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People: "I don't understand why so many people in Hollywood get plastic surgery and Botox." Also people: *Sees one wrinkle. "Oh wow, they let themselves go! She's so old now."

Growing old is honestly a privilege and society/online audiences need to remember that before they start to get offended by a celebrity getting older.

The Pamela Anderson thing is especially illustrative because she has said that after her beloved long-time make up artist died of breast cancer recently, she decided she just wouldn't wear make up anymore because there's no point now. The fact that the media made a whole story out of it and kind of pushed her to disclose something so personal and potentially painful - something that is NONE OF ANYBODY'S BUSINESS - really shows how bizarre it is that we scrutinize people's looks and personal choices so much and so publicly.

I think part of the negative response is people trying to "other" aging in order to deal with their own fears of aging. By treating aging as something you can do wrong you can convince yourself that you will do it right, that you don't have to worry about society treating you like it treats everyone else when you get old. It's kinda like how people will victim blame to convince themselves that bad things only happen to you if you let them.

Women literally can't win. "She should just age gracefully!" vs. "Why did she let herself go?" An interesting consequence of this is some movie directors say they struggle to find people for historical movies, because everyone has had work done that wouldn't look right in the historical setting. Which breaks my heart cause I love period pieces, but how do you do them if everyone has "21st century face"?

In regards to aging and weight gain: I’m 32 and I’ve always been overweight. Sure I’ve gained 30lbs since high school but since I’ve always been “the fat one” everyone tells me “Omg you haven’t changed a bit!”. Meanwhile, my poor sister went from skinny to my size and well…people are much less kind about it. We are literally the same size, but since I match people’s memory of me, I’m praised while she’s judged for daring to look different.

Honestly, Bonnie looks refreshing in the sea of all the celebrities getting the same cosmetic procedures and becoming straight up copies of each other. Have you noticed that celebrities' faces get more and more similar these days? It's so nice to see a regular woman in her thirties, who is still goddamn beautiful, and simply looks her age. It helps me to set expectations for myself in the future instead of comparing myself to multiple walking advertisements of plastic surgeries

In a world completely overrun by adults who are basically grown up children, witnessing aging is probably pretty horrifying for them.

I’ve had friends younger than me pass away. I understand aging is a privilege and not something to hide or be ashamed of.

The “men are maturing vs. women are getting old”- that is absolutely the (messed up) perception being perpetuated!! You nailed it. It’s such a brutal double standard. Thank you for this video. ♡

This reminds me of a story about a woman running a cooking channel on facebook. She was 31 years old and had a decent amount of grey hair. She kept getting hate comments about looking ''like an old hag'' and how she should dye her hair. Turns out she was terminally ill and she knew she would likely not live to 70 years old. Grey hair reminded her she was still alive and her husband wanted her to keep the grey hair so they could grow old together. A male host would not get such comments, and she had to come out with her personall stuff to explain her grey hair. It's like we can only accept signs of aging if we have a proper excuse for it. You can't just AGE because it's a human thing we all go through. You have to have a proper excuse for looking old, but even then it can be not enough because ''well, you're rich, do somthing about it''.

I used to be a very heavy drug user all throughout my 20s. I turn 36 in 4 days, and the fact that I am even alive to say this is a blessing. So I wear my wrinkles and aging face as a badge of honor, cuz it is truly a miracle I am even here to get them.

Years ago, I initiated this rule for myself when commenting, posting, whatever. Never talk about someone’s looks unless asked for. Frankly even if it’s a compliment, no. My opinion on how someone looks is completely irrelevant and I have NO idea what might be triggering to someone else. Talk about people’s work or their words. Not their looks.

Carrie Fisher once said “men are *allowed* to age.” Remember how often many men are still praised as attractive even when they’re old compared to what we've all heard about old women.

The timing of this video is so spot on, because just 30 minutes ago I was watching a youtube reel with Emilia Clarke and thinking about this exact issue. Every time I watch a video with her there's so many people leaving absolutely nasty comments about how old she looks and it just infuriates me. She was 25 when GOT premiered and now she's nearing 40, of course she's going to look different. She's aging just like any other person and it really bothers me that people won't leave her be and keep those terrible comments to themselves.

Every time i get anxious about aging, i remember that I'm almost the same age my dad was when he died. I've had friends and family that died when they were younger than me. Getting old is a privilege.

The idea that people all age at different rates is so important. My partner has had grey streaks in her hair since her early 20s. She's had the beginnings of laugh lines and wrinkles around her eyes since her mid 20s. She's generally not felt self conscious about it thankfully because this is the norm in her family. I'm still getting acne and given my family history I likely won't see a ton of signs of aging for a while - but I know it's coming. Seeing my partner embrace her aging has definitely reaffirmed in me my desire to buck my family's trend of bemoaning their signs of aging. There's also this idea that the reason we clamor for aging men and discard aging women is because with age often comes increased access, wisdom, and power. A women getting more of those is threatening to people rather than sexy because societally we sexualize female vulnerability and availability. It's funny though because those same women who get discarded by mainstream outlets become icons in queer communities precisely because of those reasons.

Im 34 and wish I had aged as beautifully as Bonnie Wright. But also I'm not torn up about it lmao. I always felt so bad for her in the HP days because she was always compared with Emma Watson and Harry/Hermione shippers would come for her. Give this woman a break.

As someone that never expected to live to 18 but is now 32 I gotta say I take ageing as a beautiful journey. I'm excited to be in my 30s. I can't wait to be in my 40s and so on. Every birthday is something to be thrilled over. I also weigh more now than I ever have and it's not the end of the world. I do still have a youthful face, but honestly I always hated that because people would treat me like a child (some still do). Wrinkles, weight, grey hair, scars, stretch marks...it's all just part of the story.

really don't understand why people take so personally what a woman does or does not do with her face. minding your own business is actually a delight

People are allowed to age.... even women! 😱

As a 60 something Gran I hope all the young women listen to what I have to say. Take care of yourselves, let your inner beauty shine, & if anyone dares to mention that you don't look a certain way just smile & walk away. We all age differently & that's wonderful! We weren't born to be identical to everyone else. Be an individual & embrace your differences. True beauty comes from your heart & soul, how you treat others, & the respect & love you shower upon your fellow man. Beauty always fades, but a kind & generous heart will be remembered long after you've departed this world. Just don't let negative Nellie's get to you. Be secure in who you are & who you are becoming. Much love & respect to all of you younger women. You got this..... 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

I think there could also be an element here of people hating to see their own aging reflected back at them. They remember these people being young when they were young and, when they see these actresses aged, they are forced to confront (deep down) the fact that they have also aged. That makes them feel dysphoric and they project it outwardly. Also, while women certainly receive the brunt of this, I disagree that it doesn't impact men as well. Other child actors, like Macaulay Culkin, have also struggled with judgment and scrutiny as they exist in the public eye as adults. As a society, we've learned to express our own dissatisfaction with ourselves through these celebrity "proxies" and it's become a way for us to avoid processing these emotions. If we can develop true empathy for ourselves, then we can also better accept the others around us.

Getting old is a privilege. I'm sure the poor girls who were married at 12 or 15 and all the poor men who died at 31 wouldve loved to get older. Because I'd rather look 30 at 20 than get treated like a 30 year old at 12

It's funny to me that most of the savage comments against women aging on tik tok are from young women. I think Genz, especially those that are late teens and early twenties have been exposed to filters, photoshop and celebs that get aggressive skin treatments or have had work done for so long that they don't know what the average 32 year old looks like. Developing eye lines and wrinkles is pretty normal in your thirties and not something to be ashamed of.

I think in Bonnie's case especially, her aging is almost an afront to people who grew up watching her in movies; it's a reminder that we've all aged too. It's like my reaction to my niece having her 13th birthday. My immediate thoughts are "no you cannot be 13, I remember when you were born!" Meanwhile I'm over here still feeling like a kid myself in many ways! None of us like to be reminded that time keeps advancing on us. It's against our nature.

"Bonnie Wright is a 32 year old woman and has a face, therefore her face looks 32 years old." THANK YOU! That's what I've been saying (in my head because no one cares about my opinion). But it's so true. You are your age and therefore look your age. Everyone looks different and so everyone's 32 or 21 or 65 will look different as well.

Bonnie Wright is absolutely gorgeous and I hope she doesn't take any of those disgusting comments about her appearance to heart. What, did they expect her to look the same as she did when she was twelve? Absolutely vile.

I think this is why 10,000 people sent Karolina photos of themselves. We knew this was the one 100% judgement-free space on the internet. Thank you for creating that. ❤❤❤

It's wierd how some people look at aging, especially when it's famous women, like it's some sort of crime or just bad and something you can control. Aging is just part of how humans work

I'm 53. All my life, I never really had either the money or the patience for expensive treatments and maintenance, let alone Botox. I've inherited good genes from my mum, and I'm allergic to people commenting how I don't "look my age". I mean, what's that even supposed to mean? It's not an achievement to have fewer wrinkles! Some people have chronic pain or go through terrible life events. That kind of thing leaves traces. I always remind myself that people who say such things are trying to be nice and that their heart is in the right place, so I won't snap at them. But I really, really wish people would start focusing on other things. Ugh

Society is so hypocritical. Woman gets botox: 'oh my god what has she done to her face, she should be natural' Woman doesn't have any cosmetic procedures: 'Ew not like that'. How do women in the media ever freaking win?

I think it's one thing to have an initial knee-jerk reaction to seeing something unexpected (which is generally normal and fine), but it's another thing to write negative comments and articles about it like it's something that needs to be dissected or discussed in depth. It also probably has something to do with people afraid of aging or feeling old themselves. "If the faces I've considered an integral part of my youth are so different now what does that say about me?"

The “none of my business” mentality is something that I’ve been trying to internalize, especially when it comes to celebrities. People are going to age, people have things they don’t want to talk about. None of my business.

I actually think Bonnie is someone who's aging beautifully and I love how she doesn't hide her own features. But I think we need to stop judging women by their looks completely.

As a teenage girl, I say what's wrong with how Bonnie Wright looks? she's aged, yeah, but it's natural and she hasn't even aged all that much. I would say that her not trying to reverse her natural aging process makes her seem more mature and not desperate to hold onto something she knows she won't be able to keep forever (aka her youth). If we wanna talk about how she looks, I'd say she looks down to earth and like a genuinely happy person who got a shot at fame and used it to pursue other passions and goals of hers. I would say that Maegan seems like the opposite. Like she believes she has nothing without her youth (which may/may not be true). I think Bonnie gives of "I'd love to sit and chat and have coffee/tea" vibes where Meagan gives off "I'll take a photo with you and then leave my alone" vibes (maybe because I've never seen her smile) and I'd take friendly tea vibes over photo-and-leave vibes any day.

I've been thinking about this for a while and I'm so glad you made a video on it. I saw someone comment (maybe on twitter?) about how Hilary Duff was still looking great at 35 - still??? She's in the literal prime of her life or is about to be, and it's so ridiculous! The most beautiful woman I've ever met was my school principal, who was in her fifties. Men in their fifties are often considered to be in the prime of their lives - think RDJ. These insane obsessions with, and standards for, youth are straight out of Twilight.

Here is one reason I did not hear mentioned as to why people have strong reactions to how a celebrity ages. When a celebrity we identify with ages well we feel hope that we will also age well. When a celebrity that we identify with ages badly we feel betrayed because of what that means for our mortality. When I read someone that is negative about aging I read that as someone that has trouble with their own aging process. Life is all about loss. We lose our childhood. We lose our fertility. We lose our parents. We lose friends. Eventually we all die. When we are young we see celebrities and as they age they remind us that our budding youth is withering too. We compare ourselves to celebrities. When a celebrity that is our age looks good we internalize that to ourselves. We shouldn't. But we do.

I just had a similar conversation with my husband. I am 30. Most of my friends are 29-32. All of my friends have started to show signs of aging. Most of us have some fine lines or gray hairs. I think that consuming so much celebrity content makes us forget what women look like when they age naturally. I think social media is especially insidious. We expect people to look their best in films, on TV, and on billboards and glamour shots. However, many celebrities build an Instagram following based on relatability and accessibility. They occasionally juxtapose a close-up of a stretch mark, a patch of cellulite, or a messy countertop next to 20 different images of their filtered and edited face to imply that they’re just like us. Obviously, this is absurd. As a wife and mom of middle class means, I have nothing in common with Taylor swift except the close proximity of our ages. But celebrities can make a lot of money selling the idea that they share our insecurities and perceived shortcomings.

personally, whenever I start to feel bad about how I look (whether it's aging or eurocentric beauty standards), I look at my aunties and other older people in my life who I admire and think are beautiful in their own right, but not only beautiful but caring, smart, talented, and everything else they are. not only does it make me feel better about myself, but it allows me to look at others in a similar way.

A (male) ex-friend once parted with this infinite wisdom: "Men age like wine, women age like milk." I'm so happy that person is no longer in my life.

My hair has started to go grey and I can't wait till I no longer have to bleach it before getting it to it's correct but unnatural pink!

Both Megan and Bonnie face criticism and have her looks scrutinized for the exact same reason: mysoginy. Women aren't allowed to age no matter if they get work done or not. If they choose to age naturally they will get bashed for looking old and "letting themselves go". If they choose to get work done they will be criticized for looking overdone and ruining their looks. Women are allowed to choose what they do to their own bodies and people are not entitled to any explanations. And so sad to always see that women are primarily seen as purely their looks.

Bold words from the ageless immortal who hasn't changed since 1643

i'm 24 and my childhood best friend, who (like me) used to be heavily suicidal as a teenager, started getting grey hairs this year. every time i look at her i can only ever be so happy about it. we both lived to see her get grey hairs. i can't imagine seeing this as anything other than the immense victory and privilege it is. (and while it's not about aesthetics, she looks damn good too)

As I near the mid-thirties this weighs heavily on my mind. Thank you so much for defending the right to exist of us old people, Karolina!

I like to think that other people's aging reminds them of their own mortality and it makes them uncomfortable.

Aging as a woman. Otherwise known as slowly turning invisible to the outside world... typed as a 55 year old. That being said, aging is a privilege not to be taken for granted. Go out and thusly shake yon tail feathers... - Cathy (&, accidently, Steve), Ottawa/Bytown/Pimisi

When I was a teenager I always wanted to look older. And then after about age 25 I wanted to look younger. Now I've reached an age where if i go out in public without makeup, people will ask me if I'm not feeling well. No...that's just how my face looks. I like to think I look totally normal and fine for my age, but I don't look 25 anymore and apparently that's a real "fashion don't" for a woman.

As a baby-faced 40YO who got her first grey hair last year I agree. I don't look that way because I'm doing something "better" than the others, I'm looking that way because of genetics. The same genetics that gave me PKOS, made me fat and will probably make me look instantly older as soon as I get menopaused.

I'm 40 and I'm still getting spots. I have sympathy for women in the public eye who have to deal with this. And it's frustrating that there is a double standard and men are not subjected to the same. However, I do get a bit annoyed when they have financial interests in some sort of anti-aging product - either an actual product, or a general 'wellness' thing - and then don't tell the truth about the procedures they have. Or when they pretend not to photoshop their images. That is very dishonest in my opinion and does a lot of harm. They are presenting results that you literally can't achieve.

Very timely. I remember when I was a teen back in the early 70s and hearing someone talk about how the actress Angie Dickenson had "let herself go" when she turned 40. I also remember someone saying "40 just kicked her in the face." I asked my mom about it and she said something about when a woman in Hollywood turned 40 their chances of getting good parts diminished. And now I see actresses in their 50s and 60s still getting good roles. I mean look at Jamie Lee Curtis and Michelle Yeoh getting Oscars at the last Academy Awards. Jamie just turned 65 and Michelle is in her 50s. So some things are changing, I've seen it in my lifetime, and I'm 69. I'll bet that most of the a$$h*les saying this crap are all Dude-Bros who are still living in their parents basement and couldn't get a woman to look at them.

People have never been able to guess my age. They get it wrong in both directions, starting as a teen. This made me realize that in general society is very stupid and wants to do things it is not capable of, and not mind its own business. 😂

Social media is freaking brutal, man. Even just within our hobby circles with folks who have been around a while. HEAVEN FORBID people get older, gain weight, have kids, whatever. I’m glad you showed Bette Davis because she really embraced where she was at and continued to be a freaking amazing actress. That’s more admirable to me than having to be “forever young.”

Thank you for this video. I'm almost 56. You are 10000% right how people are sooo harsh on women no matter what they do. There's this weird dynamic of "how dare you get old" when people jump on aging celebrities as if people were entitled to see them as they first encountered them for the rest of their lives.

I’ve had gray hairs since I was in the 6th grade. I’ve maintained a skincare routine since I was 17, which is why a lot of people think I’m younger, because I’ve managed to slow aging from wearing sunscreen regularly. But if you look at my hair it’s basically 50% gray and I’m not considering dying it because it does remind me I’m getting older. Gray hair is not a problem, it’s actually because of genetics that hair grays differently for everyone.

I have been the same height and weight since 13ish, started graying at 20ish, still had acne at 25, slid down the Covid mental health chute through 27-28, wondered if I should get fillers because stress aged me to my actual age by 29, got breast cancer at 30, in remission from that and not giving a flying fuck about my wrinkles and grey hairs and asymmetrical nose at 31. I intend to be 40,50,60,70 and so wrinkly and ugly that I scare kids at Halloween because it’ll mean I’m still there and I’ve lived and learned.

Aging will never be as scary as what people feel pressured to do about it.

Aging is amazing. I'm thirty now and I finally don't have body dismorphia. I'm over weight now and my face is starting to drop, and yet for the first time I just don't care. I feel beautiful. As a younger 20 something I was always stressing about how ugly I felt (I was a cute girl but thought I was ugly for some reason) and how fat I was (I was well within my healthy weight range and I guess I felt like I was never skinny enough.) Now I'm thirty, a little over weight, and my face is starting to age a little and I just don't care anymore. I'm so happy just living life and just being me. It's the best feeling ever, and I would never go back to feeling like I was never hot enough. Aging is awesome. It really breaks down your pride and self obsession so you can just be happy with where you are at in the moment.

Hi Karolina - Thank you so much for addressing this. I really appreciate your perspectives always, and this is such an important topic. I saw that "aged" filter that was going around TikTok several weeks ago and tried it out. I actually loved the way I looked! I looked somewhat like my Nonna (grandmother), and I also looked like I had lived a full life with plenty of ups and downs. And it just made me think: "I should be so lucky!" (Particularly as someone who was severely depressed and passively suicidal for 6+ years during my late teenage years.)

Honestly I when all this discussion about Bonnie came up I only looked up recent pictures of her and was blown away how pretty she is. She looks so confident and fresh, not like a child but like a woman. I love how she smiles and how much the soft little wrinkles give her character. Look at her eyes, it even looks like eyeliner wings, but she has it naturally!

I actually like seeing actresses age naturally. I think Bonnie Wright looks amazing and I dont understand why people dont like seeing people age.

I’m 26 and I got my first gray hair when I was 18. I’m honestly excited to be an old lady and it makes me sad that people get so worked up over age. I have a 33 year old coworker who is always bemoaning how OLD she is and it’s like… you’re still YOUNG! I’m still a child! Like, there’s so much more to worry about than the natural course our bodies take over time. I think it hurts me most when my mom gets really insecure about how “old” she’s looking, because she is honestly stunning. But she just can’t see it, even though I constantly try to remind her.

I've never heard an explanation that fully accounts for the discomfort/anger that results when a woman dares to age. My best guess is it's multifactorial, but primarily comes down to two issues: fear of our own mortality, and misogyny. It's jarring when you realize a decade has passed since you last saw a celebrity, but it didn't feel like any time at all, so the fact that they look older reminds us we're aging too. For women, it reminds us that we've only got like a 10-year window in which we have influence and worth in society, because women are still primarily valued for how attractive they are to men - and men value youth above all else. For men, I think it reminds them of their own mortality, but they're also angry because on some level they feel that the woman aged ON PURPOSE, or else could have prevented it if she'd tried harder, and now she's broken the unspoken social contract that a woman who is not just out of childhood and super hot should quietly recede into obscurity. A lot of women comment on how they seemed to disappear when they hit their 40s; they became invisible to society. I think in the case of celebrities, like Karolina said, we're used to seeing them in a carefully curated, flattering wardrobe, hair and makeup professionally done at all times, lighting and photoshop and careful posing. This actress (Bonnie?) wears casual stuff and seems to have minimal makeup most of the time. I guarantee with professional lighting, wardrobe, hair, makeup, posing, and everything most celebs use, the comments would have been way different. Part of the problem is people don't realize what women look like without makeup and an army of aestheticians.

I've already decided to embrace aging as it naturally happens, but the pressure on women to look or not look all sorts of ways as they get older already feels overwhelming sometimes. I'm only 27, but I'm already noticing the beginning of wrinkles and started to get more frequent white hairs. And tbh I do feel very self conscious about it. But I want to be part of the movement that changes these pressures on women. So I personally don't plan to dye my hair when the whites and grays become more noticeable, and I already stopped wearing makeup regularly earlier this year. If people want to dye their hair or wear makeup, that's fine. The difference is feeling like you have to vs wanting to. The only anti-aging thing I'm committed to is a good skincare routine and daily SPF, haha.

"My body hasn’t aged as well as I have. Blow us." Carrie Fisher.

Sweet. Baby. Jesus. Both of these women still look SO. YOUNG. What do people think they want!?!? I am 44, almost 45. My hair is completely grey. My body has been through childbirth and almost twenty years of marriage. If I looked a fraction of how lovely either of these individuals look, I would feel like Aphrodite. The internet needs to get its shit together.

I grew up hearing my mom joke she knew exactly how she was going to age because she looked just like her mom, my grandma, who also looked just like her mom, my great-grandma. As a result, I've never felt this intense need to stay youthful looking. I think that sort of view, that our features or how we age is part of our inheritance from the generations that came before just gets lost nowadays as we constantly compare ourselves to random strangers. I may never have met my great great great-grandmother, but I can look at the photos we have of her and see her descendants, including the way their features changed as the years went on.

The fact that the media has been feeding us pictures of celebrities photoshopped to perfection for our whole lives also plays a big role in this. We want to think that oh, it's 2023 and things are different now because more and more people show their faces online without filters etc. but reactions like those you mentioned show that changing people's mentality will always be the longest battle

The thumbnail is iconic

I work in a funeral home and it’s given me so much more perspective on aging. When we get cases who have passed in their 30s 40s and even 50s they’re all considered young. There is so much life to live beyond your 20s

*PEOPLE AGE* its what they do, you are doing it right now, its how time works - get over it...

Finally someone speaks out. Some people are so rude to Bonnie Wright. She looks her age. People need to be a bit more realistic. I bet most mean commenters also look their age instead of looking like a photoshopped instagram model

I almost checked out permanently at age 20, so every time I have a birthday now I'm like wow, I'm really still here, that's awesome. I'm 35 now and I have a good bit of gray hair. I actually love it! It sparkles in the sun like tinsel. I wish it would all go so I could dye it crazy colors without having to bleach first! My mom is one of those women who won't speak of her age and gets mad when I celebrate her birthday and that makes me so sad. I wish women weren't made to feel bad just for getting older.

I am also 32. I got married and had kids young, and until literally this year, I kept getting people assuming I was the nanny when I went to school pickup. It's really nice to finally be treated like a grown-up. But I do have a baby face, and I come from a family of baby-faces. My parents are in their late sixties and look a decade younger. My siblings each have stories about having to pursade people that they were actually adults, like when my brother got pulled over at 26 after coming out of a liquor store by a cop who assumed he was underage. Meanwhile, my husband frequently doesn't get carded at restaurants, and that's been the case since he turned 21. His two brothers were completely bald on top before they turned 30. He still has hair, but it's thin and we know the years are numbered. Genes are weird. Faces are weird. And that's wonderful.

How People Are Aging Is None of Our Business-I agree 100% with you Karolina as aging is only natural and unavoidable. Good video!

When I saw this video pop up, I knew exactly what it was going to be about, because I saw the same thing and I was disgusted. I called multiple people out for it and was just met with a complete lack of empathy, and told that it was basically fair game to hassle a woman for aging naturally. In a world so obsessed with aging and horrified at the thought of a wrinkle (we have young women using Botox, fillers with anti aging skincare routines), I do despair sometimes. I'm 38 now and the struggle to block out all that noise is REAL.

I didn’t follow „Ginny’s” career , but it’s heartwarming to hear that actress from my childhood seems to have grown into happy and accomplished person - that’s the only thing that matters to me. Also, I’m 21 years old and based on my present looks, I’m guessing that I may start aging a bit quicker than my peers in incoming years. Thank you for this reasonable video (and similar comment section) - I’m not particularly insecure about my looks anymore, but it was still nice to hear.

“the History of Aging is a topic for another video” well… if thou art willing, so are we👀

Bonnie is a beautiful woman. I love that she doesnt hide her smile lines, her expressions, of years of emotions no matter how happy or sad.

It's really upsetting how we are treated as we age 😢 women seem to never be enough. I'm so fed up with it. I'm 45 and I literally became invisible 10 years ago. Then trying to keep my "beauty/young appearance" has become exhausting and a losed battle to be honest. I just don't care anymore. It feels much better. Love yourself as you are. Embrace aging and be grateful you get to have a long life ❤

Great video! I think it’s also an issue with some celebrities of them just looking “different” than what we remember. If you’ve just watched Harry Potter for the 100th time and see a picture of any of the cast now, you’re going to be like “hey, they don’t look like they did 5 minutes ago! How did that happen?” Our society moves so fast that we forget the age of some of the media we consume - and it unfortunately immortalizes the people who starred in them, instead of allowing them to grow and change. ❤

I work in assisted living and get to see all the good and bad that comes with aging, and there definitely *is* a lot of good with the bad! I also lost my husband a few years ago just shy of his 40th birthday and I would give just about anything to be able to experience growing older with him. Like others have said here, we really need to remember that aging is a privilege!

Saw a comment on a video of Margot Robbie saying that she can’t be beautiful because she’s older than 30. What is even happening to our society

As someone who is around Bonnies age and always thought my lines on my forhead are not normal for someone my age she makes me feel a lot better. She is so beautiful, the lines dont matter. My skin is also very fair

My mom (who’s 43, not old per se but she does have a fair amount of wrinkles) always thinks it’s silly when people around her are terrified to age or tell people how old they really are. She says she knows much more and she’s happier than she was in her 20s. She’s proud of her age and I’m happy to have a role model like her :)

My mom was a redhead and Bonnie is aging so beautifully and with grace just like my mom did

We are so afraid of aging and death, we put so many resources in prolonging life far beyond what our bodies are programmed for instead of resources for dignified aging, dying and support with coming to terms with aging and death, and making sure people in their old age aren’t getting lonely and depressed.

I love this. Also, I'm 37, and post menopausal thanks to early onset breast cancer.... Still getting asked for I.D. and had a pimple two weeks ago. Most people guess me at mid-20s and I am constantly wondering when I will look my own age because I mostly hang out with women double my age approximately. It is embarrassing when people think you are your besties' child. :(

I cannot wait for my hair to start turning grey. I already have the cutest crow’s-feet that make my cheeks look extra full when I smile. And the more wrinkly my hands have gotten, the softer and more gentle they’ve grown. It’s all outward reminders to me that I’ve survived more than I thought I was ever capable of. Every day we hit a new personal best for “most BS survived”. It’s good to be proud of that 💕

I think it truly shows how obsessed we are with looking good and also shows where our value lies. There’s no more beauty inwardly. Our young girls are looking at tik tok people and aren’t being reminded of where beauty comes from

As a 51 year old woman, I noticed eye makeup does not look as attractive on my skin anymore (makes me look cheap) so a more natural look is actually a better choice. I feel makeup at this age can actually make me look older because it settles into my wrinkles.

It's like people expect women to be immortal. They're NOT. No human is!

To be clear, wearing makeup, however much you want, whoever you are, is totally fine and definitely a cool art form. That said, seeing makeupless celebrities has made me remember how little we see of that in pop culture, yet its fairly common day to day. I'd love to see that dynamic reflected more bc it is just nice to see the bare human face sometimes

Omg I have a genetic condition that means I look really young on the outside. It also causes chronic pain and serious illness to my organs that'll probably end my life young. I would trade this looking young for having a healthier body in an instant. Looking young doesn't equate health, and doesn't equate beauty or wellbeing. this entire conversation drives me nuts, and I couldn't agree more - let people look how they look!!!

“[…] because we don’t get to tell people how they should age.” AMEN!

ohghh......my meds just kicked in and im getting so emotional about how beauty is this big evil machine that makes us feel bad about ourselves and we are all so beautiful and desireable and we keep being lied to by everyone

THANK YOU! I saw the same Instagram reel and the comments pissed me off - and it was really upsetting that the majority of people seemed to agree with these comments. I don't know where people take the audacity to openly say something so inappropriate and straight-up mean, especially when you can be sure they would be loudly upset if someone said something similarly mean to them. Even if she looked old (which to me she doesn't, I just think she's a really tired new mama), SO WHAT? Mind your own wrinkles, Rebeca, if you care about them so much.

The one quote that always stuck with me is "men age like wine and women like cut flowers". Society is so obsessed with a woman's youth and how that is intrinsically linked to their beauty and "value".