I was left alone to die. I died, (dark night of the soul) now I am being reborn. I have my boundaries, my own ideas, my own goals. I used to think I was lonely, no drama I was used to. Now, I live in peace. What is most important, I'm building peace with myself. This channel and all here have helped me so much. We Can relate where others can't. Bless you all.

If narcissists abuse was taught in schools we wouldn’t be going through this crap show right now think about that for a minute. Thanks Andrew for another enlightened video ❤️

My two children begged me to divorce their father when they were less than ten years of age. They saw him for who he was. It took me three more decades to finally see him as the monster that is is. We are all away from him now and still intact. Luckily we have all been in therapy for decades. My son became a psychologist, my daughter is a business owner and I am trying to find my true self again. The narcissist is all alone now and at 75 years of age it is a pathetic sight and I no longer feel sorry for him one bit. I just hope he doesn’t trap someone else and make their life miserable. Thank you Andrew. Source is so proud of the work you do ❤

Yes, it’s hard for family members to interstand what I’m going through. My dad always said, “Give them books and send them to school but until You experience It for Yourself you won’t understand”. Thank you Andrew 😊💫🐘 Namaste

The best compliment you can receive is " you look happy".....Narc free for 3 years.

The tables are finally turning on narcissists thanks to incredible teachers like Andrew. Once we fully understand the mindset and tactics of narcissists, it becomes easy to deny them the narcissistic supply they desperately crave. And once you cut off the supply, they're defeated and you win.

Spot on. Do not be afraid. God provides better people to replace all of them. I am a living testament. It takes time. Use it to make yourself stronger

You brought me to tears, how you dissect my life with a narcissist.

No one is "seeing" me post-discard. I am taking time to be on my own, for healing.

Andrew your insight is outstanding. You need to write some books. No BS dude. 🙏😇✌️💯😎👊.

My exhusband was a brilliant storyteller and the master of smearcampaign. The final day he shocked me with sudden and unexpected discard, I saw in my mirror, that my face was 10 years older than the day before. I had lost every little bit of self confidence, especially because the people around me treated me badly. And I did not understand the reason why. It took me at least 14 years to gain my selfworth again.

I got betrayed ( yet again) by my mother, I found out she lied, she insulted me when I called her out and when questioned she turned it all around and blamed me - the gaslighting was horrific and I questioned my own sanity and version of events. After a year and a half, some therapy and very good friends and a husband who has seen her toxicity - I am feeling a lot more solid. I am low contact with my mother / I video only and I’ve blocked her on all social media and my phone. She’s spinning and blaming me - never once stepping back to ask why I’ve lowered my contact. I told her I didn’t trust her. She has now conveniently forgotten this. My heart has been broken. I’ve gone through a grief and I’ve had to tear down my whole psychological foundation - found I’m codependent and there’s a whole lot of stuff to work on. Your channel Andrew is a blessing. For those who have just realised they have been abused by a narcissistic parent - validate yourself because your parent isn’t authentic. It hurts to heal but it is worth it. Get all the books - go to Dr Ramani’s channel as well. Get therapy if you can. You can do this. You are strong 💪 ❤❤❤

People looked down on me and probably still do. A lot of damage done. Have to pray and push forward

Slowly Im building.16 months of freedom is the best medicine for narcissism. ❤ Thank you Andrew 🙏💕

You can't change how others treat you. But you can decide whom to keep in your life. Thank Andrew for this video, have a beautiful afternoon.💕🌿

I have always been a very positive, energetic and humble person, however when married to the narc, I was quite subdued. Post divorce, many folks noted that "you seem so much happier," not a "smiling wallflower" as many saw me when attached to the narc!! (I dared not say or do the wrong thing). Today, 20 plus years later I am inherently content🦋🦋, kind and able to help others without emotional constraint. Even the birds sense my positive energy and spontaneous love (food). Nature is awesome - love it!!! Andrew and all folks in this community, I love you and send positivity and encouragement!! Thank you Andrew - I share your messages with others, especially nursing students who are experiencing abuse!! ❤❤❤❤🌹🌹

I think people saw me as a pretty happy person, pre-narc. I wasn’t altogether _confident_ , but I was happy. During the relationship, I was withdrawn and insecure… didn’t really talk to _anyone_ … didn’t understand why I was being treated the way I was, so I was mostly within my own head trying to figure things out. After the relationship, I found this channel pretty quickly, and went no contact. Every day I gained more confidence and understood what happened and why. I found myself bouncing back and coming out of a _decades_ long depression. It has been the _best_ feeling. Certainly I’ve had times that have been difficult, but they don’t last long, because of the WONDERFUL support system I’ve known in this community! Thank you Andrew and all my friends!! I love and appreciate each and every one of you!!! 🤗❤️💜🤗❤️💜🤗❤️💜🤗 👋😇👑🏆💯 Have GREAT rest of the day everyone!!!

The farther away you get from the Narc, the more you will find your best self again only more educated and with boundaries! Namaste!

That growing conviction that, everywhere you go, _you_ know you offer the unconditional love that you have the energy for and that how others choose to perceive that is not worth a moment of your energy 🙏

After 7 months ago I learned about narcissism, I had major light bulb moments. I eliminated multiple narcissists. I tried to make new friends. I wanted to rebuild my support system. Unfortunately they were narcissists too. I discarded them too. My life is better without the narcissists. I read books to change my mindset. I do daily affirmations. I eat healthy foods. I work out 5 times a week. The time I spend with others, I actually have a good time. I no longer tolerate bad behavior. My new favorite phrase is "No thank you.". I isolate myself sometimes because I don't trust people anymore. I was naive. I thought life can be filled with rainbows, kittens, and puppies. Its not. I am grateful to you, Andrew and this wonderful community. It is nice to know that I am not alone. Other people know and understand what I have been through multiple times. It started with my family of origin. God bless you all. I wish everyone well on the healing path.

Sad but true - you do not really know who your genuinely caring friends/family are until you hit a low. People are cruel. People are good. We have have to build our value and self worth from within and not date anyone until we did a lot of healing. People will be judge, think they're better than you, smarter than you - too many I told you so's. But you just need 1 genuine friend and to keep going. 💕

Absolutely Andrew I so agree! Due to finances I’ve had to move in the same complex as narcissist; 20 steps away! I can detect the smear campaign but that’s ok! I’m a kind loving Christian lady and I’ve returned to my true authentic self! Im saying kind things to people(strangers) and they are returning it back to me! I see God again in people, nature! Jesus will restore what the locust has eaten! Im watching it happen! THANKYOU my sweet Lord!

Thanks for the video. I've wondered at times how people saw me. When I've not heard from the children of my siblings in over a year, I had good clues. Then, I weighed the strength of the relationships, and decided that they never had been there for me, in all honesty. It registered in my brain that I was discarded by them all, and had given them nothing but kindness for years and years. Now, I say, good riddance. Enough already. I'm so done.

Thanks to the narcissist I regretfully chose, everyone around me sees me in a negative light, which has taught me that we live in a society filled with 0 empathy and 0 understanding. So many people judge the broken without ever questioning "what/who broke them." I was raised by narcissists, grew up around narcissists, and then dated a narcissist. I wasn't born broken.. I was broke by the very people I loved and trusted. The same people that still try to break me to this day. I realize that as a child, I could blame them, but as an adult, it is up to me to fix what others broke. I can't blame them today! Staying near them is a choice and not a healthy one. The difference between me and most other people is I have empathy and can understand that people aren't born the way they are.. someone or something broke them. Choosing to change and overcome the struggles takes courage! The people who judge others lack that courage, so their opinions mean absolutely nothing.

I was very young when i met the narcissist and surely didnt know myself back then, but looking back, I should have seen the warning signs. During the 30 years, the few friends I had and knew the truth, more than likely saw me as a fragile, sad woman living in a prison. Now, even though still not completely free, I think my life long friends see me strong and beginning to bloom into that beautiful butterfly. More importantly than what anyone else thinks, I feel like a Phoenix rising, stepping into my power that I've had all along. 🦋🔥✨️

To be honest, this realization is fairly new for me and im struggling, i feel so lost at the moment, im exhausted. 12 years married to nothing but lies

I think it's a very important step in the healing journey whn you let yourself to enjoy the simple things in life. Also what others thinks of you? Basically nothing. It's a deeply rooted program installed into you by the narcissist (prejecting onto you their distorted world). These are not your own thoughts.

Only those who have gone through and survived the narcisistic abuse will be able to understand you and This kind of trauma changes you forever. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤

It's sad how many "friends" are/became fake (!) "empathetic" that you didn't find the happiness you were hoping for when meeting the narc, (not knowing then what I was up against) when in reality they're smirking behind your back, and commenting about the lies and smear campaign "no smoke without a fire, hehe". Thank you Andrew, we're not alone and you make me feel it. ❤

If you are blessed to get out it's a lifetime of recovery

Good afternoon Andrew and Everyone. The first thing that comes to my mind are the 5 friends i lost due to the narcissist. When i love someone, I'm defensive, and won't tolerate anyone talking about my loved one. Boy, was i wrong. My dear friends were warning me, and i shunned them. All 5 of them. 3 are now deceased, and 2 of them moved. They knew i was a FOOL! Today, I'm a different person. I finally met new friends and i respected their opinions. I changed for the better, so I've been told. I had to go thru ALL THAT PAIN to put myself back together. I didn't like myself before, but i love myself now. I had to go thru all that, just like ALL OF US. Before i was not the person I wanted to be, but i sure am now. I love myself and other people, whereas before i loved only a demon. So glad to be back on earth again and not stuck in hell! GREAT TOPIC. ANDREW.❤❤

Some people had the dark night of the Soul. What i experienced in the first days of communicating with the clear mirroring of the narcissist, was an ascension of my internal energy which caused 'an ego death' experience. I saw there is no true ego and that individuality is an illusion and that is one superconsciousness that is reflected in everything. One big organism that 'dreams' through the illusion of individuality and childhood upbringing coupled with traumas creates that perfect dreaming/fragmented/individual point of view. Empaths are naturally closer to this reality that is why they drop their ego so easily . We are formless light beings, no problem with us, all will be good people, just stay centered to your real self. The self referring point of view is central to narcissism and so called 'evil' ,but that same point of view is an illusion.

Ist version of me: Narc met me at the height of my "Winner" persona ( I don't believe in the winner/loser stuff at the moment). I was also at the peak of acting Narc-like ( though shakily performed, as I never really healed from a crappy childhood). I was a fake Narc ( empathy kept leaking out ). 2nd version: My partner went through all the standard take down moves ( slow decline into a devaluation ). I had no knowledge and no defense. 3rd version: Fresh discard post Narc , had me feeling and looking like a "loser." That feeling, I'm sure, I couldn't hide. Family and "friends" couldn't hide it either, that they believed I was "loser"material. That was the rough start of the 3rd version. Cut to the long heal pre- internet education- Time helped, but without the education, I still bumped into Narc highways filled with potholes ( still not understanding). The last 8 months after finding this channel and education ... it's the 3.1 updated version of myself. Obviously, giving credit to Andrew. And yes! I think he should write a book, before imitators start creating copycat channels. Though, they'd have a very difficult time! 📚 👍😾😾

Thanks Andrew . 3rd version of me feels inwardly more strong, less affected by outside forces, less concerned about who thinks what about me. More accepting that I don’t have to pretzel myself to please others anymore. I don’t have to take risks for others either or even bend over backwards to protect them. It’s like those gaps in who I was have been filled in by grace now. It’s ongoing but there was deep wounds that had to heal. I’m aware some others don’t have my best interests at heart but that some do coz neither do I want to live a cynical life. Starting to build my life back up now - clean slate!

Wow! You just described my 38 year marriage to a Covert Narcissist ( As validated by my Doctor) in this 16 min. Video. Listen up newbie victims. Andrew is a path to your healing. It was and is for me along with other sources. Thank you Andrew 😌

Totally resonates 👍🏼people believed all his smear campaign 😞I realized people see and believe what they choose ; especially when facing the truth exposing them.

Yes . The fair weathered friends are enjoying their “ popcorn “ ….

Thank you Andrew😇 Because of you I worked on myself. Because of you, I blocked all narcissists from my life. Because of you I am strong and wake up happy each and every morning. I also know that GOD walked with me every step of the way throughout my entire life and protected me. I also know that HE Brought me to your channel to give me an understanding of just how toxic people were towards me. I did so much work, and it made me stronger than I've ever been in my life. I learned to truly love myself and put myself first for the first time. I feel Beautiful and know that I am of significance. I dance, laugh, okay my guitar, paint etc again. I am attracting positive people and energy. I will not compromise my worth, values and Spiritual Beliefs for no one. I have Gratitude Always🙏💖🙏 And I am Grateful that I learned from you💯👍 I am Grateful for all the people and good in my life. And I will recognize unconditional love in a Soulmate whenever he arrives in my life in the future. My Beautiful Precious Soul Angel Sons 😇😇 and my Beautiful Precious Soul Angel Sister Friend 😇 are so happy for me. They stood by me. I honestly Love my Life and Show Gratitude each and every day😇💖🙏💯👍

I'm a truth seeker. I don't care how others see me. I only want truth seekers in my life. All others can go away.

Thank you Andrew. I try to not think about what others think. There really is no point, unless i run out of things to feel badly about. I know the gist of the smear campaign, but not really, and oh well. I need to take care of myself, and my life. I'm choosing life over death. And we can of course agree that tomorrow isnt promised to anyone. You will die a much more miserable death with a narcissist. I'm with you on required learning. I would probably be further along with my personal healing, but also as you say I wouldnt have the wisdom, and that is priceless. Educating the younger generations is vital.

I am the victim of a covert narcissist..we were married for less than 6 months when he was already talking to other women online. I was willing to forgive and work on the marriage. I was willing to get therapy and work and he said he was not sure he could. We have been seperated for 4 months now..He says he still loves me, but no effort to reconcile or work on the relationship. WHY do I keep ruminating over him? Why can't I move on and focus on me alone..It's killing me.He has all the characteristics of a narc, why can't I move on. I know he's not good for me, and I deserve better.

I hope and think that I got out of it without changes in my basic persona. Having been through rough times as a youth hardens you. That said I'm probably a little more cynical and definitely more hardened. But I refuse to be other than nice, polite, helpful and reciprocating. I refuse to be a bad carbon copy of my former me and though marked by my experience I know most people, the flying monkeys excepted, still see me as the person I used to be.

💡 Lightbulb moment 💡 💎 we are precious diamonds. The Narc relationships we all endured were and or are blessings in disguise ❤🎉🎉

Thank you for this affirmation, Andrew. Year's with the narcissist amplified my concern about how others saw me and what they thought. The narcissist and I were different in that he took delight in telling me that others viewed me in a negative light. He was jealous of how liked and loved I was by my friends and family. He tried to sabotage my reputation through the most vile smear campaign. On the other hand, I covered up his flaws, his abuse, his lack of moral character and poor judgement. Year's of making excuses and covering up for him made people think I was a deluded fool and led to more of my isolation. He had to physically assault me, stage a deceptive video of reactive abuse, call the police, have me arrested, then accuse me of being the abuser to make me realise that my only options were to leave him, or die. After I left, he called my closest friends and told them that they should stop telling me how much they loved and cared about me. I know this because after I had left, all of my loved ones who were alientated by the toxic relationship I had committed almost ten years to, slowly reemerged to surround me with love and support again. If there was any doubt in my mind about the sadisitic and twisted nature of the person I was once head over heels in love with, they dispelled it with examples of his behaviour, lies, and malice. I'm still shocked by the capacity that these predators have for evil deeds. This is a sickness so dangerous learning about it in school should be as mandatory as learning to read. I was lucky enough to find your channel and others like it. Without your wisdom I may not have made it out alive. I was very nearly dead. Thanks again. You are a warrior of the light. Much respect my brother. ❤️🙏

Amen to the kindness of strangers thing. God sends them to show you He's in control and He loves you. I've experienced a lot of the friends sitting on sidelines w popcorn, but again; God shows His love,"I prepare a table before you in the presence of thine enemies". Praise the Name of the Living God.

Yeah, I can't un-see I see the fights among my cousins Suing each other Name calling Accusations Strange behaviors (one cousin is always grabbing his brother...his mom has to put them into separate bedrooms when they were kids...but has continued the behavior into adulthood) Multiple cases of hoarding Irrational accusations against each other One cousin withholding rental income from her siblings while letting the roof leak on a multi-million dollar property I think they get it from their parents. Trying to tell you what to do.....on things they don't understand....it is really weird I am a multi-millionaire and world wide subject matter expert So I have done some stuff I think I just need to stay away from them

I really relate to the “before, during and after” the narcissistic relationship. I didn’t realize how beaten down during the marriage to a narcissist. My family saw it. It hurt me that they didn’t approve of my husband - they saw what I could not - and after I was abandoned for the new source, my family was glad. My “friends” and family thought I should just move on… that it was meant to be. It was the darkest hours of my soul. Now several years later, I am seen as a positive person (finally) but not by everyone…. I lost friends who couldn’t understand why I just couldn’t get over my spouse dumping me. If narcissism101 was taught in schools, perhaps most of we empaths would have been wiser than to believe the narcissist’s lies. Thank you so much Andrew! ❤

Got my health back 💪🏼🙏🏻 Stable job , my cat , my own place & happiness / peace ❤🎉🫠🌞🌻🌺🙏🏻💐 Thank you Andrew 🙏🏻🌺

Andrew, none of the Narcissists involved in my life are going to ever see me again I have set strong boundaries and posted no trust passing sings I'm aware of my surroundings and I am retired and single and independent and I know what I want in life and I am staying focused on my future goals. Thanks, GOD-BLESS.

@Andrew my son is 3 years into this nightmare, 2 years ago she convinced him to take his 2 children out of my home without any of their possessions and live in a car. She now has total control over everything, he no longer even owns his own car, she seized control of his phone, his Facebook account and we have absolutely no way to contact him nor do we know where he and the children are. While it was happening in exact textbook order it was so horrible and we didn’t know anything about narcissist and all his friends and family are cut off. Most of his former friends were a close tight unit and were lifelong pals. My son behaved like a zombie, a shell of his former self and now has nobody and no communication with anyone. Nobody has physically seen him in our little town in months. Child protection was recently involved due to neglect of the children. I was raising those poor children with him and the only mother figure to the youngest one who at 4 was abruptly removed, his sister was 11 at the time and had been with me since she was 3. I can only imagine how destroyed they are. We have no hope of ever seeing them again and the children are kept isolated completely, nobody ever sees them either. The lies, the smear campaign against us (his family) was mind boggling. The complete change in him as a person was traumatizing to witness. This has very much traumatized everyone, his brother and his children were destroyed as they were all very close. As his mother the idea that I may never see him or my grandchildren again keeps me in pretty rough shape. Nobody understands how powerless we are to do anything. Believe me we tried but when I tell you they are hidden away and completely isolated I am not kidding. The three of them live like hostages under her control and have no friends and no life.

Narc-speak. Great video, Andrew. Although it is nice to know that people think well of you, especially post narcissistic abuse, some will and some won't. I am no longer a people pleaser. I try to live every day being kind and respectful of others whether or not they reciprocate. I would hope that they would, but not everyone does. But that's okay because I have learned to accept that not everyone will be able to for whatever reason which is their own. I have to do what is right for me in every aspect of my life. I can not be deliberately cruel to others. Before I learned how to be assertive instead of defensive and aggressive, I didn't like myself and suffered enormous guilt. Now, I have healthy boundaries in place, and I am now able to protect myself from those who seek to harm me. But I don't stop there, I pray for their soul 🙏, but I can't not. I have to be able to sleep with a clear conscience. 😊

All my friends have told me how I"ve changed and allowed him to dispell all my friends and even my family. I gave up all of myself just to please him and it still wasn't enough... I used to be a confident outgoing person, who loved to socialize. Now I find I am out trying to understand how I allowed myself to be so controlled by this person...I was walking on eggshells and constantly trying to please him...I don't even recongnize myself now..

Everything I’ve experienced pre, during and post the narcissistic relationship has shaped me into the person I am today. As painful as it was, I cannot begrudge anything, just learn from it and move forward. I’m slowly healing and rediscovering who I truly am, and who I’m meant to be.

It’s so true Andrew-all we want is peace ,kindness and safety after we get out-and there is such pleasure in the simple moments-material Things don’t matter

Every new day is a refreshing start from a clean sheet slate, each and every breath is an experience of life and vitality coming into your body and mind, each new moment is full of potential for rejuvenation, growth and happiness. For me, that is how it feels when you finally realize you are free from the abuse, lies, cruelty and manipulation.

All facts Andrew❤🙏🙌 The shocking responses (or being completely ignored) by flying monkeys or toxic people are many. Which is why I left the church and many people and their children I served and loved. The toxicity of what brews in family circles, neighborhoods and work environments can be removed from our lives when we say “I’m done and I no longer accept this abuse.” It’s extremely difficult to leave any relationship we’ve invested in whether toxic or not. There are casualties left behind that were amazing humans too. Had to happen. My kids said it best after all things happened initially: “mom, it isn’t any of your business what people think or say about you” The end. I love those wise hearts ❤️ so much. Rebuilding is hard but it’s amazing and worth it. Love this video

Really really really needed this!!! Oh man it was almost word for word what I have been going through. I prayed for my future husband since I was a little girl. Went through as sexual abuse from age 3 til 14yrs old, got into an abusive relationship from 14-16yrs old. Then met my future spouse at 15 thought he was the one from the beginning. There were warning flags but I thought I could *love* him through it. We married when we were 24. I lost both our babies which he and his coworkers were really bad about. (They said I killed his kids). A year ago he said he had an affair then said he didn’t. I am Catholic and have been taught as well as taught it myself that marriage is forever. I threw myself into my marriage until September when I found out he had been talking about me with his 20yr old guy friend and his family. Lost myself pretty bad then. He told everyone I made that up (like everything else). Then gave it my all up until March when he said he was done and that I was toxic. He left and a week later was with a 21yr old girlfriend (12yrs our junior) and the smear campaign began. He never hovered or even tried to contact me. But that’s ok I am better now. Got myself a job and working on me. I still hold the notion that marriage vows are sacred so I’ll be alone the rest of my life and this is why I 100% agree that this should be taught ins schools. My own family turned on me. (Some of them).

My whole life. Seems like it was wasted

Good video. "Used to" you could see what was coming at you. "After the narcissist"-different ball game- that you have never played before, nor do you know the rules-because there are no rules.

I know all of those people and they know to many degrees. I never interfere with their paths as they all have to learn their part as well. Painful but true 💕 you have to concentrate on yourself which is also alien tbh 😉

Gosh, Andrew, so powerful.....so accurate video.... We’ve been through it all....kept going......head above water...stickability.....of which has now developed great strength of character......🙏🙂❤️

To all of those, like me, who are post-discard, understand that any small opportunity to bolster your self-image, your confidence, and your happiness should be recognized, no matter how small. Building your life back to any semblance of normalcy is a huge challenge, especially when your social structure has been destroyed. It is helpful to see these comments of progress. Thanks Andrew.

Andrew, thank you again for your help! You are helping so many understand and navigate the situations that we face in post narcissistic relationships! Thank you!!!

A couple people tried to drag me out of the relationship. I was too deep in the the fog. They eventually had to give up on me. Not all of them. But they all had to let me get out on my own. I don't talk about it much because the strangest part is many of the narcs I have met talk about Narcs... all the time.. and about being abused (vulnerable narcissist) or abuse survivors. It's like some kind of great societal gaslighting. I would love to see a video on that someday. Maybe someone else has noticed this. Thank you

Great video Andrew. Who I was before the narcissistic relationship, I was stable I had a decent job my apartment and some friends. I could say I was content. I met the narcissist, I fell in love with him . Little by little I started losing friends. Then my finances started to suffer. I started to isolate myself I was afraid to do anything because the narcissist might get angry. Lost my job and the apartment then exactly 1 day later I was discarded. I called some so called friends and no answer or I'm so sorry I can't help you right now. Now I'm very different I have a job my apartment and my finances are almost back to normal. I have made some new friends who actually care about me and are there for me. I am better now. I will never go back to the narcissist or anybody like that. Thank you Andrew and thank you everyone for your kind words.

Ohhh thank you for sharing how you wondered what the person thought about you on your walk for a second before realizing it was only important what you thought of you right now. My pride would not allow me to admit that right now and so I’d imagine it’s probably indicative of just beginning the processing of healing. Thank you for showing your humanity🥇

We are raised to go by what others think of us and self-esteem starts in childhood.

11:20 That's what I thought before the video. What you think about yourself is more important. Unfortunately, I belong to the group that only found out years later why my marriage was not good. It was a painful and sad marriage. Even though I decided to leave and ask for a divorce, I felt like a failure for a long time. Only now I do understand why it wasn't good. I couldn't do anything. That's why it's more important how YOU look at yourself.

Omg you’re inside my being. Starting over, rebuilding everything in my ‘50’s! Alone, kids flown, lender took every cent, I stood up to the narcissistic dynasty, oops! Yup, here I am, crawling in search of my purpose, soul, worth, home…. Thanks you ❤

WITH A NARC NARC HERE & A NARC NARC THERE, HERE A NARC THERE A NARC...EVERYWHERE A NARC NARC! NO....I haven't lost it! I actually think I'm doing somewhat better. This has been rolling around in my brain all morning for some reason...& its so nice to laugh again. 🎀😘

Andrew, I met friend from Costa Rica at work. Instantly, I thought of you and how much you taught me. Forever grateful!!! All my love and appreciation for you and all you do!!!

Andrew you are ready for the world! I’ll be there with you and the community! You are a bright shining light of the highest degree! LOVE to you.

Being with one is more than just challenging, it's life threatening...watch out for dark triads.

Well the discard is relatively fresh, and I am still digesting it, still processing it like Andrew always mentions. I don't know what to do if I get out that I was betrayed with a so called "Next", just imagining it makes me mad. I am sure now some people are happy about this divorce. I have experienced so much humiliation, what to do with that sadness, with that anger? May god help us, I am praying and hope that these bad days will vanish....

Strong messages Andrew .Makes us reflect on where we are. In this life 🙏

I don't know whether my husband is a narc or is autistic but it's almost impossible to have a conversation with the guy. He always gets on the defensive and says I'm not asking questions but being interrogative. He just can't converse with me at all without firing insults or being super defensive. It's like he's super nice and kind with every one but me. He's kinder with the cat. I gave him an ultimate yesterday that if he finds talking to me so difficult maybe he would find a solicitor easier. Today he has tried a bit harder but he's still dragging his feet cold and distant. I've tried everything. It's obviously not him but me and I need to get out it's just... how. It's easier said than done

That third virgin of me it is true, I am forever grateful and changed, and will never be the same, I love this video Andrew, I can say and at the same time say people are something else, and their mistreatment of them to me because of the narcissist has made me better than before and so much more successful. And I am so much more happier!!!!!!!

After 10 years marriage its now 4 years o therapy and life is still a roller coaster. But because you have gone trough this I can relate and finally put words on what happened. It gives me strength to see that I’m not alone. I thought I was so weird because if you haven’t been living with a narcissist you can’t explain to somebody what it really is about. The thing you explained about that it’s not important what other thinks about you is exactly we’re I’m at right now. Again you put words to a progression. 🙏 ❤

We lived under the same roof and there was talk about marriage but things were too shady and I ended it before it got to that point. It feels so good to get out of the house and even better to not worry what others think… it really frees the ties that bind ❣️💯✊🏼

We cannot unsee what we saw and experinced. Yes - this absolutely should be taught in schools!!!

I can honestly say that I lost respect from family and old friends when I kept narc around. They weren't there for me

🌹🌿 Thank you for taking it to the next level❤

Oh Andrew what a great video today! I know my family must see me differently because I’m still trying to come out of that fog… I’m not very assertive yet. I’m afraid to ask for things or to ask to go somewhere because that’s how things were for almost 30 years!!! I was conditioned to all that narcissistic abuse…. I Definitely feel Stronger but it’s going to take time to get out of that mode if that makes any sense… I know I am so happy to be free and taking care of myself and enjoying Life Again with family and friends!!! Have a wonderful day and stay Strong and Happy

God is my support. I have no human support. Strangers are nice!❣️

Totally true. Once again you hit the mark perfectly ❤They killed me. I died inside & almost lost my life . I lived through it ! I’m alive & on my way . God is building an even better version of me . ❤ Thank you Love 💕

Andrew you are always reliable, trustworthy and do not sensationalise your content. There are some pretty whacky Narcissism channels on KZfaq, some of which can be triggering and can even make you worry that the person may actually be a Narcissist in disguise. No fear of that here! Many thanks for helping so many people deal with Narcissistic Abuse.

Thank you so much for this video 🙏 I am on the verge of breaking free of a covert narcissist marriage. I am a super empath, ALWAYS giving of myself unconditionally. I have been abused by her the last five years and didn’t even realize it until now. Now I look back and see red flags all over the place. I feel so stupid to let it happen but I was just being me, who I am. She took all of that. Now I see she was feeding off of who I am, like a silent vampire draining my life force. I think now that a covert narcissist is the most dangerous of all personality disorders. I see light at the end of this horrendous chapter of my life. I’m almost free. I know the smear campaign will begin. But I can do this. I can be me again and help others that don’t take what I have to give for granted. Thank you so much for this video 🙏

“In other words, there are other individuals out there who don’t have a hidden agenda. There are people with big hearts, there are empaths just like yourself. We are spread all over the globe.” We’re all going through something and we all deal with struggle and strife. Doing something kind for someone out of the goodness of your heart could either shift someone’s day or it could shift their entire life. You just don’t know how your actions can and will affect someone else. We’re all in this together. I’ve mentioned this before as a comment on another video, but the older I get the more I see and realize just how little people actually care about other people. However, when you do find it, hold on to it and the feeling, it’s a sign of hope. Then, when you’re able to pass it along be sure to do so. Thank you for another really great video!! It was very thought provoking.

I was told that what people think of me is none of my business. I used to care deeply but after the experience of DNOTS, going through the fire, doing the work I no longer care to please anyone any longer. I am able to be my authentic self and enjoy freedom from my own pride. Yes I've been humbled by all of this, I am still a work in progress but I'm not concerned with what people think of me. Freedom!

I do understand a narssist is like a vacuum, it is atracted to a void. You suck the air out, then leave an opening, it will be filled with air. And a vacuum is like a vampire , suck suck always suck, leaches,

Yes, Andrew it's been exactly, 2 steps forward, 5 steps back! Day after day after day! I trying to build and the amount of destruction I feel, can interpret is unbelievable! I can't believe why would that individual placed, put, subject, me this way! The brick by brick brake down is crystal clear!

Sometimes - in fact almost every day - it's like you share the exactly needed video at the perfect time I need. Thank you!!

I had to fight to be divorced,but I'm greyrock. I worked behind the scence,no Informationen and no Emotions,no supply.

I’ve always been surrounded by narcs so all the ones I knew sat back and enjoyed the show with a smirk. If I complained, they all defended the narc or tried to diminish my feelings of hurt

A very good friend, that also loved my ex as a friend,work partner etc. we all worked together for yrs until I started dating the narc. I had been single 20 yrs & had not been dating , my choice. He pursued me endlessly. Now my fiend tells me “ before you met him you were a free spirit smiling all the time, people adored you.” Now she says , he has been 24 yrs of torture, throw him out. I stayed 24 yrs with a narc/addict, relapse/recovery rinse repeat. 8 months out, divorce signed and yes healing, I will find me again, WHY, because I can, he never will have what I have. “ I’d am a whole human not a human with holes.” Thank you Andrew !

Thank you Andrew for giving the wisdom with your education and spreading awareness! May we all find our superpower! Much love to all!

hey buddy my sister is home from her vacation happy to see you today amazing video today thanks for the remainder of the 3 versions ❤️😁

You just said the most critical thing to say and many people are clueless!!! It doesn’t matter what people think of you it Matters more what you think about yourself!!! People try to impress those who they disliked and what benefit you get from it???? I believe in humility and grace and talking less is more to you!! Narcissistic people never feel enough of anything especially love the giver gets exhausted in the end and blocking also discard the Narc are the best solution stop trying give it to yourself !!!

Perfect video it truly 💯 doesn’t matter what others think of you as everyone around when I was in the relationship are all gone as are friendships what matters is what you think of yourself,the few that are in my circle now matter as they vibrate similar to me very positive and uplifting friendships, I know there was a lot of people that had their own hidden agenda around me in the past I’m sure if they saw me now they wouldn’t recognise me 🙏💕

That would be an excellent class to take. Even for the people who are narcissistic. They may see that within them selves and be able to get some help in the early stages of life. I had narcissistic family members, no wonder I met a narcissist and didn’t even know it. And honestly the whole relationship now looking back at who I thought I was so I love with, I was in it alone Even though he was there physically. Each time I wanted to let him know how I was feeling, it would become an argument and he wouldn’t talk to me for days and then he would throw me out. I can’t count the times and the times I took him back. Why I am ruminating the past few days I don’t know. Maybe tomorrow will be better.