, but the interviewer lot of the time seems to have leading questions that make most of those people at the end say something like cheating being okay.. And should also note that almost always the people on the video are ones who are still in university so the marriage or any serious dating usually is out of the picture for another 5 years at least so they might not even understand the realities yet.

I still remember what happened to Aya Hirano. As an American it was eye-opening to see how Japanese society treated people who sleep around.

I’m glad that you’re addressing this because I’ve been having similar thoughts about this lately.

We here in the USA are fighting the same battles. This video is refreshing and encouraging; I've been studying everything I can that is Japanese, for several weeks now. This video was a great help.

Great job that you tackle that misinformation. I saw those videos and I was like "lol no way that's true". I am traveling to Japan for the first time ever this month. I am so excited!

The story about prostitution in Japan and the fact than married men who go to prostitution and women have no choice to accept this is common to many country.

I love how you are straight forward when dealing A subject.

I noticed that after takeshi, many people started too with the street interview content, and its most of the time the same 4-5 topics they use to generate views.

If memory serves me right, I think Meshida San shared a survey from a Japanese condom company about countries with the most cheating partners. Japan was not in the top 10. Although he also makes videos about cheating, a lot.

Ashley Madison ranks Canada as its top country for users. Japan isn't even in the top ten. If we're looking for countries in which cheating culture is more readily apparent, Japan pales in comparison to Australia, the U.K., Colombia, Mexico, Hong Kong, the U.S. Portugal, etc..

Thank you for sharing your views and clearing things. Thank you for the history lesson as well. Well done 🔥👏🏽👏🏽

This kinds of videos are extremely valuable, thank you for sharing your experience.

I think what bothered most people about these videos was not the fact that Japanese people cheat. Of course they do and there was no evidence in the video to suggest Japanese people cheat more than other cultures. Of course select interviews were edited and omitted to convey a certain narrative for clicks/views. That’s obvious. What was troublesome was the way almost everyone in the video would giggle and laugh - whether they were the cheaters or were cheated on, they all giggled. There was no feeling of regret, sadness, melancholy, etc. It almost made it seem trivial, but I think this highlights the differences in culture when it comes to showing genuine emotions. That’s my take.

Thank you for doing this. I was hoping for someone to be honest about this and not go for the easy clickbait

Most, over 90% of street interviews are fake and make me sick, and I don't watch those type of videos. They lack substance, research, and good amount of preparedness. They just go to the "best" and "populated" spots like Shibuya, Roppongi, Shinjuku, etc to get opinions very quickly.

Man the amount of passport bros posts referencing these street interviews is horrendous. Thanks for actually shining a light on how inaccurate they are

Can someone actually find a partner who they can trust, especially now with all the social media platforms? 🤔

Thanks for the video. This was helpful.

I lived in Japan for 8 years have a japanese wife and 2 kids with dual citizenship USA/Japan. And overall cheating is relatively common for women and men. And almost all japanese women I spoke with considered being with a prostitute not ideal but if there was no emotional connection then NOT cheating. DO NOT let others know about the affair so as to not shame your wife/husband. And obviously do not get some disease. That is pretty much it. It is humorous how many "experts" on here claiming anything else.

I was in Tokyo for awhile, and I from my time there I can say that Japanese people in general are very proper and conservative compared to my home country. I could never believe a video that says they cheat more, or that they accept cheating as okay. It just doesn't track with my daily experience there.

I will also point out some other historical things just to make things even more complicated. In the Heian Period which preceded the Kamakura Period and was the first "golden age" whose culture defined Japan for centuries, there was also a lot of cheating. However, it's also clear that cheating was something they frowned upon. Both men and women could have their reputations ruined if they got caught cheating or even just sleeping around, and in aristocratic circles one's reputation was the most important thing anyone could have. I also want to just slightly push back on the belief that women were considered "unclean." While that is actually true, and historical Japan was a very male dominated society, girls were seen as very valuable for at least two reasons. 1. They were a family's ticket to a better life. It was fairly hard for a man to move up the social ladder and earn a better life for himself and his kin, but women could be married into a higher ranking family much more easily and thus, the Heian nobility took great care of their girls. It's admittedly a little mercenary but the fact remains women were considered highly valuable. 2. When it came to the leaders of the great shrines at Ise and Kamo, only a woman, specifically an imperial princess, was allowed to officiate as the main priest, or rather priestess, of these shrines. To say nothing of the role that girls play as shrine maidens. Just some extra thoughts to add to highlight that yes, these kinds of topics are indeed very complicated.

Even after considering the points in this video, it sounds like the "misconceptions" still have some fundamental truth to them though. For example, the last point was basically a concession. There's a test you could do. Can you flip it around and find content creators getting these answers on the street in America? I'm haven't seen any street interviews in the US where people say they know so many cheaters, or admit they themselves are cheaters, and then say that if their BF finds a hooker they wouldn't consider it cheating. And using Tatemae doesn't explain away the misconception entirely. Yes, it is possible that cheating rates are similar everywhere, and Japanese culture simply reacts to questions about it differently. But that is only one way of thinking about it! It could be that the reactions of people around you influence the prevalence of cheating. People react to incentives and fears. As an illustration, if people know their friends would be openly hostile knowing you're a cheater, then more people are going to convince themselves to not cheat, as opposed to thinking that the worst consequences you'll see is that your friends talk shit behind your back and maybe slowly stop hanging out with you. That's just an example for illustration. The real point is that if an entire cultural environment is different, the aggregate can have some bigger effect. The burden of proof would be up to the side claiming that Tatemae doesn't have an effect on cheating rates, because the simple Occam's razor option is that a cultural bias in hiding hostility should have an influence on how people make their decisions, when they weigh their pros and cons. If people think they face less consequences of cheating, or any other crime, I realistically expect the rates for those things to go up.

why would anybody be cool with being a victim of infidelity

I think that a lot of the girls and women who replied prostitution is not cheating is because they are or at one time were prostitutes themselves, many when they also had boyfriends. Prostitution is sooooo common among women in Japan when they are young. Even if it is not a formal brothel, there is so much "sugar daddying" and "compensated dating". I have personally dated many Japanese women that has this experience. No I was not "using their services" when I met them.

Its interesting how different prostitution can be perceived depending on the circumstances. I know of several groups of foreign workers where their wives back home budget in the need of their husbands to go to prostitutes. They actually wanted them to go because they were concerned that them being alone and not getting any action may make them prone to look for a gf and maybe even leave the wife and kids.

🤣This also happens among the passport bro sphere in the philippines...they go to philippines and make an interview to make it appear that Vast majority of Filipinas want Foreigners and don't date their Local men... One Western Expat even claim that Western men are rock stars in the philippines.... And this same expat Vlogger end up with a Single mom Filipina...

As far as Taka’s interview, I don’t think it’s fake but it’s also not a representation of the whole country. If you really don’t understand Japanese culture or know anything about it, as a foreigner you’d definitely frown on Japanese saying it’s OK . I once asked a Japanese friend about it before like back in 2019 out of curiosity. He implied that if it just s*x without emotion involved it’s not counted as cheating. As long as it’s clear for both parties, he’s exact words were”it’s like sports.” 🤯 But of course they won’t let their partners know. I couldn’t comprehend back then but as I get to know more about Japanese culture I begin to understand where they are coming from. Also, even in Korea (older generation) wives give their husbands money to go to club to have s*x. My former Korean boss told me. 🤯

I love Japanese interviews because I’m teaching myself Japanese and I want to visit/move there sometime but I am really glad you covered this topic. When I saw the interview in reference, I was so shocked!

GREAT TO HEAR RATIONAL THINKING FOR A CHANGE! WELL DONE, VOICE OF REASON‼💯

you should do your own interview to prove it

It’s very interesting that all I hear is no one is in relationships, the birth rate is very low and everyone is lonely yet these street interviews say the complete opposite.

For that last part you states about single people going to prostitution more, I don’t know if this is true. The reason why they are most likely single is due to the fact they are unattractive or don’t have money. In modern days women only want the most attractive men or have a lot of wealth. Therefore I can conclude most of these single men are not even able to afford prostitutes nevertheless a girlfriend. Usually the men who have disposable income are able to afford them. It’s the same with wealthy women in Japan paying for male prostitutes. The average or broke won’t be wasting their money on food for a one night.

This is why I don’t trust surveys in general, the majority of people aren’t interested in taking them and this is even more true for something like a street interview with your face exposed. It takes a certain kind of person to say yes to those interviews, not necessarily in a bad way, but they don’t represent most kinds of people you’ll meet in daily life.

Great video Asagi! 👏

After watching your video I think that these are not really misconceptions but the way you said it make it seem to me that these points are somewhat correct. Im older than you and I have never experienced cheating in my life. I heard once about a friend who did it and I was pretty shocked. To me it's unthinkable. However this depends a lot on the country. The US might be very different.

Lmao, exactly. I hate those street interviews. It's only watched by people who want to believe that drama though. A person with normal brain will naturally understand that cheating happens everywhere and it's not common more elsewhere. I have been with a Japanese man for years, he is the most honest and loyal man I have ever met. Was dating non Japanese guys before, I got always cheated on. So now my Japanese partner fights hard to help me get over the trauma that people he has nothing in common with did to me. I know as part of my healing process I had to block all of these street interviewer and completely stop watching them so my brain won't be biased exactly because of my past experiences. I'm glad youtubers like you are still here to help me fix my point of view.

I think it is pretty rare simply because people are busy and, once out of our teens, we are simply not that motivated to just get nookie. This is in addition to the obvious risks and negative feelings one would have. I've lived in Japan for over 30 years.

I really dislike those videos as they give westerners false expectations about Japanese. These KZfaqrs only pick the ones that them the most unusual answers. When they ask the golden question ''so would you date a foreigner'' they say yes most of the time but in reality it isn't true. Many have had the thought but most of the time they want to stick to their own kind which is understandable. Japanese people avoid giving negative answers, that's why you often hear what you want to hear.

Thanks, Asagi! I wondered about this.

4:17 So, people are talking behind the back to avoid confrontation. Cowardness is an international problem, not just Japan. I live in Germany, my family is from Lithuania, i traveled through many European and Asian countries, often Mongolia or Siberia and people like to void confrontation everywhere, because it is easier. People are like water, taking the path of least resistance.

I was married and divorced (yep she cheated) from a Japanese as well as dated in Japan a long time before marriage. Sorry you don’t like the label but face it, there is no loyalty to your partner in Japan. Cheating is just accepted by all. You can even sue your spouse’s lover in court to get them to stop. You earned the label of the country with the least morality for a reason. Own it!

I remember watching Jay Leno’s “Jaywallking” when I was a kid. Most street interviews or polling is not only very subjective, but highly edited in order to push the narrative towards a certain direction. Example: in the US, local media will interview thousands of people in a single day. But they only show the idiots, because it gets clicks and views on both traditional media and new age media. But all Thats my opinion. Also: Japanese Godzilla>Pink Godzilla.

Thanks for this, this made things clearer. :)

ちゃんとこうやって動画で言ってくださって嬉しいです😢😢😢 ほんとに日本人全員がこういう価値観な訳では無いし動画でインタビューを受けている人達はむしろ少数だと思ってます…

As a very sad example, I'm Brazilian and under my personal experience, cheating happens quite a lot around here and it must be the same in the western world. My grandpa has been cheating on grandma for their entire marriage and she knows it, but doesn't leave probably because of a severe lack of self esteem. Recently, it came to my knowledge that my father isn't actually my biological father, so one more cheater in this personal experience, my mother. Recently I've found myself on a really tough and sad moment in life 'cause my ex girlfriend (been with her for 3.5y) cheated on me as well. I really don't think we are better than Japanese society in that regard.

Live in Osaka and have made lots of friends in and out of work over the last 4 years. Most of them cheat and are quite open about it. Age ranging from university age to my coworker who has been married most of his life and is almost 60 years old… Maybe it’s just as common in America but I’ve never met so many people openly admit it until I came here.

@5:50 yeah the VA for Cloud in FF 7 Remake had to step down because he got caught cheating. For context he's played Cloud for over 15 years. If anything this makes Japan seem more like heaven. A country that punishes people for cheating 😮.

Their channel name is pronounced "Aba and Preach" not "A.B.A and Preach" ^^ I agree with you for the most part, you even showed people the examples of Japanese society shawning cheaters in severe manners. One interesting thing though, we would all presume prostitution is for single men however it seems the sex industry in Japan is declining and people are actually having less sex. This phenomenon is not just limited to Japan, herbivore men as it's called there. Men in modern societies are simply opting out of relationships and sex all together and this will only get worse in the future, because nobody is willing to tackle the underlying issues. Additionally in Japan work culture seems to be a big part of the problem. I often wonder if something could radically change the situation because otherwise this phenomenon will only continue to snowball in the future.

A big problem is very few English understand 建前, in Sweden we have a very similar culture to Japan, we also won't say things to your face.

The infidelity law doesn't mean much. Even if your spouse cheats and gets fined 3m yen that wouldn't be much if you consider that divorce doesn't care if your wife was unfilial. She will still get custody of your child and 50% of your assets.

I think the sad thing is more likely the following. And its personal experience.... Japan, with its rich cultural heritage, provides an interesting case study. Japanese society is often characterized by high levels of conformity, a strong sense of duty, and a collective mindset. In relationships, these societal pressures can manifest in several ways. For instance, there's often a strong emphasis on marriage and family as pillars of social stability. This can lead to situations where individuals feel compelled to stay in unsatisfying relationships or marry due to societal expectations rather than personal desire. The concept of "Gaman" (perseverance or enduring the seemingly unbearable with patience and dignity) might also play into how individuals handle dissatisfaction in relationships, potentially leading to a stoic tolerance of issues rather than addressing them directly.

What surprised me is that it seems like so many Japanese seem to openly admit to cheating on their partners...

What's your point? You're just contradicting yourself and making justifications. First, the "misconception" that Japanese cheat more than other countries. You claim there's probably not much difference than other countries, but which countries do you have in mind? The hedonistic countries like the US and South Korea? Sure, but you didn't consider religious countries like Indonesia or the middle east. The fact that there are a number of people, on the streets, openly said those things is an indication that cheating is common enough in Japan. You even said "I don't think there's any way you can avoid cheating 100%. I think that's the truth." That's ridiculous and absurd. There ARE ways. You just think that because cheating is a big and common enough phenomenon in your society. Second, the "misconception" that cheating is "acceptable" in Japan. Well of course your country is gonna have laws against it. What people mean by "acceptable" is socially. On this regard, you said it yourself that people won't straight up tell you not to cheat, and say stuff like "Okay, if you enjoy it that's nice". That's ACCEPTING it. Your society is LETTING it happen. You're not stopping it. Media not accepting people who have been exposed as cheaters is not a good counter argument. That's just common sense to protect your media's image. The fact is, your society, the common people, on the ground, is letting cheating culture grow. Third "misconception" is that Japanese people don't think prostitution is cheating, but you said it yourself that you used to think that way. That's messed up. How on earth was that your default opinion? Then you said it's complicated and talked about history. Was that meant as an excuse or a justification? That just proved that cheating is so ingrained in Japanese society for centuries. Most civilizations do have prostitution throughout their history, but it's always been considered cheating. Seriously, I love Japanese culture and I don't like being disrespectful, but Japan should learn to stop making excuses for their bad parts like this. No society is perfect, sure, but that's exactly why we should try to be better. Ignoring or justifying them like this does no good. When other countries point out your bad parts, don't just shrug them off as xenophobia or "not understanding Japanese culture". Bad things are bad. Cheating, is bad, culture be damned.

As someone who is Japanese and lives in Tokyo, I've seen a lot. These interviews are not fake. Maybe you're just not familiar with this side of our culture, but it's definitely real, and it plays a huge role in the Tokyo lifestyle. Consider yourself lucky that you've been sheltered from it.

Thank you for giving a normal educations and informed insight into true Japanese culture & society. I’m tired of the shock-value street interviews.

Very good video. You made good points and backed them up convincingly. I've been watching the videos you are talking about and appreciate the corrections.

Personally, I don't like the interviews on those channels you mentioned. They make it seem like, "most people do this in Japan," when that's far from the truth (I've lived in Japan over 18 years now). I will say, though, men in Japan who have a "mistress" - even while married and a father - is perhaps more common and acceptable than in the west. I drank with a Japanese man, one night, several years ago and he was quite open about his married plus mistress life. I still find it hard to believe that a father could do that. I'm sure his wife must have known, or at least suspected, what was going on. Lucky for him his wife wasn't a western girl; he would have copped a frying pan over the head at the first hint it was going on. So! don't come to Japan thinking that every woman, married on single, is waiting for you.

Well done! The title is not clickbaity. More real truths about Japan by Japanese is needed.

I heard sometimes in companies when men go out after work with coworkers and their boss, they go to prostitutes or pressured into going. Is that true?

Another solid sensible video, thank you and best wishes to you and your family!

As a wise man once said- "Don't trust what women say, trust what women do. " I'll treat this video like that, and yes I frequent all parts of Tokyo.

KZfaqr street interviewers are like media everywhere, the edit to get the most sensational scenes.

"just because they don't call you out or say what you're doing is wrong doesn't mean they accept it." Well, actually yes it does. That's tacit acceptance. They might not think it's okay, but by letting it slide then they are engaging in tacit acceptance. "The standard you walk by is the standard you accept."

The problem is simpler. Interview broadcasters can select respondents and edit answers. The purpose is to guide viewers. What women want is eternal love, and no one wants their partner to cheat on them. What they say is an acceptance, not a wish.

Cheating will happen everywhere. The more "free" a society is, the more rampant it will be. I can appreciate how cheating in Japan is a punishable crime, and it speaks to the fact that a loose society--and I mean loose as in, low morality, people doing whatever they want and think there should be no consequences (like Americans)--a loose society will fail. Culture is everything, and if a culture is dead, so is your society. I respect this law. People obviously can't control themselves. Asagi, why in the world would a Ukrainian win the title of Miss Japan? This is very disappointing. If I were Japanese, I would be insulted. I am sure many Japanese didn't like it; I am sure of this. I am going to have to ask my gf about this now.....（笑）

I can't believe people watched countless anime where the girls will beat the shit out of the MC when he cheats and then say, "Yep, Japanese are okay with cheating".

Trust doesn’t come from communication. Trust come from giving values to each other. You don’t bring values your partner will cheat when chances come. You can call him out but nothing will change

As someone who lived in Japan. It's very Japanese to save face. That video was actually pretty much what I heard and saw in terms of cheating and brothel culture. It's more accepted to cheat but not talk about it as much. Those interviewees were honest in my opinion but of course not every single Japanese thinks the same (although views are often homogenous and collective).

I figured and I'm not amazed by the amount of people who are gullible to this type of content. Cheating is worldwide. Cheating should not be acceptable worldwide. And the prostitution topic is just wild to me .😅 Thanks for addressing this.

i think japanese are polite but are not respectful enough. cheating would not occur if youre respectful to your partner. respect is earned and also if you are tempted by a young attractive person just say no because you respect your commitment

This is like blaming Anime for giving foreigners an unrealistic depiction of Japan. For me, it's not the Anime industry's fault. It's the foreigners who should reasonably understand that the media, in any country, can misconstrue certain aspects of a culture or a people. I feel the exact same about street interviews in Japan. I know, blaming foreigners and expecting them to have common sense isn't exactly on brand for you Asagi, but it's the truth. Without foreign support, street interviews in Japan would not exist as a trend. One last thing. I know you especially love throwing Takashi under the bus, but you should know why he is popular (and why his popularity is positive) amongst English speakers. You may not understand this as a Japanese woman. Takashi is a very handsome Japanese man! Japanese men are just as, probably even more, stigmatized than Japanese women in the eyes of foreigners. It's good seeing a handsome Japanese guy finally getting popular internationally, and he's changing the image that Japanese guys are unattractive. The idea that people should take his videos with a grain of salt is baked into the context of them being available on KZfaq. I see where you are coming from however, and I think it's good to hear Japanese women's opinions in the English language. But, not all opinions come from a bias-free place. Most normal people should automatically understand that, as they should about how to internalize street interviews on social media. P.S. I think it's completely fine to dislike the genre of street interviews or to think the topics within the genre have grown dull. I think Takashi wants to show his audience that Japanese people aren't all stuffy and unemotional like their stereotype reads, but maybe he doesn't always accomplish that. Foreigners will just create stereotypes no matter what because that's what people do for cultures that aren't their own. However, lately, I think you've taken the position that you stand on a higher moral ground than Takashi and others, but that couldn't be further from the truth, Asagi. We all need a reminder to look at different aspects of an issue, sometimes we just do, and hope the rationale and morality will eventually fall into place.

Its funny that 3 of the youtubers youve mentioned in your videos i follow them including Aba&preach. When i 1st learn about cheating & tateae in Japan it did shock me but glad you discuss a lot of Japanese topics. Oddly enough i started following the other 2 youtubers until months after i got cheated by a chinese

Your comments are pretty sensible, but I do think there is some difference in Japan compared to most western countries. There a couple of instances that come to mind: 1. My friend got married with a Japanese girl and her mother advised her to look past an infidelities that he may have. I thought that advice was surprising. I think she said as long as he supports you financially, it's OK. 2. from a girl I was dating. She said that her ex-husband used to visit prostitutes. I asked her if she minded and she said that the thing she didn't like was that he told her. Also, I do agree that "celebrities" are held to much higher standards on cheating and almost anything else. It's not just cheating. I met a guy (Shinobu) who used to be in Da-Pump but had to leave the band because of a DUI charge.

thanks for doing this video :)

Always great videos.

Miss Japan was not only having an affair with a married man , she literally slept her way to the Miss Japan crown !

I think if you want to know the truth of this topic, we need research not opinions 🤷‍♂️

❤it was interesting you said you didn't consider prostitution cheating until recently. what caused you to change your mind? and why do Japanese women not consider it cheating? it has always been considered cheating in nearly every culture. i find it wild that in Japan it wasn't. the fact you thought it was ok for so long until recently. and you aren't even a married old Japanese lady from 1980s to a salary man. You look quite young and modern, so it says there's more to this if you even thought so, until recently.

Hmm these seem to be your own ideas, doesn’t seem to say that street interviews are incorrect. Is cheating acceptable? That is subjective and depends on your definition of other factors like is prostitution cheating. Even when looking at divorces that end in cheating, it’s 15% of all divorces, and I bet it’s even higher but people just don’t say it and put “incompatible”. If it really is so unacceptable, why is it so frequent?

Thank you for making this video, it was really fascinating and i agree that it doesnt necessarily mean MORE people are cheating in japan.

Cheating is never a mistake. Cheating is always a choice. Always remember that.

Thanks for clarifying this, I always pass things by my friend who is originally from Japan to ask him how accurate those street videos are😊

Although those street interviews talk about cheating, the more I learned about Japanese culture, the more I also realised it differs a lot from the Christian/Western wordlview in it's perception of sexuality itself. There are so many bars in Tokyo and Osaka, which offer kinda sexuality, like nothing physical but just young women in short skirts with high pitched voices talking and flirting with the costumer. This is so much more of a thing than what I experience in Europe. When I went to Japan, it struck me how much anything is on one hand very sexualized and on the other hand very prude. I don't mean to be an expert, I just want to share my perspective on what it felt like as an European seeing your culture. It's just very different especially in that aspect, like the rules and what's considered sexuality and so on. So I came to believe that probably a Japanese person means something very different when they use the word cheating. It's therefor also very interesting, because I see many problems lurking or even fleshing themselves out in the West with it's porn industries and the sexualization of everything, as well as in Japan with thier low birthrates and the slow emancipation of women. Problems which require deep thinking about it, because I'm certain they're tide to the culture. So I'm glad that two very different cultures which still are sympathic to one another are appoaching those problems and maybe we can solve one or the other.

Good analysis. Upvoted and followed. My one step of separation from fame ... I've been living in Japan for 41 years. I got my kogata sempaku (small boat operator's license) about 35 years ago with 2 other foreigners ... one of whom is Simon, Becky's dad. Oh, just about forgot, my favorite grad school teacher at TUJ was J.D. Brown. His son, Shen, is half of the duo called "Def Tech".

To be fair about the Miss Japan -- it's a complete joke of a "contest." lol As for the street interviews, I'm glad to see you calling them out instead of just going along with the herd. I feel slighted because even in my own KZfaq channel's niche, I don't get the kind of views, subs, support, etc that others get -- even newer content creators -- because I actually present reality and avoid both BS AND clickbait (unless I'm directly making fun of it). It's sad that not even the niche of old Japanese houses and renovations or DIY are immune to people lying to acting like fools just to get more views and subs. On the cheating note, I would like to make one observation from my dating experience in Japan, Asagi san. I'm in my 40s and have been single ever since my first marriage divorce in 2007, back in the US. I have been (totemo) slow in entering into another legally binding relationship because I really want to resonate with the woman I pledge myself to, and that just hasn't happened yet. After 4 years in Japan and dates, chats, or messages with several different women, I've noticed two regular occurrences that, when placed together, make up well over half of all women looking to meet or date me. One of those things is she's a divorced mother with a kid/kids or her kids are almost or out of the house -- and of course she had a terrible marriage with a terrible man. The second thing is the woman is still married but, again, the husband is terrible and she's not being fulfilled, so she's looking for a regular lover on the side to fill that gap her husband should be and perhaps used to but isn't anymore. I have to use both hands to count the women I've met in this category -- and some of them I even met on SINGLES/Unmarried ONLY websites. That being said, I don't know how similar this is to the experience I might have back in the US with women there, but it has really shocked and surprised me because it is so common. To be honest, if I didn't want or feel that I needed a good, committed relationship, then it would be easy to just maintain one or a few ongoing lovers who have husbands, because those types are definitely all around and not hard to find. It makes me feel sad that society has gotten to this point.

Damn the Kamakura period sounds straight up Savagery.