Wow so interesting how you said it “ being a narcissist is a punishment itself” that is so true and sad

God damn right about that..

@@joephillips7612 I am freshly out of being discarded..I still love my ex narcissist.. I hate it so much the pain of being in love with a performance it really is awful.. i want him back but I know too that I can’t ever get him back.. at least ur self aware.. I wish he was

But they know what they are doing and that it's harmful to others so they have a choice but don't care.

​@@Renren625don't worry. Your narcissist will still want you eventually. They hover you and after some time they come back if they see you're willing to give them supply

Really is best to get quality therapeutic help. Wanting to change reveals a lot about your who you are and it helps to have the guidance.

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@@B-Nia Exactly.

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@@brada-smith2807 Thank you so much. I left a decade before the incident. Now that I’m truly safe I realize how scared I was that whole time. Happy to still be here 🩵

Currently happening for me

Do you desire praise / external validation? If you are self-sufficient maybe you're just a loner with a rich fantasy. Or perhaps schizoid. You call other people NPCs, which is kinda dismissive, even if you said you struggle for a better term. If you're a person who keeps to himself, living in his own head, wouldn't you appear as an NPC to other people, even moreso than the average person?

@@charlesscholton5252 You should chime in more often.

From what you describe, I'd say you're more like borderline with some narcissistic characteristics. These things as Sam Vaknin often says, are interchangeable. I know this from myself too. False self is when you know that the "character" and persona you project to the world outside is different than your authentic spontaneous self if there is any left . Morals about dividing issues, boundaries, personal opinions, life attitude, all seem fluid. Like there's no real self to hold on to...🙄

Hey friend, this also sounds very similar to an avoidant attachment style, which commonly results from feeling fearful of unstable adult caregivers. It results in one having fierce independence and separation from others. (“If you want it done right, do it yourself” attitude) and this self-focus and self protection can sometimes be mistaken as narcissism from afar.

Interesting you should say this. My wife was definitely a covert narc but in her 40s became grandiose, very strange. I tore her mask from her and exposed her for what she is. She seems to be in a process of destroying herself at the moment, she has caught 3 stds and lost her job because she was having an affair with her bosses married best friend after sleeping with the boss..... my attitude is do not interfere when the enemy is in the process of destroying themselves. I do fear for my own welfare but in my own judgement she will destroy herself before me because coverts at heart are bullies and have no backbone.

Time to watch the video.

@@stingylizard wait what

@@PyramidofGeezer If I am not then my mother and my ex are. Is it ok to think that? I was diagnosed with high functioning autism. Maybe we are all autistic. Maybe I'm becoming a narc. But I feel like reactive abuse is just an excuse, just as my diagnosis. Maybe I'm the bad guy. I believe I unmasked my mother. Now she is trying to play nice. I've been gaslighted and played for over a year by my ex. She denies everything. The thing is that she denies that anything took place. I've been texting her last months While she replied with songs in her Spotify. I am going insane? Or she did it to deny accountability? Now she discarded me when I found out she had found "the love of her life" through social media, confronted about it and left her. I made the mistake of contacting the man in question, I wanted to warn him, but just ended up saying hi. Now she denies everything, calls me a stalker and threatens prosecution. She had tried numerous smear campaigns before, that didn't work. Now it's different. And I don't want or think I can fool her to keep me as supply. I don't think I even find her attractive anymore but I feel broken, empty and worthless. What if I'm just going insane?

@@PyramidofGeezer This is a popular stereotype but it's not true. A narcissist might accept their narcissism as yet another reason they're superior to other people, or use that insight to fit his overall narrative, or simply as a tool to understand his psyche better. What he doesn't want to do, is admit that he's wrong , that he's worse/inferior or that he's a bad person. And usually being a narcissist or having a disorder in general implies many of these things, but one can view narcissism as just a "different wiring" and in narcissist's case, he might like to believe he's a narc, because it's better to feel like a predator than prey. That means he's domineering, can manipulate others and use them like pawns. And that is exactly what he wants to be. Because that justifies his omnipotent fantasies and feeds his need to feel special. Narcissism is only 3 % of the population so that's a perfect ego-boost.

Please note typo instead of at it should say looks like

He speaks of cycles…. I have witnessed it first hand. You do not want to see it unfold.

Search the channel and its playlists.

Self-awareness, if you let it.

@@samvaknin Sir, I also think that our inner, hidden, suppressed dark side is exposed when we are in a relationship with the narcissist...and somewhere we all want to be loved....so lovebombing and repetition of all lovey dovey words by the narcissists makes us feel "special" and wanted...so, we all so called victims are also to a certain degree narcissists

@@user-jt3so9kb1l I think that you should watch the shared fantasy playlist.

@@samvaknin Sir, will do that... Really delighted to see your videos and love the honesty and sincerity with which you handle all the topics..

Sir, was never able to fully understand Kafka's "The Trial"...but, in one of your videos you have referred to this surreal text....many thanks for making such difficult concepts understandable in a literary way....