Hello!!! Big video!!!! A few things: 1) transphobia will get you shot into the sun 2) Brie and I both watched multiple rounds of cuts on this vid and she approved this video at every step of the way! Please don't infantilize her, it bugs her! 3) don't read too much into my swerving the kiss at the end, Brie is wearing a lip stain that I know from ~experience~ is hard to get off my face. Anyway HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!

“When you don’t process with someone, you’re growing in a separate direction.” Love this.

The visibility you two bring is so important! I identified as a gay man for close to 18 years when my partner came out as trans. I realized very quickly that I was in love with the person and not her gender. Thank you both for using your platform for this!

People better not cancel Kristyn for being a human being. I always thought she was just accepting over night but hearing their struggle makes it that much sweeter. It’s easy to love when things are easy.

I literally paused this video and asked my husband if he had any feelings after I figured my sexuality out. We'd been together 9 years and had just got married when it all clicked in my own head (my therapist says it's probably because for the first time I felt safe enough to ponder). He was like "I knew it long before you did, and I had plenty of time to come to terms with it, but it didn't change how much I wanted to be with you" and I melted a bit.

THANK YOU for addressing the two weird extremes when you look for “my partner is transitioning, what now” advice. My partner and I also experienced similar friction, especially when I felt I couldn’t talk to her or that she wasn’t able to talk to anyone else. Like any other big life event there’s so many ups and downs and complex feelings for both partners, and that all should be normal! Like you said, recognizing feelings that are harder to handle without getting violent and cruel. Y’all rock, thank you again for sharing.

My partner came out as a trans man and we recently had to break up because of the growing apart from not processing together....it breaks my heart. And talking about the grief too and needing to acknowledge that, especially with how unsafe men can make me feel due to trauma ...I wish people talked about this more. And I'm so beyond grateful you all shared about this because it's definitely not talked about nearly enough

That last part - “If I get cancelled then Brie won’t have a place to live…” plus Brie’s sad face plus the gray screen shift PLUS the violin- cracked me up ahahahahaha. But thank you both for sharing your journey! I’m not married or trans but I found this super insightful!! ❤❤

If you decide to renew your vows, you could take the original photo with your grandmother and your favorite photo together from your renewals and hire an artist to paint a portrait of the three of you together. Or hire a wedding painter to paint at the renewal and provide a photo of your grandmother to include amongst the guests. I know you said in the video of Brie trying on wedding dresses that you didn't have any plans to do a renewal, but others in a similar situation may be reading the comments and might find the idea useful, perhaps.

A marriage cannot be about just one person Brie- Even if that person is Kristin LOL you two have really amazing chemistry

“If there’s a book you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it” Thank you for sharing your experience to be a resource for others that didn’t exist for you ❤

This is such an important video. When my partner came out I did what Kristin did and ofc Googled with the same end result. It was either you accept and go on with it without any kind of friction or you choose violence. I shoved all my thoughts and worries to the side to 100% support my partner, and it almost destroyed our relationship. Thankfully we came to the same conclusion and realised we both had to process it together. The grieving part really struck a chord as well. It's so spot on and I've never been able to put those feelings into words before. It's exactly what I felt in the beginning, but was shamed for trying to express.

1) You are absolutely correct, you don’t owe anybody your story, AND 2) by choosing to share as much as you’re comfortable with, you’re giving such a huge gift to the community, and I feel so grateful to receive it! BIG LOVE 🧡

Now THIS is couple goals! Not because there was no friction or everything was sunshine and rainbows. It's goals because you're learning to build strong communication which will lead to a closer relationship. I admire the hard work you're putting into your marriage

“When you don’t process with someone, you choose to grow in a separate direction.” Oooof wow this was a truth bomb!! As a person who has been married for 15 years this is such an incredibly important fact for couples to understand. I really just love you two and your willingness to share your journey. It’s been so helpful for me in ways I hope to let you know about one day!! ❤❤❤

"when you don't process with someone, you're choosing to grow in a separate direction" is such a perfect statement for just relationships in general. This was such a neat and open conversation.

As a straight cis female who knows nothing about the LGBTQ community, I was curious about this topic, but out of respect for your privacy I would never ask for you to share. But I'm so glad you decided to cover the topic because it helps me to understand better! 🥰

I reeeeeally wish more people were this open about their romantic relationships.

My fiancé came out to me a few years ago a little bit after you posted the video about Brie coming out. You guys have no idea how much these videos helped. It’s amazing to know that you’re not alone in these feelings and experiences. I can gladly say that me and my fiancé Claire are amazing and happily planning our 2025 wedding.

’m also a cis woman with a transfemme long term partner. I absolutely love and support her but it was so hard to go through that “grief” feeling alone when she first came out. I felt like it was selfish of me to have difficult feelings about her transition so I never said anything because I was terrified of hurting her. Though it’s not my experience, you are so right that with a life partner everything is something you go through together. We eventually had the necessary hard conversations and worked through our feeling. Our relationship is now stronger because of it, but in the moment we totally felt alone. So thank you for talking about your experience so other couples don’t feel so alone in their experiences ❤️😊

Kristin: “A marriage cannot be about one person.” Brie: “It can’t. Not even when that person is Kristin.” When I tell you I CACKLED -- (I love the banter that exists between you two)

Thank you both for your honesty and transparency. The love you have for each other makes me cry.

We talked like a year or so ago on twitter in the DMs because my partner came out as wanting to transition around when you and brie got public... my partner is finally getting started. We finally have a timeline since her health is doing better. So I guess just thank you. Cause processing alone is so hard.

I know this is supposed to be a more serious video but I absolutely want to say I am loving Brie's pink bows, black choker and grey velvet dress combination, it reminds me of Marina and the Diamond's Electric heart era. Kristin is very much giving the Electric Heart vibes too.

15:04 I’m so happy that Brie mentioned finding a community because you can have great friends but to relate some experiences, you feel like you’re speaking in a different language but the Support Group/Community puts things into perspective. WE NEED AFFIRMATION.

Before even watching the video all I was thinking was "whatever you did worked because y'all seem a lot happier individually and as a couple" and then watched the video and thought, "oh, emotional intelligence, hard work and good therapists. Makes sense." Thank you both for being so open about your marriage and experiences! Happy to see you both flourishing!!

As someone who is ~2 months into the journey with their transitioning wife, I found so much comfort and solace in this video. I truly needed to hear a lot of this advice, and it is so hard finding people who understand this not super common experience. And like u said, it’s wonderful to find some reasonable and relatable advice that fits the spectrum of emotion rather than the harsh binary of either instant total harmony or violence and hatred. There is so much more to it but not many resources. Love ya!!

I’m glad there was a discussion about Kristian’s side of dealing with this. Many people focus on the trans person side with the expectation that their spouse should carry them through the transition and they should have no issues. It’s a huge change and isn’t healthy to rely 100% on the spouse like Kristian says. Even small changes like a new job or moving stresses a relationship, so of course finding out you SO is trans would rock the relationship. I’m glad they worked their way through and are happy with each other

OMG Kristen, as someone with a partner who came out as trans, there is NOTHING online about what you should do as the partner of a trans person.. I love this story and thank you soo much for talking about it. It really allowed me to know that there other couples out there going through the same thing. any your point about grief is super important as well :) big love to you and Brie !! thank you again !!

Not that anyone ever owes sharing this much but I want to thank you both so much for your brave and open and honesty. I love you both- and I really admired how you two have been navigating this, but it also helps to know that you also had difficulties and both put in work to heal and evolve your relationship. P.S. both of your dresses are so dang cute! ❤

"You're grieving the loss of what your life used to be". These are powerful words that apply to more than your situation. During the pandemic as I find myself growing and my dynamic with my family changing, I find myself grieving past moments of my life. My past dynamic with my mother as well as a part of my life where I presented as more feminine. I've been struggling with how to feel comfortable in my body and with my style as a result with the relationship I have with my body. My family has been an incredible support system as I've made small navigations but there are times they still don't understand. And I've been afraid to reach out to a therapist. But recently I've found myself more focused on the grief. That's why the videos of your journey with this have been refreshing and comforting. Thank you for sharing with us and all the best wishes for your continued journey into this new life.

i have not checked on y’all since buzzfeed and let me say, as a trans bisexual, this was a wonderful video to come back to y’all with. it’s very nice to see a real genuine talk between life partners about how one partner transitioning affects/ effected the two of you. thank you both

It has been so amazing seeing Brie's transition into the wonderful and beautiful woman she has always been and the change in her confidence and demeanor over these past years has been palpable. So much love to you both and thank you for sharing these aspects of your lives, I think your impact is far more profound than you realize!

I literally sobbed. This is so beautiful. Y'all's insight is so important.

When you announced Brie’s transition everything seemed so perfect and seamless that I was curious how everything actually went for Kristin in particular. Thank you for sharing. You both look lovely in this video, you have the same hair! Couple goals!

Obviously, it’s not like I’m the first person to make this connection. However, please know that this open and safe conversation you both exemplified in this video has hit me at an incredibly impactful moment in my journey. My 18 year cis/het marriage is not what I wanted it to be. I’m fearful of sharing my true feelings about what I feel that I deserve. This was the third major sign in one day that I need to make the hard decision to either fight for staying and making real changes or to cut and start fresh. Thank you for showing me how true partners in a marriage are able to share the burdens and joys of growing forward together 💜

As someone whose spouse is nonbinary I let out a huge sigh of relief when you talked about processing together in a healthy way. Thanks so much for making this video.

It’s been amazing seeing Brie’s transition and into a happy confident women and feeling so brave course so brave and I appreciate Brie so much and amazing inspiring and incredible person 💔💔💔💞❤️❤️💖❤️💚💘💘💝💙💝💘💝💝💙🧡🧡💛💛💛💖💖❤️🖤💞💞💔💜💝💚💚💚💚💙💙💙💙💝💘💜💜💜💜🧡💚💛💛💖💛💖💖

“When you don’t process with someone, you’re choosing to grow in a different direction” BEAUTIFUL WORDS ❤

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100 years from now this video will be very important for posterity. If you think about the different types of relationships that have been stigmatized throughout history-interracial, lgbt+, rich/poor, divorcées etc.-you realize others have walked similar paths, which is why documenting these challenges can potentially help others in the future to overcome and adjust to the harsh realities of their time. I think it’s noble you two are sharing your story with the world, wishing you the best!

“When you don’t process with someone you are choosing to grow in a different direction.” - just one of many great quotes from this video. You should write a book together about this. Also, why don’t you re-take your wedding photos now and have someone photoshop your grandmother into it? There are some great photographers who can completely recreate the picture with updated bridal looks for both of you.

I didn’t know how invested in this video I’d be (big K+J+B fan but just sort of neutral on these more story-oriented vids) but it’s SO sweet and I really enjoyed hearing about your experiences. Thank you for being so open. ❤

this was incredible. i find it so helpful to hear the nitty gritty of people’s relationships. it’s normalizing the growing pains relationships go through. thank you for your visibility! you’re very appreciated ❤

I love Brie’s sense of humor so much. I hope you two can get new wedding/marriage photos that you can put up 😘

So glad you shared this. I know so many trans couples who grew apart for taking the advice you originally took because they thought they had to process separately to show support to their transitioning spouse. This is also great advice for someone whose spouse is going through other major self realizations. When my spouse finally opened up about their very serious lifelong mental illness, we went through similar. They sought help and we're coping with that and I felt the need to process separately to support we eventually split and I had many health issues due to stress leading up to the split. We continued off and on for years before a very long split and now we are together and have been for years openly talking and growing together and they run a page talking about mental illness to help others. We still are learning and growing together but the important part is we are doing it together and trusting and supporting each other through it

You dont owe people shit but, as a Trans person, thank you for making this video! ❤

I always love how you help her shop and give makeup tips. You know that the same good person with a beautiful heart is still next to you. Helping her transition and be who she is truly meant to be is awesome! The relief of having it out there, and being able to be that open with each other is a wonderful gift. A meant to be relationship. Couple goals! And no, nobody owes any explanation of how you live YOUR lives. But still, thank you for the video, it's kinda interesting to hear your story

As a pre-transition person, I really appreciate these types of videos! My partner and I have been together for six years, so seeing a couple so supportive of each other is very encouraging. Thank you for sharing your stories and advice with us.

Thank you for being so vulnerable on the internet. I think these conversations are really important, my partner and I are both often thinking about our gender identity and I do find myself struggling with what any kind of social/medical transition would mean for our relationship.

It’s very hard to talk out loud about such seriously vulnerable parts between you and your loved one. I really respect that you both came to the table and shared this part of yourselves because I’m sure there are people feeling lost out there, in a similar position, who will feel much less alone after hearing your stories ❤

Literally crying at both of your bravery and rawness and just, fuck, thank you for putting this into the world. This might be one of the most beautiful things that came out of the c19 pandemic. And being open about the fact that your marriage didn't just magically adjust as things did, but that you both needed to have painful conversations and work through it and that involved friction. Thank you both.

Seeing Brie in those old buzzfeed videos made me happy that Kristen has someone who makes her feel special and now I realize that it's two sides of the same coin and I couldn't be happier

I hope that these two receive support and understanding. It is incredibly difficult to share the hardships of your marriage, especially on such as public platform. Wishing them both the best.

Kristyn, this look is beautiful. It reminds me of a renaissance painting. The long curly hair, red lip, light flowy top. It looks amazing

I was once told this sentence & I love it so much: Feelings aren’t either right or wrong they just are. I love it so very much because it takes the negative connotation on what you feel out & makes you realize that it’s OK to feel what you’re feeling regardless. So that’s what I was thinking when I was watching this. Your feelings are valid Kristen. ❤

I don’t know any one in real life who has transitioned, so everything I know about it, is from Brie and it’s taught me so much. Not only because it’s something I think we should know about but also if I ever happen to know anyone who has or is or wants to transition, I know more about it. Also sent this video to my mum who is a teacher who has a student who is at the start of their journey so staff understand a bit more too. I know it’s a very private journey for many, it’s great that Brie is happy to be so public about her journey and I’m sure many people watching this will also find it really educational etc. Ultimately, we all deserve to feel happy and contented in our bodies and with our sexuality etc and I don’t understand the hate that a small minority of people have? Brie isn’t hurting anyone and in fact has probably stopped the hurt she may have had pre transition to herself.

Just hearing the honest journey about how you too struggled (especially because in videos I'd have never guessed, I always assumed you had a frictionless transition!) is a huge help! Makes things feel much more realistic and less urgency to do everything right, quickly, immediately. Knowing that there are ups and downs and that they are normal and okay is hugely motivating, just have to remember to be respectful and communicative and leave space for your partner. Great video, lots of love to everyone on the channel!

The fact you two are saying things at the same time means you’re both really on the same page about what happened in retrospect. And it keeps giving me goosebumps that you have this solidarity together. Thank you for sharing with us

my partner of 17 years came out as a transwoman about 8 years ago. You are SO RIGHT - it has been really hard to find people who have experienced this and stayed with their partner (who had a not super friction free transition). Brie's story is SO similar to my wife's. I am SO HAPPY to see a couple like us in a loving, real relationship. I would definitely be open to talking with you if you want someone in the same type situation (and I think we are the same age?) .

Brie was a great person pre transition and she is a great person after.. you can really see her sparkle and the twinkling i her eyes now that she is the gorgeous woman she always wanted and had to be Im so glad that she became her self in all the ways she did and so happy with all the support she had from everyone in your families and friends❤️

I really appreciate your openness and Brie's willingness to share all of this. I feel like this is a part of being trans that a lot of people don't really get to see. It's important!

It takes an extreme amount of vulnerability to say that everything wasn’t sunshine and rainbows after Brie’s transition. While you can love her and support her the whole time, it absolutely changes the fundamental relationship and I think that’s important to acknowledge. I can’t imagine this video was easy to make or release, but I think you’re doing such a service to other people who may be in similar situations. I hope you and Brie know how much of an impact you’re making on people and how important it is to be vulnerable and honest and show that life can be messy, but it’s still good, too. 🤍 sending you & Brie all my love!

You are definitely not cancelled! I think we need these kinds of conversations to be visible - just the honesty of it is so good to see. There is a tendency for people to feel that they cannot be honest about their mixed emotions because they might appear unsupportive, but you are showing that you can still have the emotions while providing the support. These are big life changes, of course you'll feel things! Very important stuff. Big kudos to both of you.

This gives me hope as a trans guy who's scared to start dating. Love you guys and appreciate the video!!!

I love you both so much--and the audio person. This is the best useful difficult discussion I've heard on this. I've had friends who lost spouses after transition and you really talked clearly about why and about how y'all didn't. Thanks.

I'm not in this situation, or really ANY situation right now, but this still fully resonated with me. You guys gave such INCREDIBLE advice, and hearing your journey and how you handled it, I'm just so impressed with the amount of emotional intelligence you guys have. I will be re-watching this over and over because so much of this applies outside of this specific context, and it really can help so many people.

I’m not settling until I find someone that I can have conversations like this with. Open, honest, thoughtful, caring.

Your relationship is absolutely beautiful and the visibility and thoughtful discussion you being into the community through your platform is so incredible!

It is so heartwarming to me when Kristen communicated how she knew Brie was trans not non- binary- the level of love and understanding made in that single statement is the type that bonds people together. I see so many couples get married and they do so because they can’t be alone and for their own serviceable needs, and then I see and appreciate pairs like you both who love and value each other and seek to be better together as a team. All of this which can have growing pains sometimes but is totally worth it.❤️❤️❤️

Thank you both for such a beautiful and meaningful video. I relate so much to Brie’s fear about losing your relationship when she came out, it’s such a terrifying and brave thing to have to do. Also, there are some amazing artists on Etsy who could totally edit Brie out of boy mode and into girl mode in that photo of you both with Kristin’s grandma! I know a bunch of trans people who have been able to keep meaningful photos that way, if it appeals! Thank you both again for sharing so much with us all ❤️

SCREAM CRYING at Brie very loudly being like "THOSE NEEDLES ARE NOT REAL." I've found a lot of comfort in this video that feels analogous to one of my own. I'm glad I put this video off for a few days to keep processing things for me and am thankful you shared! Much appreciated, so much love. This visibility will be so helpful to so many people who need it. 💖💖

you two are providing an invaluable resource for people and thank you so much for teh vulnerability. Bc Brie is right there isnt a ton of literature and honestly this video is now a primary source. i really hope that when people who were in Kristens position years ago now find this video before they read all of the garbage that come from "trans widows" .

Thank you so much for speaking about this topic with so much kindness and honesty. It makes me feel hopeful for my own future. I'm a closeted genderqueer lesbian who is still dealing with my own complex feelings regarding gender & it was so cathartic to hear Brie talking about how she felt that the world would end if she acknowledged her gender, since I felt the same for a really long time (and even now sometimes!). What I am most worried about is losing people in my life, especially as I am an increasingly masculine presenting, so it gives me a lot of comfort to hear that people can work through complicated feelings surrounding transition together. I feel like I never hear people talk about the scary parts of transitioning in a way that's trans supporting. Love you both!

Thank you both so much, I really needed to hear so many of the things said in this video. I had a mental health crisis a few weeks ago that I'm still recovering from, and it's left me questioning everything about myself, my life, and my marriage of over a decade. My spouse and I are trying to navigate through this and it's VERY hard. Couples therapy, individual therapy, basically turning our lives upside down and seeing what works and what doesn't. I'm still not sure what the end game will be, but hearing that a relationship is a journey and not a destination feels so much more reassuring than the "You need to be 125% in love every second of every day or else you need to GTFO of your marriage!" type of advice that's so prevalent. You being a fellow LGBTQ+ couple talking about going through similar difficulties as I am both on an individual and couples level means so, so much to me. I really appreciate you both sharing! ❤

My girlfriend came out to me in 2019 as well. It hasn't been easy for either of us. I'm so glad to see you both and to know that the journey wasn't always easy. I knew I wasn't alone but I'm glad to have more proof of that. I never understood if I was allowed to feel grief for my previous life, I felt guilty about it for a long time, still do if I'm being honest. It took two years for me to be honest with her about my processing. We're still working on things every day. Loving each other and growing together are my goals.

I’ve really never seen two people who better understand what marriage is supposed to be about. This is so honest and so beautiful.

This is so real. A lot of us are so concerned about being perceived as woke and sensitive and not making any missteps…. That we won’t actually be vulnerable and express ourselves with our partners when something complex happens like this. (By the way totally not insinuating that this is exactly what happened with you all, just making a general statement) A marriage has to have transparency without fear and that means 100% trust in each other that your intentions are good and you’re acting out of love.

Thank you for sharing your experience and how you've been working through things together. I think this video will be helpful for a lot of people! One thing I worry about in our community is I've sometimes seen some folks with the expectation that the spouse can't have any feelings other than mega positive ones, or they're a terrible person, and that the spouse's sexuality and/or romantic attractions don't matter in the situation at all. Which is kind of awful. Partners need love and time to process and figure things out, too.

I find this really relatable as someone in a long-term relationship going on ten years. My partner and I were struggling with certain aspects of our relationship before the pandemic, so when we were suddenly stuck together everything blew up. We had to do a lot of counseling, work, and healing, and now we have a better relationship than ever. I've never seen or heard anyone express what it's like to go through a big transition better than you two did in this video. Thank you ❤️

Thank you for being so candid with us and I am so glad you two have grown from these experiences.

Thank you for being willing to share this part of your life. I understand that no one can expect anyone to share something this personal to such a large audience. Especially Brie, who never chose this life to begin with. Your courage is amazing, and I appreciate it so much. My daughter is transitioning, and these videos help me so much know that there is a community and to know other's journeys. It helps 🩵🩷

So first off, I’m so glad you both choose to share this as I know it absolutely will help other folks going through a similar experience. And second, OMGGGG Kristin I feel your pain about the failed spinal tap. When I had my c-section they spent AN HOUR trying to get the stupid spinal block to work while I just sobbed. I had huge bruises all over my back after the surgery it was so traumatizing. They eventually had to put me under general anesthesia and I wish they had just done it sooner!

Thank you for being so open and honest in this video. So much of this advice is helpful for any couple going through any kind of change, ect, in their marriage. I'm so glad you guys were able to work things out. Your relationship is so precious. 💜

This is a really beautiful video. I too would've assumed that the "process separately" advice would be the way to go, since that's a big part of allyship in most other contexts. But what you've said makes perfect sense. Embracing and loving someone's true identity is one thing, but integrating that new identity into every aspect of your lives together is something that you can't do alone. This video was also helpful to me for a separate reason. I really struggle with the idea that my mental health difficulties are something that will harm others and that I have to protect them from my emotions. This ends up shutting out my partner and hurting him. I'm going to try to remember this framework you talked about when I want to pull away, in the future. Also, funny story about couples' therapy: My partner and I tried a few therapists before we found the amazing one we see today. The first one seemed to almost completely take my side, and the second one significantly took his side. This experience ended up bringing the two of us closer because we were both united in the belief that we should *both* be supported by the therapist and both our stories were important. We advocated for each other against those therapists and it was really a big turning point in our relationship, further supported when we actually found the right therapist!

this is really nice to watch for me, as a trans woman who has for my whole life avoided romantic relationships out of fear. hearing you two talk candidly about the difficulties of a relationship without blame was just so refreshing. i’m sure that so many people will get value out of this video in so many different ways. thank you so much for this 💕

This video felt so real and sweet and it just melted my heart. Thank you for your vulnerability, I know this will be an amazing resource for couples going through this process. Sending you so much love. ❤

I love that you guys chose to share this. You didn't have to do it but I'm thankful that you did. Thank you for being so open with us. You are helping a lot more people than you think.

Thank you both for your vulnerability, honesty and willingness to share. It's been beautiful to witness this journey you're on together ❤

I don’t have words to describe how much it means to see your bravery and love in this video (and honestly over and over again on this channel). Love to you both ❤ Also, hey Jorn!

This is honestly one of the best videos on KZfaq that I've ever seen. I believe you have been talking about making it for over a year, and I have to say, all of these "behind the scenes" issues were not at all apparent on screen or social media. This was concise and covered a ton of issues a relationship can endure. I feel a lot of this advice is useful for a lot of different situations in a romantic relationship. I can definitely see myself referring to it non-stop with future partners. 😅 I basically feel like I learned 20 new things about healthy emotional responses in one go, and I feel much more prepared to navigate a successful relationship(s).

Really needed this one. When you said if this video helps anyone - you were talking to me & my partner. Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency.

There really are not enough videos like this out here. Thank you so much for creating this. I've had all different kinds of genders and transitional states of partners in the past, it can be a real journey. Thank you for sharing yours

Thank you for being so vulnerable!

The entire video I was listening to everything and in the back of my head thinking of how similar your hair textures look and how throwing styling tips back and forth is probably so helpful!

I think the advice you share is super important for every big change a couple goes through, not only one partner transitioning. Thank you for being so open! I think this is very valuable for all people in relationships!

this is a truly gorgeous video. i love that y'all are able to talk about hardships you've weathered as a couple while not delving into the common straight/cis "relationships are HARD WORK, u will HATE EVERY DAY with your spouse, u will FALL ASLEEP and WAKE UP RESENTING THEM" energy that i see a lot online lmfao. like, it's clear that beyond any difficulties you've gone through, you both have a deep and abiding love and respect for each other, and it's really beautiful to see and i couldn't help but laugh -- my mom has been married three times, and when i asked her what made her marriage to my dad stick (40+ years bayBEEEE) she said, "everybody grows, and you have to get married to someone who grows in the same direction as you." i wish y'all decades of happiness too!

Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us! You are right when you say that we are not entitled to it, but it can help so many other people and for that I am really grateful. Your channel is a source of light in this world and I appreciate you three soo much!

You are super brave for being so honest about the struggles while still so clear how much you love each other. I believe this video will be enormously helpful for others.

Thank you for sharing this. There’s so much anxiety tied up in coming out and what that means for your relationships and to hear your story so far, about a true partnership being affected, and how there’s a way through, even if it’s hard, means a lot to me. Thank you for opening up, especially on such a public platform. And congratulations on making it through this together. Here’s to many more happy years for the two of you 🎉