Sam Vaknin has been a godsend to people who got involved with a narcissist to help them understand what the hell happened and to get away.

This man helped me to see through all the manipulation and strategies of the covert narcissist I was with. Godsend doesn't even explain! Lifesaver does!

I felt such a fool as initially I told everyone how wonderful he was and 4 years later I had to tell those same people I was divorcing him. I felt I had lost all my credibility with these people. At the time I didn't know about NPD, I just knew he was abusive and I needed to get out. After loads of searching I finally came upon Prof. Vaknin's book Malignant Self-Love and it explained everything I had been through. His book saved my life.

If its love, the one loved blooms. You don’t need a definition. If a relation does not make you stronger or even weaker, GO. Narcissist are very good at storytelling, but look at the results. If someone pretends to be an apple tree but you over time don’t see apples: GO. Trust your own feelings and ordeal. Love yourself and just relate to the ones who love you back. And that’s for sure not the narcissist.

My ex once told me he wanted a woman who was a cross between his mother and a sex goddess. I thought he was joking, I really did. I was wrong, he was dead serious. 🤮 “when someone tells you who they are, believe them”

Supply, sex, safety, services - 2 of 4 and you qualify 😂 great explanation - and helps not to feel bad when discarded and devalued - missing the end of the sentence have to find the full video!!!

Just love the sentence - i just care about the service not provider… eye opening - thank you 🙏

When someone says “I love like nobody else can” that’s the giveaway they are a narcissist. They make themselves the subject. Real love delights in the loveliness of who they are loving.

Narcissisic abuse explained in 13 minutes !! Great Work!

What has happ😢is that the survivor is body snatched and mindfkd. There is nobody home behind the eyes of a narc

This is so true. Before i educated myself about narcissism I I always felt i was a “rental wife”, on loan to give services. Its sickening. Even today knowing the truth its still hard to swallow and totally understand. I guess because I am not a broken narcissist.

My narcissist has many people he idealizes. Whenever I would say anything negative toward them he would take it personally. I never understood why. Now I understand he/them are the same. This is why he takes it personal. It is so difficult to understand when it happens. He idealizes people he employees. Not even anyone really that important. So I never understood why that would happen.

I wonder if narcissists ever look at these videos and whether they even have the capacity to realize their actions and motives correlate with most if not all of what Prof Vaknin describes. This describes my ex and a former close friend perfectly! Prof Vaknin provides the best insight and education on NPD on KZfaq. He’s always spot on! This man doesn’t miss

Sam's teachings helped me run, not walk away from an ever escalating and abusive sibling. Sam's phrase of "Nothing like sunlight to disinfect abuse," became my mantra. I have been 5+ years of "no contact," and the peace from that has been joyous. I can never thank Sam enough.

Narcissists don't know true love and healthy relationships but believe they are the best lovers.

You have nailed this. My narcissistic brother in law made up just this kind of fantasy about my sister at her funeral. Dancing in red shoes etc and other stuff that genuinely would never have happened. Bang on.

Internet analogy brilliant!

This was one of the clearest explanations of how a narc works...loved this clip.

Nice to hear a fellow Dubliner

Oh my goodness ,this is like I'm listening to my life in this relationship. I've been married nearly 44 years . I have been through all of what the professor has said and more. I'd never heard of narcissists, sociopaths, gas lighting. I was in an unknown world. I educated my self on how and why my husband has these weird patterns of behaviour, It's a living he'll. Sadly too late for me to escape. Hopefully with great people like professor Sam other will be wise a lot quicker than I have been.

Sad but true 😮😢

it makes so much sense

Thank you thank you thank youuuu.

After living with narc for 25+years, being discarded suddenly, recently, I don't know who I am, I don't know what to do. PLEASE HELP. He is 72yo.

Oh, yes, she said, "nobody has the capacity to love like I do¨.....

Sage

Great interview, Prof. Vaknin' s explanation of them understanding love was very insightful to me. I saw his inner child and can feel his love for me All explains the life with my covert

Thank you.

Very good

Mr Vaknin saved me years of misery. You can print it on a T-shirt

What is their shame ? That it would kill them. That they aren't loveable ? Learned that from their parent(s).

Formidable sumary 👌

Thankyou ✨️

I have a child with a narcissist.....

Question: can a narcissist love his children?

You always so cute

My ex BF told me that he would think I could feed his mind. Would blurt out stuff I couldn’t my understand make up stuff anything I’d say he’d mirror then woykd know what he’s saying If I’d say that man is looking at me inappropriately he’d resonate is yeah I talked to him about looking at women too much. He’d do this often. He’s crazy acting

So what do you do if you are the narcissist

Sam vaknin repeats every time its he or she.