Loneliness is when I wish I could talk to someone and I check in my mind who I can talk to and that person to understand me? and realizing that NOBODY
@calCR093 жыл бұрын
We feel the same... why dont we talk?...
@davidsallee38673 жыл бұрын
That's God.. God understands you
@cameroff4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Noah. I had a vivid vision of my inner child alone in their crib. I picked them up and whispered softly into their ear, gently caressing and soothing them. I feel so much more at ease after watching this. 💜
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Wonderful. Happy to hear it Cameron. You're welcome.
@paturcaflorentina6244 жыл бұрын
I am a psychologist and I know a lot about loneliness and other things...I honestly experience loneliness differently, I feel lonely when I talk to the people because we have such a different views on everything, no connection, if I start talking they start judging like I am crazy because I think different. I like being different but is very lonely when nobody understands your mind, your way of looking at the world. When I say I feel lonely people are in a rush to give you advice,,make a child, have a family,, guess what I feel more alone talking to the people than when I am alone in the room. Loneliness is not about not having people in your life it is about not being able to talk to them about what is important to you. This is loneliness for me, not being able to share what I feel, what I think because I can't connect with the people around me, the only time when I felt happier was in a hippie community, I wish to go back but I can't afford it financially.
@i..am.. Жыл бұрын
I feel you ❤️ this is me too. I'm a deep intellectual that loves to study various forms of science. I feel like an alien on this planet, very few understand a small fraction of what's in my mind. I keep telling myself "what does it matter if others can relate..." But it does matter. I have recently turned back towards my happy days which is also the carefree hippy world and went to a drum circle. I've been getting stones and wearing them for their properties. They help... But also I'm looking into changing my surroundings socially. I've surrounded myself with people my boyfriend attracted and many of them are toxic and only have status and money on the mind. It's eroded my happiness and just taking actions to change who I surround myself with has really helped by giving me just that glimmer of hope.. I hope someone can see you soon. I know it's not easy ❤️
@sensibilities14 жыл бұрын
This goes deeeep. Thank you so much for making this, helped me a lot. So on point 💕
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Holly Marie yes!!!!
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@trudibarraclough4782 жыл бұрын
This is amazing! As a 6/ 7 y I was often left to get myself up and off to school while my mother slept off her hangover, of course I was often late and then punished with the strap by my teacher, then punished again when my mother found out. I have trouble looking after myself now. I always put others first. I am 65y. Very powerful.!
@jurek46pink4 жыл бұрын
thank you for the sound - clear, sharp, strong. Thanks to it I was able to understand (nearly) everything. And it proved to be very helpful to me. Greetings from Poland !
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome!
@adiron5174 жыл бұрын
Everything you said in this video, I already knew, but the way you said it filled my heart with warmth. Thank you. 🙏🏻❤️
@paturcaflorentina6244 жыл бұрын
I feel lonely when I talk to the people about the weather, small talk, I feel lonely because we are not honest with each other, saying what we really feel, what we really want to say...can't do it...who wants to talk about their deepest secrets? Who wants to talk about fears? Who wants in the daily life to analyse everything? I do..I am a deep thinker and I can't find people who enjoys this deep conversation, they find them hard..🤷♀️great, let's talk about tv, whether and food..I am going to kill myself of boredom 🤦♂️
@danito30893 жыл бұрын
Ah yes thanks for speaking my mind.
@newyorkbikeride3 жыл бұрын
I get it exactly I want a deeper connection i have one friend i csn connect to on that level... very deep and emotional.... most men wont share that...
@nanamc8813 жыл бұрын
Go to a AA meeting
@michaelalexandergrant92593 жыл бұрын
I feel this
@kristinetennantcarpenterre69333 жыл бұрын
I feel the same Paturca. I have plenty of acquaintances but maybe only a couple who will speak about deep feelings. And even those it’s hard to get to talk. I think it’s too scary for them?
@ingoberga40584 жыл бұрын
Dear Noah. Your video really finally explained the pain I am feeling inside of me. You have such a great talent to do so. And even thouh you are far away and I only watch a video I can feel a connection to you and I trust you to guide me into that inner pain of beeing alone beeing scared for life or to death. And I was able to soothen that pain for my inner baby. And I stayed with it. I did not distract myself or shut myself off of feelings completely. This is incredibly wonderful. Thank you from deep in my heart. You are most wonderful!
@moniclare42143 жыл бұрын
Amazing guidance. Thank you. I understood for the first time ever where loneliness came from - just amazing . I will replay this again and possibly a third time. You have removed a huge black cloud that hovered over my head for many a year. Again thank you .
@NoahElkrief3 жыл бұрын
Amazing. You're welcome. Thanks for sharing Moniclare
@yanakuzmina8154 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Noah! I found your tracks on Insight Timer and then started watching these videos. Your videos came very timely in my spiritual journey and work miracles for me. It’s still a long process to heal the wound in that inner child but I do feel how my thoughts and perceptions of loneliness have been shifting. It also helps to connect with people in a different more authentic and deeper way. Thank you so much!
@NoahElkrief Жыл бұрын
You're so welcome Yana!
@anonymouskat66612 жыл бұрын
wow Noah. I have been in therapy for years and have been struggling with major depression and ptsd. Being gentle and loving to those little parts of myself and giving them all the care and tenderness they've always wanted. Wow I don't think I've ever had this feeling of saftey. Ever. Thank you so much. Thank you so much ugh
@NoahElkrief2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome Kat! I feel really soft-hearted hearing this. I'm happy I could help you to feel that.
@biljam9723 жыл бұрын
I have been paying so many therapists and analysts in my life, but no one was this helpful as your videos. This is really great approach.
@bukuku3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Now I realised why I’ve been experiencing loneliness all my life, be it when I’m alone or when I’m out having a good time my friends. It was because I was an abandoned child; my elderly grandparents raised me up without my mum or dad coming to visit me. And when my grandparents died when I was 11, my parents took me back to lived with them where I saw my other siblings. But from there on, the loneliness grew more as I experienced being unloved; my mum’s coldness and my dad’s awkwardness towards me. In order to retrieve love and care from adults, I got closer to my neighbours where 1 household in particular provided me wt lots of attention and warmth. Till this day at the age of 51, this particular family is almost like my own family, in fact I’m so much closer with them than my own parents. But for that loneliness bit, the ‘child’ in me is still screaming and begging for that natural parental touch he wasn’t given since 51 years ago. Love and cheers from Singapore.💐
@nckclsn4 жыл бұрын
This is pure genius. So well explained, Noah! Thank you.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@mariobertachini60813 жыл бұрын
The answer is easy, the child needs the parent. But there’s no parent, neither in the past, nor now. So the child keeps searching. We cannot give to ourselves something we lack.
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Such a pleasure when you upload a new video! I hope you are safe and well ♥️ Your words are so comforting. Thank you for all you do!
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Nena! I am feeling very safe and calm :)
@jonandercerrongarcia56134 жыл бұрын
Thank you, the other video you did on loneliness helped me a lot, I watched it a thousand times (I even created the subtitles in Spanish for the video jeje), this one is awesome too, thanks mate
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Jon!
@mindstuff417 Жыл бұрын
I needed this perspective more than anything else right now. Thank you for helping me see the source of my loneliness. I didn't know before now its source.
@GezaMika-vd7bz6 ай бұрын
I just rediscovered you after forgetting your name and here you are again. Many thanks for your thoughts and care and your deep consideration for the planet.
@dawn4562 Жыл бұрын
Appreciate your openess and simplicity in explaining this very very real condition. That so many of us suffer through and truly want to be free and at peace. Thankyou so much.
@madameottenok14362 жыл бұрын
I get really perplexed by the dichotomy of it. Knowing when to seek anything outside of me and when not to. But I have definitely found peace, healing, and love within sometimes.
@rachaelroman39314 жыл бұрын
This was really insightful and it helped me think in a different way. Thank you for helping with bringing positivity in my life
@tanyaaschwanden26644 жыл бұрын
This was really heart touching, so much.... I went into crying, feeling the pain... Through your guidance... Going through with it. Through also my depression&anxiety, I feel alot of fear and being alone or disconnected.... I believe this now doing with you, will start healing something within me... It was also a better understanding, what's acually going on. Thank you from my heart to your heart, dear soul. 🙏❤️
@selmarowell85024 жыл бұрын
stay safe i apprecate you! you have gotten me through tough times. big hug to you too, love you, and all that you have to say!
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
:) Selma
@na-on1wc3 жыл бұрын
I am an only child. Now an adult. I cried when I heard this I feel this way most of the time. My friends live out of state as do my parents. Friends here I have none. Yes it does not seem like enough and am trying to meet people....
@rickyd76314 жыл бұрын
I feel this helps. I need to watch it a few times. But I feel this will help. I need to test it out when I'm in situations when I feel left out of group activities. Or social gatherings. Thank you Noah. Keep up the good work. Your work is much appreciated.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Ricky
@McFraneth4 жыл бұрын
I had a flashback memory: my cat didn't come home one night. I was shot back 45 years and felt utter helplessness, utter powerlessness.
@sussyc3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Noah, definitely going to keep practicing this to heal, hit the spot that needed healing today. Ironically loneliness has been with me my whole life, an unwelcome feeling I have had to push away and deal with. Thank you for the beautiful reminder I have the healing I need inside of me 💗🌸
@MsDianneMaryWilkerson4 жыл бұрын
This is a very interesting video because I enjoy being alone I get anxious when I don't get alone time. I've studied the Bible for over 49 years and humans for over 38 years and have learned that people need to be alone to spend time with their own selves. I learned this as a child when I read how Jesus went away from people to speak with God Who is Love. We are born with everything we need and we don't have to look outward for our needs. Love is Spirit and Love heals broken hearts and Love keeps you from being alone and feeling lonely. I was a latchkey child and the youngest of 5 and I'm grateful my dad taught me as a young child to do things alone. I raised 3 son's as a young widow and I taught them how to do things alone as my dad did for me. I'm also a people person and encourager and have learned to say no when people want to take up my time. People have to learn to love themselves and to know their worth which makes a big difference in helping to not feel alone.
@scofah4 жыл бұрын
Hi there. I just wanted to say that I got a little triggered by your story because I think we are born completely dependent. For many months for most of us (at least three or four years even) we would probably die without the care of other people. So we aren't born with everything we need. We're born entirely dependent on our caregivers and on the world. Anyway, I think this is where a lot of my so-called disruption or struggle stems from. I had to contort myself (attempt to manipulate others) to feel like my caregivers were there for me. But thanks for your comment. It sounds like you're saying you're not lonely. And you taught your sons to be okay alone. But I just wanted to share that I'm learning "the life or death need" for others still pulses through me.
@MsDianneMaryWilkerson4 жыл бұрын
@@scofah Thank you for sharing and yes many feel they have to be around others which will never be satisfying because no one can give you what you need it is impossible. If you depend on others to make you feel a certain way like joy or company to not be alone this can become frustrating since people tend to be selfish and as you said will manipulate to get others to satisfy their needs which does not fill your needs. This mindset you have can change when you start to understand your worth and power the you have within. There are a few videos I have found interesting to explain our thoughts and how our imaginations can give you what you desire. What we think will manifest in our lives that is why the bible says think on lovely thoughts. Also everything created was once a thought in someones mind. If you change your mindset then you can change your life. We are all connected to one another and we are energy that is why when you see someone hurt you feel the pain or you see someone in love you feel the love. We do have everything we need within and because we are all connected to one another through Love we are actually never alone.
@atlenta14 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with me today. I have watched several of your videos and with each one I walk away understanding myself a little more.
@stephenlechuga11244 жыл бұрын
I ended every single addiction I feel I had and my relationship was ended. I am finding myself again. Thank you for your videos.
@coomartist4 жыл бұрын
Great stuff man. I've also been propelled onto this path after a painful end to a loving relationship that I made toxic from my own traumas. Noah's videos have helped incredibly. I don't know where I'd be without his channel.
@hananalkhlifa48114 жыл бұрын
Thank you alot for this video and the healing session. It's only now for the first time I realize my inner child hurted by some events happened in the past, and Ive neglected that for years and always either wanted and waited for others to heal me or tried to avoid having a deep connection with other in order to not feel any pain of the past. Please keep posting such video.. I'm so glad for watching and seeing you again after years :)
@Julie-iw3mh4 жыл бұрын
Hello Have you had any experience in healing so far and if so can you tell me what you do or Did? Therapy, books or anything that helped that you could pass on to me that I can explore. Thanks in advance.
@lisaabreu55092 жыл бұрын
This was powerful. I feel double screwed up because while I was punished by being denied affection and sent to my room….. I felt safer away from my manipulative mother and violent father. I came out of childhood with many poor skills in relationships. I’m over fifty and still haven’t been able to figure this shit out. Thank for your work!
@alexc77434 жыл бұрын
You're a gorgeous man 🤗
@jinghu50354 жыл бұрын
I watched your previous video about this topic before, which helped me greatly at that time. Now after watching this video, I feel that it goes even deeper. I often feel lonely and have learned from this video the reason. Will practice. Thank you, Noah. You are such a genuine person.
@skillzzz4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for another great video. Needed to hear this.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Alexa
@happybear55594 жыл бұрын
Time to take care about child 💓🙏🏾 Love you man im felling bless to watch this video Thank you
@sherij9847 Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. This is a great go-to when I’m feeling lonely. Definitely a Save 😊in my Library
@dilciaalvarezcrespo4 жыл бұрын
Excellent . I think this video is one of the best of yours I have ever seen so far.
@johanneslundie4 жыл бұрын
Noah Elkrief does fabulous work. This video, like so many others of his, addess the root cause of a major social and psychological issue with elegant simplicity. For anybody trying to get a handle ot their emotions, Noah Elkrief should be "required reading." In this video, he describes the process of a technique that for many years I have been using, and had wondered whether it was OK or not. Here I found out that I was right all along. What a relief, what a fantastic support. I'm going to get back to the technique right away, and follow it through from here on in. Thank you, Noah !!
@MrGpoulin Жыл бұрын
IMO the root of loneliness is not having had the possibility to introject the love of and the connection with a parent during early childhood. It creates a void inside that one will probably have to deal with for the rest of one's life. Love of/for a partner can fill this void momentarily, but there will always be remains of it. The best antidote consists of having strong bonds with people around us. Not just one, like a partner, because that makes us too vulnerable in the event of a break up. Loving and caring the inner child does help a lot too, but I don't think it will ever be enough to make the void disappear completely.
@paturcaflorentina6244 жыл бұрын
Noah I just wanted to say Thank you because your video healed my problem with my sleep...🤗👍🙏
@maheshm64914 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the videos Noah! A few weeks ago I started reading the 'The presence process' by Michael Brown which goes into this exact dynamic of being present with 'bad' emotions and sensations. Even though I get carried away most of the time, I am starting to recognize these uprisings and trying to be with them. Hopefully we all can use this time as an 'opportunity' to be aware our issues and bring some healing!
@miracleshappen17114 жыл бұрын
I would love to give Noah a big, long hug...
@selmarowell85024 жыл бұрын
me too
@pakas19854 жыл бұрын
@@selmarowell8502 Group Hug😘
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Received :)
@khatchigkavafian1384 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Noah, actually after short guidance I've opened my eyes and I felt much peace and love it was an amazing experience. Thank you! Please if you could provide us more this kind of inner child healing videos much love and blessing to you!
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Khatchig. I will do more
@kristinetennantcarpenterre69333 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Since Covid I have had times of deep loneliness and despair that have surfaced. Feelings of being unsafe that I have thought were caused by the people around me. (Thank you so much for explaining that this is not the case). These times are less so now as I have returned to activities but find these deep and scary feelings of loneliness can still really sneak up on me. Note: I have been that person you talk about who has used work all her life (workaholic) to keep from feeling lonely. I now realize why long holiday weekends like the 4th of July always bring me down! Listening to this helped me so much including the visualization. I could feel the feelings when I was 7 when I was feeling unheard, not special, not unique. (Which I now realize has carried through my whole life). I could feel myself comforting my young self saying: You are special. There is no one else like you. You have unique worth to offer this world/people. It makes me realize what a different person I might have been if I had felt this assurance as a child. I do not fault my parents. They did the best they could. I am just grateful for this understanding now and I hope I can learn to effectively lessen these feelings when they surface again. Thank you! I am grateful to you for your video!
@NoahElkrief3 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome Kristine. I am really happy to hear your experience and new understanding. Thank you for taking the time to share with me. Wishing you lots of ease in your journey to fully heal your loneliness!
@sagnikpramanick4 жыл бұрын
I'm so lonely that i feel like dying! This feeling hits harder especially at night.
@shradpat91443 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I knew I had to heal my inner child to heal my loneliness and I security. But when you guided us I released so much. I didn't know I had so much pain inside of me. Thanks. God bless
@gottaluvselena4 жыл бұрын
So glad you're back Noah! Your videos are so extremely helpful. I was wondering if you can make an updated video on how to deal with a breakup? Thank you for your lovely content!
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
For sure
@McFraneth4 жыл бұрын
Books and cats and wine help a LOT.
@berritandersen2884 жыл бұрын
Thank you Noah! This video helped me so much. It gave me validation. It's all within me. ♥
@theresataylor24194 жыл бұрын
Thanks Noah I recently read the power of now and found your channel the other night when I couldn’t sleep. I’m really enjoying your content and I love your evolution from your old videos, which are helpful bandaids, and your new videos which work on a deeper level. We need both! Thank you
@andrzejmaranda36992 жыл бұрын
Noah Elkrief: THANK YOU SOOO MUCH for this video! This is REALLY IMPORTANT for me!
@PaulOReilly7123 жыл бұрын
Ty Noah ,your helping me a lot to overcome my lonely feelings and thoughts, and not look to others to validate my life alone, and enjoy my time alone, until my lady walks into my life, and I'm comfortable enough with myself to not drive her away! Ill share your videos with friends :D
@NoahElkrief3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome Paul
@laszloleka7514 жыл бұрын
Brilliant summary Noah, great video and meditation towards the end. For me personally, the works of John Bradshaw, especially the book Homecoming gave immense support and understanding, this is really deep work, sometimes exhausting and upsetting but worth it 100%. :) Thanks for this great guidance.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
My partner also told me that book was incredibly helpful for her. I never read it though.
@osse1n4 жыл бұрын
When we create value for others, they will become drawn to us. Humans are symbiotic towards one another.
@drshatakhi3 жыл бұрын
Noah you are awesome...you are the first one to narrow down the feelings to the root cause. This video was really helpful. Thank you so much for this
@davidelliott1400 Жыл бұрын
This has been very valuable and since my partner has vacationed away for 16 days it has highlighted a few things for me. Thanks Noah.
@sandracook7703 Жыл бұрын
Just found your video you did a very good job on explaining loneliness. Thank you. I get it now.
@sallymallon12074 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Noah! I really needed this today.
@annavillalpando48724 жыл бұрын
Inner child work 🙌🏼 love it. Been doing it for 2 years & wow. I’m a totally different person now. ♥️
@calCR093 жыл бұрын
Amazing!... Thanks for this. I could feel that you were understanding... listening to you, it's clear that you want to connect with us... Wish you the better
@Julie-iw3mh4 жыл бұрын
Hi Noah thank you for this. My loneliness comes from childhood trauma. It's really surfaced the last few years and have been suffering with these feelings and depression and anxiety. I also acknowledge that I didn't have the tools as a mum to comfort my two sons, adults now, and so I feel guilty for what I didn't give them because o was lacking in myself. The emotions of all this from my own past and from being and mum has hit me like an express train the last couple of years and my life has changed beyond recognition i a bad way to what is was. Having some very dark thoughts about my own childhood and also about my parenting. In so much pain I don't know where to begin. I have clung on to other people for safety and emotional security and it does not work. I also clung on to my youngest son to fill this need for safety and connection and he has now gone and moved away and can feel he is distancing himself from me and this makes me feel even more alone now. Always looked to others for safety and emotional needs as unable to meet them myself so now completely alone with all this plus depression and anxiety to deal with on top. Do you recommend a type of therapy for this or how in God's name can I ever get my life together it feels over and am barely functioning now. A few years ago I was active busy and on the go all the time I now see this was all distraction and it's all hit me like a sledge hammer. Any thoughts or advice or guidance would be great. Thank you.
@scofah4 жыл бұрын
Your comment reminded me of Dr. Jonice Webb work on childhood emotional neglect drjonicewebb.com/ she has quite a bit of free info vids and stuff. I got a lot from her first book Running on Empty
@IlxEliteJay8 ай бұрын
Amazing therapist!❤
@seanstagg7274 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this, with the pandemic I've definitely been feeling lonely. Your videos always help, so thank you again.
@nobs46892 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you so much for your Insight ..it's helps a lot today .xxx
@NoahElkrief2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome. Happy I could help
@yarenbirben63904 жыл бұрын
ıt really really helped me a lot. thank you very much for sharing it! love you.
@mariedepedro96375 ай бұрын
Loneliness is not feeling unsafe for me… it’s the feeling of not sharing with someone who you can connect with and make it be mutual.
@cryptowysiwyg49824 жыл бұрын
I'm 48 years old (female), and you made me realize from watching your therapy that this whole time I was feeling lonely was because I was adopted. My mom left me when I was an infant and I ended up being adopted at 11 months old, and this must be the reason why I feel so insecure and lonely at 48. Thank you for making realize where it was coming from. Now I have to figure out how to DEAL with it. I don't know if I can CURE it, though. Will I be like this forever?
@MariaVargas-kn8sg4 жыл бұрын
I love your new videos because now you speak from your heart as never before, thanks a lot Noah
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing Maria. The path from head to heart can be painful, but it's so worth it :)
@TG-io7er4 жыл бұрын
It helped, I felt that my inner child needed to be slightly jostled and treated slightly rough I'n a good way, to perk me up , to build confidence, not over codling. BTW you do great work thank you
@paturcaflorentina6244 жыл бұрын
In my childhood I had one friend and I never felt lonely, now I have more than 2,500 friends and I have never been more alone.
@bebrave2day2 жыл бұрын
Incredible! Thank you!!
@kpavan49984 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much it helped me a lot, but can you please do one more video for better understanding.
@eirikjarlmikkelborg5374 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@louieatkins-turkish13494 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. It's good to have a reminder to check in first, to recognise when something is more like a reactivation of something already inside you, and to greet it and see what it needs. I'm curious about your thoughts on skillfully using the external world when we experience uncomfortable emotions. Ideally you would check in and instantly heal all your wounds forever, but my intuition tells me it's not *absolutely* wrong to "use" people to address our loneliness. We do it for good reason. But it helps to be more aware of it, and aim to not hurt others. I'm wondering where the boundary there lies. I also have the intuition that loneliness (or any emotion) really isn't the problem. It's a blessing. It's communicating something. And when we don't acknowledge that message and understand it (which also isn't bad, it has its benifits, it can be painful to hear or it's unsafe to have intense emotions), it gets louder, more painful, maybe expresses itself in different ways. I would love to hear your thoughts on that.
@NenaLavonne4 жыл бұрын
Louie Atkins-Turkish yes! ♥️
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Hey Louie, thank you for this question. It is important. It can be a long journey to fully let go of or heal all our loneliness. Therefore, in the meantime, it can be supportive or even necessary to use the external world to help us out sometimes. When loneliness is intense, and we don't have the space to meet it directly, it may be helpful to escape it through TV, food, hobbies, or human connection. The important thing is that we are honest with ourselves that how we are spending our time isn't healing the loneliness but just giving us a welcome break from it. There's absolutely no problem with that. It is kind and gentle to do this for ourselves. If I seemingly feel a need to connect with others in order to escape loneliness, I try to turn inward and give the love to myself. But, if I can't, then I try to be honest with my partner or friend and speak that I am trying to get away from loneliness right now. This way, that is out in the open and not a hidden force in the interaction. But, if we can't do that, it's okay. We are all just trying our best. To the 2nd point, I agree that no emotion is a problem. Same with physical pain. It is just arising as a messenger to show us that something in our body is out of alignment with love and safety. For sure, when we don't listen, the message gets louder and more intense. Hope that helps
@scofah4 жыл бұрын
@@NoahElkrief yes. helps very much. as usual. ☺️ 🐈😻 thanks always, Noah!
@ilyademichev4 жыл бұрын
It seems to be the right reasoning. I had nightmares in my childhood and slept in one bed with my mother for quite a long time. This is why as and audult I am so bound to my mother. While being on a journey and distant from her I sporadically feel unsafe,anxious and cant't focus.So have to call back home. She soothes me down and I am rejuvenated.
@Andres-gp4gn4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@happymimi164 жыл бұрын
Yay you're back :D
@KrisVic914 жыл бұрын
We aren't supposed to be alone all the time, cause we're a tribal species. If you were outcast by the tribe in hunter gatherer tribes you would die. Couldn't survive alone. It's why solitary confinement is a punishment. A tribal society would consider leaving a small child screaming in a crib alone torturing the child.
@KrisVic914 жыл бұрын
@MissyM5424 It doesn't matter man. We still have the same brains as our ancestors. They haven't evolved yet to modern times. It's the same reason that Noah's and anybodys body reacts the way it does when he sees a large snake thinking it's a snake. It's just built into our dna.
@KrisVic914 жыл бұрын
@MissyM5424 In fact, I'd go even further. I'd say the reason so many people nowadays have depression and anxiety disorders is because we aren't living the way we are supposed to. 1in2000 people in a tribal community have deprssion. 1in 4 in western culture. I have a book about it. How you can implement hunter gatherer changes into your lifestyle. Exercise, omega 3s, sunlight exposure, sleep, not ruminating, social activity etc. I think he's a bit off with the baby thing. You don't really start forming a sense of self until about 6-2yeaes old or so. However as I said, tribal communities wouldn't leave a baby alone. Even if the parent was busy, another member of the tribe would hold the child. And sleeping alone in a crib would seem ridiculous to them.
@KrisVic914 жыл бұрын
@MissyM5424 I mean everything goes back to hunter gatherer. We are here to just fuck and survive on a primal level. Imagine asking a hunter gatherer what their "goals" or "career" or "purpose" in life is. I know of a few, one I was talking about is called tlc, theraputic lifestyle change by steve illardi. He also does a ted talk but it's not as detailed. Another is Tribe by Sebastian Junger, absolutely amazing book. Not so much about hunter gatherers. But about things like how the western men and women used to run away to join american Indian tribes during the early days of america. Sebastian Junger has two podcast interviews on Joe Rogan. Then there's book like moneyless manifesto. Guy lived without money for two years. Or alone in the wilderness (dick proaenake) lived in alaska by himself or last frontiersman (story of heimo korth) similar cept he raised a family. Are you a woman?
@KrisVic914 жыл бұрын
@MissyM5424 uhum, primal.
@arjanpatel48954 жыл бұрын
@@KrisVic91 Yea... no. I spent nearly 3 years without talking to anyone in complete solitude when I was abroad and never got lonely once. I did not come into human contact for 3 years straight and survived just fine. Best time of my life. Your statement is false and stop basing everything on personal experience.
@salamsalambecheha4 жыл бұрын
Love it 😍
@McFraneth4 жыл бұрын
Great content. 👍.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 👍
@kennethhall9202 Жыл бұрын
In world of so many people their should be no Such thing as I get older I feel more. Lonely.why isn’t their such a thing as lonely support groups is it too embarrassing for people to even admit it !?
@rachelharris31184 жыл бұрын
Noah I’d love to hear you talk more about being safe living in community now, feeling safe in interdependence. Particularly men I think often feel v autonomous as adults and perhaps American culture has a part in this. A woman with very small children for example may be much more reliant on community and their partner and family, literally for survival and also thriving for them and their children. Feeling safe and held and strong in this vulnerable position takes...
@angelascott29599 ай бұрын
Thank you😊
@universe-kv9st4 жыл бұрын
If life gives you lemons Make orange juice Let the world figure out how uou did tha
@davitjanashia93444 жыл бұрын
bro you watch too much tiktoks lol
@nanamc8813 жыл бұрын
i didwork on my inner child and years later this loneliness stuff hascome up again
@Might_be_bipolar4 жыл бұрын
It was very interesting and totally makes sense, however I never know why I almost never feel lonely, even when I am all on my own, dong nothing. :)
@jennyquezada96444 жыл бұрын
Forouzan D That might be because your spirit are whole and complete.
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
It could be that there isn't much loneliness buried in you, or it could be that you're unconsciously so afraid of it that you can't access the feeling of it. I couldn't feel loneliness until a few years ago because I was unknowingly too afraid to feel it.
@Might_be_bipolar4 жыл бұрын
@@jennyquezada9644 Thanks dear but I don't think so...I have lots of flaws following like shadows.
@RyanAmero4 жыл бұрын
Loneliness simply comes from lack of connection to yourself or others. So you probably just have good connection with yourself &or others.
@cairoweller89643 жыл бұрын
Thank you again Great video
@gborowme Жыл бұрын
Hello my friend Noah I tell my family about you. ❤
@seankelly45098 ай бұрын
Connection with God cures that dreadfull lonleyness 😊
@cherylruhr60014 жыл бұрын
i had trouble feeling loneliness. I felt the feeling of rejection: is that a form or loneliness? Thank you for this talk
@wheatinthewind2194 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Noah.
@zoe19864 жыл бұрын
Thank you Noah! Thank you
@billygri41764 жыл бұрын
I came apart at the seams, in a good way!
@bend3rbot4 жыл бұрын
The Greeks described an emotion as a 'disturbance' - "emovare" eh-moh-vah-reh
@meshajusufovic68994 жыл бұрын
Hey Noah I have a request could you please make a video where you address the root cause of shyness and boredom
@NoahElkrief4 жыл бұрын
Potentially, I'm not sure. But I've received your request.
@songnain4 жыл бұрын
Thank you. This helps alot.
@tatie76043 жыл бұрын
Calming. Then, disassociated and wanted sleep to escape.