so true...

There is no such thing as approval of others. It’s an illusions. An external force (a voice) says, “hey your great” your mind then grabs that an synthesizes. The way it gets synthesized is based on how your mind works. For me, an INFJ, my introverted intuition decides weather or not it’s a genuine answer with help from the extraverted feeling. If it decides it’s a genuine answer, it gets taken a layer deeper to my introverted thinking, in there it will use extraverted sensing and Ti together to understand deeper WHY this was said and how it matters in the external world. It’ll say like well this matters because I live in a society with expectations and I want to meet those expectations. But the thing is the mind doesn’t know the difference between what is external and internal. Affirmations. If you tell yourself that “you’re great, you’re an awesome person” it will process in the mind as if it were real. This is why the approval of others is an illusion. Because it’s my mind that does it all. My mind could have disapprove the persons comment, even if it was genuine. And it could have approved it, even if it were a lie.

I am glad I found this this site i now feel encourage to think about myself in a different light i have never seen a bunch of men speaking out on a subject that to me is so ridiculously hard to admit as a man I was thought you never show weakness i never thought i ever get addicted to anything but now I am glad to know I'm not alone and i can quit

took me till 40 to really internalise this. Though i knew this for a long time, and thought i had it mastered, i sure did not.

Do Nofap That's solution

Right ? Making so many relevant points. Ppl don't want to admit it.

Agree, Fantastic speech

Thanks John! I really appreciate it :)

Thanks Essie!

What? You need to work on yourself man.

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lol underrated comment

the only reason one cannot attain their dream is if they convince themselves they cannot

Yeah you're right, you can see what's possible. but that's exactly it: you can SEE only with your eyes. A lot of the other details are missing online in social media. Do you attach certain feelings and emotions that you assume those people are having? for example when you see some millionaire with tons of girls in bikinis and a yacht.....I might assume they're having a great time and loving life ....whereas maybe they aren't. maybe they're miserable, doing a lot of coke, have serious health problems and suffering from depression

Yup. I chose his second option: don't participate (in social media). At least in 2020, you ARE seeing SOME celebrities post "basic" / unfiltered TRUE images of themselves, that are NOT perfect / idolized.

Thanks!

Sorry my dude

Lol.

Hi Bader, I would love to translate into Arabic or French, but unfortunately I only speak English and Spanish. Feel free to translate if you have the time!

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