Jess, I absolutely love your videos and love the fact that you are posting more! Your channel has taught me that you don't need to have 1 million subscribers to change someone's life, because it's not about the amount of subscribers you have but the lives you change. And Jess you have changed my life and helped me beyond. Hope you see this

"It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility" is the best reminder EVER

ADHD things: panicking because you're late for being early

Oh yeah I have to pack my lunch the night before, whenever I'm like "maybe I'll just make something in the morning" I just have to remember that NO, U WON'T, IT'S A TRAP

"It's harder to stick to something when the newness wears off" OMG that explains sooo much in my life!!!!!

When you said "it's not like we're being irresponsible, it's that time looks really fuzzy to us" I literally burst into tears... One of the hardest aspects of my ADHD has been how everyone treats me as if I'm lazy or I don't care enough. :(

People don't understand why I get to work hours ahead of time. (I work at a casino.) Look, I'm serious, I can either be two hours early or I can be 10 minutes late, there is no in between.

"How to be on time: 1. Do things the night before" MY GREATEST NEMESIS

I used to get very frustrated with my niece and nephew getting ready for school in the am. Both have adhd. I do not. We were always scrambling to get to school on time and being late stresses me. It made no sense because they were dressed and ready to go but it still seemed to take 10 minutes just to get out the door and into the car. I finally figured out that for me, when it is time to leave, I get up and go. They can not do that. I started telling them it was time to go ten minutes before I wanted to leave. By doing that, we were all in the car and ready to pull out of the driveway on time. As a non brain, I may never understand why it takes so long to get in the car. But I don’t need to. I just need to know they need that time and adjust the schedule accordingly.

Omg do a boredom episode. I’m 39 and just found out other people dont feel boredom is a literal torture.

Hi! I’m the son of the creator of Brili, thanks for mentioning the company!

I get so frustrated sometimes. I can get up hours in advance to make sure I'm ready on time, but I still end up leaving late because my time blindness makes me leave everything to the last minute! :( Thank you Jess for making these videos and for putting so much I to The research for them!

Timing how long it actually takes to get to an appointment, including parking and walking in, was a huge help. Also my daughter invented "mommy time", in which she started telling me she had to be places before the start time so she would be late even if I, the chauffeur, went back 3 times for things I forgot. Hint: if you do this, use a multiple of 5 minutes. Your ADHDer will catch on if you tell them practice starts at 4:33.,

As someone who's only newly discovered being a brain sometimes when I can hear the pain in your voice at the frustration it really helps. Love your chanel.

I keep missing the same appointment, make a replacement appointment, and then repeat until I'm too embarrassed to contact whatever office again.

You spoke about using a playlist to help keep track of when to do certain tasks. I sing in the shower to keep track of time because there are no clocks in there. 1st song = soaking 2nd song = shampoo and applying conditioner 3rd song = bodywash and brushing teeth 4th song = rinsing out the conditioner and using a facial cleanser, sometimes I use a pumice stone during this song Some days require a 5th song. If I reach 6 songs, I know I've spent too long and I'm going to be late.

"Its not your fault, but it is your responsibility" So true. My high school guidance counselor was the first to point out to me that being late is viewed as disrespectful. To me, I never saw it as disrespect, it was just life for me. To this day, I'm either 30 minutes early (and bored) becasue I plan ahead or 5 minutes late. No in between. Reminds me of a quote from a movie called The Climb: "It's not about being perfect, it's about taking responsibility for your actions" Let's work together as Brains to learn how to be more effective and show those around us that we love them! Thank you for all you do!

I was supposed to be at a thing ten minutes ago... but there's this new video from my favourite channel: How to ADHD!

Hope this helps explain it *sends straight to girlfriend to explain why we are always running late for everything*

“Yay! Total lack of accountability!” Me all summer

My friends have joked about starting my funeral 15 minutes late. Those who know me will get it and laugh. Those who don't know me all that well won't get the joke. Morbid, I know, but I'm 45 years old and this is what I'm known for. I'm good at a lot of things and go out of my way to do extra to make up for being late (which then gets frustrating bc noone notices the extra and highlights the tardiness). I'm better than I used to be (15 min instead of 45) and routines have helped significantly with that. I have a morning and evening routine and have padded both with an extra 30 minutes just in case. Now I get judged for being inflexible bc I live and die by them, but hey, choose your battles, right? My Mom used to tease me for making a list to do everything from chores to cheerleading saying she could get 3 things done by the time I finished my list. I finally told her if I didn't make my list I wouldn't get 3 things done. I also put time frames (literal times like 2:35-2:50) beside the items on my list to keep me on task. In reality, I think my list just helped me know what to do next. 15 minutes of planning made for a much more productive process and prevented a lot of "but first" episodes. (I need to do the dishes, but first, let me see if there are any left in any other rooms, but first let me put this sweater in the laundry hamper, but first, let me empty the trash can in the bathroom,... and nothing actually gets done) Sorry for the lengthy ramble, but this video is so relatable to my life. It's nice to know I'm not alone, and even though it is always my responsibility to be on time, it's not always my fault when I'm not.

Your videos have helped me so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 13. I'm now 19 years old, and I realized that I haven't actually understood what my ADHD was. I knew that I had trouble being attentive and had poor time management, but I had so many other problems that I thought was just because of me being dumb, incompetent or insensitive. Your videos have helped me to recognize that most of the things I struggle with are because of my ADHD, and I've been able to be more compassionate with myself since. Thank you so much for your channel and the help you've provided to so many people, myself included

Every flippin' point in this reminded me of something from when I was younger. Things I still have trouble with today. Being recently diagnosed as a dude in his 30s, this video helped explain a bit about me I couldn't necessarily put into words before. Thank you for what you do

I don’t know if this is ADD related but the best thing I ever did for my mornings was buy an alarm clock with a wake-up light that gets gradually brighter for 30 minutes before the alarm. After decades of chronic lateness for work, now I’m frequently one of the first people in the office. Because of the light, I’m not shocked awake with no idea where I am, who I am, or what that loud annoying beeping noise is (I used to lash out until it stopped somehow and then I’d go back to sleep). I rarely jump out of bed but now it’s a choice.

Honestly my dog kinda helps, I set different alarms for different things and she’s learned them (by herself) so I hear the alarm and I see her do the routine (she’s normally very hyped about it) so I can’t ignore it or she will literally pounce on me...till I do what I’m supposed to be doing. Edit-typos.

This one was more wonderfully validating than newly educational (for me) because I already do a lot of this stuff. My husband gets so annoyed with timers "always going off" or that I always do the before bed routines and the "cleaning songs" to keep up with the daily chores, but it's honestly what allows me to function. It was so awesome to see the things I'm doing aren't "crazy" but instead legitimate coping mechanisms. Thanks for your videos that are always so informative, warmhearted, and humorous

When your hyper focus leads to hyper disappointment after you've watched the entire 118 video playlist in 3 days......

I find I need to put my everyday things back in their "spot" so that I'm not panicking to find them in the morning! I've also made myself something like a capsule wardrobe so even if I'm rushed I'll still look presentable!

I don't have ADHD myself but stumbled across your channe. I've actually been able to use your advice to help me better organise my own life, so thank you. Also as a 27 yr old I don't think I really knew how little I understood about people with ADHD so thanks again for enlightening us all on what It's like.

That idea of making a playlist with songs to remind you of things you should do is great.

I was diagnosed almost a year ago at the age of 21, i felt my world collapsing on me. Getting into trouble at school, not completing school works, doing poorly for tests, late for everything and i mean everything. Your videos have helped me tremendously, thank you for making such a huge impact on my life! You've earned a loyal follower here!

I just discovered your channel and I could almost cry. I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD, but your videos resonate with me so much that I’ve decided I need to see a professional. I’ve felt so defective because I can’t be on time and can’t seem to motivate myself, but with an ADHD perspective, it makes so much more sense why I’m like this. Thank you for your videos.

How did you know I'm always late? Who told you?!?!?

I've developed a strategy to pull me away from something to get me motivated. I call it "1, 2, 3, go", basically as soon as you realize you have to get going, give yourself 3 seconds to sit and then get up IMMEDIATELY on go. Works everytime.

Every time I watch a video of yours I get emotional. I have always struggled to do seemingly “simple” things, and hearing you talk about ADHD makes me feel seen. I’m working on finding ways to get diagnosed, which is a struggle in itself, but your videos have already helped me acknowledge my patterns (whether I truly have ADHD or not). Thanks for the work you do 💙

“It’s not our fault, but it is our responsibility”. I can’t describe just how much of a game changer this phrase is. I felt the guilt and anxiety and avoidance draining out of me when she phrased it like that. 🥰

I needed this video. Thank you so much! My brain gets so distracted and confused with time.

i made myself a few routine cards. it contains step by step actions i that need to do. and place these cards where they are needed. example: just arrived at the office routine (30mins): 1. unpack bag 2. open pc 3. create work tasks list 3a. check for upcoming meetings 3b. check emails for me etc... i also have a get-ready-for-work routine (1hour) and a just-got-home routine

I tell people time feels “slippery” to me. I can’t get hold of it.

I’m 24 and I just got diagnosed. It’s nice to have answers but it’s even better to have strategies. Thank you so much Jessica!

My biggest advice for getting out the door, keep a tin by the door with keys wallet and anything small you're going to need for the day. You can put what you want in it the night before, if you can remember, lol!

Really hard sometimes....All the TIME. Its annoying to my family and of course myself I thank you for all the advice

I'm nearly in tears watching this, it really hits home

7:15 thank you for adding that on! Feel like it’s necessary to remind myself of that because I always feel bad when I find a strategy that really works for me and then just give up on it because it gets boring. It’s good to know where that comes from!

Finally I'm on time for an upload for once! This is the story of my life 😂

Thank you, Jessica, for the great tips and for your wonderful support of Brili. I'm really happy to hear our product is helping. 🙂

In my family growing up (in which I am about 90% sure I was raised by two adhd parents), we called it "Charland Time". My dad moved so slow and was always running late and my mom was never ready. Lol! Now, my man is slow moving (we call it "sloth speed") and I am never as prepared as i should be or forget something. ..we are quite the pair lol Thank you for all you do, your videos are suuper helpful to my family! For myself, my kids, and even extended family ("ooooh! Thaaat's why my mom did this....it is all is so clear now"). Much love, sister!

"Managing adhd is a constant reevaluation of strategies" Thank you, good to know I'm not the only one in that boat!

I am always early. I am ussualy half an hour early at school due to fear of being late. Also personal tip have a hair brush and deoderant in a bag then forgetting is not the End of the world has helped me When I forget.

I was quite pleased with myself at getting to not one but two 9 am volunteering shifts this past week. The boost of confidence is palabible.

YESSS. THANK YOU for acknowledging that nothing is a permanent solution. That is my constant, CONSTANT battle, and probably the thing that frustrates me loved ones the most. I would love to see a couple boredom videos!! I only just recently was made to look at my reactions and emotions, with the help of my therapist, to realize boredom is probably one of, if not my main motivator AND obstacle.

Best video on avoiding being late! Please do more videos on this topic. Extremely helpful to those around us who don’t know how we struggle with time management. Thank you so much. Sharing this with my loved ones.! 🎉🎉

What I've found helps with leaving on time. Is to set my clocks to be 10 minutes off. The oven says 3:40 it's actually 3:30. But I get that "oh no I'm late!" feeling even though I'm not. The "I'm late!" feeling is what jump-starts the rush to leave. If I see a clock at 3:30 I'm like oh I have time. (does something that takes more than 10 minutes and is now late) Adjusting to the new time and remembering it's 10 minutes off doesn't happen. Cause I forget and just read the numbers in front of me at that moment. By the time I remember I'm already getting ready to go and don't have to worry about going back to being distracted from leaving.

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i do these things! you're right; they wear off and you have to make brand new strategies and it's exhausting.

I LOVE you for this!!! You’re the first person I found after being diagnosed as an adult and you have helped me to understand myself sooooo much more and to be able to forgive my self for my “deficiencies” for lack of a better word. Thank God for you!

This is one of my biggest problems. I feel like such a loser being late constantly and taking days to start something.

I just want to say thank you yet again. I got diagnosed last year at 24 and it has changed my life.

If, like me, you have grown frustrated with post-its that come unstuck or fall off or fade, the next level up from post-it notes is masking tape or painter's tape. You can write your reminder right on it in sharpie, it sticks way better than a post it but also won't wreck a painted wall when it's time to come off, and comes in at least a few different colours. Plus you can use it to stick things in handy places! Post it that says 'don't forget to bring forms to dr's' by the front door is good, actually sticking the forms next to the door is better.

Wait.. Did KZfaq read my mind? Thank you for changing my life and teaching me more about ADHD! 😊

Been watching your videos for a couple months now and I can't tell you how much less lonely you've made me feel in my own ADHD. I was diagnosed as an adult but struggled my whole life. Getting out of the house on time is one of my biggest struggles (I'm a Realtor) These tips were so reassuring- thank you!!

“As a teenager it was almost impossible for me to wake up in the morning.” im in the sentence and i dont like it

At 2:46 I just lost it watching the "make bed" piece struggle to squeeze in XD (IDK why I'm sharing this, I just found it funny)

my goodness, the thing about tools and techniques needing constant re-evaluation resonated with me so much

Sometimes fear of consequences works ok for getting me to work/school on time, but i definitely always struggle with fun/social things. I usually text my friend “sorry, will be 15 minutes late because of who i am as a person” (unfortunately this is not professional enough to use when late for work 😂)

"If I'm there early I'll surprise people" is what I say on the days I try really hard bur only surprise people by being 15 minutes late instead of 1 whole hour late.

One thing that's helped with my inability to estimate how long a task will take, and to ultimately start getting more things done, has been to add "buffer" to my schedule. Previously, I'd have a way too optimistic plan for my day that I'd never achieve, but now I can make my always inaccurate guess that something will take an hour, but have the buffer time simply to cushion my inability to estimate. I had a buffer hour at least once every 4 hours throughout my day, and this is separate to things like accounting for travel time or lunch etc.

I can see a lot of things I can do to start helping the woman I love. There’s no reason I can’t help her/ do myself these things for her in the morning so she is ready. She’s worth it

Ha ha ha out the door on time. I was late for my own birth and will probably be late to my funeral and have been late for everything in between except for a gig, I have been late for rehearsal, but gig night is usually nerve racking enough on its own. I have a checklist on the door. Keys, wallet, phone (pants with pockets), important papers, hat. AC set, Stove off, Dog watered.

I always feel normal and understood every time I watch one of your videos. ❤️

As a parent of a teen with ADHD...and a wife of a husband with ADHD, your videos and Dr. Barkley's research has been so eye opening and helpful to my understanding of the people I love and support. I wish I had found them sooner! Keep up the great work!

Thank you for the thoughtful, fun and helpful videos! Love your channel and am grateful for it.

"Since most of us are behind on something, or somethings" ouch

I use the "Time Tune" app, thanks to your recommendation and it works wonders :) It means I do what I need done in the evening and morning, because otherwise, I've always been, on time or early but with unbrushed teeth, unbalanced meals, etc. plus I get anxious (my main moitivator up until recently) and stressed. The way to be on time was also to snooze my waking up alarm indefinitely, while I was already up and about as it got me to look at the time, and to be very very early and then do the work in advance. Now that I have a routine (yesss!) I also listen to postcasts/radio shows/audiobooks/KZfaq readings of books, that I already have listen to many times. It must bring the missing dopamine, because it gets me out of my chair to do stuff, I even listen to them in the car and I don't have to focus on them because I know them by heart. As an aside, you look extra beautiful in this video!

Your videos give me hope, seriously...thanks for all you do

I have a key hanger by my door. It has saved me from losing them so many times! I don't always remember to put them on it but it's better than the couch, the end table... ect.

I put money in the weekly movie fund when I’m late. my kids had $40 of free movie snacks #struggleisreal

This video is yet another GEM! Totally using the "ADHD Toolbelt"! Thank you :)

I’m a parent of someone with ADHD and these videos have helped me love and accept my son so ,I have better. Thank you

Thank you so much for this and your channel in general. Thanks to your videos I'm getting to know my brain better than ever before.

Hello Jess your channel has helped me so much over the years, when I was diagnosed with ADHD I truly thought no one understood what we go through everyday and when people say that ADHD is no big deal and just an excuse it really ticks me off but when I came here i felt understood for the first time. Unfortunately I have hit a roadblock that I am having trouble with. So basically no matter how many times I try to explain to my parents about how much this affects me they refuse to listen, and educate themselves. I was wondering if you had any advice for me to somehow make them understand ADHD fully. Thank you for everything over the years! 😊❤️

I love your vids they help me soooooooo much. With that said, tips: 1. sleep. 2. I found for me that if I have to be out the door for someplace/thing at a certain time I try to figure out the time when I have to be there, google where that location exists and find the estimate that googles tells me in the maps for how long to get there. If it gives me more than one route I use the time of the longest timed route with the fastest route to get there... Then I add a half hour... and that is when we have to leave out the door. If I have to get around before that or wake up or whatever my alarm on my phone gets set for an hour to an hour and a half earlier than the time I have to leave. 3. Remember that there is always something you can get there or it can wait. I am addicted to coffee (seriously I drink A LOT of it) but I also know that most times i can get it on the way or at the place when we get there. So I survive without getting it right away. 4. I keep things in the same spots. Until someone else moves them then I get screwed... BUT I keep things in the same places as that is where I remember them being last... Like keeping my wallet in my pants form the day before... As long as neither the pants or my wallet have moved I will be able to find my wallet... And if time is limited I also now have pants... So I win? lol

Jess!!!! It's so wonderful to see your new videos. Love your contents. Please keep them coming.

I’ve been watching every How To ADHD video for the past two years and I can honestly say this is personally the most helpful one I’ve seen to date. This was packed SO MUCH good information. Thank you for all the hard work you continue to put into every video, Jessica.

I swear this channel has given me more validation, actual help and encouragement than therapy (but please go to therapy). You're doing a huge service iexactly the way we need it. Thank you so much!

Omg I need this right now. #mylife

wow, you are incredible. your cute little bits where you kinda throw in there that you’re struggling too makes me feel less lonely. thank you so much for this channel it’ll probably change my life if i actually remember to do these things!

These videos are helping me understand myself and struggles, something I’ve felt guilty about my whole life, thank you so much for making this channel and giving us a place we can feel heard and helped:)!

I like to set alarms on my phone that tell me how much time I have left before I have to be out of the door. And for sleeping, I set a couple alarms at different times, one of which says "Sleep!!!!!" But I don't always go to bed on time, so it's at least a way for me to know "oh yeah, it's 10 pm right now" so I don't stay up not knowing it's past midnight.

Heya, thank you so much for those videos. It's so incredible to have somewhere to go to know that what you're struggling with isn't made up. You're the best Jessica. Also I wanted to ask you and other brains: can ADHDers "think about several things at once?" I'm not sure how to put it but often, it's like it's litteraly like this. Sometimes, I'm thinking about so many things at once that I lose track of my own thoughts. Would love to know if anyone else experiences that.

Hi Friend! I wanted to thank you for all of the work you do! I’ve discovered your channel very recently and already it has been very eye opening for me. I’ve spent my entire life being told/believing that ADHD was just an excuse for being lazy or that it isn’t a real problem but you’ve helped show me that everything I’ve been told in life was wrong and you’ve helped point me in the right direction so I can improve my life and help the people I care about. Your videos are amazing and I hope you keep doing such great work for not just those with ADHD but for those who don’t understand the disorder or don’t have it at all. You are a blessing 🙏🏻!

I absolutely love your channel, and it has often brought me to tears because it's the first time in my life that someone can eloquently describe the struggles that I have in my daily life. I wasn't diognosed until I was 23 but thought that I had adhd since I was in high school. One thing I really adore about your channel is so many resources are for parents or people that have to 'deal with' and 'put up with' adhd kids. This is one of the few resources where I can find help on how to manage myself as an adult; and not have people talking to me condescendingly because they think I'm lazy for not being able to do certain things. I love that you talk about and acknowledge the struggles, but also remind us that we are still accountable for our own actions and responsibilities. I honestly cannot thank you enough for how you have changed my life, I still have a ways to go, and a lot to improve on, but you help me narrow it down to one goal at a time, so that it doesn't seem overwhelming. It cannot be overstated that you and your channel has helped me to become a better me.

I got a notification. I got to see her. Now I can die in peace.

AHHHH, LOVE YOUR CHANNEL, YOU TEACH ME SOOOO MUCH AND ALWAYS CAN MAKE ME SMILE!!!!!!!!!! MY LITTLE SIS AND I LOVE WATCHING YOU!!!!!!!! Actually my hole fam loves watching you, and my Dad calls you," The happy fun ADHD lady!!" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 But as my parents homeschool us, because of my and my sidlings Dyslexic and ADHD, my parents love watching you and learn how we crazy children work!!! You are amazing!!!!! You have changed my life, and I know many other ADHDers!!!!!!! Thank you for your vids, and all the love and support!!!!!! KEEEP ROCKIN' YOUR AWESOME SELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!😘😘😘💕💕😘😘💕💕😘💕😘😘😘💕💕💕💕💕💕 Oh, and I loveeee, Doctor Who, it is my fav show!!!!!!!!!! Who is your fav Doctor? Mine is either 10th or 11th, dannggg, they are cute and juicy!!!!!!!😍

Literally crying tears of relief & joy for stumbling upon your channel today! The daily struggles of ADHD are so hard for people that don't have it to understand, and for myself as well and this is mostly from the incredible lack of education around what it actually is and the fact that for the longest time the research was only centered around children- mainly boys- so being diagnosed as a 28-year-old woman was so shocking that I didn't fully believe I had it for a long time. But thank you for making this channel, it's an answer to my prayers!

Thank you so much for making this video!! I literally opened KZfaq to try and find something to make me feel better about being so late for two important appointments today, and this video was recommended to me at the top of the front page! Exactly what I needed!!

this would have been so helpful in high school lol i was late literally every single day

I have this app ('Sag mir die Zeit') that tells you the current time at an Intervall of your choice. When I get ready I often have it running. It helps me get some time-intuition

This is only the second video of yours that I've watched. And I'm crying in relief; this is the acceptance and guidance I've been looking for my whole life. Thank you so very much!!!

This was such a big help your channel is a life saver